生活中有哪些教训人们往往学会的太晚？

Shivam Mishra
Never complain in life , since what you have is sufficient ..!!!!

在生活中永远不要抱怨，因为你所拥有的是足够的..！！！！

This story was narrated by a professor at Convo of Harvard University for Graduates in Taj , Mumbai.

这个故事是在孟买泰姬陵的哈佛大学毕业生座谈会上一位教授讲述的。

Once upon a time, in a village lived a stonecutter. He use to cut stones, sell them and earn food for himself and his family.

从前，在一个村庄里住着一个石匠，他过去常常切割石头，出售它们并为自己和家人赚取食物。

One day, while returning from stone cutting business he got extremely tired. At the same time a king's troops rallied. Stonecutter thought how lucky king is, he has nothing to do. No hardwork require and there is so much of leisure in his life. He wished for being a king.

有一天，当他做完石料切割生意回来时，他感到非常疲惫。与此同时，一个国王的军队集结了。石匠想，国王是多么幸运，他没有任何事情可做。在他的生活中不需要辛勤工作，而且有那么多的闲暇时间，他希望能成为一个国王。

His wish accepted. He was made king.

他的愿望被接受，成为了国王。

When he was king, again he rallied with his troops. He was wearing a heavy metallic crown on his head. That day sun was scorching and it irritated the stonecutter due to heat. He could not remove it as it was pride of a king.

当他成为国王时，再次与他的部队集结。他的头上戴着沉重的金属皇冠。那一天，烈日炎炎，由于天气炎热，使石匠很是恼火。他无法摘下它，因为这是国王的骄傲。

He thought sun is so powerful, and wished for being a sun.

他认为太阳是如此强大，并希望成为一个太阳。

His wish accepted and he was made Sun

他的愿望被接受，成了太阳
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He enjoyed being sun, the most powerful and provide sunlight to livings on earth. But then monsoon arrived and the black clouds overpowered sun's rays. All the rays of powerful sun was diminished by dense clouds.

他享受成为太阳，为地球上的生物提供最强烈的阳光。但随后季风到来，乌云遮住了阳光。浓密的云层减弱了强烈的太阳光线。

Again the stonecutter thought clouds are more powerful than sun. So he wished for being clouds.

石匠再次认为云比太阳更有力量。所以他希望成为云。

His wished accepted and he was made cloud.

他的愿望被接受，成为了云。

On becoming clouds he was very happy. He used to block the sun's rays and shower rains. People on earth felt very happy. He felt happy too. Untill a strong mountain came into way of cloud. The cloud collided with heavy mountain and was bursted. Then stonecutter thought mountains are most powerful and he wished for being a giant mountain.

变成云后，他非常高兴。他曾经挡住了太阳的光线，并下起了雨。地球上的人们感到非常高兴。他也感到很高兴。直到一座坚固的山挡住了云的去路。云与山相撞，被撞散了。然后，石匠认为山是最强大的，他希望成为一座大山。
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His wish accepted and he was made mountain.

他的愿望被接受，他成为了山。

On being mountain he felt ecstatic and enjoyed his immense power and strength. One day one stonecutter came and started breaking mountains for stones. Days after days he continued to break mountain stones. And one day mountain was broken. Then he thought that stone cutter can break such a giant mountain. He is the most powerful.

成为山后，他感到欣喜若狂，并享受着他巨大的力量和实力。有一天，一个石匠来了，开始破山取石，日复一日，他继续打碎山石。有一天，山被打破了。然后他想，石匠能打破这样一座巨山，他是最强大的。

His wish accepted and he was made stonecutter

他的愿望被接受，成为了石匠。
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Result is whatever you are. You are powerful , strong and rich. Never compare yourself with anyone else. People who compare themselves are always sad with something or the other.

结果是不论你是什么，你就是强大的坚强的富有的。永远不要把自己与其他人比较。与自己比较的人总是对某些事情感到难过。

So be yourself. Live life. Life is too short to complain about it.

所以做你自己，活出生命，生命太短不能抱怨。
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Cheers to Life...!!!!!

为生活干杯......!!!!!

Milena Rangelov
Here are my 10 answers. They are based on my experience and although they might seem like "hey, everyone knows it", the truth is that most people don't implement them, forget about them and realize later than they should. It is also good reminder to all of us. So here we go.

以下是我的10个回答。它们是基于我的经验，尽管它们可能看起来像 "每个人都知道"，但事实是，大多数人没有实施它们，忘记它们，并且比他们应该意识到的要晚。这也是对我们所有人的良好提醒。因此，我们开始吧。

You are the only one responsible for yourself and for your success. I am responsible for mine. Thinking anything else is wasting your energy. So don't blame your parents, spouse, children, friends, aunts and uncles. It is you, you and only you.

你是唯一需要对自己和成功负责的人。我对我自己负责。想别的都是在浪费你的精力。所以不要责怪你的父母、配偶、孩子、朋友、姑姑和叔叔。是你，是你，也只有你。

Life is short. There are no special occasions. Don't wait for them. Today is the special occasion. Buy yourself an ice cream/beer/ wear that nice shirt. Today!

生命是短暂的，没有什么特别的场合，不要等待它们，今天就是特殊场合，给自己买个冰激凌/啤酒/穿上那件漂亮的衬衫，今天!

If something bothers you change it. If it is beyond your control, learn to live with it. Accept it. Change yourself. That is the only thing you can influence.

如果有什么事情让你感到困扰，就改变它，如果它是你无法控制的，那就学会忍受它接受它改变你自己。这是你唯一能影响的事情。

You will regret the things you didn't do much more than ones you did. So... action!

你会对你没有做的事情比你做的事情更后悔。所以......行动起来吧!

"Future you", imaginary person that has perfect weight, looks great, gets up early, smiles and loves his/her job, will never become as great if "present you" don't do something.

“未来的你”是一个想象中的人，拥有完美的体重，看起来很棒，早起，微笑，热爱自己的工作，如果“现在的你”不做任何事情，他将永远不会变得那么伟大。
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Prioritize your health, rest and happiness. No one will do that for you. There will always be more work.

把你的健康、休息和快乐放在首位，没有人会为你做这些，总是会有更多的工作。

Don't ruin your health in order to earn money. You will end up spending your money to recover your health and that is not reciprocal.

不要为了挣钱而毁掉你的健康，你最终会用你的钱来恢复你的健康，这是不对等的。

Besides of 1. and 3. the biggest time and energy wasters are: TV, people pleasing, perfectionism, envy, regret, obsessive dieting and house cleaning. You can refocus your time and energy in so much better ways.

除了1和3之外，最大的时间和精力浪费者是，电视、取悦他人、完美主义、嫉妒、后悔、强迫性节食和家庭清洁，你可以把你的时间和精力重新集中到更好的方式上。

We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day and to underestimate what we can do in a year (or a lifetime). Start today, start small. Drops will fill the bucket.

我们倾向于高估我们一天能做的事情，而低估我们一年（或一生）能做的事情，从今天开始，从小事开始，水滴会填满这个桶。

If you waste money, you can earn it again. If you miss the moment, it can never be returned. Live life with opened eyes, ears, heart!

如果你浪费钱，你可以再赚。如果你错过了这一刻，它就永远无法返回。张开眼睛、耳朵、心来生活吧!

EXTRA: "It is too late," is just an excuse. You can always change the course. You can always reinvent yourself.

另外："太晚了，"这只是一个借口。你总是可以改变方向来重塑自己。

I hope my answers were inspiring! :)

我希望我的回答能给大家带来启发 :)
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Vinit Dave
The moment poverty walks in through the door, love and peace toss themselves out of the window.

当贫穷走进家门时，爱与和平就从窗户里消失了。

The only place where success comes before work is dictionary!

唯一一个成功先于工作的地方是字典！

Whatever you are today is the result of your past actions. Every decision matters. You are responsible for your life and have the complete authority to make it or break it.

无论你今天是什么，都是你过去行为的结果。每个决定都很重要。你对你的生活负责，并有完全的权力来创造它或破坏它。

Life is unfair. Don't moan. Don't complain. Learn to be thick skinned. Make the most of what you can.

生活是不公平的，不要呻吟不要抱怨，学会脸皮厚，充分利用你能做的。

Its not about how hard you can hit. Its about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.

这不是关于你能打多重。这是关于你能受到多大的打击并继续前进。

You can't litter negativity everywhere and wonder why you have a trashy life.

你不能到处乱扔消极情绪，要知道为什么你的生活很垃圾。

Over thinking ruins you. It ruins the situation, twists things around, makes you worry about futile questions and makes everything much worse than actually it is.

过度思考会毁了你。它破坏了情况，扭曲了事情，让你担心徒劳的问题，让一切都比实际情况更糟。

Not everyone will make it to your future. Some people are passing through to teach you lessons in life.

不是每个人都参与你的未来，有些人是路过的，是为了给你的生活上课。

Never trust a person who has seriously let you down more than two times. Once was the warning, twice was a lesson and anything beyond that is simply taking advantage. (This is my personal opinion. You may choose to differ.)

永远不要相信一个让你失望超过两次的人。一次是警告，两次是教训，超过了就是被利用。(这是我的个人观点，你可以选择不同意见）。

If you write a person "I Love You" and they reply you back with an emoji (No matter what that emoji is) they don't love you back.

如果你给一个人写了 "我爱你"，而他们用一个表情符号回复你（不管那是什么表情符号），他们并不爱你。
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Dress to impress.

穿着打扮，给人留下深刻印象。

Don't be emotionally attached to anyone. People change. Even your besties may probably turn into strangers one day.

不要对任何人有感情上的依赖，人是会变的，即使是你的好友，也可能在某一天变成陌生人。

Just because you miss someone doesn't mean you need them back in your life. Missing is a part of getting over.

仅仅因为你想念某人并不意味着你需要他们回到你的生活中，思念是克服的一部分。

Time heals everything.

时间可以治愈一切。

Your parents are your greatest assets. Respect and cherish them.

你的父母是你最宝贵的，尊重和珍惜他们。

What others think of you is not your problem. Numbers don't define you. Numbers like marks, money, number of cars, houses etc. Not all human attributes and characteristics (like honesty, humility, courage etc.) can be defined by numbers. People out there judging you, make their life simple by comparing you on the basis of numbers.

别人对你的看法不是你的问题。数字并不能定义你。数字如分数、金钱、汽车数量、房子等。不是所有的人类属性和特征（如诚实、谦逊、勇气等）都可以用数字来定义。外面的人评判你，在数字的基础上对你进行比较，使他们的生活变得简单。

Learn to let go, even if you are right.

学会放手，即使你是对的。

Smile. You don't own all the problems in the world.

微笑，你并不拥有世界上所有的问题。

Eventually all pieces will fall into place. Until then laugh at the confusion, live in the moment and know that everything happens for a reason.

最终所有的部分都会落到位，在那之前笑对困惑活在当下，知道一切都是有原因的。

Gilad James
The body dies slowly... oh so slowly... due to the marvel of modern medicine you could easily spend the last 5-10 years of your life being stuck in a bed without the ability to do pretty much anything.

身体会慢慢死去......哦，这么慢......由于现代医学的奇迹，你很容易在生命的最后5-10年里被困在床上，几乎没有能力做任何事情。

The constant pain? That's the least of your problems.

持续的疼痛？那是你的最小问题。

No walking. No talking. No eating. No friends. No parties. No dancing. No events. No socializing. No reading. No arguing. No laughing. Even wiping your own behind will be something you will need external help with.

不能走路说话吃饭，没有朋友没有聚会，不跳舞没有活动，没有社交活动，不读书，不争吵，没有笑声，甚至擦拭你自己的屁股都需要外部帮助。

If you are lucky some people that claim to be your family members will occasionally come to visit you once in a while for a few hours. You can't really communicate with them, and they talk to you like an idiot... but it's ok though, you only understand about 10% of what they are talking about anyways.

如果你幸运的话，一些自称是你家人的人偶尔会来探望你几个小时。你无法与他们真正沟通，他们像个白痴一样跟你说话......不过没关系，反正你只能理解他们所说的10%。

It's not for a week or a month. Years and years of living like that. Patiently awaiting death to come save you from this horrific torture.

这不是一个星期或一个月，像那样生活了很多年，耐心等待死亡将你从这种可怕的折磨中解救出来。

You had all your life to reach the right conclusions, but you avoided it. Well now you have all the time in the world to really think about what you could have done with your life. What you should have done.

你有一生的时间来得出正确的结论，但你避免了，现在你有所有的时间来真正思考你的生活本可以做什么，你应该做什么。
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Don't take your body for granted. One day you might not be able to get out of bed. Give gratitude and love every day to all your body parts and organs. Not only with words (Some healing modalities believe that your organs have souls too), love your body by taking care of it. Exercise, stretch, eat right. Your body serves you so well, serve it in return.

不要认为你的身体是理所当然的。有一天你可能无法下床。每天对你身体的所有部位和器官给予感激和爱。不仅仅是用语言（一些治疗方式相信你的器官也有灵魂），通过照顾身体来爱你的身体。锻炼、拉伸、正确饮食。你的身体将很好地为你服务，作为回报。

Don't take your relationships for granted. One day you might not be able to have any real relationships. Give gratitude and love every day to all your relationships. Don't waste your precious time on people that don't deserve it.

不要认为你的关系是理所当然的。有一天你可能无法拥有任何真正的关系。每天对你所有的关系给予感激和爱。不要把你的宝贵时间浪费在不值得的人身上。

Don't take your time for granted. Remember that first kiss when you were a teenager? It was yesterday wasn't it? That horrible depiction in the beginning of my answer? It will be tomorrow! You have time Now to live your life to the fullest Now. Don't wait.

不要把你的时间视为理所当然。还记得你十几岁时的那个初吻吗？那是昨天的事，不是吗？我的答案开头的那个可怕的描写？这将是明天的事! 你现在有时间，现在就把你的生活过到最好。不要再等了。

Love is the answer. I don't know what's the question, but I know the answer. Love is the answer. Anger, jealousy, hatred, fear, judgement- all these things just make you connect with dark energies that don't serve you. Love is the only right choice. What would Jesus do? What would Buddha do? What would all the masters do? They would choose Love.

爱就是答案。我不知道问题是什么，但我知道答案。爱就是答案。愤怒、嫉妒、仇恨、恐惧、判断--所有这些东西只是让你与不为你服务的黑暗能量相联系。爱是唯一正确的选择。耶稣会怎么做？佛祖会怎么做？所有的大师们会怎么做？他们会选择爱。

Altruism instead of Egoism. Serving yourself is always fun. Unfortunately it's also the source of all evil. I teach online courses on Hidden Knowledge and through my studies of different religions and ancient texts, I discovered that many philosophies share this idea.

利他主义而不是利己主义。为自己服务总是很有趣。不幸的是，它也是所有邪恶的来源。我在网上教授隐藏知识的课程，通过对不同宗教和古籍的研究，我发现许多哲学都有这种想法。

Tranquility instead of setting goals. If you spend your life trying to reach goals. You will reach a goal, be happy for 5 seconds, and then set a new one. Making you unhappy 99% of the time. Strive to reach tranquility instead. You will reach it by following the advise I wrote above.

宁静而不是设定目标。如果你一生都在试图达到目标。你会达到一个目标，高兴5秒钟，然后再设定一个新的目标。使你99%的时间都不快乐。相反，要努力达到宁静的境界。你将通过遵循我上面写的建议来达到。

Lukas Schwekendiek
You can only fail if you give up - No matter what happens, no matter how bad everything gets, and no matter how often you have not made it, you can only truly fail if you give up! Everything else, every failure, bad day and mistake, is just a small step backwards.

只有放弃才会失败--无论发生什么，无论一切变得多么糟糕，无论你有多少次没有成功，只有放弃才会真正失败! 其他一切，每一次失败、糟糕的一天和错误，都只是一小步的倒退。
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Relationships do not make us happy - Relationships only ever amplify what is already there. Whether you are happy, sad, angry or excited, your partner will take that energy and amplify it as they throw it back to you. That is what makes relationships amazing when you are on the same page, and the worst when you are not.

关系不会使我们快乐--关系只会放大已经存在的东西。无论你是快乐、悲伤、愤怒还是兴奋，你的伴侣都会接受这种能量，并将其放大，因为他们会把它还给你。这就是当你们在同一页面上时，关系会令人惊奇，而当你们不在同一页上时，关系会变得最糟糕。

You are responsible for everything in your life - You chose to take your job, you chose to date your partner, you chose to learn the skills you have and chose not to do what you didn’t do. Even the broken leg caused by the bike accident was your choice, for it was you who chose to drive that particular road at that particular time in that particular way. Any choice, anywhere else in your life, would have lead to something different. Take responsibility for that so you can affect your life. For there is nothing gained by pointing fingers.

你要对你生活中的一切负责--你选择了你的工作，你选择了与你的伴侣约会，你选择了学习你所拥有的技能，并选择不做你没有做的事。甚至自行车事故造成的断腿也是你的选择，因为是你选择在那个特定的时间以那个特定的方式驾驶那条路。在你生命中的任何其他地方，任何选择都会导致不同的结果。承担起责任，这样你才能影响你的生活。因为指责没有任何好处。

Life is Simple - To make more money you do more work. To create a more loving relationship you invest more into it. And to be happy you do more things that make you happy and less things that make you sad. It’s all rather simple. The only complicated things are the things you throw in your own way.

生活很简单--要想赚更多的钱，就要做更多的工作。要创造一个更有爱的关系，你就要在其中投入更多。要想快乐，你就多做让你快乐的事，少做让你悲伤的事。这一切都很简单。唯一复杂的事情是你用自己的方式扔的东西。

Happiness comes from within - Regardless of what you have, do not have, where you are or where you wish to go, if you want to be happy you have to do the internal work. No relationship, no life event, and no amount of money will make you innately and always happy.

幸福来自于内心--无论你拥有什么，没有什么，你在哪里，或者你希望去哪里，如果你想获得幸福，你必须做内在的工作。没有关系，没有生活事件，没有多少钱会让你天生快乐。

Muhammad Umair
Radical Acceptance Saves the Day

彻底的接受拯救了一天

The idea that we can fix perceived flaws in our partners, friends, parents, and grown children remains tantalizing. Decades ago, the musical Guys and Dolls lampooned this notion with the lyrics, “Marry the man today, and change his ways tomorrow.”

我们可以修复伴侣、朋友、父母和成年子女身上的缺陷，这一想法仍然很诱人。几十年前，音乐剧《男孩和娃娃》（Guys and Dolls）用歌词讽刺了这个概念，“今天嫁给那个男人，明天改变他的方式。”

A healthy dose of ego often convinces us that our way of looking at things is right, but trying to “correct” someone else usually backfires, says psychologist Paul Coleman, author of “We Need to Talk”: Tough Conversations with Your Spouse. “It implies that we’re coming from a more enlightened place, that we have a deeper knowledge of what’s best,” he says. The other person may get the message that he or she isn’t good enough and become resentful.

心理学家保罗·科尔曼（Paul Coleman）说，一种健康的自我感通常会让我们相信我们看待事情的方式是正确的，但试图“纠正”他人通常会适得其反。他是《我们需要交谈：与配偶的艰难对话》一书的作者。他说：“这意味着我们来自一个更开明的地方，我们对什么是最好的有更深入的了解。”。另一个人可能会得到这样的信息，即他或她不够好，并变得愤怒。

A healthier approach: “Look inward to fix the problem,” says Northwestern University psychologist Eli Finkel. If your partner hates large gatherings, consider attending the next party solo so he doesn’t have to make forced conversation and you don’t have to leave early. Or if your son says he wants to forgo college for now, try to express enthusiasm for his budding career as a nature guide instead of bombarding him with school rankings. This involves the recognition that you’ll never be in sync about some matters. “You have to say, ‘We have this permanent difference, but we need to learn to live with each other,’” Coleman says.

一个更健康的方法。西北大学心理学家伊莱·芬克尔说："向内看才能解决问题"。如果你的伴侣不喜欢大型聚会，可以考虑独自参加下一次聚会，这样他就不必勉强交谈，而你也不必提前离开。或者，如果你的儿子说他想暂时放弃上大学，试着对他即将开始的自然向导生涯表示热情，而不是用学校排名来轰炸他。这涉及到承认你们在某些问题上永远不可能达成一致。"科尔曼说："你必须说，'我们有这种永久的分歧，但我们需要学会与对方共处。

Opposites Don’t Forever Attract

对立面不会永远相吸
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Parents who hover relentlessly provoke eye rolls from developmental experts and teachers alike. You can see these parents sprinting to the swings to right a playground injustice or e-mailing schools incessantly.

一段幸福、健康的关系的关键是选择一个坦率地说很像你的人--一个能验证你的观点和习惯的人。研究一再强调共同的价值观、个性特征、经济背景和宗教以及年龄上的接近的重要性。

Glenn Wilson, a psychologist and a professor at Gresham College in London, developed a compatibility questionnaire covering lifestyle, politics, child rearing, morality, and finances. He found that partners who answer comparably are more apt to report satisfaction. Still, he says, “when couples are overly similar, it can be a bit of a brother-sister relationship—too predictable, without a lot of novelty.”

伦敦格雷沙姆学院的心理学家兼教授格伦·威尔逊（Glenn Wilson）编制了一份兼容性问卷，内容涵盖生活方式、政治、育儿、道德和财务。他发现，回答比较好的伴侣更容易报告满意度。尽管如此，他说，“当夫妻过于相似时，这可能是一种过于可预测的兄妹关系，没有太多新鲜感。”

So what’s the happy medium? Seek a partner whose passions differ enough from yours to expand your experience, but with whom you’re aligned on big-picture issues: how to show affection, what constitutes a moral life, and how to raise children.

那么快乐的媒介是什么呢？寻找一个与你的激情相差足够多的伴侣，以扩大你的经验，但在大的问题上，你与他保持一致：如何表达爱意，什么构成道德生活，以及如何抚养孩子。

Social Networks Matter

社交网络很重要

We’ve all heard the usual advice for living longer: Exercise, don’t smoke, limit junk food. But friendships are just as important. “The higher the quantity and quality of your relationships, the longer you’ll live,” says Bert Uchino, a psychologist at the University of Utah.

我们都听过长寿的建议：锻炼身体，不要吸烟，限制垃圾食品。但友谊同样重要。犹他大学的心理学家伯特·乌奇诺说：“你的人际关系的数量和质量越高，你的寿命就越长。”。

Julianne Holt-Lunstad of Brigham Young University collected data from 148 studies analyzing the relationship between health and human interaction. She found that, over a period of about seven years, people with active social lives were 50 percent less likely to die of any cause than their nonsocial counterparts. A low level of social interaction has the same negative effect as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

杨百翰大学的朱丽安·霍尔特·伦斯塔德（Julianne Holt Lunstad）收集了148项研究的数据，分析了健康与人类互动之间的关系。她发现，在大约七年的时间里，积极社交的人比非社交的人死于任何原因的可能性低50%。低水平的社交活动与每天抽15支烟有相同的负面影响。

Psychologist Sheldon Cohen of Carnegie Mellon University gave subjects nasal drops containing a cold virus; those who reported the greatest diversity of social ties were four times less likely to develop colds than those reporting the least diversity. But the quality of your relationships is just as important, according to Uchino’s research. He recorded the blood pressure of 88 women in a stressful situation (preparing to give a speech) and found that readings spiked less when a close friend was there to offer encouragement. Researchers speculate that the stress associated with weak social support sets off a cascade of damaging reactions. Knowing your friends have your back can help prevent such responses, Cohen says.

卡内基梅隆大学的心理学家谢尔顿·科恩给受试者滴了含有感冒病毒的鼻药水；那些报告社会关系最多样化的人患感冒的可能性比报告社会关系最少的人低四倍。但根据乌奇诺的研究，你的人际关系质量同样重要。他记录了88名处于紧张状态（准备演讲）的女性的血压，发现当亲密的朋友在那里提供鼓励时，血压的峰值会降低。研究人员推测，与社会支持不足相关的压力会引发一连串的破坏性反应。科恩说，认识你的朋友支持你有助于防止这种反应。