你长期独自生活的原因是什么？
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What is the reason people live alone?
你独处的原因是什么？
What is the reason people live alone?
你独处的原因是什么？
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the reasons can be categorized into 3 categories. ( I would answer in the concept, why would someone become a “loner”)
1)people who lack social skills
while people who have bad social skill can also make friends and relationships. they’re very prone to end up alone or to stay alone for a long while.
they’re not good at maintaining friendships/relationships and obviously starting them. this is the first level. people who can’t attract others. not good at first impressions.
usually, people who are autistic/Aspergers or were raised in specific environments, making their mindsets a specific way and very intelligent people fall under this category.
原因可以分为三类。(我会回答，为什么有人会成为“独行侠”)
1)缺乏社交技能的人
虽然社交能力差的人也能交到朋友和拥有人际关系。他们很容易一直独处下去或长时间独处。
他们不擅长维持友谊或恋情，以及无法开始友谊或恋情。这是第一道槛，它们无法吸引别人，它们的第一印象并不好。
通常，这些人可能患有自闭症或亚斯伯格症，或者在一些特殊环境中长大的人，他们的思维方式会是特殊的。一些非常聪明的人往往属于这一类。
1)people who lack social skills
while people who have bad social skill can also make friends and relationships. they’re very prone to end up alone or to stay alone for a long while.
they’re not good at maintaining friendships/relationships and obviously starting them. this is the first level. people who can’t attract others. not good at first impressions.
usually, people who are autistic/Aspergers or were raised in specific environments, making their mindsets a specific way and very intelligent people fall under this category.
原因可以分为三类。(我会回答，为什么有人会成为“独行侠”)
1)缺乏社交技能的人
虽然社交能力差的人也能交到朋友和拥有人际关系。他们很容易一直独处下去或长时间独处。
他们不擅长维持友谊或恋情，以及无法开始友谊或恋情。这是第一道槛，它们无法吸引别人，它们的第一印象并不好。
通常，这些人可能患有自闭症或亚斯伯格症，或者在一些特殊环境中长大的人，他们的思维方式会是特殊的。一些非常聪明的人往往属于这一类。
2)people who have mental problems.
things like social anxiety, depression.
introversion is a personality trait, just like extroversion, and it’s not a mental problem in any way. introverts would have personal prefers.
these people can end up as loners by choice as well.
being raised in a negative environment will make people see others and life in a different way. ex: schizoids, avoidant personality disorder.
and this type can be charming and charismatic in first impressions.
2)有精神问题的人。
比如社交恐惧，抑郁。
内向是一种性格特征，就像外向一样，它不是一个精神问题。内向的人也会有各自的倾向。
这些人也可以选择成为独处的人。
在消极的环境中长大导致他们会以不同的方式逃避他人和生活。例如：精神分裂症，逃避型人格障碍。
但这种类型的人在第一印象中往往很有魅力。
things like social anxiety, depression.
introversion is a personality trait, just like extroversion, and it’s not a mental problem in any way. introverts would have personal prefers.
these people can end up as loners by choice as well.
being raised in a negative environment will make people see others and life in a different way. ex: schizoids, avoidant personality disorder.
and this type can be charming and charismatic in first impressions.
2)有精神问题的人。
比如社交恐惧，抑郁。
内向是一种性格特征，就像外向一样，它不是一个精神问题。内向的人也会有各自的倾向。
这些人也可以选择成为独处的人。
在消极的环境中长大导致他们会以不同的方式逃避他人和生活。例如：精神分裂症，逃避型人格障碍。
但这种类型的人在第一印象中往往很有魅力。
3)people who are loners and should always be like that. (this is related to point 2 as well, but I decided to separate those type of people)
this type of people can be actually very charming and charismatic. only, on the surface level.
they are either:
1) incapable of forming deep relationships. it’s either because:
they don’t have the emotional capacity for this(psychopaths, narcissists, Machiavellians) could be a good example. but they can have a lot of “acquaintances”. but they don't have the emotional bonding, so they would need any closeness to others.
or
they had a traumatic childhood, that made them form some traits. making them unable to understand how to form a close relationship.
2)they are destructive.
the people who get close to them, get hurt in a way or another, intentionally or unintentionally. so, these people leave them, and probably spread a bad reputation about them.
3)独来独往，而且很喜欢这样。(会与第二点有关，但没那么严重，我决定把这类人与上面区分开来)
这类人实际上非常有魅力，但是，只在表面上。
他们是因为：
1)不能形成深厚的关系。因为:
他们没有这种相关的情感能力(精神病倾向，自恋者，绝对功利主义者)可能就是个例子。他们可以有很多“熟人”。他们无法与别人建立情感上的联系，但他们会刻意与他人保持好的关系。
或
他们有一个创伤的童年，这使他们形成了一些特点。使他们无法理解如何建立亲密的关系。
2)他们是破坏性的。
那些靠近他们的人，会受到这样或那样的伤害，有意或无意的。所以，当这些人离开它们，就可能传播它们的坏名声。
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this type of people can be actually very charming and charismatic. only, on the surface level.
they are either:
1) incapable of forming deep relationships. it’s either because:
they don’t have the emotional capacity for this(psychopaths, narcissists, Machiavellians) could be a good example. but they can have a lot of “acquaintances”. but they don't have the emotional bonding, so they would need any closeness to others.
or
they had a traumatic childhood, that made them form some traits. making them unable to understand how to form a close relationship.
2)they are destructive.
the people who get close to them, get hurt in a way or another, intentionally or unintentionally. so, these people leave them, and probably spread a bad reputation about them.
3)独来独往，而且很喜欢这样。(会与第二点有关，但没那么严重，我决定把这类人与上面区分开来)
这类人实际上非常有魅力，但是，只在表面上。
他们是因为：
1)不能形成深厚的关系。因为:
他们没有这种相关的情感能力(精神病倾向，自恋者，绝对功利主义者)可能就是个例子。他们可以有很多“熟人”。他们无法与别人建立情感上的联系，但他们会刻意与他人保持好的关系。
或
他们有一个创伤的童年，这使他们形成了一些特点。使他们无法理解如何建立亲密的关系。
2)他们是破坏性的。
那些靠近他们的人，会受到这样或那样的伤害，有意或无意的。所以，当这些人离开它们，就可能传播它们的坏名声。
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a bonus point,
hurt people. this type of people usually have had many relationships in their past, and are capable of forming deep relationships when they find someone “suitable”.
and I don’t mean “hurt people” as someone who got cheated on.
hurt people, people who felt betrayed by everyone they knew. they lost faith in others. so they decided it’s better to stay alone, building walls between them and others. this type of people could be someone was formerly had many relationships and made many people like him. then things happen, and they just change. they get disappointed.
额外一点：
被伤害的人。这种类型的人通常在过去有很多的人际关系，后来受到了伤害。但之后，当他们能找到“合适的”人时也能建立起深厚的关系。
我说的“被伤害的人”不是指被出轨的人。
被伤害的人，而是感觉被所有认识的人背叛的人。他们对别人已经失去了信心。所以他们决定最好还是单独呆着，在他们和别人之间筑起高墙。这种类型的人可能是以前有很多关系的人，有很多人喜欢他，但某些事情发生了，那些人就转变了态度。他自己就变得很失望。
hurt people. this type of people usually have had many relationships in their past, and are capable of forming deep relationships when they find someone “suitable”.
and I don’t mean “hurt people” as someone who got cheated on.
hurt people, people who felt betrayed by everyone they knew. they lost faith in others. so they decided it’s better to stay alone, building walls between them and others. this type of people could be someone was formerly had many relationships and made many people like him. then things happen, and they just change. they get disappointed.
额外一点：
被伤害的人。这种类型的人通常在过去有很多的人际关系，后来受到了伤害。但之后，当他们能找到“合适的”人时也能建立起深厚的关系。
我说的“被伤害的人”不是指被出轨的人。
被伤害的人，而是感觉被所有认识的人背叛的人。他们对别人已经失去了信心。所以他们决定最好还是单独呆着，在他们和别人之间筑起高墙。这种类型的人可能是以前有很多关系的人，有很多人喜欢他，但某些事情发生了，那些人就转变了态度。他自己就变得很失望。
a big myth that I see here in many answers, that should be addressed.
introverts and being a “loner” are not correlated AT ALL. introverts would have few but very close friends. being a loner is always a result of a problem. and that problem would be classified as any of the 4 points above.
someone could be “alone” for a combination of the past 4 points.
我在很多答案中都看到了一个很大的误区，这个问题应该得到解决。
内向者和成为一个“独处者”根本没有关联。内向的人很少有亲密的朋友。但独处是某个问题的结果。这个问题可以被归为上面四点中的任何一点。
但也有些人的“独处”，可能是遇到了上面的多个问题。
introverts and being a “loner” are not correlated AT ALL. introverts would have few but very close friends. being a loner is always a result of a problem. and that problem would be classified as any of the 4 points above.
someone could be “alone” for a combination of the past 4 points.
我在很多答案中都看到了一个很大的误区，这个问题应该得到解决。
内向者和成为一个“独处者”根本没有关联。内向的人很少有亲密的朋友。但独处是某个问题的结果。这个问题可以被归为上面四点中的任何一点。
但也有些人的“独处”，可能是遇到了上面的多个问题。
if your question is about” living alone, as in house alone”
it could be because they wanted to separate from their parents and start to depend on themselves.
or, because someone who is focused on other things in life other than getting a partner.
this person’s parents died.
this person’s family died(wife/ children).
如果你的问题是关于"独处，指的是只有一个人在屋里"，那么答案是：
这可能是因为他们想要离开父母，开始依靠自己。
因为某人专注于生活中的其他事情，又没有开始寻找伴侣。
这个人的父母去世了。
这个人的家人去世了(妻子或孩子)。
it could be because they wanted to separate from their parents and start to depend on themselves.
or, because someone who is focused on other things in life other than getting a partner.
this person’s parents died.
this person’s family died(wife/ children).
如果你的问题是关于"独处，指的是只有一个人在屋里"，那么答案是：
这可能是因为他们想要离开父母，开始依靠自己。
因为某人专注于生活中的其他事情，又没有开始寻找伴侣。
这个人的父母去世了。
这个人的家人去世了(妻子或孩子)。
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I like to live alone. Why? Because:
I like to keep my surroundings clean. More people= more mess and most people don’t even get bothered.
Cuz I am too much in love with doing things my way, be it cooking or dressing up or doing any of the household chores. I hate when people tell me to do a certain thing in a certain way.
我喜欢一个人住。为什么?是因为:
我喜欢保持我周围的环境宁静。更多的人，意味着更多的混乱，虽然大多数人不会因此而烦恼。
因为我太喜欢按自己的方式做事了，无论是做饭、穿衣还是做家务。我讨厌别人告诉我要用另一种方式去做某件事。
I like to live alone. Why? Because:
I like to keep my surroundings clean. More people= more mess and most people don’t even get bothered.
Cuz I am too much in love with doing things my way, be it cooking or dressing up or doing any of the household chores. I hate when people tell me to do a certain thing in a certain way.
我喜欢一个人住。为什么?是因为:
我喜欢保持我周围的环境宁静。更多的人，意味着更多的混乱，虽然大多数人不会因此而烦恼。
因为我太喜欢按自己的方式做事了，无论是做饭、穿衣还是做家务。我讨厌别人告诉我要用另一种方式去做某件事。
I offend people. I am better left alone cuz I can be a real pain in the ass sometimes.
I like to be naked sometimes. I hate to get dressed up in the bathroom and then come out after a bath. I like to just wrap around a towel and come in my room. You cannot do that with other people in the house, especially when there’s no bathroom attached to your bedroom or if you don’t have your own bedroom.
I hate interruptions while I am in the middle of something, even if it’s just staring at an empty wall or ceiling. I get disturbed easily.
我会得罪人。我最好一个人呆着，因为我有时候真的很讨厌。
我有时喜欢裸体。我讨厌在浴室里穿好衣服，然后洗完澡出来。我喜欢裹上一条毛巾，然后走进房间。这样你就不能和其他人住在一起，特别是当你的卧室没有浴室或者你没有自己独立的卧室时。
我讨厌在做事情的时候被人打断，即使我只是在盯着空空的墙壁或天花板。我很容易被打扰。
I like to be naked sometimes. I hate to get dressed up in the bathroom and then come out after a bath. I like to just wrap around a towel and come in my room. You cannot do that with other people in the house, especially when there’s no bathroom attached to your bedroom or if you don’t have your own bedroom.
I hate interruptions while I am in the middle of something, even if it’s just staring at an empty wall or ceiling. I get disturbed easily.
我会得罪人。我最好一个人呆着，因为我有时候真的很讨厌。
我有时喜欢裸体。我讨厌在浴室里穿好衣服，然后洗完澡出来。我喜欢裹上一条毛巾，然后走进房间。这样你就不能和其他人住在一起，特别是当你的卧室没有浴室或者你没有自己独立的卧室时。
我讨厌在做事情的时候被人打断，即使我只是在盯着空空的墙壁或天花板。我很容易被打扰。
I don’t talk my heart out and I don't expect people to just get what I want or get what I am feeling and act accordingly. It’s an unrealistic expectation to have and it causes a lot of misunderstandings.
I love silence. I don’t like any kind of background noises, be it television or people talking or whatever.
I am more productive when I am alone. I cannot even make a phone call in front of anybody, even if it’s a family member, no matter how important that call is supposed to be. I get very conscious and awkward.
我不会把心里话说出来，我不希望人们能得到我的欲望或者我的感受，然后做出相应的反馈。这是一个不切实际的作法，它会引起很多误解。
我爱沉默。我不喜欢任何背景噪音，不管是电视还是人们说话的声音。
我一个人的时候工作效率更高。我甚至不希望任何人在我面前打电话，即使是家人，即使那通电话有多重要。我都会被干扰和变得尴尬。
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I love silence. I don’t like any kind of background noises, be it television or people talking or whatever.
I am more productive when I am alone. I cannot even make a phone call in front of anybody, even if it’s a family member, no matter how important that call is supposed to be. I get very conscious and awkward.
我不会把心里话说出来，我不希望人们能得到我的欲望或者我的感受，然后做出相应的反馈。这是一个不切实际的作法，它会引起很多误解。
我爱沉默。我不喜欢任何背景噪音，不管是电视还是人们说话的声音。
我一个人的时候工作效率更高。我甚至不希望任何人在我面前打电话，即使是家人，即使那通电话有多重要。我都会被干扰和变得尴尬。
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For me, I was a dumb and socially awkward kid. I barely had any social skills, so, I ended up doing self-containing hobbies like Photoshop, coding or did some crappy painting from time to time!.
Although, I really like core aspects of introversion such as solitude, private time, reading and so on. I don’t want to spend my rest of my life as an introvert.
If you’re a hardcore introvert just like me, then you could really make sense of what I’m trying to say here.
If you’re an introvert, you may spend most of your time on overthinking, rationalizing or over analyzing crap about others. Especially, pay more attention for what others said to you.
对我来说，我是个笨孩子，不善社交。我几乎没有任何社交技能，所以我最终选择了自己的爱好，如ps，编程或不时地进行一些糟糕的绘画!
虽然，我真的很喜欢内向的核心方面，比如独处，私人时间，阅读等等。我不想让我的下半生变成一个内向的人。
如果你像我一样是一个铁杆的内向者，那么你就能真正理解我想说的。
如果你是一个内向的人，你可能会把大部分时间花在过度思考和过度分析别人的废话上，尤其是那些别人对你说的话。
For me, I was a dumb and socially awkward kid. I barely had any social skills, so, I ended up doing self-containing hobbies like Photoshop, coding or did some crappy painting from time to time!.
Although, I really like core aspects of introversion such as solitude, private time, reading and so on. I don’t want to spend my rest of my life as an introvert.
If you’re a hardcore introvert just like me, then you could really make sense of what I’m trying to say here.
If you’re an introvert, you may spend most of your time on overthinking, rationalizing or over analyzing crap about others. Especially, pay more attention for what others said to you.
对我来说，我是个笨孩子，不善社交。我几乎没有任何社交技能，所以我最终选择了自己的爱好，如ps，编程或不时地进行一些糟糕的绘画!
虽然，我真的很喜欢内向的核心方面，比如独处，私人时间，阅读等等。我不想让我的下半生变成一个内向的人。
如果你像我一样是一个铁杆的内向者，那么你就能真正理解我想说的。
如果你是一个内向的人，你可能会把大部分时间花在过度思考和过度分析别人的废话上，尤其是那些别人对你说的话。
Also, things like traumatic episodes, daydreaming are real time killers. Once you caught up into this rabbit hole of thoughts. You’ll never come outside into the physical reality..
So, hiding behind the excuses won’t get you any positive result. So, I’m gonna go out and start living my life alongside others!.
If you want money, no matter how good you’re at the skills you have. If you’re reluctant to socialize then you’ll really struggle to make a penny!.
而且，像精神创伤发作、白日做梦这样的事情都是时间杀手。一旦你陷入了这种思维的洞穴。你永远不会走到外面进入物质现实。
躲在借口后面不会给你带来任何积极的结果。所以，我要走出去，开始和别人一起生活!
如果你想要赚钱，不管你有多擅长你的技能。如果你不愿意参加社交活动，那么你真的很难赚到一分钱!
So, hiding behind the excuses won’t get you any positive result. So, I’m gonna go out and start living my life alongside others!.
If you want money, no matter how good you’re at the skills you have. If you’re reluctant to socialize then you’ll really struggle to make a penny!.
而且，像精神创伤发作、白日做梦这样的事情都是时间杀手。一旦你陷入了这种思维的洞穴。你永远不会走到外面进入物质现实。
躲在借口后面不会给你带来任何积极的结果。所以，我要走出去，开始和别人一起生活!
如果你想要赚钱，不管你有多擅长你的技能。如果你不愿意参加社交活动，那么你真的很难赚到一分钱!
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You are away from all the bullshit the world has to offer. Yes, gossip, backbitching is far to common than you'll realise. And trust me every one is a hungry wolf nowadays. So let them cut one another out. “I love to be the spectator” to their little game
You have more time to yourself: Now, this is fabulous. You can now work on yourself and be incharge of your own mind instead on someone else's mind.
You are self reliant, now, this one's really great. You're self sufficient and pay your own bills.
你可以远离这个世界上所有的扯淡。是的，八卦和背后的说三道四比你想象中的要多。相信我，现在每个人都如饿狼一般。所以，让他们彼此相斗吧。我更喜欢做他们相斗的旁观者。
你可以有更多的属于自己的时间：现在，这太棒了。你现在可以更专注于自己，掌控你自己的思想，而不是被别人的思想所折磨。
你可以自力更生，现在，这个真的很棒。你能自给自足，自己付账单。你不需要向别人寻求帮助。
You are away from all the bullshit the world has to offer. Yes, gossip, backbitching is far to common than you'll realise. And trust me every one is a hungry wolf nowadays. So let them cut one another out. “I love to be the spectator” to their little game
You have more time to yourself: Now, this is fabulous. You can now work on yourself and be incharge of your own mind instead on someone else's mind.
You are self reliant, now, this one's really great. You're self sufficient and pay your own bills.
你可以远离这个世界上所有的扯淡。是的，八卦和背后的说三道四比你想象中的要多。相信我，现在每个人都如饿狼一般。所以，让他们彼此相斗吧。我更喜欢做他们相斗的旁观者。
你可以有更多的属于自己的时间：现在，这太棒了。你现在可以更专注于自己，掌控你自己的思想，而不是被别人的思想所折磨。
你可以自力更生，现在，这个真的很棒。你能自给自足，自己付账单。你不需要向别人寻求帮助。
You start to find joy in some of the most minute things of life. For example I love the process of making my own coffee and having it as I do my work. The feeling is just amazing. Or reading a nice book.
You focus on what's important. Yes as stop following the stupid trends of life. You become more responsible and mature. You'll take your craft more seriously. And yes that reaps all kinds of fruits.
You invest in meaningful relationships. For example, I have this friend and we have been friends for years now, and yes. Almost nothing has changed.
你开始从生活中一些最微小的事情中找到乐趣。例如，我喜欢自己煮咖啡的过程，并在自己工作的间歇喝点咖啡，这种感觉太棒了。或者读到了一本好书。
你开始关注重要的事情。是的，就像停止追随愚蠢的潮流一样。你会变得更有责任感和成熟。你会更认真地对待你的厨艺。是的，它可以获得各种各样的成就感。
你会投资于有意义的人际关系。举个例子，我有一个朋友，我们已经是很多年的朋友了，是的。一直能保持着很好的关系。
You focus on what's important. Yes as stop following the stupid trends of life. You become more responsible and mature. You'll take your craft more seriously. And yes that reaps all kinds of fruits.
You invest in meaningful relationships. For example, I have this friend and we have been friends for years now, and yes. Almost nothing has changed.
你开始从生活中一些最微小的事情中找到乐趣。例如，我喜欢自己煮咖啡的过程，并在自己工作的间歇喝点咖啡，这种感觉太棒了。或者读到了一本好书。
你开始关注重要的事情。是的，就像停止追随愚蠢的潮流一样。你会变得更有责任感和成熟。你会更认真地对待你的厨艺。是的，它可以获得各种各样的成就感。
你会投资于有意义的人际关系。举个例子，我有一个朋友，我们已经是很多年的朋友了，是的。一直能保持着很好的关系。
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I can only tell you why I like to live alone. First of all, I’m an introvert and am quickly depleted by being around others. The constant noise and stimulation wears me out, and gets on my last nerve. When I start getting this way and am unable to get away, I get very crabby and short-tempered. When I was married, twice, I was always trying to find a place to be alone, away from the incessant drone of the television that my husbands turned on the moment they arose, and didn’t turn off until they finally went to bed. It was like fingernails down a blackboard for me. That’s when I started taking hours long hot baths. They were my escape, even though ex #2 constantly disturbed me out of spite. He wanted me to sit with him while he watched television programs that had no interest for me, and was mad that I wouldn’t, so did spiteful things to get even.
我能告诉你我为什么喜欢一个人住。首先，我是一个内向的人，和别人在一起我很快就会筋疲力尽。持续不断的噪音和干扰会使我精疲力竭。如果持续这样，我还无法脱身，我就会变得非常暴躁。当我结过两次婚后，我总是想找个地方独处。我的丈夫们总是一起床就打开电视机，直到上床睡觉才关掉，那是没完没了的嗡嗡声，我想远离这些。对我来说就像在手指甲划黑板的声音那样。从那时起，我就开始泡几个小时的热水澡。这是我的逃命之道，第二个例子，是为了泄愤而不断打扰我。他想让我陪他看那些我不感兴趣的电视节目，他很生气我不陪他看，所以为了报复，他也会对我做一些恶意的事情。
I can only tell you why I like to live alone. First of all, I’m an introvert and am quickly depleted by being around others. The constant noise and stimulation wears me out, and gets on my last nerve. When I start getting this way and am unable to get away, I get very crabby and short-tempered. When I was married, twice, I was always trying to find a place to be alone, away from the incessant drone of the television that my husbands turned on the moment they arose, and didn’t turn off until they finally went to bed. It was like fingernails down a blackboard for me. That’s when I started taking hours long hot baths. They were my escape, even though ex #2 constantly disturbed me out of spite. He wanted me to sit with him while he watched television programs that had no interest for me, and was mad that I wouldn’t, so did spiteful things to get even.
我能告诉你我为什么喜欢一个人住。首先，我是一个内向的人，和别人在一起我很快就会筋疲力尽。持续不断的噪音和干扰会使我精疲力竭。如果持续这样，我还无法脱身，我就会变得非常暴躁。当我结过两次婚后，我总是想找个地方独处。我的丈夫们总是一起床就打开电视机，直到上床睡觉才关掉，那是没完没了的嗡嗡声，我想远离这些。对我来说就像在手指甲划黑板的声音那样。从那时起，我就开始泡几个小时的热水澡。这是我的逃命之道，第二个例子，是为了泄愤而不断打扰我。他想让我陪他看那些我不感兴趣的电视节目，他很生气我不陪他看，所以为了报复，他也会对我做一些恶意的事情。
This brings me to my second reason for preferring to live alone: other people’s expectations. All tolled, I was married for 25 years of my life, and dated or was in relationships when I was single. It always involved their having expectations of me that I might not agree with or like. Even making plans for dinner or a party a few days in advance became annoying. When the appointed day came, I may look forward to the date, but I’m just as likely to not feel like going, staying home in my jammies streaming a good movie. This always lead to problems. Because of my introversion, men told me I was the least demanding woman they ever knew. They loved that about me, until they decided it meant I didn’t care for them. I know most other women accept expectations and demands, or obligations, as what one does to maintain a relationship. But, my personality type, ISTP, is fiercely independent and freedom loving. Being bound by obligations makes me feel claustrophobic, gasping for air. Although men who come on strong wanting to spend every free moment with the obxt of their desire makes most women feel loved, it made me feel imprisoned. I broke up with more than one guy for this reason.
这就引出了我喜欢独自生活的第二个原因：别人的期望。总之，我第一次结婚25年前，那之前单身时还是会约会或谈恋爱，但这总是涉及到他们对我的期望，而我则很不喜欢这样，提前几天约定好何时去晚餐或聚会也会变得很烦人。当约定的日子到来时，我可能会很期待，但我很可能不想去，而是穿着睡衣呆在家里看一部好电影。这总是会导致问题。因为我的内向，男人们告诉我，我是他们认识的女人中要求最低的。他们喜欢我的这一点，但直到他们认为这意味着我不在乎他们。我知道大多数其他女人接受一些期待、要求或义务，作为维持一段关系所做的。但是，我的性格类型是非常独立和热爱自由的，被义务束缚使我感到幽闭恐怖，我渴望呼吸空气。虽然那些男人一开始就强烈地想要和对象度过每时每刻，可以让大多数女人感到被爱，但这让我感到被囚禁。因为这个原因，我甩了不止一个人。
这就引出了我喜欢独自生活的第二个原因：别人的期望。总之，我第一次结婚25年前，那之前单身时还是会约会或谈恋爱，但这总是涉及到他们对我的期望，而我则很不喜欢这样，提前几天约定好何时去晚餐或聚会也会变得很烦人。当约定的日子到来时，我可能会很期待，但我很可能不想去，而是穿着睡衣呆在家里看一部好电影。这总是会导致问题。因为我的内向，男人们告诉我，我是他们认识的女人中要求最低的。他们喜欢我的这一点，但直到他们认为这意味着我不在乎他们。我知道大多数其他女人接受一些期待、要求或义务，作为维持一段关系所做的。但是，我的性格类型是非常独立和热爱自由的，被义务束缚使我感到幽闭恐怖，我渴望呼吸空气。虽然那些男人一开始就强烈地想要和对象度过每时每刻，可以让大多数女人感到被爱，但这让我感到被囚禁。因为这个原因，我甩了不止一个人。
I know my feelings aren’t common, but there are a few others out there like me. We live alone because it’s our "default" setting. Living with others feels too restrictive, like tight clothing, and downright irritating. I’ve been living alone since I divorced my second husband 20 years ago, and I’ve never been happier. Frankly, I can’t understand why anyone would want to live with someone else.
我知道我的这感觉不常见，但还有一些人和我一样。我们独自生活是因为这是我们的“默认”先天设置。和别人住在一起感觉太拘束了，就像穿了紧身衣服，这非常烦人。自从20年前我和第二任丈夫离婚后，我就一直一个人生活，我从来没有这么快乐过。坦白说，我不明白为什么有人想和别人住在一起。
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我知道我的这感觉不常见，但还有一些人和我一样。我们独自生活是因为这是我们的“默认”先天设置。和别人住在一起感觉太拘束了，就像穿了紧身衣服，这非常烦人。自从20年前我和第二任丈夫离婚后，我就一直一个人生活，我从来没有这么快乐过。坦白说，我不明白为什么有人想和别人住在一起。
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Let me tell my reasons for living alone
But before that, I’m an extrovert !! So how is it that I like to live alone more despite being an extrovert ??
I do have a lot of friends no doubt . A lot of people do say so too. But in reality they’re only people I know! I don’t keep people really close to me . So my friends usually talk about their shit or us talking about kpop or anime in general or we do gossip. Well gossiping is something which is not worth to hear and I don’t wanna gossip but , I’m still involved in their talk. So hearing stuff like" This girl is a big hoe , she sucks dick a lot or this that etc ”, it sounds fun hearing this but as you mature these talks sound silly. So I’m tired of hearing such stories , I like to hang out on my own , probably run into trouble and have an adventure alone.
让我告诉你我独自生活的理由
但在此之前，我是一个外向的人!!那么，尽管我是一个外向的人，为什么我更喜欢独处呢?
毫无疑问，我确实有很多朋友。很多人也这么说。但事实上，他们只是我认识的人!我不会让人靠的我太近。我的朋友们喜欢谈论他们的那种事情，我们会谈论韩国流行音乐或动漫，或者八卦。八卦是不值得听的东西，我也不想八卦，但偶尔我还是会参与他们的谈话。虽然听到像“某个女孩是个绿茶，她吮了很多鸡鸡，或之类的东西”这样的话听起来很有趣，但当你成熟了，这些话听起来很傻。所以我厌倦了听这样的故事，所以我喜欢自己出去玩，可能会遇到麻烦，但我更喜欢独自一人。
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Let me tell my reasons for living alone
But before that, I’m an extrovert !! So how is it that I like to live alone more despite being an extrovert ??
I do have a lot of friends no doubt . A lot of people do say so too. But in reality they’re only people I know! I don’t keep people really close to me . So my friends usually talk about their shit or us talking about kpop or anime in general or we do gossip. Well gossiping is something which is not worth to hear and I don’t wanna gossip but , I’m still involved in their talk. So hearing stuff like" This girl is a big hoe , she sucks dick a lot or this that etc ”, it sounds fun hearing this but as you mature these talks sound silly. So I’m tired of hearing such stories , I like to hang out on my own , probably run into trouble and have an adventure alone.
让我告诉你我独自生活的理由
但在此之前，我是一个外向的人!!那么，尽管我是一个外向的人，为什么我更喜欢独处呢?
毫无疑问，我确实有很多朋友。很多人也这么说。但事实上，他们只是我认识的人!我不会让人靠的我太近。我的朋友们喜欢谈论他们的那种事情，我们会谈论韩国流行音乐或动漫，或者八卦。八卦是不值得听的东西，我也不想八卦，但偶尔我还是会参与他们的谈话。虽然听到像“某个女孩是个绿茶，她吮了很多鸡鸡，或之类的东西”这样的话听起来很有趣，但当你成熟了，这些话听起来很傻。所以我厌倦了听这样的故事，所以我喜欢自己出去玩，可能会遇到麻烦，但我更喜欢独自一人。
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Talking about hanging out alone , Having a person over or just having a roommate in general , he or she or it have certain habits which I won’t like. Of course I have to sext carefully, but some behaviours can’t be explained until you notice them. Just imagine you living with a person who has weird habits or has a lust for vodka or cigarettes, meanwhile I’m a non smoker or drinker? Yes!! Could make me be like them?? 90% yes! Now I know why my grandparents tell me to avoid being friends with smokers or drinkers.
I love cosplaying a lot, I started cosplaying this year !! It’s so much fun.!! So I love to have my own personal space to make my costume ..
说到独处，你可以请一个人来住或者找一个室友，但他或她可能有一些我不喜欢的习惯，当然，你可以仔细辨别，但有些行为是无法发现的，直到你后来才能注意到。想象一下，你和一个有奇怪的习惯或者喜欢伏特加或香烟的人住在一起，而我不抽烟不喝酒?是的，可能会让我像他们一样，90%的可能性。这就是为什么我的祖父母告诉我不要和吸烟者或饮酒者做朋友了。
我非常喜欢cosplay，我是从今年才开始的。太有趣了。所以我喜欢有自己的私人空间来制作我的cos服装。
I love cosplaying a lot, I started cosplaying this year !! It’s so much fun.!! So I love to have my own personal space to make my costume ..
说到独处，你可以请一个人来住或者找一个室友，但他或她可能有一些我不喜欢的习惯，当然，你可以仔细辨别，但有些行为是无法发现的，直到你后来才能注意到。想象一下，你和一个有奇怪的习惯或者喜欢伏特加或香烟的人住在一起，而我不抽烟不喝酒?是的，可能会让我像他们一样，90%的可能性。这就是为什么我的祖父母告诉我不要和吸烟者或饮酒者做朋友了。
我非常喜欢cosplay，我是从今年才开始的。太有趣了。所以我喜欢有自己的私人空间来制作我的cos服装。
I’m happy lgbt!. Last two months a friend of mine tried to convince me I’m a bisexual … me being old enough to know and she ain’t gonna change that. I stoped talking to her now , and yeah it’s 2019 , people can get offended easily now , so me alone also equals not being known within lgbt community.
I did mention I like living alone, there are something’s you can do which outweighs the disadvantage! Those can be like coming out of bath naked without having to dress up inside the bathroom or dancing with your bias whole night or reading some fan fics or devoloping some hobbies !! Possibilities are endless !! And since you’re alone there ain’t gonna be anyone disturbing your sleep ,and no one gonna make disgusting faces when you make some food !!
我是一个快乐的lgbt。过去两个月，我的一个朋友试图说服我是一个双性恋者，但我年龄已经足够大，我能知道自己的性取向了，她也不能改变这一点。我现在也不再和她说话了，是的，现在是2019年了，人们都很容易彼此冒犯，所以我也是独自一人，不被lgbt群体所知。
我喜欢独自生活，也有一些事情可以弥补这些缺点！就像光着身子从浴室出来，而不用先在浴室里化妆，或者整晚按照你的乐趣跳舞，或者阅读一些小说，以及发展一些爱好！可能性是无限的！既然你是一个人，就不会有人打扰你睡觉，当你做食物的时候，也不会有人表现出不喜欢的表情!!
I did mention I like living alone, there are something’s you can do which outweighs the disadvantage! Those can be like coming out of bath naked without having to dress up inside the bathroom or dancing with your bias whole night or reading some fan fics or devoloping some hobbies !! Possibilities are endless !! And since you’re alone there ain’t gonna be anyone disturbing your sleep ,and no one gonna make disgusting faces when you make some food !!
我是一个快乐的lgbt。过去两个月，我的一个朋友试图说服我是一个双性恋者，但我年龄已经足够大，我能知道自己的性取向了，她也不能改变这一点。我现在也不再和她说话了，是的，现在是2019年了，人们都很容易彼此冒犯，所以我也是独自一人，不被lgbt群体所知。
我喜欢独自生活，也有一些事情可以弥补这些缺点！就像光着身子从浴室出来，而不用先在浴室里化妆，或者整晚按照你的乐趣跳舞，或者阅读一些小说，以及发展一些爱好！可能性是无限的！既然你是一个人，就不会有人打扰你睡觉，当你做食物的时候，也不会有人表现出不喜欢的表情!!
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