你最欣赏或喜欢另一个人的哪些品质
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Which qualities do you most admire or like in another person?
你最欣赏或喜欢另一个人的哪些品质？
Which qualities do you most admire or like in another person?
你最欣赏或喜欢另一个人的哪些品质？
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Viren Sharma, Civil Engineer at JMCC
When they don't do any kind of back bitching.
When their eye actually mean what their words are delivering.
When they genuinely become happy by seeing others getting more successful than them.
When they proudly accept their religion.
When they are same inside out.
When they deny to cave in front of peer pressure.
他们从不在背后埋怨；
他们的眼睛透露出他们所说的话。
他们看到别人比他们自己更成功能真诚的为之高兴。
他们骄傲地接受自己的宗教信仰。
他们从里到外都一样。
他们拒绝在同伴压力面前屈服。
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When they don't do any kind of back bitching.
When their eye actually mean what their words are delivering.
When they genuinely become happy by seeing others getting more successful than them.
When they proudly accept their religion.
When they are same inside out.
When they deny to cave in front of peer pressure.
他们从不在背后埋怨；
他们的眼睛透露出他们所说的话。
他们看到别人比他们自己更成功能真诚的为之高兴。
他们骄傲地接受自己的宗教信仰。
他们从里到外都一样。
他们拒绝在同伴压力面前屈服。
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Sanyukta, B.Sc. Computer Science Engineering, University of Wisconsin - Madison (2023)
I have a Muslim friend called Farhan.
I’m going back to the time when we were only beginning to become friends.
At that point, I had some strong opinions regarding other Muslims that I knew and told him how I thought that Islam didn’t treat their women right.
When I’ve seen people expressing negative emotions about a different religion, the other party almost always gets super offended.
Farhan? Not at all. In fact, he agreed with me on several points that I mentioned that I’m sure would’ve offended my other Muslim friends.
Once we were discussing Hinduism and I was enlightening him with Hindu customs and beliefs.
He was fascinated, and not just that, he even decided to add reading the Bhagavad Gita to his reading list.
I was surprised.
Pleasantly so.
Farhan’s a Muslim guy who does his prayers every day. But he’s open-minded enough to know and believe that delving into another religion does not make him a non-Muslim.
我有一个穆斯林朋友叫法罕（Farhan）。
我要回到我们刚开始成为朋友的时候。
那时，我对我认识的其他穆斯林有一些强烈的看法，我告诉他，我认为伊斯兰教没有正确对待他们的女性。
当我看到人们对不同的宗教表达负面情绪时，对方几乎总是非常生气。
而法罕一点也不生气。事实上，他同意我提到的几点，我确信这会冒犯我的其他穆斯林朋友。
有一次我们在讨论印度教，我用印度教的习俗和信仰来启发他。
他被迷住了，不仅如此，他甚至决定把阅读《博伽梵歌》加入他的阅读清单。
我很惊讶，但为之高兴。
法罕是一个每天都做祈祷的穆斯林。但他思想开放，知道并相信钻研其他宗教并不能使他成为非穆斯林。
I have a Muslim friend called Farhan.
I’m going back to the time when we were only beginning to become friends.
At that point, I had some strong opinions regarding other Muslims that I knew and told him how I thought that Islam didn’t treat their women right.
When I’ve seen people expressing negative emotions about a different religion, the other party almost always gets super offended.
Farhan? Not at all. In fact, he agreed with me on several points that I mentioned that I’m sure would’ve offended my other Muslim friends.
Once we were discussing Hinduism and I was enlightening him with Hindu customs and beliefs.
He was fascinated, and not just that, he even decided to add reading the Bhagavad Gita to his reading list.
I was surprised.
Pleasantly so.
Farhan’s a Muslim guy who does his prayers every day. But he’s open-minded enough to know and believe that delving into another religion does not make him a non-Muslim.
我有一个穆斯林朋友叫法罕（Farhan）。
我要回到我们刚开始成为朋友的时候。
那时，我对我认识的其他穆斯林有一些强烈的看法，我告诉他，我认为伊斯兰教没有正确对待他们的女性。
当我看到人们对不同的宗教表达负面情绪时，对方几乎总是非常生气。
而法罕一点也不生气。事实上，他同意我提到的几点，我确信这会冒犯我的其他穆斯林朋友。
有一次我们在讨论印度教，我用印度教的习俗和信仰来启发他。
他被迷住了，不仅如此，他甚至决定把阅读《博伽梵歌》加入他的阅读清单。
我很惊讶，但为之高兴。
法罕是一个每天都做祈祷的穆斯林。但他思想开放，知道并相信钻研其他宗教并不能使他成为非穆斯林。
Which qualities do you most admire or like in another person?
Open-mindedness and conscience clear of age-old illogical customs are what makes me instantly like the person.
Farhan and I have grown to be best friends and I couldn’t have asked for a more amazing person like him in my life.
PS: My opinions about Islam may or may not have changed, but it does not make me love my fellow Muslim people any less. Just wanted to make it clear as crystal.
你最欣赏或喜欢另一个人的哪些品质？
开明的思想和对古老不合逻辑的习俗的清醒的认知使我立刻喜欢上了这个人。
他和我已经成为了最好的朋友，在我的生活中，我再也找不到一个像他这样令人惊叹的人了。
附注：我对伊斯兰教的看法可能有改变，也可能没有改变，但这并没有减少我对穆斯林同胞的爱，我只是想把事情说清楚。
Open-mindedness and conscience clear of age-old illogical customs are what makes me instantly like the person.
Farhan and I have grown to be best friends and I couldn’t have asked for a more amazing person like him in my life.
PS: My opinions about Islam may or may not have changed, but it does not make me love my fellow Muslim people any less. Just wanted to make it clear as crystal.
你最欣赏或喜欢另一个人的哪些品质？
开明的思想和对古老不合逻辑的习俗的清醒的认知使我立刻喜欢上了这个人。
他和我已经成为了最好的朋友，在我的生活中，我再也找不到一个像他这样令人惊叹的人了。
附注：我对伊斯兰教的看法可能有改变，也可能没有改变，但这并没有减少我对穆斯林同胞的爱，我只是想把事情说清楚。
Vijeta Anand, Associate at PwC US (2017-present)
Being adaptable to keep oneself happy.
It is a trait that not only allows you to be happy in the worst of the situations but also make the life of others around you a little bit better. There are people who can stand by the vast sea and complain about the humid weather whereas there are others who might look for a slight hint of light within a dark room.
I believe that there are times when we feel miserable and it is human to feel so, but letting that feeling hover over you and cringing about it day in and day out will only have worse effect.
适应能力强，使自己快乐。
这种特质不仅能让你在最糟糕的情况下感到快乐，还能让你周围的人的生活变得更好一点。有些人站在浩瀚的大海边会抱怨潮湿的天气，而另一些人可能会在黑暗的房间里去寻找一丝光亮。
我相信有时我们会感到痛苦，这是天性，难免都会遇到，但让那种感觉萦绕在你心头，日复一日地为之畏缩不前，只会产生更糟糕的效果。
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Being adaptable to keep oneself happy.
It is a trait that not only allows you to be happy in the worst of the situations but also make the life of others around you a little bit better. There are people who can stand by the vast sea and complain about the humid weather whereas there are others who might look for a slight hint of light within a dark room.
I believe that there are times when we feel miserable and it is human to feel so, but letting that feeling hover over you and cringing about it day in and day out will only have worse effect.
适应能力强，使自己快乐。
这种特质不仅能让你在最糟糕的情况下感到快乐，还能让你周围的人的生活变得更好一点。有些人站在浩瀚的大海边会抱怨潮湿的天气，而另一些人可能会在黑暗的房间里去寻找一丝光亮。
我相信有时我们会感到痛苦，这是天性，难免都会遇到，但让那种感觉萦绕在你心头，日复一日地为之畏缩不前，只会产生更糟糕的效果。
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Kelley Spartiatis, Common sense and strong opinions, that's me.
Without thinking about it at all, I admire people who are optimistic, hopeful, kind, empathetic, intelligent, honest, fun and funny too!
I also admire people who are open about their feelings and able to show it.
I admire people who are forgiving but aren't a pushover either. I don't like that kind of weakness.
Strength is an important quality but strength comes in many forms. The strength that matters to me is strength of character not physical strength.
One of the most important qualities for me is that a person can admit when they are wrong. I can't and won't deal with people who think they are perfect.
不用多想，我欣赏那些乐观、满怀希望、善良、有同情心、聪明、诚实、奋进和有趣的人!
我也欣赏那些对自己的感情开诚布公并能够表达出来的人。
我欣赏那些宽容但不容易被说服的人，我不喜欢软弱。
力量是一种重要的品质，但力量有多种形式。对我来说重要的力量是性格上的力量，而不是体力。
对我来说，一个人最重要的品质之一就是敢于承认自己的错误。我不能也不会和自认为完美的人打交道。。
Without thinking about it at all, I admire people who are optimistic, hopeful, kind, empathetic, intelligent, honest, fun and funny too!
I also admire people who are open about their feelings and able to show it.
I admire people who are forgiving but aren't a pushover either. I don't like that kind of weakness.
Strength is an important quality but strength comes in many forms. The strength that matters to me is strength of character not physical strength.
One of the most important qualities for me is that a person can admit when they are wrong. I can't and won't deal with people who think they are perfect.
不用多想，我欣赏那些乐观、满怀希望、善良、有同情心、聪明、诚实、奋进和有趣的人!
我也欣赏那些对自己的感情开诚布公并能够表达出来的人。
我欣赏那些宽容但不容易被说服的人，我不喜欢软弱。
力量是一种重要的品质，但力量有多种形式。对我来说重要的力量是性格上的力量，而不是体力。
对我来说，一个人最重要的品质之一就是敢于承认自己的错误。我不能也不会和自认为完美的人打交道。。
Aditi Balduwa, Perennial learner | Perpetual reader | Constant observer.
The people who function on logic.
The problem-solvers. You give them any situation and they will break it down into logical pieces and simplify it to you in no time.
They make you see that the problems which you were considering as mammoth can actually be easily solved if you change your perception and think more logically.
They are so uncomplicated and aware that this is the situation, these are the pros and cons, these are favourable options, these can be the outcomes and so these are the steps to follow to reach them.
They don`t fret over issues. Advices from such people are often worth it because it either gives you a way to your solutions or a way to think towards solutions.
Its rare that somebody can be so obxtive and unambiguous.
那些靠逻辑做事的人。
解决问题者。他们遭遇任何一种情况，他们都会把它分解成有逻辑的部分，然后很快地把它简化出来。
它们让你看到，如果你改变你的看法，带有逻辑地去思考，那些你原本认为是难搞的问题实际上可以很容易地被解决。
其实他们如此简单，然后意识到情况就是这样：有利和不利部分、有利的选择和结果都清晰明了，还有就是达到目标的步骤也非常清晰。
他们不为问题而烦恼。来自这些人的建议通常是值得的，因为它要么给你提供了一种解决方案的方法，要么给你提供了一种解决方案的思考方法。
很少有人能如此客观和明确。
The people who function on logic.
The problem-solvers. You give them any situation and they will break it down into logical pieces and simplify it to you in no time.
They make you see that the problems which you were considering as mammoth can actually be easily solved if you change your perception and think more logically.
They are so uncomplicated and aware that this is the situation, these are the pros and cons, these are favourable options, these can be the outcomes and so these are the steps to follow to reach them.
They don`t fret over issues. Advices from such people are often worth it because it either gives you a way to your solutions or a way to think towards solutions.
Its rare that somebody can be so obxtive and unambiguous.
那些靠逻辑做事的人。
解决问题者。他们遭遇任何一种情况，他们都会把它分解成有逻辑的部分，然后很快地把它简化出来。
它们让你看到，如果你改变你的看法，带有逻辑地去思考，那些你原本认为是难搞的问题实际上可以很容易地被解决。
其实他们如此简单，然后意识到情况就是这样：有利和不利部分、有利的选择和结果都清晰明了，还有就是达到目标的步骤也非常清晰。
他们不为问题而烦恼。来自这些人的建议通常是值得的，因为它要么给你提供了一种解决方案的方法，要么给你提供了一种解决方案的思考方法。
很少有人能如此客观和明确。
Vidhya Bharathi, Ph.D Biotechnology, Indian Institute of Technology, Hyderabad (2020)
Vidhya Bharathi，生物技术博士，印度理工学院，海德拉巴(2020)
Vidhya Bharathi，生物技术博士，印度理工学院，海德拉巴(2020)
To give love unasked,
To converse without making it all around themselves,
To genuinely listen when the other is low and want to talk,
To narrate the stories of the world with gleaming eyes,
To intimately understand the secrets of equality and stand by it,
To subscribe to responsiblities without guilt,
To know when to give a great hug and silence,
To never take love and kindness for granted,
To stay when someone needs,
To have courage to be vulnerable,
To love this world just enough to wake up to another day with hope.
不求回报地给予爱，
在不围绕自己的情况下交谈，
当对方情绪低落想说话时，真诚地倾听，
用闪烁的眼睛讲述世界的故事，
深入了解平等的秘密保守秘密，
勇于承担责任，
知道什么时候该主动，什么时候该沉默，
永远不要把爱和友善视为理所当然，
在有人需要的时候留下，
要有勇气面对脆弱，
爱这个世界，只为带着希望醒来迎接新的一天。
To converse without making it all around themselves,
To genuinely listen when the other is low and want to talk,
To narrate the stories of the world with gleaming eyes,
To intimately understand the secrets of equality and stand by it,
To subscribe to responsiblities without guilt,
To know when to give a great hug and silence,
To never take love and kindness for granted,
To stay when someone needs,
To have courage to be vulnerable,
To love this world just enough to wake up to another day with hope.
不求回报地给予爱，
在不围绕自己的情况下交谈，
当对方情绪低落想说话时，真诚地倾听，
用闪烁的眼睛讲述世界的故事，
深入了解平等的秘密保守秘密，
勇于承担责任，
知道什么时候该主动，什么时候该沉默，
永远不要把爱和友善视为理所当然，
在有人需要的时候留下，
要有勇气面对脆弱，
爱这个世界，只为带着希望醒来迎接新的一天。
Vedant Karia, studied at Birla High School (2016)
Empathy.
Sympathy undoubtedly is an essential quality, enabling us to comfort the other person. But empathy provides the person reassurance that he/she is not alone and, there is someone who can understand exactly what he/she is going through.
The ability to smile and believe when things are not going your way.
Politeness.
We cannot have enough of politeness in the world. It is probably the most important quality in human beings, which often goes unnoticed and unappreciated.
同理心：
同情心无疑是一种必不可少的品质，它使我们能够安慰他人。但同理心让人放心，他/她并不孤单—有人能确切地理解他/她正在经历的事情。
当事情不顺心时，能微笑面对和相信自己。
礼貌：
世界上的礼貌再多也不够。它可能是人类最重要的品质，但却经常被忽视和不被欣赏。
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Empathy.
Sympathy undoubtedly is an essential quality, enabling us to comfort the other person. But empathy provides the person reassurance that he/she is not alone and, there is someone who can understand exactly what he/she is going through.
The ability to smile and believe when things are not going your way.
Politeness.
We cannot have enough of politeness in the world. It is probably the most important quality in human beings, which often goes unnoticed and unappreciated.
同理心：
同情心无疑是一种必不可少的品质，它使我们能够安慰他人。但同理心让人放心，他/她并不孤单—有人能确切地理解他/她正在经历的事情。
当事情不顺心时，能微笑面对和相信自己。
礼貌：
世界上的礼貌再多也不够。它可能是人类最重要的品质，但却经常被忽视和不被欣赏。
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Dishari Chaudhuri, Feeling Quorious
I am not a perfect person. Neither do I intend to be one (I cannot be even if I try very hard. I wonder who would :) ). But over the time I have realised, that life can be lived the fullest if I can become a person with all the qualities that I have narrated here. I would love to become that kind of a person. Also I would admire the same in other people. Of course, these are my personal opinions and any kind of criticism is always welcome. :) So here I go:
1. Be Honest. People who can talk about their failures or wrong doings with almost the same amount of ease as they would while narrating some of the big achievements of their lives, tend to make themselves more approachable. I have seen people getting embarrassed while talking about certain examinations which they did not do well in or hiding about past relationships to their new girlfriends/boyfriends. Well they need not be! It is okay to fail in examinations or relationships. The person you are talking to has not had a perfect life either. No one's life is perfect. So shred all your inhibitions and come out. If the person you are talking to cannot take your failures in their stride may be is not worth making friends with anyway. Your true well wishers will never judge you for your failures. So never lie.
我不是也不想成为一个完美的人（即使我非常努力，我也不可能成为。我想知道谁会）。但随着时间的推移，我意识到，如果我能具备我在这里所讲述的所有品质，生活就能过得最充实。我很想成为那种人，也会羡慕其他具备这些品质的人。当然，这些都是我个人的意见，欢迎任何形式的批评，所以我要说：
老实说，那些能够轻松地谈论自己的失败或错误行为的人，就像他们在讲述自己生活中的一些重大成就时一样，倾向于让自己更加平易近人。我看到人们在谈论他们考得不好的某些考试时感到尴尬，或者对他们的新女友/男友隐瞒过去的恋情。其实他们不必如此!在考试或恋爱中失败也没关系。和你谈话的人也不是一个完美的生活。没有人的生活是完美的。所以打破你所有的禁忌，跳出来吧。如果和你谈话的人不能从容面对你的失败，那他就不值得和你交朋友，真心祝福你的人永远不会因为你的失败而评判你，所以不要说谎。
I am not a perfect person. Neither do I intend to be one (I cannot be even if I try very hard. I wonder who would :) ). But over the time I have realised, that life can be lived the fullest if I can become a person with all the qualities that I have narrated here. I would love to become that kind of a person. Also I would admire the same in other people. Of course, these are my personal opinions and any kind of criticism is always welcome. :) So here I go:
1. Be Honest. People who can talk about their failures or wrong doings with almost the same amount of ease as they would while narrating some of the big achievements of their lives, tend to make themselves more approachable. I have seen people getting embarrassed while talking about certain examinations which they did not do well in or hiding about past relationships to their new girlfriends/boyfriends. Well they need not be! It is okay to fail in examinations or relationships. The person you are talking to has not had a perfect life either. No one's life is perfect. So shred all your inhibitions and come out. If the person you are talking to cannot take your failures in their stride may be is not worth making friends with anyway. Your true well wishers will never judge you for your failures. So never lie.
我不是也不想成为一个完美的人（即使我非常努力，我也不可能成为。我想知道谁会）。但随着时间的推移，我意识到，如果我能具备我在这里所讲述的所有品质，生活就能过得最充实。我很想成为那种人，也会羡慕其他具备这些品质的人。当然，这些都是我个人的意见，欢迎任何形式的批评，所以我要说：
老实说，那些能够轻松地谈论自己的失败或错误行为的人，就像他们在讲述自己生活中的一些重大成就时一样，倾向于让自己更加平易近人。我看到人们在谈论他们考得不好的某些考试时感到尴尬，或者对他们的新女友/男友隐瞒过去的恋情。其实他们不必如此!在考试或恋爱中失败也没关系。和你谈话的人也不是一个完美的生活。没有人的生活是完美的。所以打破你所有的禁忌，跳出来吧。如果和你谈话的人不能从容面对你的失败，那他就不值得和你交朋友，真心祝福你的人永远不会因为你的失败而评判你，所以不要说谎。
2. Listen. Give some respect to the person you are talking to and listen to him instead of answering your calls or replying to messages on WhatsApp. Time is the most important gift you can give someone. If the person is talking about some problems he/she is having, try to come up with a solution in your own way. Of course it is not possible to give solutions every time, but your attitude to solve that person's problem (however insignificant it might seem to you) defines your own character. Providing a shoulder to cry on does not always help. But trying to solve it makes you a more reliable and trustworthy person.
听—尊重与你交谈的人，倾听他所说，而不是接听你的电话或回复WhatsApp上的信息。时间是你能给他人的最重要的礼物。如果对方正在谈论他/她遇到的一些问题，试着用你自己的方式想出一个解决方案。当然，不可能每次都能给出解决方案，但你解决那个人问题的态度（无论你觉得它多么微不足道）给你自己做出了定位。提供一个可以依靠的肩膀并不总是有帮助的。但试图解决它会让你成为他人心中的更可靠、更值得信赖的人。
听—尊重与你交谈的人，倾听他所说，而不是接听你的电话或回复WhatsApp上的信息。时间是你能给他人的最重要的礼物。如果对方正在谈论他/她遇到的一些问题，试着用你自己的方式想出一个解决方案。当然，不可能每次都能给出解决方案，但你解决那个人问题的态度（无论你觉得它多么微不足道）给你自己做出了定位。提供一个可以依靠的肩膀并不总是有帮助的。但试图解决它会让你成为他人心中的更可靠、更值得信赖的人。
3. Set goals. Set some goals for yourself. It may be your career or something else but make sure that is not related to any person. Be passionate about those. Try to achieve them. You may not succeed in the first attempt, but in the process of trial you will learn things beyond imagination. It is important to fail in life. It is the failures that make us what we are not our success. It is never like , "Shit, I am a loser. I cant even do it". It should be like, "Wow, now that I have failed I have nothing more to lose. Either I can fail again or I might just pass. Lets give it a shot." We dont know what feats we are capable of unless we dare to take that extra step. Plus we should not forget to be humble enough to keep our heads low once we achieve those goals. If we could do it, then anybody can. Dont be proud.
设定目标。为自己设定一些目标，这可能涉及你的职业或其他事情，但请确保这与任何人无关。但对这些充满激情，努力实现它们。第一次尝试可能不会成功，但在尝试的过程中，你会学到超乎想象的东西。在生活中的失败经历是很重要的。正是失败让我们知道我们不是成功者。这从来不像“妈的，我是个失败者，我甚至做不到”。反而应该是这样的：“哇，现在我失败了，我再也没有什么可失去的了。要么我可以再次失败，要么我可能成功。让我们试一试。”除非我们敢于迈出那额外的一步，否则我们不会知道我们能做出什么壮举。此外，一旦我们实现了这些目标，我们应该谦虚，不要傲娇。毕竟如果我们能做到，那么任何人都能做到，所以不要骄傲。
设定目标。为自己设定一些目标，这可能涉及你的职业或其他事情，但请确保这与任何人无关。但对这些充满激情，努力实现它们。第一次尝试可能不会成功，但在尝试的过程中，你会学到超乎想象的东西。在生活中的失败经历是很重要的。正是失败让我们知道我们不是成功者。这从来不像“妈的，我是个失败者，我甚至做不到”。反而应该是这样的：“哇，现在我失败了，我再也没有什么可失去的了。要么我可以再次失败，要么我可能成功。让我们试一试。”除非我们敢于迈出那额外的一步，否则我们不会知道我们能做出什么壮举。此外，一旦我们实现了这些目标，我们应该谦虚，不要傲娇。毕竟如果我们能做到，那么任何人都能做到，所以不要骄傲。
4. Be punctual. Yes! It is that important! These little things tell about your integrity and that you are a sincere person and be it family matters or professional, people can count on you. If you reach one hour late for a meeting, it does not give a good impression about you. It is not cool to reach at 9:30 at a party scheduled at 7:00. It is rude. Value other people's time and they will value you.
要准时—这很重要！这些小事说明了你是正直和真诚的人，无论是家庭问题还是职业问题，人们都可以信赖你。如果你开会迟到一个小时，他人对你的印象就不会好。原本预定7:00的聚会，却要9:30才到达的做法并不酷，反而显得无礼。珍惜别人的时间，他们就会珍惜你。
要准时—这很重要！这些小事说明了你是正直和真诚的人，无论是家庭问题还是职业问题，人们都可以信赖你。如果你开会迟到一个小时，他人对你的印象就不会好。原本预定7:00的聚会，却要9:30才到达的做法并不酷，反而显得无礼。珍惜别人的时间，他们就会珍惜你。
5. Think Before You Talk. Precisely the word is "tact". Know what to speak where or more correctly "how to speak". Sometimes your opinion is not required in a discussion. Learn to keep quiet there. Eg, suppose someone is very enthusiastic about collecting stamps and may be you find it a boring hobby. Dont go and tell him stuff like, " Man, what stupid boring things you are up to". That is none of your business! He has the right to like anything and everything given that his likes are not affecting your life in any way. So be tolerant. Or, suppose some friend of yours is obese and may be that person is not realising it. If you feel that it is your duty to warn your friend, then be tactful while saying it. Instead of saying, "My Goodness! You are fat, you need to reduce", you can come up with statements like " Oh Dear, you look good! But you know with a little bit of reduced weight you will look awesome!! Also I heard about certain diseases these days caused due to increase in weight. So may be we all should be very careful and hit the gym regularly. I am trying to do the same these days." Simple. Purpose solved and no one got hurt.
三思而后行。确切地说，这个词就是“得体”。知道什么场合说什么话或更准确地说懂“如何说”。有时讨论中不需要你的意见。在那时要学会保持安静。假设有人非常热衷于集邮，你可能会觉得这是一种无聊的爱好。不要去告诉他诸如“老兄，你在搞什么无聊的蠢事”。那不关你的事！他有权喜欢任何东西，只要他喜欢的东西不会以任何方式影响你的生活，所以要宽容。假设你的某个朋友很肥胖，然而本人却没有意识到。如果你觉得警告你的朋友是你的责任，那么说话时要得体。你不必说“我的天哪！你太胖了，你需要减肥”，你可以提出这样的说法“哦，天哪，你看起来不错！但是你知道，只要稍微减轻一点体重，你就会看起来更棒了！我还听说最近有些疾病是由于体重增加引起的。所以也许我们都应该非常小心，经常去健身房。这几天我也在试着做同样的事情。”说出的话简单，目标明确，不会让人受伤。
三思而后行。确切地说，这个词就是“得体”。知道什么场合说什么话或更准确地说懂“如何说”。有时讨论中不需要你的意见。在那时要学会保持安静。假设有人非常热衷于集邮，你可能会觉得这是一种无聊的爱好。不要去告诉他诸如“老兄，你在搞什么无聊的蠢事”。那不关你的事！他有权喜欢任何东西，只要他喜欢的东西不会以任何方式影响你的生活，所以要宽容。假设你的某个朋友很肥胖，然而本人却没有意识到。如果你觉得警告你的朋友是你的责任，那么说话时要得体。你不必说“我的天哪！你太胖了，你需要减肥”，你可以提出这样的说法“哦，天哪，你看起来不错！但是你知道，只要稍微减轻一点体重，你就会看起来更棒了！我还听说最近有些疾病是由于体重增加引起的。所以也许我们都应该非常小心，经常去健身房。这几天我也在试着做同样的事情。”说出的话简单，目标明确，不会让人受伤。
6. Be Crazy. A little bit of craziness never hurts. That one drunken night with your old friends or that crazy adventure to the top of the hill at midnight, then deciding to go out on a trip and immediately going out for it within half an hour forgetting all about your work, well later on in life you will feel those were the moments when you actually lived your life. Letting yourself go once in a while is the best gift you can give yourself. It will make you happy and a more carefree person. And that will be felt by the people around you.
7.Smile. No need to say anything much here.
狂热。稍微不理智一点并没有坏处。某个晚上和你的老朋友共醉一场；或在午夜疯狂一把爬到山顶；或突然决定抛下工作并在半小时内出去旅行，,在以后的生活中,你会觉得那些时刻是你的高光时刻。偶尔放纵一下自己是你给自己最好的礼物。它让你快乐，让你成为一个无忧无虑的人，你周围的人也会感受到这一点。
微笑。这方面就不需要多说什么。
7.Smile. No need to say anything much here.
狂热。稍微不理智一点并没有坏处。某个晚上和你的老朋友共醉一场；或在午夜疯狂一把爬到山顶；或突然决定抛下工作并在半小时内出去旅行，,在以后的生活中,你会觉得那些时刻是你的高光时刻。偶尔放纵一下自己是你给自己最好的礼物。它让你快乐，让你成为一个无忧无虑的人，你周围的人也会感受到这一点。
微笑。这方面就不需要多说什么。
Michelle Lin, studied at Valencia High School
米歇尔·林，就读于巴伦西亚高中
米歇尔·林，就读于巴伦西亚高中
Understanding: This is very important for me personally because it means that I can share personal things that I normally wouldn’t share with other people—it tells me that I can trust them.
Sincerity: There’s nothing better than a person who does something out of genuine interest and not to impress people, to do for their college applications, to do to look smart, etc.
Patience: Often the times, I seem very aloof and detached. I would greatly appreciate it if someone could be patient with me and anybody else instead of probing for my secrets when I just met them or trying to pull me out of my safety closet.
Genuine Kindness: This for me is the easiest to tell through what a person says or thinks. Almost everyone likes a person who is truly kind in their heart and not for personal gain or satisfaction.
理解:我个人认为这一点非常重要，因为这意味着我可以和别人分享我一般不会和别人分享的私人事情，这告诉我我可以信任他们。
真诚:没有什么比一个人出于真正的兴趣做一些事情更好了，因此不要为了特意去给别人留下印象、为了申请大学、为了看起来聪明等等而去做某事。
耐心:通常情况下，我显得非常冷漠和超然。如果有人能耐心地对待我和其他任何人，而不是在我刚遇到他们时探听我的秘密，或者试图把我从安全密室里拉出来，我将不胜感激。
真诚的善意:我认为这是最容易通过一个人说什么或想什么来看出来的。几乎每个人都喜欢真正内心善良的人，而不喜欢追求个人利益或个人满足的人。
Sincerity: There’s nothing better than a person who does something out of genuine interest and not to impress people, to do for their college applications, to do to look smart, etc.
Patience: Often the times, I seem very aloof and detached. I would greatly appreciate it if someone could be patient with me and anybody else instead of probing for my secrets when I just met them or trying to pull me out of my safety closet.
Genuine Kindness: This for me is the easiest to tell through what a person says or thinks. Almost everyone likes a person who is truly kind in their heart and not for personal gain or satisfaction.
理解:我个人认为这一点非常重要，因为这意味着我可以和别人分享我一般不会和别人分享的私人事情，这告诉我我可以信任他们。
真诚:没有什么比一个人出于真正的兴趣做一些事情更好了，因此不要为了特意去给别人留下印象、为了申请大学、为了看起来聪明等等而去做某事。
耐心:通常情况下，我显得非常冷漠和超然。如果有人能耐心地对待我和其他任何人，而不是在我刚遇到他们时探听我的秘密，或者试图把我从安全密室里拉出来，我将不胜感激。
真诚的善意:我认为这是最容易通过一个人说什么或想什么来看出来的。几乎每个人都喜欢真正内心善良的人，而不喜欢追求个人利益或个人满足的人。
Gaitsiri Mongkolsmai Lin, Don't act under the influence of dangerous emotions.
I like people who:
First do no harm. People should take a neutral, but compassionate and kind position when dealing with anyone. Remember that your expectations and biases are your own.
Keep an open mind. Everyone is an individual. Listen, accept, and don't judge too harshly. People can be wrong, people can be right, and people can make mistakes. You are a person, too. Try not to apply the cognitive bias that tends to sway human thinking.
Stop and think. Before you do anything, have the self-control and common sense to count to ten as many times as needed before you do something. Even in a emergency situation, a split second decision is built on weighing what needs to be done subconsciously. The least you can do is apply the time you have to good consideration, before you speak or act.
我喜欢这样的人：
首先，不要伤害别人。与任何人打交道时，人们都应该采取中立、但富有同情心和友善的立场。记住你的期望和偏见仅仅代表你自己。
保持开放的心态。每个人都是独立个体。倾听，接受，不要过于苛刻地评判。他人可能是错的，也可能是对的，是人就可能会犯错误。你也是一个人，尽量不要应用那些会影响人类思维的认知偏见。
停下来想想。在你做任何事情之前，要有自制力和常识，在你做某事之前，即使在紧急情况下也尽可能从一数到十。瞬间的决定也需要在潜意识中权衡需要怎么做。你能做的至少是在你说话或行动之前，花时间好好考虑一下。
I like people who:
First do no harm. People should take a neutral, but compassionate and kind position when dealing with anyone. Remember that your expectations and biases are your own.
Keep an open mind. Everyone is an individual. Listen, accept, and don't judge too harshly. People can be wrong, people can be right, and people can make mistakes. You are a person, too. Try not to apply the cognitive bias that tends to sway human thinking.
Stop and think. Before you do anything, have the self-control and common sense to count to ten as many times as needed before you do something. Even in a emergency situation, a split second decision is built on weighing what needs to be done subconsciously. The least you can do is apply the time you have to good consideration, before you speak or act.
我喜欢这样的人：
首先，不要伤害别人。与任何人打交道时，人们都应该采取中立、但富有同情心和友善的立场。记住你的期望和偏见仅仅代表你自己。
保持开放的心态。每个人都是独立个体。倾听，接受，不要过于苛刻地评判。他人可能是错的，也可能是对的，是人就可能会犯错误。你也是一个人，尽量不要应用那些会影响人类思维的认知偏见。
停下来想想。在你做任何事情之前，要有自制力和常识，在你做某事之前，即使在紧急情况下也尽可能从一数到十。瞬间的决定也需要在潜意识中权衡需要怎么做。你能做的至少是在你说话或行动之前，花时间好好考虑一下。
My point is:
We all have unique experiences, yet we share the same world. Because we are not alone, we must learn to live with others. Because we cannot fully understand anyone but ourselves, we should not judge others. Rather, we should accept that we all face the challenge of living and growing, and honor the variety in the human experience. Based on our own experiences, we can delve into our souls and try to become better people. As we begin to understand ourselves, the parts of us that are inherent in being human, and what makes us uniquely ourselves, we can start sharing our experiences with others. In sharing, we may receive support and encouragement, and also give our support and encouragement to others. We can try to gently guide others toward understanding themselves, and at the same time learn even more about ourselves.
We can't know everything, we can't be perfect, and we can't live forever, but at least we can spend our lives putting our best foot forward in each moment, earnestly listening to and learning from ourselves and others.
Life is full of teaching and learning. Some people talk but don't teach, and some listen, but don't learn.
我的观点是：
我们都有独特的经历，但我们共享同一个世界。我们不是孤独的，我们必须学会与他人一起生活。因为除了我们自己，我们不能完全理解任何人，我们不应该评判别人。相反，我们应该接受我们都面临着生存和成长的挑战，并尊重人类经历的多样性。基于我们自己的经验，我们可以深入我们的灵魂，努力成为更好的人。当我们开始了解我们自己，了解我们作为人类固有的部分，了解是什么让我们成为独一无二的自己时，我们就可以开始与他人分享我们的经验。在分享中，我们可以得到支持和鼓励，也可以给予他人我们的支持和鼓励。我们可以试着温和地引导他人了解自己，同时更多地了解自己。
我们不可能无所不知，不可能十全十美，也不可能永远活着，但至少我们可以在一生的时间里每一刻都向前迈出最好的一步，认真倾听和了解自己以及他人的心声，
生活充满了教与学。有些人说但不教，有些人听但不学。
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We all have unique experiences, yet we share the same world. Because we are not alone, we must learn to live with others. Because we cannot fully understand anyone but ourselves, we should not judge others. Rather, we should accept that we all face the challenge of living and growing, and honor the variety in the human experience. Based on our own experiences, we can delve into our souls and try to become better people. As we begin to understand ourselves, the parts of us that are inherent in being human, and what makes us uniquely ourselves, we can start sharing our experiences with others. In sharing, we may receive support and encouragement, and also give our support and encouragement to others. We can try to gently guide others toward understanding themselves, and at the same time learn even more about ourselves.
We can't know everything, we can't be perfect, and we can't live forever, but at least we can spend our lives putting our best foot forward in each moment, earnestly listening to and learning from ourselves and others.
Life is full of teaching and learning. Some people talk but don't teach, and some listen, but don't learn.
我的观点是：
我们都有独特的经历，但我们共享同一个世界。我们不是孤独的，我们必须学会与他人一起生活。因为除了我们自己，我们不能完全理解任何人，我们不应该评判别人。相反，我们应该接受我们都面临着生存和成长的挑战，并尊重人类经历的多样性。基于我们自己的经验，我们可以深入我们的灵魂，努力成为更好的人。当我们开始了解我们自己，了解我们作为人类固有的部分，了解是什么让我们成为独一无二的自己时，我们就可以开始与他人分享我们的经验。在分享中，我们可以得到支持和鼓励，也可以给予他人我们的支持和鼓励。我们可以试着温和地引导他人了解自己，同时更多地了解自己。
我们不可能无所不知，不可能十全十美，也不可能永远活着，但至少我们可以在一生的时间里每一刻都向前迈出最好的一步，认真倾听和了解自己以及他人的心声，
生活充满了教与学。有些人说但不教，有些人听但不学。
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Umang Singhal
I always admire people who refrain from standing on the middle grounds or who choose not to remain neutral. Passersby are the worst breed of all.
When I was 15 year old, we, I and my mother were going to my maternal grandmother's home. That area was famous for its dacoits. It is filled with jungles. We were in a car. A car overtook us and 5 min later it hit a tree. By the time we reached there, I could see the bodies crawling out of the car, but we didn't stopped at that time. Mom was terrified, I was in fear and even the driver was shaking. We drove forward without stopping.
This incident is of last year. I was planning to go to home town. I booked a taxi, as I was in no condition to go by bus or train. A bus overtook us on road and it got overturned at some distance. We reached at that spot. I got out of car immediately and helped couple to passengers to come out. Even got a bit of hand scratched by glass pieces, served them with bottle of water. A bit later, many vehicles passing by, stopped and helped the people. Police also came there in 20 minutes. I went back home realizing I have finally changed myself.
我一直很欣赏那些不站在中间立场或选择不保持中立的人。中立派是最糟糕的人。
当我在15岁的时候，我和我的母亲去我的外祖母的家。那个地区以其盗贼出没而闻名，那里到处都是丛林。一辆车超过了我们的车，并在5分钟后撞上了一棵树。当我们到达现场，我看到有人从车里爬出来，但我们当时并没有停下车。妈妈吓坏了，我也很害怕，甚至司机都在发抖。我们不停地向前驶去。
这件事是去年发生的：我打算回家乡。我打了一辆出租车，因为我的身体状况不适合乘公共汽车或火车。一辆公共汽车在路上超过了我们后在不远之处翻车。我们到达了那个地点后我立刻下了车，扶着一对乘客出来。当时甚至被玻璃碎片划伤手，另外提供给他们一瓶水。过了一会儿，许多车辆经过并停下来提供帮助，警察也在20分钟内赶到了现场。我回到家后意识到我终于改变了自己。
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I always admire people who refrain from standing on the middle grounds or who choose not to remain neutral. Passersby are the worst breed of all.
When I was 15 year old, we, I and my mother were going to my maternal grandmother's home. That area was famous for its dacoits. It is filled with jungles. We were in a car. A car overtook us and 5 min later it hit a tree. By the time we reached there, I could see the bodies crawling out of the car, but we didn't stopped at that time. Mom was terrified, I was in fear and even the driver was shaking. We drove forward without stopping.
This incident is of last year. I was planning to go to home town. I booked a taxi, as I was in no condition to go by bus or train. A bus overtook us on road and it got overturned at some distance. We reached at that spot. I got out of car immediately and helped couple to passengers to come out. Even got a bit of hand scratched by glass pieces, served them with bottle of water. A bit later, many vehicles passing by, stopped and helped the people. Police also came there in 20 minutes. I went back home realizing I have finally changed myself.
我一直很欣赏那些不站在中间立场或选择不保持中立的人。中立派是最糟糕的人。
当我在15岁的时候，我和我的母亲去我的外祖母的家。那个地区以其盗贼出没而闻名，那里到处都是丛林。一辆车超过了我们的车，并在5分钟后撞上了一棵树。当我们到达现场，我看到有人从车里爬出来，但我们当时并没有停下车。妈妈吓坏了，我也很害怕，甚至司机都在发抖。我们不停地向前驶去。
这件事是去年发生的：我打算回家乡。我打了一辆出租车，因为我的身体状况不适合乘公共汽车或火车。一辆公共汽车在路上超过了我们后在不远之处翻车。我们到达了那个地点后我立刻下了车，扶着一对乘客出来。当时甚至被玻璃碎片划伤手，另外提供给他们一瓶水。过了一会儿，许多车辆经过并停下来提供帮助，警察也在20分钟内赶到了现场。我回到家后意识到我终于改变了自己。
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Hung Tran
While some very successful people once set their goal to be married, have kids, money etc, but they forget about fun.
I have a friend named Igor, and he once told me about his grandfather, he was 97, he smoke all day, he drinks everyday too, not the kind of drinking to death mind you, one day on a camping trip he saw a log on the river, he jumps up on it and played like a children, he fell, broke his leg, he died few months later, his old age could not fix the broken leg.
At 97 he still acts and have fun like a child and that's admirable.
NEVER FORGET ABOUT FUN!
虽然一些非常成功的人曾经设定了结婚、生孩子、赚钱等目标，但他们忘记了乐趣。
我有一个朋友叫伊戈尔，他曾经告诉我关于他的祖父的事：他97岁，整天抽烟喝酒，当然不是那种作死的喝哈，在某一次野营旅行中，他看到河边有一根圆木，他跳到上面，像个孩子一样玩耍，他摔倒了，摔断了腿，几个月后就死了，他因年纪大而无法修复那条断了的腿。
在97岁的时候，他仍然像个孩子一样行动和快乐，这是令人钦佩的。
永远不要忘记找乐子！
While some very successful people once set their goal to be married, have kids, money etc, but they forget about fun.
I have a friend named Igor, and he once told me about his grandfather, he was 97, he smoke all day, he drinks everyday too, not the kind of drinking to death mind you, one day on a camping trip he saw a log on the river, he jumps up on it and played like a children, he fell, broke his leg, he died few months later, his old age could not fix the broken leg.
At 97 he still acts and have fun like a child and that's admirable.
NEVER FORGET ABOUT FUN!
虽然一些非常成功的人曾经设定了结婚、生孩子、赚钱等目标，但他们忘记了乐趣。
我有一个朋友叫伊戈尔，他曾经告诉我关于他的祖父的事：他97岁，整天抽烟喝酒，当然不是那种作死的喝哈，在某一次野营旅行中，他看到河边有一根圆木，他跳到上面，像个孩子一样玩耍，他摔倒了，摔断了腿，几个月后就死了，他因年纪大而无法修复那条断了的腿。
在97岁的时候，他仍然像个孩子一样行动和快乐，这是令人钦佩的。
永远不要忘记找乐子！
Tiya Gorain
The most important qualities for me are honesty, humility & a good sense of humor. I find it's easy to connect with people who have humility as they are more approachable and easy to talk to. Honesty is also important as I feel I can trust honest people. A good sense of humor endears people to everyone else & helps to break the ice faster.
对我来说，最重要的品质是诚实、谦逊和幽默感。我发现与谦逊的人交流很容易，因为他们更容易让人接近，也更容易与之交谈。诚实也很重要，因为我觉得我可以信任诚实的人。良好的幽默感更能得到其他人的喜爱，有助于更快地打破僵局。
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The most important qualities for me are honesty, humility & a good sense of humor. I find it's easy to connect with people who have humility as they are more approachable and easy to talk to. Honesty is also important as I feel I can trust honest people. A good sense of humor endears people to everyone else & helps to break the ice faster.
对我来说，最重要的品质是诚实、谦逊和幽默感。我发现与谦逊的人交流很容易，因为他们更容易让人接近，也更容易与之交谈。诚实也很重要，因为我觉得我可以信任诚实的人。良好的幽默感更能得到其他人的喜爱，有助于更快地打破僵局。
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