当你生气的时候，你如何控制自己，使自己平静下来（一）
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How do you control yourself and calm down when you become angry?
当你生气的时候，你如何控制自己，使自己平静下来?
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How do you control yourself and calm down when you become angry?
当你生气的时候，你如何控制自己，使自己平静下来?
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Alisha Talks, Psychologist, Full-time Investor
Alisha Talks，心理学家，全职投资者
Alisha Talks，心理学家，全职投资者
Anger is an incredibly evil emotion, which can destroy not only your image, but your relationships too.
They say, “if you want to know a person, see them when they're angry.” Truth is, everyone often has the same reaction when feeling angry; it's innate for us to react in defence. It takes practice and dedication to be able to control your tongue and hands when fueled up.
Although blaming your amygdala for the horrible things you say may be fair, it takes a strong person to be accountable.
The amygdala, let's call her Steph.
Steph looks like two almond-shaped bits in your brain. Her responsibilities include: identifying threats and sending out an alarm so you can take steps to protect yourself. Steph is incredibly fast and efficient at her job, that she often reacts before the prefrontal cortex (Joe), is able to check on how rational your reaction will be.
As you become angrier, your muscles tense up. The neurotransmitter, catecholamine, is released into your brain, producing energy for a few minutes. This energy results in the desire to take immediate action. Now your heart rate is increasing, and blood pressure and breathing is rising.
Your attention is on the enemy. Everyone else is invisible.
Joe (the prefrontal cortex), which is responsible for conscious decision making, planning and restraint, has become idle. It's too slowed, and fails at stopping you from lashing out.
Here, Steph wins and Joe loses.
For Joe to win, incorporate relaxation techniques, as simple as counting slowly to ten, whilst aborting the situation if necessary.
This grants Joe enough time to help you get back to your senses, before you do something regrettable.[1]
愤怒是一种极其邪恶的情绪，它不仅会破坏你的形象，还会破坏你的人际关系。
他们说，“如果你想了解一个人，看看他们生气的时候。”事实是，每个人在感到愤怒时都有相同的反应;我们天生就有防御的反应。当你充满能量的时候，你需要练习和奉献才能控制你的舌头和手。
虽然把你说的那些可怕的话归咎于你的杏仁核可能是公平的，但只有坚强的人才会为此负责。
杏仁核，我们叫她斯蒂芬（ Steph）。
斯蒂芬在你的大脑里看起来像两个杏仁状的碎片。她的职责包括：识别威胁并发出警报，以便采取措施保护自己。斯蒂芬在工作中的速度和效率令人难以置信，她经常在前额叶皮层（称为（乔））能够检查你的反应是否合理之前做出反应。
当你变得愤怒时，你的肌肉就会紧张起来。神经递质儿茶酚胺被释放到你的大脑中，在几分钟内产生能量。这种能量产生了立即采取行动的欲望。现在你的心率在增加，血压和呼吸也在上升。
你的注意力集中在敌人身上。其他人都是隐形的。
负责有意识决策、计划和约束的乔（前额叶皮层）已经变得无所事事。它的速度太慢，无法阻止你猛烈攻击。
在这里，斯蒂芬赢了，乔输了。
为了让乔获胜，加入放松技巧，就像慢慢数到十一样简单，同时在必要时放弃。
在你做一些令人遗憾的事情之前，这给了乔足够的时间来帮助你恢复理智。
They say, “if you want to know a person, see them when they're angry.” Truth is, everyone often has the same reaction when feeling angry; it's innate for us to react in defence. It takes practice and dedication to be able to control your tongue and hands when fueled up.
Although blaming your amygdala for the horrible things you say may be fair, it takes a strong person to be accountable.
The amygdala, let's call her Steph.
Steph looks like two almond-shaped bits in your brain. Her responsibilities include: identifying threats and sending out an alarm so you can take steps to protect yourself. Steph is incredibly fast and efficient at her job, that she often reacts before the prefrontal cortex (Joe), is able to check on how rational your reaction will be.
As you become angrier, your muscles tense up. The neurotransmitter, catecholamine, is released into your brain, producing energy for a few minutes. This energy results in the desire to take immediate action. Now your heart rate is increasing, and blood pressure and breathing is rising.
Your attention is on the enemy. Everyone else is invisible.
Joe (the prefrontal cortex), which is responsible for conscious decision making, planning and restraint, has become idle. It's too slowed, and fails at stopping you from lashing out.
Here, Steph wins and Joe loses.
For Joe to win, incorporate relaxation techniques, as simple as counting slowly to ten, whilst aborting the situation if necessary.
This grants Joe enough time to help you get back to your senses, before you do something regrettable.[1]
愤怒是一种极其邪恶的情绪，它不仅会破坏你的形象，还会破坏你的人际关系。
他们说，“如果你想了解一个人，看看他们生气的时候。”事实是，每个人在感到愤怒时都有相同的反应;我们天生就有防御的反应。当你充满能量的时候，你需要练习和奉献才能控制你的舌头和手。
虽然把你说的那些可怕的话归咎于你的杏仁核可能是公平的，但只有坚强的人才会为此负责。
杏仁核，我们叫她斯蒂芬（ Steph）。
斯蒂芬在你的大脑里看起来像两个杏仁状的碎片。她的职责包括：识别威胁并发出警报，以便采取措施保护自己。斯蒂芬在工作中的速度和效率令人难以置信，她经常在前额叶皮层（称为（乔））能够检查你的反应是否合理之前做出反应。
当你变得愤怒时，你的肌肉就会紧张起来。神经递质儿茶酚胺被释放到你的大脑中，在几分钟内产生能量。这种能量产生了立即采取行动的欲望。现在你的心率在增加，血压和呼吸也在上升。
你的注意力集中在敌人身上。其他人都是隐形的。
负责有意识决策、计划和约束的乔（前额叶皮层）已经变得无所事事。它的速度太慢，无法阻止你猛烈攻击。
在这里，斯蒂芬赢了，乔输了。
为了让乔获胜，加入放松技巧，就像慢慢数到十一样简单，同时在必要时放弃。
在你做一些令人遗憾的事情之前，这给了乔足够的时间来帮助你恢复理智。
Apurva Sahu, Subject Matter Expert at Chegg India
Everyone of us face the days when we are super super angry on someone and they do not have the slightest hint of it. Or it may also happen that they know we are angry on them but still they would pretend that they are not in any way responsible for it.
How do we deal with such people?
Breathe and just think for a moment. Will your anger change that person or their behaviour ?
NO
They will continue with their own ways inspite of your shouting and yelling. We can’t change our surroundings or the people in and around us. But we can adapt ourselves and control our reaction mechanism. If we don’t show the reaction much our energies won’t be wasted on these irrelevant things.
We all make mistakes. If we don’t then are we even humans. Being angry won’t solve anything and I would say it creates more unnecessary problems for us. We might say something or do something which was never our intention.
When you feel angry calm down for a minute or two and think about the practical ways to solve your issue instead of being angry or saying hurtful words. Let’s be kind to each other even if we don’t want to because you don’t know what the other person is going through.
Have a nice day.
我们每个人都会面对这样的日子：我们对某人超级愤怒，而他们却一点也不知道。或者，他们也可能知道我们对他们很生气，但他们仍会假装对此不负任何责任。
我们如何与这些人打交道？
深呼吸，想一想。你的愤怒会改变那个人或他们的行为吗？不。
尽管你大喊大叫，他们将继续他们自己的方式。我们不能改变我们周围的环境或我们周围的人。但是我们可以调整自己，控制我们的反应机制。如果我们不表现出反应，我们的精力就不会浪费在这些无关的事情上。
我们都会犯错误。如果我们不这样做，那我们还算是人类吗？生气并不能解决任何问题，我想说它会给我们带来更多不必要的问题。我们可能会说或做一些我们从未想过的事情。
当你感到愤怒时，冷静一两分钟，思考解决问题的实际方法，而不是生气或说伤害性的话。即使我们不想，我们也要善待对方，因为你不知道对方正在经历什么。
祝你有个美好的一天。
Everyone of us face the days when we are super super angry on someone and they do not have the slightest hint of it. Or it may also happen that they know we are angry on them but still they would pretend that they are not in any way responsible for it.
How do we deal with such people?
Breathe and just think for a moment. Will your anger change that person or their behaviour ?
NO
They will continue with their own ways inspite of your shouting and yelling. We can’t change our surroundings or the people in and around us. But we can adapt ourselves and control our reaction mechanism. If we don’t show the reaction much our energies won’t be wasted on these irrelevant things.
We all make mistakes. If we don’t then are we even humans. Being angry won’t solve anything and I would say it creates more unnecessary problems for us. We might say something or do something which was never our intention.
When you feel angry calm down for a minute or two and think about the practical ways to solve your issue instead of being angry or saying hurtful words. Let’s be kind to each other even if we don’t want to because you don’t know what the other person is going through.
Have a nice day.
我们每个人都会面对这样的日子：我们对某人超级愤怒，而他们却一点也不知道。或者，他们也可能知道我们对他们很生气，但他们仍会假装对此不负任何责任。
我们如何与这些人打交道？
深呼吸，想一想。你的愤怒会改变那个人或他们的行为吗？不。
尽管你大喊大叫，他们将继续他们自己的方式。我们不能改变我们周围的环境或我们周围的人。但是我们可以调整自己，控制我们的反应机制。如果我们不表现出反应，我们的精力就不会浪费在这些无关的事情上。
我们都会犯错误。如果我们不这样做，那我们还算是人类吗？生气并不能解决任何问题，我想说它会给我们带来更多不必要的问题。我们可能会说或做一些我们从未想过的事情。
当你感到愤怒时，冷静一两分钟，思考解决问题的实际方法，而不是生气或说伤害性的话。即使我们不想，我们也要善待对方，因为你不知道对方正在经历什么。
祝你有个美好的一天。
Stephanie Smith, Chronic biological essentialist with focus on the mind
斯蒂芬妮·史密斯，关注心灵的生物本质论者
斯蒂芬妮·史密斯，关注心灵的生物本质论者
I acknowledge the anger and rather than try and suppress it I listen to it and articulate it into words that are appropriate for the situation.
If you try and suppress anger, you often just redirect it to a new pressure valve for future you to deal with. Yet if you listen to your anger and actually go at the problem that made you angry and just moderate what you are saying without backing down then you don’t have this problem.
People always try to squash their own anger, but anger is a positive emotion. It has a place and that place is holding your boundaries and dominance. It’s good to be angry because it means you have self-respect and energy to promote change. My circle of friends has the expression “no one makes her angry twice” because if someone is actually pushing me, I don’t ‘break’ I just let my anger out and people are very afraid of controlled anger. They don’t know how to deal with someone who isn’t ‘flipping out’ but evidently and actively showing their displeasure.
If you listen to your anger and speak your mind then it’s easy to control. It just wants you to reassert yourself.
我承认愤怒，而不是试图压制它，我倾听它，并将它用合适的语言表达出来。
如果你试图压抑愤怒，你通常只是把它转向一个新的压力阀门，让未来的你来处理。然而，如果你倾听自己的愤怒，并真正去解决让你愤怒的问题，只是缓和你所说的话，而不退缩，那么你就不会有这个问题
人们总是试图压制自己的愤怒，但愤怒是一种积极的情绪。它有一个位置，这个位置保持着你的边界和支配地位。生气是件好事，因为这意味着你有自尊和精力去推动改变。我的朋友圈里有这样一句话：“没有人让她生气两次”，因为如果有人真的推我，我不会“打断”我的怒气，我只是把怒气发泄出来，人们非常害怕控制住自己的怒气。他们不知道如何对付那些不是“抓狂”而是明显且积极地表达不满的人。
如果你倾听你的愤怒，说出你的想法，那么这很容易控制。它只是想让你再次证明自己。
If you try and suppress anger, you often just redirect it to a new pressure valve for future you to deal with. Yet if you listen to your anger and actually go at the problem that made you angry and just moderate what you are saying without backing down then you don’t have this problem.
People always try to squash their own anger, but anger is a positive emotion. It has a place and that place is holding your boundaries and dominance. It’s good to be angry because it means you have self-respect and energy to promote change. My circle of friends has the expression “no one makes her angry twice” because if someone is actually pushing me, I don’t ‘break’ I just let my anger out and people are very afraid of controlled anger. They don’t know how to deal with someone who isn’t ‘flipping out’ but evidently and actively showing their displeasure.
If you listen to your anger and speak your mind then it’s easy to control. It just wants you to reassert yourself.
我承认愤怒，而不是试图压制它，我倾听它，并将它用合适的语言表达出来。
如果你试图压抑愤怒，你通常只是把它转向一个新的压力阀门，让未来的你来处理。然而，如果你倾听自己的愤怒，并真正去解决让你愤怒的问题，只是缓和你所说的话，而不退缩，那么你就不会有这个问题
人们总是试图压制自己的愤怒，但愤怒是一种积极的情绪。它有一个位置，这个位置保持着你的边界和支配地位。生气是件好事，因为这意味着你有自尊和精力去推动改变。我的朋友圈里有这样一句话：“没有人让她生气两次”，因为如果有人真的推我，我不会“打断”我的怒气，我只是把怒气发泄出来，人们非常害怕控制住自己的怒气。他们不知道如何对付那些不是“抓狂”而是明显且积极地表达不满的人。
如果你倾听你的愤怒，说出你的想法，那么这很容易控制。它只是想让你再次证明自己。
Jumping Minds, Normalizing Mental Health via tech
Hi,
Getting angry is normal. Accept that it's one of our emotions and we need to deal with it. If it’s uncontrollable, you can try the following things -
STOP- literally, stop before reacting.
DETACH- leave the place/situation for some time.
DEEP BREATHING- practice mindful deep breathing.
COMMUNICATE- once you feel better, try communicating how that situation made you feel. (NOTE- try to use "I" i.e how you got affected and don't indulge in blaming)
DONT HOLD GRUDGE- it's anyway won't take you anywhere.
SET BOUNDARIES- if people are repeating their behaviors of making you uncomfortable politely but firmly set boundaries (like no coffee breaks together, minding own business, etc)
DO NOT PUNCH YOUR PILLOW/ WALL- contrary to popular belief, these reactions don’t decrease you anger or are cathartic. According to some studies these actions may actually increase the hostility.
If it still feels overwhelming or you are feeling that you getting violent try seeking help from a professional.
All the best
你好
生气是正常的。接受它是我们的一种情绪，我们需要处理它。如果无法控制，您可以尝试以下方法：
停止：字面意思，在做出反应之前停止。
分离：离开某位置或脱离某情况一段时间。
深呼吸：练习有意识的深呼吸。
交流：一旦你感觉好些了，试着交流你的感受。(注意:尽量用“我”来表示你是如何受到影响的，不要一味地抱怨）
不要怀恨在心：反正这不会带你去任何地方。
设定界限：如果人们重复他们让你不舒服行为，礼貌但坚定地设定界限（比如不在一起喝咖啡，关心自己的事情，等等）
不要捶打枕头和墙壁：与流行的观点相反，这些反应不会减少你的愤怒或是宣泄它们。根据一些研究，这些行为实际上可能会增加敌意。
如果你仍然感到难以承受，或者你觉得自己变得暴力，试着向专业人士寻求帮助。
祝你一切顺利。
Hi,
Getting angry is normal. Accept that it's one of our emotions and we need to deal with it. If it’s uncontrollable, you can try the following things -
STOP- literally, stop before reacting.
DETACH- leave the place/situation for some time.
DEEP BREATHING- practice mindful deep breathing.
COMMUNICATE- once you feel better, try communicating how that situation made you feel. (NOTE- try to use "I" i.e how you got affected and don't indulge in blaming)
DONT HOLD GRUDGE- it's anyway won't take you anywhere.
SET BOUNDARIES- if people are repeating their behaviors of making you uncomfortable politely but firmly set boundaries (like no coffee breaks together, minding own business, etc)
DO NOT PUNCH YOUR PILLOW/ WALL- contrary to popular belief, these reactions don’t decrease you anger or are cathartic. According to some studies these actions may actually increase the hostility.
If it still feels overwhelming or you are feeling that you getting violent try seeking help from a professional.
All the best
你好
生气是正常的。接受它是我们的一种情绪，我们需要处理它。如果无法控制，您可以尝试以下方法：
停止：字面意思，在做出反应之前停止。
分离：离开某位置或脱离某情况一段时间。
深呼吸：练习有意识的深呼吸。
交流：一旦你感觉好些了，试着交流你的感受。(注意:尽量用“我”来表示你是如何受到影响的，不要一味地抱怨）
不要怀恨在心：反正这不会带你去任何地方。
设定界限：如果人们重复他们让你不舒服行为，礼貌但坚定地设定界限（比如不在一起喝咖啡，关心自己的事情，等等）
不要捶打枕头和墙壁：与流行的观点相反，这些反应不会减少你的愤怒或是宣泄它们。根据一些研究，这些行为实际上可能会增加敌意。
如果你仍然感到难以承受，或者你觉得自己变得暴力，试着向专业人士寻求帮助。
祝你一切顺利。
Shawrya Mehrotra, Founder and CEO at Metvy. TEDx Speaker. 50x Keynote Speaker.
I recently came across this anonymous quote, “When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control how you respond to what’s happening.”
The way a particular situation affects us is not in our control, but the amount it affects us can be in our control. Anger is one such thing that can root from the slightest feeling of agitation with a particular someone or something. However, this emotion is something that should be in our control regardless of the intensity of the situation.
Here are some ways that help me keep my anger in control:
When the cause of my agitation is a particular work situation such as anger due to overburden of work, or due to incompletion of tasks, I give myself a time out. Instead of letting that situation bring me to a point where my productivity level goes low due to frustration, I take a break.
Give yourself a break to clear your head and then get back to the work or the cause of your agitation. A temporary distraction is always a helpful way to calm yourself down and think better and efficiently.
When the cause of my anger is person-related, I make sure to confront that person instead of letting it build a feeling of restlessness inside of me. Make sure to never do this if you are feeling hot-headed. Take some time out to cool down first, then think of the talk you are going to have with your colleague or a superior and plan your speech accordingly. One makes the most regretful speeches while they are still angry about something. So make sure you do not put yourself in such a regretful situation.
The key to any situation angering you is distracting yourself from it temporarily so that you can make a rational decision regarding how to go about it instead of regretting it later.
我最近遇到了一句匿名者说的话，“当你无法控制正在发生的事情时，挑战自己去控制自己如何应对正在发生的事情。”
一种特殊情况对我们的影响不在我们的控制范围内，但它对我们的影响程度可以在我们的控制范围内。愤怒就是这样一种东西，它可以源于对某个特定的人或事物的最轻微的不安感。然而，这种情绪不管情况有多严重，应该在我们的控制之下。
以下是一些帮助我控制愤怒情绪的方法：
情绪
当我情绪激动的原因是某一特定的工作情况，例如工作负担过重或任务未完成而产生的愤怒时，我会给自己一段时间。我不会因这种情况导致我的工作效率因为沮丧而降低，而是休息一下。
让自己休息一下，清醒一下头脑，然后回到工作中去，或者找出你焦虑的原因。暂时的分散一下注意力总是让你冷静下来，让自己冷静下来，更有效地思考。
当我生气的原因与人有关时，我一定要直面那个人，而不是让它在我内心制造一种不安的感觉。如果你感到头脑发热，千万不要这样做。先花点时间冷静下来，然后想想你将要和同事或上级进行的谈话，并相应的计划你的谈话内容。当一个人还在为某事生气时，他会发表最令人遗憾的演讲。因此，请确保不要让自己陷入这种遗憾的境地。
任何愤怒情况下的你关键是暂时分散你的注意力，这样你就可以做出一个理性的决定，而不是事后后悔。
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I recently came across this anonymous quote, “When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control how you respond to what’s happening.”
The way a particular situation affects us is not in our control, but the amount it affects us can be in our control. Anger is one such thing that can root from the slightest feeling of agitation with a particular someone or something. However, this emotion is something that should be in our control regardless of the intensity of the situation.
Here are some ways that help me keep my anger in control:
When the cause of my agitation is a particular work situation such as anger due to overburden of work, or due to incompletion of tasks, I give myself a time out. Instead of letting that situation bring me to a point where my productivity level goes low due to frustration, I take a break.
Give yourself a break to clear your head and then get back to the work or the cause of your agitation. A temporary distraction is always a helpful way to calm yourself down and think better and efficiently.
When the cause of my anger is person-related, I make sure to confront that person instead of letting it build a feeling of restlessness inside of me. Make sure to never do this if you are feeling hot-headed. Take some time out to cool down first, then think of the talk you are going to have with your colleague or a superior and plan your speech accordingly. One makes the most regretful speeches while they are still angry about something. So make sure you do not put yourself in such a regretful situation.
The key to any situation angering you is distracting yourself from it temporarily so that you can make a rational decision regarding how to go about it instead of regretting it later.
我最近遇到了一句匿名者说的话，“当你无法控制正在发生的事情时，挑战自己去控制自己如何应对正在发生的事情。”
一种特殊情况对我们的影响不在我们的控制范围内，但它对我们的影响程度可以在我们的控制范围内。愤怒就是这样一种东西，它可以源于对某个特定的人或事物的最轻微的不安感。然而，这种情绪不管情况有多严重，应该在我们的控制之下。
以下是一些帮助我控制愤怒情绪的方法：
情绪
当我情绪激动的原因是某一特定的工作情况，例如工作负担过重或任务未完成而产生的愤怒时，我会给自己一段时间。我不会因这种情况导致我的工作效率因为沮丧而降低，而是休息一下。
让自己休息一下，清醒一下头脑，然后回到工作中去，或者找出你焦虑的原因。暂时的分散一下注意力总是让你冷静下来，让自己冷静下来，更有效地思考。
当我生气的原因与人有关时，我一定要直面那个人，而不是让它在我内心制造一种不安的感觉。如果你感到头脑发热，千万不要这样做。先花点时间冷静下来，然后想想你将要和同事或上级进行的谈话，并相应的计划你的谈话内容。当一个人还在为某事生气时，他会发表最令人遗憾的演讲。因此，请确保不要让自己陷入这种遗憾的境地。
任何愤怒情况下的你关键是暂时分散你的注意力，这样你就可以做出一个理性的决定，而不是事后后悔。
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Shivangi Yadav, what u know is a drop and what u don't know is an ocean
Shivangi Yadav，你知道的是一滴，你不知道的是一片海洋
Shivangi Yadav，你知道的是一滴，你不知道的是一片海洋
Go to ur room lock it switch off the lights and just sleep?? ….. either ull fall asleep or ull be not that much angry ….. avoiding talks is the best thing to do when ur super angry its better to stay silent rather than doing that ” u did this no u did this,” “u r wrong u always do this “blah blah thing it just messes up the whole thing after all at the end u know everything will be fine its just the heat of the moment that ruins everything so control urself for that short period …
去你的房间，锁上它，关上灯，然后睡觉。要么你睡着了，要么你不再那么生气。当你非常生气的时候，避免谈话是最好的选择—保持沉默，而不是说“是你干的，不是你弄的，“你错了，你总是这么做”诸如此类的废话，这只会把事情搞砸，毕竟最后你知道一切都会好起来的，只是一时冲动毁了一切，所以要在这段短暂的时间内控制自己。
去你的房间，锁上它，关上灯，然后睡觉。要么你睡着了，要么你不再那么生气。当你非常生气的时候，避免谈话是最好的选择—保持沉默，而不是说“是你干的，不是你弄的，“你错了，你总是这么做”诸如此类的废话，这只会把事情搞砸，毕竟最后你知道一切都会好起来的，只是一时冲动毁了一切，所以要在这段短暂的时间内控制自己。
Webicoun India, lives in Jammu City, Jammu and Kashmir, India (2020-present)
ebicoun India，居住在印度查谟和克什米尔的查谟市（2020年至今）
ebicoun India，居住在印度查谟和克什米尔的查谟市（2020年至今）
HEY EVERYBODY!
It’s not a big deal to calm down from being angry at small-small things,
It’s actually very easy!
Firstly, you need to understand “YOURSELF”, YOU SHOULD LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF, AND TREAT EVERYTHINGS IN A MANNER THAT YOU WANTED TO BE TREATED LIKE!
DON’T MANIPULATE THINGS, TRY TO UNDERSTAND IT IN A WAY DEEPER THAN YOU NORMALLY THINKS!
ONE SHOULD DO MEDITATION TOO TO CONTROL THEIR EMOTIONS BECAUSE THEIR IS NOBODY TO LISTEN TO YOUR ANGER!
SEE GUYS, EVERYTHING DESERVES TO BE LOVED, AND IF YOU WANTED TO BE LOVED BY EVERYONE, YOU SHOULD START LOVING PEOPLE BECAUSE WHEN YOU LOOK GOOD, YOU’LL DEFINITELY GONNA PLAY GOOD!
So, that’s it from my side, focus on these strategies and you’ll gonna see the change!
But majorly, you need to focus on your emotions!
大家好！
让为小事生气的自己冷静下来不是难办的事
其实很简单！
首先，你需要了解“你自己”，你应该学会爱自己，用你希望别人对待你的方式来对待每一件事。
不要操纵事物，试着以一种比你通常认为的更深刻的方式去理解它！
一个人也应该做冥想来控制他们的情绪，因为没有人倾听你的愤怒！
看，伙计们，一切都值得爱，如果你想被每个人爱，你应该开始爱别人，因为当你看起来很好的时候，你一定会表现得很好！
所以，这就是我的观点，专注于这些策略，你就会看到变化！
但最重要的是，你需要关注你的情绪！
It’s not a big deal to calm down from being angry at small-small things,
It’s actually very easy!
Firstly, you need to understand “YOURSELF”, YOU SHOULD LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF, AND TREAT EVERYTHINGS IN A MANNER THAT YOU WANTED TO BE TREATED LIKE!
DON’T MANIPULATE THINGS, TRY TO UNDERSTAND IT IN A WAY DEEPER THAN YOU NORMALLY THINKS!
ONE SHOULD DO MEDITATION TOO TO CONTROL THEIR EMOTIONS BECAUSE THEIR IS NOBODY TO LISTEN TO YOUR ANGER!
SEE GUYS, EVERYTHING DESERVES TO BE LOVED, AND IF YOU WANTED TO BE LOVED BY EVERYONE, YOU SHOULD START LOVING PEOPLE BECAUSE WHEN YOU LOOK GOOD, YOU’LL DEFINITELY GONNA PLAY GOOD!
So, that’s it from my side, focus on these strategies and you’ll gonna see the change!
But majorly, you need to focus on your emotions!
大家好！
让为小事生气的自己冷静下来不是难办的事
其实很简单！
首先，你需要了解“你自己”，你应该学会爱自己，用你希望别人对待你的方式来对待每一件事。
不要操纵事物，试着以一种比你通常认为的更深刻的方式去理解它！
一个人也应该做冥想来控制他们的情绪，因为没有人倾听你的愤怒！
看，伙计们，一切都值得爱，如果你想被每个人爱，你应该开始爱别人，因为当你看起来很好的时候，你一定会表现得很好！
所以，这就是我的观点，专注于这些策略，你就会看到变化！
但最重要的是，你需要关注你的情绪！
Archit Mudgal, B.B.A Writing, Sharda University (2018)
ANGER, the only emotion which is most difficult to control
We can control and hide any other feeling or emotions but to talk about Anger it is not an easy task, each and every individual find it difficult to control it no matter what the place, situation or person is if you really are heated up then you just can't control your anger.
And you yourself also might have seen that One could hide or fake his feelings or emotion but if that person is really annoyed or heated up then that person just go all out and express his raging anger.
To tell you Anger is one of the Strongest emotion, it's not like other emotions are not strong but even the slightest of annoyance or irritation turns on your anger that is why it is easy to express the anger rather than suppress it. You can find hundreds of ways to control your anger like take a deep breath, count to ten and many more, but what I think all these methods won't work until the main motive is not coming from inside.
The thing is we actually don't know about the true reaction to the emotion ANGER, yes we seriously don't know.
Think like that when we are extremely HAPPY we spread love, do good things and help others and not only that our aura automatically becomes positive that we ourselves are not aware of what all good deeds we are doing.
And when we are ANGRY we spread hatred, coldness, bitterness and end up doing bad things and bad thing consider a hell lot of negative things like using harsh words, hurting emotionally, violence, physical damage, and the list goes on and on to hideous crimes like murder, emotional trap, grudge and many more things, the more the rage of anger is largely our actions would be negative.
At one moment we were spreading love and positivity and on the other moment we are abusing and hitting someone, I ask what is the use of all this hatred and anger, what is that soo important thing that you will gain after hitting that person soo hard that he's hospitalized now. At the end of the day would you be proud of being harsh to someone.
Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.
In this world of reality, it is easy to find anger in each person but do you dare enough to solely spread smile, to spread love, to spread peace in this world.
愤怒—唯一最难控制的情绪
我们可以控制和隐藏任何其他的感觉或情绪，但控制愤怒并不是一件容易的事情，每个人都觉得很难控制它，无关地点、情况或是谁，如果你真的很激动，那么你就无法控制你的愤怒。
你自己也可能看到，一个人可以隐藏或假装他的感受或情绪，但如果那个人真的很生气或很恼火，那么那个人就全力以赴，表达他的愤怒。
告诉你：愤怒是最强烈的情绪之一，这不像其他不强烈的情绪，但即使是最轻微的烦恼或刺激也会激发你的愤怒，这就是为什么表达愤怒比抑制愤怒容易的原因。你可以找到数百种方法来控制你的愤怒，比如深呼吸、从一数到十或更多，但我认为所有这些方法都不会奏效，除非主要动机不是来自内心。
问题是我们实际上不知道情绪愤怒的真实反应，是的，我们真的不知道。
想象一下，当我们非常快乐时，我们传播爱，做好事，帮助他人，不仅我们的光环自动变得积极，我们自己也不知道我们在做什么好事。
当我们生气的时候，我们传播仇恨、冷漠、痛苦，最后做坏事，考虑很多负面的事情，比如用严厉的言辞、伤害感情、暴力、身体伤害，有很多可怕的罪行，比如谋杀，情感陷阱，怨恨等等，愤怒越多，我们的行为就会变得越消极。
有一刻，我们在传播爱和积极，另一刻，我们在虐待和殴打某人，我问你：所有这些仇恨和愤怒有什么用，在狠狠地打了那个人之后，你会得到什么重要的东西？他现在住院了。最终，你会因为对别人刻薄而感到骄傲吗？
我今天传播和平了吗？我给别人脸上带微笑了吗？我说过治愈的话吗？我有没有放下我的愤怒和怨恨？我原谅你了吗？我爱你吗？这些才是真正的问题。我必须相信，我现在播种的一点点爱，将在这个世界和未来的生活中结出许多果实。
在这个现实的世界里，很容易在每个人身上发现愤怒，但你是否有足够的勇气在这个世界上传播微笑，传播爱，传播和平。
ANGER, the only emotion which is most difficult to control
We can control and hide any other feeling or emotions but to talk about Anger it is not an easy task, each and every individual find it difficult to control it no matter what the place, situation or person is if you really are heated up then you just can't control your anger.
And you yourself also might have seen that One could hide or fake his feelings or emotion but if that person is really annoyed or heated up then that person just go all out and express his raging anger.
To tell you Anger is one of the Strongest emotion, it's not like other emotions are not strong but even the slightest of annoyance or irritation turns on your anger that is why it is easy to express the anger rather than suppress it. You can find hundreds of ways to control your anger like take a deep breath, count to ten and many more, but what I think all these methods won't work until the main motive is not coming from inside.
The thing is we actually don't know about the true reaction to the emotion ANGER, yes we seriously don't know.
Think like that when we are extremely HAPPY we spread love, do good things and help others and not only that our aura automatically becomes positive that we ourselves are not aware of what all good deeds we are doing.
And when we are ANGRY we spread hatred, coldness, bitterness and end up doing bad things and bad thing consider a hell lot of negative things like using harsh words, hurting emotionally, violence, physical damage, and the list goes on and on to hideous crimes like murder, emotional trap, grudge and many more things, the more the rage of anger is largely our actions would be negative.
At one moment we were spreading love and positivity and on the other moment we are abusing and hitting someone, I ask what is the use of all this hatred and anger, what is that soo important thing that you will gain after hitting that person soo hard that he's hospitalized now. At the end of the day would you be proud of being harsh to someone.
Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come.
In this world of reality, it is easy to find anger in each person but do you dare enough to solely spread smile, to spread love, to spread peace in this world.
愤怒—唯一最难控制的情绪
我们可以控制和隐藏任何其他的感觉或情绪，但控制愤怒并不是一件容易的事情，每个人都觉得很难控制它，无关地点、情况或是谁，如果你真的很激动，那么你就无法控制你的愤怒。
你自己也可能看到，一个人可以隐藏或假装他的感受或情绪，但如果那个人真的很生气或很恼火，那么那个人就全力以赴，表达他的愤怒。
告诉你：愤怒是最强烈的情绪之一，这不像其他不强烈的情绪，但即使是最轻微的烦恼或刺激也会激发你的愤怒，这就是为什么表达愤怒比抑制愤怒容易的原因。你可以找到数百种方法来控制你的愤怒，比如深呼吸、从一数到十或更多，但我认为所有这些方法都不会奏效，除非主要动机不是来自内心。
问题是我们实际上不知道情绪愤怒的真实反应，是的，我们真的不知道。
想象一下，当我们非常快乐时，我们传播爱，做好事，帮助他人，不仅我们的光环自动变得积极，我们自己也不知道我们在做什么好事。
当我们生气的时候，我们传播仇恨、冷漠、痛苦，最后做坏事，考虑很多负面的事情，比如用严厉的言辞、伤害感情、暴力、身体伤害，有很多可怕的罪行，比如谋杀，情感陷阱，怨恨等等，愤怒越多，我们的行为就会变得越消极。
有一刻，我们在传播爱和积极，另一刻，我们在虐待和殴打某人，我问你：所有这些仇恨和愤怒有什么用，在狠狠地打了那个人之后，你会得到什么重要的东西？他现在住院了。最终，你会因为对别人刻薄而感到骄傲吗？
我今天传播和平了吗？我给别人脸上带微笑了吗？我说过治愈的话吗？我有没有放下我的愤怒和怨恨？我原谅你了吗？我爱你吗？这些才是真正的问题。我必须相信，我现在播种的一点点爱，将在这个世界和未来的生活中结出许多果实。
在这个现实的世界里，很容易在每个人身上发现愤怒，但你是否有足够的勇气在这个世界上传播微笑，传播爱，传播和平。
Chad Michael Keeney, Owner (2016-present)
As a guy who, in the past has struggled with some major anger issues, I can help.
Here are a few steps that I still take before I issue any kind of response. These steps work very well for anger (as this was their original intention), but they also work well in multiple areas.
As cliche as it sounds, count to 10 slowly. This allows your thoughts to run through the necessary filters before something stupid comes out of your mouth
While you are counting, ask yourself: ‘why does this make me angry?’ In other words, What significance am I assigning to the situation. Then, scrutinize that reasoning. ‘does it really mean what I’m making it mean, or is it possible that I’m misinterpreting the situation?’
If you are certain that there is no misinterpretation, ask yourself: ‘How important is the issue?’ ‘Will it matter in 5 years?’ ‘Will it matter in 5 months, five weeks, days or hours?’
I’ve found that, if I run this method through until the end and eliminate useless emotion, most anger inducing issues simply don’t matter. If the impact time is only 5 hours or days, then it isn’t worth your energy. If it does actually matter, I’m usually calm enough by this point to begin a rational conversation/teaching moment.
WARNING: If you are still not calm at this point, DO NOT revisit the situation. Keep yourself separated until you are of sound mind. No good fruit has ever come from seeds of blind rage.
作为一个过去曾与愤怒问题作斗争的人，我能帮上忙。
以下是我在做出任何回应之前仍要采取的一些步骤。这些步骤对于愤怒非常有效（因为最开始就是应付愤怒的），但此方法在多个领域也很有效。
听上去很老套，慢慢数到10。这可以让你的思想在愚蠢的事情从你嘴里出来之前通过必要的过滤。
当你在数的时候，问问自己：“为什么这会让我生气？”换言之，我赋予这种情况什么意义。然后，仔细研究这个理由。”这真的是我要表达的意思吗，还是我可能误解了情况？”
如果你确信没有误解，问问自己：“这个问题有多重要？”5年后会有影响吗？5个月后，5周后，几天后还是几个小时后，它还会重要吗”
我发现，如果我一直使用这种方法，并消除无用的情绪，大多数引发愤怒的问题根本就不重要。如果造成的影响只有5小时或5天，那么它就不值得你花费精力。如果这真的很重要，我通常在这一点上足够冷静，开始一个理性的对话/教学时刻。
警告：如果此时你仍然不冷静，不要重新审视这种情况。让你自己脱离开局势，直到你头脑清醒。盲目愤怒的种子从没有结出过好果子。
As a guy who, in the past has struggled with some major anger issues, I can help.
Here are a few steps that I still take before I issue any kind of response. These steps work very well for anger (as this was their original intention), but they also work well in multiple areas.
As cliche as it sounds, count to 10 slowly. This allows your thoughts to run through the necessary filters before something stupid comes out of your mouth
While you are counting, ask yourself: ‘why does this make me angry?’ In other words, What significance am I assigning to the situation. Then, scrutinize that reasoning. ‘does it really mean what I’m making it mean, or is it possible that I’m misinterpreting the situation?’
If you are certain that there is no misinterpretation, ask yourself: ‘How important is the issue?’ ‘Will it matter in 5 years?’ ‘Will it matter in 5 months, five weeks, days or hours?’
I’ve found that, if I run this method through until the end and eliminate useless emotion, most anger inducing issues simply don’t matter. If the impact time is only 5 hours or days, then it isn’t worth your energy. If it does actually matter, I’m usually calm enough by this point to begin a rational conversation/teaching moment.
WARNING: If you are still not calm at this point, DO NOT revisit the situation. Keep yourself separated until you are of sound mind. No good fruit has ever come from seeds of blind rage.
作为一个过去曾与愤怒问题作斗争的人，我能帮上忙。
以下是我在做出任何回应之前仍要采取的一些步骤。这些步骤对于愤怒非常有效（因为最开始就是应付愤怒的），但此方法在多个领域也很有效。
听上去很老套，慢慢数到10。这可以让你的思想在愚蠢的事情从你嘴里出来之前通过必要的过滤。
当你在数的时候，问问自己：“为什么这会让我生气？”换言之，我赋予这种情况什么意义。然后，仔细研究这个理由。”这真的是我要表达的意思吗，还是我可能误解了情况？”
如果你确信没有误解，问问自己：“这个问题有多重要？”5年后会有影响吗？5个月后，5周后，几天后还是几个小时后，它还会重要吗”
我发现，如果我一直使用这种方法，并消除无用的情绪，大多数引发愤怒的问题根本就不重要。如果造成的影响只有5小时或5天，那么它就不值得你花费精力。如果这真的很重要，我通常在这一点上足够冷静，开始一个理性的对话/教学时刻。
警告：如果此时你仍然不冷静，不要重新审视这种情况。让你自己脱离开局势，直到你头脑清醒。盲目愤怒的种子从没有结出过好果子。
Farouk Othman, Researcher
法鲁克·奥斯曼，研究员
法鲁克·奥斯曼，研究员
When you are angry
First off, Stay silent:
When a person becomes angry, there is high tendency for them to lose control and say things they will regret forever.
A man said to me, “If you become angry, keep silent”.
Change your position:
“If you got angry while standing then sit down, or if sitting down then lay down,” he said.
Think about what you are about to do or say. Not what was done or said to you—not what caused the anger.
And if after all these, you’re still angry,
Walk out of the place. Take a walk. Let your mind be lost in nature till you are calm.
当你生气的时候
首先，保持沉默：
当一个人生气时，他们很容易失控，说一些让他们永远后悔的话。
一个人对我说:“如果你生气了，保持沉默。“
改变你的姿势：
他说：“如果你站着生气，那就坐下；如果坐着生气，那就躺下。”。
想想你将要做什么或说什么。不是对你做了什么或说了什么，也不是引起愤怒的原因。
如果在这一切之后，你还在生气，
离开这个地方。散步。让你的心沉浸在大自然中，直到你平静下来。
原创翻译：龙腾网 https://www.ltaaa.cn 转载请注明出处
First off, Stay silent:
When a person becomes angry, there is high tendency for them to lose control and say things they will regret forever.
A man said to me, “If you become angry, keep silent”.
Change your position:
“If you got angry while standing then sit down, or if sitting down then lay down,” he said.
Think about what you are about to do or say. Not what was done or said to you—not what caused the anger.
And if after all these, you’re still angry,
Walk out of the place. Take a walk. Let your mind be lost in nature till you are calm.
当你生气的时候
首先，保持沉默：
当一个人生气时，他们很容易失控，说一些让他们永远后悔的话。
一个人对我说:“如果你生气了，保持沉默。“
改变你的姿势：
他说：“如果你站着生气，那就坐下；如果坐着生气，那就躺下。”。
想想你将要做什么或说什么。不是对你做了什么或说了什么，也不是引起愤怒的原因。
如果在这一切之后，你还在生气，
离开这个地方。散步。让你的心沉浸在大自然中，直到你平静下来。
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By being more consciously rational. Try to think more logically.
Ask yourself whether the situation is worth getting angry over.
I usually have this problem solving mentality. When i get annoyed or angry, i recognize that there's a problem that needs solving. Then i try to find possible solutions to that problem in a rational way.
In an arguement, this could be to either persuade the person or find a middle ground where both sides benefit.
But i have to admit that sometimes it's hard to control. Sometimes i get these intense episodes of anger or rage for no reason. When this happens, it's really just a matter of impulse control.
Remaining calm is very useful because it allows me to control the situation, and hopefully get what i want out of it.
通过更加有意识的理性态度去考虑。试着更合乎逻辑地思考。
问问自己，这种情况是否值得生气。
我通常有这种解决问题的心态。当我生气或即将生气时，我意识到有一个问题需要解决。然后我试图以理性的方式找到解决这个问题的可能方法。
在辩论中，这可以是说服对方，也可以是找到双方都受益的中间立场。
但我不得不承认，有时候很难控制。有时我会无缘无故地感到愤怒。当这种情况发生时，它实际上只是一个控制冲动的问题。
保持冷静是非常有用的，因为它让我能够控制局势，并希望从中得到我想要的东西。
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By being more consciously rational. Try to think more logically.
Ask yourself whether the situation is worth getting angry over.
I usually have this problem solving mentality. When i get annoyed or angry, i recognize that there's a problem that needs solving. Then i try to find possible solutions to that problem in a rational way.
In an arguement, this could be to either persuade the person or find a middle ground where both sides benefit.
But i have to admit that sometimes it's hard to control. Sometimes i get these intense episodes of anger or rage for no reason. When this happens, it's really just a matter of impulse control.
Remaining calm is very useful because it allows me to control the situation, and hopefully get what i want out of it.
通过更加有意识的理性态度去考虑。试着更合乎逻辑地思考。
问问自己，这种情况是否值得生气。
我通常有这种解决问题的心态。当我生气或即将生气时，我意识到有一个问题需要解决。然后我试图以理性的方式找到解决这个问题的可能方法。
在辩论中，这可以是说服对方，也可以是找到双方都受益的中间立场。
但我不得不承认，有时候很难控制。有时我会无缘无故地感到愤怒。当这种情况发生时，它实际上只是一个控制冲动的问题。
保持冷静是非常有用的，因为它让我能够控制局势，并希望从中得到我想要的东西。
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Arisha Malik, lives in Dehradun, Uttarakhand, India
Leave the situation, look in a different direction, walk out of the place.
One of the best thing that you can try is 'breathing exercise'. It's the most effective technique to calm a person down. Take slow 'in' and 'out' breaths. Count them to stay focused.
Acknowledge your anger in the moment, allow yourself to express it, it may help in decreasing it.
Try to get away from the situation, drink some water and treat yourself with a snack. Your body might need hydration.
Go out, and get some fresh air.
Write a journal, your thoughts about the moment when you were angry. It'll help you understand yourself better and act accordingly.
Turn on somw good music of your choice, and imagine yourself as a calm person.
Practice mindfulness meditation. To get long term results.
Hope this helps, Thank you ??
离开这个环境、换个方向看、离开这个地方。
你可以尝试的最好的方法之一是“呼吸练习”。这是使人平静下来的最有效的技巧。慢慢地吸气和呼气。数一数数，保持专注。
承认你此刻的愤怒，让自己表达出来，这可能有助于减少愤怒。
试着摆脱这种状况：喝点水，吃点零食。你的身体可能需要补充水分。
出去呼吸点新鲜空气。
写日记，记下你生气时的想法。这会帮助你更好地了解自己，并采取相应的行动。
打开你选择的好音乐，想象自己是一个冷静的人。
练习正念冥想，以获得长期效果。
希望这有帮助，谢谢。
Leave the situation, look in a different direction, walk out of the place.
One of the best thing that you can try is 'breathing exercise'. It's the most effective technique to calm a person down. Take slow 'in' and 'out' breaths. Count them to stay focused.
Acknowledge your anger in the moment, allow yourself to express it, it may help in decreasing it.
Try to get away from the situation, drink some water and treat yourself with a snack. Your body might need hydration.
Go out, and get some fresh air.
Write a journal, your thoughts about the moment when you were angry. It'll help you understand yourself better and act accordingly.
Turn on somw good music of your choice, and imagine yourself as a calm person.
Practice mindfulness meditation. To get long term results.
Hope this helps, Thank you ??
离开这个环境、换个方向看、离开这个地方。
你可以尝试的最好的方法之一是“呼吸练习”。这是使人平静下来的最有效的技巧。慢慢地吸气和呼气。数一数数，保持专注。
承认你此刻的愤怒，让自己表达出来，这可能有助于减少愤怒。
试着摆脱这种状况：喝点水，吃点零食。你的身体可能需要补充水分。
出去呼吸点新鲜空气。
写日记，记下你生气时的想法。这会帮助你更好地了解自己，并采取相应的行动。
打开你选择的好音乐，想象自己是一个冷静的人。
练习正念冥想，以获得长期效果。
希望这有帮助，谢谢。
Charmi Mehta, lives in Mumbai, Maharashtra, India (1995-present)
Charmi Mehta，居住在印度马哈拉施特拉邦的孟买（1995年至今）
愤怒会很自然地降临到任何人身上，这取决于当时的情况，但通过冥想来解决它有助于控制愤怒。
说到我：
水让我平静下来；
呼吸练习；
除此之外，我的理智让我选择了一些不应该使用的词语，不然你只会在以后感到内疚。保持警惕，明智地选择行动和做出反应。
Charmi Mehta，居住在印度马哈拉施特拉邦的孟买（1995年至今）
愤怒会很自然地降临到任何人身上，这取决于当时的情况，但通过冥想来解决它有助于控制愤怒。
说到我：
水让我平静下来；
呼吸练习；
除此之外，我的理智让我选择了一些不应该使用的词语，不然你只会在以后感到内疚。保持警惕，明智地选择行动和做出反应。
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