是什么让人们发生了改变呢（下）
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What makes people change?
是什么让人们发生了改变呢？
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What makes people change?
是什么让人们发生了改变呢？
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Rahul Gupta, MD, SPiD Combines Pvt., Ltd. (2001-present)
Well motivation is the key factor to any acheivement(s) in Life. Motivation can differ person to person. For most people it may be money (nothing wrong with that, who dosent want to be rich..?), for some its higher education, higher the qualifications, less competition in terms of jobs and financial stability is easier to acheive at younger age. The sooner we realize how to motivate ourselves better options we have in future to get settled and acheive what is planned.
For some the motivation is to setup a fully functional self employment business and excel in it. Though this type of people may not have utmost educational qualification or degrees. So many businessmen are doing really great even without college education, we have so many such entrepreneurs across the world.
Yes.! Motivation changes a person by actually running after or hard work is done by an individual to acheive better in life.
良好的动机是生活中获得成就的关键因素。动机因人而异，但对大多数人来说，最大的动机可能就是赚钱（但这并没有错，有谁不想致富啊？），对一些人来说，学历越高，工作竞争就越小、财务就越稳定，就越容易在年轻的时候实现目标。我们越早意识到如何激励自己，我们在未来就越有更好的机会，我们在当下只需要好好的安顿下来并按照计划实现目标就行了。
对于某些人来说，他们的动机可能就是在一个好的企业中表现出色。虽然这类人可能没有接受过高等教育也没有获得什么学位，但是在世界各地还有很多像这样没有接受过大学教育的商人，他们的工作也做得特别好。
没错。改变一个人最好的方式就是，找到他为什么要这么做的动机，并让他为此认真地努力工作，以获得更好的生活。
Well motivation is the key factor to any acheivement(s) in Life. Motivation can differ person to person. For most people it may be money (nothing wrong with that, who dosent want to be rich..?), for some its higher education, higher the qualifications, less competition in terms of jobs and financial stability is easier to acheive at younger age. The sooner we realize how to motivate ourselves better options we have in future to get settled and acheive what is planned.
For some the motivation is to setup a fully functional self employment business and excel in it. Though this type of people may not have utmost educational qualification or degrees. So many businessmen are doing really great even without college education, we have so many such entrepreneurs across the world.
Yes.! Motivation changes a person by actually running after or hard work is done by an individual to acheive better in life.
良好的动机是生活中获得成就的关键因素。动机因人而异，但对大多数人来说，最大的动机可能就是赚钱（但这并没有错，有谁不想致富啊？），对一些人来说，学历越高，工作竞争就越小、财务就越稳定，就越容易在年轻的时候实现目标。我们越早意识到如何激励自己，我们在未来就越有更好的机会，我们在当下只需要好好的安顿下来并按照计划实现目标就行了。
对于某些人来说，他们的动机可能就是在一个好的企业中表现出色。虽然这类人可能没有接受过高等教育也没有获得什么学位，但是在世界各地还有很多像这样没有接受过大学教育的商人，他们的工作也做得特别好。
没错。改变一个人最好的方式就是，找到他为什么要这么做的动机，并让他为此认真地努力工作，以获得更好的生活。
Some realize it after its too late for a job, so they follow their dreams say an art or hobby they have as a god gift and they make it thier motivation, ex. Teaching arts, music, dance, yoga classes, some even teach school students and start earing well after few tries.
If you getup in morning and have a positive thought towards life, towards your work / job and ready to do hardwork for it OR desire do better even in studies that means you are motivated, and to follow the dream people have to change their habits.
If not, we need to find something which motivates us and it should be made as a goal (Motivation) to acheive in life.
To change ourselves we do need motivation.!
Hope that somewhat answers your question.
Wish you all the best.! & be motivated always.!
有些人在工作之后才意识到这一点，所以他们努力去追寻自己的梦想，把自己所拥有的艺术细胞和兴趣爱好当作是上天赐给他的礼物，并将其作为自己努力的动力，利用自己的才能去教艺术、音乐、舞蹈和瑜伽课程，有些人甚至直接去教学生，尝试几次之后就开始赚钱了。
如果有一天你早上起床了，发现你生活、工作的态度很积极，并准备好为此努力工作，或者希望在学习上做得更好，这就意味着你有动力，要去追随自己的梦想，这说明你已经改变了你的习惯。
如果不是这样的话，那我们需要找到能激励我们的东西，并将其作为生活中的目标（动机）。
如果我们要改变自己，那我们确实需要动力。
希望我的这个回答能在一定程度上帮到你。
祝你一切顺利，并始终充满动力。
If you getup in morning and have a positive thought towards life, towards your work / job and ready to do hardwork for it OR desire do better even in studies that means you are motivated, and to follow the dream people have to change their habits.
If not, we need to find something which motivates us and it should be made as a goal (Motivation) to acheive in life.
To change ourselves we do need motivation.!
Hope that somewhat answers your question.
Wish you all the best.! & be motivated always.!
有些人在工作之后才意识到这一点，所以他们努力去追寻自己的梦想，把自己所拥有的艺术细胞和兴趣爱好当作是上天赐给他的礼物，并将其作为自己努力的动力，利用自己的才能去教艺术、音乐、舞蹈和瑜伽课程，有些人甚至直接去教学生，尝试几次之后就开始赚钱了。
如果有一天你早上起床了，发现你生活、工作的态度很积极，并准备好为此努力工作，或者希望在学习上做得更好，这就意味着你有动力，要去追随自己的梦想，这说明你已经改变了你的习惯。
如果不是这样的话，那我们需要找到能激励我们的东西，并将其作为生活中的目标（动机）。
如果我们要改变自己，那我们确实需要动力。
希望我的这个回答能在一定程度上帮到你。
祝你一切顺利，并始终充满动力。
Genuine Person, Student at Kalindi College, University of Delhi (2016-present)
If it does not challenge you it does not change you. See what happens with me is if I find something unsatisfactory or incomplete I search what I am puzzled about. Then cones the phase where i decide to change my perspective regarding that or not.
It is good to change for good. Change is somehow natural also. Sometimes you are so engrossed in learning or your busy schedule that other than you everyobe realise that you are changed. You were undergoing change. You have changed though but you were so busy in undergoing that that you didnt realised when does this happen. This is what affects you the most. If its positive then you are lucky.
Do not try to change yourself. Try to find yourself. You will change but for a good reason. If any change makes you away from reality then it is not good. Just learn to question dear. Question yourself ,question others .
My philosophy is very simple anything that take away your inner peace is too expensive.
And I do not afford expensive changes that deprive me of being myself.
Thankyou.
如果它无法挑战你，它就不能改变你。你可以看看发生在我身上的那些事情，如果我发现了一些东西让我不满意或不完美的话，我就会去搜索那些让我困惑的东西。然后是思考阶段，在这个阶段我会决定是否要改变我的观点。
为了变得更好而改变是一件好事，改变也是自然而然的。有时候，当你太专注于学习或忙碌的日程时，你会发现除了你以外的每个人都意识到你发生了改变。你正在悄悄的发生变化。虽然你可能已经改变了，但由于你太忙于自己的事情，以至于你都没有意识到这是什么时候发生的。可能这个改变对你的影响很大，但如果这个改变是积极的，那么你就是一个很幸运的人。
不要试图改变自己，你要试着找到真正的自己。总有一天，你会因为一个充分的理由去改变自己。任何让你远离现实的改变，都不是好事。要学会质疑，亲爱的。要质疑自己，质疑他人。
我的人生哲学很简单，任何夺走你内心平静的东西都不是好东西。
而且我负担不起这昂贵的改变，因为它剥夺了我做自己的权利。
谢谢。
If it does not challenge you it does not change you. See what happens with me is if I find something unsatisfactory or incomplete I search what I am puzzled about. Then cones the phase where i decide to change my perspective regarding that or not.
It is good to change for good. Change is somehow natural also. Sometimes you are so engrossed in learning or your busy schedule that other than you everyobe realise that you are changed. You were undergoing change. You have changed though but you were so busy in undergoing that that you didnt realised when does this happen. This is what affects you the most. If its positive then you are lucky.
Do not try to change yourself. Try to find yourself. You will change but for a good reason. If any change makes you away from reality then it is not good. Just learn to question dear. Question yourself ,question others .
My philosophy is very simple anything that take away your inner peace is too expensive.
And I do not afford expensive changes that deprive me of being myself.
Thankyou.
如果它无法挑战你，它就不能改变你。你可以看看发生在我身上的那些事情，如果我发现了一些东西让我不满意或不完美的话，我就会去搜索那些让我困惑的东西。然后是思考阶段，在这个阶段我会决定是否要改变我的观点。
为了变得更好而改变是一件好事，改变也是自然而然的。有时候，当你太专注于学习或忙碌的日程时，你会发现除了你以外的每个人都意识到你发生了改变。你正在悄悄的发生变化。虽然你可能已经改变了，但由于你太忙于自己的事情，以至于你都没有意识到这是什么时候发生的。可能这个改变对你的影响很大，但如果这个改变是积极的，那么你就是一个很幸运的人。
不要试图改变自己，你要试着找到真正的自己。总有一天，你会因为一个充分的理由去改变自己。任何让你远离现实的改变，都不是好事。要学会质疑，亲爱的。要质疑自己，质疑他人。
我的人生哲学很简单，任何夺走你内心平静的东西都不是好东西。
而且我负担不起这昂贵的改变，因为它剥夺了我做自己的权利。
谢谢。
Len Cruz, professional observer, aspiring satirist, serious humorist
People change because of two things: to experience pleasure or avoid pain.
Also, human beings evolve by being social (being accepted by society, being liked and admired, etc) and usually learn from imitation. So from birth, a person would start imitating things from his immediate environment, modeling behavior from parents and basically gathering experiences.
Now being human, it is easy to be complacent because we like to relax and be comfortable. Change is usually disruptive and a lot of the times actively avoided. A person is only motivated to want to change when something begins to have a tremendous impact on him.
Maybe he fell in love for the first time and got rejected. This would motivate him to change to experience the pleasure of attraction and to avoid the pain of rejection. Maybe he is a lazy student so his parents fawn over his intelligent brother. This would motivate him to become a skilled athlete to experience the pleasure of recognition and avoid the pain of being ignored and overshadowed.
As humans, most of our actions are motivated by being socially accepted. We want to be admired, acknowledged, approved of by everyone around us. It is what drives us to evolve and survive as a species.
人会发生变化有两个原因：体验快乐或避免痛苦。
此外，人类是通过社会性（被社会接受，被喜欢和钦佩等等）进化的，人通常是从模仿中学习新东西。所以一个人从出生开始，就会开始模仿周围环境中的事物，模仿父母的行为，并从其中收集经验。
我们现在作为人类，很容易自满，因为我们喜欢放松和舒适。改变通常具有破坏性，很多时候人都会主动避免改变。一个人只有当某件事开始对他产生巨大的影响时，他才会想要改变。
也许是他第一次坠入爱河却被拒绝了。这会促使他想去改变，去体验被吸引的快乐，避免被拒绝的痛苦。也许他是个懒惰的学生，所以他的父母更喜欢他聪明的弟弟，这可能激励他成为一名优秀的人，以体验被认可的快乐，避免被父母忽视，避免蒙上阴影的痛苦。
作为人类，我们的大多数行为都是被社会所接受的。我们希望被周围的人钦佩、承认、认可。它是驱使我们作为一个物种进化和生存的动力。
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People change because of two things: to experience pleasure or avoid pain.
Also, human beings evolve by being social (being accepted by society, being liked and admired, etc) and usually learn from imitation. So from birth, a person would start imitating things from his immediate environment, modeling behavior from parents and basically gathering experiences.
Now being human, it is easy to be complacent because we like to relax and be comfortable. Change is usually disruptive and a lot of the times actively avoided. A person is only motivated to want to change when something begins to have a tremendous impact on him.
Maybe he fell in love for the first time and got rejected. This would motivate him to change to experience the pleasure of attraction and to avoid the pain of rejection. Maybe he is a lazy student so his parents fawn over his intelligent brother. This would motivate him to become a skilled athlete to experience the pleasure of recognition and avoid the pain of being ignored and overshadowed.
As humans, most of our actions are motivated by being socially accepted. We want to be admired, acknowledged, approved of by everyone around us. It is what drives us to evolve and survive as a species.
人会发生变化有两个原因：体验快乐或避免痛苦。
此外，人类是通过社会性（被社会接受，被喜欢和钦佩等等）进化的，人通常是从模仿中学习新东西。所以一个人从出生开始，就会开始模仿周围环境中的事物，模仿父母的行为，并从其中收集经验。
我们现在作为人类，很容易自满，因为我们喜欢放松和舒适。改变通常具有破坏性，很多时候人都会主动避免改变。一个人只有当某件事开始对他产生巨大的影响时，他才会想要改变。
也许是他第一次坠入爱河却被拒绝了。这会促使他想去改变，去体验被吸引的快乐，避免被拒绝的痛苦。也许他是个懒惰的学生，所以他的父母更喜欢他聪明的弟弟，这可能激励他成为一名优秀的人，以体验被认可的快乐，避免被父母忽视，避免蒙上阴影的痛苦。
作为人类，我们的大多数行为都是被社会所接受的。我们希望被周围的人钦佩、承认、认可。它是驱使我们作为一个物种进化和生存的动力。
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Brendan O Donnell, studies Medicine & Medicine at University College Dublin (2023)
Changing oneself for others.
Each of us is constantly changing. Those of us who have an identical twin will authenticate their variation from their twin. Some proponents of genetic determinism will say that the hardware in the two individuals is the same but the the software is constantly warped by the different space and time which they occupy.
Despite the constantly changing state of our brains many ideas and beliefs become fixed as we grow. Many factors help to fix and consolidate information in our brains. These things are our early childhood experiences, parent-child relationship, sleep, education and all of the other stuff you do as an infant and later as a child.
Depending on ones environment and their genetics they will come to have ideas, attitudes and beliefs. Evolution insists that many of us will aspire to reproduce.
为别人改变自己。
我们每个人都在不断的变化。我们中有一些同卵双胞胎的人，会鉴定他们的变异是否来自双胞胎。一些基因决定论的支持者会说，两个个体的硬件是一样的，只是软件在不断被他们所占据的空间和时间所改变。
尽管我们大脑的状态在不断的变化，但随着我们的成长，许多想法和信念会变得固定不变。许多因素有助于修复和巩固我们大脑中的信息。这些都与我们早期的童年经历、亲子关系、睡眠、教育以及所有你在婴儿时期和后来的孩子时期所做的事情有关。
一个人所处的环境和他们的基因，决定了他们会有不同的想法，态度和信仰。进化论认为，我们中的许多人都渴望繁衍后代。
Changing oneself for others.
Each of us is constantly changing. Those of us who have an identical twin will authenticate their variation from their twin. Some proponents of genetic determinism will say that the hardware in the two individuals is the same but the the software is constantly warped by the different space and time which they occupy.
Despite the constantly changing state of our brains many ideas and beliefs become fixed as we grow. Many factors help to fix and consolidate information in our brains. These things are our early childhood experiences, parent-child relationship, sleep, education and all of the other stuff you do as an infant and later as a child.
Depending on ones environment and their genetics they will come to have ideas, attitudes and beliefs. Evolution insists that many of us will aspire to reproduce.
为别人改变自己。
我们每个人都在不断的变化。我们中有一些同卵双胞胎的人，会鉴定他们的变异是否来自双胞胎。一些基因决定论的支持者会说，两个个体的硬件是一样的，只是软件在不断被他们所占据的空间和时间所改变。
尽管我们大脑的状态在不断的变化，但随着我们的成长，许多想法和信念会变得固定不变。许多因素有助于修复和巩固我们大脑中的信息。这些都与我们早期的童年经历、亲子关系、睡眠、教育以及所有你在婴儿时期和后来的孩子时期所做的事情有关。
一个人所处的环境和他们的基因，决定了他们会有不同的想法，态度和信仰。进化论认为，我们中的许多人都渴望繁衍后代。
People will “change” to accomplish a goal. They will change improve their chances of connecting with a life partner or they will change to protect their family unit. Change is not always known to us when it is occuring. Change is usually good and healthy and is a product of small deviations in ideas leading to small attitude shift leading to changes in beliefs.
When change in belief has occurred their usually comes a point where a person behavior need to change to more accurately fit them as a person. A new relationship often causes the personal growth necessary to change. This said, sometimes a person can change in pursuit of acceptance and praise from a new friend or lover. By using the persons praise as a surrogate for measuring selfworth they can disobey their intrinsic value system. This can cause internal anguish and turmoil.
We each need to remember to ask ourselves when we are changing - Do our actions betray the type of person we want to be? More simply, is the change in good? If we like the person we are changing into we can continue and even be more deliberate in our efforts to become that person. If we do not we need to bravely push back and not be squeezed into becoming someone who we do not like.
At times we are all guilty of doing behaviors which jar with our perception of ourselves. Sometimes it takes us weeks or months or even years to see the course we are on is not good. Sometimes it is a friend or a family member who makes us aware. I think no matter how bad or rotten we may feel everyone needs to continue to reserve love for themselves. Your mam, your dad, your brother or sister, your partner or even your kids may hate you but be honest and feel inside yourself make the next changes in your life tiny, though they may be, good. Do something which makes the world a tiny bit better everyday.
人们会为了实现目标而发生“改变”。当他们想增加与生活伴侣之间的联系时，或者当他们想保护他们的家庭时，他们会愿意去改变。当变化发生的时候，我们并不知道它发生了。改变通常都是好的和有益的，改变是观念上的微小偏差导致态度上的微小转变，从而导致信念发生改变的产物。
当信念发生变化时，通常是一个人的行为需要改变。一段新关系的出现往往会导致个人在成长过程中发生变化。也就是说，有时候一个人会因为追求新朋友或新爱人的接纳和赞美而发生改变。用他人的赞扬来作为衡量自我价值的替代品，可能会违背人的内在价值体系。这可能会导致他们内心充满痛苦以及思想出现混乱。
当我们改变时，我们每个人都需要问问自己——我们的行为是否背离了我们想成为的那种人？更简单地说，这种变化是好的吗？如果我们喜欢我们正在变成的那个人，我们就可以继续，甚至可以努力变成那个人。如果我们不喜欢，我们就需要勇敢地反击，而不是被迫变成那个我们不喜欢的人。
有时，我们会因为自己的行为与我们对自己的看法不一致而感到内疚。有时，我们要花几个星期、几个月甚至几年的时间才能看到我们现在的处境其实并不好，有时候是朋友或家庭成员让我们意识到这一点。我认为不管我们现在的处境有多糟糕，每个人都应该在内心深处为自己保留一份爱意。你的妈妈，你的爸爸，你的兄弟姐妹，你的伴侣甚至你的孩子可能会讨厌你，但你要在你内心深处保留一些会让你生命变得更好的选择。做一些让世界每天都变得更美好的事情。
When change in belief has occurred their usually comes a point where a person behavior need to change to more accurately fit them as a person. A new relationship often causes the personal growth necessary to change. This said, sometimes a person can change in pursuit of acceptance and praise from a new friend or lover. By using the persons praise as a surrogate for measuring selfworth they can disobey their intrinsic value system. This can cause internal anguish and turmoil.
We each need to remember to ask ourselves when we are changing - Do our actions betray the type of person we want to be? More simply, is the change in good? If we like the person we are changing into we can continue and even be more deliberate in our efforts to become that person. If we do not we need to bravely push back and not be squeezed into becoming someone who we do not like.
At times we are all guilty of doing behaviors which jar with our perception of ourselves. Sometimes it takes us weeks or months or even years to see the course we are on is not good. Sometimes it is a friend or a family member who makes us aware. I think no matter how bad or rotten we may feel everyone needs to continue to reserve love for themselves. Your mam, your dad, your brother or sister, your partner or even your kids may hate you but be honest and feel inside yourself make the next changes in your life tiny, though they may be, good. Do something which makes the world a tiny bit better everyday.
人们会为了实现目标而发生“改变”。当他们想增加与生活伴侣之间的联系时，或者当他们想保护他们的家庭时，他们会愿意去改变。当变化发生的时候，我们并不知道它发生了。改变通常都是好的和有益的，改变是观念上的微小偏差导致态度上的微小转变，从而导致信念发生改变的产物。
当信念发生变化时，通常是一个人的行为需要改变。一段新关系的出现往往会导致个人在成长过程中发生变化。也就是说，有时候一个人会因为追求新朋友或新爱人的接纳和赞美而发生改变。用他人的赞扬来作为衡量自我价值的替代品，可能会违背人的内在价值体系。这可能会导致他们内心充满痛苦以及思想出现混乱。
当我们改变时，我们每个人都需要问问自己——我们的行为是否背离了我们想成为的那种人？更简单地说，这种变化是好的吗？如果我们喜欢我们正在变成的那个人，我们就可以继续，甚至可以努力变成那个人。如果我们不喜欢，我们就需要勇敢地反击，而不是被迫变成那个我们不喜欢的人。
有时，我们会因为自己的行为与我们对自己的看法不一致而感到内疚。有时，我们要花几个星期、几个月甚至几年的时间才能看到我们现在的处境其实并不好，有时候是朋友或家庭成员让我们意识到这一点。我认为不管我们现在的处境有多糟糕，每个人都应该在内心深处为自己保留一份爱意。你的妈妈，你的爸爸，你的兄弟姐妹，你的伴侣甚至你的孩子可能会讨厌你，但你要在你内心深处保留一些会让你生命变得更好的选择。做一些让世界每天都变得更美好的事情。
Zeel
In this world no one wants to change until they experience some embrassement in their life or something happened to them that drastically change their way of thinking or some do or die type of situation.Let me explain you by taking an example :a student study in 10 th class uptil now he never failed in any examination though he is somewhat weak in study he managed himself to get pass in examination.One day he get failed in one of the subject in preliminary exams, this failure is breakthrough in his life.After then he study for hours and hours, he kept himself busy with books and only goal left in his life is to not only pass the examination but also with good marks.Later on his hardwork and effort works and he get passed with good percentage in 10 th class. Thus the embarrassment he experienced due to his failure will eventually leads to high level of success in his life though getting good marks in 10 th class is not a big achievement for us but for him it's a biggest achievement. As from then he never limits himself, he will give his 100 Percent to achieve anything in his life.
在这个世界上，没有人愿意改变，除非他们在生活中经历了某些难以接受的事情，或者发生了某些事情，彻底改变了他们的思维方式，或者是经历了某些人的生死。让我给你举个例子来解释一下：一个10年级的学生，直到现在他都从来没有一次考试不及格过，尽管他在学习上有些薄弱项，但他还是设法通过了考试。有一天他在一门课的预考中失败了，这是他生命中第一次的失败。之后，他每天都会连续学习好几个小时，一直忙着看书，他人生唯一的目标就是不仅要通过考试，还要取得好成绩。他一直在努力学习，后来他以很高的成绩通过了十年级的考试。因此，由于他的失败，他所经历的挫折，最终会导致他会在将来的生活中获得较高水平的成功。虽然获得一个良好的成绩并不是很一个大的成就，但对他来说，这就是一个最大的成就。从那时起，他就再也不会限制自己了，他会付出百分之百的努力去实现他生命中的所有目标。
In this world no one wants to change until they experience some embrassement in their life or something happened to them that drastically change their way of thinking or some do or die type of situation.Let me explain you by taking an example :a student study in 10 th class uptil now he never failed in any examination though he is somewhat weak in study he managed himself to get pass in examination.One day he get failed in one of the subject in preliminary exams, this failure is breakthrough in his life.After then he study for hours and hours, he kept himself busy with books and only goal left in his life is to not only pass the examination but also with good marks.Later on his hardwork and effort works and he get passed with good percentage in 10 th class. Thus the embarrassment he experienced due to his failure will eventually leads to high level of success in his life though getting good marks in 10 th class is not a big achievement for us but for him it's a biggest achievement. As from then he never limits himself, he will give his 100 Percent to achieve anything in his life.
在这个世界上，没有人愿意改变，除非他们在生活中经历了某些难以接受的事情，或者发生了某些事情，彻底改变了他们的思维方式，或者是经历了某些人的生死。让我给你举个例子来解释一下：一个10年级的学生，直到现在他都从来没有一次考试不及格过，尽管他在学习上有些薄弱项，但他还是设法通过了考试。有一天他在一门课的预考中失败了，这是他生命中第一次的失败。之后，他每天都会连续学习好几个小时，一直忙着看书，他人生唯一的目标就是不仅要通过考试，还要取得好成绩。他一直在努力学习，后来他以很高的成绩通过了十年级的考试。因此，由于他的失败，他所经历的挫折，最终会导致他会在将来的生活中获得较高水平的成功。虽然获得一个良好的成绩并不是很一个大的成就，但对他来说，这就是一个最大的成就。从那时起，他就再也不会限制自己了，他会付出百分之百的努力去实现他生命中的所有目标。
Elise Celli, Therapist (2020-present)
It is usually very difficult to change core personality traits or behaviors once we are adults. However, life changing experiences -good or bad- can serve as motivators to drastically change a person. For instance , if someone is attacked they may become ( understandably so) much less social and more timid. Or if a person has experienced grief they may seek solace in their religion and become very religious. In addition as we age we tend to go through phases of life that seem to naturally change what things are important to us. There is something called self-actualuzation which can occur that means that as we age we seek out the ways to become the fullest version of ourselves often in a way that not only fulfills us but that also gives back to society
一旦我们长大成人了，就会很难改变我们最核心的个性特征或行为。所以，无论是好经历还是坏经历，凡是改变我们人生的经历都可以成为彻底改变一个人的动力。例如，如果有人受到了攻击，他们可能会变得（但这是可以理解的）更不合群，更胆小。或者，如果一个人经历了悲伤，他们可能会去宗教中寻求安慰，他们会变得非常虔诚。此外，随着年龄的增长，我们往往会经历生活中的各个阶段，这些阶段似乎会自然而然地改变那些对我们来说很重要的事情。有一种东西叫“自我价值的实现”，他总有一天会实现自己价值的，这意味着我们随着年龄的增长，会寻找各种方法来充实自己，让自己变得更完美，这种方式不仅能满足我们自己，还能回馈社会。
It is usually very difficult to change core personality traits or behaviors once we are adults. However, life changing experiences -good or bad- can serve as motivators to drastically change a person. For instance , if someone is attacked they may become ( understandably so) much less social and more timid. Or if a person has experienced grief they may seek solace in their religion and become very religious. In addition as we age we tend to go through phases of life that seem to naturally change what things are important to us. There is something called self-actualuzation which can occur that means that as we age we seek out the ways to become the fullest version of ourselves often in a way that not only fulfills us but that also gives back to society
一旦我们长大成人了，就会很难改变我们最核心的个性特征或行为。所以，无论是好经历还是坏经历，凡是改变我们人生的经历都可以成为彻底改变一个人的动力。例如，如果有人受到了攻击，他们可能会变得（但这是可以理解的）更不合群，更胆小。或者，如果一个人经历了悲伤，他们可能会去宗教中寻求安慰，他们会变得非常虔诚。此外，随着年龄的增长，我们往往会经历生活中的各个阶段，这些阶段似乎会自然而然地改变那些对我们来说很重要的事情。有一种东西叫“自我价值的实现”，他总有一天会实现自己价值的，这意味着我们随着年龄的增长，会寻找各种方法来充实自己，让自己变得更完美，这种方式不仅能满足我们自己，还能回馈社会。
Liviani Perlita, former Owner at Kids Clothes
Something happened in their life and its totally changed their life upside down (in both between really good thing or bad thing)
Because a personality doesn’t easily changes.
Example:
Maybe you have friend or close people in your life that have a bad habit, you always tell him or her to change that bad habit like over and over again. But you must be know he or she is never change.
Or you can take your self as example. Do you ever change your character since you as a little kid?
If you like flowers you will be like it or the rest of your life, except something happen to you that really hurt your deep heart like some traumatic.
在他们的生活中发生了一些事情，这些事情彻底改变了他们的生活（不管是好事还是坏事）。因为一个人的性格是不会轻易改变的。
例如：也许你生活中有一些朋友或亲近的人，他们有一些坏习惯，你总是一遍又一遍地告诉他或她要改掉那个坏习惯。但你要做好心理准备，他或她可能永远都不会改变。
或者你可以以自己为例。你从小就没有改变过自己的性格吗？
如果你喜欢花，你就会很喜欢它，甚至你的余生都会喜欢花，除非一些发生在你身上的事情，真正的伤害到你的内心深处，你才可能会有所改变。
Something happened in their life and its totally changed their life upside down (in both between really good thing or bad thing)
Because a personality doesn’t easily changes.
Example:
Maybe you have friend or close people in your life that have a bad habit, you always tell him or her to change that bad habit like over and over again. But you must be know he or she is never change.
Or you can take your self as example. Do you ever change your character since you as a little kid?
If you like flowers you will be like it or the rest of your life, except something happen to you that really hurt your deep heart like some traumatic.
在他们的生活中发生了一些事情，这些事情彻底改变了他们的生活（不管是好事还是坏事）。因为一个人的性格是不会轻易改变的。
例如：也许你生活中有一些朋友或亲近的人，他们有一些坏习惯，你总是一遍又一遍地告诉他或她要改掉那个坏习惯。但你要做好心理准备，他或她可能永远都不会改变。
或者你可以以自己为例。你从小就没有改变过自己的性格吗？
如果你喜欢花，你就会很喜欢它，甚至你的余生都会喜欢花，除非一些发生在你身上的事情，真正的伤害到你的内心深处，你才可能会有所改变。
Margaret Weiss, a social animal
This is a broad question with no details.
I will answer this based on a fundamental level as well.
In my experience, people can change only if something that resonates with the person is found.
It can be a word, a phrase, an event, a person, a visual, a sound, a taste, or anything else that strikes a chord within that person, and brings about the change.
This external "something" (anything) can be found either by chance, though things do happen for a reason, or on purpose.
这是一个没有细节的笼统的问题。
我也会基于这个基本层面来回答这个问题。
根据我的经验，人们只有在找到能与自己产生共鸣的东西时才会发生改变。
它可以是一个词，一个短语，一个事件，一个人，一个视觉，一个声音，一个味道，或任何一个能触动那个人的心弦并使其发生改变的东西。
这个外在的“东西”（可以是任何东西）可能是偶然发现的，尽管事情的发生一般都是有原因的，或者是有目的的。
This is a broad question with no details.
I will answer this based on a fundamental level as well.
In my experience, people can change only if something that resonates with the person is found.
It can be a word, a phrase, an event, a person, a visual, a sound, a taste, or anything else that strikes a chord within that person, and brings about the change.
This external "something" (anything) can be found either by chance, though things do happen for a reason, or on purpose.
这是一个没有细节的笼统的问题。
我也会基于这个基本层面来回答这个问题。
根据我的经验，人们只有在找到能与自己产生共鸣的东西时才会发生改变。
它可以是一个词，一个短语，一个事件，一个人，一个视觉，一个声音，一个味道，或任何一个能触动那个人的心弦并使其发生改变的东西。
这个外在的“东西”（可以是任何东西）可能是偶然发现的，尽管事情的发生一般都是有原因的，或者是有目的的。
Toral
Different triggers for different people initiates a change in the person!
Change either boosts the Ego-self leading to a more negative attitude in the person than what he or she was yesterday while a positive change helps the person to shed his Ego -layer and slowly leads him to his core loving self! This is a change that we should ideally seek everyday in us to evolve in our journey!
We tend to associate our happiness to certain things, people and situations in life. Any change in any of these aspects can trigger the change in our life !
不同的人会有不同的触发点，不同的触发点会导致人发生不同的改变。
有的改变会让自己变强，但有的改变会让一个人比昨天更消沉，而一个积极的改变都会帮助这个人摆脱自我，并慢慢的引导他们走向更好的自己！在理想的情况下，我们应该每天都寻求这种变化，以寻求在我们人生的旅程中不断的进步！
我们倾向于将我们的幸福与生活中的某些事情，人和情况联系起来。这些东西的任何改变都会导致我们的生活发生变化！
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Different triggers for different people initiates a change in the person!
Change either boosts the Ego-self leading to a more negative attitude in the person than what he or she was yesterday while a positive change helps the person to shed his Ego -layer and slowly leads him to his core loving self! This is a change that we should ideally seek everyday in us to evolve in our journey!
We tend to associate our happiness to certain things, people and situations in life. Any change in any of these aspects can trigger the change in our life !
不同的人会有不同的触发点，不同的触发点会导致人发生不同的改变。
有的改变会让自己变强，但有的改变会让一个人比昨天更消沉，而一个积极的改变都会帮助这个人摆脱自我，并慢慢的引导他们走向更好的自己！在理想的情况下，我们应该每天都寻求这种变化，以寻求在我们人生的旅程中不断的进步！
我们倾向于将我们的幸福与生活中的某些事情，人和情况联系起来。这些东西的任何改变都会导致我们的生活发生变化！
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Akhil Ranjan, lives in Visakhapatnam, Andhra Pradesh, India
I think it's learning habit of our brain and you already know it is limitless. People learn every second,hour,day,week,month,year and it is totally a continuous process. Suppose a person just came out of their house and going to market,in the course of that small journey too he will observe many things ,some positive and negative both and this is subjective,like maybe he was moved with the kindness of vegetable vendors, it may be possible that he sees some wrong malpractices being done by some groceries just to get some extra income. All of those scenario instigates the person mind .So person's mind meet with dynamic environment and some how that very environment has capacity to transform the person's mind.
我认为这是我们大脑的学习习惯，我相信你已经知道大脑是无限的了。
人们在生命中的每一秒、每一小时、每一天、每一周、每一个月、每一年都在学习，这是一个连续不断的过程。假设一个人刚从家里出来准备去市场，在这个小小的旅程中他可能就会观察到很多东西，有积极的东西，也有消极的东西，当然这是主观的部分。比如他可能被卖蔬菜的小贩的善良给感动了，他也有可能看到一些食品杂货商为了获得一些额外的收入而做了一些错误的事情。所有的这些场景都可能会激发了人的思考，所以人的思想会与动态的环境相适应，在某种程度上，这种环境有可能会改变人的思想。
I think it's learning habit of our brain and you already know it is limitless. People learn every second,hour,day,week,month,year and it is totally a continuous process. Suppose a person just came out of their house and going to market,in the course of that small journey too he will observe many things ,some positive and negative both and this is subjective,like maybe he was moved with the kindness of vegetable vendors, it may be possible that he sees some wrong malpractices being done by some groceries just to get some extra income. All of those scenario instigates the person mind .So person's mind meet with dynamic environment and some how that very environment has capacity to transform the person's mind.
我认为这是我们大脑的学习习惯，我相信你已经知道大脑是无限的了。
人们在生命中的每一秒、每一小时、每一天、每一周、每一个月、每一年都在学习，这是一个连续不断的过程。假设一个人刚从家里出来准备去市场，在这个小小的旅程中他可能就会观察到很多东西，有积极的东西，也有消极的东西，当然这是主观的部分。比如他可能被卖蔬菜的小贩的善良给感动了，他也有可能看到一些食品杂货商为了获得一些额外的收入而做了一些错误的事情。所有的这些场景都可能会激发了人的思考，所以人的思想会与动态的环境相适应，在某种程度上，这种环境有可能会改变人的思想。
Michael Chan, EA, MST, Tax Professional
That's a broad question with broad, general answers.
It basically depends on the person and the circumstance.
Have to ask yourself: Why do I want or need to change?
If I do change, can you change?
Can you keep the change for a relatively long time to see an effect(s)?
People are creatures of habit and change is hard for most.
They'll Need to Want to change themselves or else they change.
Sometimes, people encounter something that makes them change like some life event. It motivates them to action because mainly of fear. They don't want what they experienced or saw to affect them negatively and will do whatever they can to not have it occur to them.
Sometimes, though, some people do take it to the extreme, which is even Worse than not changing.
It really depends on the person and the circumstance(s).
这是一个宽泛的问题，答案也很宽泛。
这基本上取决于个人和环境。
你必须要问问自己：为什么我想要或者需要改变？
如果我真的改变了，你能改变吗?
你能否将改变保持较长的时间，以便我们看看效果？
人是习惯的产物，对大多数人来说改变很难。
除非他们想要改变自己，否则他们不会改变。
有时候，当人们会遇到了一些会让他们改变的事情，比如生活中的一些事件，主要是因为恐惧，这些事会促使他们采取行动。因为他们不希望自己的这些经历或所见给自己带来负面影响，所以他们会尽其所能不让这些事情发生在自己身上。
但有时，有些人会走极端，这比不改变更糟糕。
这要根据个人和当时的情况而定。
That's a broad question with broad, general answers.
It basically depends on the person and the circumstance.
Have to ask yourself: Why do I want or need to change?
If I do change, can you change?
Can you keep the change for a relatively long time to see an effect(s)?
People are creatures of habit and change is hard for most.
They'll Need to Want to change themselves or else they change.
Sometimes, people encounter something that makes them change like some life event. It motivates them to action because mainly of fear. They don't want what they experienced or saw to affect them negatively and will do whatever they can to not have it occur to them.
Sometimes, though, some people do take it to the extreme, which is even Worse than not changing.
It really depends on the person and the circumstance(s).
这是一个宽泛的问题，答案也很宽泛。
这基本上取决于个人和环境。
你必须要问问自己：为什么我想要或者需要改变？
如果我真的改变了，你能改变吗?
你能否将改变保持较长的时间，以便我们看看效果？
人是习惯的产物，对大多数人来说改变很难。
除非他们想要改变自己，否则他们不会改变。
有时候，当人们会遇到了一些会让他们改变的事情，比如生活中的一些事件，主要是因为恐惧，这些事会促使他们采取行动。因为他们不希望自己的这些经历或所见给自己带来负面影响，所以他们会尽其所能不让这些事情发生在自己身上。
但有时，有些人会走极端，这比不改变更糟糕。
这要根据个人和当时的情况而定。
Pat Mayfield, studied Psychology at Dixie State University (2011)
Unfortunately too many of us have to Learn the hard way. If we as humans could just go through teenage hood and adult hood listening to wise elders that were among us I think things would go better for everyone.
Could you just image big classes of learning where we could sit and learn how to not take any pit falls in life! We could probably all be so much more ahead then we are.
不幸的是，我们中有太多的人不得不选择用艰难的方式来学习新东西。如果我们作为人类可以在青少年时期和成年时期，听从我们明智的长辈的意见，那可能很多人都会变得比现在更好。
你能想象我们一大帮人坐在一起学习如何才能在生活中不摔跤吗？如果我们当时有好好学习的话，可能会比现在领先很多。
Unfortunately too many of us have to Learn the hard way. If we as humans could just go through teenage hood and adult hood listening to wise elders that were among us I think things would go better for everyone.
Could you just image big classes of learning where we could sit and learn how to not take any pit falls in life! We could probably all be so much more ahead then we are.
不幸的是，我们中有太多的人不得不选择用艰难的方式来学习新东西。如果我们作为人类可以在青少年时期和成年时期，听从我们明智的长辈的意见，那可能很多人都会变得比现在更好。
你能想象我们一大帮人坐在一起学习如何才能在生活中不摔跤吗？如果我们当时有好好学习的话，可能会比现在领先很多。
Vivian So, President at KVDigitalMarketing.com (2019-present)
You can only change yourself.
Hopefully through life good and bad experience, you stop a moment and reflect upon your life
What drive you
What is your passion
What do u want to protect
What changes u want to see in the world
And having a healthy self esteem will help a lot
It all starts with the conviction that nobody can stop you from achieving. Even if the world turn against you, you still have love and care and believe in yourself. You may have some shortcoming just like we all do but that doesn't define who we are and definitely u dont have to stay this way. With determination you can change yourself
你只能改变你自己。
如果你希望通过生活中好的和坏的经历来学到新东西，你就需要停下来反思一下你的生活。
是什么东西一直在驱使你前进？
你的爱好是什么？
你想保护什么？
你希望世界发生什么样的变化？
拥有一个健康的自尊心会对你有很大的帮助。
这所有的一切都始于这样一个信念：没有人可以阻止你成功。即使全世界都反对你，你仍然怀有爱，怀有在乎，依然相信自己。你可能会有一些缺点，就像我们所有人一样，但这并不能定义我们是谁，当然，你也不需要一直保持这种状态。只要你有决心，你就可以改变自己。
You can only change yourself.
Hopefully through life good and bad experience, you stop a moment and reflect upon your life
What drive you
What is your passion
What do u want to protect
What changes u want to see in the world
And having a healthy self esteem will help a lot
It all starts with the conviction that nobody can stop you from achieving. Even if the world turn against you, you still have love and care and believe in yourself. You may have some shortcoming just like we all do but that doesn't define who we are and definitely u dont have to stay this way. With determination you can change yourself
你只能改变你自己。
如果你希望通过生活中好的和坏的经历来学到新东西，你就需要停下来反思一下你的生活。
是什么东西一直在驱使你前进？
你的爱好是什么？
你想保护什么？
你希望世界发生什么样的变化？
拥有一个健康的自尊心会对你有很大的帮助。
这所有的一切都始于这样一个信念：没有人可以阻止你成功。即使全世界都反对你，你仍然怀有爱，怀有在乎，依然相信自己。你可能会有一些缺点，就像我们所有人一样，但这并不能定义我们是谁，当然，你也不需要一直保持这种状态。只要你有决心，你就可以改变自己。
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