2021-07-14 龟兔赛跑 4688

How do you know if you're in love?


Daniel Schwarz Carigiet, Never got the whole "dating" thing. Am much more direct
Hi Ravishankar. And thanks for the A2A.
Well, you know - you'll probably hear the same answer from many people who have been in a longer-term relationship. It's kind of difficult to imagine if you haven't experienced it yet. But they will all smile and say "Oh - you'll know!" It's true up to an extent. The problem can be that there may be cultural variations which complicate things. In the US, everyone makes such a big deal out of "dating". To a European (or maybe just to me), this whole dating thing is a bit of a puzzle. In Europe, things aren't so complicated. "Well, yeah, we hang out a lot together , but he's not by bf..."
But back to your question. If your brain melts when you see him or her. If your pulse goes all staccato, if you simply can't help grinning like a fool wherever they are near, if the way they smell makes you dizzy... chances are that you are in love. (Or a bit drunk, perhaps). If you like a guy or a girl fine, but don't feel like your head is going to fly up into the sky and explode like a big firework, then you like him / her, but you aren't in love.
Let me add something, if I may, in the hope that it will help you avoid grief in future: Being "in love" never lasts. Once the first three months are over at the latest, reality catches up with you. You will have had your first arguments. You will have seen one another with your early morning "oh my god, is it Monday already? I feel like I haven't slept a minute and I have a headache" face. You will start to miss the feeling of excitement when he or she is coming to visit. It'll become more everyday. this is when many people break up because they are disappointed. This is sad, because they are starting to see the real person behind the pretty, always happy and smiling mask of their new partner.


The big difference between being in love and loving somebody is that you cannot love somebody you don't really know. You know, people expect rainbows and sparkly feeling to last and when they fade, they think they have failed. Wrong. They are starting to see the real person - and not the person they think their new partner is. Each partner sees that the other has good days and bad days. Love grows from this understanding of your partner, of knowing this person with time almost as well as knowing yourself. And wanting to be with this person. Of being stronger as a couple than as single people. Of being a team. Of trusting one another implicitly. Of feeling that the worst day has just become better, just because you are together again. Of respecting and genuinely liking your partner and not wanting to be with anyone else. Of knowing what makes them laugh, what their favourite food is and how you can cheer them up when they are down.
And this feeling - this feeling can also fade, but often lasts on and on. I have met old couples - over ninety, who hold hands and are simply happy to be together.
So there's hope for us all!


Robert Jackson, Asphalt paving machine operator at Metro (2019-present)
How to Know If You’re In Love
“You’ll just know.” This was my mother’s vague response when I asked her how to know if you’re in love with someone, and needless to say, I was less than enthused by her response. To be honest, it seemed like a cop-out. Why, I wondered, can’t anyone seem to accurately describe what being in love feels like? We’ve all heard rom-com movie characters talk about fireworks and pop stars sing about the all-consuming obsession that comes with a new romance, but is that really love? Or is it just infatuation? How can you tell whether you're just experiencing fiery passion or you’ve truly fallen for someone?
As it turns out, there are ways to know you’re in love. And no, they have nothing to do with feeling butterflies in your stomach. In fact, research has revealed some common signs of being lovestruck. For example, people reported having new interests and personality traits after entering a loving relationship, according to one 1995 study. Another study revealed that falling in love can cause you to exhibit symptoms similar to those that come with anxiety, such as sweating more (woof, I know).
Of course, if you’re thinking and talking about the person nonstop, or you're already envisioning a future with them, you may suspect you’re in love. Still, those signals don’t always indicate that it’s the real thing. After all, in the beginning, your excitement around this new relationship could cloud your ability to see whether there’s real potential for a long-term relationship. The chemistry is great, you have endless topics to talk about, and you haven’t discovered all of their quirks, irritating habits or “flaws” yet. So it’s pretty easy to fool yourself into thinking you’ve fallen head over heels. Here are some of the things you feel when you’re in love:


1. You’re happy and just a little bit nervous.
When you're in love, you're genuinely a happier person. The thought of spending time with your partner really excites you and just looking at the dozens of selfies you took together is enough to put a cheesy smile on your face. But being in love also makes you a tiny bit nervous. You're anxious for what the future holds. Because you know that you want your relationship to last. Lots of people compare love to something they could not lose or let pass them by, yet the uncertainty of its unknown outcome is exciting
2. Everything feels new and exciting.
When you're in love, you're excited to do things you've already done a million times before because it's with your partner this time. They're the first ones you think of when you see a romantic movie preview or when you're planning to make a quick trip to the nearest fast food place. You'd even be willing to sit through four hours of a sports game if it means spending time with them.. Maria says that's because love sparks a new change in you. "When you’re in love, the basis of your perception changes. I compare it to a feeling of being really awake and excited," she says. "You have found someone that makes everything feel new and intriguing – even if it’s just sitting on the couch watching TV.”
3. Your relationship feels easy.
Being with your partner isn't hard work. You don't have to struggle to find time to spend with them because you really want to. Even the arguments don't feel as intense as they did in other relationships. While all couples argue and bicker, when you're both in love, your priority is your relationship, not your pride. You're not worried about being the first person to give in or lose the argument because you can't imagine your life without this person. Even one day apart really feels like forever.


4. This person is on your mind literally all the time.
When you're in love, your partner is always in the back of your mind. You might have a sudden thought to call them because you haven't chatted in a few hours. Or, maybe, you go into a clothing store with the intention of buying something for yourself and then end up buying something for your partner, too. "Love is determined. When you like someone, you can brush it off and think of other things as you go about your day," Maria says. When you're in love, this person is always on your mind, but it isn't overwhelming. "When you love someone, you are physically, mentally and emotionally impacted at theoretically any/all time(s). It is a calm and secure reality you will consistently crave," Maria says.
5. You get just a little jealous.
A little bit of jealousy is natural. Jealousy becomes dangerous, however, when you start obsessing over what your partner's doing, so much so that you do stuff like look through their phone without them knowing. That is toxic behavior and it might signal you're not in a healthy relationship.
6. You become more affectionate towards them.
When you're in love, you're obviously attracted to your partner, so it's only natural that you want to be all over them all the time. Whether it's simply holding hands or turning your cuddling into an intense make out session, you want to be affectionate towards your second half. If you're completely repulsed by them, that's something to think about.
7. You want to bring them around your family and friends.
When you're really into your relationship, you want to bring your partner into all aspects of your life. You want to introduce them to your family and friends because you genuinely want your relationship last.


8. You start feeling a sense of empathy towards your partner.
When you're in love, you start seeing your bae as an extension of yourself, so when they're hurt, nervous or really excited about something like getting accepted into a school or program they really wanted, then you experience the same feelings as them. Feeling empathy towards your partner also makes you want to make tiny sacrifices for them, like getting up and going to the store for some soup and medicine when they're sick. Small things like that are easy to do when they're for the person you love.
9. You’re becoming a better person.
You know you're in love when being with your second half makes you want to improve yourself in some way, whether it's setting new goals or having a more positive attitude. Your partner should push you towards becoming better, but not in a way that's consistently negative. "If a partner isn’t building you up, then you must consider looking elsewhere for love – no matter what other characteristics he or she may have that you are infatuated with," Maria says. When you're truly in love with someone, you want your partner to succeed as much as you because you want to create a stable future for the both of you.
10. You start planning for the future.
When you truly love someone, you know that you don't have plans to let them go any time soon, if ever. So, you start to include them in all your future plans, whether it's going on vacation or figuring out your plan after high school. You start thinking of your partner when you're making big decisions because you want them to be there for it all.


Shaikh Nadeem
Well as the question is asked without mentioning any specific gender (male or a female), so I would try to put forward few of my views/opinion about both of them.
If a girl loves a boy:
Love is a very beautiful yet a very weird emotion. When a woman is in love with a man, no matter how mature, sensible or in control of her life she is, one will be able to always observe a few differences or changes in her personality which would indicate that she is madly and deeply in love with a guy/man.
Usually shy behaviour: It is quite a common feeling to have those butterflies fluttering around in your stomach when you are around the one you love. Women, being the more sensitive ones, tend to handle such a sensation differently. When a woman is around a man that she is deeply in love with, people around her start to notice a few changes in her. Those changes in her mainly highlight the enhanced feminine qualities of the woman. People would observe that the woman starts to get shy over small things, such as communicating directly with the one she loves, hesitating to make direct eye contact, rigid body postures and so forth.
Giving her man a present: The exchange of presents is considered as a gesture of love and care If a woman is in love with a man, she would buy presents for him without any reason. Usually, we buy presents for our loved ones on their birthdays or anniversaries, but in this case the woman would buy gifts without any proper reason. It is a really good indication of her love for that man. But on the contrary, few girls also likes to give presents to their friends too, so it's your duty to distinguish between that thin line to understand if you are the guy that she in love with or the “just friend”.
Acting childish infront of the man she loves: A woman may start to behave childish around the man she loves because she would believe that she can be cute around him. Childish behavior mostly indicates cuteness. She will try to woe him by her innocent actions and words, but know that her intentions are highly pure and acting innocent just shows a glimpse of her deeper feelings for you, isn't it!


Starts the conversation: Women mostly do not like being the one to start a conversation nothing personal though. Some men do not realize that when a woman initiates a conversation many times with him whether it is on cellphone or in real life, it means that she is interested and probably in love with him. Of course, this indication does not prove that the woman is in love with the man on its own but in fact different combinations of indications prove love. Therefore, this one can be a really strong indication if there are other signs as well. So every man should know that it takes a lot of courage for a woman to start a conversation and if a woman does then they should acknowledge it and appreciate it. And ultimately it's a sign that she in love with you dude!
Tries to impress the man physically: She would try to enhance her good features so that the man would notice them and like her. It is all but natural for a woman to want to make the man like her if she is in love with him. She would not necessarily dress up too much to make him notice her, but just enough so. Looking good for the one they love also gives them a higher sense of purpose, something that would make the one they love notice them more than before. And can we blame them? Love makes us do crazy things after all, doesn’t it?
Gets shy when maintaining an eye contact: They say only two kinds of people are unable to make eye contact with you: those trying to hide a lie and those trying to hide a love. For women, the latter case seems to be the more common one. If a woman is in love with a man then while maintaining an eye contact with that man the man would notice that she would get shy or try to look away.
Pays a lot of attention to the needs and wants of the man: If a woman is deeply in love with a man, then she would pay a lot of attention to all his needs and she would make sure that he gets what he wants. She would try her best to please him in every possible manner. One can sort of relate it to the care that a mother would give to her child, because she wants to keep the child happy and pleased. Same goes for a woman who is deeply in love.


If a boy loves a girl:
The way he looks at you: He looks at you like you are an unicorn, like he can’t believe you exist. He may even come right out and tell you, “I can’t believe someone like you exists.” It isn’t a look of lust and desire. Instead, it’s marked by a certain awe, serenity, and inner calm. It’s a look reserved only for you. It’s not only the way he looks at you; it’s the frequency. He can’t stop looking at you; whether you’re together or across the room from each other, his gaze will always be oriented towards you.
He always wants to give you: When you love someone, you want to give that person everything you have. This isn’t about material possessions. You want to give by being the best you can, you want to make them happy, to enhance their life, you want to do things for them that will make them happy. And this act of giving can be anything even, time, respect, care, love, gifts, kindness and everything that truly matters when two people are in love with each other or atleast the one who is in love with someone.
He gives you a priority: Everyone is busy; we all have work or studies or other commitments. When a man loves you, he will make spending time with you a priority. And if he really doesn’t have time, he’ll make sure to let you know when he will be free.
He really sees you: He notices things about you that others don’t (maybe he even sees things that you don’t!) He notices how you interact with others, how people feel in your presence, how your mind works, how you process emotions, how you express yourself. He pays attention to all the little details and he remembers them. He appreciates both the sides of you, the good and the bad as well.


Your happiness is also important to him: Your happiness may be even more important! When you love someone, really love someone, their happiness is your happiness. This is especially true for men who need to feel like they can make a woman happy. If you tell him that something makes you unhappy and he keeps doing it, this is not a sign that he’s in love with you. A man who loves you will avoid doing things that make you unhappy and will learn the things will make you happy.
He misses you: Men typically fall in love in a woman’s absence, not her presence. A man can shower you with all the love in the world while he’s with you,but what is he like when he’s not with you? Does he miss you? Does he make an effort to reach out? Or does he disappear for days on end and then tell you he’s sorry, he’s just been “super swamped?” well, figure it out!
You don't worry how he feels, you just know: When someone truly loves you, his behavior and way of being with you won’t arouse feelings of insecurity/fear/anxiety/worry in you (as long as you yourself are emotionally healthy. If you’re prone to having those feelings no matter what, then they are probably generated within you). Check in with yourself and see where it’s coming from. Usually, when we feel uneasy, like the rug is going to be pulled out from under us, it’s because the relationship isn’t standing on a stable ground because the guy isn’t sure of how he feels. When someone loves you, he shows it and you just know it, even before he says it.
So basically, if a person is in love with you, then it's all about the actions that we can see from that other person and undoubtedly we can get to know what this is all about!