身处困境如何才能保持冷静？
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Sean Lana
Don't talk to many people about your problems. Many of them are not interested, and they do not have a solution. Telling many people about your difficult situation might erode your confidence and mental well being in the sense that they might start mocking you with your difficult situation.
Accept that your actions are the only thing that can be controlled and with your actions, you will surely fine a way to get out of the difficult situation.Be aware that being in a difficult situation is part of life and part of self development. See the difficult situation as an opportunity to grow and learn.Wake up everyday appreciating the gift of life and read something positive. It could be a Bible or some of those spiritual books.Go solo, meditate a lot and journal, isolate yourself from the crowd and once again, share your problem only with trusted people that might lift you up again.
When things get tough, you have to get tougher and remaining calm is one of underrated traits.life itself is not meant to be easy, but you can make life easier by conquering your fears. Be strong.
不要和太多人谈论你的问题，他们中的许多人对此不感兴趣，也没有解决方案，告诉很多人你的困难处境可能会削弱你的自信，影响你的心理健康，因为他们可能会嘲笑你的困难处境。
接受自己的行动是你唯一可以控制的事情，通过你的行动，你一定会找到摆脱困境的方法。
要知道陷于困境是生活的一部分，也是自我发展的一部分，把困难的处境看作是一个成长和学习的机会。
每天醒来，感激生命的馈赠，读一些积极的东西，可以是一本圣经，也可以是一些灵性书籍。
独处，经常冥想和写日记，把自己从人群中隔离开来，只与值得信赖的人分享你的问题，他们可能会让你重新振作起来。
当事情变得艰难时，你必须变得更加坚强，保持冷静是最被低估的精神之一，生活本身并不容易，但是你可以通过战胜恐惧让生活变得更加轻松。
要坚强。
Don't talk to many people about your problems. Many of them are not interested, and they do not have a solution. Telling many people about your difficult situation might erode your confidence and mental well being in the sense that they might start mocking you with your difficult situation.
Accept that your actions are the only thing that can be controlled and with your actions, you will surely fine a way to get out of the difficult situation.Be aware that being in a difficult situation is part of life and part of self development. See the difficult situation as an opportunity to grow and learn.Wake up everyday appreciating the gift of life and read something positive. It could be a Bible or some of those spiritual books.Go solo, meditate a lot and journal, isolate yourself from the crowd and once again, share your problem only with trusted people that might lift you up again.
When things get tough, you have to get tougher and remaining calm is one of underrated traits.life itself is not meant to be easy, but you can make life easier by conquering your fears. Be strong.
不要和太多人谈论你的问题，他们中的许多人对此不感兴趣，也没有解决方案，告诉很多人你的困难处境可能会削弱你的自信，影响你的心理健康，因为他们可能会嘲笑你的困难处境。
接受自己的行动是你唯一可以控制的事情，通过你的行动，你一定会找到摆脱困境的方法。
要知道陷于困境是生活的一部分，也是自我发展的一部分，把困难的处境看作是一个成长和学习的机会。
每天醒来，感激生命的馈赠，读一些积极的东西，可以是一本圣经，也可以是一些灵性书籍。
独处，经常冥想和写日记，把自己从人群中隔离开来，只与值得信赖的人分享你的问题，他们可能会让你重新振作起来。
当事情变得艰难时，你必须变得更加坚强，保持冷静是最被低估的精神之一，生活本身并不容易，但是你可以通过战胜恐惧让生活变得更加轻松。
要坚强。
Garima Jain
Slow down- Don't react immediately.
Disconnect- Pull away from situation for a while.
Visualise yourself calm - Take a few deep breaths and close your eyes.
Listen to music - Tune in to your favourite music. It will have a calming effect on your mind.
Change your focus - Leave the situation, look in another direction, walk out of the room or go outside.
Question your perspective - How would I think and feel it if I were in his or her shoes?
Write it down - Writing will help you to get negative thoughts out of your head.
Call your friend - If you have a family or a friend who you can vent out your frustrations to, keep that person.
Accept criticism gracefully - This will help you to neutralize tension and help you leave this unstable mess.
Get some sleep - A tired mind is not able to think allow it to relax.
慢下来 --不要立即做出反应。
断开联系 --暂时脱离现状。
想象自己平静下来 --做几次深呼吸，闭上眼睛。
听音乐-调到你最喜欢的音乐，它会对你的心灵起到镇静的作用。
改变你的注意力 --离开某个环境，看向另一个方向，走出房间或到外面去。
质疑你的观点-- 如果我站在他或她的立场上，我会如何思考和感受？
把它写下来--写作将帮助你把负面的想法从你的脑海中排除。
给你的朋友打电话 --如果你有家人或朋友可以倾诉你的挫折，请务必保留这个人。
优雅地接受批评 --这将帮助你中和紧张情绪，帮助你离开不稳定的混乱局面。
睡一觉--疲惫的头脑是无法思考的，让它放松。
Slow down- Don't react immediately.
Disconnect- Pull away from situation for a while.
Visualise yourself calm - Take a few deep breaths and close your eyes.
Listen to music - Tune in to your favourite music. It will have a calming effect on your mind.
Change your focus - Leave the situation, look in another direction, walk out of the room or go outside.
Question your perspective - How would I think and feel it if I were in his or her shoes?
Write it down - Writing will help you to get negative thoughts out of your head.
Call your friend - If you have a family or a friend who you can vent out your frustrations to, keep that person.
Accept criticism gracefully - This will help you to neutralize tension and help you leave this unstable mess.
Get some sleep - A tired mind is not able to think allow it to relax.
慢下来 --不要立即做出反应。
断开联系 --暂时脱离现状。
想象自己平静下来 --做几次深呼吸，闭上眼睛。
听音乐-调到你最喜欢的音乐，它会对你的心灵起到镇静的作用。
改变你的注意力 --离开某个环境，看向另一个方向，走出房间或到外面去。
质疑你的观点-- 如果我站在他或她的立场上，我会如何思考和感受？
把它写下来--写作将帮助你把负面的想法从你的脑海中排除。
给你的朋友打电话 --如果你有家人或朋友可以倾诉你的挫折，请务必保留这个人。
优雅地接受批评 --这将帮助你中和紧张情绪，帮助你离开不稳定的混乱局面。
睡一觉--疲惫的头脑是无法思考的，让它放松。
Ritesh Kumar Mishra
We have a bad habit of wanting almost everything instantly and doing things immediately. We prefer to change our decisions than to have patience. It’s more common for people to give up than to put in some effort.
It usually bothers us to postpone satisfying our desires and to have to wait. In fact, when we believe we’ll have to wait, our mind beings to bombard us with worries and expectations. In particular, it does so to try and speed up the time you need to spend waiting.
Consequently, we live a rapid-paced life with a lot of both internal and external distractions. We wander from one place to another, with no other direction than the one that leads to our immediate satisfaction. Additionally, we must add the hubbub of our inner voice because our worries tend to be present in everything we do. It’s as if we were somehow addicted to it. We love to think, create hypotheses, and get caught up in the labyrinths and vicious circles of our beliefs.
However, perhaps we’re ignoring the most important thing: how to get out of these self-imposed traps. How do we free ourselves from mental traps? Maybe the following Buddhist story will give us the answer.
“The mind is a superb interment if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly — you usually don’t use it at all. It uses you. This is the disease. You believe that you are your mind. This is the delusion. The instrument has taken you over.”
-Eckhart Tolle-
我们有一个坏习惯，几乎什么都想马上得到，什么都想马上做，我们宁愿改变决定也不愿意有耐心，对人们来说，放弃比付出一些努力更常见。
推迟满足我们的欲望，不得不等待，这通常会让我们感到困扰，事实上，当我们认为我们必须等待时，我们的头脑就会用担忧和期望来“轰炸”我们，特别是，这样做是为了试图加快你需要花费的等待时间。
我们的生活节奏很快，内部和外部都有很多干扰，我们从一个地方徘徊到另一个地方，除了能让我们立即得到满足的方向，没有其他方向，此外，我们还必须加上内心的喧嚣，因为我们的忧虑往往存在于我们做的每一件事中，仿佛我们对它上瘾了一样。
我们喜欢思考，假设，并陷入我们信念的迷宫和恶性循环中，然而，也许我们忽略了最重要的事情：如何走出这些自我设下的陷阱。我们如何将自己从精神陷阱中解脱出来？也许下面这个禅思会给我们答案。
"如果使用得当，大脑是一个极好的工具，如果使用不当，它就会变得非常具有破坏性，更准确地说，并不是你错误地使用了你的大脑——你通常根本不使用它，是它在是使用你，这是病，你相信你就是你的大脑，这是一种错觉，你已经被工具控制了。"——艾克哈特-托尔
We have a bad habit of wanting almost everything instantly and doing things immediately. We prefer to change our decisions than to have patience. It’s more common for people to give up than to put in some effort.
It usually bothers us to postpone satisfying our desires and to have to wait. In fact, when we believe we’ll have to wait, our mind beings to bombard us with worries and expectations. In particular, it does so to try and speed up the time you need to spend waiting.
Consequently, we live a rapid-paced life with a lot of both internal and external distractions. We wander from one place to another, with no other direction than the one that leads to our immediate satisfaction. Additionally, we must add the hubbub of our inner voice because our worries tend to be present in everything we do. It’s as if we were somehow addicted to it. We love to think, create hypotheses, and get caught up in the labyrinths and vicious circles of our beliefs.
However, perhaps we’re ignoring the most important thing: how to get out of these self-imposed traps. How do we free ourselves from mental traps? Maybe the following Buddhist story will give us the answer.
“The mind is a superb interment if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly — you usually don’t use it at all. It uses you. This is the disease. You believe that you are your mind. This is the delusion. The instrument has taken you over.”
-Eckhart Tolle-
我们有一个坏习惯，几乎什么都想马上得到，什么都想马上做，我们宁愿改变决定也不愿意有耐心，对人们来说，放弃比付出一些努力更常见。
推迟满足我们的欲望，不得不等待，这通常会让我们感到困扰，事实上，当我们认为我们必须等待时，我们的头脑就会用担忧和期望来“轰炸”我们，特别是，这样做是为了试图加快你需要花费的等待时间。
我们的生活节奏很快，内部和外部都有很多干扰，我们从一个地方徘徊到另一个地方，除了能让我们立即得到满足的方向，没有其他方向，此外，我们还必须加上内心的喧嚣，因为我们的忧虑往往存在于我们做的每一件事中，仿佛我们对它上瘾了一样。
我们喜欢思考，假设，并陷入我们信念的迷宫和恶性循环中，然而，也许我们忽略了最重要的事情：如何走出这些自我设下的陷阱。我们如何将自己从精神陷阱中解脱出来？也许下面这个禅思会给我们答案。
"如果使用得当，大脑是一个极好的工具，如果使用不当，它就会变得非常具有破坏性，更准确地说，并不是你错误地使用了你的大脑——你通常根本不使用它，是它在是使用你，这是病，你相信你就是你的大脑，这是一种错觉，你已经被工具控制了。"——艾克哈特-托尔
Anusha Parmer
Staying calm can be difficult, especially when your brain is soo reactive to anything that happens to you. Our complex brain is a boon and a bane combined! Now difficult situations may differ, and staying calm in each may require you to do different things. Let me try to elaborate on a few ways I deal with difficult situations.
But before that, there is one fundamental rule to dealing with your emotions. While many may suggest meditation and yoga (which are also helpful), a very simple way is deal with this is through Acceptance.
The first step in any difficult situation that you may face in your life is to accept that you have a difficult situation at hand. When you do that, your mind will start aligning your thoughts to how you can deal with it. There might be hundreds of ways to deal with a situation. All you have to do is let the fact sink in, and then your mind will automatically give you better ways to deal with it.
保持冷静是很困难的，尤其是当你的大脑对发生在你身上的任何事情都反应过度的时候。
我们复杂的大脑是一个恩赐，也是一个祸害。
困境可能有所不同，保持冷静可能需要你做不同的事情，让我试着阐述一下我处理困难情况的一些方法。
但在此之前，有一条处理你情绪的基本规则，虽然许多人可能建议冥想和瑜伽（这也很有帮助），但有一个非常简单的方法，那便是“接受”。
在你生活中可能面临的任何困难情况下，第一步就是是接受，当你这样做的时候，你的思想就会开始调整你的想法，使你能够处理它。
一个困境可能有数百种方法来处理，但你所要做的就是让这个事实慢慢沉淀下来，然后你的大脑就会自动给你更好的方法来处理它。
Staying calm can be difficult, especially when your brain is soo reactive to anything that happens to you. Our complex brain is a boon and a bane combined! Now difficult situations may differ, and staying calm in each may require you to do different things. Let me try to elaborate on a few ways I deal with difficult situations.
But before that, there is one fundamental rule to dealing with your emotions. While many may suggest meditation and yoga (which are also helpful), a very simple way is deal with this is through Acceptance.
The first step in any difficult situation that you may face in your life is to accept that you have a difficult situation at hand. When you do that, your mind will start aligning your thoughts to how you can deal with it. There might be hundreds of ways to deal with a situation. All you have to do is let the fact sink in, and then your mind will automatically give you better ways to deal with it.
保持冷静是很困难的，尤其是当你的大脑对发生在你身上的任何事情都反应过度的时候。
我们复杂的大脑是一个恩赐，也是一个祸害。
困境可能有所不同，保持冷静可能需要你做不同的事情，让我试着阐述一下我处理困难情况的一些方法。
但在此之前，有一条处理你情绪的基本规则，虽然许多人可能建议冥想和瑜伽（这也很有帮助），但有一个非常简单的方法，那便是“接受”。
在你生活中可能面临的任何困难情况下，第一步就是是接受，当你这样做的时候，你的思想就会开始调整你的想法，使你能够处理它。
一个困境可能有数百种方法来处理，但你所要做的就是让这个事实慢慢沉淀下来，然后你的大脑就会自动给你更好的方法来处理它。
If you want to stay calm when dealing with someone (who might be getting on your nerves), try to hear them out first. Most things get sorted when you let someone speak and pour out their heart. Once that is done, try to put forth your point. If in that instant it is not possible, do not waste much energy. Wait for another appropriate time to put forth your point again.
Finally, If you are sad over something and can’t calm your mind, try to tell yourself how it can be better. What could have been worse, and how in the future it can be made better. Remember, there is always a better way to do it. And everything happens for a reason, just trust the process of life.
Hope you find the strength to stay calm and have a good day ahead!
如果你想在与某人打交道时保持冷静（他可能会让你感到紧张），试着先听他们说完。
当你让某人说话并倾诉他们的心声时，大多数事情都会得到解决，然后你可以试着提出你的观点，如果当时不可能做到，就不要浪费太多精力，等到另一个合适的时间再提出你的观点。
最后，如果你对某件事情感到悲伤，无法平静自己的心，试着告诉自己怎样才能变得更好，还有什么会更糟，以及未来该如何才能做得更好，记住，总有更好的方法，每件事的发生都是有原因的，要相信生命的过程。
希望你能找到保持冷静的力量，并拥有美好的一天!
Finally, If you are sad over something and can’t calm your mind, try to tell yourself how it can be better. What could have been worse, and how in the future it can be made better. Remember, there is always a better way to do it. And everything happens for a reason, just trust the process of life.
Hope you find the strength to stay calm and have a good day ahead!
如果你想在与某人打交道时保持冷静（他可能会让你感到紧张），试着先听他们说完。
当你让某人说话并倾诉他们的心声时，大多数事情都会得到解决，然后你可以试着提出你的观点，如果当时不可能做到，就不要浪费太多精力，等到另一个合适的时间再提出你的观点。
最后，如果你对某件事情感到悲伤，无法平静自己的心，试着告诉自己怎样才能变得更好，还有什么会更糟，以及未来该如何才能做得更好，记住，总有更好的方法，每件事的发生都是有原因的，要相信生命的过程。
希望你能找到保持冷静的力量，并拥有美好的一天!
Annette Kinglock-Murray
Avoid the company of negative people.
Some people are more curious than helpful. They have no genuine concern about what's happening. You don't need to be in the company of anyone who is constantly a reminder of how bad a situation is. You don't need anyone who'll break your spirit. Surround yourself with those who have an understanding of what you're going through. Those who will empower you. Those who truly have your best interest at heart.
Go easy on yourself.
Don't be too hard on yourself. You are human like everyone else. Life has its ups and downs. There isn't anyone who's always winning. You can do so much and no more! We all have our nail-biting moments. Life is filled with uncertainties. Whatever yours may be, I pray that you'll never lose focus. Remember all those times when you were victorious. This time is no different. You'll come out stronger than ever. God is right there with you. You've got this!
避免与消极的人为伍。
有些人好奇多于助人，他们对正在发生的事情并不真正的关心，你不需要和任何一个时刻提醒你情况有多糟糕的人在一起，你不需要任何人来打击你，让那些理解你正在经历的事情的人围绕在你的周围，那些会给你力量的人，那些真正把你的利益放在心上的人。
对自己宽容一点。
不要对自己太苛刻，你和其他人一样也是人，人生有起有落，没有人总是赢，你能做的只有这么多，不能再多了！
我们都有紧张不安的时刻，生活充满了不确定性，不管你的梦想是什么，我祈祷你永远不要失去目标，记住那些你获胜的时刻，这次也不例外，你会变得比以前更强大，上帝与你同在，你可以的！
Avoid the company of negative people.
Some people are more curious than helpful. They have no genuine concern about what's happening. You don't need to be in the company of anyone who is constantly a reminder of how bad a situation is. You don't need anyone who'll break your spirit. Surround yourself with those who have an understanding of what you're going through. Those who will empower you. Those who truly have your best interest at heart.
Go easy on yourself.
Don't be too hard on yourself. You are human like everyone else. Life has its ups and downs. There isn't anyone who's always winning. You can do so much and no more! We all have our nail-biting moments. Life is filled with uncertainties. Whatever yours may be, I pray that you'll never lose focus. Remember all those times when you were victorious. This time is no different. You'll come out stronger than ever. God is right there with you. You've got this!
避免与消极的人为伍。
有些人好奇多于助人，他们对正在发生的事情并不真正的关心，你不需要和任何一个时刻提醒你情况有多糟糕的人在一起，你不需要任何人来打击你，让那些理解你正在经历的事情的人围绕在你的周围，那些会给你力量的人，那些真正把你的利益放在心上的人。
对自己宽容一点。
不要对自己太苛刻，你和其他人一样也是人，人生有起有落，没有人总是赢，你能做的只有这么多，不能再多了！
我们都有紧张不安的时刻，生活充满了不确定性，不管你的梦想是什么，我祈祷你永远不要失去目标，记住那些你获胜的时刻，这次也不例外，你会变得比以前更强大，上帝与你同在，你可以的！
Lukas Schwekendiek
Agree - “You are a gigantic jerk.” - “I know right! Man I was an ass when I did that!” Agreeing puts the fight out of the argument and it allows you to see beyond what they say. You are not just a jerk or an ass, you are so much more than that!
Don’t Take it Personal - Even if someone calls you an asshole, it is just that you did something outside of what they expected or that wasn’t in line with how they view the world. Another person would praise you for doing the exact same thing. It’s not your fault they view you as being a jerk.
SIDENOTE: I am not saying you should actively be a jerk all the time. Do what you deem is best, and simply ignore the complaints of others.
· 同意
“你是个大混蛋”“对，我知道！伙计，我那样做的时候就是个混蛋! ”
同意使争论不复存在，它使你能够超越他们所说的，你不仅仅是个混蛋或混球，你还远不止这些！
不要把它当做个人恩怨，即使有人说你是个混蛋，那只是你做的事情超出了他们的预期，或者不符合他们对这个世界的看法，另一个人会因为你做了完全同样的事情而赞美你，他们认为你是个混蛋，但这不是你的错。
注：这里我并不是要说你应该一直做个混蛋，而是说你要做你认为最应该的事，忽略别人的抱怨。
Agree - “You are a gigantic jerk.” - “I know right! Man I was an ass when I did that!” Agreeing puts the fight out of the argument and it allows you to see beyond what they say. You are not just a jerk or an ass, you are so much more than that!
Don’t Take it Personal - Even if someone calls you an asshole, it is just that you did something outside of what they expected or that wasn’t in line with how they view the world. Another person would praise you for doing the exact same thing. It’s not your fault they view you as being a jerk.
SIDENOTE: I am not saying you should actively be a jerk all the time. Do what you deem is best, and simply ignore the complaints of others.
· 同意
“你是个大混蛋”“对，我知道！伙计，我那样做的时候就是个混蛋! ”
同意使争论不复存在，它使你能够超越他们所说的，你不仅仅是个混蛋或混球，你还远不止这些！
不要把它当做个人恩怨，即使有人说你是个混蛋，那只是你做的事情超出了他们的预期，或者不符合他们对这个世界的看法，另一个人会因为你做了完全同样的事情而赞美你，他们认为你是个混蛋，但这不是你的错。
注：这里我并不是要说你应该一直做个混蛋，而是说你要做你认为最应该的事，忽略别人的抱怨。
Take your Self-Worth from Deeper Within - You are not just a nice, kind, smart, friendly individual. You are also a jerk, an ass, you are dumb and horrible at times. You are a mixture of every title and every characteristic! If someone calls you a jerk, let them. There is so much more to you that they aren’t even scratching the surface with what they say. Know you are more than you think you are.
Go in with an Intention - If you have an intention on what it is you want to achieve, then everything that is not what you want to achieve won’t phase you. Right now you are just taken aback by the things you do not like, regardless of how meaningful they are. But when you know what you want, everything else becomes secondary.
· 从内心深处挖掘你的自我价值
你不仅仅是一个友善、善良、聪明、友好的人，你也是一个混蛋，一个混球，你是愚蠢的，有时可怕，你是每一个头衔和每一个特征的混合体！如果有人叫你混蛋，就让他们这么叫吧，你还有很多其他的东西，他们所说的甚至还没有触及表面，要知道你比你想象的强大得多。
· 必须有意图
——如果你对自己想要达到的目标有意图，那么任何不是你想要达到的目标都不会影响你，现在，你只是被你不喜欢的东西吓了一跳，不管它们有多大意义，但当你知道你想要什么时，其他一切都是次要的。
Go in with an Intention - If you have an intention on what it is you want to achieve, then everything that is not what you want to achieve won’t phase you. Right now you are just taken aback by the things you do not like, regardless of how meaningful they are. But when you know what you want, everything else becomes secondary.
· 从内心深处挖掘你的自我价值
你不仅仅是一个友善、善良、聪明、友好的人，你也是一个混蛋，一个混球，你是愚蠢的，有时可怕，你是每一个头衔和每一个特征的混合体！如果有人叫你混蛋，就让他们这么叫吧，你还有很多其他的东西，他们所说的甚至还没有触及表面，要知道你比你想象的强大得多。
· 必须有意图
——如果你对自己想要达到的目标有意图，那么任何不是你想要达到的目标都不会影响你，现在，你只是被你不喜欢的东西吓了一跳，不管它们有多大意义，但当你知道你想要什么时，其他一切都是次要的。
Become Proactive - If you do not like something: CHANGE IT! Too many people sit by, passive-aggressively trying to make others change their situations for them rather than picking themselves up and doing it themselves. If you do not like to be somewhere; LEAVE. If you don’t like someone talking to you that way; SAY IT. And if you are unhappy with the situation; MAKE IT BETTER! This is your life. No one is responsible for it other than you.
When you become more proactive and learn to take matters into your own hands you will avoid a lot of negativity and build the belief in yourself that you can affect the world around you. Now if anything negative or unnerving comes up, you will still know that you are in control.
(For more info I highly suggest reading up on Learned Helplessness and its effects.)
Don’t take it so seriously - Everything passes, good and bad. Even life will come to an end eventually, so why worry so much about this one situation? Right now you are living in an amusement park, and yes, you do have to leave eventually; we all do. However, you can worry about the crappy food you may have eaten or the bad ride you were just on, but that won’t make anything better. Or you just mark it off as a bad ride and leave it at that! In the end, “…it’s just a ride” - Bill Hicks
· 变得积极主动
如果你不喜欢某件事情：改变它! 太多的人袖手旁观，被动地试图让别人为他们改变处境，而不是自己振作起来，自己动手。
如果你不喜欢呆在某个地方，就离开；如果你不喜欢别人如何对你说话，就讲出来；如果你对情况不满意，就把它变得更好！这是你的生活，这是你的生活，除了你没有人对它负责。
当你变得更加积极主动，学会把事情掌握在自己手中时，你将避免很多消极因素，并建立起自己信念，相信你可以影响你周围的世界。
现在，如果有任何负面或令人不安的事情出现，你仍然会知道一切在你的掌控之中。
( 想了解更多信息，我强烈建议阅读《习得性失助及其影响》)
· 不要把事情看得太严重
一切都会过去，无论好坏，即使是生命，最终也会走到尽头，所以为什么要为过于担心这一情况担？
现在，你生活在一个游乐园里，是，你终归要离开，但我们都一样，你可以担心你可能吃到的蹩脚的食物或你刚刚乘坐的糟糕的游乐设施，但这不会使事情变得更好，或者你把它标记为一次糟糕的旅程，然后告诉自己就这样吧！
"......终归，这不过只是一次旅行 "——比尔·希克斯
When you become more proactive and learn to take matters into your own hands you will avoid a lot of negativity and build the belief in yourself that you can affect the world around you. Now if anything negative or unnerving comes up, you will still know that you are in control.
(For more info I highly suggest reading up on Learned Helplessness and its effects.)
Don’t take it so seriously - Everything passes, good and bad. Even life will come to an end eventually, so why worry so much about this one situation? Right now you are living in an amusement park, and yes, you do have to leave eventually; we all do. However, you can worry about the crappy food you may have eaten or the bad ride you were just on, but that won’t make anything better. Or you just mark it off as a bad ride and leave it at that! In the end, “…it’s just a ride” - Bill Hicks
· 变得积极主动
如果你不喜欢某件事情：改变它! 太多的人袖手旁观，被动地试图让别人为他们改变处境，而不是自己振作起来，自己动手。
如果你不喜欢呆在某个地方，就离开；如果你不喜欢别人如何对你说话，就讲出来；如果你对情况不满意，就把它变得更好！这是你的生活，这是你的生活，除了你没有人对它负责。
当你变得更加积极主动，学会把事情掌握在自己手中时，你将避免很多消极因素，并建立起自己信念，相信你可以影响你周围的世界。
现在，如果有任何负面或令人不安的事情出现，你仍然会知道一切在你的掌控之中。
( 想了解更多信息，我强烈建议阅读《习得性失助及其影响》)
· 不要把事情看得太严重
一切都会过去，无论好坏，即使是生命，最终也会走到尽头，所以为什么要为过于担心这一情况担？
现在，你生活在一个游乐园里，是，你终归要离开，但我们都一样，你可以担心你可能吃到的蹩脚的食物或你刚刚乘坐的糟糕的游乐设施，但这不会使事情变得更好，或者你把它标记为一次糟糕的旅程，然后告诉自己就这样吧！
"......终归，这不过只是一次旅行 "——比尔·希克斯
Awdhesh Singh
I don’t do much travelling and usually stay at home doing my reading or writing.
However, once in a while I have to travel to attend some seminar, TEDx talks or deliver some lectures.
I usually have to fly to save time.
It is quite common that the aircraft gets into turbulence and it start shaking violently. We are asked to wear seat-belts in such situations.
I can see many people getting scared and start praying to God.
I too often get scared when the turbulence is more.
In such situation, I always look at the stewards and air-hostesses.
I find them very cool and they often keep serving the meal even while rest of us are scared.
They even smile and laugh.
I then ask myself, “ Why should I be scared when I am travelling may be once in a month while the crew members are not scared when they are perhaps making six trips every day?”
That gives me confidence and I lose my fear.
I feel calm again.
我不经常旅行，通常呆在家里读书或写作。
然而，有时候我不得不去参加一些研讨会，TEDx 或者发表一些演讲。
为了节省时间，我通常不得不飞行，飞机遇到乱流并开始剧烈摇晃是很常见的，在这种情况下我们被要求系好安全带，我能看到许多人开始害怕，并开始向上帝祈祷。
当气流更加湍急的时候，我常常感到害怕，但我总是看看乘务员和空姐，我发现他们非常冷静，他们经常在我们害怕的时候还继续服务。
他们会微笑、甚至大笑。
然后我问自己，“为什么我要害怕，我坐飞机可能也就一个月一次，而乘务人员一点不害怕，他们可能每天要飞上六趟?”
这给了我信心，我也不再害怕。
我又平静下来了。
I don’t do much travelling and usually stay at home doing my reading or writing.
However, once in a while I have to travel to attend some seminar, TEDx talks or deliver some lectures.
I usually have to fly to save time.
It is quite common that the aircraft gets into turbulence and it start shaking violently. We are asked to wear seat-belts in such situations.
I can see many people getting scared and start praying to God.
I too often get scared when the turbulence is more.
In such situation, I always look at the stewards and air-hostesses.
I find them very cool and they often keep serving the meal even while rest of us are scared.
They even smile and laugh.
I then ask myself, “ Why should I be scared when I am travelling may be once in a month while the crew members are not scared when they are perhaps making six trips every day?”
That gives me confidence and I lose my fear.
I feel calm again.
我不经常旅行，通常呆在家里读书或写作。
然而，有时候我不得不去参加一些研讨会，TEDx 或者发表一些演讲。
为了节省时间，我通常不得不飞行，飞机遇到乱流并开始剧烈摇晃是很常见的，在这种情况下我们被要求系好安全带，我能看到许多人开始害怕，并开始向上帝祈祷。
当气流更加湍急的时候，我常常感到害怕，但我总是看看乘务员和空姐，我发现他们非常冷静，他们经常在我们害怕的时候还继续服务。
他们会微笑、甚至大笑。
然后我问自己，“为什么我要害怕，我坐飞机可能也就一个月一次，而乘务人员一点不害怕，他们可能每天要飞上六趟?”
这给了我信心，我也不再害怕。
我又平静下来了。
The best way to keep your calm is to practice living tough life.
Make your life tough and not seek much comfort.
If your life is going easy, don’t try to make it even easier.
If you don’t have challenges in life, make your life tough by challenging yourself.
When you get used to tough life, you can keep your calm even in the toughest situation.
Remember the famous saying: “When the going gets tough, the tough gets going.”
保持冷静的最好方法就是练习过艰难的生活。
让你的生活变得艰难，不要寻求太多的安慰，如果你的生活很轻松，不要试图让它变得更轻松，如果你生活中没有挑战，通过挑战自己来使你的生活变得艰难。
当你习惯了艰难的生活，即使在最艰难的情况下，你也可以保持冷静。
记住一句名言: “当事情变得艰难时，强者就会继续前进。”
Make your life tough and not seek much comfort.
If your life is going easy, don’t try to make it even easier.
If you don’t have challenges in life, make your life tough by challenging yourself.
When you get used to tough life, you can keep your calm even in the toughest situation.
Remember the famous saying: “When the going gets tough, the tough gets going.”
保持冷静的最好方法就是练习过艰难的生活。
让你的生活变得艰难，不要寻求太多的安慰，如果你的生活很轻松，不要试图让它变得更轻松，如果你生活中没有挑战，通过挑战自己来使你的生活变得艰难。
当你习惯了艰难的生活，即使在最艰难的情况下，你也可以保持冷静。
记住一句名言: “当事情变得艰难时，强者就会继续前进。”
Salome
1. Admit that you are worried or anxious. In order to get free from something, you need to acknowledge its presence first. In other words, allow yourself to say whatever it is that you are feeling. By labeling your feelings, it will be easier for you to express them, after which the anxiety and worry you experience will decrease.
2. Release your worry and anxiety. You can also get the negative emotional energy out with the help of exercise. Try going for a run or walk. Engaging in physical activity releases serotonin, which can help you in calming down and feeling better.
1. 承认你在担心或焦虑
为了摆脱某些东西，你需要首先承认它的存在，换句话说，要允许自己说出你的任何感受，通过给你的感觉贴上标签，你会更容易表达出来，之后你的焦虑和担心就会减少。
2. 释放你的担心和焦虑
你也可以在运动的帮助下把负能量释放出来，试着去跑步或散步，运动可以帮助释放血清素，这可以帮助你平静下来，让你感觉更好。
1. Admit that you are worried or anxious. In order to get free from something, you need to acknowledge its presence first. In other words, allow yourself to say whatever it is that you are feeling. By labeling your feelings, it will be easier for you to express them, after which the anxiety and worry you experience will decrease.
2. Release your worry and anxiety. You can also get the negative emotional energy out with the help of exercise. Try going for a run or walk. Engaging in physical activity releases serotonin, which can help you in calming down and feeling better.
1. 承认你在担心或焦虑
为了摆脱某些东西，你需要首先承认它的存在，换句话说，要允许自己说出你的任何感受，通过给你的感觉贴上标签，你会更容易表达出来，之后你的焦虑和担心就会减少。
2. 释放你的担心和焦虑
你也可以在运动的帮助下把负能量释放出来，试着去跑步或散步，运动可以帮助释放血清素，这可以帮助你平静下来，让你感觉更好。
3. Challenge your negative thoughts. Part of what makes you anxious or worried is having irrational thoughts which do not necessarily make sense. Thoughts that can otherwise be labeled as the worst-case scenario. You might be trapped in a “what if” cycle, causing you to sabotage many things in your life.
When you are experiencing one of these thoughts, reflect for a bit by asking yourself the following questions:
Is this thought a rational one?
Is this scenario likely to happen?
What is the worst thing that can happen?
Will I be able to handle it?
After going through these questions, the next thing you need to do is reframing your thinking. For instance, if you are stressed about your upcoming exam, instead of thinking "I will certainly fail", tell yourself "I may not get as good a score as I want, but I studied for it, so there's no way I'm failing it".
3. 挑战你的消极想法
部分使你焦虑或担心的原因是某些非理性想法，这些想法不一定有意义，却容易被贴上“最坏情况”的标签，你可能被困在一个 "如果 "的循环中，导致你破你生活中的许多事情。
当你遇到这些想法时，请反思一下，问自己以下问题：
这个想法是否合理？
这种情况可能发生吗？
可能发生的最糟糕的事情是什么？
我有能力处理吗？
问完这些问题之后，你需要做的下一件事就是重新构建你的思维。例如，如果你对即将到来的考试有压力，与其想 "我肯定会失败"，不如告诉自己 "我可能不会得到我想要的好成绩，但我努力学习了，所以我不可能失败"。
When you are experiencing one of these thoughts, reflect for a bit by asking yourself the following questions:
Is this thought a rational one?
Is this scenario likely to happen?
What is the worst thing that can happen?
Will I be able to handle it?
After going through these questions, the next thing you need to do is reframing your thinking. For instance, if you are stressed about your upcoming exam, instead of thinking "I will certainly fail", tell yourself "I may not get as good a score as I want, but I studied for it, so there's no way I'm failing it".
3. 挑战你的消极想法
部分使你焦虑或担心的原因是某些非理性想法，这些想法不一定有意义，却容易被贴上“最坏情况”的标签，你可能被困在一个 "如果 "的循环中，导致你破你生活中的许多事情。
当你遇到这些想法时，请反思一下，问自己以下问题：
这个想法是否合理？
这种情况可能发生吗？
可能发生的最糟糕的事情是什么？
我有能力处理吗？
问完这些问题之后，你需要做的下一件事就是重新构建你的思维。例如，如果你对即将到来的考试有压力，与其想 "我肯定会失败"，不如告诉自己 "我可能不会得到我想要的好成绩，但我努力学习了，所以我不可能失败"。
4. Think your situation through. Have a helpful mantra you can use in critical situations, such as "Will this truly matter to me the following week?” or “Am I really going to allow this situation or person to take away my peace?”.
This method will stop you from becoming hyper-focused on a cause and instead, allow you to keep your rational thoughts with you by shifting focus and “reality testing” the situation.
4. 想清楚你面对的处境
有一个有用的口头禅，你可以在关键情况下使用，如“这真的会影响到我下个礼拜的生活?”"或 "我真的要让这种情况或人夺走我的平静吗？"这种方法将阻止你过度关注某个原因，让你通过转移焦点和 "现实测试 "来保持你的理性思维。
This method will stop you from becoming hyper-focused on a cause and instead, allow you to keep your rational thoughts with you by shifting focus and “reality testing” the situation.
4. 想清楚你面对的处境
有一个有用的口头禅，你可以在关键情况下使用，如“这真的会影响到我下个礼拜的生活?”"或 "我真的要让这种情况或人夺走我的平静吗？"这种方法将阻止你过度关注某个原因，让你通过转移焦点和 "现实测试 "来保持你的理性思维。
5. Give it time. Leave the situation alone for some time and try looking in another direction.
For instance, you can try taking a walk, during which you will have more time for better decision making. You can't do your best thinking when you are feeling worried or anxious.
In such times, you turn to survival thinking, which is useful only when your life is in danger.
However, when there are no life-threatening scenarios involved, you want your rational thinking rather than survival sort of thinking based on your instincts.
In other words, rely on your rational thinking when you are anxious and find the reasons for convincing yourself that what you are worried about is neither worth your time nor energy.
5. 给自己一些时间
把面对的问题搁置一段时间，试着换个角度去看问题，例如，你可以尝试散步，在此期间，你会有更多的时间来做出更好的决定，当你感到忧虑或焦虑时，你无法做出最好的思考。
在这种时候，你会转向“生存思维”，这种思维只有在生命受到威胁时才有用。
然而，当不涉及生命危险的情况下，你要的是理性思考，而不是基于本能的那种““生存思维””。
换句话说，在你焦虑的时候，要依靠你的理性思维，找到说服自己的理由，你所担心的事情既不值得你花时间也不值得你花精力。
For instance, you can try taking a walk, during which you will have more time for better decision making. You can't do your best thinking when you are feeling worried or anxious.
In such times, you turn to survival thinking, which is useful only when your life is in danger.
However, when there are no life-threatening scenarios involved, you want your rational thinking rather than survival sort of thinking based on your instincts.
In other words, rely on your rational thinking when you are anxious and find the reasons for convincing yourself that what you are worried about is neither worth your time nor energy.
5. 给自己一些时间
把面对的问题搁置一段时间，试着换个角度去看问题，例如，你可以尝试散步，在此期间，你会有更多的时间来做出更好的决定，当你感到忧虑或焦虑时，你无法做出最好的思考。
在这种时候，你会转向“生存思维”，这种思维只有在生命受到威胁时才有用。
然而，当不涉及生命危险的情况下，你要的是理性思考，而不是基于本能的那种““生存思维””。
换句话说，在你焦虑的时候，要依靠你的理性思维，找到说服自己的理由，你所担心的事情既不值得你花时间也不值得你花精力。
Shashi Singh
Everyday in the morning when you get up, repeat the affirmation that I am a calm and peaceful being….and I consciously choose to be calm irrespectively of the situation.
Identify your triggers which make you anxious and try to minimize them.
Be punctual as much as possible…plan ahead meticulously and reach on time.
Limit watching news, especially over television. Limit the use of social media before bedtime.
In stressful situations, don't react and get panicky ….rather respond….calmly think what to do next …..to overcome the situation or to be helpful to someone in need .
Declutter and organize your space at home and workplace.
Plan everything the night before, create a to-do list , tick off tasks one by one.
Meditate everyday … It will calm the anxious mind and uncontrolled overthinking.
. 每天早上当你起床的时候，重复肯定我是一个平静而平和的人..... 我有意识地选择平静，而不考虑任何情况。
. 找出让你焦虑的诱因，并尽量减少它们。
. 尽可能准时... ... 一丝不苟地提前计划，准时到达。
. 有限制看新闻，尤其是电视新闻，睡觉前限制使用社交媒体。
. 在紧张的情况下，不要做出过激反应，不要惊慌失措，而是冷静地思考下一步该怎么做，如果克服这种情况，或者帮助需要帮助的人。
. 整理和组织你的居家和工作场所空间。
. 在前一天晚上计划好所有的事情，列出一个待办事项清单，一个一个的完成任务。
. 每天冥想... 它将平静焦虑的心灵和不受控制的过度思考。
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Everyday in the morning when you get up, repeat the affirmation that I am a calm and peaceful being….and I consciously choose to be calm irrespectively of the situation.
Identify your triggers which make you anxious and try to minimize them.
Be punctual as much as possible…plan ahead meticulously and reach on time.
Limit watching news, especially over television. Limit the use of social media before bedtime.
In stressful situations, don't react and get panicky ….rather respond….calmly think what to do next …..to overcome the situation or to be helpful to someone in need .
Declutter and organize your space at home and workplace.
Plan everything the night before, create a to-do list , tick off tasks one by one.
Meditate everyday … It will calm the anxious mind and uncontrolled overthinking.
. 每天早上当你起床的时候，重复肯定我是一个平静而平和的人..... 我有意识地选择平静，而不考虑任何情况。
. 找出让你焦虑的诱因，并尽量减少它们。
. 尽可能准时... ... 一丝不苟地提前计划，准时到达。
. 有限制看新闻，尤其是电视新闻，睡觉前限制使用社交媒体。
. 在紧张的情况下，不要做出过激反应，不要惊慌失措，而是冷静地思考下一步该怎么做，如果克服这种情况，或者帮助需要帮助的人。
. 整理和组织你的居家和工作场所空间。
. 在前一天晚上计划好所有的事情，列出一个待办事项清单，一个一个的完成任务。
. 每天冥想... 它将平静焦虑的心灵和不受控制的过度思考。
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Remove the toxic people from your life who are unreasonable haters and are always criticising…..maintain distance from them and carry on with your life.
Stop catastrophising and imagining the worst possible scenario , when facing any life situation. Most of these are just our imagination and never happen in reality.
Believe in supreme power , say prayers , follow rituals ….have faith on God…. Ask God to give you strength and power to face tough situations.
Walk in neighborhood , appreciating nature. Develop hobbies like gardening, writing, reading, painting, etc….these are healthy ways of coping with stress and staying calm.
Face your fears with courage….think of the problems as challenges .
Instead of running away from the stressful situations, face it head on and think of the next step….the next best possible solution.
Identify pressure points to calm anger and anxiety.Going for a massage or getting acupuncture is a wonderful way to manage anxiety and anger. But it’s not always easy to find time in your day to make it happen. The good news is, you can do acupressure on yourself for instant anxiety relief.
. 把那些不讲道理、总是批评别人的人从你的生活中清除出去...... 与他们保持距离，继续你的生活。
. 当面对状况时，停止灾难化和想象最糟糕的可能情况，其中大多数只是我们的想象，在现实中永远不会发生。
. 信仰至高无上的力量，说祷告，遵循仪式...... 对上帝有信心...祈求上帝赐予你力量和能量去面对困难的处境。
. 在附近散步，欣赏大自然，培养像园艺、写作、阅读、绘画等爱好... 这些都是应对压力和保持冷静的健康方式。
. 勇敢面对你的恐惧....把问题当作挑战。
.与其逃避困难，不如直面它，想想下一步...... 下一个最好的解决办法。
. 识别压力点以平息愤怒和焦虑，按摩或接受针灸是管理焦虑和愤怒的绝佳方式，但要找到时间来实现这一点并不容易，好消息是，你自己就可以找身上的穴位按摩，即时缓解焦虑。
Stop catastrophising and imagining the worst possible scenario , when facing any life situation. Most of these are just our imagination and never happen in reality.
Believe in supreme power , say prayers , follow rituals ….have faith on God…. Ask God to give you strength and power to face tough situations.
Walk in neighborhood , appreciating nature. Develop hobbies like gardening, writing, reading, painting, etc….these are healthy ways of coping with stress and staying calm.
Face your fears with courage….think of the problems as challenges .
Instead of running away from the stressful situations, face it head on and think of the next step….the next best possible solution.
Identify pressure points to calm anger and anxiety.Going for a massage or getting acupuncture is a wonderful way to manage anxiety and anger. But it’s not always easy to find time in your day to make it happen. The good news is, you can do acupressure on yourself for instant anxiety relief.
. 把那些不讲道理、总是批评别人的人从你的生活中清除出去...... 与他们保持距离，继续你的生活。
. 当面对状况时，停止灾难化和想象最糟糕的可能情况，其中大多数只是我们的想象，在现实中永远不会发生。
. 信仰至高无上的力量，说祷告，遵循仪式...... 对上帝有信心...祈求上帝赐予你力量和能量去面对困难的处境。
. 在附近散步，欣赏大自然，培养像园艺、写作、阅读、绘画等爱好... 这些都是应对压力和保持冷静的健康方式。
. 勇敢面对你的恐惧....把问题当作挑战。
.与其逃避困难，不如直面它，想想下一步...... 下一个最好的解决办法。
. 识别压力点以平息愤怒和焦虑，按摩或接受针灸是管理焦虑和愤怒的绝佳方式，但要找到时间来实现这一点并不容易，好消息是，你自己就可以找身上的穴位按摩，即时缓解焦虑。
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