为什么生活如此艰难（一）
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Why is life so hard?
为什么生活如此艰难?
Why is life so hard?
为什么生活如此艰难?
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Arjun A J
Why is life tough?
Let me tell you a small story which relates to your question and I'm sure it eventually gives you something to think and can even give you a proper solution:
A man was leading a happy life with his wife and two children, considerably a rich rife. He was earning a lot of money in his business which was more than enough for a small family like his.
But what happens down the line say, after 5-6 years, he started losing all his wealth because of some unexpected scenarios. And as a consequence of it, his wife and children also started suffering.
Finally, after trying all possible ways to get back to his old times, he fails. He got disappointed badly that he decides to commit suicide when no options were left to choose. He climbs a tall mountain and was about fall from the top of it. Luckily, he get to meet a monk (Sanyasi) there. Out of curiosity, the man goes near the monk. He tells all his life events and his position he is right now. He asks the monk only one question:
为什么生活很艰难？
让我给你讲一个和你的问题有关的小故事，我相信它最终会让你思考，甚至能给你一个合适的解决方案:
一个男人带着妻子和两个孩子过着幸福的生活，相当富裕。他做生意赚了很多钱，对他这样的小家庭来说绰绰有余。
但接下来发生的事情是，5-6年后，由于一些意想不到的情况，他开始失去所有的财富。因此，他的妻子和孩子也开始遭受痛苦。
最后，在尝试了所有可能的方法去翻身之后，他失败了。在没有选择余地的情况下，他非常失望并决定自杀。他爬上一座高山，正要从山顶上跳下去。幸运的是，他在那里遇到了一位僧人（Sanyasi）。出于好奇，这个人走到和尚身边。他把自己的人生经历和现在的处境都讲了出来。他只问了和尚一个问题:
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Why is life tough?
Let me tell you a small story which relates to your question and I'm sure it eventually gives you something to think and can even give you a proper solution:
A man was leading a happy life with his wife and two children, considerably a rich rife. He was earning a lot of money in his business which was more than enough for a small family like his.
But what happens down the line say, after 5-6 years, he started losing all his wealth because of some unexpected scenarios. And as a consequence of it, his wife and children also started suffering.
Finally, after trying all possible ways to get back to his old times, he fails. He got disappointed badly that he decides to commit suicide when no options were left to choose. He climbs a tall mountain and was about fall from the top of it. Luckily, he get to meet a monk (Sanyasi) there. Out of curiosity, the man goes near the monk. He tells all his life events and his position he is right now. He asks the monk only one question:
为什么生活很艰难？
让我给你讲一个和你的问题有关的小故事，我相信它最终会让你思考，甚至能给你一个合适的解决方案:
一个男人带着妻子和两个孩子过着幸福的生活，相当富裕。他做生意赚了很多钱，对他这样的小家庭来说绰绰有余。
但接下来发生的事情是，5-6年后，由于一些意想不到的情况，他开始失去所有的财富。因此，他的妻子和孩子也开始遭受痛苦。
最后，在尝试了所有可能的方法去翻身之后，他失败了。在没有选择余地的情况下，他非常失望并决定自杀。他爬上一座高山，正要从山顶上跳下去。幸运的是，他在那里遇到了一位僧人（Sanyasi）。出于好奇，这个人走到和尚身边。他把自己的人生经历和现在的处境都讲了出来。他只问了和尚一个问题:
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"Why the life is tough?"
Yeah. The same question that you are asking now. The monk tells him to take a deep breath and answers the question:
"Well, you were leading a happy life few years back. Have you ever thought on why your life was so easier or happier than ever?"
The man got stuck right there and could not even dare to open his mouth. The monk now conveys the message:
"My dear son, life is neither easy, nor difficult. It is purely based on two aspects: one is, how you perceive things and another, how you act on them. Perception affects your actions and actions affect the outcome. So, never try to perceive things in negative manner because that affects your think-act process. As of now, stay calm for a moment and get back to your family since lot of good things awaiting you in future. God bless you..!!"
The man learnt the lesson from the monk's inspiring words. He gives away the thought of suicide, instead starts his life in a whole new manner and most importantly he changes his perception on everything so that he can think better, act better and get better.
So, whatever may be the problems in your life, I suggest you to stay calm, think in a better way to solve them and act wisely. Never lose hope in life.
I hope this helps a bit for you.
“为什么生活很艰难？”
是的。和你现在问的问题一样。和尚让他深吸一口气，然后回答问题:
“几年前你过着幸福的生活。你当时有没有想过为什么你的生活比以前更容易或更快乐？”
这名男子被问住了，甚至不敢开口。僧侣传达了这样的信息：
“我亲爱的儿子，生活既不容易，也不困难。它纯粹基于两个方面：一个是你如何看待事物，另一个是你如何对待事物。看法影响你的行动，行动影响结果。所以，永远不要试图以消极的方式看待事物，因为这会影响你的”思考-行动“的这一过程。从现在开始，冷静一下，回到你的家人身边，因为未来有很多美好的事情在等着你。上帝保佑你!”
这个人从僧侣鼓舞人心的话语中吸取了教训。他放弃了自杀的念头，而是以一种全新的方式开始了他的生活，最重要的是，他改变了对一切的看法，这样他可以更好地思考，更好地行动，从而变得更好。
所以，无论你生活中有什么问题，我建议你保持冷静，以更好的方式思考解决问题，并明智地采取行动。永远不要对生活失去希望。
我希望这对你有所帮助。
Yeah. The same question that you are asking now. The monk tells him to take a deep breath and answers the question:
"Well, you were leading a happy life few years back. Have you ever thought on why your life was so easier or happier than ever?"
The man got stuck right there and could not even dare to open his mouth. The monk now conveys the message:
"My dear son, life is neither easy, nor difficult. It is purely based on two aspects: one is, how you perceive things and another, how you act on them. Perception affects your actions and actions affect the outcome. So, never try to perceive things in negative manner because that affects your think-act process. As of now, stay calm for a moment and get back to your family since lot of good things awaiting you in future. God bless you..!!"
The man learnt the lesson from the monk's inspiring words. He gives away the thought of suicide, instead starts his life in a whole new manner and most importantly he changes his perception on everything so that he can think better, act better and get better.
So, whatever may be the problems in your life, I suggest you to stay calm, think in a better way to solve them and act wisely. Never lose hope in life.
I hope this helps a bit for you.
“为什么生活很艰难？”
是的。和你现在问的问题一样。和尚让他深吸一口气，然后回答问题:
“几年前你过着幸福的生活。你当时有没有想过为什么你的生活比以前更容易或更快乐？”
这名男子被问住了，甚至不敢开口。僧侣传达了这样的信息：
“我亲爱的儿子，生活既不容易，也不困难。它纯粹基于两个方面：一个是你如何看待事物，另一个是你如何对待事物。看法影响你的行动，行动影响结果。所以，永远不要试图以消极的方式看待事物，因为这会影响你的”思考-行动“的这一过程。从现在开始，冷静一下，回到你的家人身边，因为未来有很多美好的事情在等着你。上帝保佑你!”
这个人从僧侣鼓舞人心的话语中吸取了教训。他放弃了自杀的念头，而是以一种全新的方式开始了他的生活，最重要的是，他改变了对一切的看法，这样他可以更好地思考，更好地行动，从而变得更好。
所以，无论你生活中有什么问题，我建议你保持冷静，以更好的方式思考解决问题，并明智地采取行动。永远不要对生活失去希望。
我希望这对你有所帮助。
Richard Muller
Would you say that life is hard?
Yes, life is hard, thank God!
Sometimes I think about life in the following way: I had a prior life, totally different from what I experience today. I was very well behaved, generous and thoughtful, so God decided to send me to heaven. And that’s where I am now.
Heaven is a fascinating and challenging place. Yes it is hard, but that’s what makes it heaven. I am given challenges to accomplish, like having to survive, to raise a family, to do what I can do to make the world better, to try to understand how the world works. These challenges are the primary joy of my current heaven, and I thank God I was not sent to Hell, where probably I would be doomed to the worst punishment of all—not fire and brimstone, but boredom. Why is solitary confinement the worst prison punishment? Because it consists of intense boredom!
你会认为生活很艰难吗？
是的，生活很艰难，感谢上帝！
有时我会以以下方式思考生活：我有一个前世，和我现在的经历完全不同。我表现得很好，很慷慨，很体贴，所以上帝决定送我去天堂。这就出现了我现在的处境。
天堂是一个迷人而富有挑战性的地方。很难进入其中，但这就是为什么它是天堂的原因。我被赋予了要完成的挑战，比如生存，养家糊口，尽我所能让世界变得更美好，试图理解世界是如何运作的。这些挑战是我现在天堂的主要乐趣，感谢上帝，我没有被送到地狱，在那里我可能注定要受到最严厉的惩罚——不是遇到火和硫磺，而是无聊。为什么单独监禁是最糟糕的监狱惩罚?因为它包含了强烈的无聊之感!
Would you say that life is hard?
Yes, life is hard, thank God!
Sometimes I think about life in the following way: I had a prior life, totally different from what I experience today. I was very well behaved, generous and thoughtful, so God decided to send me to heaven. And that’s where I am now.
Heaven is a fascinating and challenging place. Yes it is hard, but that’s what makes it heaven. I am given challenges to accomplish, like having to survive, to raise a family, to do what I can do to make the world better, to try to understand how the world works. These challenges are the primary joy of my current heaven, and I thank God I was not sent to Hell, where probably I would be doomed to the worst punishment of all—not fire and brimstone, but boredom. Why is solitary confinement the worst prison punishment? Because it consists of intense boredom!
你会认为生活很艰难吗？
是的，生活很艰难，感谢上帝！
有时我会以以下方式思考生活：我有一个前世，和我现在的经历完全不同。我表现得很好，很慷慨，很体贴，所以上帝决定送我去天堂。这就出现了我现在的处境。
天堂是一个迷人而富有挑战性的地方。很难进入其中，但这就是为什么它是天堂的原因。我被赋予了要完成的挑战，比如生存，养家糊口，尽我所能让世界变得更美好，试图理解世界是如何运作的。这些挑战是我现在天堂的主要乐趣，感谢上帝，我没有被送到地狱，在那里我可能注定要受到最严厉的惩罚——不是遇到火和硫磺，而是无聊。为什么单独监禁是最糟糕的监狱惩罚?因为它包含了强烈的无聊之感!
My guess is that in hell you are not allowed to do anything interesting, but are confined to sitting on clouds, playing sweet music on a harp, and listening to others play their sweet tunes. It’s a dreadfully boring existence, made worse by the fact that it will go on for eternity.
My greatest joys in my life have come from successfully meeting hard challenges. Does anybody enjoy video games which are easy to defeat? No! Those are no fun. People get joy from challenges.
Thank you, God, for sending me a heaven that is hard!
我猜想，在地狱里，你不允许做任何有趣的事情，而只能坐在云端，用竖琴演奏甜美的音乐，听别人演奏他们甜美的曲调。这是一种极其无聊的生活，更糟糕的是它将永远持续下去。
我一生中最大的快乐来自于成功地迎接严峻的挑战。有人喜欢容易被打败的电子游戏吗？不，这些都算不上好玩。人们从挑战中去获得快乐。
感谢你，上帝，给了我一个艰难的天堂之旅！
My greatest joys in my life have come from successfully meeting hard challenges. Does anybody enjoy video games which are easy to defeat? No! Those are no fun. People get joy from challenges.
Thank you, God, for sending me a heaven that is hard!
我猜想，在地狱里，你不允许做任何有趣的事情，而只能坐在云端，用竖琴演奏甜美的音乐，听别人演奏他们甜美的曲调。这是一种极其无聊的生活，更糟糕的是它将永远持续下去。
我一生中最大的快乐来自于成功地迎接严峻的挑战。有人喜欢容易被打败的电子游戏吗？不，这些都算不上好玩。人们从挑战中去获得快乐。
感谢你，上帝，给了我一个艰难的天堂之旅！
Dhruvi Agrawal
What's the hardest truth of life?
Physical beauty is valued.
Fake people are loved more.
Reservation system is killing the development of India.
No one thinks good for you except your parents. I repeat, no one!
Very few friends are happy with your success.
Most of the present relationships have no future. They are made to break up one day.
生活中最艰难的真相是什么？
外表美很有价值。
虚伪的人更受人喜爱。
保留制度正在扼杀印度的发展。
除了你的父母，没有人认为你好。我重复一遍，没有人！
很少有朋友对你的成功感到高兴。
现在的大多数关系都没有未来。他们注定有一天会分道扬镳。
What's the hardest truth of life?
Physical beauty is valued.
Fake people are loved more.
Reservation system is killing the development of India.
No one thinks good for you except your parents. I repeat, no one!
Very few friends are happy with your success.
Most of the present relationships have no future. They are made to break up one day.
生活中最艰难的真相是什么？
外表美很有价值。
虚伪的人更受人喜爱。
保留制度正在扼杀印度的发展。
除了你的父母，没有人认为你好。我重复一遍，没有人！
很少有朋友对你的成功感到高兴。
现在的大多数关系都没有未来。他们注定有一天会分道扬镳。
Everyone has feelings which are hard to hide but difficult to express.
We are getting addicted to the internet day by day!
Most of the students are even today forced to pursue engineering and medical.
Marriages are not always happy.
All relatives don't think of your goodwill.
90% people you meet in life , backstab you.
We waste most of our time in jealousy.
You can get good education only if you are financially stable.
Headache really sucks.
Life of a divorcee is too tough. Not for work but for the taunts they get to hear daily.
Edit:
I didn't mean to hurt anyone or question equality for the sc/st. !!!!!!!!
每个人都有难以隐藏却难以表达的感情。
我们越来越沉迷于网络了!
即使在今天，大多数学生仍被迫攻读工程学和医学。
婚姻并不总是幸福的。
所有的亲戚都不会想到你的善意。
你一生中遇到的90%的人都会在背后捅你一刀。
我们把大部分时间浪费在嫉妒中。
只有经济稳定，你才能接受良好的教育。
头痛真的很糟糕。
离婚者的生活太艰难了。不是因为工作，而是因为他们每天都会听到嘲讽。
编辑：我无意伤害任何人，也无意质疑男女平等。
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We are getting addicted to the internet day by day!
Most of the students are even today forced to pursue engineering and medical.
Marriages are not always happy.
All relatives don't think of your goodwill.
90% people you meet in life , backstab you.
We waste most of our time in jealousy.
You can get good education only if you are financially stable.
Headache really sucks.
Life of a divorcee is too tough. Not for work but for the taunts they get to hear daily.
Edit:
I didn't mean to hurt anyone or question equality for the sc/st. !!!!!!!!
每个人都有难以隐藏却难以表达的感情。
我们越来越沉迷于网络了!
即使在今天，大多数学生仍被迫攻读工程学和医学。
婚姻并不总是幸福的。
所有的亲戚都不会想到你的善意。
你一生中遇到的90%的人都会在背后捅你一刀。
我们把大部分时间浪费在嫉妒中。
只有经济稳定，你才能接受良好的教育。
头痛真的很糟糕。
离婚者的生活太艰难了。不是因为工作，而是因为他们每天都会听到嘲讽。
编辑：我无意伤害任何人，也无意质疑男女平等。
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Shinam Khatri
Why is life tough?
Life is tough because; it is fragile, it is short, it is unpredictable and it is finite. It tests your patience, it tests your love, it tests your ties with the loved ones. It will show us dreams and then takes them away. It is full of opportunities, we still fail anyway. We don't know what lies beyond. We don't know what lay before. We compare and compete, we backstab and cheat, we yearn for short cut to success. We want glory and riches, we want health and wealth, we want family and love, we want power and beauty. We are green with envy at the success of others. We want our kids to be better than those of neighbors.
In a limited time with limited competencies and bodies that will grow old and fragile we juggle so many things, interact with so many people and aim to achieve so much.
Is it any surprise that life is tough?!
为什么生活很艰难？
生活之所以艰难，是因为;它是脆弱的，是短暂的，是不可预测的，生命也是有限的。它考验着你的耐心，考验着你的爱，考验着你与所爱之人的关系。它会让我们看到梦想，然后把它们带走。它充满了机会，但我们还是失败了。我们不知道远处是什么。我们不知道前面是什么。我们比较和竞争，我们暗算和欺骗，我们渴望成功的捷径。我们想要荣誉和财富，我们想要健康和财富，我们想要家庭和爱，我们想要权力和美丽。我们嫉妒别人的成功。我们希望自己的孩子比邻居的孩子优秀。
在有限的生命里，在有限的能力和身体将变得衰老和脆弱的情况下，我们要处理非常多的事情，与许多人互动，并致力于取得非常多的成就。
生活是艰难的，这有什么奇怪的吗？
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Why is life tough?
Life is tough because; it is fragile, it is short, it is unpredictable and it is finite. It tests your patience, it tests your love, it tests your ties with the loved ones. It will show us dreams and then takes them away. It is full of opportunities, we still fail anyway. We don't know what lies beyond. We don't know what lay before. We compare and compete, we backstab and cheat, we yearn for short cut to success. We want glory and riches, we want health and wealth, we want family and love, we want power and beauty. We are green with envy at the success of others. We want our kids to be better than those of neighbors.
In a limited time with limited competencies and bodies that will grow old and fragile we juggle so many things, interact with so many people and aim to achieve so much.
Is it any surprise that life is tough?!
为什么生活很艰难？
生活之所以艰难，是因为;它是脆弱的，是短暂的，是不可预测的，生命也是有限的。它考验着你的耐心，考验着你的爱，考验着你与所爱之人的关系。它会让我们看到梦想，然后把它们带走。它充满了机会，但我们还是失败了。我们不知道远处是什么。我们不知道前面是什么。我们比较和竞争，我们暗算和欺骗，我们渴望成功的捷径。我们想要荣誉和财富，我们想要健康和财富，我们想要家庭和爱，我们想要权力和美丽。我们嫉妒别人的成功。我们希望自己的孩子比邻居的孩子优秀。
在有限的生命里，在有限的能力和身体将变得衰老和脆弱的情况下，我们要处理非常多的事情，与许多人互动，并致力于取得非常多的成就。
生活是艰难的，这有什么奇怪的吗？
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Sean Kim
Why is life so bad?
I was born with a rare condition called arthrogryposis. It affects one in a thousand. My parents had wanted to throw me away at sight.
I don’t blame them; who would want such a child?
Throughout my life, I constantly battled my condition and other’s comments. I was going through surgery after surgery, therapy after therapy during the time kids would be out playing with their friends or going to school.
I would look out the hospital window and watch the kids play while I rested my arms and legs inside a stiff cast.
My parents would secretly cry at night, trying to be as quiet as possible so I wouldn’t hear. I would pretend to sleep but inside, I knew it all. I heard it all. I felt it all.
为什么生活如此糟糕？
我出生时患有一种罕见的疾病，叫做关节挛缩症 。它只影响千分之一的人。我父母一见到我就想把我扔掉。
我不怪他们；谁会想要这样的孩子？
在我的一生中，我一直在与自己的病情和他人的评论作斗争。我经历了一次又一次的手术，在孩子们和朋友出去玩或上学的时候接受了一次接一次的治疗。
当我把胳膊和腿放在僵硬的石膏里休息时，我会从医院的窗户望出去，看着孩子们玩耍。
我的父母晚上会偷偷地哭，尽量保持安静，以免我听到。我会假装睡着，但内心深处，我知道这一切，都听见了，感受到了这一切。
Why is life so bad?
I was born with a rare condition called arthrogryposis. It affects one in a thousand. My parents had wanted to throw me away at sight.
I don’t blame them; who would want such a child?
Throughout my life, I constantly battled my condition and other’s comments. I was going through surgery after surgery, therapy after therapy during the time kids would be out playing with their friends or going to school.
I would look out the hospital window and watch the kids play while I rested my arms and legs inside a stiff cast.
My parents would secretly cry at night, trying to be as quiet as possible so I wouldn’t hear. I would pretend to sleep but inside, I knew it all. I heard it all. I felt it all.
为什么生活如此糟糕？
我出生时患有一种罕见的疾病，叫做关节挛缩症 。它只影响千分之一的人。我父母一见到我就想把我扔掉。
我不怪他们；谁会想要这样的孩子？
在我的一生中，我一直在与自己的病情和他人的评论作斗争。我经历了一次又一次的手术，在孩子们和朋友出去玩或上学的时候接受了一次接一次的治疗。
当我把胳膊和腿放在僵硬的石膏里休息时，我会从医院的窗户望出去，看着孩子们玩耍。
我的父母晚上会偷偷地哭，尽量保持安静，以免我听到。我会假装睡着，但内心深处，我知道这一切，都听见了，感受到了这一切。
I knew I was a burden on my parents, on my family, on my relatives. I knew the only way out was to improve myself as much as possible to become “normal.”
So my journey began. I would try my best at therapy sessions and cope with the doctors as much as possible. I stopped crying and began to cooperate with it all. I knew I had no choice but to travel the road up. And so I did.
By five years old, I was doing everything a normal kid should be doing. My doctors had concluded that I was the best case with this condition he had ever seen. I began to go to school and live as normal of a life as I could. Time passed.
Seventeen years later, here I am today. I conquered all my fights and I am a stronger person today; someone who has a clear goal. What did I learn from my journey?
Life does suck, but it sucks only for those who give in.
Seventeen years ago, my parents could have given up and thrown me in the trash can outside the hospital. I could have resigned and accepted my condition. But this didn’t happen. We fought on and we won.
Continue through life and fight everything that comes your way. In the end, you will be a better, happier person. There’s no other way out.
我知道我是父母、家人和亲戚的负担。我知道唯一的出路是尽可能让自己变健康，让自己变得“正常”
于是我的旅程开始了。我会在治疗过程中尽我最大的努力，尽可能多地与医生相处。我不哭了，开始配合这一切。我知道我别无选择，只能沿着这条路往上走，我就这么做了。
五岁的时候，我已经能做正常孩子该做的一切了。我的医生断定，我这种情况在他见过的病人中是最好的情况了。我开始上学，尽我所能过正常的生活。时间也在流逝。
17年后的今天，就是现在的我，我战胜了所有困难，今天的我更坚强了;一个有明确目标的人。我从我的旅程中学到了什么?
生活确实很糟糕，但它只对那些放弃的人来说很糟糕。
17年前，我的父母本可以放弃，把我扔进医院外的垃圾桶。我本可以听天由命并认为我的疾病状态。但这并没有发生，我们继续战斗并取得了胜利。
继续生活，与你遇到的一切抗争。最终，你会成为一个更好、更快乐的人，没有其他出路了。
So my journey began. I would try my best at therapy sessions and cope with the doctors as much as possible. I stopped crying and began to cooperate with it all. I knew I had no choice but to travel the road up. And so I did.
By five years old, I was doing everything a normal kid should be doing. My doctors had concluded that I was the best case with this condition he had ever seen. I began to go to school and live as normal of a life as I could. Time passed.
Seventeen years later, here I am today. I conquered all my fights and I am a stronger person today; someone who has a clear goal. What did I learn from my journey?
Life does suck, but it sucks only for those who give in.
Seventeen years ago, my parents could have given up and thrown me in the trash can outside the hospital. I could have resigned and accepted my condition. But this didn’t happen. We fought on and we won.
Continue through life and fight everything that comes your way. In the end, you will be a better, happier person. There’s no other way out.
我知道我是父母、家人和亲戚的负担。我知道唯一的出路是尽可能让自己变健康，让自己变得“正常”
于是我的旅程开始了。我会在治疗过程中尽我最大的努力，尽可能多地与医生相处。我不哭了，开始配合这一切。我知道我别无选择，只能沿着这条路往上走，我就这么做了。
五岁的时候，我已经能做正常孩子该做的一切了。我的医生断定，我这种情况在他见过的病人中是最好的情况了。我开始上学，尽我所能过正常的生活。时间也在流逝。
17年后的今天，就是现在的我，我战胜了所有困难，今天的我更坚强了;一个有明确目标的人。我从我的旅程中学到了什么?
生活确实很糟糕，但它只对那些放弃的人来说很糟糕。
17年前，我的父母本可以放弃，把我扔进医院外的垃圾桶。我本可以听天由命并认为我的疾病状态。但这并没有发生，我们继续战斗并取得了胜利。
继续生活，与你遇到的一切抗争。最终，你会成为一个更好、更快乐的人，没有其他出路了。
Jim Stone
Why is life hard?
Life has always been hard, but the modern world presents special challenges to human contentment.
According to Self-Determination Theory, human beings have three basic psychological needs:
Competence
Autonomy
Relatedness
When we lived in a tribe or village, it was probably easier to get these psychological needs met.
Today it can be more difficult to get these needs met.
How the modern world frustrates our drive for competence
When our tribe consisted of 100 people it was easy to be the best in the known world at something.
为什么生活很艰难？
生活一直很艰难，但现代世界对人类的满足感提出了特别的挑战。
根据自我决定理论，人类有三种基本的心理需求：
胜任需求
自主需求
联结需求
当我们生活在一个部落或村庄时，可能更容易满足这些心理需求。
如今，要满足这些需求可能会更加困难。
现代世界如何挫败我们对胜任需求的追求
当我们的部落由100人组成时，很容易在已知的世界上成为最好的。
Why is life hard?
Life has always been hard, but the modern world presents special challenges to human contentment.
According to Self-Determination Theory, human beings have three basic psychological needs:
Competence
Autonomy
Relatedness
When we lived in a tribe or village, it was probably easier to get these psychological needs met.
Today it can be more difficult to get these needs met.
How the modern world frustrates our drive for competence
When our tribe consisted of 100 people it was easy to be the best in the known world at something.
为什么生活很艰难？
生活一直很艰难，但现代世界对人类的满足感提出了特别的挑战。
根据自我决定理论，人类有三种基本的心理需求：
胜任需求
自主需求
联结需求
当我们生活在一个部落或村庄时，可能更容易满足这些心理需求。
如今，要满足这些需求可能会更加困难。
现代世界如何挫败我们对胜任需求的追求
当我们的部落由100人组成时，很容易在已知的世界上成为最好的。
If someone else was the best hunter, we could try to become the best spear maker or story teller. There was always a niche available at which we could be the best in the known world, and it was a broad enough niche that everybody valued it.
Today we compare ourselves to 7 billion people. If we want to be the best in the known world at something, we either have to be extremely good (unreasonably good), or find a niche so narrow that no one we grew up with even understands what we do.
How the modern world frustrates our need for autonomy
Autonomy is not the same thing as independence.
Autonomy is a matter of feeling free to act according to our own values.
In the tribe, we tended to share the values of the tribe, and there weren't many social forces conflicting with our sense of what was worth working toward.
Today we interact with a relatively diverse set of people who have very different sets of values. And we must find a way to get along with all of them.
Personally I think this is good. But it is also somewhat disorienting for humans who come pre-loaded with psychologies that were designed for simpler circumstances.
Today we are also more likely to have jobs that require us to act out of step with our values.
And we are more apt to change our values as we grow up and move away from our families and childhood friends. This can cause us to be out of step with people in our lives who still might have considerable influence over our well being.
And so on.
如果别人是最好的猎人，我们可以试着成为最好的制矛师或讲故事的人。总有一个利基市场可以让我们成为世界上最优秀的，而且这个利基市场足够广阔，每个人都重视它。
今天，我们将自己去与70亿人进行比较。如果我们想在某件事上成为已知世界上最好的，我们要么必须非常好（不合理地好），要么找到一个非常狭窄的利基市场，以至于与我们一起长大的人都不知道我们在做什么。
现代世界如何挫败我们的自主需求
自主与独立不是一回事。
自主是一个根据我们自己的价值观自由行动的问题。
在部落中，我们倾向于分享部落的价值观，没有多少社会力量与我们对什么值得努力的认识相冲突。
今天，我们与一群相对多样化的人打交道，他们有着截然不同的价值观。我们必须找到一种与他们和睦相处的方法。
今天，我们的工作也更有可能要求我们的行为与我们的价值观不一致。
随着我们长大，远离家人和儿时的朋友，我们更容易改变自己的价值观。这可能会导致我们与生活中可能对我们的幸福有相当大影响的人格格不入。
等等
Today we compare ourselves to 7 billion people. If we want to be the best in the known world at something, we either have to be extremely good (unreasonably good), or find a niche so narrow that no one we grew up with even understands what we do.
How the modern world frustrates our need for autonomy
Autonomy is not the same thing as independence.
Autonomy is a matter of feeling free to act according to our own values.
In the tribe, we tended to share the values of the tribe, and there weren't many social forces conflicting with our sense of what was worth working toward.
Today we interact with a relatively diverse set of people who have very different sets of values. And we must find a way to get along with all of them.
Personally I think this is good. But it is also somewhat disorienting for humans who come pre-loaded with psychologies that were designed for simpler circumstances.
Today we are also more likely to have jobs that require us to act out of step with our values.
And we are more apt to change our values as we grow up and move away from our families and childhood friends. This can cause us to be out of step with people in our lives who still might have considerable influence over our well being.
And so on.
如果别人是最好的猎人，我们可以试着成为最好的制矛师或讲故事的人。总有一个利基市场可以让我们成为世界上最优秀的，而且这个利基市场足够广阔，每个人都重视它。
今天，我们将自己去与70亿人进行比较。如果我们想在某件事上成为已知世界上最好的，我们要么必须非常好（不合理地好），要么找到一个非常狭窄的利基市场，以至于与我们一起长大的人都不知道我们在做什么。
现代世界如何挫败我们的自主需求
自主与独立不是一回事。
自主是一个根据我们自己的价值观自由行动的问题。
在部落中，我们倾向于分享部落的价值观，没有多少社会力量与我们对什么值得努力的认识相冲突。
今天，我们与一群相对多样化的人打交道，他们有着截然不同的价值观。我们必须找到一种与他们和睦相处的方法。
今天，我们的工作也更有可能要求我们的行为与我们的价值观不一致。
随着我们长大，远离家人和儿时的朋友，我们更容易改变自己的价值观。这可能会导致我们与生活中可能对我们的幸福有相当大影响的人格格不入。
等等
How the modern world frustrates our desire for relatedness
It's easy to imagine that in many tribes everyone felt that they were valuable members of the tribe. And it was easy to define who was in your tribe.
Today we have our sense of relatedness spread out over many overlapping groups.
Again, this is good in some ways, but there is a part of many people that longs for those close bonds that used to happen naturally when life was simpler.
And that's not all . . .
现代世界如何挫败我们对联结需求的渴望
很容易想象，在许多部落中，每个人都觉得自己是部落中有价值的成员。而且很容易去定义你部落中的人。
今天，我们的联结感分布在许多重叠的群体中。
同样，这在某些方面是好的，但有一部分人渴望这种亲密的联系，在生活更简单的时候，这种联系是自然而然发生的。
这还不是全部
It's easy to imagine that in many tribes everyone felt that they were valuable members of the tribe. And it was easy to define who was in your tribe.
Today we have our sense of relatedness spread out over many overlapping groups.
Again, this is good in some ways, but there is a part of many people that longs for those close bonds that used to happen naturally when life was simpler.
And that's not all . . .
现代世界如何挫败我们对联结需求的渴望
很容易想象，在许多部落中，每个人都觉得自己是部落中有价值的成员。而且很容易去定义你部落中的人。
今天，我们的联结感分布在许多重叠的群体中。
同样，这在某些方面是好的，但有一部分人渴望这种亲密的联系，在生活更简单的时候，这种联系是自然而然发生的。
这还不是全部
In addition to those things, life is just more complicated. We have to keep track of more things to function in modern societies. And if you live in an area where jobs are scarce, life will be hard in the good old fashioned way it's always been hard
Life is also easier today in many ways than it was in tribal or village life We have running water and electricity in our homes. If we ARE out of step with the values of our families, we CAN find people to be with who accept us or share our values. We have better medicine, more consistent food choices, an so on.
Personally, I would not trade modern life for tribal or village life. Tribal life was no picnic, and not every tribe matched the romantic ideal we might fantasize about when we want to retreat from modern complexity.
But it's good to acknowledge the obstacles we face when trying to make a tribal psychology work in our large rapidly changing cosmopolitan world.
除此之外，生活还更加复杂。为了在现代社会中发挥作用，我们必须了解更多的事情。如果你生活在一个工作机会稀缺的地区，生活将会一如既往地艰难。
今天的生活在很多方面也比部落或村庄生活更轻松了。我们家里有自来水和电。如果我们与家庭的价值观格格不入，我们可以找到接受我们或分享我们价值观的人。我们有更好的药物，更一致的食物选择，等等。
就我个人而言，我不会用现代生活来换取部落或乡村生活。部落生活不是野餐，并不是每个部落都符合我们想从现代复杂性中逃离时可能幻想的浪漫理想所在。
但是，当我们试图让部落心理学在这个快速变化的世界性世界中发挥作用时，承认我们面临的障碍是有益的。
Life is also easier today in many ways than it was in tribal or village life We have running water and electricity in our homes. If we ARE out of step with the values of our families, we CAN find people to be with who accept us or share our values. We have better medicine, more consistent food choices, an so on.
Personally, I would not trade modern life for tribal or village life. Tribal life was no picnic, and not every tribe matched the romantic ideal we might fantasize about when we want to retreat from modern complexity.
But it's good to acknowledge the obstacles we face when trying to make a tribal psychology work in our large rapidly changing cosmopolitan world.
除此之外，生活还更加复杂。为了在现代社会中发挥作用，我们必须了解更多的事情。如果你生活在一个工作机会稀缺的地区，生活将会一如既往地艰难。
今天的生活在很多方面也比部落或村庄生活更轻松了。我们家里有自来水和电。如果我们与家庭的价值观格格不入，我们可以找到接受我们或分享我们价值观的人。我们有更好的药物，更一致的食物选择，等等。
就我个人而言，我不会用现代生活来换取部落或乡村生活。部落生活不是野餐，并不是每个部落都符合我们想从现代复杂性中逃离时可能幻想的浪漫理想所在。
但是，当我们试图让部落心理学在这个快速变化的世界性世界中发挥作用时，承认我们面临的障碍是有益的。
Tejasvita Apte
Why is life tough?
Because life takes effort. Because life takes Discipline.
Life is tough because we have to do things that delay temporary pleasures. You want excellent health, you've got to control eating your chocolates and exercise everyday.
You want to have great relationships, you have to develop the skills. You have to work at it.
You want freedom, you bloody well take responsibility for it.
You want truth, you need life long integrity and dedication to it.
You want to learn to be happy? It takes lifelong commitment to something other than your own self.
All of the above, requires mindfulness and discipline. Something you have to constantly work at.
为什么生活如此艰难?
因为生活需要努力。因为生活需要自律。
生活之所以艰难，是因为我们不得不做一些拖延暂时快乐的事情。你想要健康，你必须在每天吃巧克力和锻炼方面进行控制。
你想要拥有良好的人际关系，你就必须发展技能。你必须努力。
你想要自由，你应该为此承担责任。
你想要（追求）真理，你需要终生维持正直和献身精神。
你想学会快乐吗?这需要你一生都致力于其他事情而不是致力于你自己的事情。
以上这些都需要专注力和自律，这是你必须不断努力的事情。
Why is life tough?
Because life takes effort. Because life takes Discipline.
Life is tough because we have to do things that delay temporary pleasures. You want excellent health, you've got to control eating your chocolates and exercise everyday.
You want to have great relationships, you have to develop the skills. You have to work at it.
You want freedom, you bloody well take responsibility for it.
You want truth, you need life long integrity and dedication to it.
You want to learn to be happy? It takes lifelong commitment to something other than your own self.
All of the above, requires mindfulness and discipline. Something you have to constantly work at.
为什么生活如此艰难?
因为生活需要努力。因为生活需要自律。
生活之所以艰难，是因为我们不得不做一些拖延暂时快乐的事情。你想要健康，你必须在每天吃巧克力和锻炼方面进行控制。
你想要拥有良好的人际关系，你就必须发展技能。你必须努力。
你想要自由，你应该为此承担责任。
你想要（追求）真理，你需要终生维持正直和献身精神。
你想学会快乐吗?这需要你一生都致力于其他事情而不是致力于你自己的事情。
以上这些都需要专注力和自律，这是你必须不断努力的事情。
Laura Cody
I think life has always been difficult but once upon a time we lived in small clans who helped each other and everyone had to contribute and usually had something they could contribute. And that is what makes life worthwhile, to know you have value.
That was then, your asking about today and you worded it correctly, asking why life is hard. And there is a big difference between life being difficult and it being hard.
With a few exceptions, most humans live in cities with thousands to millions of people crowding all around you, most of them strangers.
It's unlikely that you live within an extended family these days so you have way less support and help from people you have known all your life.
You probably don't know your neighbours, even the people next door.
Instead of learning your skills from your father or mother, you have to go to school where you are expected to learn exactly what everyone else is.
我认为生活一直很艰难，但曾几何时，我们生活在相互帮助的小部族中，每个人都必须做出贡献，而且通常他们都有可以贡献的东西。这就是让生命有价值的原因，知道自己有价值。
那是在那时，你问今天的事，你的措辞很正确，问生活为什么艰难。生活困难和艰难之间有很大的区别。
除了少数例外，大多数人生活在城市里，成千上万到数百万人挤在你周围，其中大多数是陌生人。
如今，你不太可能生活在一个大家庭中，所以你从你认识的人那里得到的支持和帮助就少多了。
你可能不认识你的邻居，甚至不认识隔壁的人。
你不应该从你的父亲或母亲那里学习你的技能，你必须去学校，在那里你被期望学习其他人都会的技能。
原创翻译：龙腾网 http://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
I think life has always been difficult but once upon a time we lived in small clans who helped each other and everyone had to contribute and usually had something they could contribute. And that is what makes life worthwhile, to know you have value.
That was then, your asking about today and you worded it correctly, asking why life is hard. And there is a big difference between life being difficult and it being hard.
With a few exceptions, most humans live in cities with thousands to millions of people crowding all around you, most of them strangers.
It's unlikely that you live within an extended family these days so you have way less support and help from people you have known all your life.
You probably don't know your neighbours, even the people next door.
Instead of learning your skills from your father or mother, you have to go to school where you are expected to learn exactly what everyone else is.
我认为生活一直很艰难，但曾几何时，我们生活在相互帮助的小部族中，每个人都必须做出贡献，而且通常他们都有可以贡献的东西。这就是让生命有价值的原因，知道自己有价值。
那是在那时，你问今天的事，你的措辞很正确，问生活为什么艰难。生活困难和艰难之间有很大的区别。
除了少数例外，大多数人生活在城市里，成千上万到数百万人挤在你周围，其中大多数是陌生人。
如今，你不太可能生活在一个大家庭中，所以你从你认识的人那里得到的支持和帮助就少多了。
你可能不认识你的邻居，甚至不认识隔壁的人。
你不应该从你的父亲或母亲那里学习你的技能，你必须去学校，在那里你被期望学习其他人都会的技能。
原创翻译：龙腾网 http://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
If you had a talent, it was most likely ignored in the public schools.
Eventually you graduate, then look for a job for which you have no experience or go on to college where you might get to study what interests you but your probably pushed to take classes that can earn you a living even if you hate it.
Then your in the same boat as your high school friends who took the work route, you have to interview for jobs you have no experience in. Nobody just gives you a job unless your lucky and a family member owns a business. For everyone one else it a competitive rat race.
Then you have to deal with co workers and your in a constant race to get the next promotion.
如果你有天赋，在公立学校很可能会被忽视。
最终你毕业了，然后找一份你没有任何工作经验的工作，或者继续上大学，在那里你可能会学习你感兴趣的东西，但你可能会被迫参加一些可以谋生但甚至让你讨厌的课程。
那么你就和你的高中朋友一样走上了工作之路，你必须面试你没有任何经验的工作。没有人会给你一份工作，除非你很幸运，或者你的家人拥有自己的企业。对其他人来说，这是一场激烈的竞争。
然后你就得和同事们打交道，你还得在不断的竞争中获得下一次晋升。
Eventually you graduate, then look for a job for which you have no experience or go on to college where you might get to study what interests you but your probably pushed to take classes that can earn you a living even if you hate it.
Then your in the same boat as your high school friends who took the work route, you have to interview for jobs you have no experience in. Nobody just gives you a job unless your lucky and a family member owns a business. For everyone one else it a competitive rat race.
Then you have to deal with co workers and your in a constant race to get the next promotion.
如果你有天赋，在公立学校很可能会被忽视。
最终你毕业了，然后找一份你没有任何工作经验的工作，或者继续上大学，在那里你可能会学习你感兴趣的东西，但你可能会被迫参加一些可以谋生但甚至让你讨厌的课程。
那么你就和你的高中朋友一样走上了工作之路，你必须面试你没有任何经验的工作。没有人会给你一份工作，除非你很幸运，或者你的家人拥有自己的企业。对其他人来说，这是一场激烈的竞争。
然后你就得和同事们打交道，你还得在不断的竞争中获得下一次晋升。
Nothing is for sure because anyone can lose a job or get sick or in an accident and really find yourself in a financial pickle.
And what is worse is that underneath it all, your probably not good or not invested in your job making work hard work.
They say the to master anything you need 10,000 hours, close to 250 / 40 hour weeks practicing. I don't know if a job where you probably have many different tasks allows you to really master it. You just hope you don't get fired.
Then if you have a family, your expected to raise your kids without the assistance of anyone. And you probably don't see much of your extended family.
Basically what I am saying is in the U.S., independence is valued too highly so its all on your shoulders and that's why life is hard because nobody seems to be looking out for each other rather everyone is out for themselves.
没有什么是确定的，因为任何人都可能失业、生病或发生事故，甚至真的会陷入财务困境。
更糟糕的是，在这一切的背后，你可能不擅长或对工作不够投入，因此让工作变得艰难。
他们说，要掌握任何技能，你需要10000小时，需要接近40周、每周250小时的练习。不过我不知道一份有很多不同任务的工作是否能让你真正掌握它。你只希望自己不会被炒鱿鱼。
然后，如果你有一个家庭，你希望在没有任何人帮助的情况下抚养你的孩子。而且你可能很少见到你的大家庭。
基本上我想说的是，在美国，独立被高估了，所以所有的责任都在你的肩上，这就是生活艰难的原因，因为似乎没有人互相照顾，而每个人都只为自己着想。
And what is worse is that underneath it all, your probably not good or not invested in your job making work hard work.
They say the to master anything you need 10,000 hours, close to 250 / 40 hour weeks practicing. I don't know if a job where you probably have many different tasks allows you to really master it. You just hope you don't get fired.
Then if you have a family, your expected to raise your kids without the assistance of anyone. And you probably don't see much of your extended family.
Basically what I am saying is in the U.S., independence is valued too highly so its all on your shoulders and that's why life is hard because nobody seems to be looking out for each other rather everyone is out for themselves.
没有什么是确定的，因为任何人都可能失业、生病或发生事故，甚至真的会陷入财务困境。
更糟糕的是，在这一切的背后，你可能不擅长或对工作不够投入，因此让工作变得艰难。
他们说，要掌握任何技能，你需要10000小时，需要接近40周、每周250小时的练习。不过我不知道一份有很多不同任务的工作是否能让你真正掌握它。你只希望自己不会被炒鱿鱼。
然后，如果你有一个家庭，你希望在没有任何人帮助的情况下抚养你的孩子。而且你可能很少见到你的大家庭。
基本上我想说的是，在美国，独立被高估了，所以所有的责任都在你的肩上，这就是生活艰难的原因，因为似乎没有人互相照顾，而每个人都只为自己着想。
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