你怎么能让一个英国女孩知道你的存在(一)
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How can you get a British girl to even know you exist?
你怎么能让一个英国女孩知道你的存在?
How can you get a British girl to even know you exist?
你怎么能让一个英国女孩知道你的存在?
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Subham Burnwal, give the people something unconventional, they always need it the most.
Subham Burnwal，给人们提供一些非传统总是最需要的的东西。
Subham Burnwal，给人们提供一些非传统总是最需要的的东西。
If you are a boy and you want a boyfriend I donno how to answer that.
So let me assume you are a girl. Hence I can help you.
Now, I am 24 and yet to find a girl who can commit to me. I have met few girls around my age group and most of them can not be my girlfriend for their individual reasons.
About me?
I have completed my engineering from an elite institute in India (next week is my convocation).
I am working in a company which pays me enough to be able to afford a girlfriend.
I can crack little situational jokes sometimes . You may like them when we are, to say, in a restaurant sitting facing each other waiting for our meal.
I can even help you identify your true potential and make you realize about the same. And I will support you with your decisions. Will motivate you to pursue your dreams and will help you find reasons to believe in you as I will always believe in you, till the time you get convinced to believe in yourself.
如果你是个男孩，你想要一个男朋友，我不知道该怎么回答。
所以让我假设你是个女孩。因此我可以帮助你。
现在，我24岁了，还没有找到一个可以给我承诺的女孩。在我这个年龄段，我遇到的女孩很少，大多数都因为个人原因不能成为我的女朋友。
关于我？
我已经在印度一所精英学院完成了我的工程设计（下周是我的毕业典礼）。
我在一家公司工作，工资足够我交一个女朋友。
我有时会讲一些情景笑话，比方说，当我们在一家餐厅面对面地坐着等着吃饭时，你可能会喜欢我这样做。
我甚至可以帮助你发现自己真正的潜力，让你认识到这一点。我会支持你的决定。会激励你追求梦想，会帮助你找到相信你的理由，就像我永远相信你一样，直到你相信自己。
So let me assume you are a girl. Hence I can help you.
Now, I am 24 and yet to find a girl who can commit to me. I have met few girls around my age group and most of them can not be my girlfriend for their individual reasons.
About me?
I have completed my engineering from an elite institute in India (next week is my convocation).
I am working in a company which pays me enough to be able to afford a girlfriend.
I can crack little situational jokes sometimes . You may like them when we are, to say, in a restaurant sitting facing each other waiting for our meal.
I can even help you identify your true potential and make you realize about the same. And I will support you with your decisions. Will motivate you to pursue your dreams and will help you find reasons to believe in you as I will always believe in you, till the time you get convinced to believe in yourself.
如果你是个男孩，你想要一个男朋友，我不知道该怎么回答。
所以让我假设你是个女孩。因此我可以帮助你。
现在，我24岁了，还没有找到一个可以给我承诺的女孩。在我这个年龄段，我遇到的女孩很少，大多数都因为个人原因不能成为我的女朋友。
关于我？
我已经在印度一所精英学院完成了我的工程设计（下周是我的毕业典礼）。
我在一家公司工作，工资足够我交一个女朋友。
我有时会讲一些情景笑话，比方说，当我们在一家餐厅面对面地坐着等着吃饭时，你可能会喜欢我这样做。
我甚至可以帮助你发现自己真正的潜力，让你认识到这一点。我会支持你的决定。会激励你追求梦想，会帮助你找到相信你的理由，就像我永远相信你一样，直到你相信自己。
I am capable of doing a lot of things; though all I need is someone to keep telling me repeatedly that I can do it. I am very bad at focussing on something and go astray quite often. But whenever I am reminded of my goal I revert back immediately on my task. So given that, I can conquer the Himalayas or may be even more.
I will expect you to love me and take care of me. As I am very bad at nurturing myself though very good at taking care of someone else. So I can take care of you. :)
I will go meet your parents and family and also take you with me to meet my parents and family and will officially declare you as my girlfriend.
When on a festive occasion we are in a mall/ cineplex/ auditorium, etc. I will shout aloud to people till a majority of them are looking at me, then I will pull you (by your waist) closer to me and will shout aloud your name and will say, "I love you".
I don't think you need to do much now that you have put up this question.
It is for the sake of not making my answer a prolonged essay I need to cut it short.
Hope my marketing was good enough to get you convinced.
Thanks for reading! :)
我有能力做很多事情；虽然我所需要的只是有人不断地告诉我我能做到。我十分不擅长专注于某件事，经常容易分心。但每当我想起我的目标时，我就会立即回到我的任务上来。因此，考虑到这一点，我可以征服喜马拉雅山，甚至可以征服更多。
我希望你爱我，照顾我。虽然我很擅长照顾别人，但我很不擅长照顾自己，确是如此我才能照顾你。
我会去见你的父母和家人，也会带你去见我的父母和家人，并正式宣布你为我的女朋友。
在节日期间，我们在商场/电影院/礼堂等地时，我会大声向人们喊叫，直到大多数人都在看着我，然后我会拉着你（抱着你的腰）靠近我，大声喊出你的名字，说“我爱你”。
既然你提出了这个问题，我认为你不需要做太多。
为了不让我的回答成为一篇冗长的文章，我需要把它缩短。
希望我的营销足够好，能让你信服。
感谢阅读！
I will expect you to love me and take care of me. As I am very bad at nurturing myself though very good at taking care of someone else. So I can take care of you. :)
I will go meet your parents and family and also take you with me to meet my parents and family and will officially declare you as my girlfriend.
When on a festive occasion we are in a mall/ cineplex/ auditorium, etc. I will shout aloud to people till a majority of them are looking at me, then I will pull you (by your waist) closer to me and will shout aloud your name and will say, "I love you".
I don't think you need to do much now that you have put up this question.
It is for the sake of not making my answer a prolonged essay I need to cut it short.
Hope my marketing was good enough to get you convinced.
Thanks for reading! :)
我有能力做很多事情；虽然我所需要的只是有人不断地告诉我我能做到。我十分不擅长专注于某件事，经常容易分心。但每当我想起我的目标时，我就会立即回到我的任务上来。因此，考虑到这一点，我可以征服喜马拉雅山，甚至可以征服更多。
我希望你爱我，照顾我。虽然我很擅长照顾别人，但我很不擅长照顾自己，确是如此我才能照顾你。
我会去见你的父母和家人，也会带你去见我的父母和家人，并正式宣布你为我的女朋友。
在节日期间，我们在商场/电影院/礼堂等地时，我会大声向人们喊叫，直到大多数人都在看着我，然后我会拉着你（抱着你的腰）靠近我，大声喊出你的名字，说“我爱你”。
既然你提出了这个问题，我认为你不需要做太多。
为了不让我的回答成为一篇冗长的文章，我需要把它缩短。
希望我的营销足够好，能让你信服。
感谢阅读！
Jessica Sampson, I have a really good douchebag filter...
This is very flattering to British women ^_^ Sadly, it is not true of every one of them...
I feel I'm in a great position to answer this because I am a British girl who is 23. I can say with certainty, that you don't necessarily need to be rich and/or good looking to get a british girl. There may be some women out there who want this, and have high standards and so on and so on, but this is just shallow and would you really want to be with someone who only values you for those reasons?
If you are a little bit confident and have something new, interesting, funny or even quirky to bring to the table then you stand as much chance as any British guy does when talking to a British girl. All you need to do is go say 'hi' as Diniel Patel suggests. There really is no big secret. You have to put yourself out there and take a chance. If you are shy and nervous we, like girls from anywhere, will pick up on that and probably turn our attention elsewhere. If you are also just openly staring then that might put us, and any, girl off as well. Try to act casual, as you would with a girl from anywhere else in the world, smile and just say hi! :)
这是对英国女性的一种恭维，遗憾的是，并不是每个人都是这样。
我觉得我很有资格回答这个问题，因为我是一个23岁的英国女孩。我可以肯定地说，要得到一个英国女孩，你不一定非得富有和/或漂亮。也许有一些女性想要这样，并且有很高的标准等等，但这只是肤浅的，你真的想和一个只因为这些原因才重视你的人在一起吗？
如果你有一点自信，并且有一些新的、有趣的、滑稽的甚至古怪的东西可以摆到桌面上，那么当你与英国女孩交谈时，你和任何英国男人一样有机会。你所需要做的就是按照迪尼尔·帕特尔（ Diniel Patel）的建议说声“嗨”。其实没有什么大秘密。你得主动出击，抓住机会。如果你害羞和紧张，我们就像来自任何地方的女孩一样，会注意到这一点，并可能把注意力转移到其他地方。如果你也只是公开地盯着看，那么这可能会让我们，以及任何一个女孩，感到不快。试着表现得随意些，就像你对待来自世界各地的女孩一样，微笑着打招呼！
This is very flattering to British women ^_^ Sadly, it is not true of every one of them...
I feel I'm in a great position to answer this because I am a British girl who is 23. I can say with certainty, that you don't necessarily need to be rich and/or good looking to get a british girl. There may be some women out there who want this, and have high standards and so on and so on, but this is just shallow and would you really want to be with someone who only values you for those reasons?
If you are a little bit confident and have something new, interesting, funny or even quirky to bring to the table then you stand as much chance as any British guy does when talking to a British girl. All you need to do is go say 'hi' as Diniel Patel suggests. There really is no big secret. You have to put yourself out there and take a chance. If you are shy and nervous we, like girls from anywhere, will pick up on that and probably turn our attention elsewhere. If you are also just openly staring then that might put us, and any, girl off as well. Try to act casual, as you would with a girl from anywhere else in the world, smile and just say hi! :)
这是对英国女性的一种恭维，遗憾的是，并不是每个人都是这样。
我觉得我很有资格回答这个问题，因为我是一个23岁的英国女孩。我可以肯定地说，要得到一个英国女孩，你不一定非得富有和/或漂亮。也许有一些女性想要这样，并且有很高的标准等等，但这只是肤浅的，你真的想和一个只因为这些原因才重视你的人在一起吗？
如果你有一点自信，并且有一些新的、有趣的、滑稽的甚至古怪的东西可以摆到桌面上，那么当你与英国女孩交谈时，你和任何英国男人一样有机会。你所需要做的就是按照迪尼尔·帕特尔（ Diniel Patel）的建议说声“嗨”。其实没有什么大秘密。你得主动出击，抓住机会。如果你害羞和紧张，我们就像来自任何地方的女孩一样，会注意到这一点，并可能把注意力转移到其他地方。如果你也只是公开地盯着看，那么这可能会让我们，以及任何一个女孩，感到不快。试着表现得随意些，就像你对待来自世界各地的女孩一样，微笑着打招呼！
George Everitt, Since 1993
I am dating a single mother with a 9 year old son. I love her and want to marry her.
This can get tricky, but is important to understand that you must be the leader of the new family. A family is like a ship, and a ship requires a captain to set the course and direction of the ship in consultation with the first officer (your new wife) and the crew.
You are the enforcer of discipline - but remember that discipline comes from disciple. That means that you must earn your position as leader by being a wise and benevolent leader.
To be clear, women are fully capable of being leaders. Your erstwhile wife has been the leader of her household for a while. Women are attracted to men who are leaders. Men are not necessarily attractd to women who are leaders. It's a fine skill, but it doesn't move the needle much in terms of attraction.
Also, kids need discipline. Just because you are a step-dad doesn't mean that you abdicate all responsibility for the care and upbringing of the minor who lives with you.
Your future betrothed loves her son more than she will ever love you. You are an adult, and you must be the one to accept that status. But at the same time, you are filling a big gap in her and her son’s life. The trick is to assume that role with confidence and care.
You should be clear that you expect to earn their respect and be given the benefit of the doubt that you have the family's best interest at heart, and you should expect polite and respectful treatment just as you dish it out.
There are many different models for a relationship to a stepson, but I like “coach” and “mentor” better than father/son. Many young men have a beloved coach in their life that in no way substitutes for their father.
我正在和一位单身母亲约会，她有一个9岁的儿子。我爱她，想娶她。
这可能会很棘手，但重要的是要了解你必须是新家庭的领导者。家庭就像一艘船，一艘船需要船长与大副（你的新婚妻子）和船员协商确定航向和方向。
你是纪律的执行者，但请记住，纪律来自信徒。这意味着你必须通过成为一个明智而仁慈的领袖来赢得领导者的地位。
需要明确的是，女性完全有能力成为领导者。你以前的妻子做一家之主已经有一段时间了。女人会被领导型的男人吸引。男性不一定会被女性领导者所吸引。这是一项很好的技能，但就吸引力而言，它并没有太大的作用。
此外，孩子们需要纪律。仅仅因为你是继父并不意味着你放弃了照顾和抚养与你生活在一起的未成年人的所有责任。
你未来的未婚妻爱她的儿子胜过爱你。你是成年人，你必须接受这个身份。但与此同时，你填补了她和她儿子生活中的一个很大的空白。关键是要自信而谨慎地承担起这个角色。
你应该清楚地知道，你希望赢得他们的尊重，希望他们假定你是为了这个家庭的最大利益着想，你应该期望得到礼貌和尊重的对待，就像你说的那样。
与继子的关系有很多不同的模式，但我更喜欢“教练”和“导师”，而不是父子关系。许多年轻人在他们的生活中都有一位深受喜爱的教练，他无法取代他们的父亲。
I am dating a single mother with a 9 year old son. I love her and want to marry her.
This can get tricky, but is important to understand that you must be the leader of the new family. A family is like a ship, and a ship requires a captain to set the course and direction of the ship in consultation with the first officer (your new wife) and the crew.
You are the enforcer of discipline - but remember that discipline comes from disciple. That means that you must earn your position as leader by being a wise and benevolent leader.
To be clear, women are fully capable of being leaders. Your erstwhile wife has been the leader of her household for a while. Women are attracted to men who are leaders. Men are not necessarily attractd to women who are leaders. It's a fine skill, but it doesn't move the needle much in terms of attraction.
Also, kids need discipline. Just because you are a step-dad doesn't mean that you abdicate all responsibility for the care and upbringing of the minor who lives with you.
Your future betrothed loves her son more than she will ever love you. You are an adult, and you must be the one to accept that status. But at the same time, you are filling a big gap in her and her son’s life. The trick is to assume that role with confidence and care.
You should be clear that you expect to earn their respect and be given the benefit of the doubt that you have the family's best interest at heart, and you should expect polite and respectful treatment just as you dish it out.
There are many different models for a relationship to a stepson, but I like “coach” and “mentor” better than father/son. Many young men have a beloved coach in their life that in no way substitutes for their father.
我正在和一位单身母亲约会，她有一个9岁的儿子。我爱她，想娶她。
这可能会很棘手，但重要的是要了解你必须是新家庭的领导者。家庭就像一艘船，一艘船需要船长与大副（你的新婚妻子）和船员协商确定航向和方向。
你是纪律的执行者，但请记住，纪律来自信徒。这意味着你必须通过成为一个明智而仁慈的领袖来赢得领导者的地位。
需要明确的是，女性完全有能力成为领导者。你以前的妻子做一家之主已经有一段时间了。女人会被领导型的男人吸引。男性不一定会被女性领导者所吸引。这是一项很好的技能，但就吸引力而言，它并没有太大的作用。
此外，孩子们需要纪律。仅仅因为你是继父并不意味着你放弃了照顾和抚养与你生活在一起的未成年人的所有责任。
你未来的未婚妻爱她的儿子胜过爱你。你是成年人，你必须接受这个身份。但与此同时，你填补了她和她儿子生活中的一个很大的空白。关键是要自信而谨慎地承担起这个角色。
你应该清楚地知道，你希望赢得他们的尊重，希望他们假定你是为了这个家庭的最大利益着想，你应该期望得到礼貌和尊重的对待，就像你说的那样。
与继子的关系有很多不同的模式，但我更喜欢“教练”和“导师”，而不是父子关系。许多年轻人在他们的生活中都有一位深受喜爱的教练，他无法取代他们的父亲。
Cynthia Moreno, Co-Founder & COO of Ryze (2019-present)
What does a construction worker want in a woman he likes? What does a marital artist want in a woman he likes? What does a fashion designer want in a woman he likes?
You can't really answer these questions because with 8 billion people on the planet there's all kinds of people who want all kinds of things. Similarly it's not possible to say what a "CEO" wants in a woman he likes. But there is still a way to give people what they want.
The secret is to pay attention to them and figure out what that is. If I met a CEO today
建筑工人想从他喜欢的女人身上得到什么？一个已婚艺术家想要一个他喜欢的女人做什么？一个时装设计师想要一个他喜欢的女人做什么？
你无法真正回答这些问题，因为地球上有80亿人，有各种各样的人想要各种各样的东西。同样，也不可能说出“CEO”想要一个他喜欢的女人做什么。但仍然有一种方法可以满足人们的需求。
秘诀就是关注它们，找出它们是什么。如果我今天遇到一个CEO：
What does a construction worker want in a woman he likes? What does a marital artist want in a woman he likes? What does a fashion designer want in a woman he likes?
You can't really answer these questions because with 8 billion people on the planet there's all kinds of people who want all kinds of things. Similarly it's not possible to say what a "CEO" wants in a woman he likes. But there is still a way to give people what they want.
The secret is to pay attention to them and figure out what that is. If I met a CEO today
建筑工人想从他喜欢的女人身上得到什么？一个已婚艺术家想要一个他喜欢的女人做什么？一个时装设计师想要一个他喜欢的女人做什么？
你无法真正回答这些问题，因为地球上有80亿人，有各种各样的人想要各种各样的东西。同样，也不可能说出“CEO”想要一个他喜欢的女人做什么。但仍然有一种方法可以满足人们的需求。
秘诀就是关注它们，找出它们是什么。如果我今天遇到一个CEO：
Just by paying attention I could think of a number of things he might want. If I didn't want to guess I could have a conversation with him about these things. And see what solutions most interested him. I could then provide fitting solutions that he would value and I bet anything he'd feel extremely positive towards me.
But once they're all solved. I know longer know what "he wants". And so I must pay attention, again. If I noticed that his head turned at every blonde who walked by. It's a good guess he's into blondes. But if I didn't want to guess, I could ask him about preferred hair color.
Hopefully you can see the pattern to know what people want. Is to pay attention and confirm. And hopefully you can tell that this pattern must repeat throughout the relationship because peoples wants change. And if I were to meet a different CEO the next day everything I discovered about what the first one wanted might not apply.
Because there are millions of CEO's on the planet each with unique wants, at unique stages of life, and who's wants are very likely to change shortly anyway.
All that said. If you're looking for a cheap baseline to broadly apply to all CEOs. You can try this:
A CEO is someone who has refined their value in the economy and stands on their own two feet. They look to make a positive impact in society while increasing their wealth. What they want is a suitable match. So ask yourself, are you a woman who is a suitable match for the kind of man I just described. And if not that's a good place to start improving.
I hope this answers your question.
只要集中注意力，我就能想到他可能想要的许多东西。如果我不想猜的话，我可以和他谈谈这些事情。看看他最感兴趣的解决方案。然后我可以提供他会重视的合适的解决方案，我敢打赌他对我的态度肯定会非常积极。
但一旦他们都解决了。我不再知道“他想要什么”。所以我必须再次注意。如果我注意到他的头转向每一个走过的金发女郎。他很可能喜欢金发女郎。但如果我不想猜的话，我可以问他喜欢什么颜色的头发。
希望你能看到这种模式，知道人们想要什么。就是要注意和确认。希望你能告诉我，这种模式必须在整个关系中重复，因为人们想要改变。如果第二天我遇到另一位首席执行官，我发现的关于第一位首席执行官想要什么的一切可能都不适用。
因为地球上有无数的CEO，每个人都有着独特的需求，处于人生的独特阶段，而谁的需求都很可能很快就会改变。
所有这些都说明了这一点。如果你正在寻找一个适用于所有首席执行官的廉价基准。您可以尝试以下操作：
首席执行官是在经济中提炼自己的价值，并自力更生的人。他们希望在增加财富的同时对社会产生积极影响。他们想要的是合适的匹配。所以问问自己，你是不是一个适合我刚才描述的那种男人的女人。如果不是，这是一个开始改进的好地方。
我希望这能回答你的问题。
But once they're all solved. I know longer know what "he wants". And so I must pay attention, again. If I noticed that his head turned at every blonde who walked by. It's a good guess he's into blondes. But if I didn't want to guess, I could ask him about preferred hair color.
Hopefully you can see the pattern to know what people want. Is to pay attention and confirm. And hopefully you can tell that this pattern must repeat throughout the relationship because peoples wants change. And if I were to meet a different CEO the next day everything I discovered about what the first one wanted might not apply.
Because there are millions of CEO's on the planet each with unique wants, at unique stages of life, and who's wants are very likely to change shortly anyway.
All that said. If you're looking for a cheap baseline to broadly apply to all CEOs. You can try this:
A CEO is someone who has refined their value in the economy and stands on their own two feet. They look to make a positive impact in society while increasing their wealth. What they want is a suitable match. So ask yourself, are you a woman who is a suitable match for the kind of man I just described. And if not that's a good place to start improving.
I hope this answers your question.
只要集中注意力，我就能想到他可能想要的许多东西。如果我不想猜的话，我可以和他谈谈这些事情。看看他最感兴趣的解决方案。然后我可以提供他会重视的合适的解决方案，我敢打赌他对我的态度肯定会非常积极。
但一旦他们都解决了。我不再知道“他想要什么”。所以我必须再次注意。如果我注意到他的头转向每一个走过的金发女郎。他很可能喜欢金发女郎。但如果我不想猜的话，我可以问他喜欢什么颜色的头发。
希望你能看到这种模式，知道人们想要什么。就是要注意和确认。希望你能告诉我，这种模式必须在整个关系中重复，因为人们想要改变。如果第二天我遇到另一位首席执行官，我发现的关于第一位首席执行官想要什么的一切可能都不适用。
因为地球上有无数的CEO，每个人都有着独特的需求，处于人生的独特阶段，而谁的需求都很可能很快就会改变。
所有这些都说明了这一点。如果你正在寻找一个适用于所有首席执行官的廉价基准。您可以尝试以下操作：
首席执行官是在经济中提炼自己的价值，并自力更生的人。他们希望在增加财富的同时对社会产生积极影响。他们想要的是合适的匹配。所以问问自己，你是不是一个适合我刚才描述的那种男人的女人。如果不是，这是一个开始改进的好地方。
我希望这能回答你的问题。
Shilpi Agrawal
I am getting shamed for being a single mom in my Muslim community, what should I do?
Sometimes silence is the best answer.
One can never understand other people's circumstances until he faces same situation himself.and right now the situation you are in,whatever you say or do to stop them from doing so,will urge them to do more.so stay calm and silent.avoid the people and do ur own work.dont give them the power to control ur emotions.all they want is to disturb you and if you are being disturbed by their acts,then u are living ur life as per their desires.dont do that.
Walk ur own path.being happy is the thing that annoys our haters.raise ur child with great values and education.sooner or later he will be ur anwer to the community.till then keep patience and faith alive.there is always a beautiful morning after a dark night :-)
作为穆斯林社区的单身母亲，我感到羞愧，我该怎么办？
有时候沉默是最好的回答。
一个人永远无法理解别人的处境，除非他自己面对同样的处境。而现在你所处的情况，无论你说什么或做什么来阻止他们这样做，都会促使他们做得更多。所以保持冷静和沉默。避开人群，做自己的工作。不要让他们控制你的情绪。他们只想打扰你，如果你被他们的行为打扰了，那么你就按照他们的愿望生活。不要那样做。
走自己的路。快乐是令我们的仇恨者烦恼的事情。用伟大的价值观和教育养育你的孩子。他迟早会成为社区的领袖。在那之前，保持耐心和信心。黑夜过后总会有一个美丽的早晨。
I am getting shamed for being a single mom in my Muslim community, what should I do?
Sometimes silence is the best answer.
One can never understand other people's circumstances until he faces same situation himself.and right now the situation you are in,whatever you say or do to stop them from doing so,will urge them to do more.so stay calm and silent.avoid the people and do ur own work.dont give them the power to control ur emotions.all they want is to disturb you and if you are being disturbed by their acts,then u are living ur life as per their desires.dont do that.
Walk ur own path.being happy is the thing that annoys our haters.raise ur child with great values and education.sooner or later he will be ur anwer to the community.till then keep patience and faith alive.there is always a beautiful morning after a dark night :-)
作为穆斯林社区的单身母亲，我感到羞愧，我该怎么办？
有时候沉默是最好的回答。
一个人永远无法理解别人的处境，除非他自己面对同样的处境。而现在你所处的情况，无论你说什么或做什么来阻止他们这样做，都会促使他们做得更多。所以保持冷静和沉默。避开人群，做自己的工作。不要让他们控制你的情绪。他们只想打扰你，如果你被他们的行为打扰了，那么你就按照他们的愿望生活。不要那样做。
走自己的路。快乐是令我们的仇恨者烦恼的事情。用伟大的价值观和教育养育你的孩子。他迟早会成为社区的领袖。在那之前，保持耐心和信心。黑夜过后总会有一个美丽的早晨。
Ainsley Rose, works at Sun Life Financial
安斯利·罗斯，在永明金融工作
安斯利·罗斯，在永明金融工作
I find this question amusing, primarily because my boyfriend (who also lived in the UK for 7 years) has a distinct distaste for british girls, and claims to have found them particularly insipid.
However, I don't necessarily agree. I've only spoken to a few, but I found them charming enough. I've also sound many other women both more and less charming, though, from all around, so I don't agree with generalizing that women of one specific nationality are better than others.
That aside, to answer your question, you should do what you would to get any girl to notice you. As the previous answer said, saying hi is a great start. Introduce yourself. Get involved in activities that you enjoy, and you are bound to meet women (and likely British if you're in the UK) that share your interests and find you attractive. It really is less about them and more about you. You've listed a lot of what you find attractive in them, and what you think they're looking for, but you haven't spent any time discussing what you bring to the table. Why should an extremely clever, attractive, mature, British women want to be around you? As another answer mentioned, confidence is a big thing, which I don't think you're particularly lacking. But there's a lot more you need to bring to a relationship (be it romantic or otherwise) than confidence, and different women are going to be looking for different things. Maybe you're extremely witty and like old movies, or maybe you're very vested in football and like being outside - explore your interests with passion, and you will more than likely meet women more interested in you.
我觉得这个问题很有趣，主要是因为我的男朋友（他在英国生活了7年）对英国女孩有着明显的厌恶感，并声称觉得她们特别平淡。
然而，我并不一定同意。我只跟几个人谈过，但我觉得他们很迷人。不过，从各个方面来看，我也或多或少听说过许多其他女性的魅力，所以我不同意笼统地说某个特定国籍的女性比其他国籍的女性更好。
除此之外，为了回答你的问题，你应该尽你所能让任何女孩注意到你。正如前面的回答所说，打招呼是一个很好的开始，自我介绍。参加你喜欢的活动，你一定会遇到和你有共同兴趣并觉得你有吸引力的女性（如果你在英国，很可能是英国人）。这真的不是关于他们，而是关于你。你已经列出了很多你觉得他们有吸引力的地方，以及你认为他们在寻找什么，但你没有花时间讨论你带来了什么。为什么一个聪明、有魅力、成熟的英国女性会想和你在一起？正如另一个答案所提到的，自信是很重要的，我认为你并不特别缺乏自信。但是，除了自信，你还需要为一段关系带来更多的东西（无论是浪漫还是其他），不同的女性会寻求不同的东西。也许你非常机智，喜欢看老电影，或者你对足球很着迷，喜欢户外运动——带着激情探索你的兴趣，你很可能会遇到对你更感兴趣的女人。
However, I don't necessarily agree. I've only spoken to a few, but I found them charming enough. I've also sound many other women both more and less charming, though, from all around, so I don't agree with generalizing that women of one specific nationality are better than others.
That aside, to answer your question, you should do what you would to get any girl to notice you. As the previous answer said, saying hi is a great start. Introduce yourself. Get involved in activities that you enjoy, and you are bound to meet women (and likely British if you're in the UK) that share your interests and find you attractive. It really is less about them and more about you. You've listed a lot of what you find attractive in them, and what you think they're looking for, but you haven't spent any time discussing what you bring to the table. Why should an extremely clever, attractive, mature, British women want to be around you? As another answer mentioned, confidence is a big thing, which I don't think you're particularly lacking. But there's a lot more you need to bring to a relationship (be it romantic or otherwise) than confidence, and different women are going to be looking for different things. Maybe you're extremely witty and like old movies, or maybe you're very vested in football and like being outside - explore your interests with passion, and you will more than likely meet women more interested in you.
我觉得这个问题很有趣，主要是因为我的男朋友（他在英国生活了7年）对英国女孩有着明显的厌恶感，并声称觉得她们特别平淡。
然而，我并不一定同意。我只跟几个人谈过，但我觉得他们很迷人。不过，从各个方面来看，我也或多或少听说过许多其他女性的魅力，所以我不同意笼统地说某个特定国籍的女性比其他国籍的女性更好。
除此之外，为了回答你的问题，你应该尽你所能让任何女孩注意到你。正如前面的回答所说，打招呼是一个很好的开始，自我介绍。参加你喜欢的活动，你一定会遇到和你有共同兴趣并觉得你有吸引力的女性（如果你在英国，很可能是英国人）。这真的不是关于他们，而是关于你。你已经列出了很多你觉得他们有吸引力的地方，以及你认为他们在寻找什么，但你没有花时间讨论你带来了什么。为什么一个聪明、有魅力、成熟的英国女性会想和你在一起？正如另一个答案所提到的，自信是很重要的，我认为你并不特别缺乏自信。但是，除了自信，你还需要为一段关系带来更多的东西（无论是浪漫还是其他），不同的女性会寻求不同的东西。也许你非常机智，喜欢看老电影，或者你对足球很着迷，喜欢户外运动——带着激情探索你的兴趣，你很可能会遇到对你更感兴趣的女人。
Diniel Patel, First date in 2007. Last date, tomorrow.
Go and say HI.
They will certainly know about your existence then.
Pretty simple?
If you wait for one of them you come an approach you, you might have to wait for another 7 years. If you're ok with them, then wait and wonder.
If you want someone to notice you, just go to them and say hi. Doesnt matter if she finds you attractive or wantsto immediately take you to bed or wants to slap your face for some reason.
She will know you exist.
It'll be helpful if you have something to say which will captivate her attention beyond a short moment of hello.
去打个招呼。
她们一定会知道你的存在。
很简单吧？
如果你等她们中的一个来找你，你可能还要等7年。如果你不介意的话，那就等着瞧吧。
如果你想让别人注意到你，就去和她们打招呼。不管她是否觉得你很有魅力，或者想立即带你上床睡觉，或者出于某种原因想扇你耳光。
她会知道你的存在。
如果你有什么话可以吸引她的注意力，而就不仅仅是打个招呼，那会很有帮助。
Go and say HI.
They will certainly know about your existence then.
Pretty simple?
If you wait for one of them you come an approach you, you might have to wait for another 7 years. If you're ok with them, then wait and wonder.
If you want someone to notice you, just go to them and say hi. Doesnt matter if she finds you attractive or wantsto immediately take you to bed or wants to slap your face for some reason.
She will know you exist.
It'll be helpful if you have something to say which will captivate her attention beyond a short moment of hello.
去打个招呼。
她们一定会知道你的存在。
很简单吧？
如果你等她们中的一个来找你，你可能还要等7年。如果你不介意的话，那就等着瞧吧。
如果你想让别人注意到你，就去和她们打招呼。不管她是否觉得你很有魅力，或者想立即带你上床睡觉，或者出于某种原因想扇你耳光。
她会知道你的存在。
如果你有什么话可以吸引她的注意力，而就不仅仅是打个招呼，那会很有帮助。
Simon Comins, I live in the UK
They are:
Very short and very tall and everything in between
Very classy and very trashy and everything in between
Aneorexic and obese and everything in between
Utter sluts and totally frigid and everything in between
Black and white and everything in between
Fitness junkies and total slobs and everything in between
Highly motivated to the point of obsession and completely lazy and everything in between
Staunchly religious and hardline atheists and everything in between
Highly fashionable and no interest in clothes and everything in between
Evil sadists and awesomely caring and everything in between
Friendly and hostile and everything in between
Passionate royalists and staunch republicans and everything in between
There are 30 million or so of them. And they are a very diverse bunch!
她们是：
很矮很高，介于两者之间
非常优雅，非常垃圾，介于两者之间
厌食症，肥胖，介于两者之间
彻头彻尾的荡妇和彻头彻尾的冷淡以及介于两者之间的一切
黑白肤色相间的一切
健身迷和懒汉以及介于两者之间的一切
上进心强到痴迷的地步，完全懒惰，以及介于两者之间的一切
坚定的宗教和强硬的无神论者，以及介于两者之间的一切
非常时髦，对衣服不感兴趣和介于两者之间
邪恶的虐待狂和令人敬畏的关怀以及介于两者之间的一切
友好和敌对以及介于两者之间的一切
热情的保皇党和坚定的共和党以及介于两者之间的一切
大约有3000万，他们是一个非常多样化的群体！
They are:
Very short and very tall and everything in between
Very classy and very trashy and everything in between
Aneorexic and obese and everything in between
Utter sluts and totally frigid and everything in between
Black and white and everything in between
Fitness junkies and total slobs and everything in between
Highly motivated to the point of obsession and completely lazy and everything in between
Staunchly religious and hardline atheists and everything in between
Highly fashionable and no interest in clothes and everything in between
Evil sadists and awesomely caring and everything in between
Friendly and hostile and everything in between
Passionate royalists and staunch republicans and everything in between
There are 30 million or so of them. And they are a very diverse bunch!
她们是：
很矮很高，介于两者之间
非常优雅，非常垃圾，介于两者之间
厌食症，肥胖，介于两者之间
彻头彻尾的荡妇和彻头彻尾的冷淡以及介于两者之间的一切
黑白肤色相间的一切
健身迷和懒汉以及介于两者之间的一切
上进心强到痴迷的地步，完全懒惰，以及介于两者之间的一切
坚定的宗教和强硬的无神论者，以及介于两者之间的一切
非常时髦，对衣服不感兴趣和介于两者之间
邪恶的虐待狂和令人敬畏的关怀以及介于两者之间的一切
友好和敌对以及介于两者之间的一切
热情的保皇党和坚定的共和党以及介于两者之间的一切
大约有3000万，他们是一个非常多样化的群体！
Ali Smith
What are some differences between American and British teenagers?
I've got teenage nephews and nieces in both the UK and US. The biggest differences I see are:
Sports - there's so much pressure in the US to be on a sports team. Once signed up, it's a huge time commitment and there's a lot of pressure to get better and better. So even if the teenager wants to try something new the standards, time and try out schedules make it difficult to try new things. In their spare time their parents make them do competitive races (running, cycling, spartan challenges etc). So when my American nephews talk about sport it's about pressure to achieve and how boring training is, never enjoyment. One even admires Lance Armstrong because he found innovative ways to cheat to win and really negative about other countries because they don't win as much as America. They were over here when the olympics were on, and literally didn't recognise most of the sports, though did get into quite a few and got really enthusiastic. While in the U.K. My nieces and nephews are always trying new sports and playing sport casually, just for fun and social connection. So they talk about sports with genuine enthusiasm and interest.
Confidence- my American nieces and nephews are far more confident, particularly talking to adults. They are more ambitious too, regularly talking about getting into top universities and are very focused on getting there. In the UK they do care about school and good grades but it's more about immediate goals (eg. End of year exams) and they'll talk about wanting to be in a profession eg “a scientist”, “a lawyer”, than being top of that profession eg. “President”, “CEO”
美国和英国青少年之间有什么不同？
我在英国和美国都有十几岁的侄子和侄女。我看到的最大区别是：
体育——在美国，加入运动队的压力很大。一旦签约，这将是一个跨越时间很长的承诺，需要越来越好的压力也很大。因此，即使青少年想要尝试新的东西，标准、时间和测试时间表也会让他们很难尝试新的东西。在业余时间，父母让他们参加比赛（跑步、自行车、斯巴达挑战赛等）。所以，当我的美国侄子们谈论体育运动时，他们谈论的是实现目标的压力，以及训练有多无聊，而不是享受。有人甚至钦佩兰斯·阿姆斯特朗，因为他找到了创新的作弊方法来赢得胜利，并对其他国家持否定态度，因为他们没有美国赢得多。奥运会开幕时，他们就在这里，事实上，他们几乎不认识大多数的体育项目，尽管他们确实参加了不少比赛，而且非常热情。在英国的时候，我的侄女和侄子们总是尝试新的运动，随意地进行运动，只是为了好玩和社交。因此，他们以真正的热情和兴趣谈论体育。
自信——我的美国侄女和侄子们更加自信，尤其是与成年人交谈时。他们也更有雄心壮志，经常谈论进入顶尖大学，并非常专注于进入顶尖大学。在英国，他们确实关心学校和好成绩，但更关心眼前的目标（如年终考试），他们会谈论想从事“科学家”、“律师”等职业，而不是成为“总统”、“首席执行官”等行业的佼佼者
What are some differences between American and British teenagers?
I've got teenage nephews and nieces in both the UK and US. The biggest differences I see are:
Sports - there's so much pressure in the US to be on a sports team. Once signed up, it's a huge time commitment and there's a lot of pressure to get better and better. So even if the teenager wants to try something new the standards, time and try out schedules make it difficult to try new things. In their spare time their parents make them do competitive races (running, cycling, spartan challenges etc). So when my American nephews talk about sport it's about pressure to achieve and how boring training is, never enjoyment. One even admires Lance Armstrong because he found innovative ways to cheat to win and really negative about other countries because they don't win as much as America. They were over here when the olympics were on, and literally didn't recognise most of the sports, though did get into quite a few and got really enthusiastic. While in the U.K. My nieces and nephews are always trying new sports and playing sport casually, just for fun and social connection. So they talk about sports with genuine enthusiasm and interest.
Confidence- my American nieces and nephews are far more confident, particularly talking to adults. They are more ambitious too, regularly talking about getting into top universities and are very focused on getting there. In the UK they do care about school and good grades but it's more about immediate goals (eg. End of year exams) and they'll talk about wanting to be in a profession eg “a scientist”, “a lawyer”, than being top of that profession eg. “President”, “CEO”
美国和英国青少年之间有什么不同？
我在英国和美国都有十几岁的侄子和侄女。我看到的最大区别是：
体育——在美国，加入运动队的压力很大。一旦签约，这将是一个跨越时间很长的承诺，需要越来越好的压力也很大。因此，即使青少年想要尝试新的东西，标准、时间和测试时间表也会让他们很难尝试新的东西。在业余时间，父母让他们参加比赛（跑步、自行车、斯巴达挑战赛等）。所以，当我的美国侄子们谈论体育运动时，他们谈论的是实现目标的压力，以及训练有多无聊，而不是享受。有人甚至钦佩兰斯·阿姆斯特朗，因为他找到了创新的作弊方法来赢得胜利，并对其他国家持否定态度，因为他们没有美国赢得多。奥运会开幕时，他们就在这里，事实上，他们几乎不认识大多数的体育项目，尽管他们确实参加了不少比赛，而且非常热情。在英国的时候，我的侄女和侄子们总是尝试新的运动，随意地进行运动，只是为了好玩和社交。因此，他们以真正的热情和兴趣谈论体育。
自信——我的美国侄女和侄子们更加自信，尤其是与成年人交谈时。他们也更有雄心壮志，经常谈论进入顶尖大学，并非常专注于进入顶尖大学。在英国，他们确实关心学校和好成绩，但更关心眼前的目标（如年终考试），他们会谈论想从事“科学家”、“律师”等职业，而不是成为“总统”、“首席执行官”等行业的佼佼者
Independence- my 13 year old English niece is more independent than my 17 year old American niece. I think it's that in the U.K. It's normal for kids to make their own way to high school (from age 11), often using public transport, and just having fewer organised activities and so are used to making their own decisions. In the US every moment of teenage life seems to be scheduled with parents providing transport - so teens look to adults more even for day to day decision-making. So my US nieces and nephews are absolutely desperate to reach the age when they can get a car, while it's a luxury item in the UK.
Acceptance of difference -the UK is generally more liberal than the US so it's not surprising that this different for teens too. But my US step-niece is of Vietnamese descent. So are all her friends. There isn't as much mixing between races as there is for UK teens (though my family is in London which is more diverse than the rest of the UK). But my US nephews will make anti-gay jokes, jokes about US superiority and were shocked seeing Muslim women in headscarves. They are sweet guys so you can talk to them about it and they are empathetic and don't mean to cause offence etc, but they say that is pretty normal conversation among teenagers back in the US. In contrast my U.K niece pulled me up for using the term “brainstorming” as she felt it was offensive to people with epilepsy and her friends come from a range of racial backgrounds.
But the biggest cultural difference is that my US nephews call their Dad “Sir”!
独立——我13岁的英国侄女比我17岁的美国侄女更独立。我认为，在英国，孩子们（从11岁起）自己上高中是很正常的，他们经常乘坐公共交通工具，只是很少有组织的活动，所以习惯于自己做决定。在美国，青少年生活的每一刻似乎都是由父母安排的，父母提供交通工具，因此青少年更倾向于成年人做决策，甚至是日常决策也一样。因此，我的美国侄女和侄子们都非常渴望能达到买车的年龄，而这在英国是一种奢侈品。
接受差异——英国通常比美国更自由，所以青少年的这种差异也就不足为奇了。但我的美国继侄女是越南人后裔。她所有的朋友也是。种族之间的混合不像英国青少年那样多（尽管我的家人在伦敦，那里比英国其他地方更加多样化）。但我的美国侄子们会开反同性恋的玩笑，开美国优越感的玩笑，看到穆斯林妇女戴着头巾，他们都感到震惊。他们都是很好的人，所以你可以和他们谈论这件事，他们很有同情心，不想冒犯他人，但他们说，这在美国青少年中是很正常的对话。相比之下，我的英国侄女因为我使用“头脑风暴”一词而把我拉了上来，因为她觉得这对癫痫患者来说是一种冒犯，她的朋友具有不同的种族背景。
但最大的文化差异是，我的美国侄子称他们的父亲为“先生”！
Acceptance of difference -the UK is generally more liberal than the US so it's not surprising that this different for teens too. But my US step-niece is of Vietnamese descent. So are all her friends. There isn't as much mixing between races as there is for UK teens (though my family is in London which is more diverse than the rest of the UK). But my US nephews will make anti-gay jokes, jokes about US superiority and were shocked seeing Muslim women in headscarves. They are sweet guys so you can talk to them about it and they are empathetic and don't mean to cause offence etc, but they say that is pretty normal conversation among teenagers back in the US. In contrast my U.K niece pulled me up for using the term “brainstorming” as she felt it was offensive to people with epilepsy and her friends come from a range of racial backgrounds.
But the biggest cultural difference is that my US nephews call their Dad “Sir”!
独立——我13岁的英国侄女比我17岁的美国侄女更独立。我认为，在英国，孩子们（从11岁起）自己上高中是很正常的，他们经常乘坐公共交通工具，只是很少有组织的活动，所以习惯于自己做决定。在美国，青少年生活的每一刻似乎都是由父母安排的，父母提供交通工具，因此青少年更倾向于成年人做决策，甚至是日常决策也一样。因此，我的美国侄女和侄子们都非常渴望能达到买车的年龄，而这在英国是一种奢侈品。
接受差异——英国通常比美国更自由，所以青少年的这种差异也就不足为奇了。但我的美国继侄女是越南人后裔。她所有的朋友也是。种族之间的混合不像英国青少年那样多（尽管我的家人在伦敦，那里比英国其他地方更加多样化）。但我的美国侄子们会开反同性恋的玩笑，开美国优越感的玩笑，看到穆斯林妇女戴着头巾，他们都感到震惊。他们都是很好的人，所以你可以和他们谈论这件事，他们很有同情心，不想冒犯他人，但他们说，这在美国青少年中是很正常的对话。相比之下，我的英国侄女因为我使用“头脑风暴”一词而把我拉了上来，因为她觉得这对癫痫患者来说是一种冒犯，她的朋友具有不同的种族背景。
但最大的文化差异是，我的美国侄子称他们的父亲为“先生”！
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