我们的儿子已经30岁了,但他仍在收集各种比例模型和机器人玩偶。我们应该做什么吗?
2021-10-10 翱翔精灵 22648
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Our son is already 30 years old and he still collects action figures and scale models of robots. What should we do?

我们的儿子已经 30 岁了,但他仍在收集各种比例模型玩偶。我们应该做什么吗?

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Jose Bustamante
Include such things in your list of potential gift options for his birthday.
Oh! You were asking what you should do to get him to abandon his hobby? That's easy:
Not a damned thing.
For starters, he's an adult, so you have no rights in the matter.
On top of that, it's a hobby, no different from collecting stamps or building model ships and planes. Hobbies are healthy, so long as they don't interfere with one's responsibilities or harm anyone.
In addition, hobbies which have their roots in childhood joys and interests are mentally and emotionally helpful, stabilizing influences.
Finally, he's a fewkin' adult! You have no right to interfere in his choice of leisure pursuits!
Seriously, what in the world makes you think you have any rights in this or can accomplish anything positive by refusing to respect his life choices? Are you actively trying to drive him out of your lives entirely?

在送给他生日的礼物选择列表中加入这些东西。
哦!你问你应该怎么做才能让他放弃他的爱好?这很容易:但这是什么鬼?
首先,他是成年人,所以你在这件事上没有任何权利干涉他。
最重要的是,这是一种爱好,与收集邮票或建造船模或是航模没有什么不同。爱好是健康的,只要它不干扰一个人应该承担的责任或伤害其他人。
此外,根植于童年快乐和兴趣的爱好对精神和情感有帮助,具有稳定作用。
最后,他是一个成年人了!你们无权干涉他对休闲活动的选择!说真的,到底是什么让你们认为有任何权利、或者可以通过拒绝尊重他的生活选择来完成任何积极的事情?你们是不是在极力试图把他完全驱逐出你们的生活?
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Bookie Bear
My husband is 30 and still loves building starwars things out of Legos. I fail to see where the problem is with him collecting figures. If he's using your money, without permission, then take away access to your money. If he's spending all of his own money and still living in your house, and you want him out, then the action figures isn't the question, it's how to get my 30 year old son out of my house on his own feet like any adult should. But if the only problem you have is with your son is he is buying action figures, then I would believe you did a pretty good job at raising him, there are much worse things he can he doing with his time and money.
So, if you are happy with everything else and want to know what to do, have him give you a list of his favorites, or figures he wants and go out and buy him one or two for his birthday, or Christmas, or any other special occasion.

我丈夫已经 30 岁了,但仍然喜欢用乐高积木建造星球大战的东西。我看不出这种收藏行为有什么问题。如果他是在未经允许的情况下用了你们的钱,那么就保管好你们的钱。如果他花掉了自己所有的钱还住在你们的房子里,而你们又想让他离开,那么这些玩偶并不是问题,问题是如何让30 岁的儿子像其他人一样从家里走出去做成年人应该做的事。但如果您的儿子唯一的问题只是购买可动人偶,那么我相信您在抚养他方面做得很好,毕竟他可能会浪费时间和金钱做更糟糕的事情。
所以,如果你们对其他一切都很满意,想知道该怎么做,让他给你们一份他最喜欢的清单,或者他想要的种类,然后买一两个作为他的生日、圣诞节或其他任何时候特殊场合的礼物。

Dina M
Nothing. Your son simply has what people generally call “a hobby.” It's very common for adult people to have hobbies. Some people collect stamps or coins, some people play snooker, some people go hiking or play recreational sports, some people play an instrument, some people write fanfiction for popular TV shows. And some people collect action figures.
Be happy that your son has an interest.

没什么,你的儿子只是有人们通常所说的“爱好”。成年人有爱好是很常见的。有些人收集邮票或硬币,有些人打斯诺克,有些人去远足或休闲运动,有些人演奏乐器,有些人为流行的电视节目写小说,有些人喜欢收集动作人物玩偶。
很高兴你的儿子有兴趣。

Karen Muriello
Let him. Is it so different from people who collect elaborate dolls, or model cars? In my humble experience, grown men can still be grown men and keep childhood tokens.

让他去吧,这和收集玩具娃娃或模型汽车有什么不同吗?以我个人经验,即使成年了,男人们仍会保留童心。

Sandra Huibers
Why do you need to “do” anything about this?
He collects something he's interested in. That's normal.

为什么你们需要“做”什么?
他收集自己感兴趣的东西。这在正常不过了。
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Yuki Frost
Hobbies are meant to full our down time and make us happy. it’s ok to like things that may seem childish regardless of your age. If he doesn’t have a social life outside of collection then it may be time to encourage him to see a Tharapist so he can learn to balance his life more properly. If that’s not the case then just let I'm enjoy things. He’s fine.

爱好旨在充实我们的休息时间并使我们快乐。不管你的年龄大小,都可以喜欢即使看起来幼稚的东西。如果他在这个爱好之外没有社交生活,那么或许是时候鼓励他去看心理医生,这样他可以学会更恰当地平衡自己的生活。如果不是这样,那么就让他享受吧,这并不坏。

Thomas O'Connor
Nothing, some people collect stamps, others collect baseball cards, others action figures.
I have a wife and a family, a car and a home with a mortgage, in the attic room of my house, I have my office set up for my work, and also my collection of star wars action figures displayed, I have 4 thousand at last count.
As long as it is just a hobby, and he is not wasting all his time and money on it, then there is no problem.

这没什么,有些人收集邮票,有些人收集棒球卡,有些人收集动作玩偶。
我有妻子和家庭,有车有房,有抵押贷款,在我家的阁楼里,我建立了自己的工作间,还有我收藏的星球大战动作玩偶,现在统计已经超过了 4000 多个了。
所以如果这只是爱好,而且他没有把所有的时间和金钱都浪费在上面,那就没有问题。

Drake Stanton
Encourage him to keep them in good shape so that when he eventually sells them, he gets more money for them!
Other than that (and maybe a quick word about keeping them off the floor where they can be stepped on or chewed up by the dog), leave him be. He’s an adult now, and his hobby doesn’t hurt anyone (unless, of course, someone steps on one he left on the floor).

鼓励他维护好它们的良好状态,这样当他最终出售它们时,它们会为他获得更多的钱!
除此之外(也许是让它们远离地板,以免它们被狗咬或踩到),让他去吧。他现在是成年人了,他的爱好不会伤害任何人(当然,除非有人踩到他放在地板上的那个)。

Nancy Denmark
You should do nothing. Your son is a grown man and can spend his money in what he chooses. If that is what he wants to collect, what is the problem? Now if you are paying for them, then stop giving him the money for them. If he is paying for them, leave him alone. Maybe he is collecting them because one day they may be worth more money one day or whether he is collecting them just because he enjoys it, that is up to him. He can do what he wants with his money.

你们不应该做什么。他已经成年了,可以把钱花在他自己选择的地方。如果这就是他要收集的东西,那有什么问题呢?如果现在是你们为他付钱,那就不要再给他钱了。如果他为它们付钱,那就让他自己去吧。也许他收集这些是因为有一天会升值,或者只是因为喜欢而收集,这取决于他。他可以用他的钱做任何他想做的事。

Jerome Campbell
You do know it's actually common for a men his age to collect and play toys right? I mean I would like to know the reason why some older men collect and still play with toys but it really common. So I wouldn't do anything to your son, it isn't like he is hurting anyone, I just let him be.

你知道对于这个年龄段的男人来说,收集和玩玩具是很常见的,对吧?我的意思是你们想知道为什么一些成年男人仍然搜集和玩玩具,但这真的很常见。所以不要对你儿子做任何事,他不会伤害任何人,就这么让他去吧。

Walt Huber
Sounds like he has a hobby. Why do you seem to take that as a negative.
Support his hobby. It can provide a easy choice for gifts for holidays.

听起来他有一个爱好。为什么你们似乎认为这是消极的。支持他的爱好吧,这样可以为赠送节日礼物提供一个简单的选择。

Celia Savage
At 30, your son is his own man and making his own decisions. If he enjoys collecting action figures and robots, so be it. There is nothing that you can do, other than to help him to consider some other alternatives to enhance his life. It sounds as if he is still living at home with you, so does he go out much? Des he have friends whose interests he might share? On the other hand, if his collection is bringing him joy, that’s fine.. and, you never know but he might have created a valuable asset.

30 岁了,你们的儿子属于他自己并且可以自己做决定。如果他喜欢收集玩偶,那就这样吧。除了帮助他考虑一些其他选择来改善他的生活之外,你们无能为力。听起来他还和你一起住在家里,所以他经常出去吗?他有朋友可以分享他们的兴趣吗?另一方面,如果他的收藏给他带来快乐,那很好……而且,你们永远无法预测或许他创造了一笔宝贵的资产。

Mau Hidalgo
Let him continue with what he loves to do and be happy, just as easy as that.
And you… Be thankful that he’s not in drugs, or alcoholism.

让他继续做他喜欢做的事情并快乐,就这么简单。
而你们……应该庆幸他没有吸毒或酗酒。

John Hogan
I'm glad to hear he doesn't collect exotic & venomous reptiles or enjoys playing with various forms of explosives…
if he still lives with you, encouraging him to find a place of his own might distract him.
BTWay some scale models and action figures can end up be worth more than you might think….

很高兴听到他不是在收集异国情调的有毒爬行动物,也不喜欢玩各种爆炸物……
如果他仍然和你住在一起,鼓励他找一个属于自己的地方可能会分散他的注意力。
顺便说一句,一些比例模型和人偶最终可能比你们想象的更有价值…

Cankun Xiao
I've been buying toys, and I've been buying all kinds of new things that I'm interested in, so it's not surprising. I am 28 years old.
Everyone has a hobby, not addiction. No need to look at anyone. Whenever I buy a lot of Legos and pile them on the table, I see other people's faces actually swallowing drool.
There is so much pressure in today's society that everyone needs an outlet. For myself, buying toys, playing toys, playing games, is a kind of pressure, relaxation, better than smoking, drinking.

我一直在买各种我感兴趣的新玩意儿和玩具,所以这并不奇怪。我28岁了。
每个人都有自己的爱好,而不是瘾。不需要看任何人。每当我买了很多乐高积木堆在桌子上时,我看到其他人的脸实际上都在流口水。
当今社会压力太大,每个人都需要一个发泄口。对我自己来说,买玩具、玩玩具、玩游戏,是一种压力、放松,胜过抽烟喝酒。

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