你怎么能让一个英国女孩知道你的存在(二)
2022-06-14 辽阔天空 8410
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How can you get a British girl to even know you exist?

你怎么能让一个英国女孩知道你的存在?

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Tom Groves, lives in The United Kingdom
I used to work with a British guy in New York. He went out on a few dates with some American women he met online, and got on well with one of them. They went out maybe a dozen times over a month or two and things were going well, when she dropped the bombshell…
“I think maybe it’s time we take this relationship to the next level, what do you think?”
As far as he was concerned when someone you consider to be your girlfriend says that, there is only one more level. He liked this woman, but marriage? Already?! WTF?!?
Of course she was just wanting to formally upgrade their relationship from “dating” to “exclusively dating”. He wasn’t even aware that such categories existed. He’d never been in a situation where these things were explicitly stated like this before.
In general, it’s less structured, less formal here in the UK. In the US there are tons of unwritten rules about how you’re supposed to behave, when you call, who pays for what, how many people you may be seeing at any given time, how many people you may be sleeping with at any given time, when you are “dating” and when you’re girlfriend/boyfriend. In the UK, people tend to muddle through haphazardly much more. Haphazard muddling is much more our style.

我以前在纽约和一个英国人一起工作。他与一些在网上认识的美国女性约会过几次,并与其中一位相处融洽。他们在一两个月的时间里约会了十几次,事情进展得很顺利,当她说出令人震惊的消息时:“我想也许是时候把这种关系提升到一个新的水平了,你怎么看?”
在他看来,当一个你认为是你女朋友的人这样说时,只代表一个意思。他是喜欢这个女人,但结婚姻?卧槽!
当然,她只是想将他们的关系从“约会”正式升级为“唯一约会”。他甚至不知道有这样的分类存在。他从来没有遇到过这样的情况,这些事情都是如此明确的陈述出来。
一般来说,,在英国,它不那么有条理,不那么正式。在美国,有很多不成文的规则,关于你应该如何表现,你在“约会”的时候,以及你是女朋友/男朋友的时候,你什么时候打电话,谁为什么买单,你在任何时候都可能和多少人约会,你在任何给定的时间可能会和多少人上床。在英国,人们往往更随意地混日子。偶然的含糊不清的更是我们的风格。

Chris Young
Do British girls date or marry Indian boys?
Yes, sometimes. Sometimes conflicting cultural expectations make it difficult. A young white English friend of mine dated an Indian guy she was really into, but had to break it off when he made it clear that he would expect her to abandon her career as a doctor. But that was just one guy being a jerk. A white English guy I know married an Indian girl and they’ve been very happy for 30 years.

英国女孩与印度男孩约会或结婚吗?
有时候是的,有时,相互冲突的文化期望使之变得困难。我一位年轻的英国白人朋友和一个她非常喜欢的印度男人约会,但当他明确表示希望她放弃医生职业时,她不得不分手。但那只是一个混蛋。我认识的一个英国白人娶了一个印度女孩,他们幸福地生活了30年。

Julian Beirne
I take it you are a ham shank (Yank) .
Brits have an inward culture, Americans have an outward culture. They do not mix.
With a Brit you talk about everything except personal topics like, How much money do you have, how many times have you been divorced, do you spit or swallow.
You should not tell her about how big your ranch/car/bank balance/ cock is until very much later in the relationship.
An American becomes friends by discussing personal details.
A Brit becomes friends by NOT discussing personal details.
When she starts to tell you personal things then it is time to tell her something small back.
The Brits will not do (generally) anything to embarrass or inconvenience another person and that will be at the front of their mind at all times.
Of course there are thousands of British girls who do not fit in to this template, but as it was a general question, you got a general answer.

我想你是个美国佬。
英国人比较内向,美国人则外向。他们不太合得来。
和英国人在一起,除了个人话题外,你什么都会说,比如,你有多少钱,你离婚过多少次,你会吐痰还是吞咽。
你不应该告诉她你的农场/汽车/银行余额/鸡儿有多大,除非你们的关系发展到后期。
美国人通过讨论个人细节成为朋友。
英国人通过不讨论个人细节而成为朋友。
当她开始告诉你一些个人的事情时,是时候告诉她一些小事情了。
英国人(通常)不会做任何让他人难堪或不便的事情,这将一直是他们的首要思想。
当然,有成千上万的英国女孩不符合这套路,但由于这是一个普遍的问题,所以给一个普遍的答案。

Sol Rainha
Is getting a girlfriend in England difficult?
I’m not from England but I’m sure that getting a girlfriend there is as difficult - or not - as getting one anywhere else.
Depending on what you’re looking for in a relationship you may or may not have your life easy when it comes to finding a girlfriend. Some girls are harder to get than others, some are right and some are wrong for what you’re looking for.
Girlfriend is not some kind of merchandise that’s cheaper in some countries than others. If you want a relationship, be you a man or a woman, you gotta earn it.

在英国交女朋友难吗?
我不是英国人,但我确信在那里交女朋友和在其他地方交女朋友一样困难,或者说不难。
取决于你在一段关系中寻找什么,在找女朋友时,你的生活可能会很轻松,也可能不会轻松。有些女孩比其他女孩更难找到,有些是对的,有些是错的。
女朋友不是在某些国家比其他国家便宜的商品。如果你想要一段感情,无论你是男人还是女人,你都必须赢得它。

Sharon Talbot
I want to marry a British man. How can I?
I agree with Anonymous that going to the UK is probably easiest if you can afford it. Perhaps attend school there or try to get a job (not easy!). I’ve met many British people (men and women) online and developed friendships over the years. One guy even offered to fly me to London and pay for everything! It wasn’t for marriage but I’m pretty sure he was serious. If I hadn’t been happily married, I’d have been tempted.
Just remember that if you do marry a British guy, you will probably be expected to…make tea!

我想嫁给一个英国男人,我该怎么办?
我同意匿名者的观点,如果你能负担得起,去英国可能是最容易的。也许在那里上学或试着找份工作(不容易!)。多年来,我在网上结识了许多英国人(男男女女),并建立了友谊。一个家伙甚至提出让我飞到伦敦,并支付所有费用!不是为了结婚,但我很确定他是认真的。如果我没有幸福的婚姻,我就会被诱惑。
只要记住,如果你真的嫁给了一个英国男人,你可能会被要求泡茶!

Jonathan Trueman
It is constant joy, a cavalcade of culture, wit, wisdom, aesthetic delight at his classical good looks and, of course, amazing carnal encounters.
Terms and conditions apply. Product may obsess over association and/or rugby football, trains, stamps or pigeons, complain about weather, drink excessively by international standards, be excessively sarcastic and/or pessimistic . Warranty on classical good looks limited to 30 days after purchase, manufacturer assumes no liability for product’s hair, teeth, jowls or waistline thereafter. Quality of carnal encounters may be ‘amazing’ in more ways than one.

这是一种永恒的喜悦,一种文化、智慧、智慧的盛宴,一种对他古典美貌的审美喜悦,当然,还有令人惊叹的肉体接触。
适用条款及条件:其人可能会沉迷于协会和/或橄榄球、火车、邮票或鸽子,抱怨天气,按照国际标准过度饮酒,过度讽刺和/或悲观。经典美貌可能维持接触后的30天,“制造商”对产品的头发、牙齿、下巴或腰围不承担任何责任,肉欲邂逅的质量可能在多个方面“令人惊叹”。

Christian Semmens
As usual, it depends upon what you mean.
If we take your question at face value and ignore any potential for a euphamistic interpretaion of “easy going”, I doubt that there are any particularly glaring differences between British girls and those from other places. The spread of attitudes is more dependent upon economic circumstance and place of residence than upon nationality or gender.
To broadly generalise, I’d say that , on the whole, yes they are.
Individuals will differ in large ways from this broad sterotype, so although you may find most people accepting and easy going, others may not be so accommodating.
So, I suppose, the answer is yes, but not everyone is.

像往常一样,这取决于你的意愿。
如果我们只从表面上看你的问题,忽略对“随和”的委婉解释,我怀疑英国女孩和其他地方的女孩之间是否有任何特别明显的差异。态度的传播更多地取决于经济环境和居住地,而不是国籍或性别。
总的来说,我想说,总的来说,是的。
个体会在很大程度上不同于这种广泛的刻板印象,:所以,虽然你可能会发现大多数人都能接受,很容易相处,但其他人可能不会这么随和。
所以,我想答案是肯定的,但不是每个人都是如此。

Matt Sutton
There are more than 30 million British women. Astonishingly, scientists have recently discovered that they are all individuals. Some of them certainly are independent, mature, clever and good looking, but some of them won't be all or even any of those things.
As such, your question is unanswerable. As there is no universal 'British woman', there is no single experience of being in a relationship with one. In fact, your question is even more unanswerable because the experience of being in a relationship with someone depends on both the people in it.
This is a little off-topic, but if you're interested in being in a relationship with a woman, I would suggest trying to think of them as individuals. The way your question is worded seems to suggest you think British women are interchangeable, and that's very dehumanizing, which is not very attractive.

英国有3000多万女性。令人惊讶的是,科学家最近发现他们都是独立的个体。他们中的一些人当然是独立的、成熟的、聪明的和漂亮的,但他们中的一些人不会具备所有这些品质,甚至不会具备任何这些品质。
因此,你的问题无法回答。由于没有啥类型“英国女性”具有普适性,因此与产生关系的这个女性没有单一建立关系的经验。事实上,你的问题更无法回答,因为和某个人在一起的经历取决于双方。
这有点离题,但如果你有兴趣和一个女人发生关系,我建议你试着把她们看作是个体。你的问题措辞似乎表明你认为英国女性是可以互换的,这是非常不人道的,也不值得考虑。

Andrew Crawford
Can a Canadian kid date a British girl
Obviously, there’s no law against Brits and Canucks dating each other, and they’re both human so there are no natural barriers other than the Atlantic Ocean. Cultural differences are an obstacle for some couples but should be negligible in this case.
Whether or not long-distance relationships are workable is a different question, and it depends on the couple and their specific circumstances. It’s not impossible.
and do British girls find Canadians attractive
What? Do all ~30m British women find all ~15m Canadian men attractive? Obviously not. Is there something unique and universal to Canadians that renders them unattractive to the British? Obviously not. The average Canadian looks quite a bit like the average Briton.

加拿大孩子能和英国女孩约会吗?
显然,没有法律禁止英国人和加拿大人约会,而且他们都是人,所以除了大西洋之外,没有其他自然屏障。文化差异对一些夫妇来说是一个障碍,但在这种情况下应该可以忽略不计。
异地恋是否可行则是另一个问题,这取决于夫妻和他们的具体情况,这不是不可能的。
英国女孩觉得加拿大人有吸引力吗
什么?3000万英国女性是否都认为1500万加拿大男性都很有吸引力?显然不是。加拿大人是否有什么独特和普遍的特质,使他们对英国人没有吸引力?显然不是。普通的加拿大人看起来和普通的英国人差不多。

Kelsey L. Haye
There is no monolithic “British man” type. British men are just as diverse, for better or worse, as men from any other place (to say nothing of the cultural differences between England, Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland).
My British husband is a quiet, shy science geek. He’s not 1990s Hugh Grant or James Bond. I quite like being married to him — he’s a good husband — but I wouldn’t use my experience with him to make generalizations about British men.
I’ve known British men who were absolute class snobs, some who cheated on their girlfriends/wives, some who were conspiracy theorists or cranks and some who got blind, belligerently drunk on the weekends. I’ve known others who were devoted partners and fathers, who were decent and kind, who worked hard and who had fun without turning into total louts. Their humor has ranged from dry wit to dad jokes to esoteric puns to self-deprecation to goofball antics.
They’re individual people like any other. I’d advise against thinking of them as some collective group that can be solved or predicted. They’re just guys, and there’s no guarantee that one will bear any resemblance to the next.

没有统一的“英国男人”类型。英国男人和其他任何地方的男人一样,无论好坏,都是多样化的(更不用说英格兰、苏格兰、威尔士和北爱尔兰之间的文化差异了)。
我的英国丈夫是一个安静、害羞的科学怪人。他不是90年代的休·格兰特或詹姆斯·邦德类型。我很喜欢他并和他结婚——他是个好丈夫——但我不会用我和他在一起的经验去概括英国男人。
我认识一些英国男人,他们是绝对的阶级势利者,一些人背叛了他们的女朋友/妻子,一些人是阴谋论者或怪人,还有一些人是盲目的,在周末喝得酩酊大醉。我认识的其他人,他们都是忠诚的伴侣和父亲,都是正派和蔼的人,他们努力工作,享受生活,但没有变成彻头彻尾的混蛋。他们的幽默从冷嘲热讽到老爸笑话,从深奥的双关语到自嘲,再到滑稽的滑稽动作。
他们和其他人一样都是单独的个体。我不建议把他们看作是某个可以被解决或被预测的集体。他们只是男人,不能保证他们之间会有任何相似之处。

Andrew Crawford
Seriously?
Meet at least one British woman.
Ask her out on a date.
If yes, congratulations, you are now dating a British woman.
If no, repeat as necessary.
“What are British girls into?” You’re talking millions of people - it is not possible to generalise. In any case, the best dating advice is always “be yourself” - don’t affect traits or interests that you don’t honestly have, or you will end up dating someone who’s company you struggle to enjoy.
Meet some women and find out what they’re into. If it’s broadly similar to what you’re into, you’re golden. If not, keep meeting people.
Obviously the best place to meet British women is in Britain, but you will meet some in the US as well, mainly in the larger and more cosmopolitan cities like New York and San Francisco.

认真地吗?
至少遇到一位英国女性。
邀请和她出去约会。
如果可以,那么恭喜你,你现在正在和一位英国女性约会。
如果不可以,请根据需要重复邀请。
“英国女孩喜欢什么?”你这问的可是数百万人,不可能一概而论。在任何情况下,最好的约会建议总是“做你自己”——不要受你不期望的特质或兴趣所影响,否则你最终会和一个让你很难享受的人约会。
见见一些女人,看看她们喜欢什么。如果她喜欢的东西和你喜欢的东西差不多,你在她眼里就是金子。如果差距甚远,那就多和另外的人见面。
显然,与英国女性会面的最佳地点是英国,但在美国你也会遇到一些女性,主要是在纽约和旧金山等更大、更国际化的城市才有可能。

Sam van Lekker
I’m a British dude.
some but not all are crazy and will punch you if you mess her around. We get the least sun in Europe, salaries are low and life is expensive.. our country doesn’t treat us as well as other Western European nations, so we grow up angry, moody and stressed. As a result we are ready to flip if we suspect fowl play they don’t always expect a man to be a man in situations where you have to be a man. For example if something happens they are perfectly capable of standing their ground and will even stand up for their men. Remember how I said some are crazy? They however love it if a man is a gentleman. (This is big in Britain - to Be a gentleman). Take her coat off for her, hold the door open for her, carry her bags for her. british girls think this kind of stuff is super sweet.
You have to have a sense of humour. Humour is a big thing in the UK. We may not be the best looking in Europe, but personality wise and humour wise we are awesome. Study what BANTER means and get good at it. You could be the best looking man in the world but if you don’t have banter a british girl will use you then chuck you.
don’t ever tease british girls (trash talk) - in Britain we are fast talkers and have a fast sense of humour. You try tease we will put you to your knees. Guys and girls. The scotts are especially good at this as well as the Irish (although not all of Ireland is british) Remember how mcgregor became famous by Being a good trash talker. Britain and Ireland is full to the brim with such characters.
they can drink you under the table although some British girls are tough they are also girly girls. They love dressing up and trying to look their best for dates, parties etc..
our best looking girls are as good as any in Europe, but other European nations tend to have a higher proportion of good looking girls. Sadly this means that allot of our good looking girls have attitude and think their looks will take them through life. Which it sadly kind of does to some extent. They know they are part of an exclusive club. In Europe the prence is higher, especially in Eastern European nations. You find knock out girls there who are very down to earth and have varied interests Other than how good looking they are.

我是个英国人。
有些人但不是所有人都是古怪的,如果你惹她,他们会揍你。在欧洲,我们阳光最少,工资低,生活成本高昂。我们的国家对待我们不如其他西欧国家政府对其人民那么好,所以我们在成长过程中充满了愤怒、喜怒无常和压力因此,如果我们怀疑他们在耍花招,我们就准备好翻脸了——在你必须表现得像个男人的情况下,他们并不总是期望一个男人表现得像个男人。例如,如果发生了什么事情,他们完全有能力坚持自己的立场,甚至会为自己的人挺身而出。还记得我说过有些人是古怪的吗?然而,她们喜欢一个绅士,(英国做一个绅士很重要)。帮她脱下外套,帮她开门,帮她提包。英国女孩认为这种行为超级甜。
你必须有幽默感。在英国眼里幽默很重要。我们可能不是欧洲最帅的,但在个性和幽默方面,我们都很棒。研究开玩笑的意思,并学会如何开玩笑。你可能是世界上最英俊的男人,但如果你不会开玩笑,英国女孩在利用你后会抛弃你。
永远不要取笑英国女孩(说别人坏话)——在英国,我们说话很快,幽默感很强。你敢戏弄我们,我们就把你打倒在地。男人和女孩。苏格兰人和爱尔兰人(虽然不是所有的爱尔兰人都是英国人)在这方面都尤其在乎。还记得麦格雷戈是如何因说别人坏话而出名的吗?英国和爱尔兰到处都是这样的人物。
他们能把你灌醉,虽然一些英国女孩很强硬,但她们也是女孩。他们喜欢在约会、聚会等场合打扮得漂漂亮亮。
我们最漂亮的女孩和欧洲的任何女孩一样好,但其他欧洲国家中漂亮女孩的比例往往更高。可悲的是,这意味着我们很多漂亮的女孩都有自己的态度,认为她们的长相会引领她们度过一生。不幸的是,在某种程度上确实如此。他们知道自己是一个排外俱乐部的一员。在欧洲,尤其是东欧国家,这比例比较高。你会发现那里的女孩都很接地气,除了长得好看之外,她们的兴趣也很广泛。

Bethany Davies
Okay. There really isn't much to it as far as ‘curious facts’ go.
As for tea, I'm more of a coffee person, but we Brits do love a good cuppa.
We’re moody as hell - usually with good reason, although sometimes because we want to see how far we can push our OH and will start arguments for no reason, wait for you to get mad and then ask ‘why are you so stressed?!’
We (most of us) have a good sense of humour and believe it or not are not overly sensitive to harmless sexist jokes. - Just make sure you know your girl well enough first.
A lot of us love football, drinking pints and playing play station, we’re not all girly girls.
The little things mean the most - we don’t always want bunches of flowers, expensive chocolates and fancy meals. Sometimes it’s as simple as remembering the 50p chocolate bar we loved as a kid, or our favourite home made dinner because it reminds us of our mum.
Like above, show us you listen. Even if you don’t half the time, just make a point of remembering the little things. It really shows us you care.
Always tell the truth, even if it seems like a harmless white lie. In a matter of days, maybe hours, your girls network of girlfriends will find out exactly what happened and it will unleash a whole can of worms that could of been avoided with the truth because they will find out everything you have ever lied about not just the one thing.
Don’t get caught up in the whole ‘women should cook and clean’ 1940’s thing. A lot of the younger generation of British boys (I don’t like referring to them as men) have lost their respect of women, for whatever reason. We will treat you with as much respect as you treat us with.
All in all, we are just like any other women, and as in any relationship, you get out what you put in.
P.S Please don’t think I'm painting all men with the same brush in my last point, I have the most thoughtful, caring boyfriend who would do absolutely anything to make me happy, but like in any culture there are still men that think they are superior to women and just wanted to point out that is not an attractive trait to us :-)

可以就“奇怪的事实”而言,这真的没什么大不了的。
至于茶,我更喜欢喝咖啡,但我们英国人确实喜欢一杯好茶。
我们喜怒无常——通常有很好的理由,尽管有时是因为我们想看看我们能把自己的情绪推到什么程度,然后无缘无故地开始争吵,等你发疯,然后问“你为什么这么紧张?!”
我们(大多数人)有很好的幽默感,信不信由你,对无害的性别歧视笑话并不过分敏感。首先确保你对你的女孩足够了解。
我们很多人都喜欢足球,喝品脱啤酒,玩游戏,我们并不都是小女孩。
小事最重要——我们并不总是想要成串的鲜花、昂贵的巧克力和美味的饭菜。有时,有时候就这么简单,只要记住我们小时候喜欢的50便士巧克力棒,或者我们最喜欢的自制晚餐,因为它让我们想起了妈妈。
像上面一样,告诉我们你在听。即使你有一半的时间不记得,也要注意记住那些小事情。这表明你真的很关心我们。
永远说实话,即使这似乎是一个无害的善意谎言也不要说。在几天内,也许几个小时内,你的闺蜜们就会知道到底发生了什么,这将释放出一大堆本来可以用真相来避免的麻烦,因为她们会发现你曾经撒过的所有谎,而不仅仅是一件事。
不要陷入1940年那种“女人应该做饭和打扫卫生”的想法。许多年轻一代的英国男孩(我不喜欢称他们为男人)已经失去了对女性的尊重,不管出于什么原因。我们会像你尊重我们一样尊重你。
总而言之,我们就像其他女人一样,在任何一段关系中,你付出什么就得到什么。
请不要认为我在最后一点上对所有男人都一视同仁,我有一个最体贴、最体贴的男朋友,他会尽一切努力让我快乐,但就像在任何文化中一样,仍然有男性认为他们比女性优越,只是想指出这对我们来说不是一个有吸引力的特征。

Guy Blackwell
As a man who's not been on a date this century Im probably the worst person to answer this but I will have a go with some 20th century experience and what my (exclusively) female colleagues tell me.
You can't pay them an honest compliment. 9 times out of 10 they will think it's false flattery even if it wasn't.. They don't much like bragging and can recognise bullshit a mile off. They are not really interested in how much, how big, how fast. If this is their motivation then good luck cos what you have there is probably a gold-digger. Do not try to get too “handy” too soon. British girls are quite caperble of giving you the green light when they are ready. They are also able to say no and mean it. As with all dating and relationships, be respectful. They do like confidence, good grooming, courtesy and fun. The best thing you can do to make your date go well, is be interested in her as a person, her interests and personal take on things. Be genuine and honest about yourself. If you can make her laugh without being offensive then that's the best aphrodisiac there is. Most of all be respectful that is someone's daughter, sister, cousin.

作为一个本世纪还没有约会过的人,我可能是回答这个问题中最糟糕的人,我将用一些20世纪的经验,以及我(唯一的)女同事告诉我的东西来回答这个问题。
你不能真诚地赞美他们。10次中有9次,即使不是他们会认为这是虚假的奉承。他们不太喜欢吹牛,一英里外就能认出胡说八道。他们对有多少、多大、多快并不真正感兴趣。如果这是他们的动机,那么祝你好运,因为你可能遇到一个拜金女。不要急于让自己“得心应手”。当英国女孩准备好了的时候,她们很有能力给你开绿灯。他们也能说“不”,并且是真心的。与所有约会和关系一样,要尊重他人。他们确实喜欢自信、整洁、礼貌和乐趣。要让你的约会顺利进行,你能做的最好的事情就是对她作为一个人、她的兴趣和对事情的个人看法感兴趣。对自己要真诚、诚实。如果你能让她开怀大笑而不冒犯她,那就是最好的春药了。最重要的是要尊重别人的女儿、姐妹、表哥。

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