观点：是否被冒犯是一种选择~
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Some people get offended while others do not by the same words. Being offended is a personal feeling and if you grow a thick skin and grow some self esteem you should be able to deal with it well. Only you can decide whether what other people say is able to affect you. We cannot control what other people say but we can control how we respond to it.
同一句话，有些人会感觉到被冒犯，而另一些人则不会。被冒犯是一种很私密的感觉，而如果你长了一张厚脸皮，也拥有一定的自尊心，那你应该能妥善地处理它。只有你能决定别人说的话会不会影响到你。我们无法控制别人说什么，但我们可以控制自己的反应。
Some people get offended while others do not by the same words. Being offended is a personal feeling and if you grow a thick skin and grow some self esteem you should be able to deal with it well. Only you can decide whether what other people say is able to affect you. We cannot control what other people say but we can control how we respond to it.
同一句话，有些人会感觉到被冒犯，而另一些人则不会。被冒犯是一种很私密的感觉，而如果你长了一张厚脸皮，也拥有一定的自尊心，那你应该能妥善地处理它。只有你能决定别人说的话会不会影响到你。我们无法控制别人说什么，但我们可以控制自己的反应。
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420xyolo
We cannot control what other people say but we can control how we respond to it.
Agreed, however, imo being offended is more of a feeling than a response. You can feel offended, but respond cordially.
“我们无法控制别人说什么，但我们可以控制自己的反应。”
同意，但在我看来，被冒犯更多是一种感觉，而不是一种反应。你可以感觉到被冒犯，但友善地作出回应。
We cannot control what other people say but we can control how we respond to it.
Agreed, however, imo being offended is more of a feeling than a response. You can feel offended, but respond cordially.
“我们无法控制别人说什么，但我们可以控制自己的反应。”
同意，但在我看来，被冒犯更多是一种感觉，而不是一种反应。你可以感觉到被冒犯，但友善地作出回应。
undeadhambread3123
Words only have power if you give them power. I agree, it takes a professional to offend me...
话语会有力量，只是因为你赋予了话语力量。我同意，须得是专业人士才能冒犯到我…
Words only have power if you give them power. I agree, it takes a professional to offend me...
话语会有力量，只是因为你赋予了话语力量。我同意，须得是专业人士才能冒犯到我…
I put pineapples on my pizza and ketchup on my hot dogs
（回）我会在我的披萨上搁菠萝，还会拿热狗蘸番茄酱吃
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（回）我会在我的披萨上搁菠萝，还会拿热狗蘸番茄酱吃
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As a Chicago native I've never seen an opinion more wrong.
（回）作为芝加哥本地人，我从来没见过比你这更荒唐的看法了。
（译注：芝加哥人吃热狗一般不配番茄酱）
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（回）作为芝加哥本地人，我从来没见过比你这更荒唐的看法了。
（译注：芝加哥人吃热狗一般不配番茄酱）
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Ketchup + mustard. Or replace with beanless chili.
These are the only acceptable hot dog toppings. Get that relish and onion shit out of my sight.
（回）番茄酱+芥末。或者用不含豆类的辣椒酱代替。
只有这些才是可以接受的热狗配酱。那些调味品和带洋葱的玩意儿，还是赶紧滚出我的视线吧。
These are the only acceptable hot dog toppings. Get that relish and onion shit out of my sight.
（回）番茄酱+芥末。或者用不含豆类的辣椒酱代替。
只有这些才是可以接受的热狗配酱。那些调味品和带洋葱的玩意儿，还是赶紧滚出我的视线吧。
AlicornGamer
the more power you let the opposition have over words, the less stable you'll be at just being offended at every little thing.
你越是由着对手赋予言语更多力量，你就越是不稳定，如果是这样，那每一件小事都会冒犯到你。
the more power you let the opposition have over words, the less stable you'll be at just being offended at every little thing.
你越是由着对手赋予言语更多力量，你就越是不稳定，如果是这样，那每一件小事都会冒犯到你。
Everybody must fall into this trap then. Words have changed the course of nations. Even heard the saying the pen is mightier than the sword?
（回）要是这样的话，那每个人都势必会掉进这个陷阱了。话语已经改变了各国的进程。
你甚至都听过那句格言：笔杆子的威力比刀剑大。
（回）要是这样的话，那每个人都势必会掉进这个陷阱了。话语已经改变了各国的进程。
你甚至都听过那句格言：笔杆子的威力比刀剑大。
Rintipinti
We cannot control how we feel, only what behaviour we carry out. It's indeed possible to develop a thick skin, but the initial emotion of anger as a consequence of one's surroundings is beyond control in any other way.
我们不能控制自己的感觉，只能控制自己拿出什么样的行为。练就一张厚脸皮确实是有可能的，但一开始因为周围的环境而产生的愤怒情绪是其他任何方式都无法控制的。
We cannot control how we feel, only what behaviour we carry out. It's indeed possible to develop a thick skin, but the initial emotion of anger as a consequence of one's surroundings is beyond control in any other way.
我们不能控制自己的感觉，只能控制自己拿出什么样的行为。练就一张厚脸皮确实是有可能的，但一开始因为周围的环境而产生的愤怒情绪是其他任何方式都无法控制的。
The initial feeling we cannot control indeed, but we can choose not to let this feelings control us.
（回）最初的感觉确实是我们无法控制的，但我们可以控制的是，不让这种感觉左右自己。
（回）最初的感觉确实是我们无法控制的，但我们可以控制的是，不让这种感觉左右自己。
What makes you think we can’t control how we feel?
（回）你凭什么就认定我们无法控制自己的感觉呢？
（回）你凭什么就认定我们无法控制自己的感觉呢？
My thoughts too. In certain ways we have to be able to control our emotions.
（回）我也是这么想的。通过一些特定的方法，我们想必还是能控制自己的情绪的。
（回）我也是这么想的。通过一些特定的方法，我们想必还是能控制自己的情绪的。
I think what they mean is sometimes its hard to NOT feel some kind of negative feeling over someones actions and words, but we CAN control how long it affects us and how we react externally
（回）我觉得他们的意思是，有时我们很难不因为某些人的行为和话语而心生某种负面的感觉，但它影响我们的时长以及我们的对外反应则是我们可以控制的。
（回）我觉得他们的意思是，有时我们很难不因为某些人的行为和话语而心生某种负面的感觉，但它影响我们的时长以及我们的对外反应则是我们可以控制的。
Self discipline is essential
（回）自律是必不可少的
（回）自律是必不可少的
Being repulsed is a natural instinct engraved through our genes as we evolve to avoid danger such as animal carcasses which is usually present when a dangerous predator is lurking nearby.
（回）厌恶是一种刻在我们基因中的自然本能，因为我们的演化是以规避危险为目的的，比如说我们会厌恶动物的尸体，因为在通常情况下，当一只很危险的掠食者潜伏在附近时才会出现尸骸。
（回）厌恶是一种刻在我们基因中的自然本能，因为我们的演化是以规避危险为目的的，比如说我们会厌恶动物的尸体，因为在通常情况下，当一只很危险的掠食者潜伏在附近时才会出现尸骸。
Rintipinti
I think emotions aren't behaviour, they're a direct reaction to our surroundings, so we can't influence them. You can't choose to be happy when someone dies, you can't choose not to be angry when someone insults you. You can only try to control your behaviour and convince yourself not to act on the emotions you feel. Eventually, they'll go away.
我觉得，情绪不是行为，它们是对我们周遭环境的直接反应，所以我们是无法左右它们。在有人死去时，你是无法选择高兴的，在有人侮辱你时，你也无法选择不去生气。你只能尽量去控制自己的行为，并说服自己不要由着自己的情绪去行事。这些情绪最终都会消失的。
I think emotions aren't behaviour, they're a direct reaction to our surroundings, so we can't influence them. You can't choose to be happy when someone dies, you can't choose not to be angry when someone insults you. You can only try to control your behaviour and convince yourself not to act on the emotions you feel. Eventually, they'll go away.
我觉得，情绪不是行为，它们是对我们周遭环境的直接反应，所以我们是无法左右它们。在有人死去时，你是无法选择高兴的，在有人侮辱你时，你也无法选择不去生气。你只能尽量去控制自己的行为，并说服自己不要由着自己的情绪去行事。这些情绪最终都会消失的。
I mean if someone is insulted and they get angry, don’t you think it’s possible for them to think about it and use logic to say “this shouldn’t actually make make me angry” and having that process actually be able to remove their anger?
（回）我想说的是，如果有人被侮辱了，然后生气了，你不觉得他们作一番思考并动用逻辑然后讲出“其实这种事不应该让我生气”是有可能的吗？而且这个思维过程其实还能够消除他们的愤怒呢
（回）我想说的是，如果有人被侮辱了，然后生气了，你不觉得他们作一番思考并动用逻辑然后讲出“其实这种事不应该让我生气”是有可能的吗？而且这个思维过程其实还能够消除他们的愤怒呢
Yes, but that means you use logic to reason yourself into different emotions. It works, but it is an intermediate step that takes some time, so I still think emotions themselves cannot be directly controlled. Feeling an emotion isn't behaviour, but behaviour can be used to influence emotions.
（层主）是的，但这就意味着，你是用逻辑在说服自己接受不同情绪的。这么干能奏效，但这是一个需要耗费一些时间的中间步骤，所以我还是觉得情绪本身是不能直接被控制的。感受到一种情绪并不属于行为，但行为可以用来影响情绪。
（层主）是的，但这就意味着，你是用逻辑在说服自己接受不同情绪的。这么干能奏效，但这是一个需要耗费一些时间的中间步骤，所以我还是觉得情绪本身是不能直接被控制的。感受到一种情绪并不属于行为，但行为可以用来影响情绪。
Well I mean if you can use logic to reason yourself into different emotions, isn’t that the same thing as saying we can control our emotions with logic?
（回）好吧，我的意思是，如果你能用逻辑说服自己接受不同情绪，那不就等同于在说，我们能用逻辑来控制自己的情绪？
（回）好吧，我的意思是，如果你能用逻辑说服自己接受不同情绪，那不就等同于在说，我们能用逻辑来控制自己的情绪？
Yes, but indirectly and it doesn't always work. It feels more like a trick or a tool than direct control, you know? Maybe instead of blaming people for having an initial emotional response, it would be fair to hold them accountable for not controlling their emotions rationally.
（层主）是的，但这是间接的，而且并不总能奏效。感觉上这更像是一种花招或是工具，而不是直接控制，你明白吗？与其去指责人们一开始出现的情绪反应，不如让他们为没能理性控制自己的情绪负责，这样才公平。
（层主）是的，但这是间接的，而且并不总能奏效。感觉上这更像是一种花招或是工具，而不是直接控制，你明白吗？与其去指责人们一开始出现的情绪反应，不如让他们为没能理性控制自己的情绪负责，这样才公平。
spirit_the_scallion
i agree beyond wherever the line is drawn between harassment/abuse which is probably up for debate. strong personal boundaries and self-esteem make life much easier
我同意，不管骚扰和辱骂之间的界线在哪里，这些可能都有待商榷。很强的个人边界和自尊会让生活简单许多。
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i agree beyond wherever the line is drawn between harassment/abuse which is probably up for debate. strong personal boundaries and self-esteem make life much easier
我同意，不管骚扰和辱骂之间的界线在哪里，这些可能都有待商榷。很强的个人边界和自尊会让生活简单许多。
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Imo it’s only justified to feel offended when someone specifically targets you or a group you belong in and has malicious intent. Other than that, if people don’t mean any harm, why get all worked up over it? It doesn’t make sense to me.
（回）在我看来，只有当某个人心怀恶意且专门针对你或是你所属的群体时，感觉到被冒犯才是合理的。除此之外，如果人们完全没有加害你的意图，为什么还要为此大动干戈呢？在我看来这完全说不通。
（回）在我看来，只有当某个人心怀恶意且专门针对你或是你所属的群体时，感觉到被冒犯才是合理的。除此之外，如果人们完全没有加害你的意图，为什么还要为此大动干戈呢？在我看来这完全说不通。
I don't get offended easily, but I will get annoyed if someone is willfully being rude or they are so low on empathy that they're not paying enough attention to what is coming out of their mouths. It is something that should be addressed even if it isn't offending you. Simply because we can all afford to have common decency.
（回）我不太容易被冒犯，但如果有人故意犯浑，或是他们的同理心太过缺失，都注意不到自己嘴里都说出了些什么，那我就会很恼火。就算这种事冒犯不到你，也是应该设法去解决的问题。原因很简单，因为我们都有能力恪守最基本的礼节。
（回）我不太容易被冒犯，但如果有人故意犯浑，或是他们的同理心太过缺失，都注意不到自己嘴里都说出了些什么，那我就会很恼火。就算这种事冒犯不到你，也是应该设法去解决的问题。原因很简单，因为我们都有能力恪守最基本的礼节。
Ok_Double9430
The words themselves are not what usually offends me. It is the context in which they are used, and if I can tell that the person saying them is actively trying to hurt me. THAT, I is something that should be addressed.
会冒犯到我的通常都不是话语本身，而是使用这些话语的语境，如果给我察觉到说出这些话的人是处心积虑地想要伤害我，我就会有被冒犯的感觉。应该得到解决的正是这一点。
The words themselves are not what usually offends me. It is the context in which they are used, and if I can tell that the person saying them is actively trying to hurt me. THAT, I is something that should be addressed.
会冒犯到我的通常都不是话语本身，而是使用这些话语的语境，如果给我察觉到说出这些话的人是处心积虑地想要伤害我，我就会有被冒犯的感觉。应该得到解决的正是这一点。
Lucid-Machine
Imagine the privilege of not being offended by the n word and then having the gull to say being offended is a choice. What a clown.
想象一下，握有不被N打头的那个词冒犯的特权，却有脸说被冒犯是一种选择。真是小丑一只。
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Imagine the privilege of not being offended by the n word and then having the gull to say being offended is a choice. What a clown.
想象一下，握有不被N打头的那个词冒犯的特权，却有脸说被冒犯是一种选择。真是小丑一只。
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WalrusSea1980
This was honestly the most important lesson I learned from my video tech class in high school. Technology changes quickly, but the ability to accept criticism and feedback will go a long way in life.
老实说，这是我在高中的视频技术课上学到的最重要一课。技术在急速变化，但接受批评和反馈的能力，对生活是大有裨益的。
This was honestly the most important lesson I learned from my video tech class in high school. Technology changes quickly, but the ability to accept criticism and feedback will go a long way in life.
老实说，这是我在高中的视频技术课上学到的最重要一课。技术在急速变化，但接受批评和反馈的能力，对生活是大有裨益的。
PM-ME-YOUR-STOMACH
Is it really though? Like if you have beliefs and they’re subconscious and you react negatively to someone else’s comment based off those beliefs, then its kinda not your choice. Humans don’t really have that much control over their emotions.
但真的是这样吗？要是你怀有信念，而且是潜意识的信念，那你对别人的评论作出的负面反应便是基于这些信念，那从某种程度上说它就不是你的选择了。人类对自己的情绪还真没有太大的控制力。
Is it really though? Like if you have beliefs and they’re subconscious and you react negatively to someone else’s comment based off those beliefs, then its kinda not your choice. Humans don’t really have that much control over their emotions.
但真的是这样吗？要是你怀有信念，而且是潜意识的信念，那你对别人的评论作出的负面反应便是基于这些信念，那从某种程度上说它就不是你的选择了。人类对自己的情绪还真没有太大的控制力。
Fortunately, most of us do in fact have control over our emotions. If we would not have control over our emotions, the world would be in complete chaos right now. One of the major attributes that separates us humans from other species is that our brains are developed in such a manner that most of us have the control to resist our primal urges whether that is sexual, anger or other emotions. If humans would not have this control, a lot of more people would be hurt or even die simply because they were unable to resist their urges. The fact that we have this what is called our ‘empathic brain’ gives many of us the possibility to think before we act and thank god most of us do. Some research has shown that the brains of criminals that are acting out crimes have an underdeveloped ‘empathic brain’ which makes it harder for them to control these urges and easier to commit to those.
（回）幸运的是，我们中间的大多数人其实都能控制住自己的情绪。如果我们控制不住自己的情绪，那现今的世界就会完全乱套。我们人类区别于其他物种的主要特质之一就是：由于我们的大脑是以特定的方式进化的，所以我们大多数人都拥有对自己原始冲动的控制力，无论是性冲动、愤怒还是其他情绪。如果人类没有这种控制能力，就会有更多的人受到伤害，甚至，仅仅因为他们无力抗拒自己的冲动就会导致死亡。事实就是，我们拥有一个所谓的"移情脑"，这就让我们中的很多人有可能在行动之前进行思考，感谢上帝，我们中的大部分人都能做到这一点。一些研究已经证明：在那些正在实施犯罪的犯罪分子的大脑中，“移情脑”部分是发育不全的，这使他们更难控制这些冲动，也就更容易犯下这些罪行。
（回）幸运的是，我们中间的大多数人其实都能控制住自己的情绪。如果我们控制不住自己的情绪，那现今的世界就会完全乱套。我们人类区别于其他物种的主要特质之一就是：由于我们的大脑是以特定的方式进化的，所以我们大多数人都拥有对自己原始冲动的控制力，无论是性冲动、愤怒还是其他情绪。如果人类没有这种控制能力，就会有更多的人受到伤害，甚至，仅仅因为他们无力抗拒自己的冲动就会导致死亡。事实就是，我们拥有一个所谓的"移情脑"，这就让我们中的很多人有可能在行动之前进行思考，感谢上帝，我们中的大部分人都能做到这一点。一些研究已经证明：在那些正在实施犯罪的犯罪分子的大脑中，“移情脑”部分是发育不全的，这使他们更难控制这些冲动，也就更容易犯下这些罪行。
Controlling urges and emotions are two different things. What you’re saying feels like toxic positivity - just choose to be happy - emotions aren’t a choice and I don’t believe you can actively control how you feel. You can control what you do with the feelings/whether you act on them and how much weight you give them though.
（回）控制冲动和情绪是两码事。你所说的感觉就像有毒的积极性，也即只去选择快乐，情绪不是一种选择，我不相信你能积极主动地控制你的感觉。但你处理这些感觉的方式，是否要以它们为依据去采取行动，以及它们之于你的份量，都是你可以控制的。
（译注：有毒的积极性即沉迷于“积极思维”，认为人们应该对所有的经历进行积极评价，即便是那些深刻的悲剧性经历也应该如此）
（回）控制冲动和情绪是两码事。你所说的感觉就像有毒的积极性，也即只去选择快乐，情绪不是一种选择，我不相信你能积极主动地控制你的感觉。但你处理这些感觉的方式，是否要以它们为依据去采取行动，以及它们之于你的份量，都是你可以控制的。
（译注：有毒的积极性即沉迷于“积极思维”，认为人们应该对所有的经历进行积极评价，即便是那些深刻的悲剧性经历也应该如此）
gayy_venus
Being offensive is a choice, too.
主动冒犯别人也是一种选择。
Being offensive is a choice, too.
主动冒犯别人也是一种选择。
i_h8_names
is being defensive a choice too?
那自卫也是一种选择咯？
is being defensive a choice too?
那自卫也是一种选择咯？
Zzeiko
Choosing how to respond to anything is a choice. But you must understand that allowing someone to continue to mock and dehumanize you will only encourage others to do the same until violence against you becomes normalized.
If you don't put your foot down and speak up, then you and others like you will get shit on.
（亚裔）选择如何回应某件事确实是一种选择。但你必须明白的是，听任别人继续嘲笑，听任别人不把你当人，只会怂恿其他人对你做出同样的事，结果就是：最后针对你的暴力变得正常化了。
如果你立场不坚，还不大声说出自己的声音，那你以及你的同类就会被人骑在头上拉屎。
Choosing how to respond to anything is a choice. But you must understand that allowing someone to continue to mock and dehumanize you will only encourage others to do the same until violence against you becomes normalized.
If you don't put your foot down and speak up, then you and others like you will get shit on.
（亚裔）选择如何回应某件事确实是一种选择。但你必须明白的是，听任别人继续嘲笑，听任别人不把你当人，只会怂恿其他人对你做出同样的事，结果就是：最后针对你的暴力变得正常化了。
如果你立场不坚，还不大声说出自己的声音，那你以及你的同类就会被人骑在头上拉屎。
Fightlife45
The philosophy of stoicism talks about this quite a bit.
斯多葛哲学在这方面做过大量探讨。
（译注：斯多葛学派是希腊化时代一个影响极大的思想派别，主张顺服天命，恬淡寡欲）
The philosophy of stoicism talks about this quite a bit.
斯多葛哲学在这方面做过大量探讨。
（译注：斯多葛学派是希腊化时代一个影响极大的思想派别，主张顺服天命，恬淡寡欲）
Salty_Lego
Just don’t be a dick? It’s not hard.
别像混蛋一样行事不就行了？这并不难。
Just don’t be a dick? It’s not hard.
别像混蛋一样行事不就行了？这并不难。
FjordReject
I agree with you that losing your cool just gives the other person power and control over you. On the other hand, I've seen this truth used far too often as deflection.
我同意你的观点，失去冷静只会赋予别人力量并由此支配你。而另一方面，为了转移视线而滥用这条真理的情况，我也是见得多了。
I agree with you that losing your cool just gives the other person power and control over you. On the other hand, I've seen this truth used far too often as deflection.
我同意你的观点，失去冷静只会赋予别人力量并由此支配你。而另一方面，为了转移视线而滥用这条真理的情况，我也是见得多了。
Person 1: says something shitty and mean
Person 2: wow, that was shitty and mean.
Person 1: look's like you're triggered lol, don't get offended so easily
....which isn't the point. The point is that person 1 is being shitty, mean, ignorant, whatever.
第一个人：说了一些差劲又恶毒的话
第二个人：哇，这真是差劲又恶毒。
第一个人：看起来你被激怒了呵呵，不要那么容易被冒犯哦。
…可这并不是重点。重点在于第一个人很差劲、很恶毒、很愚昧。
Person 2: wow, that was shitty and mean.
Person 1: look's like you're triggered lol, don't get offended so easily
....which isn't the point. The point is that person 1 is being shitty, mean, ignorant, whatever.
第一个人：说了一些差劲又恶毒的话
第二个人：哇，这真是差劲又恶毒。
第一个人：看起来你被激怒了呵呵，不要那么容易被冒犯哦。
…可这并不是重点。重点在于第一个人很差劲、很恶毒、很愚昧。
I definitely know some people who use as deflection including some narcissists. What I was told is to stop emotionally respond to a narcissist because they feed on emotions.
（回）有些人（包括一些自恋份子）会用来转移视线，这个我太明白了。有人曾告诉我说，要停止对自恋者作出情绪化反应，因为他们是以别人的情绪为食的。
（回）有些人（包括一些自恋份子）会用来转移视线，这个我太明白了。有人曾告诉我说，要停止对自恋者作出情绪化反应，因为他们是以别人的情绪为食的。
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