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Nancy Caravan, works at Self employed, Artist (1972-present)
To begin, you might smile and say hi to her. If she seems receptive, then you can ask a question to start a conversation. Obviously you must have something planned to say.

首先，你可以先微笑着和她打声招呼。如果她对此并不抗拒的话，那么你便可以问个问题开始对话，显然你得事先想好说些什么。

If you are familiar with her because you have some classes together— then you will have a clue. If you don’t have classes together, and are not sure what she likes, you can still ask similar questions. Such as “I love studying the Renaissance—-do you like that period of history? Or, “Do you follow our basketball team—I think I prefer curling.” Or, I’m really enjoying chemistry class this year—how about you.?” Or, “Do you like “such and such music?”Obviously everyone has different interests depending on their ages and where they live etc.. but you have to start somewhere. You get the idea.

如果你原本就和她熟悉的话，比方说你们一起上过课之类的，那么你自然会知道该讨论些什么。如果你们没有一起上过课，你又不确定她喜欢什么的话，你也可以问她诸如此类的问题。比如“我喜欢研究文艺复新，你喜欢那一时期的历史吗？”或者是“我真的很喜欢今年的化学课，你觉得呢？”再或者是“你喜欢某某音乐吗？”显然，每个人都会有不同的兴趣爱好，这取决于他们地年龄层和居住地等等。但是你总得从某个方面入手，你懂的。

But, you should have a follow up depending on what she answers. You have to have an opinion on a few subjects or the conversation will fall flat. That’s almost more important than starting one up. You don’t want too much awkward silence. If she is shy, then you might have to say more at first, but don’t overwhelm her either.If it all works out ask, “can we continue this conversation at lunch?” Or, after school.. etc…

但是，你得根据她的回答进行后续的调查。你必须对一些话题有着自己的一番见解，否则这场交谈便会失败。这个步骤几乎比开始一次对话更为重要。你可不想遭遇太多尴尬的沉默。如果她比较害羞得话，你在开始时还得健谈一些，但也不要话多到让她喘不过气。如果一切进展顺利的话，你可以问她“我们能在午餐时继续聊吗？”或者是在放学后..

Don’t ever use a compliment to start a conversation. It will end before it is ever started. First because it is inappropriate. No one should offer an opinion on someone’s looks unless asked. And also because there isn’t really any answer to a compliment.. If someone answers “thank you,” then what can you say back that would not be creepy? If you approach a girl, she will assume that you find her attractive.

永远都不要用赞美来开始一场对话。因为这样做的话，会让一切还没开始便迎来了结束。首先，这种行为是不得体的。除非有人问起，否则任何人都不应该对他人的相貌发表意见。此外一句赞美的话也很难收获任何的回应。如果妹子回答“谢谢”的话，你又该说些什么好让自己显得不那么猥琐呢？而且如果你接近一个女孩的话，那么她便已经认定你觉得她很迷人了。

Rishi Patange
Develop your interests. You don't need to be a brain to find things to talk about, but you do need to have passions and interests. A person who can talk naturally about things he's interested in is always better conversation than someone armed with pre-written prompts

培养些兴趣爱好吧。寻找话题并不需要你天资聪慧，但是你得有激情和兴趣爱好，一个人能够自然地讨论自己感兴趣的事务，这种讨论总会比那种预先准备好的话题更适合讨论
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Preety Hobbs, 'Every moment is a gift hence its known as the present.'
Breaking The Ice.I bet many guys sat there thinking, after several rejections - should I talk to her? And the hunk appears and takes her. Don't do that my friend. Take the risk.

打破僵局。我敢断言，在被拒绝了几次以后，很多男人便会开始疑虑，我应该上前和她交谈吗？然后某个大块头出现，带走了她。别这样，我的朋友，冒这个险吧。

“It is impossible to live without falling sometimes. Unless you live so cautiously that you might have as well not lived at all.” JK Rowling.There are many ways to approach a woman, without looking like a fool.But first always be lined up for rejection. Not many people are in the mood to talk in this day and age. However, you can't win a lottery ticket without buying one!

“人生当中不跌倒个几回是不可能的。除非你活得非常谨慎，不过那样的话你便不算真的活过。” -JK罗琳。有很多方法能让你在接近一个女人时显得不像个傻瓜。不过首先，你得做好被拒绝的准备。在如今这个时代，并没有多少人有谈心的闲情逸致。然而如果你不去购买彩票的话，便绝无中奖的可能！

First you must see the body language of the woman.Is she open or closed?

首先你得观察那位女性的身体语言，是开放的还是封闭的？
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A woman who squints her eyebrows, is almost usually about to explode in anger. A woman who is angry is never safe to approach.

当一个女人的眉毛紧皱时，通常说明她正处于将爆发的愤怒状态，接近一个生气的女人可不是什么安全的选择。

A woman who crosses her arms (unless cold), sits with crossed legs, stands with closed legs, eyebrows down, eyes looking at ground, eyes gazing too much, shoulders curved is closed and probably is upset. She needs time alone. Unless you can try and console her - its best not to approach her at this time. Avoid approaching when woman displays closed body language.The woman you want to approach is a woman displaying open body language. And you might even have to approach her.Smile at her, when you receive her smile back approach her

如果一个女人环抱手臂，坐着的时候交叉双腿，站着的时候闭着双腿，眉毛向下，眼睛盯着地面，肩膀弯曲的话，那么便说明她的肢体语言是封闭的，她现在很可能正心烦意乱，她需要一些独处的时间。除非你要试着去安慰她，否则最好不要在个时候接近她。当过一个女人表现出封闭的肢体语言时，我们应当避免接触她。当你想要接近的女人展示出开放的身体语言时，你可能甚至都不需要去接近她。只需要向她微笑就行，在你收到她回报的微笑后便可以接近她了

Lukas Schwekendiek, Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.
Most people make a really big deal out of it. They get nervous when talking to a girl, get flustered, even start to feel pain inside just because they are too nervous to just go up to them and have a conversation.Women are no different than men in the most important aspect: We are all human, and we all want to have fun.Keep that in the back of your mind and then approach a girl like you would a great friend that you haven’t seen in years.

大多数人把这种事情看得太重了。当他们和一个女孩说话时，他们会感到紧张，错乱，甚至感受到了发自内心深处的痛苦，这都是因为他们紧张到了不敢过去和女孩交谈。女人和男人在最关键的一点上还是相同的：我们都是人，我们都想找些乐子。记住这一点，然后像遇上了多年未见的好友那样去接近一个女孩。

The trick is not to treat them any different than a really, really good friend.Become interested in them. The more genuine your interest is, the easier it will be for you and for them to have an amazing conversation. But when you go up for the first time, you should only focus on one thing:
Having fun.

诀窍就是把她们当成自己真正的好友来对待，对她们感兴趣。你对她们展现的兴趣越是真诚，你们之间的对话也便会越容易。不过当你第一次首次尝试和某个女孩交谈时，你唯一需要关注的只有一件事：享受这一刻。

When you are talking to them do not focus on their appearance, on whether or not they will date you, or on whether or not you will even get their number. All you should focus on is having fun when you talk to them.

当你和她们说话时，不要去关注她们的外表，也不要关注她们是否会和你约会，或者你是否能拿到她们的联系方式。你唯一需要关注的是，和她进行一场欢乐愉快的交谈。

Joke around, be a bit playful and just have a good time talking to them. Be curious, polite but most importantly, try to have fun.The more fun you have, the more likely it will be that she is having fun as well. And when she is having a great time, you will hear from her again!

开开玩笑，表现得幽默些，和她们愉快地交谈。同时也要对她们保持好奇心和礼貌。当她与你经历了一场愉快的交谈后，你自然能够再次收到她的联系！

Going up to someone the first time can be scary, but just do it with honesty and you will not have a problem.Ask yourself why you even want to talk to her?Is she pretty? If so, then what do you really find pretty about her? Go up and tell her that. Even if she stops talking to you right away, at least you told her exactly what you thought.

第一次接近某位姑娘可能会让你感到害怕，但是你只要诚心去做的话，就不会有什么问题。问问你自己，你为什么想和她说话？是因为她漂亮吗？如果是的话，你又觉得她哪里漂亮呢？上前告诉她，即使她不会马上和你聊天，但至少你还是向她倾述了自己的真实想法。

Eventually, it will come more naturally to you and you will be able to talk to anyone without a problem.Tell them what interests you about them, and then keep the conversation on them, trying to get as much info as you can.But, all of that being said, the biggest piece of advice I have is simply this:No matter what you think, just go up and try it.Everything takes practice, especially if you are really bad at it. If you want to be good at talking to women, you are going to have to practice that as well.

最终，你在这方面会变得更加自然，而且你也将能够毫无问题地与任何人交谈。告诉她们你对她们哪方面感兴趣，然后和她们保持对话，尽可能多地获取信息。不过说了那么多，我认为最重要的还是：无论你有什么想法，尽管去尝试便是。任何事情都是需要练习的，尤其是当你还不擅长的时候。如果你想善于和女性交谈，那你自然也需要在这方面多进行练习。
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Go up and just try talking to them. If it doesn’t work, that’s okay, just try again the next time. But, you will learn more out of any failure than you will out of just thinking about it.Just do it. Go up, talk to them, and have as much fun as you can!

尽管上前和她们交谈吧，即便失败了也不打紧，下次再试一次就行。你从失败中学到的东西远非仅仅是空想所能比拟的。想做就去做吧，去向她们攀谈吧，并且尽可能地享受这个过程！