你是怎么学会爱自己的三 )
正文翻译
How did you learn to love yourself?
你是怎么学会爱自己的?
How did you learn to love yourself?
你是怎么学会爱自己的?
评论翻译
Anwesha Dash, Hopeless romantic.
Things I am insecured about:
My face is extremely big. I have big cheeks and I don't click well due to them.
I am tall but sometimes I feel left out when I have very few people to pose with. (YKWIM) I love my height but it has given me bad thoughts as well.
My lips. The lower one is bigger than the upper. I also have dark ones due to me being a tea addict. I won't leave tea for that ever.
My weight. I can gain weight by breathing, I feel. Ten days of diet and nothing works, one cheat day and my weighing scale is a disaster.
Plus there are many more which I don't feel comfortable sharing here. But let's look at the comments I have received from people (yes guys as well!)
I love your face. You are so cute and your cheeks are so squishy. You look so beautiful with, never loose them cheeks.
Damn you are so much tall. I like your confidence (that day I thought, how am I radiating confidence in any way?)
让我感觉不到安全感的事情：
我的脸特别大。我的脸颊很大，而且由此我也显得不太合群。
我个子很高，但当很少有人和我合影时，我有时会觉得自己被冷落了。我喜欢我的身高，但它也让我产生了糟糕的想法。
我的下嘴唇比上嘴唇大，还有黑眼圈，而且我是个茶迷，永远存不住茶。
我的体重，我觉得靠呼吸都可以增加体重。节食十天的却毫无作用，松懈一天就怀疑体重秤坏了。
此外，还有很多我不愿意在这里分享的东西。但让我们看看我收到的评论(是的，伙计们!)
我爱你的脸。你太可爱了，你的脸颊好软了。你看起来很漂亮，脸颊从不松弛。
该死，你这么高。我喜欢你的自信(那天我想，我怎么能散发出自信呢?)
Things I am insecured about:
My face is extremely big. I have big cheeks and I don't click well due to them.
I am tall but sometimes I feel left out when I have very few people to pose with. (YKWIM) I love my height but it has given me bad thoughts as well.
My lips. The lower one is bigger than the upper. I also have dark ones due to me being a tea addict. I won't leave tea for that ever.
My weight. I can gain weight by breathing, I feel. Ten days of diet and nothing works, one cheat day and my weighing scale is a disaster.
Plus there are many more which I don't feel comfortable sharing here. But let's look at the comments I have received from people (yes guys as well!)
I love your face. You are so cute and your cheeks are so squishy. You look so beautiful with, never loose them cheeks.
Damn you are so much tall. I like your confidence (that day I thought, how am I radiating confidence in any way?)
让我感觉不到安全感的事情：
我的脸特别大。我的脸颊很大，而且由此我也显得不太合群。
我个子很高，但当很少有人和我合影时，我有时会觉得自己被冷落了。我喜欢我的身高，但它也让我产生了糟糕的想法。
我的下嘴唇比上嘴唇大，还有黑眼圈，而且我是个茶迷，永远存不住茶。
我的体重，我觉得靠呼吸都可以增加体重。节食十天的却毫无作用，松懈一天就怀疑体重秤坏了。
此外，还有很多我不愿意在这里分享的东西。但让我们看看我收到的评论(是的，伙计们!)
我爱你的脸。你太可爱了，你的脸颊好软了。你看起来很漂亮，脸颊从不松弛。
该死，你这么高。我喜欢你的自信(那天我想，我怎么能散发出自信呢?)
You have juicy lips. You rock lipsticks so well, especially the darker shades.
I love your outfit, it looks good only because you've worn it. Your body is made to carry this.
This is what I realised, how I overthink and subject myself to situations where I believe I lack a certain thing or have excess of some other. I always am insecured because of judging hard on myself. No one can make me feel that bad, like the way I have been doing to myself over the years.
It's all about perception, the thing which you feel least confident about can be a sought after trait by the other. Now if you are insecured about being short in height (for guys!) let me tell you a story of a random discussion within my friends. Two guys and a girl were commenting on a guy let's call him P who is not blessed in the height department.
你嘴唇多汁，你很喜欢唇膏，尤其是深色唇膏。
我喜欢你的衣服，你穿了才好看。简直为你量身定制的。
这就是我所意识到的，我是如何过度思考，如何让自己陷入我认为自己缺少某样东西或其他东西过多的情况。我总是因为对自己苛责而没有安全感。没人能让我这么难受，就像我这么多年来对自己做的那样。
这都是关于感知的，你觉得最不自信的事情可能是另一方追求的特质。现在，如果你对身材矮小没有安全感（对于男人来说！）让我给你讲一个我朋友间随机讨论的故事。两个男生和一个女生在评论一个男生我们就叫他P吧他在身高方面没有优势。
I love your outfit, it looks good only because you've worn it. Your body is made to carry this.
This is what I realised, how I overthink and subject myself to situations where I believe I lack a certain thing or have excess of some other. I always am insecured because of judging hard on myself. No one can make me feel that bad, like the way I have been doing to myself over the years.
It's all about perception, the thing which you feel least confident about can be a sought after trait by the other. Now if you are insecured about being short in height (for guys!) let me tell you a story of a random discussion within my friends. Two guys and a girl were commenting on a guy let's call him P who is not blessed in the height department.
你嘴唇多汁，你很喜欢唇膏，尤其是深色唇膏。
我喜欢你的衣服，你穿了才好看。简直为你量身定制的。
这就是我所意识到的，我是如何过度思考，如何让自己陷入我认为自己缺少某样东西或其他东西过多的情况。我总是因为对自己苛责而没有安全感。没人能让我这么难受，就像我这么多年来对自己做的那样。
这都是关于感知的，你觉得最不自信的事情可能是另一方追求的特质。现在，如果你对身材矮小没有安全感（对于男人来说！）让我给你讲一个我朋友间随机讨论的故事。两个男生和一个女生在评论一个男生我们就叫他P吧他在身高方面没有优势。
Guy 1: I always think how P manages being so short.
Guy 2: Yes P, you are way shorter than the average height.
Girl: P is good looking thank god otherwise no one would stare at him.
P: I always used to be insecured because of my height. Then I joined college, got my desired branch and loved a girl who is shorter than me and moreover she loves me back. I have a pre-placement offer and a girl by myside. My father has enough property so I can start a business in the future as well. Job, girl and money I have it all which tall guys I know don't have till now. Why shall I be sad? I got everything I wanted!
(Every one remained silent)
This is a real incident, 100% real. So trust me if you are confident enough to achieve things nothing can come in your way. Look at Athiya Shetty (Indian Actress) who doesn't look the conventional Bollywood pretty but I am so much impressed by her recent sextion of movies to act in. She will establish herself as an actor in the industry rather than her contemporaries who are just dependent on skin show.
I once read a very cheesy quote on the Internet
If you don't have the courage to love yourself, then don't expect someone else to do that for you.
男1：我一直在想P是怎么接受这么矮的身高的。
男2：是的，P，你比平均身高矮多了。
女孩：P很好看，感谢上帝，不然没人会盯着他看。
P：我以前总是因为我的身高而感到不安全。然后我进入了大学，进入了我想要的专业，爱上了一个比我矮的女孩，而且她也爱我。我拿到了预录取通知书，身边还有个女孩。我父亲有足够的财产，所以我将来也可以创业。工作、女孩和钱我都有，我认识的高个子男人到现在都没有这些。我为什么要悲伤？我得到了我想要的一切！
（大家都保持沉默）
这是一个真实的事件—100%真实。所以，相信我，如果你有足够的信心去实现目标，没有什么能阻挡你。看看印度女演员阿西娅·谢蒂（Athiya Shetty），她看起来不像传统的宝莱坞美女，但她最近挑选的几部电影给我留下了深刻印象。她将在这个行业中确立自己的演员地位，而不是像她同时代的人那样只依赖于表演。
我曾经在网上读到一句非常俗气的话—如果你没有勇气爱自己，那就不要指望别人会为你这样做。
Guy 2: Yes P, you are way shorter than the average height.
Girl: P is good looking thank god otherwise no one would stare at him.
P: I always used to be insecured because of my height. Then I joined college, got my desired branch and loved a girl who is shorter than me and moreover she loves me back. I have a pre-placement offer and a girl by myside. My father has enough property so I can start a business in the future as well. Job, girl and money I have it all which tall guys I know don't have till now. Why shall I be sad? I got everything I wanted!
(Every one remained silent)
This is a real incident, 100% real. So trust me if you are confident enough to achieve things nothing can come in your way. Look at Athiya Shetty (Indian Actress) who doesn't look the conventional Bollywood pretty but I am so much impressed by her recent sextion of movies to act in. She will establish herself as an actor in the industry rather than her contemporaries who are just dependent on skin show.
I once read a very cheesy quote on the Internet
If you don't have the courage to love yourself, then don't expect someone else to do that for you.
男1：我一直在想P是怎么接受这么矮的身高的。
男2：是的，P，你比平均身高矮多了。
女孩：P很好看，感谢上帝，不然没人会盯着他看。
P：我以前总是因为我的身高而感到不安全。然后我进入了大学，进入了我想要的专业，爱上了一个比我矮的女孩，而且她也爱我。我拿到了预录取通知书，身边还有个女孩。我父亲有足够的财产，所以我将来也可以创业。工作、女孩和钱我都有，我认识的高个子男人到现在都没有这些。我为什么要悲伤？我得到了我想要的一切！
（大家都保持沉默）
这是一个真实的事件—100%真实。所以，相信我，如果你有足够的信心去实现目标，没有什么能阻挡你。看看印度女演员阿西娅·谢蒂（Athiya Shetty），她看起来不像传统的宝莱坞美女，但她最近挑选的几部电影给我留下了深刻印象。她将在这个行业中确立自己的演员地位，而不是像她同时代的人那样只依赖于表演。
我曾经在网上读到一句非常俗气的话—如果你没有勇气爱自己，那就不要指望别人会为你这样做。
Priyanka Marka, I've messed up enough times to know a thing or two.
普里扬卡·马尔卡，我搞砸过很多次才略知一二
普里扬卡·马尔卡，我搞砸过很多次才略知一二
Do things that win your own respect, not that of others. Make mistakes. Seek challenges. Consiously step out of your comfort zone as often as you can. Stretch. Rewire your mindset to failure. Do something for someone else without any expectations.
Focus on internal validation over external validation. Do not betray yourself in order to serve another, especially your principles. You must be your own strength; someone you can rely on. Thus, be honest with yourself. Hold yourself accountable for your actions, and take responsibility for your own happiness and outcomes..
Stop fighting who you are; Any change brought about by force is bound to collapse. If there is a change you wish to see in yourself, then seek it through empathy and persuasion.
Refuse to believe in anything that doesn't serve or help you. I don't mean to sugar-coat the truth. I mean learn to seperate facts from assumptions. The beauty of life is that it's unpredictable, and the beauty of people is that no amount of logical reasoning or ingenious deducation skills can tell you exactly what they're thinking. Don't create worries and problems where there are none.
Never ever complain or blame anyone else. You don't have to own being a victim even if you are one. Refuse. If you don't, you will be training your mind to focus on the negative and things you can't control. The remedy to this is gratitude and looking at yourself to see what you can improve or do differently when something goes wrong.
These are off the top of my head. Remember: Self-love isn't something that you either have or don't have. It's something you must continually nourish each day, just like any other relationship, or it will wither and die from neglect.
We all have bad days; the key is not to let them get the upperhand, or become a habit.
做能赢得自己尊重的事情，而不是去赢得别人尊重的事情。犯错误以及寻求挑战。尽可能经常地走出你的舒适区，拉伸和重新调整你面对失败时的心态，不求回报地为别人做点什么。
关注内部验证而不是外部验证。不要为了服务他人而做违背自己，尤其是你的原则的事。你必须依靠自己的力量；让自己成为你可以依赖的人。因此，对自己诚实，为自己的行为负责，为自己的幸福和结果负责。
停止与你是谁作斗争；任何靠武力带来的变革都注定要失败。如果你希望在自己身上看到改变，那么通过同理心和说服来寻求它。
拒绝相信任何不能服务或帮助你的东西。我不想粉饰事实。我不是故意粉饰事实。我的意思是学会区分事实和假设。生活的美在于它是不可预测的，而人之美在于再多的逻辑推理或巧妙的教育技巧也无法准确地告诉你他们在想什么。不要在没有烦恼和问题的地方制造烦恼和问题。
永远不要抱怨或责怪别人。即使你是受害者，你也不必承认自己是受害者。如果你不这样做，你就会训练你的大脑专注于消极的和你无法控制的事情。补救的方法是感恩，并在遇到问题时看看自己可以改进什么，或者做些不同的事情。
这些都是我能想到的。记住：自爱不是你要么有要么没有的东西。这是你每天必须不断滋养的东西，就像任何其他关系一样，否则它会因忽视而枯萎和死亡。
我们都有糟糕的日子；关键是不要让他们占上风，或成为一种习惯。
Focus on internal validation over external validation. Do not betray yourself in order to serve another, especially your principles. You must be your own strength; someone you can rely on. Thus, be honest with yourself. Hold yourself accountable for your actions, and take responsibility for your own happiness and outcomes..
Stop fighting who you are; Any change brought about by force is bound to collapse. If there is a change you wish to see in yourself, then seek it through empathy and persuasion.
Refuse to believe in anything that doesn't serve or help you. I don't mean to sugar-coat the truth. I mean learn to seperate facts from assumptions. The beauty of life is that it's unpredictable, and the beauty of people is that no amount of logical reasoning or ingenious deducation skills can tell you exactly what they're thinking. Don't create worries and problems where there are none.
Never ever complain or blame anyone else. You don't have to own being a victim even if you are one. Refuse. If you don't, you will be training your mind to focus on the negative and things you can't control. The remedy to this is gratitude and looking at yourself to see what you can improve or do differently when something goes wrong.
These are off the top of my head. Remember: Self-love isn't something that you either have or don't have. It's something you must continually nourish each day, just like any other relationship, or it will wither and die from neglect.
We all have bad days; the key is not to let them get the upperhand, or become a habit.
做能赢得自己尊重的事情，而不是去赢得别人尊重的事情。犯错误以及寻求挑战。尽可能经常地走出你的舒适区，拉伸和重新调整你面对失败时的心态，不求回报地为别人做点什么。
关注内部验证而不是外部验证。不要为了服务他人而做违背自己，尤其是你的原则的事。你必须依靠自己的力量；让自己成为你可以依赖的人。因此，对自己诚实，为自己的行为负责，为自己的幸福和结果负责。
停止与你是谁作斗争；任何靠武力带来的变革都注定要失败。如果你希望在自己身上看到改变，那么通过同理心和说服来寻求它。
拒绝相信任何不能服务或帮助你的东西。我不想粉饰事实。我不是故意粉饰事实。我的意思是学会区分事实和假设。生活的美在于它是不可预测的，而人之美在于再多的逻辑推理或巧妙的教育技巧也无法准确地告诉你他们在想什么。不要在没有烦恼和问题的地方制造烦恼和问题。
永远不要抱怨或责怪别人。即使你是受害者，你也不必承认自己是受害者。如果你不这样做，你就会训练你的大脑专注于消极的和你无法控制的事情。补救的方法是感恩，并在遇到问题时看看自己可以改进什么，或者做些不同的事情。
这些都是我能想到的。记住：自爱不是你要么有要么没有的东西。这是你每天必须不断滋养的东西，就像任何其他关系一样，否则它会因忽视而枯萎和死亡。
我们都有糟糕的日子；关键是不要让他们占上风，或成为一种习惯。
Jodi Wright, former Financial Management at Military
乔迪·莱特，曾在军队做财务管理
乔迪·莱特，曾在军队做财务管理
I had to first understand why didn’t i love myself in the first place? What happened in my past or even child hood that made me think i was unworthy of being loved and being someone’s everything? My thought process was simple: a doctor can’t prescribe you something without diagnosing you first right? Because he has to know what’s wrong before he can figure out how to treat it. We have to do the same in order to grow.
For me: (my own personal experiences and things i’ve tried)
I had to re-train my brain. I had to acknowledge my emotions. I was always taught to move on and not to deal with emotions.
it started with a need to be perfect in order to earn someone else’s approval. I was taught to believe that perfection equals worth which totals love. But that can’t possibly be true because nobody is perfect but yet we all are worthy of and deserve love. That spilled itself over into lots of areas from grades in school, to career choices, body image issues, showing my authentic self etc.
We all make mistakes. I had to learn that and then accept it. I had to realize that just because i’m flawed doesn’t make me unloveable.
我必须首先明白为什么我一开始就不爱自己？在我的过去，甚至童年时代，发生了什么让我觉得我不值得被爱，不值得成为别人的一切？我的思想历程很简单：医生不先给你诊断就不能给你开药，对吗？因为他必须先知道出了什么问题，然后才能找到治疗方法。为了成长，我们也必须这样做。
对我来说：（我个人的经历和我尝试过的事情）
我必须重新训练我的大脑。我必须承认我的情绪。我一直被教导要向前看，不要感情用事。
一开始，为了赢得别人的认可，你需要做到完美。我被教导相信做到完美才能拥有价值（得到所以爱）。但这不可能是真的，因为没有人是完美的，但我们都值得爱。从学校成绩到职业选择、身体形象问题、展现真实自我等等，这些都渗透到了很多领域。
我们都会犯错。我必须学会这一点，然后接受它。我必须意识到，仅仅因为我有缺陷并不能让我变得不受欢迎。
For me: (my own personal experiences and things i’ve tried)
I had to re-train my brain. I had to acknowledge my emotions. I was always taught to move on and not to deal with emotions.
it started with a need to be perfect in order to earn someone else’s approval. I was taught to believe that perfection equals worth which totals love. But that can’t possibly be true because nobody is perfect but yet we all are worthy of and deserve love. That spilled itself over into lots of areas from grades in school, to career choices, body image issues, showing my authentic self etc.
We all make mistakes. I had to learn that and then accept it. I had to realize that just because i’m flawed doesn’t make me unloveable.
我必须首先明白为什么我一开始就不爱自己？在我的过去，甚至童年时代，发生了什么让我觉得我不值得被爱，不值得成为别人的一切？我的思想历程很简单：医生不先给你诊断就不能给你开药，对吗？因为他必须先知道出了什么问题，然后才能找到治疗方法。为了成长，我们也必须这样做。
对我来说：（我个人的经历和我尝试过的事情）
我必须重新训练我的大脑。我必须承认我的情绪。我一直被教导要向前看，不要感情用事。
一开始，为了赢得别人的认可，你需要做到完美。我被教导相信做到完美才能拥有价值（得到所以爱）。但这不可能是真的，因为没有人是完美的，但我们都值得爱。从学校成绩到职业选择、身体形象问题、展现真实自我等等，这些都渗透到了很多领域。
我们都会犯错。我必须学会这一点，然后接受它。我必须意识到，仅仅因为我有缺陷并不能让我变得不受欢迎。
Loving myself essentially set the precedent for anyone else to be allowed to love me.
I had to learn that where you start doesn’t determine where you can end up. Let’s say you didn’t feel love as a child, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t worthy of love as an adult.
I had to show myself love and sort of date myself so to speak. I said positive affirmations about myself daily until i truly believed them. I had to realize things that i truly enjoyed doing, and then make time just for me. Put myself first and show myself self care.
I had to respect myself and learn to be kind to myself. .
I learned that true happiness comes from within and it starts with self love.
爱自己基本上为其他任何人爱我设置的前提条件。
我必须明白，你从哪里开始并不决定你能在哪里结束。假设你小时候没有感受到爱，这并不意味着你作为一个成年人不值得被爱。
我必须表现出爱，可以说是和自己约会。我每天都积极肯定自己，直到我真正相信。我必须意识到我真正喜欢做的事情，然后为我腾出时间。把自己放在第一位，关心自己。
我必须尊重自己，学会善待自己。
我明白了真正的幸福来自内心，它始于自爱。
I had to learn that where you start doesn’t determine where you can end up. Let’s say you didn’t feel love as a child, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t worthy of love as an adult.
I had to show myself love and sort of date myself so to speak. I said positive affirmations about myself daily until i truly believed them. I had to realize things that i truly enjoyed doing, and then make time just for me. Put myself first and show myself self care.
I had to respect myself and learn to be kind to myself. .
I learned that true happiness comes from within and it starts with self love.
爱自己基本上为其他任何人爱我设置的前提条件。
我必须明白，你从哪里开始并不决定你能在哪里结束。假设你小时候没有感受到爱，这并不意味着你作为一个成年人不值得被爱。
我必须表现出爱，可以说是和自己约会。我每天都积极肯定自己，直到我真正相信。我必须意识到我真正喜欢做的事情，然后为我腾出时间。把自己放在第一位，关心自己。
我必须尊重自己，学会善待自己。
我明白了真正的幸福来自内心，它始于自爱。
I had to explore things that made me uncomfortable like the idea of seeing a therapist. It really gave me the tools to thrive. I had to remove that notion that being vulnerable in front of a therapist was weird. You have to deal with your fear in order to over come it.
I had to ask myself how bad do i want this? Because the only way to get to a place of self love is to acknowledge it and put in the work.
I started spoiling myself and rewarding myself.
i had to clean house: remove things or people from my life that genuinely weren’t “team me”. I had to think about what am i bringing to these relationships/friendships. What are they contributing too? Is it one sided? Is it progressing? Is it positive/healthy? Distance yourself and set healthy boundaries.
I had to realize that true self love is constant, regardless of changing variables. Meaning: i love myself with a perfect gym body, but i also love myself exactly the same when i gain a few pounds. It means i love myself whether i’m a rockstar at work or feeling insecure.
我必须探索让我不舒服的事情，比如去看心理医生。它真的给了我成长的工具。我必须消除在心理医生面前表现出脆弱是很奇怪的想法。为了克服恐惧，你必须处理你的恐惧情绪。
我不得不问自己我有多想要这个？因为要达到自爱的境界，唯一的办法就是承认并投入其中。
我开始溺爱自己，奖励自己。
我必须清理房间:从我的生活中移除那些真正不“支持我”的人或事。我必须思考我给这些关系/友谊带来了什么。他们还贡献了什么?是单方面的吗?这是进步吗?这是积极的/健康吗?保持距离，设定健康的界限
我必须意识到，真正的自爱是永恒的，无论变数如何变化。意思：我爱自己有一个完美的健过身的身体，但当我增加了几磅时我也爱自己。这意味着我爱自己，无论我是工作中的中心人物还是感到惶恐不安时的自己。
I had to ask myself how bad do i want this? Because the only way to get to a place of self love is to acknowledge it and put in the work.
I started spoiling myself and rewarding myself.
i had to clean house: remove things or people from my life that genuinely weren’t “team me”. I had to think about what am i bringing to these relationships/friendships. What are they contributing too? Is it one sided? Is it progressing? Is it positive/healthy? Distance yourself and set healthy boundaries.
I had to realize that true self love is constant, regardless of changing variables. Meaning: i love myself with a perfect gym body, but i also love myself exactly the same when i gain a few pounds. It means i love myself whether i’m a rockstar at work or feeling insecure.
我必须探索让我不舒服的事情，比如去看心理医生。它真的给了我成长的工具。我必须消除在心理医生面前表现出脆弱是很奇怪的想法。为了克服恐惧，你必须处理你的恐惧情绪。
我不得不问自己我有多想要这个？因为要达到自爱的境界，唯一的办法就是承认并投入其中。
我开始溺爱自己，奖励自己。
我必须清理房间:从我的生活中移除那些真正不“支持我”的人或事。我必须思考我给这些关系/友谊带来了什么。他们还贡献了什么?是单方面的吗?这是进步吗?这是积极的/健康吗?保持距离，设定健康的界限
我必须意识到，真正的自爱是永恒的，无论变数如何变化。意思：我爱自己有一个完美的健过身的身体，但当我增加了几磅时我也爱自己。这意味着我爱自己，无论我是工作中的中心人物还是感到惶恐不安时的自己。
I had to give up control and leave things up to the universe. Trust that the universe has my back. There’s a saying “we plan and god laughs”. I had to come to terms with the fact that things may not go according to plan. But everything turned out exactly as it should be. This stems back to that childhood need to constantly seek perfection. I’ve learned that no matter how things turn out, this is my perfect life plan and ready to make the most out of it!
I had to learn to be proud of me regardless of the stage i’m currently in. I had to learn to be humble and grateful. Self hate and gratitude can’t live in the same space.
I focused on being kind to others, even if it’s not reciprocated. I did things because i wanted too, not for the praise. Kindness is contagious. And those who are mean to others are usually jealous, judgmental, and negative. I refused to spend my days that way. Plus when you love yourself, your mind is clear so you realize that big picture: you never know what someone is going through, so be kind. It takes the same level of effort as being mean. When you love yourself, you know it’s okay to root for others and want them to win.
我不得不放弃控制权，把事情留给宇宙去做。相信宇宙会支持我。俗话说“人类一思考，上帝就发笑”。我不得不接受一个事实，事情可能不会按计划进行。但一切都完全按照它应该的样子发展。这源于童年对完美的追求。我明白了，无论结果如何，这都是我完美的人生计划，我已经准备好充分利用它了!
我必须学会为自己感到骄傲，不管我现在处于什么阶段。我必须学会谦逊和感激。自我憎恨和感恩是无法生活在同一个空间里的。
我专注于善待他人，即使没有回报。我做事情是因为我想做，而不是为了表扬。善良是有传染性的，而那些对他人刻薄的人通常是嫉妒、挑剔和消极的。我拒绝这样度过我的生活。另外，当你爱自己的时候，你的头脑是清晰的，所以你意识到了一个大局：你永远不知道别人正在经历什么，所以要友善。这需要付出和刻薄同样的努力。当你爱自己的时候，你知道支持别人并希望他们赢是可以的。
I had to learn to be proud of me regardless of the stage i’m currently in. I had to learn to be humble and grateful. Self hate and gratitude can’t live in the same space.
I focused on being kind to others, even if it’s not reciprocated. I did things because i wanted too, not for the praise. Kindness is contagious. And those who are mean to others are usually jealous, judgmental, and negative. I refused to spend my days that way. Plus when you love yourself, your mind is clear so you realize that big picture: you never know what someone is going through, so be kind. It takes the same level of effort as being mean. When you love yourself, you know it’s okay to root for others and want them to win.
我不得不放弃控制权，把事情留给宇宙去做。相信宇宙会支持我。俗话说“人类一思考，上帝就发笑”。我不得不接受一个事实，事情可能不会按计划进行。但一切都完全按照它应该的样子发展。这源于童年对完美的追求。我明白了，无论结果如何，这都是我完美的人生计划，我已经准备好充分利用它了!
我必须学会为自己感到骄傲，不管我现在处于什么阶段。我必须学会谦逊和感激。自我憎恨和感恩是无法生活在同一个空间里的。
我专注于善待他人，即使没有回报。我做事情是因为我想做，而不是为了表扬。善良是有传染性的，而那些对他人刻薄的人通常是嫉妒、挑剔和消极的。我拒绝这样度过我的生活。另外，当你爱自己的时候，你的头脑是清晰的，所以你意识到了一个大局：你永远不知道别人正在经历什么，所以要友善。这需要付出和刻薄同样的努力。当你爱自己的时候，你知道支持别人并希望他们赢是可以的。
Jennie Sze, Founder at Give Glow (2016-present)
珍妮·斯，Give Glow创始人(2016年至今)
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珍妮·斯，Give Glow创始人(2016年至今)
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
Honestly, I didn’t learn to love myself until I met a partner who loved me unconditionally. Here is what I’ve learned from him, on how to love myself as much as he loves me.
Give yourself permission to ease up on your “should’s”
In the past, I tell myself I should sleep no more than 8 hours a day; watch no more than 2 hours of TV; exercise at least 3 times a week; eat no more than a handful of potato chips. I should… I should…
When I fail to follow my “should’s”, I feel ashamed. My partner, on the other hand, never judges me for how much I sleep, eat, watch TV or exercise. Where do these “should’s” come from anyway?
Now, instead of letting my “should’s” be my guide, I let how I feel moment to moment be my guide. I let myself enjoy TV, sleep, snacks etc. as much a I want without guilt, trusting that my body will tell me when I’m sufficiently re-charged.
说实话，我没有学会爱自己，直到我遇到了一个无条件爱我的伴侣。以下是我从他身上学到的，如何像他爱我一样爱自己。
允许自己减少“应该做的事情”
在过去，我告诉自己，我应该每天睡眠不超过8小时；看电视时间不超过2小时；每周至少锻炼3次；不要吃超过一把的薯片。我应该…...还应该…...
当我没有遵循我的“应该”时，我感到羞愧。另一方面，我的伴侣从不对我睡了多少、吃了多少、看了多少电视或锻炼了多少进行评判。这些“应该”从何而来?
现在，我不再让我的“应该”成为我的向导，而是让我每时每刻的感受成为我的向导。我让自己尽可能多地享受电视、睡眠、零食等，而不会感到内疚，相信我的身体会告诉我什么时候我充够电。
Give yourself permission to ease up on your “should’s”
In the past, I tell myself I should sleep no more than 8 hours a day; watch no more than 2 hours of TV; exercise at least 3 times a week; eat no more than a handful of potato chips. I should… I should…
When I fail to follow my “should’s”, I feel ashamed. My partner, on the other hand, never judges me for how much I sleep, eat, watch TV or exercise. Where do these “should’s” come from anyway?
Now, instead of letting my “should’s” be my guide, I let how I feel moment to moment be my guide. I let myself enjoy TV, sleep, snacks etc. as much a I want without guilt, trusting that my body will tell me when I’m sufficiently re-charged.
说实话，我没有学会爱自己，直到我遇到了一个无条件爱我的伴侣。以下是我从他身上学到的，如何像他爱我一样爱自己。
允许自己减少“应该做的事情”
在过去，我告诉自己，我应该每天睡眠不超过8小时；看电视时间不超过2小时；每周至少锻炼3次；不要吃超过一把的薯片。我应该…...还应该…...
当我没有遵循我的“应该”时，我感到羞愧。另一方面，我的伴侣从不对我睡了多少、吃了多少、看了多少电视或锻炼了多少进行评判。这些“应该”从何而来?
现在，我不再让我的“应该”成为我的向导，而是让我每时每刻的感受成为我的向导。我让自己尽可能多地享受电视、睡眠、零食等，而不会感到内疚，相信我的身体会告诉我什么时候我充够电。
When I am well rested and happy, I actually binge less on TV and snacks.
Ask yourself lovingly: What “should’s” can I let go of ?
Say “No” to people who don’t light you up
I value friendships greatly and want to meet up with my friends often. However, my partner points out how my self-esteem changes after I hang out with certain people. It took me a while to make the decision to stop spending time with people who don’t light me up. It’s not that certain friends are not good people, it’s just that some people brings out the bright side of me while others don’t. This decision has enabled me to feel good about myself more consistently.
Ask yourself: How can I spend less time with people who don’t light me up?
See yourself as glass half-full (not half-empty)
当我得到充分休息和快乐时，我实际上会减少看电视和吃零食的次数。
深情地问自己：我能放弃哪些“应该”？
对那些不让你开心的人说“不”
我非常珍视友谊，希望经常与朋友见面。然而，我的伴侣指出，在我与某些人交往后，我的自尊会发生怎样的变化。我花了一段时间才做出决定，不再和那些让我不开心的人在一起。并不是说某些朋友不是好人，只是有些人让我看到光明，而另一些人却做不到。这个决定让我更加始终如一地自我感觉良好。
扪心自问：我怎样才能少花时间和那些让我不开心的人在一起？
将自己视为半满（而非半空）的杯子
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Ask yourself lovingly: What “should’s” can I let go of ?
Say “No” to people who don’t light you up
I value friendships greatly and want to meet up with my friends often. However, my partner points out how my self-esteem changes after I hang out with certain people. It took me a while to make the decision to stop spending time with people who don’t light me up. It’s not that certain friends are not good people, it’s just that some people brings out the bright side of me while others don’t. This decision has enabled me to feel good about myself more consistently.
Ask yourself: How can I spend less time with people who don’t light me up?
See yourself as glass half-full (not half-empty)
当我得到充分休息和快乐时，我实际上会减少看电视和吃零食的次数。
深情地问自己：我能放弃哪些“应该”？
对那些不让你开心的人说“不”
我非常珍视友谊，希望经常与朋友见面。然而，我的伴侣指出，在我与某些人交往后，我的自尊会发生怎样的变化。我花了一段时间才做出决定，不再和那些让我不开心的人在一起。并不是说某些朋友不是好人，只是有些人让我看到光明，而另一些人却做不到。这个决定让我更加始终如一地自我感觉良好。
扪心自问：我怎样才能少花时间和那些让我不开心的人在一起？
将自己视为半满（而非半空）的杯子
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“I’m not good enough” is a consistent voice in my head. I used to ask my partner why would he want to be with me because I don’t know what he sees in me.
However, if I am more obxtive, I know I have many great qualities. Every one of us has something uniquely great to offer, but we are often blind to our own gifts.
Now, I remind myself each morning during my meditation of what makes me good. I also do a run through of the previous day in my head, and think of all the moments when I embodied my values. For instance, yesterday I connected with a new friend and helped him with his career aspirations. I took initiative to connect with a mentor to get clarity on a issue that has been on my mind. I went to Zumba class and experienced joy.
I was loving, curious, engaging, and joyful. That is me.
Ask yourself: What values/qualities did I embody everyday, and why I love that about me?
How sweet would the world be if we are all more loving to ourselves, and focus on seeing the good in us?
“我不够好”是我脑海中始终如一的声音。我曾经问我的伴侣为什么想和我在一起，因为我不知道他在我身上看到了什么。
然而，如果我更客观一些，我知道我有很多优秀的品质。我们每个人都有一些独特的伟大的东西，但我们经常忽视自己的天赋。
现在，我每天早上在冥想时都会提醒自己是什么让我变得好。我也会在脑海中回顾前一天的事情，回想所有我体现自己价值观的时刻。例如，昨天我联系了一位新朋友，帮助他实现了职业抱负。我主动联系了一位导师，理清了一直萦绕在我脑海中的问题。我去上尊巴舞课，体验到了快乐。
我充满爱，好奇，迷人，快乐，那就是我。
扪心自问：我每天都体现了什么价值观/品质，为什么我喜欢自己？
如果我们都更爱自己，专注于看到自己的优点，这个世界会有多美好。
However, if I am more obxtive, I know I have many great qualities. Every one of us has something uniquely great to offer, but we are often blind to our own gifts.
Now, I remind myself each morning during my meditation of what makes me good. I also do a run through of the previous day in my head, and think of all the moments when I embodied my values. For instance, yesterday I connected with a new friend and helped him with his career aspirations. I took initiative to connect with a mentor to get clarity on a issue that has been on my mind. I went to Zumba class and experienced joy.
I was loving, curious, engaging, and joyful. That is me.
Ask yourself: What values/qualities did I embody everyday, and why I love that about me?
How sweet would the world be if we are all more loving to ourselves, and focus on seeing the good in us?
“我不够好”是我脑海中始终如一的声音。我曾经问我的伴侣为什么想和我在一起，因为我不知道他在我身上看到了什么。
然而，如果我更客观一些，我知道我有很多优秀的品质。我们每个人都有一些独特的伟大的东西，但我们经常忽视自己的天赋。
现在，我每天早上在冥想时都会提醒自己是什么让我变得好。我也会在脑海中回顾前一天的事情，回想所有我体现自己价值观的时刻。例如，昨天我联系了一位新朋友，帮助他实现了职业抱负。我主动联系了一位导师，理清了一直萦绕在我脑海中的问题。我去上尊巴舞课，体验到了快乐。
我充满爱，好奇，迷人，快乐，那就是我。
扪心自问：我每天都体现了什么价值观/品质，为什么我喜欢自己？
如果我们都更爱自己，专注于看到自己的优点，这个世界会有多美好。
Amrita Angappa
I had stage fear right from my childhood. I get sweaty, my head goes blank and my hands start shivering when I get on the stage.
I was asked to give a seminar on Thermodynamics during Physics hour. It was a tough situation since I was not very much of a techie.
I did not understand most of the concept.When it was time for the seminar, I reluctantly got up from my place.
People could see my hands shivering while I was holding the notebook. I bluffed something and came back with tears in my eyes.
My friends were supportive but straight-forwardly told that it was not a good seminar session. It hurt my self-esteem a bit. I did not want to give up.
We had Tamil class during the next hour. I voluntarily stood up to enact a drama by reading aloud a lesson on a tamil drama.
Still the same stage fear with hand shivering and giddiness... But I just wanted to prove myself to me! I don't want the previous incident to accelerate my stage fear and nervousness, which has taken up most of my childhood.
我从小就有舞台恐惧症。当我走上舞台时，浑身出汗，头脑空白，双手也开始颤抖。
我被要求在物理课上做一个关于热力学的研讨会。这是一个艰难的局面，因为我不是一个技术人员。
这个概念的大部分内容我都不理解。到了研讨会的时间，我不情愿地从座位上起身。
人们可以看到我拿着笔记本时双手颤抖。我虚张声势，回来时眼里含着泪水。
我的朋友们表示支持，但直截了当地告诉我，这不是一个好的研讨会。这有点伤了我的自尊心，不过我不想放弃。
在接下来的一个小时里，我们上了泰米尔语课。我自愿站起来，通过大声朗读一个泰米尔戏剧课程来表演一个戏剧。
仍然是同样的阶段，手颤抖，头晕，但我只是想证明给自己看!我不希望之前的事件让我在舞台上恐惧和紧张，这占据了我大部分的童年。
I had stage fear right from my childhood. I get sweaty, my head goes blank and my hands start shivering when I get on the stage.
I was asked to give a seminar on Thermodynamics during Physics hour. It was a tough situation since I was not very much of a techie.
I did not understand most of the concept.When it was time for the seminar, I reluctantly got up from my place.
People could see my hands shivering while I was holding the notebook. I bluffed something and came back with tears in my eyes.
My friends were supportive but straight-forwardly told that it was not a good seminar session. It hurt my self-esteem a bit. I did not want to give up.
We had Tamil class during the next hour. I voluntarily stood up to enact a drama by reading aloud a lesson on a tamil drama.
Still the same stage fear with hand shivering and giddiness... But I just wanted to prove myself to me! I don't want the previous incident to accelerate my stage fear and nervousness, which has taken up most of my childhood.
我从小就有舞台恐惧症。当我走上舞台时，浑身出汗，头脑空白，双手也开始颤抖。
我被要求在物理课上做一个关于热力学的研讨会。这是一个艰难的局面，因为我不是一个技术人员。
这个概念的大部分内容我都不理解。到了研讨会的时间，我不情愿地从座位上起身。
人们可以看到我拿着笔记本时双手颤抖。我虚张声势，回来时眼里含着泪水。
我的朋友们表示支持，但直截了当地告诉我，这不是一个好的研讨会。这有点伤了我的自尊心，不过我不想放弃。
在接下来的一个小时里，我们上了泰米尔语课。我自愿站起来，通过大声朗读一个泰米尔戏剧课程来表演一个戏剧。
仍然是同样的阶段，手颤抖，头晕，但我只是想证明给自己看!我不希望之前的事件让我在舞台上恐惧和紧张，这占据了我大部分的童年。
I closed my eyes for a bit, took deep breaths and kept walking to the stage.
I modulated my voice according to different characters in the drama and did the role-play single-handedly. I enjoyed it a lot.
It was a huge hit. I got a standing ovation from my classmates.
That was the moment I realized that I wanted to stay in the creative area. I also realized that science was not my cup of tea.
More than everything, that was the moment I fell in love with myself. I never give up. I stand up for myself, keep learning and trying what I like.
我闭上眼睛，深呼吸，继续走向舞台。
我根据剧中不同的角色调整了自己的声音，并独自完成了角色扮演，对此我很高兴。
这是一个巨大的成功。同学们起立为我鼓掌。
那一刻我意识到我想留在创意领域。我也意识到科学不是我所喜欢的。
最重要的是，那一刻我爱上了自己。我从未放弃，我坚持自己的立场，不断学习和尝试我喜欢的东西。
I modulated my voice according to different characters in the drama and did the role-play single-handedly. I enjoyed it a lot.
It was a huge hit. I got a standing ovation from my classmates.
That was the moment I realized that I wanted to stay in the creative area. I also realized that science was not my cup of tea.
More than everything, that was the moment I fell in love with myself. I never give up. I stand up for myself, keep learning and trying what I like.
我闭上眼睛，深呼吸，继续走向舞台。
我根据剧中不同的角色调整了自己的声音，并独自完成了角色扮演，对此我很高兴。
这是一个巨大的成功。同学们起立为我鼓掌。
那一刻我意识到我想留在创意领域。我也意识到科学不是我所喜欢的。
最重要的是，那一刻我爱上了自己。我从未放弃，我坚持自己的立场，不断学习和尝试我喜欢的东西。
Anupam Kushwaha, Multilingual: English, Hindi, Java, C++, jaxcript.
It's not so simple: We often believe that we do love ourselves, and yet our actions and reactions, and our lives, suggest otherwise. Yet loving yourself is essential to your personal growth, to the fulfillment of your dreams, and to developing healthy, happy relationships with others. Instead of trying to just talk yourself into believing you have self-love, foster compassion for yourself with these three practical steps:
Care as much about yourself as you do for others.It sounds simple, but many of us simply don’t do this because we think we are being selfish or that our own needs are not important. It is not selfish to care about yourself. Compassion for yourself means showing concern for your own feelings as well as for others. Treat yourself the way you would treat your children or your best friend—with gentleness, concern and caring.
事情并不是那么简单：我们常常相信我们确实爱自己，但我们的行为、反应和生活却表明了相反的看法。然而，爱自己对你的个人成长、实现梦想、与他人建立健康、快乐的关系都是至关重要的。与其试图说服自己相信自己有自爱，不如通过以下三个实际步骤培养对自己的同情心：
像关心别人一样关心自己。这听起来很简单，但我们中的许多人根本不这么做，因为我们认为自己很自私，或者我们自己的需求并不重要。关心自己并不自私。有同情心意味着关心自己和他人的感受。以温柔、关心和关怀的态度对待自己，就像对待孩子或最好的朋友一样。
It's not so simple: We often believe that we do love ourselves, and yet our actions and reactions, and our lives, suggest otherwise. Yet loving yourself is essential to your personal growth, to the fulfillment of your dreams, and to developing healthy, happy relationships with others. Instead of trying to just talk yourself into believing you have self-love, foster compassion for yourself with these three practical steps:
Care as much about yourself as you do for others.It sounds simple, but many of us simply don’t do this because we think we are being selfish or that our own needs are not important. It is not selfish to care about yourself. Compassion for yourself means showing concern for your own feelings as well as for others. Treat yourself the way you would treat your children or your best friend—with gentleness, concern and caring.
事情并不是那么简单：我们常常相信我们确实爱自己，但我们的行为、反应和生活却表明了相反的看法。然而，爱自己对你的个人成长、实现梦想、与他人建立健康、快乐的关系都是至关重要的。与其试图说服自己相信自己有自爱，不如通过以下三个实际步骤培养对自己的同情心：
像关心别人一样关心自己。这听起来很简单，但我们中的许多人根本不这么做，因为我们认为自己很自私，或者我们自己的需求并不重要。关心自己并不自私。有同情心意味着关心自己和他人的感受。以温柔、关心和关怀的态度对待自己，就像对待孩子或最好的朋友一样。
Maintain your boundaries.Write a list of the things that you need emotionally, things that are important to you and that upset you or hurt your feelings when they are ignored or violated. They could include being listened to; getting sympathy when you’re hurt; being celebrated when you succeed; receiving love and tenderness without asking for it; being cared for; and knowing you can rely on someone. Whatever is important to you is important. And when someone ignores what’s important to you or crosses your boundary, you’ll know—because it hurts. Don’t ignore that. Your feelings are there to tell you what’s right and what’s wrong.
Do what you need to do to be you.First, figure out what makes you feel good. It doesn’t matter what it is, but become aware of how you feel when you do things. Do you feel exhausted at work, but exhilarated when you’re in the garden? Do you feel joyful reading to your children? Fulfilled when you are writing poetry or volunteering? Find out what makes you feel good and do it, as often as you can. Feeling good is all the permission you need to do what you love to do. And the more you do those things, the happier you will be. If it means you have to give up something else, so be it. Perhaps you need to spend more time on your own or schedule an hour every weekend to visit an art gallery to recharge. Maybe you need to save up some money to buy paints and brushes, or ask your family to look after themselves for a few hours while you take a stress-relieving walk. Perhaps you need to join a club to meet like-minded people who inspire you. Do what you need to do to be you and don’t let anyone blame you, criticize you or talk you out of it because they think you are being selfish, silly, or delusional. Ignore them.
All of these things will help you to develop a sense of accomplishment, a sense of pride in what you are doing and who you are, and a realization that you are a worthy, talented, capable, lovable person who deserves to be loved. And the most important person to believe that is you.
保持你的边界。写一张清单，列出你在情感上需要的事情，那些对你来说很重要的事情，当它们被忽视或侵犯时让你难过或伤害你的感情的东西。它们可以包括被倾听；当你受伤时获得同情；当你成功时被庆祝不求回报地得到爱和温柔;照顾;知道你可以依靠别人。任何对你重要的事都是重要的。当有人忽略了对你来说重要的事情，或者越过了你的边界，你就会知道—因为这令你很痛苦。不要忽视这一点。你的感觉会告诉你什么是对的，什么是错的。
做你想做的事。首先，找出什么让你感觉良好。不管是什么，但要意识到自己做事时的感受。你是否在工作中感到疲惫，但在花园里却感到兴奋？给孩子们读书你觉得快乐吗？当你写诗或做志愿者时，你是否感到满足？找出让你感觉良好的事情，尽可能多地去做。感觉良好是你做你喜欢做的事情所需要的一切许可。你做得越多，你就会越快乐。如果这意味着你必须放弃别的东西，那就顺其自然吧。也许你需要花更多的时间独处，或者每个周末安排一个小时去参观艺术画廊以充电。也许你需要攒钱买油漆和刷子，或者在你散步缓解压力的时候，让你的家人照顾他们自己几个小时。也许你需要加入一个俱乐部来结识志同道合的人—他们会激励你。做自己需要做的事，不要因为别人认为你自私、愚蠢或妄想而责怪你、批评你或劝你放弃，别理他们就好。
所有这些都将帮助你培养成就感，对你正在做的事情和你是谁感到自豪，并认识到你是一个值得爱的、有才华的、有能力的、讨人喜欢的人，最重要的是相信你自己。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
Do what you need to do to be you.First, figure out what makes you feel good. It doesn’t matter what it is, but become aware of how you feel when you do things. Do you feel exhausted at work, but exhilarated when you’re in the garden? Do you feel joyful reading to your children? Fulfilled when you are writing poetry or volunteering? Find out what makes you feel good and do it, as often as you can. Feeling good is all the permission you need to do what you love to do. And the more you do those things, the happier you will be. If it means you have to give up something else, so be it. Perhaps you need to spend more time on your own or schedule an hour every weekend to visit an art gallery to recharge. Maybe you need to save up some money to buy paints and brushes, or ask your family to look after themselves for a few hours while you take a stress-relieving walk. Perhaps you need to join a club to meet like-minded people who inspire you. Do what you need to do to be you and don’t let anyone blame you, criticize you or talk you out of it because they think you are being selfish, silly, or delusional. Ignore them.
All of these things will help you to develop a sense of accomplishment, a sense of pride in what you are doing and who you are, and a realization that you are a worthy, talented, capable, lovable person who deserves to be loved. And the most important person to believe that is you.
保持你的边界。写一张清单，列出你在情感上需要的事情，那些对你来说很重要的事情，当它们被忽视或侵犯时让你难过或伤害你的感情的东西。它们可以包括被倾听；当你受伤时获得同情；当你成功时被庆祝不求回报地得到爱和温柔;照顾;知道你可以依靠别人。任何对你重要的事都是重要的。当有人忽略了对你来说重要的事情，或者越过了你的边界，你就会知道—因为这令你很痛苦。不要忽视这一点。你的感觉会告诉你什么是对的，什么是错的。
做你想做的事。首先，找出什么让你感觉良好。不管是什么，但要意识到自己做事时的感受。你是否在工作中感到疲惫，但在花园里却感到兴奋？给孩子们读书你觉得快乐吗？当你写诗或做志愿者时，你是否感到满足？找出让你感觉良好的事情，尽可能多地去做。感觉良好是你做你喜欢做的事情所需要的一切许可。你做得越多，你就会越快乐。如果这意味着你必须放弃别的东西，那就顺其自然吧。也许你需要花更多的时间独处，或者每个周末安排一个小时去参观艺术画廊以充电。也许你需要攒钱买油漆和刷子，或者在你散步缓解压力的时候，让你的家人照顾他们自己几个小时。也许你需要加入一个俱乐部来结识志同道合的人—他们会激励你。做自己需要做的事，不要因为别人认为你自私、愚蠢或妄想而责怪你、批评你或劝你放弃，别理他们就好。
所有这些都将帮助你培养成就感，对你正在做的事情和你是谁感到自豪，并认识到你是一个值得爱的、有才华的、有能力的、讨人喜欢的人，最重要的是相信你自己。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
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