你有真正的朋友吗
正文翻译
Do you have any real friends?
你有真正的朋友吗?
Do you have any real friends?
你有真正的朋友吗?
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Priya
Good friends are those whom you can count on in your hard times. Not the one with whom we talk, hang out and make fun. I don't consider anyone close because i know when i will be stuck into something, My dad would help me to come out of that any situation not any other person.
I have many friends but they are just with me as per their own convenience or when they need someone to make them laugh. Everyone from office, college groups, building groups thinks that i am happy go, lucky person. She enjoys her company, keeps smiling all the time and many more things they talk about me. Nobody can find out that i am sad, even my parents too. I don't have anyone to share my real feelings. I am bored with fake smiles, fake talks and fake people. I started writing a diary, at least that would help me to keep my secrets. I am not upset that i don't have anyone in my life But sometimes it feels bad that you can't share with anyone. but i do believe when the time is right, that person will be with me.
好朋友是你在困难时期可以依靠的人, 而不是和我们聊天，闲逛，开玩笑的那个人。我不认为任何人都是我的密友，因为我知道当我陷入困境时，我爸爸会帮我走出困境，而不是其他任何人。
我有很多朋友，但他们只是为了自己的方便，或者有时他们需要有人逗他们笑，才和我在一起。办公室、学院组、建筑组的人都认为我是快乐且幸运的人。她喜欢她的同伴（我），一直保持微笑，他们还谈论有关于我的很多事情。没有人能发现我很伤心，甚至我的父母。没有人能分享我的真实感受。我厌倦了虚假的微笑，虚假的谈话和虚假的人。我开始写日记，至少这样能帮我保守秘密。我并不为我的生活中没有任何人而难过，但有时难过：你不能与任何人去分享。但我相信，当时机成熟时，那个人会和我在一起的。
Good friends are those whom you can count on in your hard times. Not the one with whom we talk, hang out and make fun. I don't consider anyone close because i know when i will be stuck into something, My dad would help me to come out of that any situation not any other person.
I have many friends but they are just with me as per their own convenience or when they need someone to make them laugh. Everyone from office, college groups, building groups thinks that i am happy go, lucky person. She enjoys her company, keeps smiling all the time and many more things they talk about me. Nobody can find out that i am sad, even my parents too. I don't have anyone to share my real feelings. I am bored with fake smiles, fake talks and fake people. I started writing a diary, at least that would help me to keep my secrets. I am not upset that i don't have anyone in my life But sometimes it feels bad that you can't share with anyone. but i do believe when the time is right, that person will be with me.
好朋友是你在困难时期可以依靠的人, 而不是和我们聊天，闲逛，开玩笑的那个人。我不认为任何人都是我的密友，因为我知道当我陷入困境时，我爸爸会帮我走出困境，而不是其他任何人。
我有很多朋友，但他们只是为了自己的方便，或者有时他们需要有人逗他们笑，才和我在一起。办公室、学院组、建筑组的人都认为我是快乐且幸运的人。她喜欢她的同伴（我），一直保持微笑，他们还谈论有关于我的很多事情。没有人能发现我很伤心，甚至我的父母。没有人能分享我的真实感受。我厌倦了虚假的微笑，虚假的谈话和虚假的人。我开始写日记，至少这样能帮我保守秘密。我并不为我的生活中没有任何人而难过，但有时难过：你不能与任何人去分享。但我相信，当时机成熟时，那个人会和我在一起的。
Person
Is it okay not to have any real friends you can count on?
Yes actually it is.Unfortunately I got no friends that I can rely and count on but the important thing is that you have to accept it and move on I know it is sad and depressing but I got convinced that everyone is bad and you have to be a mate or a normal friend with everyone.
没有真正可以依靠的朋友，可以吗?
是的，实际上是可以的。不幸的是，我没有可以依靠的朋友，但重要的是，你必须接受现实，继续生活。我知道这很悲伤和让人沮丧，但我相信每个人都是糟糕的，你又必须和所有人都做朋友。
Is it okay not to have any real friends you can count on?
Yes actually it is.Unfortunately I got no friends that I can rely and count on but the important thing is that you have to accept it and move on I know it is sad and depressing but I got convinced that everyone is bad and you have to be a mate or a normal friend with everyone.
没有真正可以依靠的朋友，可以吗?
是的，实际上是可以的。不幸的是，我没有可以依靠的朋友，但重要的是，你必须接受现实，继续生活。我知道这很悲伤和让人沮丧，但我相信每个人都是糟糕的，你又必须和所有人都做朋友。
Cynthia López
I have 2 people I trust with everything. I've never had friends really. I'm an introvert and I'd say not the norm of society. I'm 35. May seen sad but I appreciate the 2 I have.
我只信任两个人。我从来没有真正的朋友。我是一个内向的人，我认为这不是社会的常态。我35岁，可能看起来很难过，但我很感激我拥有的两个信任的人。
I have 2 people I trust with everything. I've never had friends really. I'm an introvert and I'd say not the norm of society. I'm 35. May seen sad but I appreciate the 2 I have.
我只信任两个人。我从来没有真正的朋友。我是一个内向的人，我认为这不是社会的常态。我35岁，可能看起来很难过，但我很感激我拥有的两个信任的人。
Lisa Michelle Johnson
Wow. This is a loaded question. I know from personal experience.
I submit this: you will never ever know what is in people's hearts until you experience a cross roads with these people. Until you are in the fire with any and every single person you meet, you have ZERO idea what they will do for or against you. What does this mean? Do not trust anyone. If you need a Councelor, hire one. Be patient, with a lot of time everyone shows you their true colors.
Over the years I have learned this lesson the brutal way. I can tell you this, you will be shocked who stands with you during the storm. And you will be shocked who disregards you at the first tiny bit of trouble.
Love people. But wait to offer this love. Not everyone is worthy
哇！这是一个很难回答的问题，这是我的亲身经历。
我要说的是：除非你和这些人经历过十字路口，否则你永远不会知道人们心中的想法。在你和你遇到的任何人陷入困境之前，你根本不知道他们会做什么来支持或反对你。这是什么意思？不要相信任何人。如果你需要顾问，请雇就好。耐心点，时间长了，每个人都会向你展示他们的真面目。
多年来，我以残酷的方式吸取了这一教训。我可以告诉你，在暴风雨中与你站在一起的人会让你感到震惊。那些一遇到一点小麻烦就不理你的人也会让你吃惊。
爱别人，但不要急着付出这份爱，毕竟不是每个人都值得。
Wow. This is a loaded question. I know from personal experience.
I submit this: you will never ever know what is in people's hearts until you experience a cross roads with these people. Until you are in the fire with any and every single person you meet, you have ZERO idea what they will do for or against you. What does this mean? Do not trust anyone. If you need a Councelor, hire one. Be patient, with a lot of time everyone shows you their true colors.
Over the years I have learned this lesson the brutal way. I can tell you this, you will be shocked who stands with you during the storm. And you will be shocked who disregards you at the first tiny bit of trouble.
Love people. But wait to offer this love. Not everyone is worthy
哇！这是一个很难回答的问题，这是我的亲身经历。
我要说的是：除非你和这些人经历过十字路口，否则你永远不会知道人们心中的想法。在你和你遇到的任何人陷入困境之前，你根本不知道他们会做什么来支持或反对你。这是什么意思？不要相信任何人。如果你需要顾问，请雇就好。耐心点，时间长了，每个人都会向你展示他们的真面目。
多年来，我以残酷的方式吸取了这一教训。我可以告诉你，在暴风雨中与你站在一起的人会让你感到震惊。那些一遇到一点小麻烦就不理你的人也会让你吃惊。
爱别人，但不要急着付出这份爱，毕竟不是每个人都值得。
Suzanne McCarthy
All of my in-person friends have become online friends in the past few years. Mostly due to the pandemic but also because a couple of them emigrated. However, I'm fortunate to be house-sharing with my best friend, albeit he's also my ex-boyfriend.
在过去的几年里，我所有的亲朋好友都成为了网上朋友。主要是由于大流行，但也因为其中一些人移民了。然而，我很幸运能和我最好的朋友合租，尽管他也是我的前男友。
All of my in-person friends have become online friends in the past few years. Mostly due to the pandemic but also because a couple of them emigrated. However, I'm fortunate to be house-sharing with my best friend, albeit he's also my ex-boyfriend.
在过去的几年里，我所有的亲朋好友都成为了网上朋友。主要是由于大流行，但也因为其中一些人移民了。然而，我很幸运能和我最好的朋友合租，尽管他也是我的前男友。
Sue Croke
When my brother was getting married, my friend of 7 years attended our bride-to-be’s bachelorette party just because she wouldn’t be able to make it to the wedding, even though the event took place in a venue that was hard to find. She was there for a few hours just to be there with me that day.
When I got my surgery this past August, she was much more excited for my life to get much better and she constantly annoyed me by reaching from Whatsapp on the days I was hospitalized for the operation, constantly asking how I was doing.
And she thinks I’m worth the best guy ever that ever set foot on this planet when it comes to me and my romantic life. She never seems to find anyone equal to me, even though I’m definitely not as “one in a billion” as she thinks I am.
She was the only person I was comfortable enough with trying to see if I was ready to take off my hijab in the public with a friend with me. We went to the movies that day, had lunch together and then did some shopping. It was almost a whole year ago now and I was having mild palpitations throughout the experience even though she was really calm about it all. She never questioned me for even once and she always said what’s important is that I am happy.
当我哥哥结婚时，我认识了7年的朋友参加了我们准新娘的单身派对，只是因为她无法参加婚礼，甚至婚礼地点都很难找到。那天她在那里待了几个小时就是为了陪我。
去年8月，当我接受手术时，她因我的状态变得更好而感到更加兴奋，在我住院动手术的日子里，她经常用Whatsapp联系我，不停地问我怎么样，这让我很恼火。
就我和我的浪漫生活而言，她觉得我配得上这个星球上最好的男人。即使我绝对不是她想的那样“万里挑一”，她似乎从来没有找到一个和我一样的人。
如果我准备好在公共场合和朋友一起脱下头巾，她是唯一一个让我觉得可以想见的人。那天我们去看电影，一起吃午饭，然后去购物。这几乎是一年前的事了，在整个过程中，尽管她对这一切都很平静，但我还是有轻微的心悸。她从来没有质疑过我，她总是说，重要的是我很快乐就好。
When my brother was getting married, my friend of 7 years attended our bride-to-be’s bachelorette party just because she wouldn’t be able to make it to the wedding, even though the event took place in a venue that was hard to find. She was there for a few hours just to be there with me that day.
When I got my surgery this past August, she was much more excited for my life to get much better and she constantly annoyed me by reaching from Whatsapp on the days I was hospitalized for the operation, constantly asking how I was doing.
And she thinks I’m worth the best guy ever that ever set foot on this planet when it comes to me and my romantic life. She never seems to find anyone equal to me, even though I’m definitely not as “one in a billion” as she thinks I am.
She was the only person I was comfortable enough with trying to see if I was ready to take off my hijab in the public with a friend with me. We went to the movies that day, had lunch together and then did some shopping. It was almost a whole year ago now and I was having mild palpitations throughout the experience even though she was really calm about it all. She never questioned me for even once and she always said what’s important is that I am happy.
当我哥哥结婚时，我认识了7年的朋友参加了我们准新娘的单身派对，只是因为她无法参加婚礼，甚至婚礼地点都很难找到。那天她在那里待了几个小时就是为了陪我。
去年8月，当我接受手术时，她因我的状态变得更好而感到更加兴奋，在我住院动手术的日子里，她经常用Whatsapp联系我，不停地问我怎么样，这让我很恼火。
就我和我的浪漫生活而言，她觉得我配得上这个星球上最好的男人。即使我绝对不是她想的那样“万里挑一”，她似乎从来没有找到一个和我一样的人。
如果我准备好在公共场合和朋友一起脱下头巾，她是唯一一个让我觉得可以想见的人。那天我们去看电影，一起吃午饭，然后去购物。这几乎是一年前的事了，在整个过程中，尽管她对这一切都很平静，但我还是有轻微的心悸。她从来没有质疑过我，她总是说，重要的是我很快乐就好。
The first time ever that we met up, she came with little and cute gifts that are still worth so much for me. Even though it’s been only a bit more than 2 years since we met, I always feel like we’ve known each other since birth.
And we never argue about who is paying for what when we meet up or she never refrains from providing any financial help I might need. I don’t ask her for it cause getting in debt is never a good idea even when the person seems not to be bothered by it, but she is never short of money if you need help. Even when she has a lot of other debts to pay, she feels like it’s her duty to help you when you need.
She is a real life doll. Gorgeous and big, green eyes. Long and luscious hair. Facial features that are so perfect that I never believed her photos were actually her photos until we met after interacting through our blogs and social media accounts for a good while.
She is super smart, always fun, always caring. She is a gorgeous human being that deserves the best in everything.
Fingers crossed we get to share many beautiful memories and experiences together for the years to come.
我们第一次见面时，她带来了一些小而可爱的礼物，这些礼物对我来说还是很值钱。尽管我们见面才两年多一点，但我总觉得我们从出生起就认识了。
当我们见面时，我们从不就谁来买单而争论，或者她从不拒绝提供我可能需要的任何经济帮助。我不会向她要钱，因为负债从来都不是一个好事情，即使对方似乎并不为此烦恼，但如果你需要帮助，她从来都不缺钱。即使她还有很多其他债务要偿还，她也觉得在你需要的时候帮助你是她的责任。
她是一个有生气的洋娃娃：华丽的大绿眼睛。又长又香的头发。面部特征如此完美，直到我们通过博客和社交媒体账户进行了很长一段时间的互动之后，我才相信她的相册实际上是她自己的照片。
她非常聪明，总是很有趣，还很关心他人。她是一个美丽的人，值得拥有最好的一切。
我们祈祷着能在未来的岁月里分享许多美好的回忆和经历。
And we never argue about who is paying for what when we meet up or she never refrains from providing any financial help I might need. I don’t ask her for it cause getting in debt is never a good idea even when the person seems not to be bothered by it, but she is never short of money if you need help. Even when she has a lot of other debts to pay, she feels like it’s her duty to help you when you need.
She is a real life doll. Gorgeous and big, green eyes. Long and luscious hair. Facial features that are so perfect that I never believed her photos were actually her photos until we met after interacting through our blogs and social media accounts for a good while.
She is super smart, always fun, always caring. She is a gorgeous human being that deserves the best in everything.
Fingers crossed we get to share many beautiful memories and experiences together for the years to come.
我们第一次见面时，她带来了一些小而可爱的礼物，这些礼物对我来说还是很值钱。尽管我们见面才两年多一点，但我总觉得我们从出生起就认识了。
当我们见面时，我们从不就谁来买单而争论，或者她从不拒绝提供我可能需要的任何经济帮助。我不会向她要钱，因为负债从来都不是一个好事情，即使对方似乎并不为此烦恼，但如果你需要帮助，她从来都不缺钱。即使她还有很多其他债务要偿还，她也觉得在你需要的时候帮助你是她的责任。
她是一个有生气的洋娃娃：华丽的大绿眼睛。又长又香的头发。面部特征如此完美，直到我们通过博客和社交媒体账户进行了很长一段时间的互动之后，我才相信她的相册实际上是她自己的照片。
她非常聪明，总是很有趣，还很关心他人。她是一个美丽的人，值得拥有最好的一切。
我们祈祷着能在未来的岁月里分享许多美好的回忆和经历。
Ved Dalvi (Вед Далви)
Real Friends;
Accept you the way you are ; All your flaws, your tantrums, Your mood swings, Your Attitude (Not always)..
Stick around right by your side, be it a good or bad time going on in your life. They’ll never abandon you.
Will surely take out time from their busy schedule to spend with you. They may not be ever present But they’ll also not let you feel that they’re absent.
Will always be bluntly honest with you, no matter how harsh the truth might sound because they really do care.
Will never show you the wrong path or let you deviate from your goal. They won’t even hesitate to yell at you to bring you back to your senses.
Seldom will they lie to you, Back stab you, Bail out on you or Break the promises they made to you.
真正的朋友;
接受你本来的样子; 你所有的缺点，你的脾气，你的情绪波动，你的态度(不一定)。
无论你的生活是好是坏，都站在你身边。他们永远不会抛弃你。
他们一定会从繁忙的日程中抽出时间来陪你。他们可能永远不会出现，但他们也不会让你觉得他们不在。
无论真相听起来多么残酷，他们都会对你坦诚相待，因为他们真的很在乎。
永远不会给你指明错误的道路，也不会让你偏离目标。他们甚至会毫不犹豫地对你大喊大叫，让你恢复理智。
他们很少对你撒谎，背后捅你一刀，背弃你，或者违背他们对你的承诺。
Real Friends;
Accept you the way you are ; All your flaws, your tantrums, Your mood swings, Your Attitude (Not always)..
Stick around right by your side, be it a good or bad time going on in your life. They’ll never abandon you.
Will surely take out time from their busy schedule to spend with you. They may not be ever present But they’ll also not let you feel that they’re absent.
Will always be bluntly honest with you, no matter how harsh the truth might sound because they really do care.
Will never show you the wrong path or let you deviate from your goal. They won’t even hesitate to yell at you to bring you back to your senses.
Seldom will they lie to you, Back stab you, Bail out on you or Break the promises they made to you.
真正的朋友;
接受你本来的样子; 你所有的缺点，你的脾气，你的情绪波动，你的态度(不一定)。
无论你的生活是好是坏，都站在你身边。他们永远不会抛弃你。
他们一定会从繁忙的日程中抽出时间来陪你。他们可能永远不会出现，但他们也不会让你觉得他们不在。
无论真相听起来多么残酷，他们都会对你坦诚相待，因为他们真的很在乎。
永远不会给你指明错误的道路，也不会让你偏离目标。他们甚至会毫不犹豫地对你大喊大叫，让你恢复理智。
他们很少对你撒谎，背后捅你一刀，背弃你，或者违背他们对你的承诺。
Will never Belittle you and laugh at your Flaws/Mistakes. They’ll most likely support you and help you overcome those flaws.
Never cross the boundaries you set or will not counter-argue with you over them. For instance, they won’t discuss topics that make you uncomfortable.
Won’t be jealous of your success. As a matter of fact, They’ll be the happiest ones after your parents
Will not let misunderstandings ruin their relations with you. They’ll clear it out, Sometimes apologize even if they aren’t wrong. But they’ll save the relation.
Won’t EVER spill your secrets, No matter what.
Love You guys :)
Oops.. I guess in the flow of emotions.. I forgot the motive of the question. Silly me
How to find these “Real” Friends is what you ask? I’ll say that check for the qualities I mentioned from the group you already have and just separate them for others. Take it in writing.. These are your friends for life.. unless misunderstandings take them away. Make new friends. It’s worth the effort :)
永远不会轻视你，嘲笑你的缺点/错误。他们很可能会支持你，帮助你克服这些缺点。
永远不越过你设定的界限，也不与你争辩。例如，他们不会讨论让你不舒服的话题。
不会嫉妒你的成功。事实上，他们是除了你父母之外因你成功感到最幸福的人。
不会让误解毁了他们与你的关系。有时即使他们没有错，他们也会道歉，但他们会挽救这段关系。
无论发生什么，都不会泄露你的秘密。
爱你们!
哎呀，我想在情绪的流动中，我忘了这个问题的动机了，你看我多愚蠢。
你问的是如何找到这些“真正的”朋友? 我会说，从你已经拥有的群体中找出具备我提到的品质的人，然后把他们和其他人分开，并把这些名字写下来。他们是你一生的朋友。除非误会把他们带走。结交新朋友吧，这是值得去努力的。
Never cross the boundaries you set or will not counter-argue with you over them. For instance, they won’t discuss topics that make you uncomfortable.
Won’t be jealous of your success. As a matter of fact, They’ll be the happiest ones after your parents
Will not let misunderstandings ruin their relations with you. They’ll clear it out, Sometimes apologize even if they aren’t wrong. But they’ll save the relation.
Won’t EVER spill your secrets, No matter what.
Love You guys :)
Oops.. I guess in the flow of emotions.. I forgot the motive of the question. Silly me
How to find these “Real” Friends is what you ask? I’ll say that check for the qualities I mentioned from the group you already have and just separate them for others. Take it in writing.. These are your friends for life.. unless misunderstandings take them away. Make new friends. It’s worth the effort :)
永远不会轻视你，嘲笑你的缺点/错误。他们很可能会支持你，帮助你克服这些缺点。
永远不越过你设定的界限，也不与你争辩。例如，他们不会讨论让你不舒服的话题。
不会嫉妒你的成功。事实上，他们是除了你父母之外因你成功感到最幸福的人。
不会让误解毁了他们与你的关系。有时即使他们没有错，他们也会道歉，但他们会挽救这段关系。
无论发生什么，都不会泄露你的秘密。
爱你们!
哎呀，我想在情绪的流动中，我忘了这个问题的动机了，你看我多愚蠢。
你问的是如何找到这些“真正的”朋友? 我会说，从你已经拥有的群体中找出具备我提到的品质的人，然后把他们和其他人分开，并把这些名字写下来。他们是你一生的朋友。除非误会把他们带走。结交新朋友吧，这是值得去努力的。
Charissa Enget
Making friends is really simple.
Whenever I see a person I like and want to be friends with them, I use a simple formula.
I walk up to them and say, “Hey, wanna be friends? I think you’re cool because [insert unique quality about them] and I really want a friend I can [activity they like to do] with.”
I have never gotten rejected with this upfront. Girls and guys have always accepted.
Then, you have to follow up.
Send them a text, “Hey, you free to [activity they like to do] this weekend?”
交朋友真的很简单。
每当我看到我喜欢的人，想要和他们成为朋友时，我都会用一个简单的公式。
我走到他们面前说:“嘿，想做朋友吗? 我认为你很酷，因为(插入他们的独特品质)，我真的想要一个朋友，我可以和他们（一起做他们喜欢的活动。）”
我从来没有因为这个而被拒绝过，不管女孩，还是男孩总是都能接受。
然后，你必须跟进。
给他们发个短信，“嘿，这个周末你有空参加(他们喜欢的活动)吗?”
Making friends is really simple.
Whenever I see a person I like and want to be friends with them, I use a simple formula.
I walk up to them and say, “Hey, wanna be friends? I think you’re cool because [insert unique quality about them] and I really want a friend I can [activity they like to do] with.”
I have never gotten rejected with this upfront. Girls and guys have always accepted.
Then, you have to follow up.
Send them a text, “Hey, you free to [activity they like to do] this weekend?”
交朋友真的很简单。
每当我看到我喜欢的人，想要和他们成为朋友时，我都会用一个简单的公式。
我走到他们面前说:“嘿，想做朋友吗? 我认为你很酷，因为(插入他们的独特品质)，我真的想要一个朋友，我可以和他们（一起做他们喜欢的活动。）”
我从来没有因为这个而被拒绝过，不管女孩，还是男孩总是都能接受。
然后，你必须跟进。
给他们发个短信，“嘿，这个周末你有空参加(他们喜欢的活动)吗?”
They’ll say yes or no. If they say yes, you have a new friend. Hanging out the first time is the biggest barrier to starting a friendship. If they say no, but try to reschedule as in “I’m not free then, but could we do it next weekend?” they’re not free but genuinely interested in being friends with you. If they say no with no effort to reschedule, they’re probably not that interested in being friends with you. Take your L and move on.
But, I’ve had a 80% success rate with this method. It’s upfront, people know your intentions, and your friendship starts immediately.
For example, there was this girl in my golf class. I saw her in golf, talked to her a couple of times, but we never became friends. I noticed she played a lot of intramurals because I’d play against her in basketball and football. One day I saw her at the bars.
I walked up, said “Hey! I see you play against me in intramurals all the time! It’s so hard to find girls who play multiple sports for intramural teams. Wanna be friends and make a team?”
She said yeah. We were probably on 10 teams together from football, volleyball, basketball, ultimate frisbee, and tennis. We won 5 championships. We became really close friends and I still talk to her to this day.
Making friends doesn’t have to be hard. Just be up front about it.
他们会说是或否。如果他们同意了，你就有了一个新朋友。第一次出去玩是开始一段友谊的最大障碍。如果他们不同意，你可以试着重新安排时间，比如“我那时候没空，
我们下个周末可以吗?”他们没空，但真心想和你成为朋友。如果他们拒绝了，不需要重新安排，他们可能对和你做朋友没那么感兴趣。那你继续找其他人就好。
但是，我用这种方法有80%的成功率。这是坦率的做法，人们知道你的意图，你们的友谊会立即开始建立起来。
举个例子，我的高尔夫课上有个女孩。我在高尔夫球场见过她，和她聊过几次，但我们从未成为朋友。我注意到她经常参加校内比赛，因为我经常和她打篮球、踢足球。有一天我在酒吧看到她。
我走上前，说:“嘿! 我经常在校内比赛中看到你和我比赛! 在代表校内的团队中很难碰到参加多种运动的女孩。想成为朋友，组成一个团队吗?”
她说: 好的。我们一起参加了10支球队，包括足球、排球、篮球、极限飞盘和网球。我们赢得了5个总冠军。我们成了非常要好的朋友，直到今天，我们还有交流。
交朋友并不难，只要坦率地说出来就好。
But, I’ve had a 80% success rate with this method. It’s upfront, people know your intentions, and your friendship starts immediately.
For example, there was this girl in my golf class. I saw her in golf, talked to her a couple of times, but we never became friends. I noticed she played a lot of intramurals because I’d play against her in basketball and football. One day I saw her at the bars.
I walked up, said “Hey! I see you play against me in intramurals all the time! It’s so hard to find girls who play multiple sports for intramural teams. Wanna be friends and make a team?”
She said yeah. We were probably on 10 teams together from football, volleyball, basketball, ultimate frisbee, and tennis. We won 5 championships. We became really close friends and I still talk to her to this day.
Making friends doesn’t have to be hard. Just be up front about it.
他们会说是或否。如果他们同意了，你就有了一个新朋友。第一次出去玩是开始一段友谊的最大障碍。如果他们不同意，你可以试着重新安排时间，比如“我那时候没空，
我们下个周末可以吗?”他们没空，但真心想和你成为朋友。如果他们拒绝了，不需要重新安排，他们可能对和你做朋友没那么感兴趣。那你继续找其他人就好。
但是，我用这种方法有80%的成功率。这是坦率的做法，人们知道你的意图，你们的友谊会立即开始建立起来。
举个例子，我的高尔夫课上有个女孩。我在高尔夫球场见过她，和她聊过几次，但我们从未成为朋友。我注意到她经常参加校内比赛，因为我经常和她打篮球、踢足球。有一天我在酒吧看到她。
我走上前，说:“嘿! 我经常在校内比赛中看到你和我比赛! 在代表校内的团队中很难碰到参加多种运动的女孩。想成为朋友，组成一个团队吗?”
她说: 好的。我们一起参加了10支球队，包括足球、排球、篮球、极限飞盘和网球。我们赢得了5个总冠军。我们成了非常要好的朋友，直到今天，我们还有交流。
交朋友并不难，只要坦率地说出来就好。
Earl Sessions
Why do I feel that everybody around me is fake?
I read all the answers here and nothing was satisfying to what I would have expected to read. So I am going to give it a go.
Maybe you see the world is falling apart.. and everyone is just staying in their own busy world.. staying too busy to notice and see the truth. But the more you notice things, the more you realize that most people are distracting themselves from the truth.
Maybe you try talking to someone about it, but then you might notice that someone will look at you as if you were the oddball. Does anybody see? Does anybody care? At some point, you may feel alone in all of this.
Maybe you try to forget and ignore what you know.. so you can just fit in with everyone else who just lines up as we were taught. But you opened up Pandora’s Box. As much as you try to go back.. you can’t because something feels off.
And then you come online searching for answers only to find that most people will suggest that you are the one that is fake.. or you are depressed, basically stating that something is wrong with you.
为什么我觉得我周围的人都好假？
我在这里读了所有的答案，没有什么能满足我的期望。所以我打算试着写个答案。
也许你看到世界正在崩溃，每个人都只是呆在自己繁忙的世界里，太忙了以至于看不到真相。但是，你注意到的东西越多，你就越意识到大多数人都在分散自己对真相的注意力。
也许你试着和别人谈论这件事，但你可能会注意到，有人会看着你，好像你是个古怪的人。有人看到吗？有人在乎吗？在某些时候，你可能会感到孤独。
也许你试图忘记和忽略你所知道的，这样你就能和其他所有人打成一片，就像我们被教导的那样。但你打开了潘多拉的盒子，无论你多么想回去…你做不到，因为感觉不对劲。
然后你上网搜索答案，却发现大多数人会认为你好假，或者你很沮丧—基本上都在说你有问题。
Why do I feel that everybody around me is fake?
I read all the answers here and nothing was satisfying to what I would have expected to read. So I am going to give it a go.
Maybe you see the world is falling apart.. and everyone is just staying in their own busy world.. staying too busy to notice and see the truth. But the more you notice things, the more you realize that most people are distracting themselves from the truth.
Maybe you try talking to someone about it, but then you might notice that someone will look at you as if you were the oddball. Does anybody see? Does anybody care? At some point, you may feel alone in all of this.
Maybe you try to forget and ignore what you know.. so you can just fit in with everyone else who just lines up as we were taught. But you opened up Pandora’s Box. As much as you try to go back.. you can’t because something feels off.
And then you come online searching for answers only to find that most people will suggest that you are the one that is fake.. or you are depressed, basically stating that something is wrong with you.
为什么我觉得我周围的人都好假？
我在这里读了所有的答案，没有什么能满足我的期望。所以我打算试着写个答案。
也许你看到世界正在崩溃，每个人都只是呆在自己繁忙的世界里，太忙了以至于看不到真相。但是，你注意到的东西越多，你就越意识到大多数人都在分散自己对真相的注意力。
也许你试着和别人谈论这件事，但你可能会注意到，有人会看着你，好像你是个古怪的人。有人看到吗？有人在乎吗？在某些时候，你可能会感到孤独。
也许你试图忘记和忽略你所知道的，这样你就能和其他所有人打成一片，就像我们被教导的那样。但你打开了潘多拉的盒子，无论你多么想回去…你做不到，因为感觉不对劲。
然后你上网搜索答案，却发现大多数人会认为你好假，或者你很沮丧—基本上都在说你有问题。
Juliana Sayed
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Do psychopaths have real friends?
No.
I thought I was ‘bestfriends’ with this psychopath but I soon realized I’m the only one who had a ‘bestfriend’.
I was retarded enough to think that despite him previously telling me that he views people like obxts and compared them to laptops. The only reason you’d use it is cause it works but when you get ‘bored’ of it or when it’s broken, you simply replace it. You don’t really give a damn about the laptop, you just use it when you want to.
He stops talking when we don’t have the ‘same things on mind’. He doesn’t genuinely wanna chat; he just wants to talk about what is on his mind and gives zero damns about what I’m thinking or feeling.
He ditches a lot and for long and then he talks like nothing has happened. He doesn’t really care about me and he definitely can never be attached to someone. You’re just a mere temporary obxt that would never be grieved on when gone.
相关问题：精神病患者有真正的朋友吗？没有。
我以为我和这个精神病患者是“最好的朋友”，但我很快意识到我是唯一一个有“最好的朋友”的人。
尽管他之前告诉我，他把人看得像物体，并把人们比作笔记本电脑，但我还是有点迟钝。你使用它的唯一原因是因为它能用，但当你对它感到“厌倦”或它坏了时，你只需更换它。你根本不在乎笔记本电脑，你只是想用的时候就用。
当我们没有“同样的想法”时，他就不再说话了。他不是真心想聊天；他只想谈自己的想法，根本不在乎我的想法和感受。
他经常长时间逃课，然后他说话就像什么都没发生过一样。他真的不在乎我，他绝对不会依恋任何人。你只是一个暂时的对象，你的离开永远不会让他伤心。
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Do psychopaths have real friends?
No.
I thought I was ‘bestfriends’ with this psychopath but I soon realized I’m the only one who had a ‘bestfriend’.
I was retarded enough to think that despite him previously telling me that he views people like obxts and compared them to laptops. The only reason you’d use it is cause it works but when you get ‘bored’ of it or when it’s broken, you simply replace it. You don’t really give a damn about the laptop, you just use it when you want to.
He stops talking when we don’t have the ‘same things on mind’. He doesn’t genuinely wanna chat; he just wants to talk about what is on his mind and gives zero damns about what I’m thinking or feeling.
He ditches a lot and for long and then he talks like nothing has happened. He doesn’t really care about me and he definitely can never be attached to someone. You’re just a mere temporary obxt that would never be grieved on when gone.
相关问题：精神病患者有真正的朋友吗？没有。
我以为我和这个精神病患者是“最好的朋友”，但我很快意识到我是唯一一个有“最好的朋友”的人。
尽管他之前告诉我，他把人看得像物体，并把人们比作笔记本电脑，但我还是有点迟钝。你使用它的唯一原因是因为它能用，但当你对它感到“厌倦”或它坏了时，你只需更换它。你根本不在乎笔记本电脑，你只是想用的时候就用。
当我们没有“同样的想法”时，他就不再说话了。他不是真心想聊天；他只想谈自己的想法，根本不在乎我的想法和感受。
他经常长时间逃课，然后他说话就像什么都没发生过一样。他真的不在乎我，他绝对不会依恋任何人。你只是一个暂时的对象，你的离开永远不会让他伤心。
He can’t feel sadness or guilt or attachment or empathy.
But I love him as stupid as it may sound. He means a lot to me and he helped me deal with my problems rationally. When I used to rant to him, he wouldn’t get emotionally involved obviously and would rather think the situation through. It gave me a false sense of care at first but even now that it I know it’s false, I still feel like I learned how to control my emotions properly.
In case you recently met a psychopath and you wanna be ‘friends’, understand their definition of ‘friends’ and remember to NEVER get attached and NEVER take them seriously cause again you are just an obxt to them.
For it to work, you need to look at them the way they look at you. I’ve learned this the hard way so I hope it will help someone who reads this.
他感觉不到悲伤、内疚、依恋或同理心。
但我爱他，虽然听起来很蠢。他对我意味着很多，他帮助我理性地处理我的问题。当我对他咆哮时，他显然不会情绪化，而是宁愿把情况想清楚。起初它给了我一种虚假的关心，但即使现在我知道它是虚假的，我仍然觉得我学会了如何正确控制自己的情绪。
如果你最近遇到了一个精神病患者，你想成为其“朋友”，了解他们对“朋友”的定义，记住永远不要依恋他们，永远不要把他们当回事，因为对他们来说，你只是一个物体。
为了让它发挥作用，你需要用他们看你的方式来看待他们。我是通过艰难的方式学会这一点的，所以我希望它能帮助到读这篇文章的人。
But I love him as stupid as it may sound. He means a lot to me and he helped me deal with my problems rationally. When I used to rant to him, he wouldn’t get emotionally involved obviously and would rather think the situation through. It gave me a false sense of care at first but even now that it I know it’s false, I still feel like I learned how to control my emotions properly.
In case you recently met a psychopath and you wanna be ‘friends’, understand their definition of ‘friends’ and remember to NEVER get attached and NEVER take them seriously cause again you are just an obxt to them.
For it to work, you need to look at them the way they look at you. I’ve learned this the hard way so I hope it will help someone who reads this.
他感觉不到悲伤、内疚、依恋或同理心。
但我爱他，虽然听起来很蠢。他对我意味着很多，他帮助我理性地处理我的问题。当我对他咆哮时，他显然不会情绪化，而是宁愿把情况想清楚。起初它给了我一种虚假的关心，但即使现在我知道它是虚假的，我仍然觉得我学会了如何正确控制自己的情绪。
如果你最近遇到了一个精神病患者，你想成为其“朋友”，了解他们对“朋友”的定义，记住永远不要依恋他们，永远不要把他们当回事，因为对他们来说，你只是一个物体。
为了让它发挥作用，你需要用他们看你的方式来看待他们。我是通过艰难的方式学会这一点的，所以我希望它能帮助到读这篇文章的人。
Ashwin Mishra
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How do you tell if someone is a true friend?
Read this;
A cruise ship met with an incident at sea, on the ship was a pair of couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left.
At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.
The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.
The teacher stopped and asked, "What do you think she shouted?"
Most of the students excitedly answered, "I hate you! I was blind!"
Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, "Teacher, I believe she would have shouted - Take care of our child!"
相关问题：你如何判断一个人是否是真正的朋友？
阅读此内容；
一艘游船在海上遇到了事故，船上有一对夫妇，他们正设法登上救生艇时，他们意识到只剩下一个人的位置了。
这时，那个男人把女人推到身后，自己跳上了救生艇。
这位女士站在正在下沉的船上，对她的丈夫喊了一句话。
老师停下来问道：“你觉得她喊了什么？”
大多数学生兴奋地回答：“我恨你！我是瞎子！”
现在，老师注意到一个男孩一直沉默着，她让他回答，他回答说：“老师，我相信她会喊：照顾好我们的孩子！”
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How do you tell if someone is a true friend?
Read this;
A cruise ship met with an incident at sea, on the ship was a pair of couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left.
At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.
The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.
The teacher stopped and asked, "What do you think she shouted?"
Most of the students excitedly answered, "I hate you! I was blind!"
Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, "Teacher, I believe she would have shouted - Take care of our child!"
相关问题：你如何判断一个人是否是真正的朋友？
阅读此内容；
一艘游船在海上遇到了事故，船上有一对夫妇，他们正设法登上救生艇时，他们意识到只剩下一个人的位置了。
这时，那个男人把女人推到身后，自己跳上了救生艇。
这位女士站在正在下沉的船上，对她的丈夫喊了一句话。
老师停下来问道：“你觉得她喊了什么？”
大多数学生兴奋地回答：“我恨你！我是瞎子！”
现在，老师注意到一个男孩一直沉默着，她让他回答，他回答说：“老师，我相信她会喊：照顾好我们的孩子！”
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The teacher was surprised, asking "Have you heard this story before?"
The boy shook his head, "Nope, but that was what my mum told my dad before she died to disease".
The teacher lamented, "The answer is right".
The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.
Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.
It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness.
At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.
He wrote in his diary, "How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone".
老师很惊讶，问道：“你以前听过这个故事吗？”
男孩摇了摇头，“没有，但那是我妈妈在生病前告诉我爸爸的。”。
老师哀叹道：“答案是正确的”。
邮轮沉没后，这个男人回家独自抚养他们的女儿。
多年后，该男子去世，他们的女儿在整理他的财物时发现了他的日记。
事实证明，当父母登上游轮时，母亲已经被诊断患有绝症。
在关键时刻，父亲急忙寻找唯一的生存机会。
他在日记中写道：“我多么希望和你一起沉到海底，但为了我们的女儿，我只能让你永远独自躺在海底。”。
The boy shook his head, "Nope, but that was what my mum told my dad before she died to disease".
The teacher lamented, "The answer is right".
The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.
Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.
It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness.
At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.
He wrote in his diary, "How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone".
老师很惊讶，问道：“你以前听过这个故事吗？”
男孩摇了摇头，“没有，但那是我妈妈在生病前告诉我爸爸的。”。
老师哀叹道：“答案是正确的”。
邮轮沉没后，这个男人回家独自抚养他们的女儿。
多年后，该男子去世，他们的女儿在整理他的财物时发现了他的日记。
事实证明，当父母登上游轮时，母亲已经被诊断患有绝症。
在关键时刻，父亲急忙寻找唯一的生存机会。
他在日记中写道：“我多么希望和你一起沉到海底，但为了我们的女儿，我只能让你永远独自躺在海底。”。
The story is finished, the class was silent.
The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.
Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.
Those who like to pay the bill, does so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.
Those who take the initiative at work, does so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.
Those who apologizes first after a fight, does so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.
Those who are willing to help you, does so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.....
故事讲完了，全班沉默了。
老师知道，学生已经理解了故事的寓意，了解了世界上善恶的寓意。故事背后有许多难以理解的复杂之处。
这就是为什么我们永远不应该只关注表面，在不了解他人的情况下评判他人。
那些喜欢付账的人，不是因为他们有钱，而是因为他们把友谊看得比金钱重要。
那些在工作中采取主动的人，不是因为他们愚蠢，而是因为他们理解责任的概念。
那些在打架后首先道歉的人，不是因为他们错了，而是因为他们重视身边的人。
那些愿意帮助你的人，不是因为他们欠你什么，而是因为他们把你看作为一个真正的朋友。
The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.
Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.
Those who like to pay the bill, does so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.
Those who take the initiative at work, does so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.
Those who apologizes first after a fight, does so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.
Those who are willing to help you, does so not because they owe you any thing but because they see you as a true friend.....
故事讲完了，全班沉默了。
老师知道，学生已经理解了故事的寓意，了解了世界上善恶的寓意。故事背后有许多难以理解的复杂之处。
这就是为什么我们永远不应该只关注表面，在不了解他人的情况下评判他人。
那些喜欢付账的人，不是因为他们有钱，而是因为他们把友谊看得比金钱重要。
那些在工作中采取主动的人，不是因为他们愚蠢，而是因为他们理解责任的概念。
那些在打架后首先道歉的人，不是因为他们错了，而是因为他们重视身边的人。
那些愿意帮助你的人，不是因为他们欠你什么，而是因为他们把你看作为一个真正的朋友。
John Ukah
It's rare that someone calls you at 3am with an offer of employment or some other good news. 3am calls are usually unexpected bad news. So when my phone rang at 3am, I stared at the phone screen with a frown. It was my childhood friend calling.
He had an accident on his way back from the night club. The collision led to a four-car pileup. He wasn't hurt but his car was damaged.
It was warm and cozy under my bed covers. But I didn't tell him this. I didn’t also mention that it was an indecent time to call me. I didn't yawn and ask him if there was no one else he could have called. For Pete's sake, what was he doing at a night club so late? No, I didn't ask him that either.
很少有人在凌晨3点给你打电话，告诉你工作机会或其他好消息。凌晨3点的电话通常是意想不到的坏消息。所以，当凌晨3点我的电话铃响时，我皱着眉头盯着电话屏幕—是我儿时的朋友打来的。
他在从夜总会回来的路上出了车祸。这次碰撞导致四辆汽车连环相撞。他没有受伤，但他的车坏了。
我的被窝里温暖舒适。但我没告诉他。我也没说那个时候给我打电话不太合适。我没有打呵欠，也没有问他有没有其他可以打电话的人。看在老天的份上，他这么晚还在夜店干什么?不，我也没问他。
It's rare that someone calls you at 3am with an offer of employment or some other good news. 3am calls are usually unexpected bad news. So when my phone rang at 3am, I stared at the phone screen with a frown. It was my childhood friend calling.
He had an accident on his way back from the night club. The collision led to a four-car pileup. He wasn't hurt but his car was damaged.
It was warm and cozy under my bed covers. But I didn't tell him this. I didn’t also mention that it was an indecent time to call me. I didn't yawn and ask him if there was no one else he could have called. For Pete's sake, what was he doing at a night club so late? No, I didn't ask him that either.
很少有人在凌晨3点给你打电话，告诉你工作机会或其他好消息。凌晨3点的电话通常是意想不到的坏消息。所以，当凌晨3点我的电话铃响时，我皱着眉头盯着电话屏幕—是我儿时的朋友打来的。
他在从夜总会回来的路上出了车祸。这次碰撞导致四辆汽车连环相撞。他没有受伤，但他的车坏了。
我的被窝里温暖舒适。但我没告诉他。我也没说那个时候给我打电话不太合适。我没有打呵欠，也没有问他有没有其他可以打电话的人。看在老天的份上，他这么晚还在夜店干什么?不，我也没问他。
"I'm coming," I said. Police and other emergency services were at the crash scene. The vehicles were moved off the road and out of the line of traffic. I took my friend home with me.
I left the country about a year after this incident. Someone called me at about 3am some weeks ago. 3am calls rarely bring good news. My dad was stabbed multiple times by a mugger who robbed him of his valuables. I was frantic with worry. How was he doing? He was at the hospital but was he getting the best medical care? Were the injuries life threatening? I reached out to my childhood friend. He didn't ask me why I called him at such an ungodly hour. He didn't ask why my dad was not mindful or careful. He only asked me for the address of the hospital and he went there to see my dad. He kept me constantly upxed.
That's what a friend does. A friend is someone you can count on in times of adversity. They love you and support you unconditionally.
“我过去，”我说。警方和其他紧急服务人员都在事故现场。车辆驶离道路，驶出交通线，我带朋友回家了。
这件事发生大约一年后，我离开了这个国家。几周前大约凌晨3点有人打电话给我。凌晨3点的电话很少带来好消息。我爸爸被一个抢了他贵重物品的抢劫犯捅了好几刀，我担心得发疯。他怎么样了？他当时在医院，但他得到了最好的医疗护理吗？受伤是否危及生命？我联系了我儿时的朋友。他没有问我为什么在这么不合时宜的时候给他打电话。他没有问我爸爸为什么不留心或不小心。他只问了我医院的地址，然后去那里看我爸爸，并且不断向我汇报最新情况。
朋友就是这样的，朋友是你在逆境中可以依靠的人，他们无条件地爱你和支持你。
I left the country about a year after this incident. Someone called me at about 3am some weeks ago. 3am calls rarely bring good news. My dad was stabbed multiple times by a mugger who robbed him of his valuables. I was frantic with worry. How was he doing? He was at the hospital but was he getting the best medical care? Were the injuries life threatening? I reached out to my childhood friend. He didn't ask me why I called him at such an ungodly hour. He didn't ask why my dad was not mindful or careful. He only asked me for the address of the hospital and he went there to see my dad. He kept me constantly upxed.
That's what a friend does. A friend is someone you can count on in times of adversity. They love you and support you unconditionally.
“我过去，”我说。警方和其他紧急服务人员都在事故现场。车辆驶离道路，驶出交通线，我带朋友回家了。
这件事发生大约一年后，我离开了这个国家。几周前大约凌晨3点有人打电话给我。凌晨3点的电话很少带来好消息。我爸爸被一个抢了他贵重物品的抢劫犯捅了好几刀，我担心得发疯。他怎么样了？他当时在医院，但他得到了最好的医疗护理吗？受伤是否危及生命？我联系了我儿时的朋友。他没有问我为什么在这么不合时宜的时候给他打电话。他没有问我爸爸为什么不留心或不小心。他只问了我医院的地址，然后去那里看我爸爸，并且不断向我汇报最新情况。
朋友就是这样的，朋友是你在逆境中可以依靠的人，他们无条件地爱你和支持你。
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