你的父母有多严格（一）
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How strict are your parents?
你的父母有多严格？
How strict are your parents?
你的父母有多严格？
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Anonymous
Answered December 10
My background is that I’m a teenager living in the UK with brown parents, I think my parents are fairly strict but I’m not really sure since I grew up with them like this and haven’t experienced any other way,
my bedroom door is never allowed to be closed unless I’m changing clothes
I only get about 45 minutes a day to play on my iPad and about 1 hour of TV
My parents have never said anything about social media apps so I have most of them until recently, they found my Discord/Snapchat etc and now I’ve got my phone and laptop taken away until May, and when I do get them back I won’t be allowed any social media, I find this unfair because there really wasn’t anything bad on the social media apps I was on apart from the fact that I swore a lot,
Boyfriends are a strict nono, if I get caught talking to a boy I’ll be punished,
I get punished for the smallest things, if I ask if I could dye my hair one day I’ll get my things taken off,
My parents are always putting me in skirts and dresses and think I should be feminine, truth is I’ll wear anything as long as it’s comfortable and I’m only allowed to wear some crappy Primark stuff and some leggings,
My parents hit me if I do anything bad, for example if I break something my mom will physically slap me with her hand, she always told me all parents do this so I grew up thinking it was normal, but she’s calmed down a bit since she got a call from social work :)
匿名
回答于12月10日。
我是一个住在英国的少年，父母都是棕色人种，我觉得我的父母对我很严格，但我不太确定，因为我是在他们身边长大的，我没有经历过其他父母教育孩子的方式。
除非我换衣服，否则我卧室的门是不允许关上的。
我每天只能玩45分钟iPad，看1小时电视。
我的父母从来没有说过任何关于社交媒体应用的事情，所以直到最近我才开始使用大部分的社交媒体应用，（但是）他们发现了我在用聊天软件，现在我的手机和笔记本电脑都被拿走了，直到5月份（我才拿回来），当我把它们拿回来的时候，我不被允许使用任何社交媒体，我觉得这不公平，因为我使用的社交媒体应用真的没有什么不好的地方，除了我经常会发表一些骂人的话。
交男朋友是绝对不可以的，如果我被抓到和男生说话的话，我会受到他们的责怪。
哪怕是最微小的事情都会让我受到批评，如果我问（他们）是否有一天我可以去染头发，那么就意味着我可以把我身上的所有束缚都摆脱掉了。
我的父母总是让我穿裙子和连衣裙，认为我应该有女人味，事实上，我更愿意去穿穿着舒服的衣服，但我只被允许穿一些蹩脚的东西和紧身裤。
如果我有什么事情做的不好，我父母就会打我。例如，如果我打破了一些东西，我妈妈就会扇我一巴掌，她总是告诉我所有的父母都这样做，所以我长大后认为这是正常的，但她自从接到社会工作的电话后，她就变得平静了一些。
Answered December 10
My background is that I’m a teenager living in the UK with brown parents, I think my parents are fairly strict but I’m not really sure since I grew up with them like this and haven’t experienced any other way,
my bedroom door is never allowed to be closed unless I’m changing clothes
I only get about 45 minutes a day to play on my iPad and about 1 hour of TV
My parents have never said anything about social media apps so I have most of them until recently, they found my Discord/Snapchat etc and now I’ve got my phone and laptop taken away until May, and when I do get them back I won’t be allowed any social media, I find this unfair because there really wasn’t anything bad on the social media apps I was on apart from the fact that I swore a lot,
Boyfriends are a strict nono, if I get caught talking to a boy I’ll be punished,
I get punished for the smallest things, if I ask if I could dye my hair one day I’ll get my things taken off,
My parents are always putting me in skirts and dresses and think I should be feminine, truth is I’ll wear anything as long as it’s comfortable and I’m only allowed to wear some crappy Primark stuff and some leggings,
My parents hit me if I do anything bad, for example if I break something my mom will physically slap me with her hand, she always told me all parents do this so I grew up thinking it was normal, but she’s calmed down a bit since she got a call from social work :)
匿名
回答于12月10日。
我是一个住在英国的少年，父母都是棕色人种，我觉得我的父母对我很严格，但我不太确定，因为我是在他们身边长大的，我没有经历过其他父母教育孩子的方式。
除非我换衣服，否则我卧室的门是不允许关上的。
我每天只能玩45分钟iPad，看1小时电视。
我的父母从来没有说过任何关于社交媒体应用的事情，所以直到最近我才开始使用大部分的社交媒体应用，（但是）他们发现了我在用聊天软件，现在我的手机和笔记本电脑都被拿走了，直到5月份（我才拿回来），当我把它们拿回来的时候，我不被允许使用任何社交媒体，我觉得这不公平，因为我使用的社交媒体应用真的没有什么不好的地方，除了我经常会发表一些骂人的话。
交男朋友是绝对不可以的，如果我被抓到和男生说话的话，我会受到他们的责怪。
哪怕是最微小的事情都会让我受到批评，如果我问（他们）是否有一天我可以去染头发，那么就意味着我可以把我身上的所有束缚都摆脱掉了。
我的父母总是让我穿裙子和连衣裙，认为我应该有女人味，事实上，我更愿意去穿穿着舒服的衣服，但我只被允许穿一些蹩脚的东西和紧身裤。
如果我有什么事情做的不好，我父母就会打我。例如，如果我打破了一些东西，我妈妈就会扇我一巴掌，她总是告诉我所有的父母都这样做，所以我长大后认为这是正常的，但她自从接到社会工作的电话后，她就变得平静了一些。
I’m not permitted to have my hair down for more than a few hours, and when it is down they make fun of me saying I look like a troll and a ghost from a horror movie, truth is, I feel extremely comfortable with my hair down and somewhat more confident, but my parents refuse to acknowledge this and tell me it has to be in a braid or tied up around them or else they’ll hit me
When I still had my phone, I was only allowed to be on it for about 5 minutes,
my parents have to know all my passcodes
I’m not allowed to hang out with friends until I’m 18
Im scared to find out if I’m gay, straight or bi because my parents don’t support LGBT so I just sit there and say I’m straight,
I HAVE to get married,
Anything lower than an A+ means I’ll get punished
No makeup
I have to follow my parents religion
No swearing
My parents have told me multiple times that they didn’t want me and my sister has said that she wishes I was dead, my cousins tell me to go burn in hell
ive become immune to insults because of the household I grew up in
Mental health does not exist for my parents, recently, I’ve been officially diagnosed with social anxiety and visited a school counsellor for a few weeks, but they still refuse to acknowledge how nervous I get around people, they think it’s fake and for the attention
I have to do chores and learn thing a woman always does
他们不允许我花好几个小时剪头发，当我把头发剪短的时候，他们取笑我说我看起来像一个从恐怖电影中出来的巨魔和鬼魂，事实上，把头发剪短让我感觉到很舒服，也更自信了，
但我的父母拒绝承认这一点，他们告诉我必须把辫子扎起来，或者绑起来，否则他们会打我。
当我还有手机的时候，我只能用5分钟。
并且我父母必须知道我所有的密码。
18岁以前我不能和朋友出去玩。
我害怕知道我是同性恋，异性恋或者双性恋，因为我父母不支持同性恋，所以我只是坐在那里说我是异性恋。
我必须要结婚。
任何低于A+的分数都意味着我会受到他们的责怪。
我不能化妆。
我必须遵从我父母的宗教信仰。
我不能骂人。
我的父母多次告诉过我他们不想要我，我妹妹也说她希望我死了，我的堂兄弟们告诉我（他们希望我）烧死在地狱。
因为我从小生活在这样的一个家庭里，我对侮辱免疫了。
我的父母没有心理健康方面的问题。最近，我被正式诊断为社交焦虑症，去学校辅导员那里咨询了几周，但他们仍然拒绝承认我在别人面前有多紧张，他们认为这是假的，只是为了引起注意。
我得做家务，去学女人常做的事。
When I still had my phone, I was only allowed to be on it for about 5 minutes,
my parents have to know all my passcodes
I’m not allowed to hang out with friends until I’m 18
Im scared to find out if I’m gay, straight or bi because my parents don’t support LGBT so I just sit there and say I’m straight,
I HAVE to get married,
Anything lower than an A+ means I’ll get punished
No makeup
I have to follow my parents religion
No swearing
My parents have told me multiple times that they didn’t want me and my sister has said that she wishes I was dead, my cousins tell me to go burn in hell
ive become immune to insults because of the household I grew up in
Mental health does not exist for my parents, recently, I’ve been officially diagnosed with social anxiety and visited a school counsellor for a few weeks, but they still refuse to acknowledge how nervous I get around people, they think it’s fake and for the attention
I have to do chores and learn thing a woman always does
他们不允许我花好几个小时剪头发，当我把头发剪短的时候，他们取笑我说我看起来像一个从恐怖电影中出来的巨魔和鬼魂，事实上，把头发剪短让我感觉到很舒服，也更自信了，
但我的父母拒绝承认这一点，他们告诉我必须把辫子扎起来，或者绑起来，否则他们会打我。
当我还有手机的时候，我只能用5分钟。
并且我父母必须知道我所有的密码。
18岁以前我不能和朋友出去玩。
我害怕知道我是同性恋，异性恋或者双性恋，因为我父母不支持同性恋，所以我只是坐在那里说我是异性恋。
我必须要结婚。
任何低于A+的分数都意味着我会受到他们的责怪。
我不能化妆。
我必须遵从我父母的宗教信仰。
我不能骂人。
我的父母多次告诉过我他们不想要我，我妹妹也说她希望我死了，我的堂兄弟们告诉我（他们希望我）烧死在地狱。
因为我从小生活在这样的一个家庭里，我对侮辱免疫了。
我的父母没有心理健康方面的问题。最近，我被正式诊断为社交焦虑症，去学校辅导员那里咨询了几周，但他们仍然拒绝承认我在别人面前有多紧张，他们认为这是假的，只是为了引起注意。
我得做家务，去学女人常做的事。
I have a younger sibling, she’s 9 and when I was her age I was quite a lot more smarter than her, so my parents get mad at her for not being intelligent but it’s not as much when I was a child, I always got compared to her, because she does sports and is extroverted, meanwhile I’m more into science and quite introverted,
My parents are all about academics, and even though when I was the same age as my sister I was more academically talented than her since I got more pressure put on me, but she’s the one who gets all the praise even though she didn’t do anything
Privacy? Hah, in my dreams that doesn’t exist for me
The only thing I eat is goddamn rice, ffs every time I complain she gets mad, honestly my body is 80% rice at this point
They don’t approve of the things I watch, which is mainly anime, I like the ones with blood and mystery like Attack on Titan and Death Note, can’t forget about Noragami :), my mom doesn’t approve of this stuff so I have to watch it in secret
I’ve stopped crying, my parents make me feel absolutely nothing inside, I’ve seen Banana Fish and didn’t cry, (SPOILERS?) the only thing I said to myself after finishing it was “Okay, he’s dead, that’s it” and went to go do the next thing, (SPOILER FINISHED) I genuinely didn’t understand why people got so sad after someone dies, I’ve had a lot of people from my outer family die and I still don’t feel anything, this sounds really insensitive but I really don’t care anymore, they’re just dead, that’s it, there’s nothing you can do, so why cry about it? It won’t bring them back, so just get in with your life, some people say it’s my way of missing them, (again, insensitive part) but I really don’t miss them or anything, i just can’t be bothered to care at this point
我有一个妹妹，她9岁，我在她这个年纪的时候比她聪明得多，所以我的父母经常因为她不聪明而生气，但在我小时候父母不会这样子生气，我总是被拿来和她作比较，因为她喜欢运动，性格外向，同时我更喜欢科学，性格比较内向。
我的父母都是学者，尽管当我和我妹妹同龄的时候，因为我承受了更多的压力，所以我比她更有学术天赋，但她是那个得到所有赞扬的人，尽管她什么也没做。
隐私？哈哈，这是在我的梦里都不存在的东西。
每当我抱怨她生气的时候，我唯一能吃的东西就是该死的米饭，老实说，我现在身体里80%都是米饭。
他们不赞成我看的那些东西，主要是动漫，我喜欢《泰坦之战》、《死亡笔记》等带有血腥和神秘色彩的动漫，我忘不了《野良神》，但我妈妈不赞成这样的东西，所以我只能偷偷看。
我已经不再哭了，我的父母让我感觉我的内心是空的、没有丝毫感觉，所以我看《战栗杀机》也没有哭（剧透？），看完后我对自己说的唯一一句话是“好吧，他死了，就这样”，然后就继续去做下一件事了（剧透完毕），我真的不明白为什么有人死后人们会这么伤心，有很多次我外婆家的亲人去世，但我还是什么感觉都没有，这听起来真的很麻木，但我真的不在乎了，他们只是死了，就这样，你什么都做不了，为什么哭呢？（眼泪）不会把他们带回来的，那（不如）就继续你的生活吧，有人说这是我想念他们的方式（同样，这是我不敏感的部分），但我真的不想念他们，我只是不在乎这一点。
My parents are all about academics, and even though when I was the same age as my sister I was more academically talented than her since I got more pressure put on me, but she’s the one who gets all the praise even though she didn’t do anything
Privacy? Hah, in my dreams that doesn’t exist for me
The only thing I eat is goddamn rice, ffs every time I complain she gets mad, honestly my body is 80% rice at this point
They don’t approve of the things I watch, which is mainly anime, I like the ones with blood and mystery like Attack on Titan and Death Note, can’t forget about Noragami :), my mom doesn’t approve of this stuff so I have to watch it in secret
I’ve stopped crying, my parents make me feel absolutely nothing inside, I’ve seen Banana Fish and didn’t cry, (SPOILERS?) the only thing I said to myself after finishing it was “Okay, he’s dead, that’s it” and went to go do the next thing, (SPOILER FINISHED) I genuinely didn’t understand why people got so sad after someone dies, I’ve had a lot of people from my outer family die and I still don’t feel anything, this sounds really insensitive but I really don’t care anymore, they’re just dead, that’s it, there’s nothing you can do, so why cry about it? It won’t bring them back, so just get in with your life, some people say it’s my way of missing them, (again, insensitive part) but I really don’t miss them or anything, i just can’t be bothered to care at this point
我有一个妹妹，她9岁，我在她这个年纪的时候比她聪明得多，所以我的父母经常因为她不聪明而生气，但在我小时候父母不会这样子生气，我总是被拿来和她作比较，因为她喜欢运动，性格外向，同时我更喜欢科学，性格比较内向。
我的父母都是学者，尽管当我和我妹妹同龄的时候，因为我承受了更多的压力，所以我比她更有学术天赋，但她是那个得到所有赞扬的人，尽管她什么也没做。
隐私？哈哈，这是在我的梦里都不存在的东西。
每当我抱怨她生气的时候，我唯一能吃的东西就是该死的米饭，老实说，我现在身体里80%都是米饭。
他们不赞成我看的那些东西，主要是动漫，我喜欢《泰坦之战》、《死亡笔记》等带有血腥和神秘色彩的动漫，我忘不了《野良神》，但我妈妈不赞成这样的东西，所以我只能偷偷看。
我已经不再哭了，我的父母让我感觉我的内心是空的、没有丝毫感觉，所以我看《战栗杀机》也没有哭（剧透？），看完后我对自己说的唯一一句话是“好吧，他死了，就这样”，然后就继续去做下一件事了（剧透完毕），我真的不明白为什么有人死后人们会这么伤心，有很多次我外婆家的亲人去世，但我还是什么感觉都没有，这听起来真的很麻木，但我真的不在乎了，他们只是死了，就这样，你什么都做不了，为什么哭呢？（眼泪）不会把他们带回来的，那（不如）就继续你的生活吧，有人说这是我想念他们的方式（同样，这是我不敏感的部分），但我真的不想念他们，我只是不在乎这一点。
Im very emotionally detached from my parents, I barely even talk to them at this point, I asked my dad once why I have no freedom and he said exactly this, “We give you freedom, we let you go upstairs by yourself,” the sad fact is that he was being genuinely serious
My music taste consists of mainly rock and rap, being a girl, my mom disapproves of this immensely
I’m not even allowed to go outside, or to the corner shop that is literally 5 minutes away
Okay here’s the kinda depressing part, don’t read if self harm/suicidal thoughts make you uncomfortable
As I’ve told you, I don’t cry, so I cut myself instead, my wrist looks like a barcode currently and most people feel guilt after they cut, but I don’t feel anything, I just wrap it in a tissue and cover it up, I want to cry, but I can’t, if I do, it’s only for about 1 minute then I suddenly stop and I can’t cry anymore, it’s like that scene from parasyte,(SPOILERS AGAIN IM SORRY) where Shinichi starts panicking, but then calms down instantly because of what Migi did to his heart, (SPOILER ENDED WE FINE)
I’ve been feeling suicidal lately because of my parents, I can’t go anywhere, I’ve tried counselling, it didn’t work, at all, the school didn’t do anything about it apart from give my parents a warning and that’s it, I can’t call childline since I don’t have a phone, the only thing keeping me going is that I’ll leave my house after I finish school and go to a uni in England, and when I’m 18 I plan on moving to Australia so I’m even farther away from my parents
This got kinda deep at the end but when you look at it, there’s really nothing I can do, I have no phone, nothing, so I’ll just gotta deal with it myself ykyk :’) it’s not like a have a choice, but yeah-
Welll that’s it thanks for coming to my Ted Talk I’m out ??
在情感上我和我的父母非常疏远，在这一点上我甚至很少和他们说话，我曾经问我爸爸为什么我没有自由，他很确切地说，“我们给你自由，我们可以让你自己上楼，”但可悲的是，他是真正认真地这么觉得的。
我喜欢的音乐主要是摇滚乐和说唱乐，我作为一个女孩，我妈妈非常反对这一点。
我甚至不被允许出去，也不被允许去仅仅只有5分钟路程的街角商店。
好吧，这是有点郁闷的部分，如果我自残或者自杀的想法让你不舒服，那么不要接着读下去。
我告诉过你，我不会哭，所以我割伤了自己，我的手腕现在看起来像一个条形码，大多数人割伤后都会感到内疚，但我什么也感觉不到，我只是用纸巾把它包住盖起来，我想哭，但我不能，如果我哭了，只会哭大约1分钟，然后我就会突然停下来，我不能再哭了，就像《寄生兽》里的那一幕，（再次抱歉我要剧透了）由于右对泉新一的心脏所做那些事情，泉新一开始惊慌失措，但他立刻就平静了下来（剧透结束了，我们还是很好）。
因为父母的原因，我最近一直有自杀的倾向，我哪儿都去不了，我试过心理咨询，但都没用，学校除了给父母一个警告外，什么都没做，就是这样，我没电话，所以不能打儿童热线，唯一能让我坚持下去的是我毕业后会离开家去英国的一所大学，当我18岁的时候，我计划搬到澳大利亚，这样我就离父母更远了。
结尾有点深奥，但当你看到这篇文章的时候，我真的什么都做不了，我没有电话，什么都没有，所以我只能自己来处理这些事情了。
好了，谢谢你来听我诉说，我说完了。
My music taste consists of mainly rock and rap, being a girl, my mom disapproves of this immensely
I’m not even allowed to go outside, or to the corner shop that is literally 5 minutes away
Okay here’s the kinda depressing part, don’t read if self harm/suicidal thoughts make you uncomfortable
As I’ve told you, I don’t cry, so I cut myself instead, my wrist looks like a barcode currently and most people feel guilt after they cut, but I don’t feel anything, I just wrap it in a tissue and cover it up, I want to cry, but I can’t, if I do, it’s only for about 1 minute then I suddenly stop and I can’t cry anymore, it’s like that scene from parasyte,(SPOILERS AGAIN IM SORRY) where Shinichi starts panicking, but then calms down instantly because of what Migi did to his heart, (SPOILER ENDED WE FINE)
I’ve been feeling suicidal lately because of my parents, I can’t go anywhere, I’ve tried counselling, it didn’t work, at all, the school didn’t do anything about it apart from give my parents a warning and that’s it, I can’t call childline since I don’t have a phone, the only thing keeping me going is that I’ll leave my house after I finish school and go to a uni in England, and when I’m 18 I plan on moving to Australia so I’m even farther away from my parents
This got kinda deep at the end but when you look at it, there’s really nothing I can do, I have no phone, nothing, so I’ll just gotta deal with it myself ykyk :’) it’s not like a have a choice, but yeah-
Welll that’s it thanks for coming to my Ted Talk I’m out ??
在情感上我和我的父母非常疏远，在这一点上我甚至很少和他们说话，我曾经问我爸爸为什么我没有自由，他很确切地说，“我们给你自由，我们可以让你自己上楼，”但可悲的是，他是真正认真地这么觉得的。
我喜欢的音乐主要是摇滚乐和说唱乐，我作为一个女孩，我妈妈非常反对这一点。
我甚至不被允许出去，也不被允许去仅仅只有5分钟路程的街角商店。
好吧，这是有点郁闷的部分，如果我自残或者自杀的想法让你不舒服，那么不要接着读下去。
我告诉过你，我不会哭，所以我割伤了自己，我的手腕现在看起来像一个条形码，大多数人割伤后都会感到内疚，但我什么也感觉不到，我只是用纸巾把它包住盖起来，我想哭，但我不能，如果我哭了，只会哭大约1分钟，然后我就会突然停下来，我不能再哭了，就像《寄生兽》里的那一幕，（再次抱歉我要剧透了）由于右对泉新一的心脏所做那些事情，泉新一开始惊慌失措，但他立刻就平静了下来（剧透结束了，我们还是很好）。
因为父母的原因，我最近一直有自杀的倾向，我哪儿都去不了，我试过心理咨询，但都没用，学校除了给父母一个警告外，什么都没做，就是这样，我没电话，所以不能打儿童热线，唯一能让我坚持下去的是我毕业后会离开家去英国的一所大学，当我18岁的时候，我计划搬到澳大利亚，这样我就离父母更远了。
结尾有点深奥，但当你看到这篇文章的时候，我真的什么都做不了，我没有电话，什么都没有，所以我只能自己来处理这些事情了。
好了，谢谢你来听我诉说，我说完了。
Anonymous
upxed May 6
I am a 14 year old brown Malaysian girl living in Belgium. I’ve lived in many countries and have been going to international schools my entire life. My parents are hindus and so am I but none of us really practice it anymore. We only take part in celebrations and other things. I am very close to both my parents which is something I appreciate as many of us aren’t close to our parents nowadays.
I am allowed to wear whatever I want as long as it isn’t too revealing. I wear shorts, short skirts, crop tops, ripped jeans and my parents don’t mind at all. I buy most of my clothes when I am with my mom and always ask for her opinions before I buy anything. I appreciate how laid back she is when it comes to clothing choices.
My parents get me anything I want as long as it isn’t too expensive, but I have to earn it. If I do well at school then my mom will take me out or give me some money to go shopping with my friends. I recently asked for a PS5 and my parents said that they would love to get it for me as they think I deserve it based on the report card from the winter term.
I have no bedtime because I read for hours before going to sleep. my parents like how much I love reading but said that maybe I should read less during the night and get more sleep.
匿名
更新于5月6日。
我是一个住在比利时的14岁的马来西亚棕色人种女孩。我在许多国家生活过，一直都在上国际学校。我的父母是印度教徒，我也是，但我们都没有遵循真正的印度教习俗。我们只参加庆典和其他活动。我和父母都很亲近，这是我很感激的，因为我们现在很多人和父母都不亲近。
我可以想穿什么就穿什么，只要不太暴露就行。我可以穿短裤、短裙、露脐上衣、破洞牛仔裤，我父母一点也不介意。当我和我妈妈在一起的时候，我会买很多衣服，但是在我买任何东西之前我都会问问她的意见。我很欣赏她在服装选择上的从容。
只要不太贵，父母就会给我买任何我想要的东西，但我也必须自己挣钱。如果我在学校表现好，那么我妈妈会带我出去购物或者给我一些钱让我和我的朋友去购物。我最近想要一台PS5，我的父母说他们很乐意给我买，因为他们认为根据冬季学期的成绩单，我应该得到它。
因为我在睡觉前要读几个小时的书，所以我没有时间睡觉。我的父母喜欢我喜欢阅读，但他们也说或许我应该在晚上少读些书，多睡些觉。
upxed May 6
I am a 14 year old brown Malaysian girl living in Belgium. I’ve lived in many countries and have been going to international schools my entire life. My parents are hindus and so am I but none of us really practice it anymore. We only take part in celebrations and other things. I am very close to both my parents which is something I appreciate as many of us aren’t close to our parents nowadays.
I am allowed to wear whatever I want as long as it isn’t too revealing. I wear shorts, short skirts, crop tops, ripped jeans and my parents don’t mind at all. I buy most of my clothes when I am with my mom and always ask for her opinions before I buy anything. I appreciate how laid back she is when it comes to clothing choices.
My parents get me anything I want as long as it isn’t too expensive, but I have to earn it. If I do well at school then my mom will take me out or give me some money to go shopping with my friends. I recently asked for a PS5 and my parents said that they would love to get it for me as they think I deserve it based on the report card from the winter term.
I have no bedtime because I read for hours before going to sleep. my parents like how much I love reading but said that maybe I should read less during the night and get more sleep.
匿名
更新于5月6日。
我是一个住在比利时的14岁的马来西亚棕色人种女孩。我在许多国家生活过，一直都在上国际学校。我的父母是印度教徒，我也是，但我们都没有遵循真正的印度教习俗。我们只参加庆典和其他活动。我和父母都很亲近，这是我很感激的，因为我们现在很多人和父母都不亲近。
我可以想穿什么就穿什么，只要不太暴露就行。我可以穿短裤、短裙、露脐上衣、破洞牛仔裤，我父母一点也不介意。当我和我妈妈在一起的时候，我会买很多衣服，但是在我买任何东西之前我都会问问她的意见。我很欣赏她在服装选择上的从容。
只要不太贵，父母就会给我买任何我想要的东西，但我也必须自己挣钱。如果我在学校表现好，那么我妈妈会带我出去购物或者给我一些钱让我和我的朋友去购物。我最近想要一台PS5，我的父母说他们很乐意给我买，因为他们认为根据冬季学期的成绩单，我应该得到它。
因为我在睡觉前要读几个小时的书，所以我没有时间睡觉。我的父母喜欢我喜欢阅读，但他们也说或许我应该在晚上少读些书，多睡些觉。
My mom loves decorating the house and nicely furnishing it. So my bedroom is pretty nice. My mom usually buys me things to decorate my room with. We both have fun doing it together.
My parents make sure I eat vegetables and monitor my sugar intake. I eat a lot of rice and noodles at home and I can’t say I don’t love it. I can’t live without them.
My parents are both very supportive of the LGBTQ+ community which I appreciate since I am bisexual and I am still waiting to come out to them.
Both my parents are feminists and believe that women can be independent. They don’t expect me to learn ladylike things. Infact, my mom works and my dad is a stay-at-home dad.
I am allowed to be friends with whoever I want to. I’m allowed to sleepover at my friends’ house and can also go out to the city with them. I am allowed to take public transportation and I have to take my ID and some money everywhere I go.
I can do any hobbies I want. My parents don’t make me do sport but prefer if I do. For now I play basketball and swim.
My parents expect me to get good grades at school (As and Bs) which I don’t really have a problem with. There are sometimes where I mess up and get a bad grade but they never punish me for it. They talk to me about it and motivate me and I always do better the next time.
I have a phone and laptop. I can’t use it all day which I thinks is a good rule. I am allowed to have social media which is monitored. My parents check my posts to see if what I post if appropriate and so far I’ve never had problems with it. They respect my privacy and never look through my phone or room. They do use my phone sometimes if they need to quickly search something up and I never get nervous because I trust them to not look through it. I am allowed to keep my bedroom door closed but I can’t stay in there and isolate myself the entire day.
我妈妈喜欢把房子装饰得很漂亮。所以我的卧室很漂亮。我妈妈会经常给我买东西来装饰我的房间。我们两个在一起玩得很开心。
我的父母会确保我吃蔬菜，并且会监测我的糖摄入量。我在家吃很多米饭和面条，我不能说我不喜欢这些。没有它们我活不下去。
我的父母都非常支持性少数群体社区，我很感激，因为我是双性恋，我还在等着出柜。
我父母都是女权主义者，他们都相信女性可以独立。他们不指望我学淑女的东西。事实上，我妈妈在工作，而我的爸爸是个全职爸爸。
我被允许和任何我想成为朋友的人做朋友。我可以在朋友家过夜，也可以和他们一起出城。我可以乘坐公共交通工具，但我必须随身携带身份证和一些钱。
我可以做任何我想做的爱好。我父母不强制要求我做运动，但如果我做的话，他们会更开心。现在我经常做的运动是打篮球和游泳。
我父母希望我在学校取得好成绩（A和B），而我其实对此没有什么问题。尽管有时我会搞砸，成绩不好，但他们从不因此而惩罚我。他们会和我谈论这件事，并且激励我，往往我下次总是会做得更好。
我有手机和笔记本电脑。但我不能整天用它，我认为这是个好规则。我可以使用被监控的社交媒体。我的父母会检查我的帖子，查看我的帖子是否合适，到目前为止，我从来没有遇到过问题。他们尊重我的隐私，从不看我的手机或房间。如果有时他们需要快速搜索一些东西，他们确实会用我的手机，但是我也从不紧张。因为我相信他们不会看。我可以关上卧室的门，但我不能整天呆在里面孤立自己。
My parents make sure I eat vegetables and monitor my sugar intake. I eat a lot of rice and noodles at home and I can’t say I don’t love it. I can’t live without them.
My parents are both very supportive of the LGBTQ+ community which I appreciate since I am bisexual and I am still waiting to come out to them.
Both my parents are feminists and believe that women can be independent. They don’t expect me to learn ladylike things. Infact, my mom works and my dad is a stay-at-home dad.
I am allowed to be friends with whoever I want to. I’m allowed to sleepover at my friends’ house and can also go out to the city with them. I am allowed to take public transportation and I have to take my ID and some money everywhere I go.
I can do any hobbies I want. My parents don’t make me do sport but prefer if I do. For now I play basketball and swim.
My parents expect me to get good grades at school (As and Bs) which I don’t really have a problem with. There are sometimes where I mess up and get a bad grade but they never punish me for it. They talk to me about it and motivate me and I always do better the next time.
I have a phone and laptop. I can’t use it all day which I thinks is a good rule. I am allowed to have social media which is monitored. My parents check my posts to see if what I post if appropriate and so far I’ve never had problems with it. They respect my privacy and never look through my phone or room. They do use my phone sometimes if they need to quickly search something up and I never get nervous because I trust them to not look through it. I am allowed to keep my bedroom door closed but I can’t stay in there and isolate myself the entire day.
我妈妈喜欢把房子装饰得很漂亮。所以我的卧室很漂亮。我妈妈会经常给我买东西来装饰我的房间。我们两个在一起玩得很开心。
我的父母会确保我吃蔬菜，并且会监测我的糖摄入量。我在家吃很多米饭和面条，我不能说我不喜欢这些。没有它们我活不下去。
我的父母都非常支持性少数群体社区，我很感激，因为我是双性恋，我还在等着出柜。
我父母都是女权主义者，他们都相信女性可以独立。他们不指望我学淑女的东西。事实上，我妈妈在工作，而我的爸爸是个全职爸爸。
我被允许和任何我想成为朋友的人做朋友。我可以在朋友家过夜，也可以和他们一起出城。我可以乘坐公共交通工具，但我必须随身携带身份证和一些钱。
我可以做任何我想做的爱好。我父母不强制要求我做运动，但如果我做的话，他们会更开心。现在我经常做的运动是打篮球和游泳。
我父母希望我在学校取得好成绩（A和B），而我其实对此没有什么问题。尽管有时我会搞砸，成绩不好，但他们从不因此而惩罚我。他们会和我谈论这件事，并且激励我，往往我下次总是会做得更好。
我有手机和笔记本电脑。但我不能整天用它，我认为这是个好规则。我可以使用被监控的社交媒体。我的父母会检查我的帖子，查看我的帖子是否合适，到目前为止，我从来没有遇到过问题。他们尊重我的隐私，从不看我的手机或房间。如果有时他们需要快速搜索一些东西，他们确实会用我的手机，但是我也从不紧张。因为我相信他们不会看。我可以关上卧室的门，但我不能整天呆在里面孤立自己。
I can listen to any music I want to. I usually listen to pop rock, rock, soul, alternative pop and RnB music. I usually listen to artists like Ruel, Lana Del Rey, Clairo, Troye Sivan, etc.
I can talk to boys and my parents don’t mind. One of my bestfriends ia a boy and since we don’t live in the same country, we facetime eachother very often. My parents love him and also talk to him on facetime with me.
I don’t really wear makeup but my parents allow it. My mom wears it and she loves to teach me how to wear it. She is currently teaching me how to to eyeliner.
I can get piercings (I currently have 2 on each ear) and can get tattoos after I turn 21. My mother has a few ear piercings, a nose piercing, a bellybutton piercing and a tattoo.
I can dye my hair and get cool haircuts. I have naturally curly hair from my dad (which can be a pain sometimes) so my mom buys me good products to use for my hair .
No drugs but I can drink alcohol when I come of age since my parents both drink.
No swearing until I am older.
I don’t have to get married if I don’t want too. If I do, I can choose who I get married too, he/she doesn’t have to be brown as well.
In conclusion, I wouldn’t say my parents are strict. They are pretty chill and I appreciate that they don’t try to control me. I would say that I’m pretty privileged.
我可以听任何我想听的音乐。我通常听流行摇滚乐，灵魂乐，另类流行音乐和布鲁斯节奏音乐。我通常听鲁埃尔、拉娜·德雷、克莱罗、特洛伊·西万等艺术家的作品。
我可以和男孩子说话，我父母也不会介意。我的一个好朋友是个男孩，虽然我们不住在同一个国家，但我们经常视频通话。我的父母也很爱他，他们也跟我一起和那个男孩视频通话。
我不化妆，但我父母允许我化妆。我妈妈会化妆，她也喜欢教我怎么化妆。目前她正在教我如何画眼线。
我可以打耳洞（我现在每只耳朵上有两个耳洞）并且在我21岁以后可以纹身。我妈妈有好几个耳洞，一个鼻子洞，一个肚脐洞和一个纹身。
我可以染头发，可以理一个很酷的发型。我遗传了我爸爸的卷发（虽然有时候打理起来会很痛），所以我妈妈给我买了很好的产品来护发。
他们不允许我吸毒，但我长大后可以喝酒，因为我父母都喝酒。
还有在我长大之前我不能骂人。
如果我不想结婚，我也不必结婚。如果我结婚了，我也可以选择和谁结婚，他/她也不一定要是棕色人种。
总之，我不会说我的父母很严厉。他们很冷静，我很感激他们没有试图控制我。我想说我很荣幸。
I can talk to boys and my parents don’t mind. One of my bestfriends ia a boy and since we don’t live in the same country, we facetime eachother very often. My parents love him and also talk to him on facetime with me.
I don’t really wear makeup but my parents allow it. My mom wears it and she loves to teach me how to wear it. She is currently teaching me how to to eyeliner.
I can get piercings (I currently have 2 on each ear) and can get tattoos after I turn 21. My mother has a few ear piercings, a nose piercing, a bellybutton piercing and a tattoo.
I can dye my hair and get cool haircuts. I have naturally curly hair from my dad (which can be a pain sometimes) so my mom buys me good products to use for my hair .
No drugs but I can drink alcohol when I come of age since my parents both drink.
No swearing until I am older.
I don’t have to get married if I don’t want too. If I do, I can choose who I get married too, he/she doesn’t have to be brown as well.
In conclusion, I wouldn’t say my parents are strict. They are pretty chill and I appreciate that they don’t try to control me. I would say that I’m pretty privileged.
我可以听任何我想听的音乐。我通常听流行摇滚乐，灵魂乐，另类流行音乐和布鲁斯节奏音乐。我通常听鲁埃尔、拉娜·德雷、克莱罗、特洛伊·西万等艺术家的作品。
我可以和男孩子说话，我父母也不会介意。我的一个好朋友是个男孩，虽然我们不住在同一个国家，但我们经常视频通话。我的父母也很爱他，他们也跟我一起和那个男孩视频通话。
我不化妆，但我父母允许我化妆。我妈妈会化妆，她也喜欢教我怎么化妆。目前她正在教我如何画眼线。
我可以打耳洞（我现在每只耳朵上有两个耳洞）并且在我21岁以后可以纹身。我妈妈有好几个耳洞，一个鼻子洞，一个肚脐洞和一个纹身。
我可以染头发，可以理一个很酷的发型。我遗传了我爸爸的卷发（虽然有时候打理起来会很痛），所以我妈妈给我买了很好的产品来护发。
他们不允许我吸毒，但我长大后可以喝酒，因为我父母都喝酒。
还有在我长大之前我不能骂人。
如果我不想结婚，我也不必结婚。如果我结婚了，我也可以选择和谁结婚，他/她也不一定要是棕色人种。
总之，我不会说我的父母很严厉。他们很冷静，我很感激他们没有试图控制我。我想说我很荣幸。
Ramadevi Gidugu, Bachelor of commerce from Andhra University
拉玛德维·吉杜古，安得拉大学商学学士。
拉玛德维·吉杜古，安得拉大学商学学士。
I felt they are restrictive sometimes. They are very orthodox. Conservative thinking. It's true I felt rebellious sometimes.
Once my grandmother told me .
‘Yes they are. After few years you may be having your own boundaries, ideologies. There are only two ways. Live with them. Time to time try to make them understand your point of view. If they have changed you are lucky. If they don't, you are more lucky. Because by that time you go out of that house you would be having clarity about what you want to do with your life. You would have a clear thought process and have your own ideology.
You have no right to demand a change in them while being dependent on them. You can only request and attempt to change their opinion. That's it. Dependents can't be choosers.
It almost sounded me like beggars can not be choosers.
我觉得他们有时很拘谨。他们非常正统。他们有着保守的想法。的确，我有时候会很叛逆。
有一次我祖母告诉我。
“几年后，你可能会有自己的界限，意识形态。但只有两种方法。和他们一起生活。不时地去试着让他们理解你的观点。如果他们改变了他们的想法，那么你是幸运的。如果他们没有改变，那你就更幸运了。因为当你走出那所房子的时候，你会清楚地知道你想做什么。你会有一个清晰的思维过程和自己的意识形态。
你没有权利在依赖他们的同时要求他们去做出改变。你只能请求并试图改变他们的观点。就是这样。被赡养的人不能去做一些自己的选择。
这听起来就像乞丐不能挑肥拣瘦。
Once my grandmother told me .
‘Yes they are. After few years you may be having your own boundaries, ideologies. There are only two ways. Live with them. Time to time try to make them understand your point of view. If they have changed you are lucky. If they don't, you are more lucky. Because by that time you go out of that house you would be having clarity about what you want to do with your life. You would have a clear thought process and have your own ideology.
You have no right to demand a change in them while being dependent on them. You can only request and attempt to change their opinion. That's it. Dependents can't be choosers.
It almost sounded me like beggars can not be choosers.
我觉得他们有时很拘谨。他们非常正统。他们有着保守的想法。的确，我有时候会很叛逆。
有一次我祖母告诉我。
“几年后，你可能会有自己的界限，意识形态。但只有两种方法。和他们一起生活。不时地去试着让他们理解你的观点。如果他们改变了他们的想法，那么你是幸运的。如果他们没有改变，那你就更幸运了。因为当你走出那所房子的时候，你会清楚地知道你想做什么。你会有一个清晰的思维过程和自己的意识形态。
你没有权利在依赖他们的同时要求他们去做出改变。你只能请求并试图改变他们的观点。就是这样。被赡养的人不能去做一些自己的选择。
这听起来就像乞丐不能挑肥拣瘦。
She continued…
Every parents frx their rules according to their experience. It's obvious! Next generation feel those rules are outdated. But you are living with them. For your food, clothes, education , your expenses for everything you are dependent on them. You have not seen the world. They have seen. They are more experienced in age wise. May be they can't see the way you see the changed times. It happens in every generation.
Though you are disappointed sometimes, think it's the price, runam ( indebt) you have to pay for living and enjoying their shade on your head. There are many who doesn't have that luck.
Once you have your own life live as you wish. But the funniest and strange thing is your kids feel the same thing about you.’! She smiled like a pleasant new moon.
I got my lesson. Then I got a lot of relief. How easy it is to become judgemental about parents! Then I never felt my parents are restrictive. They are right in their own way. May not be favourable to me some times.(here I am talking about normal parents. Not abusive and violent)
That understanding shaped me to take my life's important decisions. My career, my future, my business, my married life every thing.
Coming back to the main question.
How restrictive my parents are?
I have freedom with conditions.
她继续说：
每个家长都会根据自己的经验去制定自己的规则。很明显！下一代也许会觉得这些规则已经过时了。但你选择还和他们住在一起。你的食物、衣服、教育、你的一切开支都依赖着他们。你还没见过完整的这个世界。但他们看到了。他们在年龄方面更有经验。也许他们看不到你所看待时代变迁的方式。因为它（时代变迁）会发生在每一代人身上。
尽管有时你会失望，但你应该想想这就是代价吧，你必须为生活和享受他们在你头上的阴影付出代价。有很多人都没有这种运气。
一旦你有了自己的生活，你就可以随心所欲地过日子。但最有趣和奇怪的是你的孩子对你也会有同样的感觉！她笑得像一轮愉快的新月。
我得到教训了。然后我得到了很大的解脱。对父母评头论足是多么容易啊！但我从来没有觉得我的父母对我是有限制的。他们各有所长。虽然有时可能对我不利。（这里我说的是正常的父母。不包括虐待和暴力）
这种理解使我能决定人生：我的生涯，我的未来，我的事业，我的婚姻生活。
回到主要问题上来。
我父母有多严格？
我有条件的拥有自由。
Every parents frx their rules according to their experience. It's obvious! Next generation feel those rules are outdated. But you are living with them. For your food, clothes, education , your expenses for everything you are dependent on them. You have not seen the world. They have seen. They are more experienced in age wise. May be they can't see the way you see the changed times. It happens in every generation.
Though you are disappointed sometimes, think it's the price, runam ( indebt) you have to pay for living and enjoying their shade on your head. There are many who doesn't have that luck.
Once you have your own life live as you wish. But the funniest and strange thing is your kids feel the same thing about you.’! She smiled like a pleasant new moon.
I got my lesson. Then I got a lot of relief. How easy it is to become judgemental about parents! Then I never felt my parents are restrictive. They are right in their own way. May not be favourable to me some times.(here I am talking about normal parents. Not abusive and violent)
That understanding shaped me to take my life's important decisions. My career, my future, my business, my married life every thing.
Coming back to the main question.
How restrictive my parents are?
I have freedom with conditions.
她继续说：
每个家长都会根据自己的经验去制定自己的规则。很明显！下一代也许会觉得这些规则已经过时了。但你选择还和他们住在一起。你的食物、衣服、教育、你的一切开支都依赖着他们。你还没见过完整的这个世界。但他们看到了。他们在年龄方面更有经验。也许他们看不到你所看待时代变迁的方式。因为它（时代变迁）会发生在每一代人身上。
尽管有时你会失望，但你应该想想这就是代价吧，你必须为生活和享受他们在你头上的阴影付出代价。有很多人都没有这种运气。
一旦你有了自己的生活，你就可以随心所欲地过日子。但最有趣和奇怪的是你的孩子对你也会有同样的感觉！她笑得像一轮愉快的新月。
我得到教训了。然后我得到了很大的解脱。对父母评头论足是多么容易啊！但我从来没有觉得我的父母对我是有限制的。他们各有所长。虽然有时可能对我不利。（这里我说的是正常的父母。不包括虐待和暴力）
这种理解使我能决定人生：我的生涯，我的未来，我的事业，我的婚姻生活。
回到主要问题上来。
我父母有多严格？
我有条件的拥有自由。
Like…
1. I can go out. But should comeback in a particular time like all the other family members.
2.I can sext my clothes, when to buy, budget and all they decide. Because they have to run entire family, not only me. There would be some other expenses also for them.
3. If they restrict my friendship with boys, I didn't sulk. Because I know their fears.They know the consequences if some thing goes wrong . I don't know. Anyway I don't have such a ‘particular things' I can share only with boys. So I am bindaas. I had my girl gang. Anyway that time I don't have these romantic things in my mind. I was influenced by radical communism ideology.
4. They are conservative. Think Elite class girls needn't struggle like working class people. This is their idea. I was pampered like a princess too. But somehow somewhere I was always thinking if things won't be favourable to me in future ? That is the generation gap! Difference between our way of thinking.
How to make them understand What they have not seen in their life? It doesn't mean they were living in denial. Just they did not come across those kind of situations .
就像：
我可以出去。但应该像其他家庭成员一样在特定的时间回家。
我可以选择我的衣服，但是什么时候买，预算多少这些都要他们来决定。因为他们要管理整个家庭，而不仅仅是管我的支出。他们还需要一些其他的费用。
如果他们限制我和男孩子的友谊，我也不会生气。因为我知道他们恐惧的东西是什么。他们知道如果出了事会有什么后果。但是我不知道。不管怎样，我没有这样的一个只能和男孩们分享的“特别的东西”。我有豆瓣可以分享。我有我的女朋友们可以分享。反正那时候我脑子里没有这些浪漫的东西。我受了共产主义思想的影响。
他们很保守。认为精英阶层的女孩不必像工人阶级的人一样挣扎。这是他们的主意。我也像公主一样娇生惯养。但不知怎么的，我总在想，如果将来事情对我不利呢？这就是代沟！我们的思维方式不同。
如何让他们了解他们一生中没有见过的东西？这并不意味着他们一直生活在否认中。只是说他们没有遇到过这种情况。
1. I can go out. But should comeback in a particular time like all the other family members.
2.I can sext my clothes, when to buy, budget and all they decide. Because they have to run entire family, not only me. There would be some other expenses also for them.
3. If they restrict my friendship with boys, I didn't sulk. Because I know their fears.They know the consequences if some thing goes wrong . I don't know. Anyway I don't have such a ‘particular things' I can share only with boys. So I am bindaas. I had my girl gang. Anyway that time I don't have these romantic things in my mind. I was influenced by radical communism ideology.
4. They are conservative. Think Elite class girls needn't struggle like working class people. This is their idea. I was pampered like a princess too. But somehow somewhere I was always thinking if things won't be favourable to me in future ? That is the generation gap! Difference between our way of thinking.
How to make them understand What they have not seen in their life? It doesn't mean they were living in denial. Just they did not come across those kind of situations .
就像：
我可以出去。但应该像其他家庭成员一样在特定的时间回家。
我可以选择我的衣服，但是什么时候买，预算多少这些都要他们来决定。因为他们要管理整个家庭，而不仅仅是管我的支出。他们还需要一些其他的费用。
如果他们限制我和男孩子的友谊，我也不会生气。因为我知道他们恐惧的东西是什么。他们知道如果出了事会有什么后果。但是我不知道。不管怎样，我没有这样的一个只能和男孩们分享的“特别的东西”。我有豆瓣可以分享。我有我的女朋友们可以分享。反正那时候我脑子里没有这些浪漫的东西。我受了共产主义思想的影响。
他们很保守。认为精英阶层的女孩不必像工人阶级的人一样挣扎。这是他们的主意。我也像公主一样娇生惯养。但不知怎么的，我总在想，如果将来事情对我不利呢？这就是代沟！我们的思维方式不同。
如何让他们了解他们一生中没有见过的东西？这并不意味着他们一直生活在否认中。只是说他们没有遇到过这种情况。
Luckily there were no TVs and internet to bring world's misery in our drawing rooms. So they were happy in their own world.
So I don't crib, sulk and find faults with elders. I learnt what is useful to me. Which gives me happiness in long run. I ignored those which may not be useful in my life time. Which I know outdated.
So here I am. Happily created my own world. Showed and proved them some of their fears are just fears. Nothing to worry and inspite of their thinking I love and respect them.
àfter all they brought me in to this world. I can mouth any sweet ,superb or venomous dialogues. But can't question ‘why you are like that? It's their life!
Same thing is applicable to everyone.
If You don't like. Say thank you and come out. You are taker from them. Not a giver. So you don't have any right to question. Don't feel proud just because you are taking care of them in their old age. It should be a basic human quality.
Again I am reminding you people it's applicable only to Normal healthy thinking parents. You always can request them, or try your best tricks to make them understand your point of view. Can't criticise or dictate.
幸运的是，在我们的客厅里并没有那些给世界带来灾难的电视和互联网。所以他们在自己的世界里很快乐。
所以我不会和长辈们争吵、生闷气和挑刺。我学到了对我有用的东西。从长远来看，这给了我幸福。所以我忽略了那些在我一生中可能没有用的东西。我知道那些东西已经过时了。
所以我来回答这个问题了。我创造了我自己的快乐世界。向他们展示并证明了他们的一些恐惧仅仅只是恐惧。没什么好担心的，所以他们一直认为我爱他们、尊重他们。
毕竟他们把我带到了这个世界上。我能说出所有甜蜜的、美妙的或恶毒的对话。但不能质疑他们，说：“你为什么这样？”。因为这就是他们的生活！
同样的道理也适用于每个人。
如果你不喜欢他们的做法。说一声谢谢然后离开家就好了。你在掠夺他们的东西，而不是一个给予者。所以你没有权利去质疑他们。不要因为你在照顾他们的晚年而感到骄傲。这应该是人的基本素质。
我再次提醒你们，这只适用于正常健康思考的父母。你可以总是去请求他们，或者尽你最大的努力让他们理解你的观点。但是你不能批评或指使他们。
So I don't crib, sulk and find faults with elders. I learnt what is useful to me. Which gives me happiness in long run. I ignored those which may not be useful in my life time. Which I know outdated.
So here I am. Happily created my own world. Showed and proved them some of their fears are just fears. Nothing to worry and inspite of their thinking I love and respect them.
àfter all they brought me in to this world. I can mouth any sweet ,superb or venomous dialogues. But can't question ‘why you are like that? It's their life!
Same thing is applicable to everyone.
If You don't like. Say thank you and come out. You are taker from them. Not a giver. So you don't have any right to question. Don't feel proud just because you are taking care of them in their old age. It should be a basic human quality.
Again I am reminding you people it's applicable only to Normal healthy thinking parents. You always can request them, or try your best tricks to make them understand your point of view. Can't criticise or dictate.
幸运的是，在我们的客厅里并没有那些给世界带来灾难的电视和互联网。所以他们在自己的世界里很快乐。
所以我不会和长辈们争吵、生闷气和挑刺。我学到了对我有用的东西。从长远来看，这给了我幸福。所以我忽略了那些在我一生中可能没有用的东西。我知道那些东西已经过时了。
所以我来回答这个问题了。我创造了我自己的快乐世界。向他们展示并证明了他们的一些恐惧仅仅只是恐惧。没什么好担心的，所以他们一直认为我爱他们、尊重他们。
毕竟他们把我带到了这个世界上。我能说出所有甜蜜的、美妙的或恶毒的对话。但不能质疑他们，说：“你为什么这样？”。因为这就是他们的生活！
同样的道理也适用于每个人。
如果你不喜欢他们的做法。说一声谢谢然后离开家就好了。你在掠夺他们的东西，而不是一个给予者。所以你没有权利去质疑他们。不要因为你在照顾他们的晚年而感到骄傲。这应该是人的基本素质。
我再次提醒你们，这只适用于正常健康思考的父母。你可以总是去请求他们，或者尽你最大的努力让他们理解你的观点。但是你不能批评或指使他们。
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