怎样才能让女孩喜欢你(一)
2021-07-16 龟兔赛跑 5847
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How do you get a girl to like you?

怎样才能让女孩喜欢你?

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Sean Kernan
I’ve thrown every ounce of charm, pulled out every morsel of romantic magic at my disposal, only to get minimal response.
I’ve done nothing, put zero effort, and still felt like I’d cast some spell on a girl, that nothing I could say or do would change her hanging on my every word.
The point is that a girl “liking you” is a natural thing that is not usually controllable by you or her.
But in order for her to even figure out if she likes you, you need to actually be talking to her. That is the step 90% of people who ask this question skip.
The great tragedy is that most crushes go unknown by the crushee. It is often because the person doing the crushing has put too much pressure on themselves.
Just go and start talking with her. Keep things light and simple. It doesn’t need to be this high-pressure mission to lock her in for a date before she even knows your full name.
If you keep having conversations with her, she’ll catch on that you like her. Girls are pretty good at reading between the lines.
Skip all the schtick, shenanigans, tap dancing, presenting of flowers, life sized teddy bears, gold, diamonds, the performance of poetry on her doorstep, painting of hearts in the clouds with an airplane.
Stop observing her from a distance as an obxt to be acquired. You aren’t a hawk. You are a person just like her. Just go and start having regular dialogue, get to know her.
It’s that simple. If she likes you, she’ll let you know.

有时候我发挥了我所有的魅力,也做了所有我能想到的浪漫举动,但收效甚微,她依然不喜欢我。
有时候我什么都没做,也没付出过任何努力,但无论我说什么或做什么,她都死心塌地的爱着我,就好像我给她施了什么魔法一样。
所以这件事的关键是,一个女孩“喜欢你”是一件自然而然的事情,这不是你或她能控制的了的。
但有时候她自己都不知道喜不喜欢你,所以如果你想让她明白自己的心意的话,你需要和她认真的进行沟通。但有90%的人跳过了这个步骤,直接问对方喜欢不喜欢自己。
所以这件事最大的悲剧就是,大多数的被暗恋者都不知道她被谁暗恋了。这往往是因为暗恋的人给自己施加了太多的压力。
所以,勇敢的去和她搭讪吧,把事情变得轻松简单一点。在她甚至还不知道你名字的情况下,就锁定她,把她拉入和你暧昧的氛围中。
如果你一直找她说话的话,她会知道你喜欢她的。女孩子们都很擅长读懂言外之意。
你要跳过所有的滑稽表演,比如玩一些小把戏,跳踢踏舞,送花,送真人大小的泰迪熊,送黄金、钻石,在她的门阶上表演诗歌,用一架飞机在云中画心等等。
你不要一直在远处观望她,你又不是老鹰,你和她是一样的。所以勇敢的去和她聊天,去了解她。
如果她喜欢你,她会告诉你的。就是这么简单。
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Anubhav Jain, A simple human | Entrepreneur | Author
My best friend liked a girl.
As per his belief she was way out of his league.
But then he decided to convince her and made a plan for that.
He started giving her importance.
Solved her issues proactively.
Finally became friends with her.
Treated her like a princess.
Was available 24x7 for her needs.
Learned some amazing jokes and made her laugh.
Complimented her every other day and made her feel special.
Pampered her more than her parents would have done.
Took her to long rides and dinner dates.
Cooked food for her.
Made her an addict of himself.
Did all this patiently for at least a year.
Finally said the three magic words on the last day of college
“I love you”

我最好的朋友喜欢一个女孩。
但在他看来,他根本配不上她。
但他最终还是下定决心要去追她,并为此制定了一个计划。
他开始关注她。
主动帮她解决问题。
后来,他终于和她成为了朋友。
他像对待公主一样的对待她。
随时随地的满足她的需求。
每天还想很多的笑话说给她听,逗她笑。
每隔一天赞美她一次,让她觉得自己很特别。
他比她父母还要溺爱她。
他会带她去兜风,邀请她共进晚餐。
还给她做饭。
他让她对自己上瘾。
他耐心地做了这些事,做了至少一年。
终于在大学的最后一天,他说出了那三个神奇的字:”我爱你“。

She cried for a few seconds and said-
“I love you too Bhai (brother), I don't know how I will live without you, what you have done for me even my parents haven't done ever, Thank you so so much”
Also gave him a tight hug which lost relevance by then and said-
“Always stay in touch!”
His Mount Everest made of expectations was brought down to a temporary “touch”
For the next 1 year he cried for the previous year he wasted on her.
Nothing unique! This is what most of us actually do and then cry in one corner of a library or on stairs of our college or school.
So how to go about?
Be what you are and be confident in your skin.
Be honest, be truthful but don't create a negative aura by body shaming her or doing other negative things.
Whatever little efforts you need to make, should be to create a casual friendship.

她哭了几秒钟,然后说:”我也爱你,哥哥,如果没有你我都不知道该怎么活下去,你为我做了连我父母都没有做过的事情,真的很谢谢你。”
那个女孩最后紧紧地拥抱了他一下,只说了句:”随时保持联系!“
他原本是期望能登上珠穆朗玛峰的,但他最后只得到了一个暂时的”碰触“。
所以在接下来的一年里,他为他在她身上浪费的一年时间而哭泣。
这不是什么特别的事情!我们大多数人都会这么做,我们最后会躲在图书馆的某个角落或学校的楼梯上哭泣。
那我们到底该怎么做呢?
你只需要做你自己,对你自己充满信心就好了。
一定要诚实,要保持真诚,但不要通过羞辱她或做一些负面的事情来制造消极的气氛。
无论你打算对她采取什么样的行动,你都应该在你和她之间创造出一种轻松的友谊的氛围。

Convey to her what you are and what you expect from life.
Respect her aims, goals, obxtives, way of life and limitations.
If she has to like you she will, if she doesn't have to like you, she won't, no matter what.
If you fake and make her like you, I am sorry you are destined to cry later on.
If you like her, make it clear as soon as possible so that you are not brozoned, you can finally propose her later on.
Tell her specifically that this friendship is not about bro-sis (give such signals or mention in sarcasm)
If she refuses when you propose, measure her emotions to identify if there is a slightest chance of acceptance, if not cry there and then and forget her.
Help her but also don't forget to safeguard your own interests or you will be used like a tissue.
Be happy with your life, people like happy people and not desperate or sad looking people.
Never assume that she likes you “that way” assumptions are meant to be proven wrong.
Oh! I forgot! This was for both guys and girls!

你要向她传达你是什么样的人以及你对生活的期望。
你要尊重她的目标,尊重她的目的,以及她的生活方式和她的局限性。
如果她喜欢你,她最终会喜欢上你的。但如果她不喜欢你,不管你怎么做,她都不会喜欢你的。
如果你把自己伪装成另一个人,而让她因此喜欢上你,那我很遗憾,你最后肯定会哭的。
如果你喜欢她,你就要尽快跟她说清楚,这样你以后才不会后悔,而且你最后还可以向她表白。
而且你一开始就要明确的告诉她,这段友谊不是兄弟姐妹的关系(你一定要发出这样的信号或在开玩笑的时候提及)。
如果她拒绝了你的表白,你要思考一下她的态度,看看是否有一丝被接受的机会,如果没有的话,那就大哭一场,然后擦干眼泪忘记她。
你在帮助她的同时也不要忘记维护你自己的利益,否则你就会像一张纸巾一样被她利用了。
你要快乐的生活,人们都喜欢快乐的人,而不是绝望或悲伤的人。
永远不要假设她会喜欢你”那样“做。
哦!我忘记了!这个建议是给男孩和女孩的!
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Deepak Shukla, I've been dating for a decade.
Be a man of purpose
Have a journey that you're on that's greater than any one person being in your life. It's so attractive to say to a woman 'I'm trying to build a successful company that will help people do X. I want to look back in 5 years from now and say 'I made that'.
Be a man who keeps in shape
There are no excuses to being lazy. So do sport. The gym 3x a week or 10k running or crossfit or a tennis club. But something. It helps
Be secure with your looks
Whether 'ugly' or 'hot'. Don't make it about your looks. Make it about who you are.
Be secure
Don't be phased by other people and what they're doing - focus upon yourself
Be humorous
Making a woman laugh is a wonderful thing. So smile and be happy
Make fun of yourself
It's intoxicating
Make 'your line' the truth
'Look you seemed really nice, and probably get approached all the time - so this may seem ridiculous but yeh..I wanted to say hello...hi! (Laugh) my name's Deepak (go to shake their hand)
'Hey so I may get shot down. but you are extremely pretty and I'm HOPING you're a cool person as well. Erm hi, no fancy lines other than...hey name's Deepak - hello!'
Don't care so much
If you do 1/2/3/4/5/6 women will come. I promise
For more dating advice do follow me :)

你要做一个有目标的人。
拥有一段精彩的经历,比你生命中出现的任何一个人都要重要。当你对一个女人说:“我正在努力拼搏事业,我创立了一个成功的公司,我帮助人们做了什么什么事情。”这对一个女人来说是很有吸引力的。我想在5年以后回头看看,说:“这件事是我做的”。
你要努力保持身材。
不要给懒惰找任何借口。运动也是如此。每周去3次健身房,或者跑10公里,或者做一些体能训练,或者去网球俱乐部打网球。不管做什么运动,他都是有助于你保持身材的。
你的长相可以保证你的安全,不管你长得”丑”还是长得”辣”,都别拿你的外表说事。不要被其他人和他们正在做的事情所影响——你只需要专注于你自己就好了。
要保持幽默。
因为让女人开怀大笑是一件很棒的事情。所以尽情的去笑吧,要一直保持开心啊。
自嘲也是一件令人开心的事,因为它会让你说的话看起来好像是真的。
“哇,你长得真好看,你长得这么好看,是不是有很多人想接近你?虽然这看起来可能很好笑,但是我还是想来跟你打个招呼,嗨~(这个时候要保持微笑)我叫迪帕克(现在去和她们握手)“。
“嘿,虽然我这样跟你搭讪可能会失败。但是我还是想跟你说,你真的长得非常漂亮,我希望你是个很酷的人。嗯,我没有什么花哨的台词,除了……嘿,我叫迪帕克,你好!”
你不要管那么多。只要你做了以上几点,女人就会来。我向你保证。
如果你想要了解更多关于约会的建议,请跟我上面步骤走。

Jedidiah Benhur Margoschis Wisely, former English Instructor
When I was in grade 10, a girl tied a rakhi on my hand.
[For the context: Rakhi is a cotton bracelet tied by a girl or a woman on a man’s hand, signifying the brotherly love she has for him. It is an Indian thing, mostly]
Honestly, when she tied it on me, I was not aware of what that was. I learned it from a friend a while later.
I was okay with that.
But her approach was not quite sister-like. Sneaky glances, mild nudges, subtle hints of you know, romance.
One day, she proposed her love for me. I didn’t quite understand anything. I turned it down.
I was confused more than anything.
Later, after I graduated, I learned from a mutual friend that she used Rakhi as an opportunity to get closer to me and then propose her love for me.
I felt a bit used. Or insulted. “How low could a girl be,” I told myself.
During my second year of Uni, she got in touch with me through a mutual friend.
The first thing she told me was this: “Ben. Before you say anything,I am sorry. I was stupid. I am not talking to you to ask you if you love me. I just want to say that I love you.”

我十年级的时候,一个女孩在我手上绑了一个Rakhi。
【注释:Rakhi是一个由女孩或女人系在男人手上的棉花手链,象征着她对这个男人如兄弟般的爱。这大概是印度的一种东西。】
说实话,她绑在我身上的时候,我并不知道那是什么。这还是我后来从一个朋友那里听说的。
说实话,我对此并不介意。
但她的做法却不太像是姐妹的做法。偷偷摸摸的眼神,有意无意的触碰,以及你知道的那种微妙的暗示,还会玩一些浪漫。
有一天,她忽然跟我表白了。我一脸懵逼,所以我直接拒绝了。
我对此感到很困惑。
后来,我毕业了,我从一个我们共同的朋友那里得知,她本来是打算利用Rakhi这个机会接近我的,然后向我表白。
我觉得我自己好像是被利用了,或者说是被侮辱了。“一个女孩子能有多卑微啊,”我对自己说。
在我大二的时候,她通过一个共同的朋友和我取得了联系。
她告诉我的第一件事是:“本。在你开口之前,我先说声对不起。我真是蠢啊,我跟你说话不是为了问你喜不喜欢我,我只想跟你说我爱你。”
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I accepted her apology. I thanked her for reaching out to me. I told her that it was okay. I also told her that I was not hurt by that but just confused.
I turned down her proposal.
Many years later while I was working in Madras, she got in touch with me again.
She was about to leave to the U.K for work.
She spoke about random things and finally about what happened years ago.
“I am not sorry for what happened last time. It was heartfelt. At the moment, I am dating my best friend from Uni. He is in the U.K now. ……” She spoke about her man for a while.
Then she concluded: “I still love you, Ben.”
Truth be told, nothing was wrong with her. I just never felt the bond with her.
I never wanted to call her name. Or smile like an idiot. Or just be stupid around her.
I had no love for her.
No matter who you are or what personality you sport, there will always be a woman or a girl who likes you.
She will see the flaws in you. The stupidity. The inaccuracies. Insecurities. And failings.
And she will cut right through the noise and scoop you off. She is the one.
You don’t really have to respond to her love. You don’t have to accept or refuse. She will love.

后来,我接受了她的道歉,我也很感谢她能主动联系我。我跟她说没关系,我还告诉她,我并没有因此受到伤害,我只是感到很困惑而已。
但我还是拒绝了她的表白。
很多年以后,当我在马德拉斯工作的时候,她再次联系了我。
她当时正准备去英国工作。
她跟我随意聊了一些事情,最后谈到了几年前发生的事情。
“我对上次向你表白的事情并不感到抱歉,因为这是发自内心的。目前,我正在和我大学时最好的朋友约会。他现在在英国……“她跟我聊了一会儿她的男人。
最后她得出结论:“我还爱着你,本。”
说实话,她这么做并没有什么不妥。我只是从来没感觉到我和她之间有擦出什么火花。
我从来都不想叫她的名字,或者像个白痴一样的对她笑,或者是在她的身边犯傻。
所以说,我并不爱她。
不管你是谁,不管你的性格如何,总会有一个女人或女孩喜欢你。
她会看到你的缺点,你的愚蠢,你的不安全感以及你的失败。
但她还是会穿过人群中嘈杂声,找到你,并表示你就是她的真命天子。
你不需要回应她的爱,你也不必接受或拒绝她的爱。她还是会喜欢你。

Gevork Babayan, Radiography at Bornholms Hospital (2016-present)
Girls are like shadow. If you get closer they will go away from you. If you go away from them they follow you. Like birds they will fly away from the smalest step you take towards them. But if u stay still and dont mind them. They will be flying all over you. Not saying dont do anything. I am saying dont try to hard.
What attracts the girls most is confidence. Not fake confidence. I mean real core confidence.
So if you want to attract them. Go to gym 3-4 times a week. Eat well. Take good care of yourself and your body. Help others. Build your core confidence. Be strong. Read books. Alot of books. And ignore the girls. If they talk to you be friendly with them but dont try anything fast. Tease them amd feel good about yourself. Push them away alittle. Dont say yes all the time. Say you are busy. And if you want to build confidence you will be busy anyway. Build your dream. Your business your life for yourself. Girls will come.
Nothing attacts people more then a person who knows where he is going. Confidence and beliv in yourself. And girls always want what they cant have.
Just do what i told you 6 months and thank me afterwards

女孩就像一个影子。如果你靠近他们,他们就会离你远远的。如果你离开他们,他们就会跟着你。就像鸟儿一样,如果你向它们迈进一步,它们就会立马飞走。但如果你呆着不动,不去骚扰他们,他们就会飞到你的身上。我的意思并不是说追女孩子就是什么都不要做,我的意思是,追女孩子的时候不要太用力。
因为最吸引女孩子的品质就是自信。但这并不是指假装的自信,而是发自内心的认可自己的自信。
所以如果你想吸引她们。那你就每周去3到4次健身房,好好吃饭,照顾好自己和自己的身体。帮助别人。建立你自己的核心自信,坚强点,多看看书,多读点好书。别太把那些女孩当回事,如果她们跟你说话的话,那你就友好地跟她们相处,但不要急于求成,不要去挑逗她们,也不要自我感觉良好。要适当的推开她们一点,不要总是对她们说“好”,你要说你很忙。如果你努力建立自信的话,那么你肯定会很忙的。如果你好好拼搏你的梦想,拼搏你的事业,拼搏你的生活,那女孩自然而然就会来的。
没有什么比一个知道自己要去哪里的人更吸引人的了。要保持自信,要相信自己。因为女孩子总是想要她们得不到的东西。
如果你按照我说的方法去做六个月,六个月后你肯定会感谢我的。

Tanushri Sharma, lives in Pune, Maharashtra, India
I was talking to a guy from a long time. We started talking through Quora. He too is a CA Finalist. We had talked on calls as well and we were really good friends. He is one year elder to me. He had plans to visit Pune for some family function and we decided to meet.
I was late because of traffic. He was standing there, waiting. He had taken efforts for his outfit. He looked at me and smiled. Gorgeous smile!
“Hi. You are looking cute. You look more beautiful in reality”, he said.
“Thank you”, I replied with a smile.
I apologized for coming late.
He replied with a smile saying,
“It's okay.”
He gave me a book as a gift. He knew I like to read. He had got it wrapped. Once I’d told him that it's been a long time since I've unwrapped a gift. He remembered that little detail. How sweet!
We went to a cafe. Instead of sitting in front of me, he sat beside me. We were quite comfortable with each other. Even though we talked about random things, it was very mesmerizing. He joked about himself and made me laugh till my stomach started aching. He was confident. He told me his childhood memories. While I was having my food, I caught him staring at me with A LOT of admiration. I blushed!
He kept his hand on mine and I could feel butterflies in my tummy.
I offered to pay the bill but he politely refused and said he wants to. I decided to pay for the next time, as we had plans to meet the next day also.

我在和一个老朋友通过 quora 聊天,他也是一名加州决赛的选手。我们是非常好的朋友,经常通过电话交流,他比我大一岁。他计划去浦那参加一些家庭活动,于是我们决定趁此机会见一面。
但我因为堵车迟到了,他就站在那儿等着我。他在他自己的穿着上费了不少功夫,当他看见我的时候笑了,是非常灿烂的笑容!
”你好,你看起来真可爱,你比照片里还要好看。“
”谢谢你“,我笑着回复他。
我为迟到向他道歉。
他却笑着回答我说:
”没关系。“
他送给我一本书作为礼物,因为他知道我喜欢读书。有一次我告诉他,我已经很久没有拆过礼物了,所以他还特地把这本书包了起来。他居然记得这么小的细节,这实在是太甜了。
我们去了一家咖啡馆,他坐在我旁边,而不是坐在我的对面。我们在一起相处的时候很舒服,尽管我们聊得都是一些琐事的事情,但我们却聊得特别投入,这些琐事都变得很吸引人。他的自嘲让我笑得肚子都疼了。他是一个很有自信的人,他还跟我说了他的童年。当我吃东西的时候,我发现他用爱慕的目光盯着我,我的脸一下子就红了!
当他的手放到我的手上时,我紧张的心脏都要跳出来了。
当我主动的提出要付帐的时候,他礼貌地拒绝了,说他想自己付。所以我决定支付下一次的费用,因为我们也计划第二天见面。
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We decided to go on a walk. We talked and talked. We laughed a lot. I put my hand around his arm and we kept on walking. He said he liked the way I was holding him. We were too much comfortable with each other.
It was too cold that day. He offered me his jacket and I shamelessly took it because I cannot survive cold. I was shivering. His jacket felt good. It had his aroma, a beautiful aroma.
I couldn't look into his beautiful eyes for more than 10 seconds. I was a little nervous for a reason only God knows about. When I was talking about something, he kept on staring at me as if I was some monument. I blushed scarlet.
I wanted to spend more time but he insisted me to go home as it was late. I told him that I can stay for half an hour more. But he refused saying it's too cold. He even insisted to come along and that he'll come back by cab. But I declined.
We hugged. I wanted to stay in those arms forever but he broke it in 30 seconds. I kept looking at him. He kept looking at me. I so wanted to kiss him. He too wanted to kiss me. He murmured to himself, “not here, not now.”

然后我们决定去散一会步,我们还继续聊着天,两个人都笑得很开心。我挽着他的胳膊,我们继续往前走,他说他喜欢我挽着他的样子。我们在一起的状态真的是太舒适了。
我记得那天很冷。他把夹克递给我,而我厚颜无耻地收下了,因为我很怕冷,我在不停的颤抖。他的夹克穿着很舒服,因为夹克上沾了他的香味,这是一种美妙的香味。
因为我当时有点紧张,所以我无法直视他美丽的眼睛超过十秒钟,我为什么会这么紧张,只有上帝知道原因了。当我在说某件事情的时候,他一直盯着我看,就好像我是一个什么珍贵的物品一样。我的脸当时刷的一下就红了。
我当时还想多花点时间跟他继续待在一起,但他坚持要我早点回家,因为当时已经很晚了。我告诉他,其实我还可以再多待半个小时,但他拒绝了,说是因为天气太冷了。最后,我只能回家了,他还坚持要送我回家,说他会坐出租车回来,但是我拒绝了。
我们最后拥抱在了一起,我真想永远呆在他的怀里,但他抱了我30秒之后就把我放开了。我一直看着他,他也一直看着我,我真想亲吻他,而他也想亲吻我。他喃喃自语道:“现在不能亲,不能在这里亲。”

He caressed my hair, kissed my forehead and told me to text as soon as I reach.
After going home when I texted him that why didn't he kiss me, he said he didn't want anyone to witness our moment (even though there was no one but the risk was still there) and that it was the first time we had met.
We didn't meet the next day as he had to leave because of some emergency and then we realised that we were so indulged into each other that we had forgotten to click pictures.
Even though we never called it a date and never wanted it to be a date, it actually became one.
How can you get a girl to like you?
Be yourself.
Respect her comfort.
Remember the little details.
Make her laugh.
Be honest. Give genuine compliments.
Make her feel safe.
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他抚摸着我的头发,亲吻着我的前额,并嘱咐我一到家就给他发短信。
回到家后,我发短信问他当时为什么不亲我,他说他不想让任何人看到我们亲吻的画面(虽然当时没有人,但仍然存在这种风险),而且那是我们第一次见面。
我们第二天并没有见面,因为他说,有一些紧急情况,所以他要马上离开。我们这时候才忽然意识到,我们当时太沉迷于对方了,以至于忘记了拍照。
尽管我们从来没把它叫做约会,也不希望它成为约会,但它确实成为了约会。
所以你到底该怎么做才能让一个女孩喜欢你呢?
答案就是做你自己。
尊重她的选择。
记住一些小细节。
还要逗她开心。
要诚实,要给予她最真诚的赞美。
让她有安全感。
如果你想追女孩子,你一定要读这篇文章!

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