你的十大坏品质是什么（二）
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What are your top ten bad qualities?
你的十大坏品质是什么？
What are your top ten bad qualities?
你的十大坏品质是什么？
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6) I am a hyper-emotional baby. I fail? I cry. Someone else gets hurt? I cry. Band camp is canceled? I cry. I can't control it, and sometimes I start crying for no reason. In public. UGH.
7) I feed on other's sadness. (Kind of.) All my friends are depressed, or have an ongoing problem. If I'm not helping someone, especially emotionally, I feel worthless. So I have developed a tendency to hang around sad people and try to help them to make me feel better about myself.
8) I am scared of too many things. I'm scared of pain. Like, really scared. I'll never get piercings or tattoos.
9) I have almost no self-confidence. This makes me scared to try things first, or talk to strangers, or make friends, or accomplish things, or feel good about myself
In short, I'm terrified of everything, creepy, and can't do things right.
PS- Please don't try to tell me that this is all just a part of growing up. I've been like this all my life.
我是一个情绪激动的婴儿：我失败了？我哭了。有人受伤了吗？我哭了。乐队夏令营取消了？我哭了。我无法控制，有时我会无缘无故地哭起来。这都是当众哭哦。
我太在意别人的悲伤情绪：我朋友沮丧，或者有问题一直不能解决。如果我没有帮助别人，特别是在情感上，我会觉得自己一文不值。所以我有一种倾向，就是和悲伤的人呆在一起，试着帮助他们，从而让我对自己感觉更好。
我害怕的事情太多了：我害怕疼痛，真的很害怕。我永远也不会在身上穿孔或纹身。
我几乎没有自信。这让我不敢尝试（新事物），不敢与陌生人交谈，不敢交朋友，不敢成就事业，不敢自我感觉良好。
简言之，我害怕一切，担心不能把事情做好。
请不要试图告诉我这只是成长的一部分。因为我一辈子都是这样。
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Adela, lives in Hollywood, CA
Let me think.
Wait, let's get the good stuff out first. I’m easy-going, understanding and I’m a kidder.
What do my friends say about me? What do my enemies say about me?
My friends say I'm hilarious. I’ve been called a “Jew” by my friends.
I’ve had kind of a serious life, so I’ve developed a sense of humor to cope.
My friends say I’m often too formal, particularly in dress. I’ve been called a perfectionist.
My enemies say I’m not as funny as I think I am. My enemies say I’m slippery. My enemies say I’m cocky. My enemies think I should be a Marxist or a Marxist activist.
So from all of this, let me glean list, and I’ll try to honestly rate how true they are, on a scale of 1 to 10.
让我想想。等等，我们先说下好的一面：我很随和，善解人意，是个爱开玩笑的人。
我的朋友怎么评价我？我的敌人怎么评价我？
我的朋友说我很搞笑。我的朋友称我为“犹太人”。
我过着严肃的生活，所以我培养了一种幽默感来应对。
我的朋友经常说我太正式，尤其是在穿着上。我被称为完美主义者。
我的敌人说我没有我想象的那么有趣。我的敌人说我很滑。我的敌人说我骄傲自大。我的敌人认为我应该是一名马克思主义者或马克思主义活动家。
因此，我从这些里面列个清单，我将尝试诚实地评价它们的真实性，从1到10分。
Cheap: (4) See my shoe collection in my Shares. I spend. I’m an outrageous tipper too. I’m thrifty about things if I think they’re unfair, like paying big bucks for parking when getting a ticket is cheaper. Many times I say, “Yeah, I’m not paying that.” I remember for my high school graduation, my school hit me with a $250 bill for my cap & gown and for seats at the arena for my commencement. Yup, not paying that. (So I skipped it.) My budgets are tightly managed. I’m very aware of my spending, but I do spend on the things I like. Isn’t that normal?
Old-Fashioned: (10) Yeah, I can’t escape that one. I don’t skinny dip. I don’t take my top off in public. I bring drinks on a tray to guests who visit my home. I put flowers on the table for dinner. I let people in and out of my doors. I always offer something to eat. I follow all the little etiquette rules.
Cocky: (7) I’m playfully cocky. It’s not real. I played sports and I was always kidding my opponents, trash-talking, having fun. When you’re running on fumes, it’s that mental stimulation that keeps you going. A little anger gives you an extra half hour of running time.
Aloof: (9) Damn it. Yeah, I’m bad. I read a text, I respond in my mind, “Oh yeah, I’ll call you later.” Then I turn the phone down and forget to actually respond.
Too Serious: (8) I only go serious when I’m alone, so it’s actually your fault when you invade my space uninvited and find out I’m not kidding around all the time.
舍不得：4分，在我的共享（文件夹）中可以看到我收藏的鞋子—花钱吧。我也是个给小费的人。如果我认为有些事情不公平，我就会选节俭方式，比如在罚款要便宜的情况下花更多钱去停车。很多时候，我宁愿罚款，我记得高中毕业时，学校给我开了一张250美元的账单，要我买帽子和礼服，还有我毕业典礼竞技场的座位。我不付那个钱，(我的预算管理得很严格。我很清楚我在哪里需要的花费，但我确实把钱花在我喜欢的东西上。这不正常吗？
老派：10分，是的，我无法反驳这一条。我不裸泳，我也不在公共场合脱上衣。我用托盘给来访的客人端上饮料。我准备晚餐时把花放在桌子上。人们来我这时，我总是提供一些吃的。我遵守所有的礼仪方面小细节。
自大的：7分，我开玩笑时自大，这不是真的。我做运动时总是和对手开玩笑，说废话，玩得很开。当你精疲力尽时，正是这种精神刺激让你继续前进。一点点愤怒能让你多跑半个小时。
冷淡：9分，该死，我的确很坏。我收到一条短信，然后在脑海中回应，“哦，是的，我稍后会给你打电话。”然后我把电话关了，忘记了去回应。
太严肃了：8分，我一个人的时候才会严肃，所以当你不请自来地闯入我的空间，发现我不是一直在开玩笑的状态，实际上这是你的错。
Slippery: (6) First of all, I’ve never stolen anything, ever. I just know how to get what I want. Tipping, i.e. bribing, still gets you far in this world. Using your friends still gets you far. If my friend works the front desk at the gym, he’s gonna let my friends workout for free, right? And then I’m gonna hook him up later with whatever I can offer. (No, not with sex! See Number 2!) Maybe my friend has car trouble and needs a mechanic. Well, hey, I have a friend who’s a mechanic and will help you out! This is what poor people do. We help each other out. Okay fine, I would have been an amazing unx boss.
Perfectionist: (5) I’m a little tough about my body. I’m exacting. I find the weak spots and go to work on them. In other stuff? Nah, not really. I’m chill about almost everything.
Lazy/Workaholic: (2) I’m efficient. If I have days off, it’s because I worked double the day before. I’m basically freelance. That’s just my style. 9 to 5 doesn’t suit me.
滑头：6分，首先，我从来没有偷过任何东西。我只知道如何得到我想要的。给小费，也就是贿赂，能让你在这个世界上走得更远。利用你的朋友可以让你走得更远。如果我的朋友在健身房前台工作，他会让我的朋友免费锻炼，对吗？然后我会用我能提供的一切来勾引他(不，不是性！见第2条！）也许我朋友的车出了问题，需要一个机械师。嘿，我有一个朋友是机械师，他会帮你的！穷人就是这样做的。我们互相帮助。好吧，我会是一个了不起的工会老板。
完美主义者：5分，我只对自己的身材有点苛刻，我很严格。我找到了弱点并着手解决。在其他方面？就不是真的。我几乎对每件事都很冷淡。
懒惰/工作狂：2分，我效率很高。如果我休息几天，那是因为我工作效率是前一天的两倍。我基本上算是自由职业者。朝九晚五方式不适合我。
Ivy Casey, lives in Eugene, OR
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about my past mistakes and how I can improve myself, so this is a good one for me!
I’m a liar. I constantly lie. I lie about stuff that’s happened to me, my world views, even dumb personal preferences, just to match up with whoever I’m talking with. This does several things for me. It allows me to steer the conversation towards the other person, so I don’t have to actually reveal anything personal about myself. As long as I contribute just enough, they’ll usually just keep on blabbing, which results in them feeling closer to me and eventually considering me as a friend. In reality I often don’t agree at all with what they’re saying, and view them with mild indifference at best and utter hatred and contempt at worst.
I’m a thief. I steal food almost everyday. Other things as I need them. I enjoy the thrill but mostly the savings. I don’t have much of choice right now, but I’m getting a raise so soon things will be easier and I won’t have an excuse anymore…
I hate people. I don’t like working with others, I don’t like relationships, I don’t like talking. I secretly find most people extremely irritating and wish everyone would just leave me alone. But I’m a part of society, and if I want to get the things I want, I need to honor the social contract and not be a total dick to everyone.
I’m a bigot. I have trouble seeing things from other’s perspective, and can be quite snarky and dismissive. I insult others without even realizing it because of my blatant intolerence. It’s a serious flaw and I’m working on it.
最近我一直在思考我过去的错误以及如何提高自己，所以这对我来说是一个好机会！
我是个骗子：我经常撒谎，我对发生在我身上的事情撒谎：我的世界观，甚至愚蠢的个人偏好，这只是为了和我说话的人匹配。我通过一系列操作能够将谈话转向另一个人，因此我不必透露任何关于我自己的个人信息。只要我的“贡献”足够多，他们通常会继续喋喋不休，这会让他们觉得离我更近，最终把我当作朋友。事实上，我常常一点也不同意他们说的话，对他们充其量只是温和的漠不关心，最糟糕的是完全的仇恨和蔑视。
我是小偷：我几乎每天都偷食物和其他我需要的东西。我喜欢这种刺激，但主要是节省下来的钱。我现在没有太多的选择，但我很快就要加薪了，事情会变得容易些，我就再也没有去偷的借口了。
我讨厌人：我不喜欢和别人一起工作，我不喜欢人际关系，我不喜欢说话。我暗地里觉得大多数人都是非常令我恼火的，我希望大家不要打扰我。但我是社会的一部分，如果我想得到我想要的东西，我需要遵守社会契约，而不是对每个人都一无是处。
我是个偏执狂：我很难从别人的角度来看待事情，而且会非常尖刻和轻蔑。因为我公然无礼，甚至没有意识到我侮辱别人。这是一个严重的缺陷，我正在努力解决。
I’m privileged. Even though I grew up getting constantly raped, beaten, and verbally abused, my mother was a neuroscientist so I lived in a nice house and never went hungry as a child. I went to university in NYC for a year and a half before dropping out and going off on my own. If I wasn’t born white, if my family was less financially stable growing up, if I wasn’t born in America, I probably would’ve either gone into the military or become a homeless drug addict by now if something far worse didn’t happen. I seriously considered the military before getting accepted in NYC, and if I had instead lived in the city without going to school I would’ve definitely gotten into drugs.
I hold grudges. One wrong word, one mistake, and it will forever be immortalized in my memory as a reason not to ever trust or like you. Which brings me to my next point.
I have no trust. There are only two people on this Earth I marginally trust. It takes many years to earn my trust, and if you’re a man, or a doctor of any kind, the liklihood that I’ll someday trust you is slim to none.
I take my anger out on others. I’m really good at silently seething and just fucking up the general atmosphere. If you talk to me when I’m upset, I’ll probably snap at you if not yell especially if you’re my friend.
I’m a pessimist. I have a really dark sense of humor, and I tend to expect the worst out of every situation. Whenever things work out I always seem to minimize the good and continue to obsesses over the bad. On the rare occasion something really good happens and there is no bad side, I kind of freak out and can’t believe it.
I’m emotionally detached. Finally, I just don’t feel much else other than anger, fear and sadness. 20 years of PTSD will do that to you. In friendships and relationships, I go through the motions but the feelings aren’t really there. Yes, I can still like someone, but that surface acceptance is about as far as it goes. Everything else is BS meant to keep you comfortable.
我很“幸运”：尽管我在成长过程中经常遭到强奸、殴打和辱骂，但我母亲是一名神经科学家，所以我住在一所漂亮的房子里，小时候从不挨饿。我在纽约上了一年半的大学，然后辍学，独自离开。如果我不是白种人，如果我的家庭在成长过程中经济不稳定，如果我不是出生在美国，如果没有更糟糕的事情发生的话，我现在可能已经入伍或者成为一个无家可归的吸毒者。在被NYC(NEW YORK CITY KIDS CLUB:纽约国际儿童俱乐部)录取之前，我认真考虑过军队，如果我不上学而住在城里，我肯定会染上毒品。
我怀恨在心：用错一个词，一个错误，在我的记忆中这就将永远作为一个不信任或不喜欢你的理由。这就引出了我的下一点。
我不信任他人：这个世界上只有两个人我是有点信任的。要赢得我的信任需要很多年的时间，如果你是一个男人，或者任何一类医生，我相信你的可能性微乎其微。
我把愤怒发泄在别人身上：我真的很擅长无声地发怒，搅乱整个气氛。如果你在我难过的时候跟我说话，我可能会冲你大吼大叫，尤其如果你是我的朋友的话。
我是个悲观主义者。我的幽默感真的很差，而且我倾向于从每一种情况中得到最坏的结果。每当事情有了转机，我似乎总是最小化好的一面，继续纠结坏的一面。在极少数情况下，真的有好事发生，没有坏的一面，我有点害怕，不敢相信。
我在情感上是格格不入的。除了愤怒、恐惧和悲伤，我没有其他感觉。20年的创伤后应激障碍会对你造成这样的影响。在友谊和人际关系中，我只是做做样子，但并没有真正的感觉，是的，我仍然可以喜欢一个人，但表面上的接受程度是有限的。其他一切都是为了让你舒适。
Pankaj Prasad
Knowing your bad qualities are the first step towards your good quality.
The worst quality I have is ' I find it very difficult to say “NO” to anybody'. Impact:- I end up doing things I didnot want to do and be guided by the people.
I am judgemental that means I judge people according to their homestate, body language and two three first interaction and every action they do I just reverify and thus recalibrate my judgement. Impact:- This forced me to have a fewer friends and not to be 100% involved in any of the relationship.
I don't trust any relatives. May be because of my past experiences and don't want to talk to them very often unless it is very urgent. Impact:- Stay lonely on festivals and mostly don't enjoy any of the family functions.
I just spent more money than I afford and then regret later. Impact:- My credit card limits have reached almost 80% and even after earning for more than 4 years I don't have any savings for emergency!
I am from Bihar and people think this is the bad quality for any other states. Impact:- People also don't trust me in early stages of meeting.
知道自己的缺点是获得好的品质的第一步。
我最糟糕的品质是‘我发现很难对任何人说不。影响:我最终受到人们的引导并做了我不想做的事情。
我是判断型的，这意味着我根据一个人的家，身体语言，第一次交流和他们做的每一个动作来判断他们，我只是重新验证并重新校准我的判断。影响:这迫使我少交一些朋友，也不能完全投入到任何一段感情中去。
我不相信任何亲戚，可能是因为我过去的经历，除非事情非常紧急，否则我不想经常和他们说话。影响:在节日（聚会）时也保持孤独，大多数时候不喜欢任何家庭活动。
我只是花了我负担不起的钱，然后后悔了。影响:我的信用卡额度已经用掉近80%，即使在赚了4年多的钱之后，我也没有任何存款来应急!
我来自比哈尔邦，对其他邦人们来说，出生就是最糟糕的品质。影响:在（与他人）最开始相遇时，人们往往不信任我。
I am lazy and I don't want to take care of my health. After losing some few kgs I have lost my consistency and now reluctant to do workout! Impact:- I have gained a few more Kgs of weight.
I am not straight forward and tend to keep accumulating my frustration and disappointment which just erupt like volcanoes after a few trigger points! Impact:- My love life has been hell because of it.
When I am angry, I don't care about anybody's emotions and say whatever I want and I just regret later. Once I scolded my project manager, in presence of complete team. Impact:- People are afraid to give their feedback to me.
I am both easily be both motivated and demotivated by people. People can easily manipulate me. Impact:- I just end up doing things which I shouldn't have done at the first place and my motivation is very short-lived.
I don't want to take risk and explore things and tent to be in my comfort zone. Impact:- I ended up doing a government job which I don't like much!
I smile a lot and don't share my tension with others. Impact:- People takes me for granted and don't care about the turmoil which my heart is facing!
我很懒，我不在乎是否健康。在减掉几公斤后，我已经失去了我的动力，现在都不愿意锻炼了!影响:我的体重增加了几公斤。
我不是一个直接了当的人，倾向于不断积累我的沮丧和失望情绪，当触发情绪后就像火山一样爆发!影响:我的爱情生活因此成了地狱。
当我生气的时候，我不在乎任何人的情绪，想说什么就说什么，只是事后后悔。有一次，我当着整个团队的面训斥了我的项目经理。影响:人们不敢给我提反馈意见。
我很容易被人激励，也很容易失去动力。人们可以很容易地操纵我。影响:我最终做了一些我一开始就不应该做的事情，动力的持续时间非常短暂。
我不想冒险，不想脱离舒适区去探险。影响:我最后做了一份我不太喜欢的政府工作!
我经常微笑，不与别人分享紧张情绪。影响:人们理自然而然认为我一切都好，不关心我内心所面临的混乱状态!
Neil Menon
I talk too much! Sometimes I don’t even listen to what the other person’s saying. Say what? Sorry, I can’t hear you over the sound of my own voice!
I can be stubborn as a mule. If I don’t get something I want, my mental equilibrium shifts and I would need some alone time to get back to normal. Bugger off, man! If he doesn’t want to meet me, then neither do I. Now get lost and let me sulk.
Sometimes I feel my way is the only way. Yeah, I suppose this goes with being stubborn, but I wouldn’t give two shits of what you think, because, clearly, you have no idea what you’re doing. Come on bro, just hear me out, okay! We’ll catch a movie then hit the club…. What? What do you mean no movie?…Oh, fuck off!
If I like something, you better like it too. Yeah you better, or else face my destructive wrath. What?! What do you mean Breaking Bad sucks? Take that back, asshole!
我话太多!有时候我根本没听别人在说什么。你说什么?对不起，我的声音太大了，听不见你说什么!
我可以像骡子一样倔强。如果我没有得到我想要的东西，我的心理平衡状态就会改变，我需要一些独处的时间来恢复正常，拍拍屁股走人,找男人!如果他不想见我，我也不想见他。现在滚开，让我生闷气。
有时候我觉得我的方式是唯一的方式。是啊，我想这和固执有关，但我才不管你怎么想，因为，很明显，你根本不知道自己在做什么。拜托，兄弟，听我说完，好吗!我们去看场电影，然后去俱乐部，什么?不看电影是什么意思?哦,滚蛋!
我喜欢的东西，你最好也喜欢。是啊，你最好这样，否则我要怒火中烧了。什么? !你说《绝命毒师》烂是什么意思?收回你的话，混蛋!
I have a serious memory loss problem. Chances are in a few days, I wouldn’t even remember answering this question. Bro, seriously, if you took my umbrella, please give it back to me.
I’m perhaps a little too accommodating. I have people, who I call friends, who feed off me quite literally, mate!…. Fuck!
I get distracted very fast and very easily. So I was in the zone, completely immersed and lost in writing something based on my research when my phone beeps!
When I get into a tough spot, I crack a joke only I find funny. Not really sure if this qualifies as a “bad quality”, but my friends say I need to ‘grow up’ sometimes and get serious about things. Come on, man, how many times should I tell you I don’t know! I think I’m like mentally constipated or something because I..don’t…give…a…shit
I voice my opinions way too loud.
I think I have the solutions for everyone’s problems. Well, maybe I do, maybe I don’t, but I suppose that is a bad quality to possess!
Well, nobody’s perfect.
我有严重的失忆问题。很有可能几天后，我甚至不记得回答过这个问题。兄弟，说真的，如果你拿了我的伞，请还给我。
我可能有点太随后了。我有一些称之为朋友的人，他们吃准了我这一点。朋友，真他妈的!
我很快也很容易分心。因此，当我的手机发出嘟嘟声时，我完全沉浸在写作中，完全沉浸在我的研究中!
当我遇到困难的时候，我会讲一个只有我觉得好笑的笑话。我不确定这是否算是“坏品质”，但我的朋友们说我有时候需要“长大”，需要认真对待事情。拜托，伙计，我该跟你说多少次我不知道!我觉得我好像精神便秘了，因为我根本不在乎!
我把我的意见说得很大声。
我想我能解决每个人的问题。好吧，也许我知道，也许我不知道，但我想这是一种不好的品质!
好吧,没有人是完美的。
Kylie McDonald, I won't talk unless I know what I'm talking about.
I'll list them in order from least annoying to reputation-ruining.
1) I can't focus unless it's fun. If something is boring, something in my brain prevents me from going forward. This is a huge problem in school. I once got to the 7th book in a series, and could not finish it because one chapter was so boring.
2) I don't think I can. Whether it's moving furniture, thinking of a comeback, or making friends, I don't think I can. I don't believe in myself. I usually end up not even trying because of this.
3) My memory is the worst. Tell me something, I'll most likely forget it. I sometimes accidentally interrupt long conversations to tell people what I have to say before I forget. This forgetfulness also leads me to be irresponsible. I tend to forget dates and times, and I ruin things for others by doing so.
4) People think I'm creepy. I'm a pretty quiet person. I'm short, people usually don't notice me, or literally see right over my head. I kinda hide from other people. I usually stand in or around a corner. Put all these together, and what do you get? A creep, apparently.
5) I care too much. Sure, caring is a good thing. But when you care wayyy too much about every little thing, it's a problem.
我会把它们按从最不讨厌到破坏名誉的顺序列出。
除非很有趣，否则我无法集中注意力。如果有些事情很无聊，我大脑中的某些东西会阻止我前进。这在学校学习时就是个大问题。例如有一次，我读到了一个系列的第七本书，却没能读完，就是因为其中有一章太无聊了。
我会想我做不到，无论是搬家，想复出，还是交朋友，我想我都做不到。我不相信自己，通常因为这个，我连试都不去试。
我的记忆力最差。告诉我一件事，我很可能会忘记的。我有时会不小心打断长时间的谈话，以便在我忘记之前告诉人们我要说什么。这种健忘也让我变得不负责任。我倾向于忘记日期和时间—毁了别人的事情。
人们认为我（对别人而已）是很可怕的。我是一个相当安静的人，个头很矮，人们通常不会注意到我，或者直接越过我头顶上看其他。我一般也躲着别人，我通常站在角落里或附近。所有这些综合到一起，你对我是什么感觉？显然认为我是个讨厌鬼吧。
我太在乎了。当然，关心是件好事。但是当你太在意每一件小事的时候，这就是一个问题。
I'll list them in order from least annoying to reputation-ruining.
1) I can't focus unless it's fun. If something is boring, something in my brain prevents me from going forward. This is a huge problem in school. I once got to the 7th book in a series, and could not finish it because one chapter was so boring.
2) I don't think I can. Whether it's moving furniture, thinking of a comeback, or making friends, I don't think I can. I don't believe in myself. I usually end up not even trying because of this.
3) My memory is the worst. Tell me something, I'll most likely forget it. I sometimes accidentally interrupt long conversations to tell people what I have to say before I forget. This forgetfulness also leads me to be irresponsible. I tend to forget dates and times, and I ruin things for others by doing so.
4) People think I'm creepy. I'm a pretty quiet person. I'm short, people usually don't notice me, or literally see right over my head. I kinda hide from other people. I usually stand in or around a corner. Put all these together, and what do you get? A creep, apparently.
5) I care too much. Sure, caring is a good thing. But when you care wayyy too much about every little thing, it's a problem.
我会把它们按从最不讨厌到破坏名誉的顺序列出。
除非很有趣，否则我无法集中注意力。如果有些事情很无聊，我大脑中的某些东西会阻止我前进。这在学校学习时就是个大问题。例如有一次，我读到了一个系列的第七本书，却没能读完，就是因为其中有一章太无聊了。
我会想我做不到，无论是搬家，想复出，还是交朋友，我想我都做不到。我不相信自己，通常因为这个，我连试都不去试。
我的记忆力最差。告诉我一件事，我很可能会忘记的。我有时会不小心打断长时间的谈话，以便在我忘记之前告诉人们我要说什么。这种健忘也让我变得不负责任。我倾向于忘记日期和时间—毁了别人的事情。
人们认为我（对别人而已）是很可怕的。我是一个相当安静的人，个头很矮，人们通常不会注意到我，或者直接越过我头顶上看其他。我一般也躲着别人，我通常站在角落里或附近。所有这些综合到一起，你对我是什么感觉？显然认为我是个讨厌鬼吧。
我太在乎了。当然，关心是件好事。但是当你太在意每一件小事的时候，这就是一个问题。
6) I am a hyper-emotional baby. I fail? I cry. Someone else gets hurt? I cry. Band camp is canceled? I cry. I can't control it, and sometimes I start crying for no reason. In public. UGH.
7) I feed on other's sadness. (Kind of.) All my friends are depressed, or have an ongoing problem. If I'm not helping someone, especially emotionally, I feel worthless. So I have developed a tendency to hang around sad people and try to help them to make me feel better about myself.
8) I am scared of too many things. I'm scared of pain. Like, really scared. I'll never get piercings or tattoos.
9) I have almost no self-confidence. This makes me scared to try things first, or talk to strangers, or make friends, or accomplish things, or feel good about myself
In short, I'm terrified of everything, creepy, and can't do things right.
PS- Please don't try to tell me that this is all just a part of growing up. I've been like this all my life.
我是一个情绪激动的婴儿：我失败了？我哭了。有人受伤了吗？我哭了。乐队夏令营取消了？我哭了。我无法控制，有时我会无缘无故地哭起来。这都是当众哭哦。
我太在意别人的悲伤情绪：我朋友沮丧，或者有问题一直不能解决。如果我没有帮助别人，特别是在情感上，我会觉得自己一文不值。所以我有一种倾向，就是和悲伤的人呆在一起，试着帮助他们，从而让我对自己感觉更好。
我害怕的事情太多了：我害怕疼痛，真的很害怕。我永远也不会在身上穿孔或纹身。
我几乎没有自信。这让我不敢尝试（新事物），不敢与陌生人交谈，不敢交朋友，不敢成就事业，不敢自我感觉良好。
简言之，我害怕一切，担心不能把事情做好。
请不要试图告诉我这只是成长的一部分。因为我一辈子都是这样。
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Adela, lives in Hollywood, CA
Let me think.
Wait, let's get the good stuff out first. I’m easy-going, understanding and I’m a kidder.
What do my friends say about me? What do my enemies say about me?
My friends say I'm hilarious. I’ve been called a “Jew” by my friends.
I’ve had kind of a serious life, so I’ve developed a sense of humor to cope.
My friends say I’m often too formal, particularly in dress. I’ve been called a perfectionist.
My enemies say I’m not as funny as I think I am. My enemies say I’m slippery. My enemies say I’m cocky. My enemies think I should be a Marxist or a Marxist activist.
So from all of this, let me glean list, and I’ll try to honestly rate how true they are, on a scale of 1 to 10.
让我想想。等等，我们先说下好的一面：我很随和，善解人意，是个爱开玩笑的人。
我的朋友怎么评价我？我的敌人怎么评价我？
我的朋友说我很搞笑。我的朋友称我为“犹太人”。
我过着严肃的生活，所以我培养了一种幽默感来应对。
我的朋友经常说我太正式，尤其是在穿着上。我被称为完美主义者。
我的敌人说我没有我想象的那么有趣。我的敌人说我很滑。我的敌人说我骄傲自大。我的敌人认为我应该是一名马克思主义者或马克思主义活动家。
因此，我从这些里面列个清单，我将尝试诚实地评价它们的真实性，从1到10分。
Cheap: (4) See my shoe collection in my Shares. I spend. I’m an outrageous tipper too. I’m thrifty about things if I think they’re unfair, like paying big bucks for parking when getting a ticket is cheaper. Many times I say, “Yeah, I’m not paying that.” I remember for my high school graduation, my school hit me with a $250 bill for my cap & gown and for seats at the arena for my commencement. Yup, not paying that. (So I skipped it.) My budgets are tightly managed. I’m very aware of my spending, but I do spend on the things I like. Isn’t that normal?
Old-Fashioned: (10) Yeah, I can’t escape that one. I don’t skinny dip. I don’t take my top off in public. I bring drinks on a tray to guests who visit my home. I put flowers on the table for dinner. I let people in and out of my doors. I always offer something to eat. I follow all the little etiquette rules.
Cocky: (7) I’m playfully cocky. It’s not real. I played sports and I was always kidding my opponents, trash-talking, having fun. When you’re running on fumes, it’s that mental stimulation that keeps you going. A little anger gives you an extra half hour of running time.
Aloof: (9) Damn it. Yeah, I’m bad. I read a text, I respond in my mind, “Oh yeah, I’ll call you later.” Then I turn the phone down and forget to actually respond.
Too Serious: (8) I only go serious when I’m alone, so it’s actually your fault when you invade my space uninvited and find out I’m not kidding around all the time.
舍不得：4分，在我的共享（文件夹）中可以看到我收藏的鞋子—花钱吧。我也是个给小费的人。如果我认为有些事情不公平，我就会选节俭方式，比如在罚款要便宜的情况下花更多钱去停车。很多时候，我宁愿罚款，我记得高中毕业时，学校给我开了一张250美元的账单，要我买帽子和礼服，还有我毕业典礼竞技场的座位。我不付那个钱，(我的预算管理得很严格。我很清楚我在哪里需要的花费，但我确实把钱花在我喜欢的东西上。这不正常吗？
老派：10分，是的，我无法反驳这一条。我不裸泳，我也不在公共场合脱上衣。我用托盘给来访的客人端上饮料。我准备晚餐时把花放在桌子上。人们来我这时，我总是提供一些吃的。我遵守所有的礼仪方面小细节。
自大的：7分，我开玩笑时自大，这不是真的。我做运动时总是和对手开玩笑，说废话，玩得很开。当你精疲力尽时，正是这种精神刺激让你继续前进。一点点愤怒能让你多跑半个小时。
冷淡：9分，该死，我的确很坏。我收到一条短信，然后在脑海中回应，“哦，是的，我稍后会给你打电话。”然后我把电话关了，忘记了去回应。
太严肃了：8分，我一个人的时候才会严肃，所以当你不请自来地闯入我的空间，发现我不是一直在开玩笑的状态，实际上这是你的错。
Slippery: (6) First of all, I’ve never stolen anything, ever. I just know how to get what I want. Tipping, i.e. bribing, still gets you far in this world. Using your friends still gets you far. If my friend works the front desk at the gym, he’s gonna let my friends workout for free, right? And then I’m gonna hook him up later with whatever I can offer. (No, not with sex! See Number 2!) Maybe my friend has car trouble and needs a mechanic. Well, hey, I have a friend who’s a mechanic and will help you out! This is what poor people do. We help each other out. Okay fine, I would have been an amazing unx boss.
Perfectionist: (5) I’m a little tough about my body. I’m exacting. I find the weak spots and go to work on them. In other stuff? Nah, not really. I’m chill about almost everything.
Lazy/Workaholic: (2) I’m efficient. If I have days off, it’s because I worked double the day before. I’m basically freelance. That’s just my style. 9 to 5 doesn’t suit me.
滑头：6分，首先，我从来没有偷过任何东西。我只知道如何得到我想要的。给小费，也就是贿赂，能让你在这个世界上走得更远。利用你的朋友可以让你走得更远。如果我的朋友在健身房前台工作，他会让我的朋友免费锻炼，对吗？然后我会用我能提供的一切来勾引他(不，不是性！见第2条！）也许我朋友的车出了问题，需要一个机械师。嘿，我有一个朋友是机械师，他会帮你的！穷人就是这样做的。我们互相帮助。好吧，我会是一个了不起的工会老板。
完美主义者：5分，我只对自己的身材有点苛刻，我很严格。我找到了弱点并着手解决。在其他方面？就不是真的。我几乎对每件事都很冷淡。
懒惰/工作狂：2分，我效率很高。如果我休息几天，那是因为我工作效率是前一天的两倍。我基本上算是自由职业者。朝九晚五方式不适合我。
Ivy Casey, lives in Eugene, OR
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about my past mistakes and how I can improve myself, so this is a good one for me!
I’m a liar. I constantly lie. I lie about stuff that’s happened to me, my world views, even dumb personal preferences, just to match up with whoever I’m talking with. This does several things for me. It allows me to steer the conversation towards the other person, so I don’t have to actually reveal anything personal about myself. As long as I contribute just enough, they’ll usually just keep on blabbing, which results in them feeling closer to me and eventually considering me as a friend. In reality I often don’t agree at all with what they’re saying, and view them with mild indifference at best and utter hatred and contempt at worst.
I’m a thief. I steal food almost everyday. Other things as I need them. I enjoy the thrill but mostly the savings. I don’t have much of choice right now, but I’m getting a raise so soon things will be easier and I won’t have an excuse anymore…
I hate people. I don’t like working with others, I don’t like relationships, I don’t like talking. I secretly find most people extremely irritating and wish everyone would just leave me alone. But I’m a part of society, and if I want to get the things I want, I need to honor the social contract and not be a total dick to everyone.
I’m a bigot. I have trouble seeing things from other’s perspective, and can be quite snarky and dismissive. I insult others without even realizing it because of my blatant intolerence. It’s a serious flaw and I’m working on it.
最近我一直在思考我过去的错误以及如何提高自己，所以这对我来说是一个好机会！
我是个骗子：我经常撒谎，我对发生在我身上的事情撒谎：我的世界观，甚至愚蠢的个人偏好，这只是为了和我说话的人匹配。我通过一系列操作能够将谈话转向另一个人，因此我不必透露任何关于我自己的个人信息。只要我的“贡献”足够多，他们通常会继续喋喋不休，这会让他们觉得离我更近，最终把我当作朋友。事实上，我常常一点也不同意他们说的话，对他们充其量只是温和的漠不关心，最糟糕的是完全的仇恨和蔑视。
我是小偷：我几乎每天都偷食物和其他我需要的东西。我喜欢这种刺激，但主要是节省下来的钱。我现在没有太多的选择，但我很快就要加薪了，事情会变得容易些，我就再也没有去偷的借口了。
我讨厌人：我不喜欢和别人一起工作，我不喜欢人际关系，我不喜欢说话。我暗地里觉得大多数人都是非常令我恼火的，我希望大家不要打扰我。但我是社会的一部分，如果我想得到我想要的东西，我需要遵守社会契约，而不是对每个人都一无是处。
我是个偏执狂：我很难从别人的角度来看待事情，而且会非常尖刻和轻蔑。因为我公然无礼，甚至没有意识到我侮辱别人。这是一个严重的缺陷，我正在努力解决。
I’m privileged. Even though I grew up getting constantly raped, beaten, and verbally abused, my mother was a neuroscientist so I lived in a nice house and never went hungry as a child. I went to university in NYC for a year and a half before dropping out and going off on my own. If I wasn’t born white, if my family was less financially stable growing up, if I wasn’t born in America, I probably would’ve either gone into the military or become a homeless drug addict by now if something far worse didn’t happen. I seriously considered the military before getting accepted in NYC, and if I had instead lived in the city without going to school I would’ve definitely gotten into drugs.
I hold grudges. One wrong word, one mistake, and it will forever be immortalized in my memory as a reason not to ever trust or like you. Which brings me to my next point.
I have no trust. There are only two people on this Earth I marginally trust. It takes many years to earn my trust, and if you’re a man, or a doctor of any kind, the liklihood that I’ll someday trust you is slim to none.
I take my anger out on others. I’m really good at silently seething and just fucking up the general atmosphere. If you talk to me when I’m upset, I’ll probably snap at you if not yell especially if you’re my friend.
I’m a pessimist. I have a really dark sense of humor, and I tend to expect the worst out of every situation. Whenever things work out I always seem to minimize the good and continue to obsesses over the bad. On the rare occasion something really good happens and there is no bad side, I kind of freak out and can’t believe it.
I’m emotionally detached. Finally, I just don’t feel much else other than anger, fear and sadness. 20 years of PTSD will do that to you. In friendships and relationships, I go through the motions but the feelings aren’t really there. Yes, I can still like someone, but that surface acceptance is about as far as it goes. Everything else is BS meant to keep you comfortable.
我很“幸运”：尽管我在成长过程中经常遭到强奸、殴打和辱骂，但我母亲是一名神经科学家，所以我住在一所漂亮的房子里，小时候从不挨饿。我在纽约上了一年半的大学，然后辍学，独自离开。如果我不是白种人，如果我的家庭在成长过程中经济不稳定，如果我不是出生在美国，如果没有更糟糕的事情发生的话，我现在可能已经入伍或者成为一个无家可归的吸毒者。在被NYC(NEW YORK CITY KIDS CLUB:纽约国际儿童俱乐部)录取之前，我认真考虑过军队，如果我不上学而住在城里，我肯定会染上毒品。
我怀恨在心：用错一个词，一个错误，在我的记忆中这就将永远作为一个不信任或不喜欢你的理由。这就引出了我的下一点。
我不信任他人：这个世界上只有两个人我是有点信任的。要赢得我的信任需要很多年的时间，如果你是一个男人，或者任何一类医生，我相信你的可能性微乎其微。
我把愤怒发泄在别人身上：我真的很擅长无声地发怒，搅乱整个气氛。如果你在我难过的时候跟我说话，我可能会冲你大吼大叫，尤其如果你是我的朋友的话。
我是个悲观主义者。我的幽默感真的很差，而且我倾向于从每一种情况中得到最坏的结果。每当事情有了转机，我似乎总是最小化好的一面，继续纠结坏的一面。在极少数情况下，真的有好事发生，没有坏的一面，我有点害怕，不敢相信。
我在情感上是格格不入的。除了愤怒、恐惧和悲伤，我没有其他感觉。20年的创伤后应激障碍会对你造成这样的影响。在友谊和人际关系中，我只是做做样子，但并没有真正的感觉，是的，我仍然可以喜欢一个人，但表面上的接受程度是有限的。其他一切都是为了让你舒适。
Pankaj Prasad
Knowing your bad qualities are the first step towards your good quality.
The worst quality I have is ' I find it very difficult to say “NO” to anybody'. Impact:- I end up doing things I didnot want to do and be guided by the people.
I am judgemental that means I judge people according to their homestate, body language and two three first interaction and every action they do I just reverify and thus recalibrate my judgement. Impact:- This forced me to have a fewer friends and not to be 100% involved in any of the relationship.
I don't trust any relatives. May be because of my past experiences and don't want to talk to them very often unless it is very urgent. Impact:- Stay lonely on festivals and mostly don't enjoy any of the family functions.
I just spent more money than I afford and then regret later. Impact:- My credit card limits have reached almost 80% and even after earning for more than 4 years I don't have any savings for emergency!
I am from Bihar and people think this is the bad quality for any other states. Impact:- People also don't trust me in early stages of meeting.
知道自己的缺点是获得好的品质的第一步。
我最糟糕的品质是‘我发现很难对任何人说不。影响:我最终受到人们的引导并做了我不想做的事情。
我是判断型的，这意味着我根据一个人的家，身体语言，第一次交流和他们做的每一个动作来判断他们，我只是重新验证并重新校准我的判断。影响:这迫使我少交一些朋友，也不能完全投入到任何一段感情中去。
我不相信任何亲戚，可能是因为我过去的经历，除非事情非常紧急，否则我不想经常和他们说话。影响:在节日（聚会）时也保持孤独，大多数时候不喜欢任何家庭活动。
我只是花了我负担不起的钱，然后后悔了。影响:我的信用卡额度已经用掉近80%，即使在赚了4年多的钱之后，我也没有任何存款来应急!
我来自比哈尔邦，对其他邦人们来说，出生就是最糟糕的品质。影响:在（与他人）最开始相遇时，人们往往不信任我。
I am lazy and I don't want to take care of my health. After losing some few kgs I have lost my consistency and now reluctant to do workout! Impact:- I have gained a few more Kgs of weight.
I am not straight forward and tend to keep accumulating my frustration and disappointment which just erupt like volcanoes after a few trigger points! Impact:- My love life has been hell because of it.
When I am angry, I don't care about anybody's emotions and say whatever I want and I just regret later. Once I scolded my project manager, in presence of complete team. Impact:- People are afraid to give their feedback to me.
I am both easily be both motivated and demotivated by people. People can easily manipulate me. Impact:- I just end up doing things which I shouldn't have done at the first place and my motivation is very short-lived.
I don't want to take risk and explore things and tent to be in my comfort zone. Impact:- I ended up doing a government job which I don't like much!
I smile a lot and don't share my tension with others. Impact:- People takes me for granted and don't care about the turmoil which my heart is facing!
我很懒，我不在乎是否健康。在减掉几公斤后，我已经失去了我的动力，现在都不愿意锻炼了!影响:我的体重增加了几公斤。
我不是一个直接了当的人，倾向于不断积累我的沮丧和失望情绪，当触发情绪后就像火山一样爆发!影响:我的爱情生活因此成了地狱。
当我生气的时候，我不在乎任何人的情绪，想说什么就说什么，只是事后后悔。有一次，我当着整个团队的面训斥了我的项目经理。影响:人们不敢给我提反馈意见。
我很容易被人激励，也很容易失去动力。人们可以很容易地操纵我。影响:我最终做了一些我一开始就不应该做的事情，动力的持续时间非常短暂。
我不想冒险，不想脱离舒适区去探险。影响:我最后做了一份我不太喜欢的政府工作!
我经常微笑，不与别人分享紧张情绪。影响:人们理自然而然认为我一切都好，不关心我内心所面临的混乱状态!
Neil Menon
I talk too much! Sometimes I don’t even listen to what the other person’s saying. Say what? Sorry, I can’t hear you over the sound of my own voice!
I can be stubborn as a mule. If I don’t get something I want, my mental equilibrium shifts and I would need some alone time to get back to normal. Bugger off, man! If he doesn’t want to meet me, then neither do I. Now get lost and let me sulk.
Sometimes I feel my way is the only way. Yeah, I suppose this goes with being stubborn, but I wouldn’t give two shits of what you think, because, clearly, you have no idea what you’re doing. Come on bro, just hear me out, okay! We’ll catch a movie then hit the club…. What? What do you mean no movie?…Oh, fuck off!
If I like something, you better like it too. Yeah you better, or else face my destructive wrath. What?! What do you mean Breaking Bad sucks? Take that back, asshole!
我话太多!有时候我根本没听别人在说什么。你说什么?对不起，我的声音太大了，听不见你说什么!
我可以像骡子一样倔强。如果我没有得到我想要的东西，我的心理平衡状态就会改变，我需要一些独处的时间来恢复正常，拍拍屁股走人,找男人!如果他不想见我，我也不想见他。现在滚开，让我生闷气。
有时候我觉得我的方式是唯一的方式。是啊，我想这和固执有关，但我才不管你怎么想，因为，很明显，你根本不知道自己在做什么。拜托，兄弟，听我说完，好吗!我们去看场电影，然后去俱乐部，什么?不看电影是什么意思?哦,滚蛋!
我喜欢的东西，你最好也喜欢。是啊，你最好这样，否则我要怒火中烧了。什么? !你说《绝命毒师》烂是什么意思?收回你的话，混蛋!
I have a serious memory loss problem. Chances are in a few days, I wouldn’t even remember answering this question. Bro, seriously, if you took my umbrella, please give it back to me.
I’m perhaps a little too accommodating. I have people, who I call friends, who feed off me quite literally, mate!…. Fuck!
I get distracted very fast and very easily. So I was in the zone, completely immersed and lost in writing something based on my research when my phone beeps!
When I get into a tough spot, I crack a joke only I find funny. Not really sure if this qualifies as a “bad quality”, but my friends say I need to ‘grow up’ sometimes and get serious about things. Come on, man, how many times should I tell you I don’t know! I think I’m like mentally constipated or something because I..don’t…give…a…shit
I voice my opinions way too loud.
I think I have the solutions for everyone’s problems. Well, maybe I do, maybe I don’t, but I suppose that is a bad quality to possess!
Well, nobody’s perfect.
我有严重的失忆问题。很有可能几天后，我甚至不记得回答过这个问题。兄弟，说真的，如果你拿了我的伞，请还给我。
我可能有点太随后了。我有一些称之为朋友的人，他们吃准了我这一点。朋友，真他妈的!
我很快也很容易分心。因此，当我的手机发出嘟嘟声时，我完全沉浸在写作中，完全沉浸在我的研究中!
当我遇到困难的时候，我会讲一个只有我觉得好笑的笑话。我不确定这是否算是“坏品质”，但我的朋友们说我有时候需要“长大”，需要认真对待事情。拜托，伙计，我该跟你说多少次我不知道!我觉得我好像精神便秘了，因为我根本不在乎!
我把我的意见说得很大声。
我想我能解决每个人的问题。好吧，也许我知道，也许我不知道，但我想这是一种不好的品质!
好吧,没有人是完美的。
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