是什么让人们发生了改变呢（上）
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What makes people change?
是什么让人们发生了改变呢？
What makes people change?
是什么让人们发生了改变呢？
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Priya Varma
Pain: feeling hurt can go miles in changing a person. Literally. It might happen due to ignorance of others on their part or general sense of loneliness or just…feeling lost?
Revelation : So, you're waking up everyday , going to work, watching a movie , eating out all by yourself. You enjoy it. Alot. But…you're all on your own. We're all surrounded by 1000s of people around us. And yet we never feel that sense of togetherness with anyone. And then suddenly, none of that matters at all to you. Because all you're really worried about is your Self. So you build yourself . And then you start to build your empire.
Nothing: Change does not need a reason to be. It just is! It is in our lifestyle to adapt ownselves to our demands. Sometimes it's the situation that requires to you do what you're doing. Or sometimes it's just nothing at all ! For no goddamn reason! But lets face it . That's life :)
是痛苦：当一个人受到伤害的时候，会发生改变。从字面意思上来说，就是可能会因为他人的无知，或者普遍是因为感到孤独感，或者是因为感到迷茫，所以人才会发生改变。
是启示：所以，当你每天一个人起床、上班、看电影、一个人出去吃饭，还有很多事情自己一个人做的时候。虽然你会享受这样，但是，基本上你们只能靠自己。虽然我们身边有成千上万的人，但是，我们从未真正感受过与其他人的那种紧密的联系感。所以你才会在突然之间感觉这些对你来说都不重要， 因为你真正需要担心的是你自己。 所以你开始关注自身，并努力打造一个只属于自己的帝国。
没什么理由：改变不需要任何理由。就是这样！努力适应自己的需求是我们生活中的一部分。所以当你遇到这种情况的时候，你只需要做好你当下正在做的事情就可以了。或者说，有时候人发生改变根本就没有任何原因，就是莫名其妙的发生了变化，这就是生活！所以我们还是老老实实的面对现实吧。
Pain: feeling hurt can go miles in changing a person. Literally. It might happen due to ignorance of others on their part or general sense of loneliness or just…feeling lost?
Revelation : So, you're waking up everyday , going to work, watching a movie , eating out all by yourself. You enjoy it. Alot. But…you're all on your own. We're all surrounded by 1000s of people around us. And yet we never feel that sense of togetherness with anyone. And then suddenly, none of that matters at all to you. Because all you're really worried about is your Self. So you build yourself . And then you start to build your empire.
Nothing: Change does not need a reason to be. It just is! It is in our lifestyle to adapt ownselves to our demands. Sometimes it's the situation that requires to you do what you're doing. Or sometimes it's just nothing at all ! For no goddamn reason! But lets face it . That's life :)
是痛苦：当一个人受到伤害的时候，会发生改变。从字面意思上来说，就是可能会因为他人的无知，或者普遍是因为感到孤独感，或者是因为感到迷茫，所以人才会发生改变。
是启示：所以，当你每天一个人起床、上班、看电影、一个人出去吃饭，还有很多事情自己一个人做的时候。虽然你会享受这样，但是，基本上你们只能靠自己。虽然我们身边有成千上万的人，但是，我们从未真正感受过与其他人的那种紧密的联系感。所以你才会在突然之间感觉这些对你来说都不重要， 因为你真正需要担心的是你自己。 所以你开始关注自身，并努力打造一个只属于自己的帝国。
没什么理由：改变不需要任何理由。就是这样！努力适应自己的需求是我们生活中的一部分。所以当你遇到这种情况的时候，你只需要做好你当下正在做的事情就可以了。或者说，有时候人发生改变根本就没有任何原因，就是莫名其妙的发生了变化，这就是生活！所以我们还是老老实实的面对现实吧。
Yogesh Virmani
The willingness to change yourself for someone else is because of our own insecurities. Because we are insecure of how people willl judge us, will people accept us, am I someone they want to hang out with ? This all comes from a place of lack of self belief and lack of confidence in yourself. We smoke our first cigarette just because of that peer pressure or if I put this in simpler words, the fear of getting alienated. Also, nowadays everyone seem to be doing so much self harm and they judge the people who are actually doing good for themselves. For example - Someone smoking cigarette in your group. He will cultivate this habit in many other people of your group. Suddenly a lot of people in your group will start smoking and the meter will come at you. You probably would not want to smoke but you will. This is known as peer pressure.
Also, in terms of romantic relationships, we try to be the perfect match for our partner. We change our habits, our taste and a lot of things thinking that our partner will now love us more.
All of these things happen just because of insecurities. The need of validation, love, acceptance makes us change ourselves for others.
To not do this, you need to have self belief, you need to know the difference between right and wrong. Think before you change yourself for others. Think from a third person’s perspective. Think about if I change this particular habit, will it keep me happy in the long term ? Is it something I would want to cultivate in me if it wasnt for that loved one or that group of friends ?
Do not think like if you do not get validation from this group of your friends or your romantic partner, you will never be happy.
We all emit certain energies. That energies have certain frequencies. You need to be friends with people who match your frequency .
Do not force relationships because forced relationships are always short living.
Just know that you are an amazing person and you have certain qualities that might or might not match with the people you are with right now.
You do not need anyone’s approval to be great. You just need yours my friend. :)
愿意为别人改变自己的原因大概是因为我们自己的不安全感。因为我们不知道人们会如何评价我们，我们不知道他们会不会接受我们？我们也不知道我们是不是他们想与之交往的人？这一切都是因为我们缺乏自信以及我们对自己没有信心的原因。当我们抽第一支烟的时候，就是因为来自同龄人的压力，或者简单点说，就是我们害怕被他们疏远了。而且，现在很多人当下正在做的事情是会伤害到自己的事情，但他们并没有去批判那些让他们变坏的人，反而去评判那些真正为他们好的人。比如，如果你的小组里有人吸烟，他就会培养你们小组里的其他人一起抽烟。突然有一天，你就会发现你团队中有很多人开始吸烟了。刚开始你可能不想吸烟，但你最终还是会吸烟的，因为这就是所谓同伴的压力。
此外，在恋爱方面，我们都希望成为伴侣眼中最完美的样子。我们改变了自己的生活习惯、品味以及很多东西，我们认为这样做会让我们的伴侣更爱我们。
所有这些事情的发生都是因为我们缺乏安全感。我们为了获得他人的认可、爱和接受改变了自己。
为了不再出现这样的情况，你需要充满自信，你需要知道什么是对，什么是错。在你为他人改变自己之前，先认真考虑一下，从第三者的角度来思考一下这件事有没有必要做。想想看，如果我改变了这个习惯，从长远来看，它会让我快乐吗？如果不是为了我所爱的人或那群朋友，我还会想培养这种习惯吗？
你不要想着，如果你得不到这群朋友或伴侣的认可，你将永远不会幸福。
我们都会释放出一定的能量，而能量又有一定的频率。你需要和你频率相匹配的人成为朋友。
不管是什么关系都不要强求，因为强求得来的关系总是短暂的。
你要知道，你是一个了不起的人，你有某些特质，可能与你现在的朋友相匹配，也可能不相配。
你并不需要得到任何人的认可才 可以成为一个伟大的人。你只需要你真正的朋友陪在你身边。
The willingness to change yourself for someone else is because of our own insecurities. Because we are insecure of how people willl judge us, will people accept us, am I someone they want to hang out with ? This all comes from a place of lack of self belief and lack of confidence in yourself. We smoke our first cigarette just because of that peer pressure or if I put this in simpler words, the fear of getting alienated. Also, nowadays everyone seem to be doing so much self harm and they judge the people who are actually doing good for themselves. For example - Someone smoking cigarette in your group. He will cultivate this habit in many other people of your group. Suddenly a lot of people in your group will start smoking and the meter will come at you. You probably would not want to smoke but you will. This is known as peer pressure.
Also, in terms of romantic relationships, we try to be the perfect match for our partner. We change our habits, our taste and a lot of things thinking that our partner will now love us more.
All of these things happen just because of insecurities. The need of validation, love, acceptance makes us change ourselves for others.
To not do this, you need to have self belief, you need to know the difference between right and wrong. Think before you change yourself for others. Think from a third person’s perspective. Think about if I change this particular habit, will it keep me happy in the long term ? Is it something I would want to cultivate in me if it wasnt for that loved one or that group of friends ?
Do not think like if you do not get validation from this group of your friends or your romantic partner, you will never be happy.
We all emit certain energies. That energies have certain frequencies. You need to be friends with people who match your frequency .
Do not force relationships because forced relationships are always short living.
Just know that you are an amazing person and you have certain qualities that might or might not match with the people you are with right now.
You do not need anyone’s approval to be great. You just need yours my friend. :)
愿意为别人改变自己的原因大概是因为我们自己的不安全感。因为我们不知道人们会如何评价我们，我们不知道他们会不会接受我们？我们也不知道我们是不是他们想与之交往的人？这一切都是因为我们缺乏自信以及我们对自己没有信心的原因。当我们抽第一支烟的时候，就是因为来自同龄人的压力，或者简单点说，就是我们害怕被他们疏远了。而且，现在很多人当下正在做的事情是会伤害到自己的事情，但他们并没有去批判那些让他们变坏的人，反而去评判那些真正为他们好的人。比如，如果你的小组里有人吸烟，他就会培养你们小组里的其他人一起抽烟。突然有一天，你就会发现你团队中有很多人开始吸烟了。刚开始你可能不想吸烟，但你最终还是会吸烟的，因为这就是所谓同伴的压力。
此外，在恋爱方面，我们都希望成为伴侣眼中最完美的样子。我们改变了自己的生活习惯、品味以及很多东西，我们认为这样做会让我们的伴侣更爱我们。
所有这些事情的发生都是因为我们缺乏安全感。我们为了获得他人的认可、爱和接受改变了自己。
为了不再出现这样的情况，你需要充满自信，你需要知道什么是对，什么是错。在你为他人改变自己之前，先认真考虑一下，从第三者的角度来思考一下这件事有没有必要做。想想看，如果我改变了这个习惯，从长远来看，它会让我快乐吗？如果不是为了我所爱的人或那群朋友，我还会想培养这种习惯吗？
你不要想着，如果你得不到这群朋友或伴侣的认可，你将永远不会幸福。
我们都会释放出一定的能量，而能量又有一定的频率。你需要和你频率相匹配的人成为朋友。
不管是什么关系都不要强求，因为强求得来的关系总是短暂的。
你要知道，你是一个了不起的人，你有某些特质，可能与你现在的朋友相匹配，也可能不相配。
你并不需要得到任何人的认可才 可以成为一个伟大的人。你只需要你真正的朋友陪在你身边。
James Emerson, M.S. Organic Chemistry & Biophysical Chemistry
They say that the only good apology is changed behavior.
What makes people change?
Pain. When people realize they are in a bad situation, pain helps to awaken people from their constant “auto-pilot” mode.
It may not even be real physical pain, just the emotional pain of self-reflection. Emotional pain can be far more devastating than any physical pain, to note.
“What if instead of participating in ritualized behaviors that are highly based on emotions like fear that can ruin health, relationships, self-esteem, personal growth, professional development, I adopted a zero-tolerance policy against doing things that often end up in regret.
For example, losing patience and having a screaming meltdown because the inner-dialogue has made things seem over-blown, skipping meals as an attempt to lose weight when that only leads to a slower metabolism and gorging on food.”
他们说最好的道歉方式就是改变你的行为习惯。
那到底是什么让人们发生了改变呢？
是疼痛。当人们意识到自己身处糟糕的处境时，疼痛有助于将人们从持续的“自动驾驶”模式中唤醒。
它甚至可能不是真正的身体上的痛苦，而是自我反省时情感上的痛苦。值得注意的是，情感上的痛苦可能比任何身体上的痛苦更具有破坏性。
如果我不去参与那些会高度依赖情感的事情，比如那些会破坏健康、人际关系、自尊、个人成长和职业发展的事情，而是对这些事情采取一种零容忍的态度，不去做这些以后会让自己后悔的事情。
例如，因为内心的想象让事情显得过于夸张，从而失去耐心导致大发雷霆；以及试图通过不吃饭来达到减肥的目的，但结果却导致新陈代谢变慢以及暴饮暴食。
They say that the only good apology is changed behavior.
What makes people change?
Pain. When people realize they are in a bad situation, pain helps to awaken people from their constant “auto-pilot” mode.
It may not even be real physical pain, just the emotional pain of self-reflection. Emotional pain can be far more devastating than any physical pain, to note.
“What if instead of participating in ritualized behaviors that are highly based on emotions like fear that can ruin health, relationships, self-esteem, personal growth, professional development, I adopted a zero-tolerance policy against doing things that often end up in regret.
For example, losing patience and having a screaming meltdown because the inner-dialogue has made things seem over-blown, skipping meals as an attempt to lose weight when that only leads to a slower metabolism and gorging on food.”
他们说最好的道歉方式就是改变你的行为习惯。
那到底是什么让人们发生了改变呢？
是疼痛。当人们意识到自己身处糟糕的处境时，疼痛有助于将人们从持续的“自动驾驶”模式中唤醒。
它甚至可能不是真正的身体上的痛苦，而是自我反省时情感上的痛苦。值得注意的是，情感上的痛苦可能比任何身体上的痛苦更具有破坏性。
如果我不去参与那些会高度依赖情感的事情，比如那些会破坏健康、人际关系、自尊、个人成长和职业发展的事情，而是对这些事情采取一种零容忍的态度，不去做这些以后会让自己后悔的事情。
例如，因为内心的想象让事情显得过于夸张，从而失去耐心导致大发雷霆；以及试图通过不吃饭来达到减肥的目的，但结果却导致新陈代谢变慢以及暴饮暴食。
What keeps people from changing?
Fear.
FEAR = False Emotions Appearing Real
“If I decide to kick this person to the curb….I might not find anyone better or anyone else at all…even though life with this person is hell.”
“If I quit my job to pursue my real interests, whether at work or hobby, I’ll have no benefits, no money, and might not be able to obtain a new job afterwards.”
“If I gather up enough courage to engage and converse with someone who I find interesting or appealing…they could insult and humilate me.”
One way to overcome this circular routine is to reflect on hypothetical scenarios by combining both pain and fear.
“If I let fear stop me from meeting people I would like to meet, I might end up terribly lonely, like now, but till the end of life, dying alone.” (triggers pain)
“If I don’t pursue my own interests, for my own interests, I’ll still have to keep coming back to a job leading nowhere that I hate and creates pain.”
“The unexamined life is not worth living (Socrates).”
Once you decide with firm resolve to not allow potential undesirable outcomes to occur, even if you have to fail and get back up many times, the understanding is made firm, an understanding of the higher self.
是什么阻止了人们发生改变？
是恐惧。
恐惧=看似真实的虚假情绪。
“如果我决定不再搭理这个人，我可能找不到比他更好的人了，或者根本就找不到其他人，即使和这个人生活在一起简直就是地狱。”
“如果我辞职去追求我真正的兴趣爱好，无论是将其变成工作还是将其继续作为爱好，我将来都可能没有任何的福利待遇，也没有钱，而且可能以后还找不到新的工作。”
“如果我鼓足勇气去与我感兴趣的人或吸引我的人去交流，我觉得他们可能会侮辱我或者羞辱我。”
克服这种恶性循环的一种方法，就是通过结合疼痛和恐惧来反思假设的场景。
“如果我让恐惧阻止了我去见我想见的人，我可能会像现在一样非常孤独，一直孤独到生命的尽头，最后孤独地死去。”
“如果我不去追求自己的兴趣爱好，不为自己的兴趣爱好而努力，那我最终还是会回到那个让我感到非常痛苦的，没有任何前途的讨厌的工作岗位上去” 。
“未经审视的生活是不值得过的——苏格拉底。”
一旦你下定决心不再让潜在的不良结果发生，即使你不得不面对多次的失败，但只要你重新站起来，那你对它的理解就会变得更加坚定，你对自我也会有更高的理解。
Fear.
FEAR = False Emotions Appearing Real
“If I decide to kick this person to the curb….I might not find anyone better or anyone else at all…even though life with this person is hell.”
“If I quit my job to pursue my real interests, whether at work or hobby, I’ll have no benefits, no money, and might not be able to obtain a new job afterwards.”
“If I gather up enough courage to engage and converse with someone who I find interesting or appealing…they could insult and humilate me.”
One way to overcome this circular routine is to reflect on hypothetical scenarios by combining both pain and fear.
“If I let fear stop me from meeting people I would like to meet, I might end up terribly lonely, like now, but till the end of life, dying alone.” (triggers pain)
“If I don’t pursue my own interests, for my own interests, I’ll still have to keep coming back to a job leading nowhere that I hate and creates pain.”
“The unexamined life is not worth living (Socrates).”
Once you decide with firm resolve to not allow potential undesirable outcomes to occur, even if you have to fail and get back up many times, the understanding is made firm, an understanding of the higher self.
是什么阻止了人们发生改变？
是恐惧。
恐惧=看似真实的虚假情绪。
“如果我决定不再搭理这个人，我可能找不到比他更好的人了，或者根本就找不到其他人，即使和这个人生活在一起简直就是地狱。”
“如果我辞职去追求我真正的兴趣爱好，无论是将其变成工作还是将其继续作为爱好，我将来都可能没有任何的福利待遇，也没有钱，而且可能以后还找不到新的工作。”
“如果我鼓足勇气去与我感兴趣的人或吸引我的人去交流，我觉得他们可能会侮辱我或者羞辱我。”
克服这种恶性循环的一种方法，就是通过结合疼痛和恐惧来反思假设的场景。
“如果我让恐惧阻止了我去见我想见的人，我可能会像现在一样非常孤独，一直孤独到生命的尽头，最后孤独地死去。”
“如果我不去追求自己的兴趣爱好，不为自己的兴趣爱好而努力，那我最终还是会回到那个让我感到非常痛苦的，没有任何前途的讨厌的工作岗位上去” 。
“未经审视的生活是不值得过的——苏格拉底。”
一旦你下定决心不再让潜在的不良结果发生，即使你不得不面对多次的失败，但只要你重新站起来，那你对它的理解就会变得更加坚定，你对自我也会有更高的理解。
There is an ideal self or higher self we aspire to and there is an actual self .
Many who spend a good proportion of time at the actual self stage often have a lot of “shoulds” and static to-do lists. “I should….[do something]” is a statement that someone knows what needs to be done but isn’t following through.
The decision to change is a choice.
When what one considered or calls a “should” becomes a “must” for that person, change happens.
When one says, “that’s it, no more,” “this can no longer be put off or ignored or trivialized,” and one decides about what will be tolerated from themselves (or what they will tolerate from others), there is a choice, a decision is made, and things change.
I recommend the book Unf*ck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life by Gary John Bishop. Plain language which is precise and not annoyingly verbose, supported by sold premises. I recommend.
Are you tired of feeling fu*ked up? If you are, Gary John Bishop has the answer. In this straightforward handbook, he gives you the tools and advice you need to demolish the slag weighing you down and become the truly unfu*ked version of yourself. ''Wake up to the miracle you are,'' he directs. ''Here's what you've forgotten: You're a fu*king miracle of being.'' It isn't other people that are standing in your way, it isn't even your circumstances that are blocking your ability to thrive, it's yourself and the negative self-talk you keep telling yourself.
我们都渴望拥有一个更高层次的自我，渴望变成理想中的自我，但也有一个真实的自我。
很多人在了解真实的自我阶段花了很长一段时间，他们通常有一大堆“应该做什么”和“要做什么”的清单。 “我应该做点什么事”是指某人知道应该做点什么，但没有坚持去做。
做出改变的决定是一种选择。
当一个人将认为“应该”要做的事情变成“必须”要做的事情时，就代表他已经发生改变了。
当一个人说，“就这样了，不能再这样了”，“这件事不能再拖了，这件事不能再被忽视了，也不能再被轻视了”，当一个人明白自己能容忍什么（或者别人能容忍什么）的时候，就说明他已经做了选择，当他做了一个决定的时候，事情就发生了变化。
我推荐这本由加里·约翰·毕晓普编写的书 《Unfuck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life》。简明的语言，精确而不冗长。
你是否厌倦了生活被搞得一团糟？如果您是，你可以在加里·约翰·毕晓普所写的书中找到答案。在这本简单明了的手册中，他为您提供了你想改变生活所需的所有工具和建议，这本书会帮助你卸下肩上沉重的负担，让你成为真正的自己。“唤醒你身体里的奇迹吧，”他说道： “这就是被你遗忘的事情，你是一个奇迹。”阻碍你茁壮成长的不是其他人，甚至不是你所处的环境，而是你自己，是你与自己的消极对话阻碍了你的成长。
Many who spend a good proportion of time at the actual self stage often have a lot of “shoulds” and static to-do lists. “I should….[do something]” is a statement that someone knows what needs to be done but isn’t following through.
The decision to change is a choice.
When what one considered or calls a “should” becomes a “must” for that person, change happens.
When one says, “that’s it, no more,” “this can no longer be put off or ignored or trivialized,” and one decides about what will be tolerated from themselves (or what they will tolerate from others), there is a choice, a decision is made, and things change.
I recommend the book Unf*ck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life by Gary John Bishop. Plain language which is precise and not annoyingly verbose, supported by sold premises. I recommend.
Are you tired of feeling fu*ked up? If you are, Gary John Bishop has the answer. In this straightforward handbook, he gives you the tools and advice you need to demolish the slag weighing you down and become the truly unfu*ked version of yourself. ''Wake up to the miracle you are,'' he directs. ''Here's what you've forgotten: You're a fu*king miracle of being.'' It isn't other people that are standing in your way, it isn't even your circumstances that are blocking your ability to thrive, it's yourself and the negative self-talk you keep telling yourself.
我们都渴望拥有一个更高层次的自我，渴望变成理想中的自我，但也有一个真实的自我。
很多人在了解真实的自我阶段花了很长一段时间，他们通常有一大堆“应该做什么”和“要做什么”的清单。 “我应该做点什么事”是指某人知道应该做点什么，但没有坚持去做。
做出改变的决定是一种选择。
当一个人将认为“应该”要做的事情变成“必须”要做的事情时，就代表他已经发生改变了。
当一个人说，“就这样了，不能再这样了”，“这件事不能再拖了，这件事不能再被忽视了，也不能再被轻视了”，当一个人明白自己能容忍什么（或者别人能容忍什么）的时候，就说明他已经做了选择，当他做了一个决定的时候，事情就发生了变化。
我推荐这本由加里·约翰·毕晓普编写的书 《Unfuck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life》。简明的语言，精确而不冗长。
你是否厌倦了生活被搞得一团糟？如果您是，你可以在加里·约翰·毕晓普所写的书中找到答案。在这本简单明了的手册中，他为您提供了你想改变生活所需的所有工具和建议，这本书会帮助你卸下肩上沉重的负担，让你成为真正的自己。“唤醒你身体里的奇迹吧，”他说道： “这就是被你遗忘的事情，你是一个奇迹。”阻碍你茁壮成长的不是其他人，甚至不是你所处的环境，而是你自己，是你与自己的消极对话阻碍了你的成长。
In Unfu*k Yourself, Bishop leads you through a series of seven assertions:
I am willing.
I am wired to win.
I got this.
I embrace the uncertainty.
I am what I do.
I am relentless.
I expect nothing and accept everything.
在这本书中，毕晓普将带领你完成一系列的七个主张：
我愿意。
我很想赢。
我懂了。
我接受不确定性。
我就是这样的人。
我是无情的。
我一无所求，我接受一切。
I am willing.
I am wired to win.
I got this.
I embrace the uncertainty.
I am what I do.
I am relentless.
I expect nothing and accept everything.
在这本书中，毕晓普将带领你完成一系列的七个主张：
我愿意。
我很想赢。
我懂了。
我接受不确定性。
我就是这样的人。
我是无情的。
我一无所求，我接受一切。
Prithvi, Student
In one word I would say - Life
Everyone changes as time goes by. I am not the same 7 year old kid I was more than a decade ago and neither can I relate completely with teen version of me while I was going through my adolescenct phase.
Each day in life brings something new to be experienced and which has small but a certain impact on you.
We are all familiar with the rock in a desert example. The rock faces strong winds day and night and gets weathered every day but it isn't perceptible to us until we look at it after say a year or so and it's even more visible if you let a decade pass by.
Similarly we are the rocks and the ever changing never really stagnant flow of life represents the wind. Just like the wind the life throws us curveballs and gives us unique experiences which in turn change our outlook to how we perceive ourselves and others.
As your outlook changes so does your approach towards life. You learn from your mistakes , you try not to repeat them , you make some new mistakes , realise about them and so on the cycle continues.
Each day creates a new memory and teaches you things albeit subtly which may make you think that life is still and stagnant but it is akin to the depths of river which although seems to be still when you look at it from outside but the reality turns out to be quite the contrary.
Similarly when you introspect you come to realise and understand that the years that have gone by have changed you in many ways…some perceptible but some not.
I was thinking about this a few months back and I came to a conclusion that to really embrace life I must learn to embrace the changes in my life and must learn to accept who I truly am. Only then can I be at peace with everything and everyone around myself.
So, Life changes you and you in turn change your perspective towards life and this cycle goes on.
我想用一个词来概括——生活。
每个人都会随着时间的流逝而发生变化。我不再是十多年前那个7岁的小孩了，我也无法完全理解青少年时期的自己。
每一天的生活里都会有新鲜的事情等着我去体验，虽然这些都是小体验，但还是会对你有一定的影响。
我们都知道沙漠中的岩石，它们日日夜夜都要面对着强风的吹打，每天都要经受风吹雨打，但我们无法察觉到它的变化，但你等过了一年以后再去观察它，才会发现它发生了变化。如果过去了十年，它会变化的更加明显。
同样的，我们就像岩石一样，没有什么大的变化，生命就像风一样的永不停歇的流动着。生活给了我们独特的经历，反过来再改变我们对自己和他人的看法。
当你的人生观发生改变时，你对生活的态度也会发生变化。你会从错误中学到新知识，当你意识到你犯了一些新错误时，你会努力不再犯同样的错误，如此循环下去。
你每天都要创造新的记忆，这些记忆会教你一些东西，尽管这些东西可能会让你觉得生活是静止的，停滞的，但它其实类似于河流的深度，虽然从表面上看似乎是静止的，但事实却是恰恰相反。
同样地，当你自省时，你会意识并理解，过去的岁月在许多方面都改变了你，有些变化你可以察觉得到，但有些你却无法察觉。
几个月前我一直在思考一个问题，我得出的结论是，要想真正的拥抱生活，我必须学会接受生活中的变化，必须学会接受真实的自我。只有这样，我才能与身边的每件事和每一个人都和平共处。
所以，虽然是生活改变了你，但反过来你也改变了对生活的看法，这个循环会一直持续下去。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
In one word I would say - Life
Everyone changes as time goes by. I am not the same 7 year old kid I was more than a decade ago and neither can I relate completely with teen version of me while I was going through my adolescenct phase.
Each day in life brings something new to be experienced and which has small but a certain impact on you.
We are all familiar with the rock in a desert example. The rock faces strong winds day and night and gets weathered every day but it isn't perceptible to us until we look at it after say a year or so and it's even more visible if you let a decade pass by.
Similarly we are the rocks and the ever changing never really stagnant flow of life represents the wind. Just like the wind the life throws us curveballs and gives us unique experiences which in turn change our outlook to how we perceive ourselves and others.
As your outlook changes so does your approach towards life. You learn from your mistakes , you try not to repeat them , you make some new mistakes , realise about them and so on the cycle continues.
Each day creates a new memory and teaches you things albeit subtly which may make you think that life is still and stagnant but it is akin to the depths of river which although seems to be still when you look at it from outside but the reality turns out to be quite the contrary.
Similarly when you introspect you come to realise and understand that the years that have gone by have changed you in many ways…some perceptible but some not.
I was thinking about this a few months back and I came to a conclusion that to really embrace life I must learn to embrace the changes in my life and must learn to accept who I truly am. Only then can I be at peace with everything and everyone around myself.
So, Life changes you and you in turn change your perspective towards life and this cycle goes on.
我想用一个词来概括——生活。
每个人都会随着时间的流逝而发生变化。我不再是十多年前那个7岁的小孩了，我也无法完全理解青少年时期的自己。
每一天的生活里都会有新鲜的事情等着我去体验，虽然这些都是小体验，但还是会对你有一定的影响。
我们都知道沙漠中的岩石，它们日日夜夜都要面对着强风的吹打，每天都要经受风吹雨打，但我们无法察觉到它的变化，但你等过了一年以后再去观察它，才会发现它发生了变化。如果过去了十年，它会变化的更加明显。
同样的，我们就像岩石一样，没有什么大的变化，生命就像风一样的永不停歇的流动着。生活给了我们独特的经历，反过来再改变我们对自己和他人的看法。
当你的人生观发生改变时，你对生活的态度也会发生变化。你会从错误中学到新知识，当你意识到你犯了一些新错误时，你会努力不再犯同样的错误，如此循环下去。
你每天都要创造新的记忆，这些记忆会教你一些东西，尽管这些东西可能会让你觉得生活是静止的，停滞的，但它其实类似于河流的深度，虽然从表面上看似乎是静止的，但事实却是恰恰相反。
同样地，当你自省时，你会意识并理解，过去的岁月在许多方面都改变了你，有些变化你可以察觉得到，但有些你却无法察觉。
几个月前我一直在思考一个问题，我得出的结论是，要想真正的拥抱生活，我必须学会接受生活中的变化，必须学会接受真实的自我。只有这样，我才能与身边的每件事和每一个人都和平共处。
所以，虽然是生活改变了你，但反过来你也改变了对生活的看法，这个循环会一直持续下去。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
Rekha Reddy, Homemaker
Hi
There is a good and bad change in perspective of world. But change in it self can’t be categorize like that. People change for various reasons,
1 living changing events.
2 forced to change
3 conscious effort.
Life changing events can be like meeting with an accident or getting well after an illness, this changes the out look of a person tremendously. A good person can become a dumb one and vice versa.
Forced changed can be due the pressure of peers and family and friends or even the very society they are in.
Conscious effort is they just want to change. they may start looking down at people, who where there with them in times of distress.
我们对世界的看法有好有坏。但世界观的改变并不能就这样简单的分类一下。人们会因为各种原因而导致世界观发生变化：
1.生活里不断发生变化的事让我们的世界观发生了变化。
2.世界观被迫发生改变。
3.有意识的努力。
生活里发生的可能会改变了我们世界观的事件，可能是一场意外或者是一次大病后的康复，这会极大地改变一个人。一个好人可能会变成一个笨蛋，反之亦然。
世界观被迫发生改变可能是因为来自同龄人、家人和朋友的压力，甚至是他们所处的社会环境带给他们的压力。
有意识的努力可能是因为他们想要改变。他们可能会开始看不起那些在他们痛苦的时候陪伴在他们身边的人。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
Hi
There is a good and bad change in perspective of world. But change in it self can’t be categorize like that. People change for various reasons,
1 living changing events.
2 forced to change
3 conscious effort.
Life changing events can be like meeting with an accident or getting well after an illness, this changes the out look of a person tremendously. A good person can become a dumb one and vice versa.
Forced changed can be due the pressure of peers and family and friends or even the very society they are in.
Conscious effort is they just want to change. they may start looking down at people, who where there with them in times of distress.
我们对世界的看法有好有坏。但世界观的改变并不能就这样简单的分类一下。人们会因为各种原因而导致世界观发生变化：
1.生活里不断发生变化的事让我们的世界观发生了变化。
2.世界观被迫发生改变。
3.有意识的努力。
生活里发生的可能会改变了我们世界观的事件，可能是一场意外或者是一次大病后的康复，这会极大地改变一个人。一个好人可能会变成一个笨蛋，反之亦然。
世界观被迫发生改变可能是因为来自同龄人、家人和朋友的压力，甚至是他们所处的社会环境带给他们的压力。
有意识的努力可能是因为他们想要改变。他们可能会开始看不起那些在他们痛苦的时候陪伴在他们身边的人。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
C.J. Heck Published Poet, Author. I am a Student of Life and People.
I’m sixty-eight years old.
When I look back on my life, I see so many changes. I couldn’t begin to list, or categorize them with respect to their importance or impact on me as the person I am today.
Every choice and decision I made, each new path I took — everything brought change and, looking back, it was the right decision at the time.
At times I’ve wondered, had I chosen another route here and there, how my life might have differed, but it’s an exercise I only allow myself on a sleepless night.
See, there are no answers to find. I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be …
What changes a person?
Life, yes ... but, we make our own changes, as we live it.
我今年六十八岁了。
当我回首往事时，我看到这期间发生了很多的变化。我无法根据它们的重要性以及他们对我所产生的影响来划分它们。
我所做的每一个选择和每一个决定，以及我所走的每一条路，这所有的一切都让我发生了很大的变化，现在回过头看看，这些决定在当时都是非常正确的决定。
有时我想，如果我当时选择了另外一条路，我的生活会不会有什么不同，但这种想法我只允许自己在不眠之夜的时候才能思考。
看吧，根本就没有标准答案。我现在所处的位置就是我该在的地方……
是什么改变了一个人？
是生活，但是，也是我们自己决定的，要在生活中做出改变。
I’m sixty-eight years old.
When I look back on my life, I see so many changes. I couldn’t begin to list, or categorize them with respect to their importance or impact on me as the person I am today.
Every choice and decision I made, each new path I took — everything brought change and, looking back, it was the right decision at the time.
At times I’ve wondered, had I chosen another route here and there, how my life might have differed, but it’s an exercise I only allow myself on a sleepless night.
See, there are no answers to find. I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be …
What changes a person?
Life, yes ... but, we make our own changes, as we live it.
我今年六十八岁了。
当我回首往事时，我看到这期间发生了很多的变化。我无法根据它们的重要性以及他们对我所产生的影响来划分它们。
我所做的每一个选择和每一个决定，以及我所走的每一条路，这所有的一切都让我发生了很大的变化，现在回过头看看，这些决定在当时都是非常正确的决定。
有时我想，如果我当时选择了另外一条路，我的生活会不会有什么不同，但这种想法我只允许自己在不眠之夜的时候才能思考。
看吧，根本就没有标准答案。我现在所处的位置就是我该在的地方……
是什么改变了一个人？
是生活，但是，也是我们自己决定的，要在生活中做出改变。
Divyang Priyadarshi, Senior Executive Software Engineer at National Cooperative Dairy Federation of India Ltd. (2016-present)
In my opinion, it's knowledge, knowledge can change person's life, though money is also necessary, it alone can't change you. What if you have money, but don't have knowledge/awareness to use it in development, you will remain same. Knowledge will tell you to spend your money at right place, and help you you get improved, knowledge will also help you get money.
There are examples, see, all the successful people, most of them didn't have money initially, but, they had knowledge, they used it in right direction, and they changed their life.
Another side, if you see the people who already had money, and strong financial background, they are same, as they were, even some of them are having bad condition, they lost their wealth, because lack of knowledge.
在我看来，这是知识的力量，知识可以改变一个人的生活，虽然金钱也是很重要的，但它本身并不能改变你。
如果你有钱，但是没有要去开发它的意识，那么你只能维持现状。知识会告诉你怎么把钱花到正确的地方，并帮助你进步，知识也会帮助你赚到更多的钱。
这里有一些例子可以证明我说的话，很多的成功人士，他们中的大多数人在一开始的时候并没有钱，但是，他们有知识，他们把知识用在正确的方向上，最后改变了自己的生活。
换个角度说，如果你看到那些已经很富有的人，那些有着强大经济背景的人，他们也一样。甚至有一些人因为缺乏知识而失去了财富，最后导致他们现在的经济条件并不好。
In my opinion, it's knowledge, knowledge can change person's life, though money is also necessary, it alone can't change you. What if you have money, but don't have knowledge/awareness to use it in development, you will remain same. Knowledge will tell you to spend your money at right place, and help you you get improved, knowledge will also help you get money.
There are examples, see, all the successful people, most of them didn't have money initially, but, they had knowledge, they used it in right direction, and they changed their life.
Another side, if you see the people who already had money, and strong financial background, they are same, as they were, even some of them are having bad condition, they lost their wealth, because lack of knowledge.
在我看来，这是知识的力量，知识可以改变一个人的生活，虽然金钱也是很重要的，但它本身并不能改变你。
如果你有钱，但是没有要去开发它的意识，那么你只能维持现状。知识会告诉你怎么把钱花到正确的地方，并帮助你进步，知识也会帮助你赚到更多的钱。
这里有一些例子可以证明我说的话，很多的成功人士，他们中的大多数人在一开始的时候并没有钱，但是，他们有知识，他们把知识用在正确的方向上，最后改变了自己的生活。
换个角度说，如果你看到那些已经很富有的人，那些有着强大经济背景的人，他们也一样。甚至有一些人因为缺乏知识而失去了财富，最后导致他们现在的经济条件并不好。
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