如果我的男朋友为了另一个女孩离开了我，我该怎么办（上）
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What should I do if my boyfriend left me for another girl?
如果我的男朋友为了另一个女孩离开了我，我该怎么办?
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What should I do if my boyfriend left me for another girl?
如果我的男朋友为了另一个女孩离开了我，我该怎么办?
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Franklin Veaux, co-author of More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
富兰克林·沃，《两人以上:伦理多角恋实用指南》的合著者
富兰克林·沃，《两人以上:伦理多角恋实用指南》的合著者
Wait a minute. You knew this guy for two days?
He was not your boyfriend.
It sounds like what you mean is he was planning to get married to someone else while you were dating, and you found out two days ago, while he was still acting like a boyfriend.
If that’s the case, what you do is accept that he’s gone, and be thankful he didn’t do more damage than he did. There are dishonest people in the world, and it’s totally not your fault that your ex is one of them. Now that you’re in this shitty position, there’s really nothing you can do except accept that he was shitty to you and let him go. That’s not much of an answer, but it’s the only one there is, I’m afraid.
等一下。你认识他才两天，他不是你的男朋友?
听起来你的意思是，在你约会的时候他已经计划和别人结婚了，而你两天前发现了，而他对你还像个男朋友一样。如果是这样的话，你应该接受他已经走了的事实，并感谢他没有对你造成比现在更多的伤害。世界上有不诚实的人，你的前任是他们中的一个，这完全不是你的错。现在你处于这种糟糕的境地，除了接受他对你不好的事实，让他走，你真的什么也做不了。这不是一个很好的答案，但恐怕是唯一的答案。
He was not your boyfriend.
It sounds like what you mean is he was planning to get married to someone else while you were dating, and you found out two days ago, while he was still acting like a boyfriend.
If that’s the case, what you do is accept that he’s gone, and be thankful he didn’t do more damage than he did. There are dishonest people in the world, and it’s totally not your fault that your ex is one of them. Now that you’re in this shitty position, there’s really nothing you can do except accept that he was shitty to you and let him go. That’s not much of an answer, but it’s the only one there is, I’m afraid.
等一下。你认识他才两天，他不是你的男朋友?
听起来你的意思是，在你约会的时候他已经计划和别人结婚了，而你两天前发现了，而他对你还像个男朋友一样。如果是这样的话，你应该接受他已经走了的事实，并感谢他没有对你造成比现在更多的伤害。世界上有不诚实的人，你的前任是他们中的一个，这完全不是你的错。现在你处于这种糟糕的境地，除了接受他对你不好的事实，让他走，你真的什么也做不了。这不是一个很好的答案，但恐怕是唯一的答案。
Shubhendu Shukla, Senior Software Engineer at Paytm (2016-present)
Shubhandu Shukla，Paytm高级软件工程师（2016年至今）
Shubhandu Shukla，Paytm高级软件工程师（2016年至今）
If you are assuming that in my answer i will tell you some tips or tricks via which you can get tour bf back than please dont read further.
If still you are reading than i hope you want to cope up with your situation and want to do better.
Fact is he left you for another girl. Dont make it an ego issue that how could some one left you. Just accept the fact he left you. Even if he comes back there is always a possibility he may leave you again.
Give some time to yourself. You are just 20 years old. Focus on your academics, read books, spent time with your real friends. The more you think about him the more chances are that you get into depression.
Remember if someone leaves you remember he was not made for you. God have much better plans.
I mulyself have been in a 8 year long relationship. But i was left alone. I cried and cried. Was in sever depression for months. Couldnt tell anything to my family and friends. But slowly and gradually i am moving ahead. The problem is even today every now and than i remember her and that pain is so much so that cant be expressed. Yet she doesnt care and is happy in her life.
So from my exp dont blame yourself. Give a break. Dont get into relationship quickly just to put him down or make him jealous.
Also never try to break other persons heart because your heart is broken.
如果你认为在我的回答中，我会告诉你一些技巧或窍门，你可以通过这些技巧或窍门让男朋友回来，请不要再读下去。
如果你仍在阅读，我希望你能应对你的处境，只是想做得更好点。
事实是他为了另一个女孩离开了你。不要把一个人如何离开你当作一个自我问题。接受他离开你的事实。即使他回来了，他也有可能再次离开你。
给自己一些时间。你才20岁。专注于你的学术，读书，和你真正的朋友在一起。你越想他，你就越有可能陷入抑郁。
记住，如果有人离开你，请记住他不是为你而生的，上帝对你有更好的安排。
我自己已经谈了8年的恋爱了。但只剩下我一个人。我哭了又哭，几个月来一直处于严重的抑郁状态。我不能告诉我的家人和朋友。但慢慢地我在前进。问题是，即使是今天，我仍然不时地想起她，那种痛苦是如此难以表达。但她并不在乎，生活得很幸福
所以从我的经验来看，不要责怪你自己。休息一下，不要为了贬低他或让他嫉妒而迅速建立关系。
也不要因为你的心已经碎了就试图去伤害别人的心。
If still you are reading than i hope you want to cope up with your situation and want to do better.
Fact is he left you for another girl. Dont make it an ego issue that how could some one left you. Just accept the fact he left you. Even if he comes back there is always a possibility he may leave you again.
Give some time to yourself. You are just 20 years old. Focus on your academics, read books, spent time with your real friends. The more you think about him the more chances are that you get into depression.
Remember if someone leaves you remember he was not made for you. God have much better plans.
I mulyself have been in a 8 year long relationship. But i was left alone. I cried and cried. Was in sever depression for months. Couldnt tell anything to my family and friends. But slowly and gradually i am moving ahead. The problem is even today every now and than i remember her and that pain is so much so that cant be expressed. Yet she doesnt care and is happy in her life.
So from my exp dont blame yourself. Give a break. Dont get into relationship quickly just to put him down or make him jealous.
Also never try to break other persons heart because your heart is broken.
如果你认为在我的回答中，我会告诉你一些技巧或窍门，你可以通过这些技巧或窍门让男朋友回来，请不要再读下去。
如果你仍在阅读，我希望你能应对你的处境，只是想做得更好点。
事实是他为了另一个女孩离开了你。不要把一个人如何离开你当作一个自我问题。接受他离开你的事实。即使他回来了，他也有可能再次离开你。
给自己一些时间。你才20岁。专注于你的学术，读书，和你真正的朋友在一起。你越想他，你就越有可能陷入抑郁。
记住，如果有人离开你，请记住他不是为你而生的，上帝对你有更好的安排。
我自己已经谈了8年的恋爱了。但只剩下我一个人。我哭了又哭，几个月来一直处于严重的抑郁状态。我不能告诉我的家人和朋友。但慢慢地我在前进。问题是，即使是今天，我仍然不时地想起她，那种痛苦是如此难以表达。但她并不在乎，生活得很幸福
所以从我的经验来看，不要责怪你自己。休息一下，不要为了贬低他或让他嫉妒而迅速建立关系。
也不要因为你的心已经碎了就试图去伤害别人的心。
Neha Tripathi, works at Judiciaries
Neha Tripathi在司法机构工作
Neha Tripathi在司法机构工作
Hi. Umm you know this question you just asked , SO MANY people ask the same question. It's part of human nature , we can serve the best of advise to anyone but ourselves. You know how they say “love makes you blind” but I beg to differ. It does but deep down there, YOU DO KNOW IT , that no matter how many posts you read , how many motivational videos you see, how many self help books you read, no matter how many people show up with advices You will not be able to move on , until you realize
It's time ! You know it when you have done every possible thing to make things right and nothing worked for you.
He's not worth it! You realize you are worth much more than you were willing to settle with.
Maybe you just aren't meant to be! You see breakup isn't just about the other person being a bad person. What if he's a good person and you still are not able to work it out. It's probably because the line of thought is very different or in simple words,you both are incompatible. And all the time you felt he was just perfect for you? That was the time you were still uncovering his true self or probably yours too.
Now you would will be wondering why I wrote that whole story,when your question was completely different .
嗨。你刚才问的这个问题，很多人都问过。这是人性的一部分，我们可以给别人最好的建议，而不是自己。你知道人们常说爱情让人盲目，但我不敢苟同。但内心深处,你知道,无论你读多少文章,多少励志视频你看,你读多少自助书,无论有多少人给你建议你将无法走出来,直到你自己意识到。
是时候!当你做了所有可能的事情去做正确的事情，但没有任何事情对你有效的时候，你就知道了。
他不值得你这样做!你意识到你的价值远比你愿意接受的要高。
也许你是命中注定的！你知道分手不仅仅是因为另一个人是坏人。如果他是好人，而你仍然无法解决怎么办。这可能是因为思维方式非常不同，或者简单地说，你们两个都是不相容的。而你一直觉得他对你来说就是完美的吗？这就是原因那时候你仍然在揭露他的真实自我，或者可能还有你的。
现在你可能想知道为什么我写了整个故事，而你的问题完全不同。
It's time ! You know it when you have done every possible thing to make things right and nothing worked for you.
He's not worth it! You realize you are worth much more than you were willing to settle with.
Maybe you just aren't meant to be! You see breakup isn't just about the other person being a bad person. What if he's a good person and you still are not able to work it out. It's probably because the line of thought is very different or in simple words,you both are incompatible. And all the time you felt he was just perfect for you? That was the time you were still uncovering his true self or probably yours too.
Now you would will be wondering why I wrote that whole story,when your question was completely different .
嗨。你刚才问的这个问题，很多人都问过。这是人性的一部分，我们可以给别人最好的建议，而不是自己。你知道人们常说爱情让人盲目，但我不敢苟同。但内心深处,你知道,无论你读多少文章,多少励志视频你看,你读多少自助书,无论有多少人给你建议你将无法走出来,直到你自己意识到。
是时候!当你做了所有可能的事情去做正确的事情，但没有任何事情对你有效的时候，你就知道了。
他不值得你这样做!你意识到你的价值远比你愿意接受的要高。
也许你是命中注定的！你知道分手不仅仅是因为另一个人是坏人。如果他是好人，而你仍然无法解决怎么办。这可能是因为思维方式非常不同，或者简单地说，你们两个都是不相容的。而你一直觉得他对你来说就是完美的吗？这就是原因那时候你仍然在揭露他的真实自我，或者可能还有你的。
现在你可能想知道为什么我写了整个故事，而你的问题完全不同。
You see , you know it. He's not the one. If even After having you in life ,he is exploring other girls and options. He is clearly not in love with you as much as you are. And as far as her mom's issues are to be concerned, if he was in love with you , he'decent be willing to do anything possible to be with you and fight the high tides and reach out for you. But he didn't.
But just when I was writing this answer,I realized something.
Babe you are just 20. You haven't even seen anything yet . There is so much for you to explore on a sole basis. Maybe he has reached the right age to get married and you are still very young. And he can't wait for you and doesn't want you to get married to him at this age. Maybe he's just trying to protect you. But yes no denial,that he must have communicated it to you clearly and put everything on the table for you. Just playing tricks behind a good face isn't the right thing to do.
Final words : dont listen to any of us. Listen to you. What do you want to do at the age of 20?
Weep all day for the one who is almost gone and is going to probably not give a rat ass about you . You shut down everyone,cut every one Lose for this one person who was not even a chapter worth remembering. Make the worse of this beautiful life that is given to you.
Or you can accept it and grieve until you are done. You just let it all completely out of your system and look forward to what life's offering you . This is the most appropriate age to do something with your life. Love isn't enough to spend a lifetime, there are several other things as well.
你看，你知道的。他不是我的真命天子。如果他在生活中有了你之后，还在寻找其他的女孩和选择。他爱你显然没有你爱他爱锝得那么深。至于她妈妈的问题，如果他爱你，他会愿意做任何可能的事来和你在一起，积极抗争，和你在一起，但他没有。
但就在我写这个答案的时候，我意识到了一些事情。
宝贝，你才20岁。你甚至还没有看到任何东西。有太多的东西需要你独自探索。也许他已经到了结婚的合适年龄，而你还很年轻。他不能等你，也不希望你在这个年龄和他结婚。也许他只是想保护你。但不容否认的是，他必须清楚地告诉你，并为你摆明一切。在一张善良的脸后面玩把戏是不对的。
最后一句话：不要听我们任何人的。你20岁时想做什么？
为一个即将离去的人哭泣一整天，而这个人可能不会关心你大。你把所有人对你的关心都拒之门外，就为了这个不值得被记住的人，他让你的美好生活变得更糟。
或者你可以接受它，一直悲伤下去。你只要把这一切都释放出来，期待生活给你的一切。这是你一生中最适合做某事的年龄。爱是不够支撑度过一生的，还有其他几件事也是如此
But just when I was writing this answer,I realized something.
Babe you are just 20. You haven't even seen anything yet . There is so much for you to explore on a sole basis. Maybe he has reached the right age to get married and you are still very young. And he can't wait for you and doesn't want you to get married to him at this age. Maybe he's just trying to protect you. But yes no denial,that he must have communicated it to you clearly and put everything on the table for you. Just playing tricks behind a good face isn't the right thing to do.
Final words : dont listen to any of us. Listen to you. What do you want to do at the age of 20?
Weep all day for the one who is almost gone and is going to probably not give a rat ass about you . You shut down everyone,cut every one Lose for this one person who was not even a chapter worth remembering. Make the worse of this beautiful life that is given to you.
Or you can accept it and grieve until you are done. You just let it all completely out of your system and look forward to what life's offering you . This is the most appropriate age to do something with your life. Love isn't enough to spend a lifetime, there are several other things as well.
你看，你知道的。他不是我的真命天子。如果他在生活中有了你之后，还在寻找其他的女孩和选择。他爱你显然没有你爱他爱锝得那么深。至于她妈妈的问题，如果他爱你，他会愿意做任何可能的事来和你在一起，积极抗争，和你在一起，但他没有。
但就在我写这个答案的时候，我意识到了一些事情。
宝贝，你才20岁。你甚至还没有看到任何东西。有太多的东西需要你独自探索。也许他已经到了结婚的合适年龄，而你还很年轻。他不能等你，也不希望你在这个年龄和他结婚。也许他只是想保护你。但不容否认的是，他必须清楚地告诉你，并为你摆明一切。在一张善良的脸后面玩把戏是不对的。
最后一句话：不要听我们任何人的。你20岁时想做什么？
为一个即将离去的人哭泣一整天，而这个人可能不会关心你大。你把所有人对你的关心都拒之门外，就为了这个不值得被记住的人，他让你的美好生活变得更糟。
或者你可以接受它，一直悲伤下去。你只要把这一切都释放出来，期待生活给你的一切。这是你一生中最适合做某事的年龄。爱是不够支撑度过一生的，还有其他几件事也是如此
Arjun Khatri, Any query about love is welcomed.
Arjun Khatri，任何关于爱的疑问都是欢迎的。
Arjun Khatri，任何关于爱的疑问都是欢迎的。
I think you should be partying hard!!
God just erased a wrong person from your life,he was meant to teach you something. You probably learnt something. Now he is gone. The boy who wasn’t worth trusting is gone. The boy who wasn’t good is gone,the boy who wasn’t worth giving heart to is gone.
Now that you have learnt something,it would be helpful for the rest of your life. Remember everything happens for a reason.
One day you will surely get the right one,your prince,and that will be the moment you would realise why this guy had to leave. Because God has already decided yor soulmate.
So thats awesome that he left.
Because you deserve better,and he doesn’t deserve you.
No matter what happens in life,if you have a positive attitude,nothing seems to be stronger than you. Nothing can make you sad.
Remenber one last thing,
No matter what is the issue or the problem,it only depends on your perspective,whether you take it as a challenge,or you take it as a poor destiny.
Problems comes you the way you want it to.
If you see it in a positive way,it teaches you something and you don’t fear it.
But if you see it in a negative way,try to see it in positive,you yourself will notice the changes.
So don’t be sad,have faith in God,and hope for the best.
Because the beat is yet to come,and it is surely on its way.
God bless!:)
我认为你应该努力参加派对！
上帝只是从你的生活中抹去了一个错误的人，他本该教你一些东西。你可能学到了一些东西。现在他走了。那个不值得信任的男孩走了。不好的男孩不见了，不值得倾心的男孩不见了。
现在你已经学到了一些东西，这将对你的余生有所帮助。记住每件事的发生都是有原因的。
总有一天你一定会找到合适的人、你的王子，那一刻你会意识到这家伙为什么要离开。因为上帝已经决定了你的灵魂伴侣。
他走了，真是太棒了。
因为你配得上更好，而他配不上你。
无论生活中发生什么，如果你有一个积极的态度，没有什么比你更强大，没有什么能让你难过。
记住最后一件事，
不管是什么问题，这只取决于你的观点，你是把它当作一个挑战，还是把它当作一个可怜的命运。
问题会以你想要的方式出现。
如果你以一种积极的方式看待它，它会教你一些东西，你不会害怕它。
但如果你从消极的角度看问题，试着从积极的角度看问题，你自己就会注意到变化
所以，不要悲伤，要相信上帝，并期待最好的结果。
因为节奏还没有到来，它肯定在路上。
上帝保佑！
God just erased a wrong person from your life,he was meant to teach you something. You probably learnt something. Now he is gone. The boy who wasn’t worth trusting is gone. The boy who wasn’t good is gone,the boy who wasn’t worth giving heart to is gone.
Now that you have learnt something,it would be helpful for the rest of your life. Remember everything happens for a reason.
One day you will surely get the right one,your prince,and that will be the moment you would realise why this guy had to leave. Because God has already decided yor soulmate.
So thats awesome that he left.
Because you deserve better,and he doesn’t deserve you.
No matter what happens in life,if you have a positive attitude,nothing seems to be stronger than you. Nothing can make you sad.
Remenber one last thing,
No matter what is the issue or the problem,it only depends on your perspective,whether you take it as a challenge,or you take it as a poor destiny.
Problems comes you the way you want it to.
If you see it in a positive way,it teaches you something and you don’t fear it.
But if you see it in a negative way,try to see it in positive,you yourself will notice the changes.
So don’t be sad,have faith in God,and hope for the best.
Because the beat is yet to come,and it is surely on its way.
God bless!:)
我认为你应该努力参加派对！
上帝只是从你的生活中抹去了一个错误的人，他本该教你一些东西。你可能学到了一些东西。现在他走了。那个不值得信任的男孩走了。不好的男孩不见了，不值得倾心的男孩不见了。
现在你已经学到了一些东西，这将对你的余生有所帮助。记住每件事的发生都是有原因的。
总有一天你一定会找到合适的人、你的王子，那一刻你会意识到这家伙为什么要离开。因为上帝已经决定了你的灵魂伴侣。
他走了，真是太棒了。
因为你配得上更好，而他配不上你。
无论生活中发生什么，如果你有一个积极的态度，没有什么比你更强大，没有什么能让你难过。
记住最后一件事，
不管是什么问题，这只取决于你的观点，你是把它当作一个挑战，还是把它当作一个可怜的命运。
问题会以你想要的方式出现。
如果你以一种积极的方式看待它，它会教你一些东西，你不会害怕它。
但如果你从消极的角度看问题，试着从积极的角度看问题，你自己就会注意到变化
所以，不要悲伤，要相信上帝，并期待最好的结果。
因为节奏还没有到来，它肯定在路上。
上帝保佑！
Geeta Pankaj, lives in India
Leave him.
He is a liar , cheater and a coward with a lack of integrity.
Why I'm giving these beautiful adjectives to him because:
He didn't tell you about the other girl himself. You got to know accidentally. What was he thinking ??? To directly give you his wedding invitation?
He still behaved like your boyfriend even after having a girl by his side to get married.
He told you that his mother doesn't like you. If he really loved you , he would have tried to convince his mother to see your good qualities.
He is a douchebag who still thinks that he can manipulate you and use you. Don't be naive . Leave him for your own good. Don't let him convince you that he is helpless .If he would have been serious for you, he wouldn't have behaved like you have mentioned.
I know my word seems harsh but you need to be tough to overcome this. No need to be weak. Stay strong. Move on .Build your career .
I hope you get the love you deserve.
All the best….
离开他。
他是一个骗子、背叛者和缺乏诚信的懦夫。
我之所以给他这些“漂亮”的形容词是因为：
他没有告诉你关于另一个女孩的事。你是偶然知道的。他在想什么？直接给你他的结婚请柬？
即使他身边有个要结婚的女孩，他仍然表现得像你的男朋友。
他告诉你他妈妈不喜欢你。如果他真的爱你，他会试图说服他的母亲看到你的优秀品质。
他是个笨蛋，仍然认为他可以操纵和利用你。别天真了，为了你自己也要离开他。不要听信他让你相信他是无助的。如果他对你是认真的，他就不会像你说的那样。
我知道我的话听起来很苛刻，但你需要坚强来克服这一点。没有必要软弱，保持强大。继续前进，建立你的事业。
我希望你得到你应得的爱。
祝你一切顺利。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
Leave him.
He is a liar , cheater and a coward with a lack of integrity.
Why I'm giving these beautiful adjectives to him because:
He didn't tell you about the other girl himself. You got to know accidentally. What was he thinking ??? To directly give you his wedding invitation?
He still behaved like your boyfriend even after having a girl by his side to get married.
He told you that his mother doesn't like you. If he really loved you , he would have tried to convince his mother to see your good qualities.
He is a douchebag who still thinks that he can manipulate you and use you. Don't be naive . Leave him for your own good. Don't let him convince you that he is helpless .If he would have been serious for you, he wouldn't have behaved like you have mentioned.
I know my word seems harsh but you need to be tough to overcome this. No need to be weak. Stay strong. Move on .Build your career .
I hope you get the love you deserve.
All the best….
离开他。
他是一个骗子、背叛者和缺乏诚信的懦夫。
我之所以给他这些“漂亮”的形容词是因为：
他没有告诉你关于另一个女孩的事。你是偶然知道的。他在想什么？直接给你他的结婚请柬？
即使他身边有个要结婚的女孩，他仍然表现得像你的男朋友。
他告诉你他妈妈不喜欢你。如果他真的爱你，他会试图说服他的母亲看到你的优秀品质。
他是个笨蛋，仍然认为他可以操纵和利用你。别天真了，为了你自己也要离开他。不要听信他让你相信他是无助的。如果他对你是认真的，他就不会像你说的那样。
我知道我的话听起来很苛刻，但你需要坚强来克服这一点。没有必要软弱，保持强大。继续前进，建立你的事业。
我希望你得到你应得的爱。
祝你一切顺利。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
Krishangee Bora, Graduate Research Assistant at Georgia State University (2018-present)
Krishange Bora，佐治亚州立大学研究生研究助理（2018年至今）
Krishange Bora，佐治亚州立大学研究生研究助理（2018年至今）
I will tell you a story in here :
One of my very good friends fell in a similar scenario few years back. She was devastated beyond repair.
She blamed everything on her self. Doesn't it quite happen that when such an incident occurs people undergo low self esteem issues . Well she underwent too. It seemed to her that all the grief fell on to her .
BTW this jackass left her for someone not even 1 percent close to her . It kept her puzzled as to what she lacked to deserve this treatment being meted out to her.
However after this she turned her life around . She did not go around strategizing ways of taking revenge on him . She cut off all ties with him. She went on to do her masters in an ivy league college in USA and currently works with Google in mountain viewCalifornia.
Moral is that : success is the best revenge. Make your life the best you could make it to be . The people who truly love you will stay in it anyways.
我将在这里告诉你一个故事：
几年前，我的一个非常好的朋友也遇到了类似的情况：她悲痛欲绝。
她把一切都归咎于自己。当这样的事情发生时，人们会经历自卑的问题，这不是很正常吗?她也经历了。在她看来，所有的悲伤都落在她身上了
顺便说一句，这个混蛋为了一个连她百分之一都比不了的人离开了她。这使她感到困惑，她缺少什么，不应该得到这样的待遇。
然而在这之后，她改变了她的生活。她没有到处策划报复他的方法。她断绝了与他的一切联系。她继续在美国一所常春藤联盟大学攻读硕士学位，目前在加州的mountain Views与谷歌合作。
寓意是：成功是最好的复仇，让你的生活尽你所能做到最好，真正爱你的人无论如何都会留在里面。
One of my very good friends fell in a similar scenario few years back. She was devastated beyond repair.
She blamed everything on her self. Doesn't it quite happen that when such an incident occurs people undergo low self esteem issues . Well she underwent too. It seemed to her that all the grief fell on to her .
BTW this jackass left her for someone not even 1 percent close to her . It kept her puzzled as to what she lacked to deserve this treatment being meted out to her.
However after this she turned her life around . She did not go around strategizing ways of taking revenge on him . She cut off all ties with him. She went on to do her masters in an ivy league college in USA and currently works with Google in mountain viewCalifornia.
Moral is that : success is the best revenge. Make your life the best you could make it to be . The people who truly love you will stay in it anyways.
我将在这里告诉你一个故事：
几年前，我的一个非常好的朋友也遇到了类似的情况：她悲痛欲绝。
她把一切都归咎于自己。当这样的事情发生时，人们会经历自卑的问题，这不是很正常吗?她也经历了。在她看来，所有的悲伤都落在她身上了
顺便说一句，这个混蛋为了一个连她百分之一都比不了的人离开了她。这使她感到困惑，她缺少什么，不应该得到这样的待遇。
然而在这之后，她改变了她的生活。她没有到处策划报复他的方法。她断绝了与他的一切联系。她继续在美国一所常春藤联盟大学攻读硕士学位，目前在加州的mountain Views与谷歌合作。
寓意是：成功是最好的复仇，让你的生活尽你所能做到最好，真正爱你的人无论如何都会留在里面。
Sarah Axel
Move on. If your boyfriend left you to be with someone else he broke his promise to your relationship. To work at it and try. If he was doing those things he wouldn’t have let himself notice another girl. If he couldn’t try in the relationship then you two were never going to get anywhere. Just be happy it ended before it went on any longer. Don’t blame yourself because even if you were perfect, a guy who doesn’t try to improve and strengthen a relationship is not going to care because he’s not letting himself see and appreciate the real you.
While he’s there with his new girl “ who he is probably going to leave when the next girl comes around” just do your thang. Remember who you are and pity that poor girl for being with that douche.
Hang out with your friends. Meet new people.
继续前进。如果你的男朋友为了和别人在一起而离开你，他就违背了他对你们关系的承诺。如果他真心在乎你，他就不会让自己注意到另一个女孩。如果他在这段关系中不努力那么你们俩就永远不会有任何进展。高兴它在继续之前庆幸结束了。不要责怪自己，因为即使你很完美，一个不想改善和加强关系的男人也不会在意，因为他不会让自己看到和欣赏真实的你。
当他和他的新女友在一起时，“当下一个女孩出现时，他很可能会离开她”，只要做你的事就行了。记住你是谁，可惜那个可怜的女孩和那个混蛋在一起。
和你的朋友出去玩。结识新朋友。
Move on. If your boyfriend left you to be with someone else he broke his promise to your relationship. To work at it and try. If he was doing those things he wouldn’t have let himself notice another girl. If he couldn’t try in the relationship then you two were never going to get anywhere. Just be happy it ended before it went on any longer. Don’t blame yourself because even if you were perfect, a guy who doesn’t try to improve and strengthen a relationship is not going to care because he’s not letting himself see and appreciate the real you.
While he’s there with his new girl “ who he is probably going to leave when the next girl comes around” just do your thang. Remember who you are and pity that poor girl for being with that douche.
Hang out with your friends. Meet new people.
继续前进。如果你的男朋友为了和别人在一起而离开你，他就违背了他对你们关系的承诺。如果他真心在乎你，他就不会让自己注意到另一个女孩。如果他在这段关系中不努力那么你们俩就永远不会有任何进展。高兴它在继续之前庆幸结束了。不要责怪自己，因为即使你很完美，一个不想改善和加强关系的男人也不会在意，因为他不会让自己看到和欣赏真实的你。
当他和他的新女友在一起时，“当下一个女孩出现时，他很可能会离开她”，只要做你的事就行了。记住你是谁，可惜那个可怜的女孩和那个混蛋在一起。
和你的朋友出去玩。结识新朋友。
Sneh Soni, Self-made, Self-taught,
Sneh Soni，白手起家，自学成才
Sneh Soni，白手起家，自学成才
Well, no matter what you do, he isn't coming back. He is of age and the fact the he is getting married in a way also means at one point of time, he betrayed you but wasn't man enough to tell you himself that it's over so he blames his mother for the breakup. You can argue with him but not his mother. Typical Indian male who has a false ego and is a pussy when it comes to real matters.
You should be lucky you got to know about him getting married else he could be using you for his selfish physical desires.
Let him go and move on. You are 20 years old. Pretty young to get into all these. You are still developing emotions in your mind. Focus on becoming a successful person instead of falling for such distractions.
Love is a wonderful feeling at your age but the mental and emotional scars that happen due to such events will affect your behavior for a lifetime.
Meditate to calm you mind and embrace your true nature of happiness.
不管你做什么，他都不会回来了。他已经成年了，事实上他要结婚，在某种程度上也意味着，在某个时候，他背叛了你，但他不够男人来告诉你一切都结束了，所以他把分手归咎于他的母亲。你可以和他争论，但不能和他母亲争论。这是一个典型的印度男性，有虚假的自我，在真正的事情上就是个娘娘腔。
你应该很幸运知道他结婚了，否则他会利用你来满足他自私的生理欲望。
让他走吧，继续前进。你20岁，很年轻。你的头脑中仍在发展情绪。专注于成为一个成功的人，而不是沉迷于其中。
在你这个年龄，爱是一种美妙的感觉，但由于这些事件而产生的精神和情感创伤将影响你一生的行为。
冥想使你的头脑平静下来，拥抱你真正的幸福。
You should be lucky you got to know about him getting married else he could be using you for his selfish physical desires.
Let him go and move on. You are 20 years old. Pretty young to get into all these. You are still developing emotions in your mind. Focus on becoming a successful person instead of falling for such distractions.
Love is a wonderful feeling at your age but the mental and emotional scars that happen due to such events will affect your behavior for a lifetime.
Meditate to calm you mind and embrace your true nature of happiness.
不管你做什么，他都不会回来了。他已经成年了，事实上他要结婚，在某种程度上也意味着，在某个时候，他背叛了你，但他不够男人来告诉你一切都结束了，所以他把分手归咎于他的母亲。你可以和他争论，但不能和他母亲争论。这是一个典型的印度男性，有虚假的自我，在真正的事情上就是个娘娘腔。
你应该很幸运知道他结婚了，否则他会利用你来满足他自私的生理欲望。
让他走吧，继续前进。你20岁，很年轻。你的头脑中仍在发展情绪。专注于成为一个成功的人，而不是沉迷于其中。
在你这个年龄，爱是一种美妙的感觉，但由于这些事件而产生的精神和情感创伤将影响你一生的行为。
冥想使你的头脑平静下来，拥抱你真正的幸福。
Kshitija Kothari, former Business development at H!nge: GigIndia
Leave him.
You don't deserve to be half important to someone .
Either he should be only yours or only hers.
Leave him for your own self respect.
You might find someone way better who won't give up on you no matter what his mother thinks.
离开他。
对某人来说，你的重要性连她一半都没有。
他要么是你的，要么是她的。
为了你自己的自尊，离开他吧。
你可能会找到更好的人—不管他妈妈怎么想都不会放弃你人。
Leave him.
You don't deserve to be half important to someone .
Either he should be only yours or only hers.
Leave him for your own self respect.
You might find someone way better who won't give up on you no matter what his mother thinks.
离开他。
对某人来说，你的重要性连她一半都没有。
他要么是你的，要么是她的。
为了你自己的自尊，离开他吧。
你可能会找到更好的人—不管他妈妈怎么想都不会放弃你人。
Gauri Kalikar, works at Tata Consultancy Services (2019-present)
You realising this on the first place is a big deal. Let him go. You have a great life and future ahead. Do not stress over people who weren’t loyal from the beginning. Dont waste energy over this. Start afresh with yourself. Dont forget to love yourself.
你首先意识到这是一件重要的事。让他走，你的人生很美好，前途无量。不要对从一开始就不忠诚的人施加压力。不要在这上面浪费精力。重新开始，别忘了爱自己。
You realising this on the first place is a big deal. Let him go. You have a great life and future ahead. Do not stress over people who weren’t loyal from the beginning. Dont waste energy over this. Start afresh with yourself. Dont forget to love yourself.
你首先意识到这是一件重要的事。让他走，你的人生很美好，前途无量。不要对从一开始就不忠诚的人施加压力。不要在这上面浪费精力。重新开始，别忘了爱自己。
Casey Miles, A nerdy, sturdy bohemian weirdo at your disposal...
There is only one thing you can do.
Move on.
I am sorry for your heart break. This is a mess and it feels unbearable and cruel. You were wronged. But, the only thing you can do is try your best to sooth your heart and get back on your feet again. Have a good cry.. Nurse your broken heart for now. Please know if you want someone to talk to, you have your friends, your families and us at Quora too.
Let all of us help you to emerge whole from this situation. As for your ex, you need to forget him, throw him out of your life. Any feeling related to him is bad. Missing him, even being angry at him.
I hope with time you are able to move on from this guy. I wish you all the best.
你只能做一件事：继续前进。
我很抱歉让你心碎了。这是一团乱麻，让人感到难以忍受和残酷。你被冤枉了。但是，你唯一能做的就是尽你最大的努力安抚你的心灵，重新振作起来。好好哭一场吧。暂时照顾好你那颗破碎的心。如果你想找人聊天，请知道，你的朋友、家人和我们也在Quora上。
让我们所有人帮助你们从这种情况中完整的走出来。至于你的前任，你需要忘记他，把他从你的生活中赶出去。任何与他有关的感觉都是不好的：想念他，甚至对他生气。
我希望随着时间的推移，你能够离开这个家伙。我祝你一切顺利。
There is only one thing you can do.
Move on.
I am sorry for your heart break. This is a mess and it feels unbearable and cruel. You were wronged. But, the only thing you can do is try your best to sooth your heart and get back on your feet again. Have a good cry.. Nurse your broken heart for now. Please know if you want someone to talk to, you have your friends, your families and us at Quora too.
Let all of us help you to emerge whole from this situation. As for your ex, you need to forget him, throw him out of your life. Any feeling related to him is bad. Missing him, even being angry at him.
I hope with time you are able to move on from this guy. I wish you all the best.
你只能做一件事：继续前进。
我很抱歉让你心碎了。这是一团乱麻，让人感到难以忍受和残酷。你被冤枉了。但是，你唯一能做的就是尽你最大的努力安抚你的心灵，重新振作起来。好好哭一场吧。暂时照顾好你那颗破碎的心。如果你想找人聊天，请知道，你的朋友、家人和我们也在Quora上。
让我们所有人帮助你们从这种情况中完整的走出来。至于你的前任，你需要忘记他，把他从你的生活中赶出去。任何与他有关的感觉都是不好的：想念他，甚至对他生气。
我希望随着时间的推移，你能够离开这个家伙。我祝你一切顺利。
Rajeev Srivastava, Been in relationships, explored love, learned a bit.
Rajeev Srivastava，在恋爱中，探索爱情，学到了一些东西。
Rajeev Srivastava，在恋爱中，探索爱情，学到了一些东西。
Just answered a similar question yesterday. Hope this helps!
Do letting go is the best option if your boyfriend doesn't loves you?
You have already taken the First Step, i.e. realizing that your boy friend doesn't loves you.
Next Step: Salute him with your middle finger and walk away with dignity and self-respect keeping in mind that you are special.
Further Step: Do thank him for making you realize that he isn't worth you and your time.
Sleep peacefully at night :D
昨天刚刚回答了一个类似的问题。希望这对你有帮助！
如果你的男朋友不爱你，放手是最好的选择？
你已经迈出了第一步，即意识到你的男朋友并不爱你。
下一步：用你的中指向他致敬，带着尊严和自尊离开，记住你是特别的，特别的人会找到一条通往你的路。
下一步：感谢他让你意识到他不值得拥有你和你的时间。
晚上睡个安稳觉。
Do letting go is the best option if your boyfriend doesn't loves you?
You have already taken the First Step, i.e. realizing that your boy friend doesn't loves you.
Next Step: Salute him with your middle finger and walk away with dignity and self-respect keeping in mind that you are special.
Further Step: Do thank him for making you realize that he isn't worth you and your time.
Sleep peacefully at night :D
昨天刚刚回答了一个类似的问题。希望这对你有帮助！
如果你的男朋友不爱你，放手是最好的选择？
你已经迈出了第一步，即意识到你的男朋友并不爱你。
下一步：用你的中指向他致敬，带着尊严和自尊离开，记住你是特别的，特别的人会找到一条通往你的路。
下一步：感谢他让你意识到他不值得拥有你和你的时间。
晚上睡个安稳觉。
Prathami Dalvi, studied at IITians PACE (2016)
At the very first place you still think he is worth it when you know he is not going to marry you and just tie a knot with someone he met on a marriage website.
Well my dear love is something which is a beautiful feeling and this guy is not worth it. If his mom doesn’t likes you he can convince her too. If there is a will there is always a way.
Be a wise person and kick him off because being with him will only give you headaches and stress and life full of sadness and worries as of now.
I know its hard to get over things but trust me you can do it.
Just believe in yourself you are just not another girl he can hook up with.
一开始，当你知道他不会娶你，只是和他在婚姻网站上认识的人结了婚，你仍然认为他值得。
好吧，我亲爱的，爱是一种美好的感觉，这家伙不值得。如果他妈妈不喜欢你，他也可以说服她：有志者事竟成。
做一个明智的人，把他踢开，因为和他在一起只会给你带来头痛和压力，让你的生活充满悲伤和忧虑。
我知道克服困难很难，但相信我你能做到。
只要相信你自己，你就不是他能勾搭上的另一个女孩。
At the very first place you still think he is worth it when you know he is not going to marry you and just tie a knot with someone he met on a marriage website.
Well my dear love is something which is a beautiful feeling and this guy is not worth it. If his mom doesn’t likes you he can convince her too. If there is a will there is always a way.
Be a wise person and kick him off because being with him will only give you headaches and stress and life full of sadness and worries as of now.
I know its hard to get over things but trust me you can do it.
Just believe in yourself you are just not another girl he can hook up with.
一开始，当你知道他不会娶你，只是和他在婚姻网站上认识的人结了婚，你仍然认为他值得。
好吧，我亲爱的，爱是一种美好的感觉，这家伙不值得。如果他妈妈不喜欢你，他也可以说服她：有志者事竟成。
做一个明智的人，把他踢开，因为和他在一起只会给你带来头痛和压力，让你的生活充满悲伤和忧虑。
我知道克服困难很难，但相信我你能做到。
只要相信你自己，你就不是他能勾搭上的另一个女孩。
Sandeepkumar Manoharan, works at Tata Consultancy Services
your boyfriend left you??. Celebrate it.Because you're very lucky to get to know about his character at the beginning itself.It seems his mind is not stable. Trust me, it happened for a reason. Be happy for it.I know it pains but he is not worthy to live with you. Best way of taking revenge over him is being very happy and pretending as nothing happened to you. You will get a good person for sure.
你男朋友离开了你？庆祝一下。因为你很幸运在一开始就了解了他的性格。看来他的思想并不稳定。相信我，这是有原因的。我知道这很痛苦，但他不配和你生活在一起。对他进行报复的最好办法是让自己非常高兴，假装什么也没发生。你肯定会遇到一个好人。
your boyfriend left you??. Celebrate it.Because you're very lucky to get to know about his character at the beginning itself.It seems his mind is not stable. Trust me, it happened for a reason. Be happy for it.I know it pains but he is not worthy to live with you. Best way of taking revenge over him is being very happy and pretending as nothing happened to you. You will get a good person for sure.
你男朋友离开了你？庆祝一下。因为你很幸运在一开始就了解了他的性格。看来他的思想并不稳定。相信我，这是有原因的。我知道这很痛苦，但他不配和你生活在一起。对他进行报复的最好办法是让自己非常高兴，假装什么也没发生。你肯定会遇到一个好人。
Ambarish Parasar, Machinery Engineer at ExxonMobil
A couple of questions here:
Have you known him for only two days? In that case, it's quite early to call him your boyfriend.
“Behaved completely like a bf”. It could be that he is actually being friendly with you. You might need to re-think on your perception of his actions.
In any case however, if a person doesn't want to be a part of your life, there is nothing you can do but to move on. The feelings you have for him may never go away, but eventually, you will be able to cherish those memories and be in a better place.
这里有几个问题：
你认识他才两天吗？那样的话，现在就称他为你的男朋友还为时过早。
“表现得像个男朋友”。这可能是因为他实际上对你很友好。你可能需要重新思考你对他的行为的看法。
无论如何，如果一个人不想成为你生活的一部分，你除了继续前进，别无选择。你对他的感情可能永远不会消失，但最终，你将能够珍惜这些记忆，在一个更好的地方生活。
A couple of questions here:
Have you known him for only two days? In that case, it's quite early to call him your boyfriend.
“Behaved completely like a bf”. It could be that he is actually being friendly with you. You might need to re-think on your perception of his actions.
In any case however, if a person doesn't want to be a part of your life, there is nothing you can do but to move on. The feelings you have for him may never go away, but eventually, you will be able to cherish those memories and be in a better place.
这里有几个问题：
你认识他才两天吗？那样的话，现在就称他为你的男朋友还为时过早。
“表现得像个男朋友”。这可能是因为他实际上对你很友好。你可能需要重新思考你对他的行为的看法。
无论如何，如果一个人不想成为你生活的一部分，你除了继续前进，别无选择。你对他的感情可能永远不会消失，但最终，你将能够珍惜这些记忆，在一个更好的地方生活。
Siddharth Sekhar, studied Metallurgy
You should first come out of that tragedy. Be normal and accept that he wasn't meant for you. And be thankful to god that before any more worse could have happened you are saved. And coming to the other gal, if you are sure enough that your ex is fooling her then you should make her aware of that. But only for once. Not more than that.
God bless you :)
你应该先从那场悲剧中走出来。保持正常生活，接受他不是为你而生的。感谢上帝，在更糟糕的事情发生之前，你已经得救了。说到另一个女孩，如果你确信你的前任在愚弄她，那么你应该让她意识到这一点。但只给一次机会，仅此而已。
上帝保佑你：）
You should first come out of that tragedy. Be normal and accept that he wasn't meant for you. And be thankful to god that before any more worse could have happened you are saved. And coming to the other gal, if you are sure enough that your ex is fooling her then you should make her aware of that. But only for once. Not more than that.
God bless you :)
你应该先从那场悲剧中走出来。保持正常生活，接受他不是为你而生的。感谢上帝，在更糟糕的事情发生之前，你已经得救了。说到另一个女孩，如果你确信你的前任在愚弄她，那么你应该让她意识到这一点。但只给一次机会，仅此而已。
上帝保佑你：）
Saheed Adedire Yusuf, Student of Knowledge
Forget about him and move on with your life.....
For the fact that he behaves like a bf and only told you about his mum dislike of you after you saw his chat only shows that he intends to play you for as long as possible till he's ready to marry to the other girl.
That you found out soon is a blessing in disguise for you. I know it hurts to lose someone you love, but moving on now is the best thing for you to do.
There are many guys who will be willing and happy to have you in their lives
忘掉他，继续你的生活。
因为他之所以表现得像个男朋友，只是在你看到他的聊天记录后才告诉你他妈妈不喜欢你，这只表明他打算尽可能长时间地扮演你男朋友，直到他准备娶另一个女孩。
你很快就会发现，这对你来说是因祸得福。我知道失去你爱的人是痛苦的，但现在离开是你最好的选择。
有很多人愿意并且很高兴在他们的生活中拥有你。
Forget about him and move on with your life.....
For the fact that he behaves like a bf and only told you about his mum dislike of you after you saw his chat only shows that he intends to play you for as long as possible till he's ready to marry to the other girl.
That you found out soon is a blessing in disguise for you. I know it hurts to lose someone you love, but moving on now is the best thing for you to do.
There are many guys who will be willing and happy to have you in their lives
忘掉他，继续你的生活。
因为他之所以表现得像个男朋友，只是在你看到他的聊天记录后才告诉你他妈妈不喜欢你，这只表明他打算尽可能长时间地扮演你男朋友，直到他准备娶另一个女孩。
你很快就会发现，这对你来说是因祸得福。我知道失去你爱的人是痛苦的，但现在离开是你最好的选择。
有很多人愿意并且很高兴在他们的生活中拥有你。
Anonymous
The same thing happened to me and I tried my best to convince her. But, she just said that we are meant to together and just left me.
At that night my best friend sent me a message, out of the blue as if he knows about my situation, though he didn't know. But it hit the nail on point and that was the best decision was of my life I took after it.
The message was like this,
“If you cry because the sun has gone out of your life, your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars.”
The decision was according to my condition only, but I strongly advise you to think about your situation and condition and act according to it. Take your time to think and come to some decision. If you still want to pursue that relationship than go for it.
And remember 'Sometime best revenge is to smile and move on'.
同样的事情也发生在我身上，我尽力去说服她。但是，她只是说她们注定要在一起然后就离开了我。那天晚上，我最好的朋友突然给我发了一条信息，他好像知道我的情况，其实他并不知道。但它击中了要害，那是我一生中做出的最好的决定。它传达的信息是这样的:如果你因为太阳离开了你的生活而哭泣，你的眼泪将会阻止你看到星星。这个决定只是根据我的情况做出的，但我强烈建议你考虑一下你的情况和条件，并根据它采取行动。花点时间想想，然后再做决定。如果你还想继续这段关系，那就放手吧。记住“有时候，最好的报复就是微笑着继续前行。”
The same thing happened to me and I tried my best to convince her. But, she just said that we are meant to together and just left me.
At that night my best friend sent me a message, out of the blue as if he knows about my situation, though he didn't know. But it hit the nail on point and that was the best decision was of my life I took after it.
The message was like this,
“If you cry because the sun has gone out of your life, your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars.”
The decision was according to my condition only, but I strongly advise you to think about your situation and condition and act according to it. Take your time to think and come to some decision. If you still want to pursue that relationship than go for it.
And remember 'Sometime best revenge is to smile and move on'.
同样的事情也发生在我身上，我尽力去说服她。但是，她只是说她们注定要在一起然后就离开了我。那天晚上，我最好的朋友突然给我发了一条信息，他好像知道我的情况，其实他并不知道。但它击中了要害，那是我一生中做出的最好的决定。它传达的信息是这样的:如果你因为太阳离开了你的生活而哭泣，你的眼泪将会阻止你看到星星。这个决定只是根据我的情况做出的，但我强烈建议你考虑一下你的情况和条件，并根据它采取行动。花点时间想想，然后再做决定。如果你还想继续这段关系，那就放手吧。记住“有时候，最好的报复就是微笑着继续前行。”
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