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Neman Ashraf, Police constable

尼曼·阿什拉夫，警官

PTM - Parent teacher meetings.
I never thought much of it. Usually if my daughter told me to come to her school for that, I’d say yes but wouldn’t go. Or pass this to my wife.
So… once Fatima came to me and showed her school diary where it was written in bold that Principal would like to have a word with me.
I could see it is because I missed today’s PTM.
I went to the principal’s office the next day and introduced myself. She offered me a seat. Her personality was screaming that she was an iron lady.
It appears that you have missed the last two meetings. Why is that?
Ma’am, I apologize for that. My job routine is hectic and usually it can be hard for me to make time. I am a cop.

PTM : 家长会
我从没想过这件事。通常，如果我女儿让我去她的学校，我会答应，但不会去，而是把这个任务传给我妻子。
所以…有一次，法蒂玛（Fatima）来找我，给我看了她的学校日记，上面用粗体写着，校长想和我谈谈。
我能看出来是因为我错过了今天的家长会。
第二天我去校长办公室做了自我介绍。她给了我一个座位。她的性格表明她是个铁娘子。
最近两次会议似乎你都错过了，为什么？
女士，我为此道歉。我的工作很繁忙，通常我很难抽出时间，我是警察。

I was hoping this introduction and my soothing posture will melt her heart like a hot knife through butter.
But it didn’t, of course.
So… that’s your excuse? You made time today because I sent out a warning. But yesterday you couldn’t. Are you telling me you cannot attend a 10 minute session with your child’s teacher once a month?
You’re right. I will be more attentive from here on.
Sure, you should. It’s your responsibility as a parent to learn about your daughter’s academic activities and progress from her teacher. Such negligence won’t go unnoticed here, Mister.
Couldn’t agree more. And I thank you for this much needed briefing.
I left her office and noticed a few other “culprits” waiting for their turn to go inside. Good luck, folks!
I know she is right. I cannot be that negligent. From then onwards I am the first one to arrive on such calls and it’s fun too. Brings back the memories of my own days at school. Fatima couldn’t be happier.

我希望这个介绍和我使人平静的态度能非常容易融化她的心。
当然，事实并非如此。
这就是你的借口?你今天抽时间是因为我发出了警告。你是说你每月不能和孩子的老师参加10分钟的会议吗?
你说得对。从现在起我会更加注意的。
你当然应该注意。作为家长，你有责任向她的老师了解你女儿的学业活动和进展。这种疏忽在这里不会被忽视的，先生。
完全同意。我感谢你所作的这一非常必要的通报。
我离开了她的办公室，注意到其他几个“罪犯”正等着轮到进去，祝大家好运！
我知道她是对的，我不能那么疏忽。从那时起，我是第一个接到这样的电话的人，这也很有趣。让我回想起自己在学校的日子。法蒂玛再高兴不过了。

Abinash Mishra, IAS | IIT Kharagpur
Looks do matter. For boys, for girls, for all. I will be little blunt here. Those who says see the heart is stupid because to see someone’s heart it takes years and people in the first go usually go for looks. Groom yourself well. work on your physique, dress up well. It matters a lot.
Life is like riding a bicycle uphill. Either you go up or if you rest you go down. So work on going upward always, else misery will wait for you. Work on your health, else that much time you will suffer from health issues now or later. Evolve yourself.
In any relationship or friendship reciprocate only to what they deserve. Do not go over the top each time. From your side keep surprising others, but uate each time whether the other person responds it well or not.
Do not be too available for anyone except for your parents or siblings or 2–3 genuine friends. Usually when you are too available, people start duing you. Human psychology is weird someway.

对男孩、女孩和所有人来说外表的确重要。我就直说了：那些说看到别人的心里去是愚蠢的，因为看到别人的心需要很多年的时间，而第一次接触的人通常都会看外表。好好打扮自己，锻炼你的体格，好好打扮，这很重要。
生活就像骑自行车上坡。要么你骑上去，如果你休息，你就会下去。所以，要一直向上努力，否则痛苦就会等着你。注意你的健康，否则你现在或以后都会有很多健康问题，让自己不断成长。
在任何关系或友谊中，只回报他们应得的。不要每次都过了头。从你的角度来看，不断给别人惊喜，但每次都要评估对方的反应是否良好。
除了你的父母或兄弟姐妹或2-3个真正的朋友之外，不要对任何人太亲近。通常当你太有空的时候，人们就会开始贬低你。人类心理学在某种程度上是奇怪的。

If someone does not like your company let them go. The world is big. You may meet some amazing persons next. It’s better to be alone than to be in pain by getting negative energies from someone.
The world is bit manipulative. So be genuine from heart. But verify others before trusting each time.
Have some people around you before whom you can be your real self. Even 2–3 genuine friends are enough.
Constantly evolve yourself. Get a hobby. Work on it. Learn some life skills like driving, cooking . You learn different perspectives of life.
In life make a fine balance of Economy and Arts. Economy means the number of hours you are giving to your job and profession. Arts means your artistic pursuit like painting, music and all. Try on your own.
and Finally Meditate. If you want go deeper in life and have a blissful life Meditation can simply transform you.

如果有人不喜欢你的公司，让他们离开。世界很大。接下来你可能会遇到一些了不起的人。独处总比从别人那里获得负面能量而痛苦要好。
这个世界有点操纵欲。所以要发自内心的真诚。但每次信任别人之前都要先核实。
在你身边有一些人，在他们面前你可以做真正的自己。即使是2-3个真正的朋友也足够了。
不断成长，培养爱好。工作，学习一些生活技能，比如开车、做饭。你会学到不同的人生观。
在生活中，要在经济和艺术之间取得良好的平衡。经济意味着你在工作和职业上投入的时间。艺术意味着你的艺术追求，比如绘画、音乐等等，自己试试吧。
最后冥想。如果你想在生活中走得更远，拥有幸福的生活，冥想可以简单地改变你。

Madiha Fatma, studied at Jamia Senior Secondary School

Madiha Fatma，就读于Jamia高中

Never loose hope.
Always pick the positive things from negative incidents .
Emotions are always temprory .
Love the way you are. Atleast never change for others .
Never feel sad in worst situation , because actually they are giving you opportunity to change your self , to put out your best .
Always respect others feelings.
Always respect success , work more maintain it.
Love your nature.
Never stop learning .
Never disgust any teenager about love affairs.
Handle every situation with smile.
Always try to motivate everyone .

永远不要失去希望。
总是从负面事件中挑选积极的东西。
情绪总是短暂的。
爱你现在的样子，至少永远不要为别人改变。
永远不要在最糟糕的情况下感到悲伤，因为事实上他们给了你改变自我的机会，让你尽最大努力。
永远尊重他人的感受。
永远尊重成功，工作更要维护。
热爱你的天性。
永远不要停止学习。
不要让任何青少年对爱情感到厌恶。
微笑应对每一种情况。
总是努力激励他人。

Andrei Cimbru, Writer. Global Citizen. Business Hacker. RuleYourWay.com
Hold yourself to higher standards and live accordingly
On Friendship: I used to be very introverted and had a closed group of friends. They were very popular and I felt privileged to hang out with them. But I was also picked on the most. When meeting strangers, my "friends" would make lame comments about me so that it would seem that they are very cool and that they are doing me a favor for hanging out with me. Every time I started working on myself, on my goals, on expressing my dreams and the hard work I put in everyday they would feel threatened and made sure to do something about it to put me down again. My life changed immensely once I ditched them and basically started again from zero. Be around people that care about you and where you can provide two way growth
On Love: Ignoring the little things that bother you will add up in the end. When the bubble bursts you realize you hate each other so much and you don't even realize why anymore. But you are also so invested that it breaks you in half not having that person in your life ever again. Sex is great. Communication are better. Trust is key. If that is not present then you are just making each other miserable. Move on.

给自己设定更高的标准，生活标准相应提高。
关于友谊：我过去非常内向，有一群不愿接受新思想的朋友。他们很受欢迎，我很荣幸能和他们一起玩。但我也是最容易被欺负的。当我遇到陌生人的时候，我的“朋友”会对我发出幼稚的评论，这样看起来他们很酷，他们在帮我的忙，因为他们和我一起玩。每次我开始为自己、为我的目标、为表达我的梦想和我每天投入的辛勤工作而努力时，他们都会感到威胁，并确保为此做点什么，让我再次失望。一旦我抛弃了它们，基本上从零开始，我的生活发生了巨大的变化。与关心你的人在一起，这样你们可以双向成长。
关于爱：忽略那些让你烦恼的小事，最终它们会被累加起来。当感情破裂时，你会意识到你如此憎恨对方—你甚至不知道为什么。但你也投入了太多，在你的生命中再也没有那个人了时你会心碎。性爱很棒，沟通更好。信任是关键，如果这不存在，那么你们只是在让彼此痛苦。继续前进。

On Confidence: I used to be very shy. I can't tell you how many opportunities I have missed . I always thought if I just show up it will be enough. Opportunity will find me. That is not true. Stop waiting for stuff to happen and make it happen. Ask that girl out, ask for that raise, apply for that job, create that project you always wanted, go on that trip you always wanted, speak when you believe you have something to say, make that phone call. You will get slammed back down more than you could handle sometimes, but it will also help you reach places you never thought possible.
On Being Alone: I have so many regrets about people that are not present anymore in my life that I can't call. I suck at following up with people. I lived in 5 countries but always ended up alone because I was too busy to see what the people I left behind are doing once in a while. Grab your phone, look up that person you haven't talked in a while, send a Whats App message "Hey, I've been thinking about you lately. How is your life?". Your life will enhance immensely.

关于自信：我过去很害羞。我无法告诉你我错过了多少机会。我一直认为只要我出现就足够了，机会会来找我的，这不是真的。不要等待事情发生，要让它发生。约那个女孩出去，要求加薪，申请那份工作，创建你一直想要的项目，去进行你一直想要的旅行，在你认为有话要说的时候说话，打电话。有时你会被重重打击，超出你的承受能力，但它也会帮助你到达你从未想过可能的地方。
关于独处：对于那些不再出现在我生命中的人，会觉得很遗憾，以至于我无法打电话给他们。我不擅长跟别人保持联系。我曾在5个国家生活过，但最后总是一个人，因为我太忙了，无法看到我身后的人在做什么。拿起你的手机，查一下那个你很久没联系的人，发个信息:“嘿，我最近一直在想你。你的生活怎么样?”你的生活将大大改善。

On Life (or Death): My parents were at out of town one day. I was alone at home. My aunt and uncle were visiting and in the evening she calls me that my uncle is puking blood. He had liver cancer. I wanted to call the ambulance but it was kinda in the air that this was it. Earlier that week the doctor told him he had 3 months left. My uncle was still conscious so he asks me this incredible task: "Drive me to my hometown back to the house were I grew up, I want to die there". I was 19. I complied. I can't tell you how many thoughts were rushing through my mind while driving on the highway with my uncle on the back seat with a bucket puking and growling. 40 miles later we get at his house and I help my aunt lay him down in bed. While she rushes to get some clean clothes my uncles calls me and whispers in my ear something. He told me his regrets and asked me to not do the same. I had to go back home to get the car to my parents who rushed back in town with the train. On the way back I stopped on the side of the road and cried for a good 15 minutes. Later that night he passed away.
On Health: On working out. Walk, run, lift, do something. Not for the rock hard abs and the beach body but for your piece of mind. It teaches you discipline, it releases endorfins, it enhances your brain activity. I'm trying to catch up now after skipping physical education classes most of my life, drinking and smoking heavily. You can also change. On eating. Make sure you put in the right fuel in your body. I'm not saying to go full paleo, but start small, one coke can less per day and more greens on your plate. My proportions are 35% protein, 40% healthy carbs, 25% healthy fats.

关于生（或死）：有一天我父母去外地。我独自一人在家。我的姑姑和舅舅来探望我，晚上她打电话给我说我叔叔在吐血。他得了肝癌。我本想叫救护车，但有点悬而未决。那周早些时候，医生告诉他，他还有三个月的时间。我的叔叔仍然有意识，所以他问我这个不可思议的任务:“开车送我回我的家乡，回到我长大的房子，我想死在那里。”。那时我19岁。我答应了。我无法告诉你当我开车在高速公路上，我的叔叔坐在后座上，抱着水桶呕吐和腹鸣时，我的脑海里闪过多少想法。。40英里后，我们到了他的家，我帮姑姑把他放在床上。当她冲去拿干净衣服的时候，我的叔叔叫住我，在我耳边低声说了些什么。他告诉我他很遗憾，让我别做同样的事。我得回家把车给乘火车赶回城里的父母。回来的路上，我把车停在路边，哭了足足15分钟。那天晚上，他去世了。
关于健康：关于锻炼，走，跑，抬，做点什么。不是为了坚硬的腹肌和沙滩身材，而是为了你的精神。它教会你自律，释放内啡肽，增强你的大脑活动。我这辈子大部分时间都没上体育课，又酗酒又抽烟，现在我正在努力赶上进度，你也可以改变。关于吃东西，确保你的身体摄入了正确的燃料。我并不是说要完全回到旧石器时代，而是从小做起，每天少喝一罐可乐，多吃蔬菜。我的比例是35%蛋白质，40%健康碳水化合物，25%健康脂肪。

On Being Liked: I used to be everyone's pet. Trying to be liked by as many people as possible. Girls, teachers, bosses, readers, colleagues, employees. I was a prisoner of everyone's opinion about me. The fact is some people will hate your work either way, some people will judge you either way, some people will expect for you to solve all their problems and hate if you can't. The moment you start giving in to everyone's opinion is the moment you stop being authentic. And people sense when you are fake. And then they like you even less. Don't be afraid to shake the apple tree a bit to see what fruits remain after.
On Parents: Your parents will give you advice that is outdated. Advice that is bad for you. They do it because they love you and want you to be safe. Don't fight them. Don't judge them. Nod your head and then do what your heart says. Call them and tell them how much you love them. One day you will be in their shoes doing the same thing. But they might not be around anymore.
On Being Vulnerable: I wish I did it more. Nobody likes that perfect, no problems, amazing Facebook-life. Everyone has their ups and downs. Everyone is trying to get by. Everyone has something to offer to the world.

关于被喜欢：曾经每个人都宠我，努力让尽可能多的人喜欢。女孩、老师、老板、读者、同事、员工。我被每个人对我的看法俘虏了。事实上，不管怎样，总有人都会讨厌你的工作，有人会以任何方式去评判你，有些人会希望你能解决他们所有的问题，如果你不能，他们就会讨厌你。当你开始屈服于每个人的意见时，就是你不再真实的时候。人们会感觉到你是假的。然后他们就更不喜欢你了。别怕摇一摇苹果树，看看还剩多少果实。
关于父母：你的父母会给你过时的建议和对你不利的建议。他们这样做是因为他们爱你，希望你安全。别跟他们争论，不要评判他们，点点头，然后照你的心去做，给他们打电话，告诉他们你有多爱他们。总有一天你会站在他们的立场上做同样的事情，但他们可能已经不在了。
关于脆弱：我希望我能做得更多。没有人会如令人惊叹的Facebook展示的那样完美、没有问题的生活。每个人都有起起伏伏，每个人都在努力过日子，每个人都有东西可以奉献给世界。

Lakshika Goyal, Chasing my goals

拉克希卡·戈亚尔，追逐我的目标
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No one is even that busy. It’s just a matter of priorities.
If you care more than they deserve, you will hurt more than you deserve.
Looks do matter.
Directly or indirectly, a single sheet of paper will decide your future.
The truth is- Everyone is going to hurt you in the end, you gotta decide whose hurt is worth suffering.
If they act like they don’t care at all, believe them.
Don’t expect that this world would be nice to you just because you were nice to the world.
A lion eats the deer, no matter the deer eats the lion or not.

没有人会那么忙。这只是轻重缓急的问题
如果你过于关心他们，那么你所受的伤害就会超过你应得的。
外表的确重要。
一张纸将直接或间接决定你的未来。
事实是：每个人最终都会伤害你，你必须决定谁的伤害值得忍受。
如果他们表现得一点也不在乎，相信他们。
不要仅仅因为你对这个世界很好，就指望这个世界对你很好。
狮子吃鹿—不管鹿吃不吃狮子。

If you hurt me once, shame on you. If you hurt me twice, shame on me.
Pain changes people. Some become rude, some become silent.
No one in this world is really concerned about you. So do what you want to do and live your life in your own ways.
No love can beat the love of parents.
Only few people care, rest are just curious.
Never blame anyone in your life-
Good people will give you happiness
Bad people will give you experience
Worst people will give you lessons
Best people will give you memories.

如果你伤害过我一次，我为你感到羞耻。如果你伤害我两次，我会为自己感到羞耻。
痛苦改变人。有些人变得粗鲁，有些人变得沉默。
这个世界上没有人真正关心你。所以，做你想做的事，用你自己的方式生活。
没有爱能战胜父母的爱。
只有很少人会关心，其他人只是好奇。
不要责怪你生命中的任何人。
好人会给你幸福。
坏人会给你经验。
最坏的人会给你教训。
最好的人会给你回忆。

Vichitra Zawar, Idea is to die young, as late as possible.
I wanted to pursue Engineering at the highest level.
Dad, mumma and I left for Kota.
I got an admission into one of the best coaching institutes in India for IIT JEE. Dad booked a room for me. I lived as a paying guest.
A new place, new people, new life. Everything happened for the first time. I met new people at my place. 12 of us lived as PG in the house. We had a landlord residing on the ground floor. Rest of us lived on 1st and 2nd floor. We all became good friends. one of them became my best friend. He called me brother. Everything was great. I started trusting people around. We played cricket together. We solved questions together. We went for lunch together. We went for dinner together. A good time!

我想攻读最高水平的工程学。
爸爸，妈妈和我去了科塔。
我获准进入印度理工学院入学考试的印度最好的辅导学院。爸爸给我订了一个房间。我过着付费客人的生活。
一个新的地方，新的人，新的生活。一切都是第一次。我遇到了新朋友。我们12个人住在这所房子里。我们有一个房东住在一楼。我们其余的人住在一楼和二楼。我们都成了好朋友。其中一个成了我最好的朋友，他叫我哥哥，一切都很好。我开始信任周围的人。我们一起打板球。我们一起解决问题。我们一起去吃午饭。我们一起去吃晚饭—这是一段美好时光！

One fine day, one of my friend at my place asked me to cancel a ticket and as the railway station was not too far from my classes, I agreed. I was not aware much about the procedure. He filled the form and gave me the ticket. After my class I went to railway station.
I was in the Queue. There were 4 people before me. Soon my turn arrived. I gave the ticket and form through the small window. The Person on the counter asked me to come inside through the back gate. I wondered, why did he call me? without giving a second thought I decided to go. I went inside. He asked me to have a sit. Then he called somebody and said, zara aana kisise milwana hai. (Come here, I want you to meet someone.). Soon, a RPF officer arrived. He took him aside and showed him a letter, the ticket and form. RPF came straight to me and slapped. I was stunned. What the hell just happened. I was raged and frightened, I had no idea what was going on. Somehow, I gathered some courage and asked, “What happened sir?” . The officer replied, “Tum jaise bacchon ki wajahse desh barbaad hota hai. Tumlog humara future ho. Chor saale!” (Children like you are responsible for the waste of our country. You people are our future. Robber! ). I was horrified. I asked him again, Kya hua Sir?(What happened sir?). He slapped me again, called me a robber and showed me the letter. He added that they were given the letter the same morning.

一个晴朗的日子，我家的一个朋友让我取消一张票，因为火车站离我上课的地方不远，我同意了。我对这个过程不太了解。他填好表格，把票给了我。下课后我去了火车站。
我在排队，在我之前有四个人，很快轮到我了。我通过小窗户把票和表格给了他。柜台上的那个人让我从后门进去。我想，他为什么给我打电话?我毫不犹豫地决定去，于是我进去了，他让我坐下。然后他打电话给某人说，过来，我想让你见见某人。很快，一名RPF官员赶到。他把他拉到一边，给他看了一封信、票和表格。RPF径直向我走来，扇了我一巴掌，我惊呆了，刚刚发生了什么。我既愤怒又害怕，不知道发生了什么事。不知怎的，我鼓起勇气问道：“先生，发生了什么事？”。警官回答说：“像你们这样的孩子要为我们国家的浪费负责，你们是我们的未来，强盗！“。我吓坏了。我又问他：发生了什么事，先生？。他又打了我一巴掌，叫我强盗，还把信给我看。他补充说，他们是当天上午收到这封信的。

I read the letter , it was written by the one who gave me that ticket to cancel, the subject was Issue for a duplicate ticket. As I read further, the letter suggested that the ticket has been lost.
I was broken. I was shattered. I was horrified. I was not in my senses when I read this. I realized he has betrayed me.
I tried explaining the officer the whole situation, he didn’t wanted to listen. He asked me for my father’s number and insulted him on phone. He asked him to take me back. I felt worse. I wanted to be my dad’s pride and what was happening was unbearable. My dad pleaded him to leave me. Somehow they left me after taking it in written, I am a Robber, I won’t repeat it again.
I switched off my phone and did not go back to my place till evening. Finally, I gathered some courage to go back. I wanted to tell everyone what happened. As I reached at my place, everyone had already gathered and were trying to convince the landlord to make me leave. I stood there and heard all of it. I realized why that guy did this. In past some months, there were some robberies at my place from the rooms, money was robbed, books were robbed, a cycle was robbed. After this incident, everyone blamed me for all the robberies. I did not utter a word, went straight into my room and cried like hell.

我读了这封信，信是由给我退票的人写的，主题补发一张票。我继续读下去，信上说那张票已经丢了。
我崩溃了，我心烦意乱。我吓坏了，我读这封信的时候神志不清，我意识到他背叛了我
我试图向警官解释整个情况，他不想听。他向我要我父亲的电话号码，并在电话里侮辱了他。他让父亲带我回去，我感觉更糟。我想成为我父亲的骄傲，发生的事情让我无法忍受。我父亲恳求他带我离开。不知怎的，他们在我把它写下来后就离开了我：我是个强盗，再也不干这事了。
我关掉手机，直到晚上才回到家。最后，我鼓起勇气回去了。我想告诉大家发生了什么。当我到达我的住处时，所有人都聚集在一起，试图说服房东让我离开。我站在那里，听到了这一切。我知道那家伙为什么这么做了。在过去的几个月里，我住的地方发生了几起抢劫案，钱被抢了，书被抢了，一辆自行车被抢了。这件事发生后，所有人都把所有的抢劫罪过都归咎于我。我一句话也没说，径直走进房间大哭起来。

Next morning, I went to every room and asked them to at least listen to me, at least once. Everybody slammed doors. I went to landlord and said him everything, he didn’t believe.
I was left with no choice but to leave that place with a blame for the crime which I did not perform, even a bit.
Trust people Cautiously, this was the lesson I learned.
In your worst time, not even your best mates will stand with you, ones who stands with you are your parents.
Please Trust people cautiously.
I was given only the ticket and form.
He had already submitted the letter in the morning. I arrived after my classes in the afternoon.
The letter stated that his ticket is lost and he needs a duplicate ticket. So, the RPF thought I've stolen the ticket.
There were many robberies at our place. Since landlord was getting a little suspicious, he did this all so that everybody can blame me for the robberies. He played it so safe that everybody thought he is the victim and I'm the culprit, only I knew the real culprit.
Thanks for the Support and sympathy. I've moved on.
The motive of this post is about the lesson to be learned.

第二天早上，我去了每个房间，让他们至少听我说一次。大家都关门了。我去找房东，把一切都告诉了他，他不相信。
我别无选择，只能离开那个地方，为我没有实施的罪行承担责任，哪怕是一点点。
谨慎地相信别人，这是我学到的教训。
在你最糟糕的时候，即使是你最好的伴侣也不会和你站在一起，和你站在一起的人是你的父母。
请谨慎地相信别人。
我只拿到了票和表格。
他已经在早上提交了那封信，我下午下课后到达的。
信上说他的票丢了，他需要补票。RPF就以为我偷了票。
我住的地方发生了很多抢劫案。因为房东有点怀疑，所以他这么做是为了让所有人都能把抢劫罪归咎于我。他行事如此谨慎，以至于每个人都认为他是受害者，而我是罪魁祸首，只有我知道真正的罪魁祸首是谁。
这篇文章的动机是关于要吸取的教训。