你的初恋教会了你什么人生经验（二）
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What life lesson did your first love teach you?
你的初恋教会了你什么人生经验?
What life lesson did your first love teach you?
你的初恋教会了你什么人生经验?
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Utkarsh Shukla
I broke up with her today only. So, with a really heavy heart I am writing this answer hoping that it will give relief to me also.
Today we ended our 2.5 years relation. Well, it died on 11 August only, we just burried it today.
Our Relation:-
We were best of friends in school & then we came in relation after 12th boards. After 4 months of our relation, she went to other state for her engineering. Ultimately, we maintained a long distance relation for 2.5 years. Our relation was such kind of relation which was hugely admired by people around us that how 2 people can maintain a long distance with such ease for such a long time.
我今天才和她分手。所以，我怀着沉重的心情写下这个答案，希望它也能给我带来安慰。0.
今天，我们结束了长达2.5年的恋爱关系。嗯，它于8月11日死亡，我们今天刚埋葬了这份感情。
我们的关系：
我们在学校里是最好的朋友，然后我们在第12年级建立了联系。在我们交往4个月后，她去了其他州学习工程学。最终，我们保持了2.5年的长期关系。我们的关系是这样的一种关系，我们周围的人都非常钦佩这种关系，以至于两个人能够如此轻松地保持这段异地恋爱关系。
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I broke up with her today only. So, with a really heavy heart I am writing this answer hoping that it will give relief to me also.
Today we ended our 2.5 years relation. Well, it died on 11 August only, we just burried it today.
Our Relation:-
We were best of friends in school & then we came in relation after 12th boards. After 4 months of our relation, she went to other state for her engineering. Ultimately, we maintained a long distance relation for 2.5 years. Our relation was such kind of relation which was hugely admired by people around us that how 2 people can maintain a long distance with such ease for such a long time.
我今天才和她分手。所以，我怀着沉重的心情写下这个答案，希望它也能给我带来安慰。0.
今天，我们结束了长达2.5年的恋爱关系。嗯，它于8月11日死亡，我们今天刚埋葬了这份感情。
我们的关系：
我们在学校里是最好的朋友，然后我们在第12年级建立了联系。在我们交往4个月后，她去了其他州学习工程学。最终，我们保持了2.5年的长期关系。我们的关系是这样的一种关系，我们周围的人都非常钦佩这种关系，以至于两个人能够如此轻松地保持这段异地恋爱关系。
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The bad phase:-
After this summer vacation when she went back, suddenly, things were started looking really wierd & within one week she said that.. "She is just not feeling the same way for me she used to". Well, this came as a total shock for me because one week later, she was here admiring me like anything. So, suddenly what is this? I asked her millions of times but her answer was "I dont know" everytime. I tried to support her but with the time, situation went worst. After trying on our relation for 3 months she finally asked for a BREAK. Break in long distance!! I mean seriously!! I had no option to support her & I accepted!! (after that break which we took nearly a month ago, we met today. Her decision was final that she want to go & I, with no option left..let her go without much!!much!!)
糟糕阶段：
这个暑假过后，当她回去的时候，突然间，事情开始变得非常糟糕&不到一周，她就说……“她对我的感觉和以前不一样了”。唉，这让我很震惊，因为一周后，她不再对我钦慕不已。那么，这是为什么?我问了她无数次，但她每次的回答都是“我不知道”。我试图支持她，但随着时间的推移，情况变得更糟了。在我们交往了3个月后，她终于要求分手。异地分手！说真的，我没办法支持她，但我接受了!(在我们近一个月前的那次休息之后，我们今天见面了。她最后下了决定，她想分开，而我，没有选择，只好分手!
After this summer vacation when she went back, suddenly, things were started looking really wierd & within one week she said that.. "She is just not feeling the same way for me she used to". Well, this came as a total shock for me because one week later, she was here admiring me like anything. So, suddenly what is this? I asked her millions of times but her answer was "I dont know" everytime. I tried to support her but with the time, situation went worst. After trying on our relation for 3 months she finally asked for a BREAK. Break in long distance!! I mean seriously!! I had no option to support her & I accepted!! (after that break which we took nearly a month ago, we met today. Her decision was final that she want to go & I, with no option left..let her go without much!!much!!)
糟糕阶段：
这个暑假过后，当她回去的时候，突然间，事情开始变得非常糟糕&不到一周，她就说……“她对我的感觉和以前不一样了”。唉，这让我很震惊，因为一周后，她不再对我钦慕不已。那么，这是为什么?我问了她无数次，但她每次的回答都是“我不知道”。我试图支持她，但随着时间的推移，情况变得更糟了。在我们交往了3个月后，她终于要求分手。异地分手！说真的，我没办法支持她，但我接受了!(在我们近一个月前的那次休息之后，我们今天见面了。她最后下了决定，她想分开，而我，没有选择，只好分手!
After break :-
It was really a testing time for me. I was feeling like fighting with myself because on one hand, I wanted to talk to her but as her preference was with the break, so my self respect was not allowing to contact her. So this ultimate boxing of my thoughts was just making me mad & mentally tired. My memory is just mind blowing, I usually remember each & every detail of our dates. She used to revive about previous dates & I used to take pride on my memory but now my these memories really haunts me because noe there is no one to revive with. So now imagine that these thoughts are running in your mind 24/7, its just impossible for you to sleep, concentrate & your exams are also on your head.
分手之后：
这对我来说真的是一个考验的时刻。我感觉想挣扎一番，因为一方面，我想和她谈谈，但由于她想分手，所以我的自尊心不允许与她接触。所以，最终这种被禁锢的思念恰似让我发疯和精神疲惫。我的记忆力很好，我通常记得我们约会的每一个细节。她过去常常回忆以前的约会&我曾经为自己的记忆感到骄傲，但现这些记忆真的困扰着我，因为没有人可以一起回忆。所以现在想象一下，这些思念全天候地在你的脑海中运行，你根本无法入睡，无法集中注意力，而且你的考试也压在你头上。
It was really a testing time for me. I was feeling like fighting with myself because on one hand, I wanted to talk to her but as her preference was with the break, so my self respect was not allowing to contact her. So this ultimate boxing of my thoughts was just making me mad & mentally tired. My memory is just mind blowing, I usually remember each & every detail of our dates. She used to revive about previous dates & I used to take pride on my memory but now my these memories really haunts me because noe there is no one to revive with. So now imagine that these thoughts are running in your mind 24/7, its just impossible for you to sleep, concentrate & your exams are also on your head.
分手之后：
这对我来说真的是一个考验的时刻。我感觉想挣扎一番，因为一方面，我想和她谈谈，但由于她想分手，所以我的自尊心不允许与她接触。所以，最终这种被禁锢的思念恰似让我发疯和精神疲惫。我的记忆力很好，我通常记得我们约会的每一个细节。她过去常常回忆以前的约会&我曾经为自己的记忆感到骄傲，但现这些记忆真的困扰着我，因为没有人可以一起回忆。所以现在想象一下，这些思念全天候地在你的脑海中运行，你根本无法入睡，无法集中注意力，而且你的考试也压在你头上。
Rescue work:-
I decided that my exams will not pay the cost of my break up. As we all know that The thing which doesn't kill you, make you strong. I knew that I am strong & stubborn enough to overcome anything. At times, it happened that I am studying & these thoughts again came to my mind. At that time only, I used to pull myself back to studies & believe me, it happened thousands of times in a day which made me double mental tired but another famous saying is When going gets tough, tough gets going. I gave my all exams very very well. My college friends, school friends & Quora helped me alot.
补救措施：
我决定不能让我的考试成为我分手的代价。我们都知道，杀不死你的东西会让你变得强大。我知道我足够坚强和固执，可以克服任何事情。有时，碰巧我正在学习，这些思念会再次出现在我的脑海中。仅仅在那个时候，我曾经努力让自己回到学习中去&相信我，一天中发生了数千次这种情况，这让我精神加倍疲惫，但另一句名言是：越挫越勇。我所有的考试都考得很好。我的大学朋友、学校朋友和Quora帮了我很多忙。
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I decided that my exams will not pay the cost of my break up. As we all know that The thing which doesn't kill you, make you strong. I knew that I am strong & stubborn enough to overcome anything. At times, it happened that I am studying & these thoughts again came to my mind. At that time only, I used to pull myself back to studies & believe me, it happened thousands of times in a day which made me double mental tired but another famous saying is When going gets tough, tough gets going. I gave my all exams very very well. My college friends, school friends & Quora helped me alot.
补救措施：
我决定不能让我的考试成为我分手的代价。我们都知道，杀不死你的东西会让你变得强大。我知道我足够坚强和固执，可以克服任何事情。有时，碰巧我正在学习，这些思念会再次出现在我的脑海中。仅仅在那个时候，我曾经努力让自己回到学习中去&相信我，一天中发生了数千次这种情况，这让我精神加倍疲惫，但另一句名言是：越挫越勇。我所有的考试都考得很好。我的大学朋友、学校朋友和Quora帮了我很多忙。
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What I learned:-
See, the fact is, still its really difficult for me to believe that she is not in my life now & I am not like this from the very beginning. When I started the relation, I kept in my mind that Anything can end anytime but it was her love, care & admiration which took me to this level and I just got carried away & forgot that truth. So just never believe that your relation will never come to end. I am not saying that don't trust your relation or partner, its just keep this small thing in your mind that No matter how good is your relation today,no matter how much he/she loves you, it can come to end anytime. The scariest thing of being loved by someone is the "uncertainity" that they may stop doing it anytime. I know, its difficult that someone is giving you same amount of love & admiration for years & years and you are expecting not to carried away, after all, we all are humans but this is what I learned from my relation.
我学到的经验：
事实上，我仍然很难相信她现在不在我的生活中&我从一开始就不是这样。当我开始这段关系时，我一直在想，任何事情都可能随时结束，但正是她的爱、关心和钦佩让我走到了这一步，我才忘乎所以，忘记了真相。所以千万不要相信你们的关系永远不会结束。我并不是说不要相信你的关系或不要相信你的伴侣，只是要记住一件小事：无论你的关系今天有多好，无论他/她有多爱你，它随时都可能结束。被某人爱最可怕的事情是“不确定”，他们随时都可能停止爱。我知道，有人年复一年地给予你同样多的爱和钦佩，而你却被期望不要得意忘形，这是很难的，毕竟，我们都是人，但这是我从我的恋爱关系中学到的。
See, the fact is, still its really difficult for me to believe that she is not in my life now & I am not like this from the very beginning. When I started the relation, I kept in my mind that Anything can end anytime but it was her love, care & admiration which took me to this level and I just got carried away & forgot that truth. So just never believe that your relation will never come to end. I am not saying that don't trust your relation or partner, its just keep this small thing in your mind that No matter how good is your relation today,no matter how much he/she loves you, it can come to end anytime. The scariest thing of being loved by someone is the "uncertainity" that they may stop doing it anytime. I know, its difficult that someone is giving you same amount of love & admiration for years & years and you are expecting not to carried away, after all, we all are humans but this is what I learned from my relation.
我学到的经验：
事实上，我仍然很难相信她现在不在我的生活中&我从一开始就不是这样。当我开始这段关系时，我一直在想，任何事情都可能随时结束，但正是她的爱、关心和钦佩让我走到了这一步，我才忘乎所以，忘记了真相。所以千万不要相信你们的关系永远不会结束。我并不是说不要相信你的关系或不要相信你的伴侣，只是要记住一件小事：无论你的关系今天有多好，无论他/她有多爱你，它随时都可能结束。被某人爱最可怕的事情是“不确定”，他们随时都可能停止爱。我知道，有人年复一年地给予你同样多的爱和钦佩，而你却被期望不要得意忘形，这是很难的，毕竟，我们都是人，但这是我从我的恋爱关系中学到的。
Well, now its very usual to say that Relationships Sucks for a person like me who had a bad end. So, I just want to say that Now I laugh when people say relations. Yes, those 2.5 years gave me immence happiness but the cost I paid for that temporary happiness is just damn too high. I just lost my strenght to love someone, trust & care someone.
嗯，现在人们通常会说，像我这样恋爱关系很糟糕的人，结局也糟糕。所以，我只想说，现在当人们说到恋爱关系时，我会笑。那2.5年是给了我无限的快乐，但我为这短暂的快乐付出的代价实在太高了。我失去了爱某人、信任和关心某人的力量。
嗯，现在人们通常会说，像我这样恋爱关系很糟糕的人，结局也糟糕。所以，我只想说，现在当人们说到恋爱关系时，我会笑。那2.5年是给了我无限的快乐，但我为这短暂的快乐付出的代价实在太高了。我失去了爱某人、信任和关心某人的力量。
Virali Modi
What life lesson did your first love teach you? Did that affected your future love life?
Don’t get too attached.
My first boyfriend was an ass, to put it nicely. He emotionally abused me quite frequently. He made me feel worthless. He kept torturing me mentally because I was on a wheelchair. He kept telling me that no one would love me and do as much as he did for me because I was disabled. I was extremely attached to him. The worst part about our relationship was that I believed him. I believed that I was worthless and that no guy would ever want me. Ultimately, he broke my heart and cheated on me on the day of my birthday. He begged me to take him back, and I did. I told him that I wanted to get married to him and he shamelessly took me to get insulted by his mother. She was really nice to me until I spoke about marriage, she changed her colors and told me that marriage wasn’t possible because I was disabled. She was rude and insulted me. I was broken. We broke up and he married the girl he cheated on me with.
你的初恋给你带来了什么人生经验？这是否影响了你未来的爱情生活？
不要太依恋。
说得好听点，我的第一个男朋友是个混蛋。他经常在情绪上虐待我。他让我觉得自己一无是处。他一直在精神上折磨我，因为我坐在轮椅上。他一直告诉我，因为我是残疾人，没有人会像他一样爱我，为我做的那么多。我非常喜欢他。我们关系最糟糕的地方是我相信了他，从而认为我一文不值，没有人会想要我。最终，他在我生日那天伤了我的心，欺骗了我。他求我把他带回去，我照做了。我告诉他，我想和他结婚，他无耻地带我去受他母亲的侮辱。在我谈到婚姻之前她对我很好，谈婚姻之时她改变了态度，告诉我，因为我是残疾人，所以不可能同意结婚。她粗鲁无礼，侮辱了我，我崩溃了。我们分手了，他娶了他出轨的那个女孩。
What life lesson did your first love teach you? Did that affected your future love life?
Don’t get too attached.
My first boyfriend was an ass, to put it nicely. He emotionally abused me quite frequently. He made me feel worthless. He kept torturing me mentally because I was on a wheelchair. He kept telling me that no one would love me and do as much as he did for me because I was disabled. I was extremely attached to him. The worst part about our relationship was that I believed him. I believed that I was worthless and that no guy would ever want me. Ultimately, he broke my heart and cheated on me on the day of my birthday. He begged me to take him back, and I did. I told him that I wanted to get married to him and he shamelessly took me to get insulted by his mother. She was really nice to me until I spoke about marriage, she changed her colors and told me that marriage wasn’t possible because I was disabled. She was rude and insulted me. I was broken. We broke up and he married the girl he cheated on me with.
你的初恋给你带来了什么人生经验？这是否影响了你未来的爱情生活？
不要太依恋。
说得好听点，我的第一个男朋友是个混蛋。他经常在情绪上虐待我。他让我觉得自己一无是处。他一直在精神上折磨我，因为我坐在轮椅上。他一直告诉我，因为我是残疾人，没有人会像他一样爱我，为我做的那么多。我非常喜欢他。我们关系最糟糕的地方是我相信了他，从而认为我一文不值，没有人会想要我。最终，他在我生日那天伤了我的心，欺骗了我。他求我把他带回去，我照做了。我告诉他，我想和他结婚，他无耻地带我去受他母亲的侮辱。在我谈到婚姻之前她对我很好，谈婚姻之时她改变了态度，告诉我，因为我是残疾人，所以不可能同意结婚。她粗鲁无礼，侮辱了我，我崩溃了。我们分手了，他娶了他出轨的那个女孩。
Because of him (and my second relationship), I learned that I shouldn’t get attached to anyone because they will hurt me, betray me, and leave me broken. It has affected my current relationship. My boyfriend is head over heels for me, as am I – but I’m more practical than romantic in our relationship. I’ve guarded my heart so I don’t get hurt. I’m blunt about things, I keep my distance so I don’t get too attached. I blame myself many times because I can’t be the girl that I was 7 years ago. I can’t love him like the crazy in love girl that I was.
I don’t know if I’ll ever stop gaurding my heart, but I know that my heart is safe from heartbreak and emotional duress.
因为他（以及我的第二段感情），我明白了我不应该与任何人结缘，因为他们会伤害我，背叛我，让我心碎。这影响了我现在的关系。我男朋友对我神魂颠倒，我也是，但如今在我们的关系中，我更注重实际，而不是浪漫。我保护了我的心，所以我不会受伤。我对事情直言不讳且保持距离，这样我就不会太依恋。我多次为我不能成为7年前的那个女孩而自责。我不能像以前那个疯狂的恋爱女孩那样爱他。
我不知道我是否会停止守护我的心，但我知道我的心是安全的，没有心碎和情感的胁迫。
I don’t know if I’ll ever stop gaurding my heart, but I know that my heart is safe from heartbreak and emotional duress.
因为他（以及我的第二段感情），我明白了我不应该与任何人结缘，因为他们会伤害我，背叛我，让我心碎。这影响了我现在的关系。我男朋友对我神魂颠倒，我也是，但如今在我们的关系中，我更注重实际，而不是浪漫。我保护了我的心，所以我不会受伤。我对事情直言不讳且保持距离，这样我就不会太依恋。我多次为我不能成为7年前的那个女孩而自责。我不能像以前那个疯狂的恋爱女孩那样爱他。
我不知道我是否会停止守护我的心，但我知道我的心是安全的，没有心碎和情感的胁迫。
Anubhav Jain
What lessons did life unintentionally teach you?
I still remember that night, it was more of a nightmare.
There were 150 brand new women's wallets lying in front of me.
Each one of them had spots of black chemical, ruining their appearence.
The supplier refused to return even one.
It was so hot, but I was sweating out of stress.
I couldn't imagine my fate and didn't know what to do but I couldn't give up .
Finally, after hundreds of different thoughts and rejections, something clicked in my mind.
I took a plastic bottle and rushed to the nearest petrol pump.
It was closed, I went to the other one, a little far away.
I asked for some petrol but they refused, they asked for a metal container.
I went back home, searched for a respectable and clean metal container.
After searching for half an hour, I found one, fixed it and went back.
生活无意中教会了你什么？
我还记得那晚，那更像是一场噩梦。
我面前有150个崭新的女性钱包。
每个钱包上都有黑色化学物质斑点，破坏了他们的外表。
供应商甚至拒绝退货。
天气很热，但我因压力而汗流浃背。
我无法想象自己的命运，也不知道该怎么办，但我也不能放弃。
最后，在经历了数百种不同的想法和否定后，我的脑海中突然出现了一些东西。
我拿了一个塑料瓶，冲向最近的加油站。
它关闭了，我去了另一个，不过有点远。
我要一些汽油，但他们拒绝了，他们得要一个金属容器才行。
我回到家里，寻找一个得体干净的金属容器。
找了半个小时后，我找到了一个，固定好了它，然后回去加油站了。
What lessons did life unintentionally teach you?
I still remember that night, it was more of a nightmare.
There were 150 brand new women's wallets lying in front of me.
Each one of them had spots of black chemical, ruining their appearence.
The supplier refused to return even one.
It was so hot, but I was sweating out of stress.
I couldn't imagine my fate and didn't know what to do but I couldn't give up .
Finally, after hundreds of different thoughts and rejections, something clicked in my mind.
I took a plastic bottle and rushed to the nearest petrol pump.
It was closed, I went to the other one, a little far away.
I asked for some petrol but they refused, they asked for a metal container.
I went back home, searched for a respectable and clean metal container.
After searching for half an hour, I found one, fixed it and went back.
生活无意中教会了你什么？
我还记得那晚，那更像是一场噩梦。
我面前有150个崭新的女性钱包。
每个钱包上都有黑色化学物质斑点，破坏了他们的外表。
供应商甚至拒绝退货。
天气很热，但我因压力而汗流浃背。
我无法想象自己的命运，也不知道该怎么办，但我也不能放弃。
最后，在经历了数百种不同的想法和否定后，我的脑海中突然出现了一些东西。
我拿了一个塑料瓶，冲向最近的加油站。
它关闭了，我去了另一个，不过有点远。
我要一些汽油，但他们拒绝了，他们得要一个金属容器才行。
我回到家里，寻找一个得体干净的金属容器。
找了半个小时后，我找到了一个，固定好了它，然后回去加油站了。
I brought back two litres of petrol.
I applied some petrol on a white cloth and started cleaning a wallet.
The first few wallets were ruined as the petrol removed their original colour along with the chemical.
I wasted a few more wallets in trying different combinations.
Finally, a very little petrol and a swift cleaning technique worked.
A wallet was completely cleaned of that stain and appeared brand new.
I took a sigh of relief, wiped my sweat and drank some chilled water.
It took me six hours non stop, but I managed to save around 130 wallets.
As the dawn breached the dark night, I saw a new morning of determination and strength.
I didn't achieve a feat but won a big war against my weakness that night.
Since that day, I don't fear miseries, I face them with pleasure and fight them to win or to lose with grace.
What lessons did life unintentionally teach me?
Never give up on life; keep trying until you succeed or life gives up on you.
我带回了两升汽油。
我在一块白布上涂了一些汽油，然后开始清理钱包。
最初的几个钱包都被破坏了，因为汽油和化学物质混在一起让钱包失去了原来的颜色。
我在尝试不同的组合时又浪费了几个钱包。
最后，少量汽油和快速清洁技术奏效了。
钱包上的污渍被彻底清理干净，看起来焕然一新。
我松了一口气，擦了擦汗，喝了些冷水。
我花了六个小时没休息，但我设法保存了大约130个钱包。
当黎明打破黑夜时，我看到了一个充满决心和力量的新早晨。
那天晚上，我没有取得什么成就，但战胜了自己的弱点，赢得了一场大战。
从那一天起，我不再害怕痛苦，我愉快地面对它们，优雅地与它们斗争，从而定输赢。
生活无意中给了我什么教训？
永远不要放弃生活；继续努力，直到你成功或者生活放弃你。
I applied some petrol on a white cloth and started cleaning a wallet.
The first few wallets were ruined as the petrol removed their original colour along with the chemical.
I wasted a few more wallets in trying different combinations.
Finally, a very little petrol and a swift cleaning technique worked.
A wallet was completely cleaned of that stain and appeared brand new.
I took a sigh of relief, wiped my sweat and drank some chilled water.
It took me six hours non stop, but I managed to save around 130 wallets.
As the dawn breached the dark night, I saw a new morning of determination and strength.
I didn't achieve a feat but won a big war against my weakness that night.
Since that day, I don't fear miseries, I face them with pleasure and fight them to win or to lose with grace.
What lessons did life unintentionally teach me?
Never give up on life; keep trying until you succeed or life gives up on you.
我带回了两升汽油。
我在一块白布上涂了一些汽油，然后开始清理钱包。
最初的几个钱包都被破坏了，因为汽油和化学物质混在一起让钱包失去了原来的颜色。
我在尝试不同的组合时又浪费了几个钱包。
最后，少量汽油和快速清洁技术奏效了。
钱包上的污渍被彻底清理干净，看起来焕然一新。
我松了一口气，擦了擦汗，喝了些冷水。
我花了六个小时没休息，但我设法保存了大约130个钱包。
当黎明打破黑夜时，我看到了一个充满决心和力量的新早晨。
那天晚上，我没有取得什么成就，但战胜了自己的弱点，赢得了一场大战。
从那一天起，我不再害怕痛苦，我愉快地面对它们，优雅地与它们斗争，从而定输赢。
生活无意中给了我什么教训？
永远不要放弃生活；继续努力，直到你成功或者生活放弃你。
Bassam Atheeque
What can you teach me that can be useful in my life?
The 15 Cardinal Rules of Life:
Good Relationship > Being Single >>>>>> Shitty Relationship
Never leave your parents. They are the reason you are here.
Personality is not set in stone. You are able to take control or change it the way you like.
People say “Follow your heart”. Not in every situation guys. Instead “Listen to your heart. Act With Your Brain”
Never get confused to sext between love and friendship. Both have their respective parts to play
Try to replace SORRY with THANK YOU in certain situations. For example, instead of saying “Sorry for being late”, you can say “Thank you for waiting”. It sounds more diplomatic.
你能教我什么对我的生活有用？
人生的15条基本规则：
良好的关系好过单身，远好过肮脏的关系
永远不要离开你的父母。他们是你来到世上的原因。
个性不是一成不变的。你可以随心所欲地控制或改变它。
人们说“随心而动”。伙计们，不是所有情况都是这样的。而是“倾听你的心声，用你的大脑控制行动”
永远不要在爱情和友谊之间做出选择。两者都有各自的定位
在某些情况下，尝试用“谢谢”代替“抱歉”。例如，你可以说“谢谢你的等待”，而不是说“抱歉迟到了”。这听起来更灵活变通。
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What can you teach me that can be useful in my life?
The 15 Cardinal Rules of Life:
Good Relationship > Being Single >>>>>> Shitty Relationship
Never leave your parents. They are the reason you are here.
Personality is not set in stone. You are able to take control or change it the way you like.
People say “Follow your heart”. Not in every situation guys. Instead “Listen to your heart. Act With Your Brain”
Never get confused to sext between love and friendship. Both have their respective parts to play
Try to replace SORRY with THANK YOU in certain situations. For example, instead of saying “Sorry for being late”, you can say “Thank you for waiting”. It sounds more diplomatic.
你能教我什么对我的生活有用？
人生的15条基本规则：
良好的关系好过单身，远好过肮脏的关系
永远不要离开你的父母。他们是你来到世上的原因。
个性不是一成不变的。你可以随心所欲地控制或改变它。
人们说“随心而动”。伙计们，不是所有情况都是这样的。而是“倾听你的心声，用你的大脑控制行动”
永远不要在爱情和友谊之间做出选择。两者都有各自的定位
在某些情况下，尝试用“谢谢”代替“抱歉”。例如，你可以说“谢谢你的等待”，而不是说“抱歉迟到了”。这听起来更灵活变通。
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Never get too emotionally attached to anyone except your parents
People say “Follow your passion”, I agree but with a slight modification. I believe “Follow your passion only if it is worthwhile”. Don’t rub two wet stones to make a fire.
Time heals almost everything. Give some time and experience the change
Thoughts control your Feelings. Feelings control your Actions. Actions control your Results. POSITIVE THOUGHTS = POSITIVE RESULTS
When in anger, isolate yourself. Give yourself some time. Finally think about the situation again with a calm mind
SMOKING, DRINKING, GETTING HIGH ISN’T COOL. The sooner you realise it, the better your life would be.
Stop complaining all the time. SHIT HAPPENS. That is life. Learn to have an optimistic approach
Don’t just read; start ANSWERING on Quora. But not primarily for upvotes or followers. Experiment with your vocab, come up with new ideas, share your experiences, build your skills! Things don’t come to you, you have to go grab them!
除了你的父母，千万不要对任何人过于依恋。
人们说“追随你的激情”，我赞同，但略有修改。我相信“只有当你的激情值得的时候，才能追随它”。不要摩擦两块湿石头来生火。
时间几乎可以治愈一切，给点时间去体验一下变化。
思想控制着你的感觉，感觉控制着你的行动，行动控制你的结果，积极的想法=积极的结果。
愤怒时，隔离自己，给自己一些时间。最后，以冷静的心态重新思考一下情况。
抽烟、喝酒、醉生梦死都不酷。你越早意识到这一点，你的生活就会越好。
别老是抱怨了，不好的事情时常发生。这就是生活，学会采取乐观的态度。
不要只是阅读；在Quora上开始回答。但并非主要针对点赞的人或关注的人。尝试发出你的声音，提出新的想法，分享你的经验，培养你的技能！事情不会自己找上门来，你得自己去争取。
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People say “Follow your passion”, I agree but with a slight modification. I believe “Follow your passion only if it is worthwhile”. Don’t rub two wet stones to make a fire.
Time heals almost everything. Give some time and experience the change
Thoughts control your Feelings. Feelings control your Actions. Actions control your Results. POSITIVE THOUGHTS = POSITIVE RESULTS
When in anger, isolate yourself. Give yourself some time. Finally think about the situation again with a calm mind
SMOKING, DRINKING, GETTING HIGH ISN’T COOL. The sooner you realise it, the better your life would be.
Stop complaining all the time. SHIT HAPPENS. That is life. Learn to have an optimistic approach
Don’t just read; start ANSWERING on Quora. But not primarily for upvotes or followers. Experiment with your vocab, come up with new ideas, share your experiences, build your skills! Things don’t come to you, you have to go grab them!
除了你的父母，千万不要对任何人过于依恋。
人们说“追随你的激情”，我赞同，但略有修改。我相信“只有当你的激情值得的时候，才能追随它”。不要摩擦两块湿石头来生火。
时间几乎可以治愈一切，给点时间去体验一下变化。
思想控制着你的感觉，感觉控制着你的行动，行动控制你的结果，积极的想法=积极的结果。
愤怒时，隔离自己，给自己一些时间。最后，以冷静的心态重新思考一下情况。
抽烟、喝酒、醉生梦死都不酷。你越早意识到这一点，你的生活就会越好。
别老是抱怨了，不好的事情时常发生。这就是生活，学会采取乐观的态度。
不要只是阅读；在Quora上开始回答。但并非主要针对点赞的人或关注的人。尝试发出你的声音，提出新的想法，分享你的经验，培养你的技能！事情不会自己找上门来，你得自己去争取。
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Anonymous
Do you know about any love story which worked later in life after years of separation?
Mine, I guess. It was all a random sequence of events, the universe conspiring to bring us together.
When we were little, me and P used to play together in the playground near our house. Our father worked in the government sector. Looking back at it, P always had a crush on me. He'd never let the bullies get to me.
When P's father passed away when he was eight, he and his mum had to move away. I remember crying. And saying the last good byes. I thought I'll never meet him again.
你知道有什么爱情故事在分开多年后仍给你的生活带来影响吗？
我想是我的故事吧。这一切都是一系列随机事件，宇宙密谋将我们聚在一起。
当我们小的时候，我和P经常一起在我家附近的操场上玩。我们的父亲在政府部门工作。回头看，P一直喜欢我。他从来不会让欺负我的人接近我。
当P的父亲在他八岁时去世时，他和他的母亲不得不搬走。我记得哭过，最后道别。我曾以为我再也见不到他了。
Do you know about any love story which worked later in life after years of separation?
Mine, I guess. It was all a random sequence of events, the universe conspiring to bring us together.
When we were little, me and P used to play together in the playground near our house. Our father worked in the government sector. Looking back at it, P always had a crush on me. He'd never let the bullies get to me.
When P's father passed away when he was eight, he and his mum had to move away. I remember crying. And saying the last good byes. I thought I'll never meet him again.
你知道有什么爱情故事在分开多年后仍给你的生活带来影响吗？
我想是我的故事吧。这一切都是一系列随机事件，宇宙密谋将我们聚在一起。
当我们小的时候，我和P经常一起在我家附近的操场上玩。我们的父亲在政府部门工作。回头看，P一直喜欢我。他从来不会让欺负我的人接近我。
当P的父亲在他八岁时去世时，他和他的母亲不得不搬走。我记得哭过，最后道别。我曾以为我再也见不到他了。
I was so wrong.
When I was sixteen, we went on a school trip to the capital city. I saw him in a busy street market. I recognized him from the scar he had on the forehead, from one of those fights in the playground. He was obviously on a date, holding a girl's hand, looking at souvenirs. I wanted to approach him, but I lost him in the crowds.
I was 21 years old, on vacation to India. I was in a temple with my adoptive family. And I saw P again, engrossed in a ritual. He was beside his wife and his newborn. They looked very happy. It was one of those rituals where one does to offer gratitude to the Goddesses when they finally receive the blessings of a child after many years of trying. I wanted to approach him, but the rituals was taking place and the tour bus was leaving.
I was 24 years old and have just ended a very bad relationship. I was young, just completed my graduation and applied to one of the top MNC company. And there he was, one of the interview panel. He barely recognized me and drilled me really hard. I passed and got the job. He was a part of the board of directors and we rarely crossed path.
我错了。
当我十六岁的时候，我们去了首都的学校参观。我在一个繁忙的街市看到他。我从他额头上的伤疤，从操场上的一场打斗中认出了他。他显然是在约会，握着一个女孩的手，看着纪念品。我想接近他，但我在人群中把他弄丢了。
我21岁，正在印度度假。我和与我存在收养关系的家人在一座寺庙里。我又看到了P，全神贯注于一种仪式。他在妻子和新生儿身边。他们看起来很高兴。这是一种仪式，当女神们经过多年的努力终于得到孩子的祝福时，人们会向她们表示感谢。我想接近他，但仪式正在进行，旅游巴士即将离开。
我24岁，刚刚结束了一段非常糟糕的关系。我很年轻，刚刚毕业，申请了一家顶级跨国公司的职位。他在那里，是面试小组的一员。他几乎认不出我来，还狠狠地训了我一顿。我通过了考试，得到了这份工作。他是董事会的一员，我们很少有交集。
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When I was sixteen, we went on a school trip to the capital city. I saw him in a busy street market. I recognized him from the scar he had on the forehead, from one of those fights in the playground. He was obviously on a date, holding a girl's hand, looking at souvenirs. I wanted to approach him, but I lost him in the crowds.
I was 21 years old, on vacation to India. I was in a temple with my adoptive family. And I saw P again, engrossed in a ritual. He was beside his wife and his newborn. They looked very happy. It was one of those rituals where one does to offer gratitude to the Goddesses when they finally receive the blessings of a child after many years of trying. I wanted to approach him, but the rituals was taking place and the tour bus was leaving.
I was 24 years old and have just ended a very bad relationship. I was young, just completed my graduation and applied to one of the top MNC company. And there he was, one of the interview panel. He barely recognized me and drilled me really hard. I passed and got the job. He was a part of the board of directors and we rarely crossed path.
我错了。
当我十六岁的时候，我们去了首都的学校参观。我在一个繁忙的街市看到他。我从他额头上的伤疤，从操场上的一场打斗中认出了他。他显然是在约会，握着一个女孩的手，看着纪念品。我想接近他，但我在人群中把他弄丢了。
我21岁，正在印度度假。我和与我存在收养关系的家人在一座寺庙里。我又看到了P，全神贯注于一种仪式。他在妻子和新生儿身边。他们看起来很高兴。这是一种仪式，当女神们经过多年的努力终于得到孩子的祝福时，人们会向她们表示感谢。我想接近他，但仪式正在进行，旅游巴士即将离开。
我24岁，刚刚结束了一段非常糟糕的关系。我很年轻，刚刚毕业，申请了一家顶级跨国公司的职位。他在那里，是面试小组的一员。他几乎认不出我来，还狠狠地训了我一顿。我通过了考试，得到了这份工作。他是董事会的一员，我们很少有交集。
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I worked there for a year or two and got promoted. The company was down sizing and the organization was restructured. Somehow we ended up being in the same project. I heard from the office gossips that he is now a divorcee and the wife has full custody of his daughter.
The project brought us really close. It was a late evening and after a celebration with colleagues on the project's success, the both us went for a drinks. One lead to another, we ended up in the same bed at his apartment. I walked around his house, wondering if I'll ever be a part of his life.
The next day, he submitted his resignation. He had accepted another offer in an overseas country. I was broken into a hundred pieces. I never told him who I was and my feelings for him. It was just a one night stand for him and I left it at that. He was happy to finally get a chance to be in the same country as his daughter and ex-wife.
我在那里工作了一两年，得到了晋升。该公司正在缩小规模，并对组织进行了重组。不知怎么的，我们最终还是在同一个项目中。我从办公室里听到流言，说他现在离婚了，妻子全权抚养他的女儿。
这个项目使我们非常接近。那是一个深夜，在与同事庆祝项目成功后，我们两人一起去喝酒，一杯接一杯的喝，我们最终睡在他公寓的同一张床上。我在他的房子里走来走去，想知道我是否会成为他生活的一部分。
第二天，他递交了辞呈。他在海外接受了另一份工作。我心碎万分。我从来没有告诉他我是谁，也没告诉他我对他的感情。对他来说，这只是一夜情，我就这样离开了。他很高兴终于有机会和他的女儿和前妻待在同一个国家了。
The project brought us really close. It was a late evening and after a celebration with colleagues on the project's success, the both us went for a drinks. One lead to another, we ended up in the same bed at his apartment. I walked around his house, wondering if I'll ever be a part of his life.
The next day, he submitted his resignation. He had accepted another offer in an overseas country. I was broken into a hundred pieces. I never told him who I was and my feelings for him. It was just a one night stand for him and I left it at that. He was happy to finally get a chance to be in the same country as his daughter and ex-wife.
我在那里工作了一两年，得到了晋升。该公司正在缩小规模，并对组织进行了重组。不知怎么的，我们最终还是在同一个项目中。我从办公室里听到流言，说他现在离婚了，妻子全权抚养他的女儿。
这个项目使我们非常接近。那是一个深夜，在与同事庆祝项目成功后，我们两人一起去喝酒，一杯接一杯的喝，我们最终睡在他公寓的同一张床上。我在他的房子里走来走去，想知道我是否会成为他生活的一部分。
第二天，他递交了辞呈。他在海外接受了另一份工作。我心碎万分。我从来没有告诉他我是谁，也没告诉他我对他的感情。对他来说，这只是一夜情，我就这样离开了。他很高兴终于有机会和他的女儿和前妻待在同一个国家了。
Fast forward another 5 years. My parents are looking for a groom for me, they'd had lost all hopes that I'll actually find one. At the age of 32, my pool of choice wasn't so big. I was told that there's a well accomplished married man of thirties, he's divorcee and have a daughter. It was P.
I agreed to meet him at a park nearby. I asked him for the reasons of looking for a spouse now. Was it just because he needs a mother for his daughter? Or because life's too dull without a companion to travel together? I was skeptical. Life has changed me to a certain degree.
He told me, how he had known me all the while. The little girl who used to play with him. He told me, how I'd always had a very special place in his heart. He was too afraid to ruin our relationship with a proposal. But now, we are all getting a little too old for games, and he doesn't want to have regrets on his deathbed.
He and his little daughter proposed me with white tulips and a silver ring. I accepted with all my heart.
快进5年。我的父母正在为我找一个新郎，他们已经对我真的能找到一个归宿失去了希望。32岁时，我的选择范围并没有那么大。有人告诉我，有一个30多岁很有成就的已婚男子，他离婚了，还有一个女儿，是P。
我同意在附近的公园和他见面。我问他现在找配偶的原因。只是因为他需要一个母亲来照顾他的女儿吗？还是因为没有一起旅行的同伴，或者是生活太沉闷？我持怀疑态度，生活在一定程度上改变了我。
他告诉我，他是怎么始终认识我的。认出我是那个曾经和他一起玩的小女孩。他告诉我，我在他心中一直有一个非常特别的位置。他太害怕通过一个提议破坏我们的关系。但现在，我们都太老了，不适合玩感情游戏了，他不想在临终前留下遗憾。
他和他的小女儿用白色郁金香和一枚银戒指向我求婚，我诚心诚意地接受了。
I agreed to meet him at a park nearby. I asked him for the reasons of looking for a spouse now. Was it just because he needs a mother for his daughter? Or because life's too dull without a companion to travel together? I was skeptical. Life has changed me to a certain degree.
He told me, how he had known me all the while. The little girl who used to play with him. He told me, how I'd always had a very special place in his heart. He was too afraid to ruin our relationship with a proposal. But now, we are all getting a little too old for games, and he doesn't want to have regrets on his deathbed.
He and his little daughter proposed me with white tulips and a silver ring. I accepted with all my heart.
快进5年。我的父母正在为我找一个新郎，他们已经对我真的能找到一个归宿失去了希望。32岁时，我的选择范围并没有那么大。有人告诉我，有一个30多岁很有成就的已婚男子，他离婚了，还有一个女儿，是P。
我同意在附近的公园和他见面。我问他现在找配偶的原因。只是因为他需要一个母亲来照顾他的女儿吗？还是因为没有一起旅行的同伴，或者是生活太沉闷？我持怀疑态度，生活在一定程度上改变了我。
他告诉我，他是怎么始终认识我的。认出我是那个曾经和他一起玩的小女孩。他告诉我，我在他心中一直有一个非常特别的位置。他太害怕通过一个提议破坏我们的关系。但现在，我们都太老了，不适合玩感情游戏了，他不想在临终前留下遗憾。
他和他的小女儿用白色郁金香和一枚银戒指向我求婚，我诚心诚意地接受了。
Fatema Tuz Zohra
How can I forget my first love? It has been a month since our break up and I am still missing and loving her so much. She is in a relationship with another guy now.
I am so sorry. To erase the memory of first love from mind is not that easy. But if there’s no chance to patch up then you have to erase her. First few months will be very tough, my friend. I have gone through it. Whenever you will be alone you will miss her and you will want to communicate with her. But you should not do that. Time is the best healer.
If she is happy with other guy now or she has broken your heart for someone else then you should feel lucky for that. You haven’t done anything wrong. She wasn't right for you. I know how hard it is when you are in love with a wrong person. But you have to move on. You have your whole life to live. You don't afford to spend time crying or hurting yourself remembering who is not yours anymore,
我怎么能忘记我的初恋？我们分手已经一个月了，我仍然非常想念和爱她。但她现在和另一个男人谈恋爱。
我很难过，从脑海中抹去初恋的记忆并不是那么容易。但如果没有修补的机会，你就必须抹掉她。我的朋友，开始的几个月会很艰难，我已经经历过了。每当你独自一人时，你会想念她，会想和她交流。但你不应该这样做，时间是最好的治疗者。
如果她现在和其他男人在一起很开心，或者她为其他人伤了你的心，那么你应该为此感到幸运。你没有做错什么，她不适合你。我知道当你爱上一个错误的人是多么困难。但你必须继续前进，你有你的整个人生。你不能花时间哭泣或伤害自己回记那个不再属于你的人。
How can I forget my first love? It has been a month since our break up and I am still missing and loving her so much. She is in a relationship with another guy now.
I am so sorry. To erase the memory of first love from mind is not that easy. But if there’s no chance to patch up then you have to erase her. First few months will be very tough, my friend. I have gone through it. Whenever you will be alone you will miss her and you will want to communicate with her. But you should not do that. Time is the best healer.
If she is happy with other guy now or she has broken your heart for someone else then you should feel lucky for that. You haven’t done anything wrong. She wasn't right for you. I know how hard it is when you are in love with a wrong person. But you have to move on. You have your whole life to live. You don't afford to spend time crying or hurting yourself remembering who is not yours anymore,
我怎么能忘记我的初恋？我们分手已经一个月了，我仍然非常想念和爱她。但她现在和另一个男人谈恋爱。
我很难过，从脑海中抹去初恋的记忆并不是那么容易。但如果没有修补的机会，你就必须抹掉她。我的朋友，开始的几个月会很艰难，我已经经历过了。每当你独自一人时，你会想念她，会想和她交流。但你不应该这样做，时间是最好的治疗者。
如果她现在和其他男人在一起很开心，或者她为其他人伤了你的心，那么你应该为此感到幸运。你没有做错什么，她不适合你。我知道当你爱上一个错误的人是多么困难。但你必须继续前进，你有你的整个人生。你不能花时间哭泣或伤害自己回记那个不再属于你的人。
I would like to suggest you something that helped me:
First of all, change your daily routine. What you used to do these days replace these activities with something new that you love.
If you used to watch romantic movies before stop watching that kind of movies. Start watching the action and award-winning thematic movies.
Please don't follow any motivational speaker(My personal opinion) blindly. Because those speeches just inspire us as long as we are in front of them. You should make motivation for yourself. Self-motivation is worth following.
You know what hurts you, stop doing that. And make a list of those things that give you happiness.
Spend time with your family & friends. Travel different places. Nature helps to calm down our souls. So take yourself close to nature. Take part in adventures with friends & family. Be safe.
Live your life exactly how you wanted it to be. Concentrate on your fitness and join a gym or do it at home.
Do something creative like music, creative writing, painting, photography or anything else of your interest. Keep your mind active and busy enough to get tired. You should have enough sleep at least 8-9 hours.
我想给你一些对我有过帮助的建议：
首先，改变你的日常生活：这些天你经常做的事，用你喜欢的新事物来代替这些活动。
如果你以前经常看浪漫电影，就不要再看那种电影了。开始观看动作片和获奖主题电影。
请不要盲目地听从任何有动机的演讲者（我个人的意见）。因为只要我们在他们面前，这些演讲就会激励我们。你应该为自己创造动力。自我激励值得追随。
你知道什么会伤害你，停止这样做。把那些给你快乐的事情列一个清单。
与家人和朋友共度时光。去不同的地方旅行。大自然有助于让我们的灵魂平静下来。所以，让自己接近自然。与朋友和家人一起进行安全的冒险。
按照你想要的方式生活。专注于健身，加入健身房或在家里锻炼。
做一些有创意的事情，比如音乐、创意写作、绘画、摄影或其他你感兴趣的事情。让你的大脑保持活跃和忙碌，以避免疲劳。你应该至少有8-9小时的充足睡眠。
First of all, change your daily routine. What you used to do these days replace these activities with something new that you love.
If you used to watch romantic movies before stop watching that kind of movies. Start watching the action and award-winning thematic movies.
Please don't follow any motivational speaker(My personal opinion) blindly. Because those speeches just inspire us as long as we are in front of them. You should make motivation for yourself. Self-motivation is worth following.
You know what hurts you, stop doing that. And make a list of those things that give you happiness.
Spend time with your family & friends. Travel different places. Nature helps to calm down our souls. So take yourself close to nature. Take part in adventures with friends & family. Be safe.
Live your life exactly how you wanted it to be. Concentrate on your fitness and join a gym or do it at home.
Do something creative like music, creative writing, painting, photography or anything else of your interest. Keep your mind active and busy enough to get tired. You should have enough sleep at least 8-9 hours.
我想给你一些对我有过帮助的建议：
首先，改变你的日常生活：这些天你经常做的事，用你喜欢的新事物来代替这些活动。
如果你以前经常看浪漫电影，就不要再看那种电影了。开始观看动作片和获奖主题电影。
请不要盲目地听从任何有动机的演讲者（我个人的意见）。因为只要我们在他们面前，这些演讲就会激励我们。你应该为自己创造动力。自我激励值得追随。
你知道什么会伤害你，停止这样做。把那些给你快乐的事情列一个清单。
与家人和朋友共度时光。去不同的地方旅行。大自然有助于让我们的灵魂平静下来。所以，让自己接近自然。与朋友和家人一起进行安全的冒险。
按照你想要的方式生活。专注于健身，加入健身房或在家里锻炼。
做一些有创意的事情，比如音乐、创意写作、绘画、摄影或其他你感兴趣的事情。让你的大脑保持活跃和忙碌，以避免疲劳。你应该至少有8-9小时的充足睡眠。
Say these every day when you face yourself in the mirror
Life is beautiful
I love myself.
Smile!
Be thankful to God for your life. Be yourself. Follow your heart. Don't try to escape. Face the situation bravely. You are going to win the world, my friend. I have won my race. You will too! I'll tell you my story someday, I guess.It's a new life. Taste it.
Best wishes.
每天当你面对镜子时说这些：
生活是美好的
我爱我自己。
微笑。
感谢上帝赐予你的生命，做你自己，跟随你的心。不要试图逃跑。勇敢地面对形势。你会赢得世界的，我的朋友。我赢得了比赛。你也会的！我想有一天我会告诉你我的故事，这是一种新的生活，试试吧。
最美好的祝福。
Life is beautiful
I love myself.
Smile!
Be thankful to God for your life. Be yourself. Follow your heart. Don't try to escape. Face the situation bravely. You are going to win the world, my friend. I have won my race. You will too! I'll tell you my story someday, I guess.It's a new life. Taste it.
Best wishes.
每天当你面对镜子时说这些：
生活是美好的
我爱我自己。
微笑。
感谢上帝赐予你的生命，做你自己，跟随你的心。不要试图逃跑。勇敢地面对形势。你会赢得世界的，我的朋友。我赢得了比赛。你也会的！我想有一天我会告诉你我的故事，这是一种新的生活，试试吧。
最美好的祝福。
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