你是怎么学会爱自己的(二 )
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How did you learn to love yourself?
你是怎么学会爱自己的?
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How did you learn to love yourself?
你是怎么学会爱自己的?
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Swema Prakash, Brave is to fight the wrong.
斯威玛·普拉卡什，勇敢就是为错误而战
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斯威玛·普拉卡什，勇敢就是为错误而战
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The first rule of self-love:
If something scares you or makes you feel unsafe and yet you want it,
Let it go.
Let it go because you have started a vendetta of hatred against yourself by punishing yourself and forcing yourself to be with the people who do not care.
Let it go because you need that feeling of safety, which at this time only you can provide yourself.
Let it go because life does not end here. It sure feels like it, but it doesn’t end. In a way, it has just begun.
Yes, it is difficult to start all over again from the beginning. But remind yourself of all the battles that you have been fighting so far. All the times that you were convinced that you couldn’t do it anymore and yet here you are, after doing so much, after existing too much, after loving too much and after losing too much, here you are, my baby, thinking all over again that you can’t do it anymore.
And when you sit writing all of this, early in the morning, with a headache from all that crying and with heartache from all the heartbreak
You are as alone as you need to be. As it is necessary.
自爱的第一条规则：
如果有什么东西吓到你或让你觉得不安全，但你想要它—任它去。
任它去，因为你通过惩罚自己，强迫自己与那些不在乎的人在一起，已经开始恨自己。
任它去，因为你需要那种安全感，而此时只有你自己能提供。
任它去，因为生命不会就此结束。感觉上的确如此，但它不会结束。在某种程度上，这才刚刚开始。
是的，很难从头开始。但要提醒自己，到目前为止，你一直在战斗。一直以来，你都坚信自己做不到，但现在的你做了那么多，经历了那么多，爱了那么多，失去了那么多，这就是你，我的宝贝，一遍又一遍地想，再一次觉得自己做不到了。
当你在清晨坐着写这些的时候，因为哭泣而头疼，因为心碎而心痛。
你需要多孤独就多孤独。因为这是必要的。
If something scares you or makes you feel unsafe and yet you want it,
Let it go.
Let it go because you have started a vendetta of hatred against yourself by punishing yourself and forcing yourself to be with the people who do not care.
Let it go because you need that feeling of safety, which at this time only you can provide yourself.
Let it go because life does not end here. It sure feels like it, but it doesn’t end. In a way, it has just begun.
Yes, it is difficult to start all over again from the beginning. But remind yourself of all the battles that you have been fighting so far. All the times that you were convinced that you couldn’t do it anymore and yet here you are, after doing so much, after existing too much, after loving too much and after losing too much, here you are, my baby, thinking all over again that you can’t do it anymore.
And when you sit writing all of this, early in the morning, with a headache from all that crying and with heartache from all the heartbreak
You are as alone as you need to be. As it is necessary.
自爱的第一条规则：
如果有什么东西吓到你或让你觉得不安全，但你想要它—任它去。
任它去，因为你通过惩罚自己，强迫自己与那些不在乎的人在一起，已经开始恨自己。
任它去，因为你需要那种安全感，而此时只有你自己能提供。
任它去，因为生命不会就此结束。感觉上的确如此，但它不会结束。在某种程度上，这才刚刚开始。
是的，很难从头开始。但要提醒自己，到目前为止，你一直在战斗。一直以来，你都坚信自己做不到，但现在的你做了那么多，经历了那么多，爱了那么多，失去了那么多，这就是你，我的宝贝，一遍又一遍地想，再一次觉得自己做不到了。
当你在清晨坐着写这些的时候，因为哭泣而头疼，因为心碎而心痛。
你需要多孤独就多孤独。因为这是必要的。
So, your heart broke. You know how it feels. You’ve been getting these chest aches for over a decade now, isn’t it? I saw your Facebook and you have written a lot. A lot, a lot. Trying to hide and show at the same time. You are as embarrassed by a broken heart as you are scared.
Every time that you feel crushed by someone on the outside, leave. Be alone, you deserve it. You deserve to make that time for yourself. Once you have it, do a great deal of thinking- oh baby, you are an expert at that. Do some thinking, and when the noise on the outside dies out, listen to yourself. You deserve to be listened to. I will listen to you. Because I love you.
So, the first rule of self-love is: not fearing having a conversation with yourself. Also, being kind enough to listen to yourself.
你的心都碎了，你知道那种感觉。你胸痛已经有十多年了，不是吗？我看了你的脸书，你写了很多。很多很多。试图隐藏的同时又想展示出来。你因为心碎而感到尴尬，就像你在害怕它一样。
每当你感到被外面的人压垮时，离开就好。孤单是你应有的。你应该为自己腾出时间。一旦你拥有了它，做大量的思考——哦，宝贝，你是这方面的专家。想一想，当外面的噪音消失后，倾听自己的声音，你值得被倾听。我会听你说的。因为我爱你。
因此，自爱的第一条规则是：不要害怕与自己交谈。还有，要善待自己，倾听自己的心声。
Every time that you feel crushed by someone on the outside, leave. Be alone, you deserve it. You deserve to make that time for yourself. Once you have it, do a great deal of thinking- oh baby, you are an expert at that. Do some thinking, and when the noise on the outside dies out, listen to yourself. You deserve to be listened to. I will listen to you. Because I love you.
So, the first rule of self-love is: not fearing having a conversation with yourself. Also, being kind enough to listen to yourself.
你的心都碎了，你知道那种感觉。你胸痛已经有十多年了，不是吗？我看了你的脸书，你写了很多。很多很多。试图隐藏的同时又想展示出来。你因为心碎而感到尴尬，就像你在害怕它一样。
每当你感到被外面的人压垮时，离开就好。孤单是你应有的。你应该为自己腾出时间。一旦你拥有了它，做大量的思考——哦，宝贝，你是这方面的专家。想一想，当外面的噪音消失后，倾听自己的声音，你值得被倾听。我会听你说的。因为我爱你。
因此，自爱的第一条规则是：不要害怕与自己交谈。还有，要善待自己，倾听自己的心声。
Ashlyn Amber
After heartbreak, I learned to love myself. I realized that my life was so dependent on him. I made a mistake because I depended my happiness on him. When he left with no explanation, I lost myself, and I feel not happy anymore. I was living in hell. I chased him so much and begged him to come back, but it was useless. After that, I needed at least 5 months to get to know myself, what I liked, what I didn’t like. I am not fully recovered, but I am happier than a few months ago. It was a blessing in disguise because I found myself :)
心碎之后，我学会了爱自己。我意识到我的生活太依赖他了。我犯了一个错误，因为我把我的幸福寄托在他身上。当他在毫无解释的情况下离开时，我迷失了自己，我不再感到快乐，我生活在地狱里。我拼命地追他，求他回来，但没有用。在那之后，我花了至少5个月的时间来了解自己，我喜欢什么，不喜欢什么。我还没有完全康复，但我比几个月前快乐多了。这是塞翁失马焉知非福，因为我找到了自己.
After heartbreak, I learned to love myself. I realized that my life was so dependent on him. I made a mistake because I depended my happiness on him. When he left with no explanation, I lost myself, and I feel not happy anymore. I was living in hell. I chased him so much and begged him to come back, but it was useless. After that, I needed at least 5 months to get to know myself, what I liked, what I didn’t like. I am not fully recovered, but I am happier than a few months ago. It was a blessing in disguise because I found myself :)
心碎之后，我学会了爱自己。我意识到我的生活太依赖他了。我犯了一个错误，因为我把我的幸福寄托在他身上。当他在毫无解释的情况下离开时，我迷失了自己，我不再感到快乐，我生活在地狱里。我拼命地追他，求他回来，但没有用。在那之后，我花了至少5个月的时间来了解自己，我喜欢什么，不喜欢什么。我还没有完全康复，但我比几个月前快乐多了。这是塞翁失马焉知非福，因为我找到了自己.
Kirti Amesar, Love is not hard. People are.
Every time I got my heart broken, every time I felt helpless, and every time someone close to me left, I realised it's only me who'll stay with me till the very end.
It's funny how there is abundant love in all of us and how conveniently we pass it down to others but when it comes to giving the same love to yourself we take a step back. Why?
I realised that no one will come and fix my broken parts. I got to fix them by myself. For myself.
I realised that no one will come and help me. Only I can help myself.
The journey of my self love started a bit late. All my life I was insecure about myself. I never liked the way I looked. I never felt beautiful.
Until one day when I looked at myself in the mirror and saw a little girl. Something changed that day. How can I not love her? How can I not see what an amazing person she was?
That was the day where everything changed.
每一次我心碎，每一次我感到无助，每一次我身边的人离开，我意识到只有我会陪着我直到生命的尽头。
有趣的是，我们每个人身上都有大量的爱，我们将爱传递给他人的时候是何等的方便，但当涉及到给自己同样的爱时，我们却退后了一步，为什么？
我意识到没有人会来修理我的坏零件。为了我自己我得自己修。
我意识到没有人会来帮助我，只有我能帮助自己。
我的自爱之旅开始得有点晚。我一辈子都让自己没有感到安全感。我从来都不喜欢自己的样子，从未觉得自己很美。
直到有一天我照镜子看到一个小女孩，那天发生了一些变化，我怎么能不爱她？我怎么能看不出她是一个多么了不起的人？
那天一切都变了。
Every time I got my heart broken, every time I felt helpless, and every time someone close to me left, I realised it's only me who'll stay with me till the very end.
It's funny how there is abundant love in all of us and how conveniently we pass it down to others but when it comes to giving the same love to yourself we take a step back. Why?
I realised that no one will come and fix my broken parts. I got to fix them by myself. For myself.
I realised that no one will come and help me. Only I can help myself.
The journey of my self love started a bit late. All my life I was insecure about myself. I never liked the way I looked. I never felt beautiful.
Until one day when I looked at myself in the mirror and saw a little girl. Something changed that day. How can I not love her? How can I not see what an amazing person she was?
That was the day where everything changed.
每一次我心碎，每一次我感到无助，每一次我身边的人离开，我意识到只有我会陪着我直到生命的尽头。
有趣的是，我们每个人身上都有大量的爱，我们将爱传递给他人的时候是何等的方便，但当涉及到给自己同样的爱时，我们却退后了一步，为什么？
我意识到没有人会来修理我的坏零件。为了我自己我得自己修。
我意识到没有人会来帮助我，只有我能帮助自己。
我的自爱之旅开始得有点晚。我一辈子都让自己没有感到安全感。我从来都不喜欢自己的样子，从未觉得自己很美。
直到有一天我照镜子看到一个小女孩，那天发生了一些变化，我怎么能不爱她？我怎么能看不出她是一个多么了不起的人？
那天一切都变了。
A lot of people call me beautiful, even strangers. But it is only and only because I call myself beautiful and I do it every day.
I have loved myself on days where no one loved me.
How I see myself is how the world will see me. So I choose to see myself in a positive way.
I have forgiven people. But most importantly, I have forgiven myself.
And when you endlessly love yourself, it shows. People around you can sense it. They get the vibes. And then you attract people similar to you. Happy. Positive. And full on self love. Plus, you become deaf to everyone trying to put you down.
To anyone who is low on self love, this answer might seem like an answer of self obsession. Believe me, it's not. This is exactly how self love is.
When I say I love myself, I take good care of myself. My skin. My hair.
I do things that make me happy. Like dressing up. Putting on makeup. Listening to punjabi music.
I talk to people who lift me up. Who ain't jealous seeing me grow. And who have always stood by me.
I don't talk to toxic people. People who drain my energy. I have distanced myself from such people.
This is my way of loving myself. And I absolutely love the girl I see every day. I respect her and I am so proud of her. I am so proud that she has made peace with herself. :)
Before loving anyone else in the world, love the most amazing, beautiful, and lovely person first — Yourself.
很多人都说我漂亮，甚至是陌生人。但这仅仅是因为我称自己为美人，而且我每天都这么做。
在没有人爱我的日子里，我爱自己。
我如何看待自己就是世界如何看待我。所以我选择以积极的方式看待自己。
我原谅了别人。但最重要的是，我原谅了自己。
当你无休止地爱自己时，它就会显现出来。你周围的人都能感觉到。他们能感受到气氛，然后你会吸引和你相似的人—快乐积极乐观且充满自爱。此外，你会对所有试图贬低你的人不加理会。
对于任何一个缺乏自爱的人来说，这个答案似乎是痴迷于自我。相信我，不是这样的，这就是自爱。
当我说我爱自己时，我会好好照顾自己，包括我的皮肤和我的头发。
我做一些让我快乐的事情。比如乔装打扮，化妆，听旁遮普音乐。
我和鼓舞我的人交谈。他们看着我成长，而不嫉妒且一直支持我。
我不跟令人极不愉快的人说话，他们消耗我的精力，我与这些人保持距离。
这是我爱自己的方式。我极其爱我每天见到的女孩，我尊重她，我为她感到骄傲，我为她能与自己和好而感到骄傲。
在爱世界上的任何人之前，先爱一个最神奇、最美丽、最可爱的人——你自己。
I have loved myself on days where no one loved me.
How I see myself is how the world will see me. So I choose to see myself in a positive way.
I have forgiven people. But most importantly, I have forgiven myself.
And when you endlessly love yourself, it shows. People around you can sense it. They get the vibes. And then you attract people similar to you. Happy. Positive. And full on self love. Plus, you become deaf to everyone trying to put you down.
To anyone who is low on self love, this answer might seem like an answer of self obsession. Believe me, it's not. This is exactly how self love is.
When I say I love myself, I take good care of myself. My skin. My hair.
I do things that make me happy. Like dressing up. Putting on makeup. Listening to punjabi music.
I talk to people who lift me up. Who ain't jealous seeing me grow. And who have always stood by me.
I don't talk to toxic people. People who drain my energy. I have distanced myself from such people.
This is my way of loving myself. And I absolutely love the girl I see every day. I respect her and I am so proud of her. I am so proud that she has made peace with herself. :)
Before loving anyone else in the world, love the most amazing, beautiful, and lovely person first — Yourself.
很多人都说我漂亮，甚至是陌生人。但这仅仅是因为我称自己为美人，而且我每天都这么做。
在没有人爱我的日子里，我爱自己。
我如何看待自己就是世界如何看待我。所以我选择以积极的方式看待自己。
我原谅了别人。但最重要的是，我原谅了自己。
当你无休止地爱自己时，它就会显现出来。你周围的人都能感觉到。他们能感受到气氛，然后你会吸引和你相似的人—快乐积极乐观且充满自爱。此外，你会对所有试图贬低你的人不加理会。
对于任何一个缺乏自爱的人来说，这个答案似乎是痴迷于自我。相信我，不是这样的，这就是自爱。
当我说我爱自己时，我会好好照顾自己，包括我的皮肤和我的头发。
我做一些让我快乐的事情。比如乔装打扮，化妆，听旁遮普音乐。
我和鼓舞我的人交谈。他们看着我成长，而不嫉妒且一直支持我。
我不跟令人极不愉快的人说话，他们消耗我的精力，我与这些人保持距离。
这是我爱自己的方式。我极其爱我每天见到的女孩，我尊重她，我为她感到骄傲，我为她能与自己和好而感到骄傲。
在爱世界上的任何人之前，先爱一个最神奇、最美丽、最可爱的人——你自己。
Bhakti Jondhalekar, Finding peace!
I was in 11th grade when I realised I need glasses as my vision was bad.
But I've seen around and in movies people getting bullied for wearing glasses. People tease them with funny names So, I didn't wear them for months.
I struggled because I couldn't see the blackboard, people's faces from far, Tv, etc. But hey! At least I still looked beautiful.
After a some time, I met a girl who had glasses on. I asked her, "It must be hard for you to wear glasses?”
She said, "No. I find glasses cool. "
I was surprised by her answer.
"Didn't it bother you if someone call you funny names?" I asked her.
"I don't care what people say, all I know is I love wearing glasses. It makes me look more intelligent and cool", she replied with a wink.
And that's when I understood anything and everything can be fashionable and cool.
The more comfortable I get with myself the more beautiful and confident I will be.
我在11年级的时候意识到我需要眼镜，因为我的视力不好。
但我在周围和电影中见过人们因为戴眼镜而受到欺凌。人们用有趣的名字取笑他们。所以，我好几个月没带眼睛了。
我挣扎着，因为我看不到黑板，看不到远处人们的脸，看不到电视等等。但是嘿！至少我看起来还很漂亮。
过了一会儿，我遇到了一个戴眼镜的女孩。“戴眼镜对你来说一定很难吧？”
她说：“不呀，我觉得眼镜很酷。”
我对她的回答感到惊讶。
“如果有人给你取个可笑的名字，你不觉得烦恼吗？”我问她。
“我不在乎别人怎么说，我只知道我喜欢戴眼镜。它让我看起来更聪明、更酷，”她眨了眨眼回答。
那时我明白了一切，一切都可以变得时尚和酷。
我对自己越满意，我就会变得越漂亮，越自信。
I was in 11th grade when I realised I need glasses as my vision was bad.
But I've seen around and in movies people getting bullied for wearing glasses. People tease them with funny names So, I didn't wear them for months.
I struggled because I couldn't see the blackboard, people's faces from far, Tv, etc. But hey! At least I still looked beautiful.
After a some time, I met a girl who had glasses on. I asked her, "It must be hard for you to wear glasses?”
She said, "No. I find glasses cool. "
I was surprised by her answer.
"Didn't it bother you if someone call you funny names?" I asked her.
"I don't care what people say, all I know is I love wearing glasses. It makes me look more intelligent and cool", she replied with a wink.
And that's when I understood anything and everything can be fashionable and cool.
The more comfortable I get with myself the more beautiful and confident I will be.
我在11年级的时候意识到我需要眼镜，因为我的视力不好。
但我在周围和电影中见过人们因为戴眼镜而受到欺凌。人们用有趣的名字取笑他们。所以，我好几个月没带眼睛了。
我挣扎着，因为我看不到黑板，看不到远处人们的脸，看不到电视等等。但是嘿！至少我看起来还很漂亮。
过了一会儿，我遇到了一个戴眼镜的女孩。“戴眼镜对你来说一定很难吧？”
她说：“不呀，我觉得眼镜很酷。”
我对她的回答感到惊讶。
“如果有人给你取个可笑的名字，你不觉得烦恼吗？”我问她。
“我不在乎别人怎么说，我只知道我喜欢戴眼镜。它让我看起来更聪明、更酷，”她眨了眨眼回答。
那时我明白了一切，一切都可以变得时尚和酷。
我对自己越满意，我就会变得越漂亮，越自信。
I know this story doesn't make sense to you. Because you must be thinking it's just a glasses. But for me it was a big thing back. When you have so many insecurities about yourself then such things likely to happen.
Of course, there are the stereotypes that go with wearing glasses that you must be a nerd or that you’re super smart (which is probably true) :D
And some people think that they are incredibly funny calling you four eyes, really, the joke is a little old. Yeah, you wear glasses, it’s not really that big a deal, better than walking around not being able to see anything.
Now I wear specs and I don't care how it's look on me. I don't care if people find me less attractive.
In fact even I started finding glasses cool now.
It's more like my another favorite thing. Now I don't have any insecurities about it.
I am happy with this now because I learned to love myself without the love of others.
The hardest part of self-love is loving yourself when you are not there yet. To love yourself, you need to see your self-worth before the world sees it.
Because one of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.
我知道这个故事对你来说毫无意义。因为你一定认为这只是一副眼镜。但对我来说，这是一件大事。当你对自己有如此多的不安全感时，这样的事情就有可能发生。
当然，戴眼镜会带来一些刻板印象，认为你一定是个书呆子，或者你超级聪明（这可能是真的）。
有些人觉得他们叫你“四眼”非常有趣，真的，这个笑话有点老套了。是的，你戴着眼镜，这其实没什么大不了的，总比四处走动什么都看不见要好。
现在我戴着眼镜，我不在乎它在我身上的样子。我不在乎别人是否觉得我没那么吸引人。
事实上，就连我现在也开始觉得戴眼镜很酷了。
这更像是我最喜欢的另一件事，现在我对此没有任何不安全感。
我现在对此感到高兴，因为我学会了在没有别人爱的情况下爱自己。
自爱中最难的部分是在你还没到哪一步的时候爱自己。要爱自己，你需要在世人看到你的自我价值之前，先看到它。
因为生活中最大的遗憾之一是成为别人希望你成为的人，而不是成为你自己。
Of course, there are the stereotypes that go with wearing glasses that you must be a nerd or that you’re super smart (which is probably true) :D
And some people think that they are incredibly funny calling you four eyes, really, the joke is a little old. Yeah, you wear glasses, it’s not really that big a deal, better than walking around not being able to see anything.
Now I wear specs and I don't care how it's look on me. I don't care if people find me less attractive.
In fact even I started finding glasses cool now.
It's more like my another favorite thing. Now I don't have any insecurities about it.
I am happy with this now because I learned to love myself without the love of others.
The hardest part of self-love is loving yourself when you are not there yet. To love yourself, you need to see your self-worth before the world sees it.
Because one of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.
我知道这个故事对你来说毫无意义。因为你一定认为这只是一副眼镜。但对我来说，这是一件大事。当你对自己有如此多的不安全感时，这样的事情就有可能发生。
当然，戴眼镜会带来一些刻板印象，认为你一定是个书呆子，或者你超级聪明（这可能是真的）。
有些人觉得他们叫你“四眼”非常有趣，真的，这个笑话有点老套了。是的，你戴着眼镜，这其实没什么大不了的，总比四处走动什么都看不见要好。
现在我戴着眼镜，我不在乎它在我身上的样子。我不在乎别人是否觉得我没那么吸引人。
事实上，就连我现在也开始觉得戴眼镜很酷了。
这更像是我最喜欢的另一件事，现在我对此没有任何不安全感。
我现在对此感到高兴，因为我学会了在没有别人爱的情况下爱自己。
自爱中最难的部分是在你还没到哪一步的时候爱自己。要爱自己，你需要在世人看到你的自我价值之前，先看到它。
因为生活中最大的遗憾之一是成为别人希望你成为的人，而不是成为你自己。
Aashi Sharma, Aspiring writer (2018-present)
Well, this is hard than anything.
You can love others and describe them in a thousand words. Can you describe yourself?
You can tell complete history about others, can you remind your past with yourself?
You can spend hours and hours with others, can you spend less than 15 minutes with yourself?
You know every beautiful and bad thing about others, do you know about it of yourself?
More than 80% of people would say “No”.
Because they are afraid of losing others, they want to love and support from others, hurt is the scary part of their lives, so on and so forth.
People depend on others and that makes them unstable.
If you can not love yourself, your love is artificial. If you can take yourself for granted, you will never know what love is.
这比什么都难。
你可以爱别人，用千言万语描述他们。你能描述一下你自己吗？
你可以讲述别人的完整历史，你可以自己回忆你的过去吗？
你可以与他人相处数小时，你能与自己相处不到15分钟吗？
你知道别人的每一件好事和坏事，你知道自己的吗？
超过80%的人会说“不”。
因为他们害怕失去别人，他们想得到别人的爱和支持，收伤是他们生活中可怕的一部分，等等。
人们依赖他人，这使他们易变。
如果你不能爱自己，你的爱就是假的。如果你觉得理所当然，你就永远不会知道什么是爱。
Well, this is hard than anything.
You can love others and describe them in a thousand words. Can you describe yourself?
You can tell complete history about others, can you remind your past with yourself?
You can spend hours and hours with others, can you spend less than 15 minutes with yourself?
You know every beautiful and bad thing about others, do you know about it of yourself?
More than 80% of people would say “No”.
Because they are afraid of losing others, they want to love and support from others, hurt is the scary part of their lives, so on and so forth.
People depend on others and that makes them unstable.
If you can not love yourself, your love is artificial. If you can take yourself for granted, you will never know what love is.
这比什么都难。
你可以爱别人，用千言万语描述他们。你能描述一下你自己吗？
你可以讲述别人的完整历史，你可以自己回忆你的过去吗？
你可以与他人相处数小时，你能与自己相处不到15分钟吗？
你知道别人的每一件好事和坏事，你知道自己的吗？
超过80%的人会说“不”。
因为他们害怕失去别人，他们想得到别人的爱和支持，收伤是他们生活中可怕的一部分，等等。
人们依赖他人，这使他们易变。
如果你不能爱自己，你的爱就是假的。如果你觉得理所当然，你就永远不会知道什么是爱。
I would say one thing, you can't stop anyone who came and walked away from your life randomly. Instead, you can love yourself. Stay always close to your heart.
This is your sword.
Whenever you will get discontented or dreadful, nobody reaches and pluck up the courage to get up by yourself.
Nothing is more powerful than love.
Get it.
Start adoring yourself first. Try new things, make a little moment, switch the world for a while and do what you enjoy the most, what makes you funny, a bit crazy and that's okay. This is you.
You won't either be afraid or regret any of it because in both ways you can heal and prepare yourself to be stronger.
Be a real friend, leader, guardian, supporter of yourself that would never shake your morale.
我想说一件事，你不能阻止任何人随意离开你的生活。相反，你可以爱自己，永远贴近你的内心。
这是你的剑。
每当你感到不满或恐惧时，没有人能够自己鼓起勇气站起来。
没有什么比爱更强大了。
做到爱自己吧。
首先要开始崇拜自己。尝试新事物，创造一小段时间，暂时改变世界，做你最喜欢的事情，做让你有趣或有点疯狂的事情，这都没关系。这是你的。
你既不会害怕，也不会后悔，因为这两种方式都能让你痊愈，让自己变得更坚强
做一个真正的朋友，领导者，守护者，你自己的支持者，永远不会动摇你的士气。
This is your sword.
Whenever you will get discontented or dreadful, nobody reaches and pluck up the courage to get up by yourself.
Nothing is more powerful than love.
Get it.
Start adoring yourself first. Try new things, make a little moment, switch the world for a while and do what you enjoy the most, what makes you funny, a bit crazy and that's okay. This is you.
You won't either be afraid or regret any of it because in both ways you can heal and prepare yourself to be stronger.
Be a real friend, leader, guardian, supporter of yourself that would never shake your morale.
我想说一件事，你不能阻止任何人随意离开你的生活。相反，你可以爱自己，永远贴近你的内心。
这是你的剑。
每当你感到不满或恐惧时，没有人能够自己鼓起勇气站起来。
没有什么比爱更强大了。
做到爱自己吧。
首先要开始崇拜自己。尝试新事物，创造一小段时间，暂时改变世界，做你最喜欢的事情，做让你有趣或有点疯狂的事情，这都没关系。这是你的。
你既不会害怕，也不会后悔，因为这两种方式都能让你痊愈，让自己变得更坚强
做一个真正的朋友，领导者，守护者，你自己的支持者，永远不会动摇你的士气。
Bhavya Goyal, Had been in one sided love madly.
Can you see 100+ kg Bhavya in this picture?
I was always insecure about myself. I never ever had good friends. I stopped going outside to family functions with my parents.
Whenever I used to visit family outings/functions, Many of my cousins used to make fun of me.
I always noticed that I had no friends in college too. Do you know why?
Because I’m blunt and I don’t tolerate disrespect.
Everyone used to become my friend at the time of exams, college trips and birthday parties. Do you know why?
I am/was always a meritorious student in studies. I have DSLR, I phone 8 plus. Also, I have good clothes and expensive makeup.
你能在这张照片中看到100公斤以上的Bhavya吗？
我总是对自己没有安全感。我从来没有好朋友。我不再和父母一起外出参加家庭活动。
每当我去参加家庭郊游/活动时，我的许多堂兄弟姐妹都会取笑我。
我总是注意到我在大学里也没有朋友。你知道为什么吗？
因为我很直率，我不能容忍无礼行为。
在考试、大学旅行和生日派对时，每个人都会成为我的朋友。你知道为什么吗？
我在学习上一直是个优秀的学生。我有数码单反，我有iphone 8 plus。而且，我有漂亮的衣服和昂贵的化妆品。
Can you see 100+ kg Bhavya in this picture?
I was always insecure about myself. I never ever had good friends. I stopped going outside to family functions with my parents.
Whenever I used to visit family outings/functions, Many of my cousins used to make fun of me.
I always noticed that I had no friends in college too. Do you know why?
Because I’m blunt and I don’t tolerate disrespect.
Everyone used to become my friend at the time of exams, college trips and birthday parties. Do you know why?
I am/was always a meritorious student in studies. I have DSLR, I phone 8 plus. Also, I have good clothes and expensive makeup.
你能在这张照片中看到100公斤以上的Bhavya吗？
我总是对自己没有安全感。我从来没有好朋友。我不再和父母一起外出参加家庭活动。
每当我去参加家庭郊游/活动时，我的许多堂兄弟姐妹都会取笑我。
我总是注意到我在大学里也没有朋友。你知道为什么吗？
因为我很直率，我不能容忍无礼行为。
在考试、大学旅行和生日派对时，每个人都会成为我的朋友。你知道为什么吗？
我在学习上一直是个优秀的学生。我有数码单反，我有iphone 8 plus。而且，我有漂亮的衣服和昂贵的化妆品。
Girls always visited my room for dresses, makeup, DSLR .
And after exams, trips and birthday parties, I used to feel that I don’t exist in their lives.
I always felt bad. I used to cry a lot. Been into depression for more than 10 months.
How did I learn to love myself?
I realised if I can’t appreciate/love myself, no one will do that. I started loving myself. I started loving my imperfections. Also, I accepted that no one is perfect.
I realised, i am not a toy. They can’t use me whenever they want to. I stopped giving my notes, clothes and DSLR to some of my so called ‘friends’.
I started losing my weight in order to keep myself healthy and I’m really very happy after losing 25+ kgs.
Always remember, Talk to yourself like someone you love and no one can treat you like a piece of shit. My friend, you’re special.
女孩们总是来我的房间找衣服、化妆、数码单反。
在考试、旅行和生日派对之后，我曾经觉得我不存在于他们的生活中。
我总是感觉不好。我过去常哭。已经陷入抑郁症超过10个月了。
我是如何学会爱自己的？
我意识到如果我不能欣赏/爱自己，没有人会这么做。我开始爱自己。我开始喜欢我的不完美。而且，我承认没有人是完美的。
我意识到，我不是玩具。他们不能随时利用我。我不再把我的笔记、衣服和数码单反给我的一些所谓的“朋友”。
为了保持健康，我开始减肥，在减掉25公斤以上的体重后，我真的很开心。
永远记住，像和爱的人说话那样对自己说话，没有人能再轻视你。我的朋友，你很特别。
And after exams, trips and birthday parties, I used to feel that I don’t exist in their lives.
I always felt bad. I used to cry a lot. Been into depression for more than 10 months.
How did I learn to love myself?
I realised if I can’t appreciate/love myself, no one will do that. I started loving myself. I started loving my imperfections. Also, I accepted that no one is perfect.
I realised, i am not a toy. They can’t use me whenever they want to. I stopped giving my notes, clothes and DSLR to some of my so called ‘friends’.
I started losing my weight in order to keep myself healthy and I’m really very happy after losing 25+ kgs.
Always remember, Talk to yourself like someone you love and no one can treat you like a piece of shit. My friend, you’re special.
女孩们总是来我的房间找衣服、化妆、数码单反。
在考试、旅行和生日派对之后，我曾经觉得我不存在于他们的生活中。
我总是感觉不好。我过去常哭。已经陷入抑郁症超过10个月了。
我是如何学会爱自己的？
我意识到如果我不能欣赏/爱自己，没有人会这么做。我开始爱自己。我开始喜欢我的不完美。而且，我承认没有人是完美的。
我意识到，我不是玩具。他们不能随时利用我。我不再把我的笔记、衣服和数码单反给我的一些所谓的“朋友”。
为了保持健康，我开始减肥，在减掉25公斤以上的体重后，我真的很开心。
永远记住，像和爱的人说话那样对自己说话，没有人能再轻视你。我的朋友，你很特别。
Donna Seo, Mother of two sons, Youth meditation instructor
Donna Seo，两个儿子的母亲，青少年冥想教练
Donna Seo，两个儿子的母亲，青少年冥想教练
The best way to love me is to let go of the fake me. That's how you'll love yourself for real.
I always had an idea before going to sleep when I was in middle and high school. I'm the only person left on Earth, and I drive through an empty city. Now that I think about it, it's kinda creepy. However, I used to imagine this almost every day to comfort myself after a hard day. It got worse and worse. As a teenager, if I fought with a brother two years younger, I thought, 'I wish he would die.' After I turned 20, whenever I bumped into my strict parents, I imagined my parents dying in a car accident. After we got married, I argued with my husband because I had a different opinion, which made me want him to die of lung cancer. (My husband smoked a lot.) Your best bet is to imagine what it would be like if your second son, who didn't live up to your expectations, passed away. My son's death seems terrifying and extremely sad, but I feel like I will be freed from the burden of taking care of him and raising him, so for some reason my life will be better when he dies.
爱自己最好的方式就是摆脱那个伪装的自我。这就是你真正爱自己的方式。
在我上中学和高中的时候，睡觉前我总是有一个想法。我是地球上唯一剩下的人，我开车穿过一座空城。现在我想起来，这有点令人毛骨悚然。然而，在辛苦的一天之后，我几乎每天都会想象这样的场景来安慰自己。情况越来越糟。十几岁的时候，如果我和比我小两岁的弟弟打架，我想，‘我希望他死掉。’20岁以后，每当我父母严厉的对待我时，我就想象我的父母死于车祸。我们结婚后，我和丈夫吵了起来，因为我有不同的观点，这让我想让他死于肺癌。（我丈夫抽烟很多。）你最好的办法是想象一下，如果你的第二个儿子没有达到你的期望，他去世后会是什么样子。我儿子的死似乎很可怕，也非常悲伤，但我觉得我将从照顾和抚养他的重担中解脱出来，所以出于某种原因，他死后我的生活会更好。
I always had an idea before going to sleep when I was in middle and high school. I'm the only person left on Earth, and I drive through an empty city. Now that I think about it, it's kinda creepy. However, I used to imagine this almost every day to comfort myself after a hard day. It got worse and worse. As a teenager, if I fought with a brother two years younger, I thought, 'I wish he would die.' After I turned 20, whenever I bumped into my strict parents, I imagined my parents dying in a car accident. After we got married, I argued with my husband because I had a different opinion, which made me want him to die of lung cancer. (My husband smoked a lot.) Your best bet is to imagine what it would be like if your second son, who didn't live up to your expectations, passed away. My son's death seems terrifying and extremely sad, but I feel like I will be freed from the burden of taking care of him and raising him, so for some reason my life will be better when he dies.
爱自己最好的方式就是摆脱那个伪装的自我。这就是你真正爱自己的方式。
在我上中学和高中的时候，睡觉前我总是有一个想法。我是地球上唯一剩下的人，我开车穿过一座空城。现在我想起来，这有点令人毛骨悚然。然而，在辛苦的一天之后，我几乎每天都会想象这样的场景来安慰自己。情况越来越糟。十几岁的时候，如果我和比我小两岁的弟弟打架，我想，‘我希望他死掉。’20岁以后，每当我父母严厉的对待我时，我就想象我的父母死于车祸。我们结婚后，我和丈夫吵了起来，因为我有不同的观点，这让我想让他死于肺癌。（我丈夫抽烟很多。）你最好的办法是想象一下，如果你的第二个儿子没有达到你的期望，他去世后会是什么样子。我儿子的死似乎很可怕，也非常悲伤，但我觉得我将从照顾和抚养他的重担中解脱出来，所以出于某种原因，他死后我的生活会更好。
Every time I recognized my terrible imagination like this, I felt embarrassed. I tried different things to stop it. Every Sunday, I went to church and prayed to God for the forgiveness of my sins. I've read books by Freud and Jung. I've watched and read talks by famous speakers. I tried to comfort myself and to understand. But I failed every time. So I expected my life to be meaningless.
Then, by chance, I started meditating and I could understand why my mind was like that, and I'm slowly getting out of it. I realized there is no life in my heart, only death. Driving on an endless road in a world where everyone has disappeared shows how selfish and closed I am. In meditation, I realized I had no room for improvement going forward. My heart wasn't even 1% warm. That was hard for me to admit. However, when I realized that I was a garbage human being, the possibility opened up. Meditation helped me let go of myself full of falseness. There's a self-esteem craze going on in Korea. Everyone is talking about it. I decided to discard myself. The false self. The teacher who guided me through meditation explained this to me. The best way to love me is to let go of the fake me. That's how you'll love yourself for real.
每次我意识到自己有这样可怕的想象力时，我都感到尴尬。我尝试了不同的方法来阻止它。每个星期天，我都去教堂祈祷上帝宽恕我的罪。我读过弗洛伊德和荣格的书。我看过著名演讲者的演讲。我试着安慰自己并理解。但我每次都失败了。所以我觉得我的生活毫无意义。
然后，一个偶然的机会，我开始冥想，我能理解为什么我的头脑是这样的，我正在慢慢摆脱它。我意识到我心中没有生命，只有死亡。在一个所有人都消失了的世界里，在一条没有尽头的路上开车，这表明我是多么自私和封闭。在冥想中，我意识到我没有前进的空间。我的心连1%的温暖都没有。我很难承认这一点。然而，当我意识到自己是一个垃圾人时，这种可能性就出现了。冥想帮助我摆脱了充满谎言的自我。韩国正在掀起一股自尊热潮。每个人都在谈论这件事。我决定放弃虚假的自我。指导我冥想的老师向我解释了这一点。爱我最好的方式就是摆脱伪装的我，这样你才能真正爱自己。
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Then, by chance, I started meditating and I could understand why my mind was like that, and I'm slowly getting out of it. I realized there is no life in my heart, only death. Driving on an endless road in a world where everyone has disappeared shows how selfish and closed I am. In meditation, I realized I had no room for improvement going forward. My heart wasn't even 1% warm. That was hard for me to admit. However, when I realized that I was a garbage human being, the possibility opened up. Meditation helped me let go of myself full of falseness. There's a self-esteem craze going on in Korea. Everyone is talking about it. I decided to discard myself. The false self. The teacher who guided me through meditation explained this to me. The best way to love me is to let go of the fake me. That's how you'll love yourself for real.
每次我意识到自己有这样可怕的想象力时，我都感到尴尬。我尝试了不同的方法来阻止它。每个星期天，我都去教堂祈祷上帝宽恕我的罪。我读过弗洛伊德和荣格的书。我看过著名演讲者的演讲。我试着安慰自己并理解。但我每次都失败了。所以我觉得我的生活毫无意义。
然后，一个偶然的机会，我开始冥想，我能理解为什么我的头脑是这样的，我正在慢慢摆脱它。我意识到我心中没有生命，只有死亡。在一个所有人都消失了的世界里，在一条没有尽头的路上开车，这表明我是多么自私和封闭。在冥想中，我意识到我没有前进的空间。我的心连1%的温暖都没有。我很难承认这一点。然而，当我意识到自己是一个垃圾人时，这种可能性就出现了。冥想帮助我摆脱了充满谎言的自我。韩国正在掀起一股自尊热潮。每个人都在谈论这件事。我决定放弃虚假的自我。指导我冥想的老师向我解释了这一点。爱我最好的方式就是摆脱伪装的我，这样你才能真正爱自己。
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Helen Williams, Kindness Co-ordinator (2020-present)
Self love can feel very unfamiliar especially if one has felt unloved by others. To say the things to ones heart that one wished and wishes still to hear from others is a good start. Say thank you to ones self for all the small things that one does through the day. The way you clean your teeth, the drink you make. The clothes you chose to wear. The way you can open a door or walk across the room. Yes, it feels silly but it can make you smile and smiling feels good and can make the strange feel more familiar and comfortable.
自恋会让人感到非常陌生，尤其是当一个人感到不被他人爱的时候。把自己想说的话说给自己听，并且仍然希望从别人那里听到，这是一个好的开始。为自己一天所做的所有小事向自己说声谢谢—你刷牙的方式，你做的饮料，你选择穿的衣服，你开门或穿过房间的方式。是的，这感觉很傻，但它可以让你微笑，微笑的感觉很好，可以让陌生人感觉更熟悉和舒适。
Self love can feel very unfamiliar especially if one has felt unloved by others. To say the things to ones heart that one wished and wishes still to hear from others is a good start. Say thank you to ones self for all the small things that one does through the day. The way you clean your teeth, the drink you make. The clothes you chose to wear. The way you can open a door or walk across the room. Yes, it feels silly but it can make you smile and smiling feels good and can make the strange feel more familiar and comfortable.
自恋会让人感到非常陌生，尤其是当一个人感到不被他人爱的时候。把自己想说的话说给自己听，并且仍然希望从别人那里听到，这是一个好的开始。为自己一天所做的所有小事向自己说声谢谢—你刷牙的方式，你做的饮料，你选择穿的衣服，你开门或穿过房间的方式。是的，这感觉很傻，但它可以让你微笑，微笑的感觉很好，可以让陌生人感觉更熟悉和舒适。
Meena Thakur, Professional Blogger
Ever wondered, why do they announce in the flights that in case of emergency, first put on your own masks, and then help others.
It took a while for me to understand my value. Today I know that I am the most important person in my life. I love myself for who I am. I want to learn things, I want to grow further, I have a lot of scope to improve further, but I love myself for who I am. I have no qualms or complaints to myself.
I have 3 different gurus & mentors in my life today. I have a spiritual guru. I listen to his teachings and put them in practice. That has helped me to see myself as a human with desires, a human who can transcend beyond her desires and connect with own soul & universe.
I have a life mentor & coach. He helps me see the beauty of my life. I don’t own anything but I still have so many things around me that bring happiness to me. I have so much gratitude.
I have a business & wealth coach. He helps me see the practicality of world. He helps me extend the same help to others, and that is possible only when I am financially strong & free.
In short, reading books, talking regularly to my mentors and practicing my learnings has helped me see the value of my love. That has taught me to love myself.
And today, I am trying to teach the same to others by means of simple affirmations.
I love myself & value myself
I respect myself
I am awesome
I am enough
I am complete
有没有想过，为什么他们在航班上宣布，在遇到紧急情况时，先戴上自己的口罩，然后再帮助别人?
我花了一段时间才明白自己的价值。今天我知道我是我生命中最重要的人。我爱我自己，因为我是谁。我想学习，我想进一步成长，我有很大的提升空间，但我爱我自己，我对自己没有任何疑虑或抱怨。
今天，我的生命中有3位不同的导师。我有一位精神导师。我听从了他的教诲，并将其付诸实践。这让我看到自己是一个有欲望的人，一个可以超越自己的欲望并与自己的灵魂和宇宙相连系的人。
我有一位人生导师和教练。他帮助我看到生活的美好。我没有任何东西，但我身边仍然有很多能给我带来幸福的东西，我非常感激。
我有一个商业和财富教练。他帮助我了解世界的实际情况。他帮助我把同样的帮助扩展到其他人身上，只有在我经济强大和自由的时候，这才有可能。
简而言之，阅读书籍、定期与导师交谈、练习所学知识帮助我认识到爱的价值，这教会了我爱自己。
今天，我正试着以简单的肯定的方式教导别人同样的道理。
我爱自己，重视自己；
我尊重自己；
我太棒了；
我受够了；
我完成了。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
Ever wondered, why do they announce in the flights that in case of emergency, first put on your own masks, and then help others.
It took a while for me to understand my value. Today I know that I am the most important person in my life. I love myself for who I am. I want to learn things, I want to grow further, I have a lot of scope to improve further, but I love myself for who I am. I have no qualms or complaints to myself.
I have 3 different gurus & mentors in my life today. I have a spiritual guru. I listen to his teachings and put them in practice. That has helped me to see myself as a human with desires, a human who can transcend beyond her desires and connect with own soul & universe.
I have a life mentor & coach. He helps me see the beauty of my life. I don’t own anything but I still have so many things around me that bring happiness to me. I have so much gratitude.
I have a business & wealth coach. He helps me see the practicality of world. He helps me extend the same help to others, and that is possible only when I am financially strong & free.
In short, reading books, talking regularly to my mentors and practicing my learnings has helped me see the value of my love. That has taught me to love myself.
And today, I am trying to teach the same to others by means of simple affirmations.
I love myself & value myself
I respect myself
I am awesome
I am enough
I am complete
有没有想过，为什么他们在航班上宣布，在遇到紧急情况时，先戴上自己的口罩，然后再帮助别人?
我花了一段时间才明白自己的价值。今天我知道我是我生命中最重要的人。我爱我自己，因为我是谁。我想学习，我想进一步成长，我有很大的提升空间，但我爱我自己，我对自己没有任何疑虑或抱怨。
今天，我的生命中有3位不同的导师。我有一位精神导师。我听从了他的教诲，并将其付诸实践。这让我看到自己是一个有欲望的人，一个可以超越自己的欲望并与自己的灵魂和宇宙相连系的人。
我有一位人生导师和教练。他帮助我看到生活的美好。我没有任何东西，但我身边仍然有很多能给我带来幸福的东西，我非常感激。
我有一个商业和财富教练。他帮助我了解世界的实际情况。他帮助我把同样的帮助扩展到其他人身上，只有在我经济强大和自由的时候，这才有可能。
简而言之，阅读书籍、定期与导师交谈、练习所学知识帮助我认识到爱的价值，这教会了我爱自己。
今天，我正试着以简单的肯定的方式教导别人同样的道理。
我爱自己，重视自己；
我尊重自己；
我太棒了；
我受够了；
我完成了。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
Lukas Schwekendiek, Life Coach, Speaker, Writer. Published on TIME, INC & Huffington Post.
Lukas Schwekendiek，生活教练，演说家，作家。发表于《时代》、《公司》和《赫芬顿邮报》。
Lukas Schwekendiek，生活教练，演说家，作家。发表于《时代》、《公司》和《赫芬顿邮报》。
The biggest thing is to understand that you are on your own team.
In all your life, everything you have done was with the subtle thought in mind that it would benefit you in the long run.
You never did anything to directly harm yourself! Everything you ever did was for you!
That’s not to say that everything worked out in your favor, but it was all for you to be happy in the end.
When you understand this you reduce the judgements you have against yourself, and without judgements you can begin to understand.
For example, the emotions that you feel are not bad nor good; they are just what you feel.
最重要的是要明白你是在自己的团队中。
在你的一生中，你所做的每一件事都是带着一种微妙的想法去做的，那就是从长远来看，它会使你受益。
你从没做过任何直接伤害自己的事！你所做的一切都是为了你！
这并不是说一切都对你有利，但这一切都是为了让你最终快乐。
当你明白了这一点，你就减少了对自己的评判，没有评判，你就可以开始理解。
例如，你感觉到的情绪既不坏也不好，它们正是你的感受。
In all your life, everything you have done was with the subtle thought in mind that it would benefit you in the long run.
You never did anything to directly harm yourself! Everything you ever did was for you!
That’s not to say that everything worked out in your favor, but it was all for you to be happy in the end.
When you understand this you reduce the judgements you have against yourself, and without judgements you can begin to understand.
For example, the emotions that you feel are not bad nor good; they are just what you feel.
最重要的是要明白你是在自己的团队中。
在你的一生中，你所做的每一件事都是带着一种微妙的想法去做的，那就是从长远来看，它会使你受益。
你从没做过任何直接伤害自己的事！你所做的一切都是为了你！
这并不是说一切都对你有利，但这一切都是为了让你最终快乐。
当你明白了这一点，你就减少了对自己的评判，没有评判，你就可以开始理解。
例如，你感觉到的情绪既不坏也不好，它们正是你的感受。
When you feel something just accept it.
Whatever you want you want. Whatever emotional response you have you have.
Pretending its not that way is just lying to yourself.
It’s denying who you are due to the idea that you have to be something else, something more, or something better.
You do not have to love yourself for the emotions you feel, nor for the responses, you have, but at least love yourself enough to accept yourself for who you are.
Remember that the emotions you feel are a part of you, and that in accepting them you are giving yourself more of a chance to be happier, which is the whole point!
You only ever tried to do what is best for you and it didn’t always work out. But you shouldn’t blame yourself for that and instead smile, love yourself and move on into your future trying even harder for you.
当你感觉到某事时，就接受它。
你想要什么都行—无论你有什么样的情绪反应。
假装不是那样只是在欺骗自己。
它否定了你是谁，因为你认为你必须是其他的、更多的或更好的。
你不必因为你所感受到的情绪或你所做出的反应而爱自己，但至少要足够爱自己，接受自己是谁。
记住，你感受到的情绪是你的一部分，接受它们会给你自己更多的机会变得更快乐，这就是重点！
你只是试着做对你最好的事，但并不总是成功。但你不应该为此责怪自己，而应该微笑，爱自己，朝着你的未来前进，为你付出更大的努力。
Whatever you want you want. Whatever emotional response you have you have.
Pretending its not that way is just lying to yourself.
It’s denying who you are due to the idea that you have to be something else, something more, or something better.
You do not have to love yourself for the emotions you feel, nor for the responses, you have, but at least love yourself enough to accept yourself for who you are.
Remember that the emotions you feel are a part of you, and that in accepting them you are giving yourself more of a chance to be happier, which is the whole point!
You only ever tried to do what is best for you and it didn’t always work out. But you shouldn’t blame yourself for that and instead smile, love yourself and move on into your future trying even harder for you.
当你感觉到某事时，就接受它。
你想要什么都行—无论你有什么样的情绪反应。
假装不是那样只是在欺骗自己。
它否定了你是谁，因为你认为你必须是其他的、更多的或更好的。
你不必因为你所感受到的情绪或你所做出的反应而爱自己，但至少要足够爱自己，接受自己是谁。
记住，你感受到的情绪是你的一部分，接受它们会给你自己更多的机会变得更快乐，这就是重点！
你只是试着做对你最好的事，但并不总是成功。但你不应该为此责怪自己，而应该微笑，爱自己，朝着你的未来前进，为你付出更大的努力。
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