关于生活,人人都应该知道的一件事是什么?
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Sindhu Satish
If you are at rockbottom, don’t fret. The only way to move from there is by going forward.
Your partner might have broken up with you. Your parents might be disappointed in you. Your best friend is probably pissed off with you over something silly. Your boss calls you at 10 pm telling you that you did not do the job right. You feel like a complete mess. You feel that your life is at rockbottom. You don’t know what to do.
Take this time as a blessing in disguise. The day you hit rockbottom might be your worst, but it will only get better. Your rockbottom day probably made you go to sleep in a pool of tears. The next day will be characterised by you feeling lighter because you shed those tears. The following day will be characterised by you being fed of feeling like a mess and going to the gym to feel better. The day after that will be characterised by you loving your workout, followed by going on a drive with some amazing music.
Look at Day 4. Much better than Day 1 right?
I know how this works because I have been through it. So you my dear friend, if you believe you have hit rockbottom, embrace it. You are only going to get better and better!
如果你处于低谷,不要烦恼,从低谷走出来的唯一方法就是向前走。
你的伴侣可能跟你分手了,你的父母可能对你失望,你最好的朋友可能会因为一些愚蠢的事情生你的气,你的老板可能在晚上10点给你打电话指责你工作做得不对,你觉得自己一团糟,你觉得你的生活已经跌入谷底,你不知道该怎么办。
换个视角来看待这段时间,塞翁失马焉知非福,你跌到谷底的那一天可能是你最糟糕的一天,但之后只会变得更好,你跌入谷底的那一天可能让你含着泪水中入睡,而第二天你会因为流下这些眼泪而感到轻松,接下来的一天,你会感觉一团糟,去健身房锻炼下,感觉好一些,再接下来的一天,你会听上一些美妙的音乐,开车去兜风。
到第四天再看看,比第一天好多了,对吧?
我知道这是怎么回事,因为我经历过,所以你,我亲爱的朋友,如果你认为你已经跌到了谷底,那就拥抱它吧,你只会变得越来越好!
If you are at rockbottom, don’t fret. The only way to move from there is by going forward.
Your partner might have broken up with you. Your parents might be disappointed in you. Your best friend is probably pissed off with you over something silly. Your boss calls you at 10 pm telling you that you did not do the job right. You feel like a complete mess. You feel that your life is at rockbottom. You don’t know what to do.
Take this time as a blessing in disguise. The day you hit rockbottom might be your worst, but it will only get better. Your rockbottom day probably made you go to sleep in a pool of tears. The next day will be characterised by you feeling lighter because you shed those tears. The following day will be characterised by you being fed of feeling like a mess and going to the gym to feel better. The day after that will be characterised by you loving your workout, followed by going on a drive with some amazing music.
Look at Day 4. Much better than Day 1 right?
I know how this works because I have been through it. So you my dear friend, if you believe you have hit rockbottom, embrace it. You are only going to get better and better!
如果你处于低谷,不要烦恼,从低谷走出来的唯一方法就是向前走。
你的伴侣可能跟你分手了,你的父母可能对你失望,你最好的朋友可能会因为一些愚蠢的事情生你的气,你的老板可能在晚上10点给你打电话指责你工作做得不对,你觉得自己一团糟,你觉得你的生活已经跌入谷底,你不知道该怎么办。
换个视角来看待这段时间,塞翁失马焉知非福,你跌到谷底的那一天可能是你最糟糕的一天,但之后只会变得更好,你跌入谷底的那一天可能让你含着泪水中入睡,而第二天你会因为流下这些眼泪而感到轻松,接下来的一天,你会感觉一团糟,去健身房锻炼下,感觉好一些,再接下来的一天,你会听上一些美妙的音乐,开车去兜风。
到第四天再看看,比第一天好多了,对吧?
我知道这是怎么回事,因为我经历过,所以你,我亲爱的朋友,如果你认为你已经跌到了谷底,那就拥抱它吧,你只会变得越来越好!
Sanyam Maheshwari
15 Things Everyone Should Know About How to Live a Happy Life
#1 Be yourself. As I mentioned above, learning to be yourself should be the highest priority in your life. In order to be happy, you have to be comfortable with who you are. Everyone should know that they’re unique and amazing as is. Strive to let your true self shine every chance you get.
#2 Let go of negative thoughts. If you think down about yourself all the time, you’re going to feel bad. Those negative thoughts will penetrate through to your everyday life and it’ll be hard to be happy. This is crucial for living a happy life.
#3 Get rid of negative people. This is by far the most important of all the things everyone should know. If there is someone in your life who is dragging you down, get rid of them. Cut them out. Never let that negativity stay in your life. When you have someone who’s always ruining your happiness, they shouldn’t be around.
#4 Never apologize for your passions. Unless your passions are harmful to yourself or others, never apologize for them. You love what you love. No matter what someone says or thinks about the things you’re passionate about, never stray from them. Being passionate about something is essential for a happy life.
#5 Don’t compromise your values. Your values are who you are at your core. They’re what make you, you. That means you can never compromise them. No matter what or who for, don’t. If you lose sight of your values and the things that are important to you on such a deep level, you lose yourself and your happiness.
关于如何过上幸福的生活每个人都应该知道的15件事
#1 做自己
正如我上面提到的,学会做自己应该是你生活中最重要的优先事项,为了获得幸福,你必须对自己的身份感到满意,每个人都应该知道,自己是独一无二的,是令人惊叹的,努力让你的真实自我在每一次机会中闪耀。
#2 放弃消极的想法
如果你一直在想自己的坏事,你就会感觉很糟糕。这些消极的想法会渗透到你的日常生活中,你就很难快乐起来。这对过上幸福生活至关重要。
#3 摆脱消极的人
这是迄今为止每个人都应该知道的事情中最重要的。如果你的生活中有人拖累你,摆脱他们,把他们赶走,永远不要让这种消极情绪留在你的生活中,当一个人总是毁掉你的幸福,他就不应该出现在你身边。
#4 永远不要为你的激情道歉
除非你的激情对自己或他人有害,否则永远不要为它们道歉,爱你所爱,不管别人对你所热衷的事情怎么说或怎么想,永远不要偏离它们,对某事充满热情是过上幸福生活的必要条件。
#5 不要在价值观上妥协
你的价值观是你的核心,它们是你之所以成为你的原因,这意味着你永远不能妥协,不管是为了什么或谁,都不要,如果你忽视了你的价值观和对你来说如此重要的东西,你就会失去自己,失去幸福。
15 Things Everyone Should Know About How to Live a Happy Life
#1 Be yourself. As I mentioned above, learning to be yourself should be the highest priority in your life. In order to be happy, you have to be comfortable with who you are. Everyone should know that they’re unique and amazing as is. Strive to let your true self shine every chance you get.
#2 Let go of negative thoughts. If you think down about yourself all the time, you’re going to feel bad. Those negative thoughts will penetrate through to your everyday life and it’ll be hard to be happy. This is crucial for living a happy life.
#3 Get rid of negative people. This is by far the most important of all the things everyone should know. If there is someone in your life who is dragging you down, get rid of them. Cut them out. Never let that negativity stay in your life. When you have someone who’s always ruining your happiness, they shouldn’t be around.
#4 Never apologize for your passions. Unless your passions are harmful to yourself or others, never apologize for them. You love what you love. No matter what someone says or thinks about the things you’re passionate about, never stray from them. Being passionate about something is essential for a happy life.
#5 Don’t compromise your values. Your values are who you are at your core. They’re what make you, you. That means you can never compromise them. No matter what or who for, don’t. If you lose sight of your values and the things that are important to you on such a deep level, you lose yourself and your happiness.
关于如何过上幸福的生活每个人都应该知道的15件事
#1 做自己
正如我上面提到的,学会做自己应该是你生活中最重要的优先事项,为了获得幸福,你必须对自己的身份感到满意,每个人都应该知道,自己是独一无二的,是令人惊叹的,努力让你的真实自我在每一次机会中闪耀。
#2 放弃消极的想法
如果你一直在想自己的坏事,你就会感觉很糟糕。这些消极的想法会渗透到你的日常生活中,你就很难快乐起来。这对过上幸福生活至关重要。
#3 摆脱消极的人
这是迄今为止每个人都应该知道的事情中最重要的。如果你的生活中有人拖累你,摆脱他们,把他们赶走,永远不要让这种消极情绪留在你的生活中,当一个人总是毁掉你的幸福,他就不应该出现在你身边。
#4 永远不要为你的激情道歉
除非你的激情对自己或他人有害,否则永远不要为它们道歉,爱你所爱,不管别人对你所热衷的事情怎么说或怎么想,永远不要偏离它们,对某事充满热情是过上幸福生活的必要条件。
#5 不要在价值观上妥协
你的价值观是你的核心,它们是你之所以成为你的原因,这意味着你永远不能妥协,不管是为了什么或谁,都不要,如果你忽视了你的价值观和对你来说如此重要的东西,你就会失去自己,失去幸福。
#6 Respect others. You may not realize just how important to your happiness it is to respect others, but it’s definitely one of the things everyone should know. When you are respectful to other people, they respect you. It’s also just about being a good person and understanding how to treat people right. You’ll value yourself more when you respect others.
#7 Do something just for yourself every week. You may not think this is essential for your happiness, but I promise it is. With life, we get so caught up in work and doing things for others that we often neglect ourselves.
You need to go out and do something to make you happy at least once a week. Whether that’s just seeing a movie by yourself or getting your nails done, pampering yourself is a must.
#8 Don’t apologize for your beliefs. What you believe in is super important to keeping you happy. One of the things everyone should know in order to live a happy life is that they can’t apologize for those beliefs. If they’re moral and don’t harm you or anyone else, hold firm with them.
#9 Stop comparing yourself and your life to others. Everyone does this. There isn’t a soul out there who has never compared themselves to someone else. But it’s still horrible for your happiness. Nothing good will come from looking at what someone else has and you don’t. Appreciate what you have.
#10 Trust your intuition. You know that gut feeling you often ignore? Stop ignoring it. We all have an intuition for a reason. Humans evolved successfully because of this intuition. If you believe something is wrong or too good to be true, it probably is. Trust your gut and your life will be happier.
#6 尊重他人
你可能没有意识到尊重他人对你的幸福有多重要,但这绝对是每个人都应该知道的事情之一,当你尊重别人的时候,别人也会尊重你,这也意味着要做一个好人,懂得如何正确对待别人,当你尊重他人时,你会更珍惜自己。
#7 每周为自己做一些事情
你可能不认为这对你的幸福至关重要,但我保证这很重要。在生活中,我们太专注于工作和为他人做事,为此所困扰以至于我们常常忽略了自己。你需要走出去,每周至少做一次让自己开心的事情,无论是看一场电影,还是去做指甲,宠爱自己是必须的。
#8 不要为你的信仰道歉
你的信仰对于保持你的快乐非常重要,为了过上幸福的生活,每个人都应该知道的一件事是,人不能为信仰道歉,如果你的信仰是道德的,不会伤害你或其他人,那就坚守它们。
#9 不要拿自己和自己的生活与别人比较
每个人都会这么做,没有哪个人从来没有拿自己和别人比较过,但这对你的幸福来说仍然是可怕的,盯着别人有什么而你没有什么,不会有好结果,我们应当感激我们所拥有的。
#10 相信你的直觉
你知道你经常忽略的直觉吗?不要忽视它,我们每个人都有自己的直觉,因为这种直觉,人类成功地进化了,如果你认为某些事情是错误的或者好得不像是真的,那么它很可能就是错的、就是不真实的,相信你的直觉,你的生活会更快乐。
#7 Do something just for yourself every week. You may not think this is essential for your happiness, but I promise it is. With life, we get so caught up in work and doing things for others that we often neglect ourselves.
You need to go out and do something to make you happy at least once a week. Whether that’s just seeing a movie by yourself or getting your nails done, pampering yourself is a must.
#8 Don’t apologize for your beliefs. What you believe in is super important to keeping you happy. One of the things everyone should know in order to live a happy life is that they can’t apologize for those beliefs. If they’re moral and don’t harm you or anyone else, hold firm with them.
#9 Stop comparing yourself and your life to others. Everyone does this. There isn’t a soul out there who has never compared themselves to someone else. But it’s still horrible for your happiness. Nothing good will come from looking at what someone else has and you don’t. Appreciate what you have.
#10 Trust your intuition. You know that gut feeling you often ignore? Stop ignoring it. We all have an intuition for a reason. Humans evolved successfully because of this intuition. If you believe something is wrong or too good to be true, it probably is. Trust your gut and your life will be happier.
#6 尊重他人
你可能没有意识到尊重他人对你的幸福有多重要,但这绝对是每个人都应该知道的事情之一,当你尊重别人的时候,别人也会尊重你,这也意味着要做一个好人,懂得如何正确对待别人,当你尊重他人时,你会更珍惜自己。
#7 每周为自己做一些事情
你可能不认为这对你的幸福至关重要,但我保证这很重要。在生活中,我们太专注于工作和为他人做事,为此所困扰以至于我们常常忽略了自己。你需要走出去,每周至少做一次让自己开心的事情,无论是看一场电影,还是去做指甲,宠爱自己是必须的。
#8 不要为你的信仰道歉
你的信仰对于保持你的快乐非常重要,为了过上幸福的生活,每个人都应该知道的一件事是,人不能为信仰道歉,如果你的信仰是道德的,不会伤害你或其他人,那就坚守它们。
#9 不要拿自己和自己的生活与别人比较
每个人都会这么做,没有哪个人从来没有拿自己和别人比较过,但这对你的幸福来说仍然是可怕的,盯着别人有什么而你没有什么,不会有好结果,我们应当感激我们所拥有的。
#10 相信你的直觉
你知道你经常忽略的直觉吗?不要忽视它,我们每个人都有自己的直觉,因为这种直觉,人类成功地进化了,如果你认为某些事情是错误的或者好得不像是真的,那么它很可能就是错的、就是不真实的,相信你的直觉,你的生活会更快乐。
#11 Know when to forgive and forget. I’m not saying that forgiving and forgetting every time will make you happy, but learning when to will. There are certain times where you just have to accept an apology and move on. It can be harmful to hold onto such negative feelings about a person and situation.
#12 Learn that it’s okay to say no. You don’t have to always please someone. You don’t exist for the purpose of pleasing others and making them like you. Learn when to say no and that it’s actually okay to say no. You will be much happier in life this way.
#13 Eat healthily and exercise regularly. This is definitely one of the things everyone should know and actually DOES know, but don’t often follow. You only have one body. One life. You need to start treating yourself better. Not only will you just feel better from the inside out, but it’ll give you a longer life.
#14 Gain perspective. I think we all bitch and moan about our lives too much. We all complain about things that we can actually change. Think about other people who can’t change their misfortune. When you put your life into perspective, you realize that there’s really a lot more to be happy about than there is to be mad at. This is definitely one of the best things everyone should know that can change lives.
#15 When you love someone, tell them. I’m not just talking about a significant other. You have friends and family that I know you don’t say this to enough. Expressing your love for others can actually make you feel really happy and complete. In order to have a happy life, spread that love around and you’ll receive a lot more in return.
#11 知道何时原谅和忘记
我并不是说每次原谅和忘记都会让你快乐,但学会何时原谅和忘记会让你快乐,在某些时候,你必须接受道歉并继续前进,对某个人或某个情况保持这种消极的感觉是有害的。
#12 学会说 "不 "
你不必总是取悦别人,你存在的目的不是为了取悦他人让他们喜欢你,学会何时说 "不",说 "不 "其实是可以的,这样,你的生活会更快乐。
#13 健康饮食,定期锻炼
这绝对是每个人都应该知道并且确实知道的事情之一,但并不经常为人遵循,你只有一个身体,你只有一条命,你需要开始更好地对待自己,这样不仅会让你从内到外感觉更好,而且会让你活得更长久。
#14 换个角度看周围世界
我觉得我们都太爱抱怨自己的生活,我们都在抱怨那些我们实际上可以改变的事情,想想其他人,他们无法改变自己的不幸,当你正确看待你的生活时,你就会意识到,值得高兴的事情真的比值得生气的事情多得多,这绝对是每个人都应该知道的可以改变生活的最好事情之一。
#15 当你爱一个人时,告诉他/她
我说的不仅仅是某个重要的人,你有朋友和家人,我知道你对他们说这些还不够,表达你对他人的爱实际上可以使你感到真正的快乐和完整,为了拥有幸福的生活,把这种爱传播出去,你会收到更多的回报。
#12 Learn that it’s okay to say no. You don’t have to always please someone. You don’t exist for the purpose of pleasing others and making them like you. Learn when to say no and that it’s actually okay to say no. You will be much happier in life this way.
#13 Eat healthily and exercise regularly. This is definitely one of the things everyone should know and actually DOES know, but don’t often follow. You only have one body. One life. You need to start treating yourself better. Not only will you just feel better from the inside out, but it’ll give you a longer life.
#14 Gain perspective. I think we all bitch and moan about our lives too much. We all complain about things that we can actually change. Think about other people who can’t change their misfortune. When you put your life into perspective, you realize that there’s really a lot more to be happy about than there is to be mad at. This is definitely one of the best things everyone should know that can change lives.
#15 When you love someone, tell them. I’m not just talking about a significant other. You have friends and family that I know you don’t say this to enough. Expressing your love for others can actually make you feel really happy and complete. In order to have a happy life, spread that love around and you’ll receive a lot more in return.
#11 知道何时原谅和忘记
我并不是说每次原谅和忘记都会让你快乐,但学会何时原谅和忘记会让你快乐,在某些时候,你必须接受道歉并继续前进,对某个人或某个情况保持这种消极的感觉是有害的。
#12 学会说 "不 "
你不必总是取悦别人,你存在的目的不是为了取悦他人让他们喜欢你,学会何时说 "不",说 "不 "其实是可以的,这样,你的生活会更快乐。
#13 健康饮食,定期锻炼
这绝对是每个人都应该知道并且确实知道的事情之一,但并不经常为人遵循,你只有一个身体,你只有一条命,你需要开始更好地对待自己,这样不仅会让你从内到外感觉更好,而且会让你活得更长久。
#14 换个角度看周围世界
我觉得我们都太爱抱怨自己的生活,我们都在抱怨那些我们实际上可以改变的事情,想想其他人,他们无法改变自己的不幸,当你正确看待你的生活时,你就会意识到,值得高兴的事情真的比值得生气的事情多得多,这绝对是每个人都应该知道的可以改变生活的最好事情之一。
#15 当你爱一个人时,告诉他/她
我说的不仅仅是某个重要的人,你有朋友和家人,我知道你对他们说这些还不够,表达你对他人的爱实际上可以使你感到真正的快乐和完整,为了拥有幸福的生活,把这种爱传播出去,你会收到更多的回报。
Apoorv Anand
As soon as we gain maturity and become aware of the world, every now and then we start thinking about questions like this. Surprisingly, instead of all the advancements mankind has made in all the fields, there are no definitive answers to questions like this. So, I will share with you my take on this -
Life is a journey and we all are just travelers in this world.
The purpose of life is not to own the fanciest car or get famous or any worldly thing you can think of. These all are the materialistic worldly things which can give you a moment of joy in your journey.
Your time in this world is limited. You are just a visitor here. So, have as many adventures as possible.
The only true feeling in this world is Love. All other feelings are just reaction to some thing. Love is omnipresent.
Thus, most important thing in your life is to love yourself. You can only love others if you love yourself.
Its alright to feel sad sometimes. No matter how difficult things seem have patience and keep loving yourself.
Your life is just a pathway created by your decisions. You are the one who has control over your life. Never let anyone else control your life at any point of time. Make choices which you will cherish not the ones you will regret.
一旦我们变得成熟,开始意识到这个世界,我们就会时不时地开始思考这样的问题,令人惊讶的是,尽管人类在所有领域都取得了巨大的进步,但对这样的问题却没有明确的答案,所以,我将与你们分享我个人对这一点的看法:
# 生命是一个旅程,我们都只是这个世界的旅行者。
# 生活的目的不是拥有最豪华的汽车,或者出名,或者你能想到的任何世俗的东西,这些都是物质的、世俗的,可以给你的旅程带来片刻的欢愉。
# 你在这个世界上的时间是有限的,你只是这里的一个过客,所以,尽可能多的去冒险、探索。
# 这个世界上唯一真实的感觉就是爱,所有其他的感觉只是对某些事情的反应,爱无处不在,因此,你生命中最重要的事情就是爱你自己,你只有爱你自己才能爱别人。
# 有时候感到悲伤是正常的,不管事情看起来有多么困难,都要有耐心,并且要爱自己。
# 你的生活只是一条由你的决定创造出来的道路,你才是那个掌控自己生活的人,不要让任何人在任何时候控制你的生活,做出你会珍惜的选择,而不是你会后悔的选择。
As soon as we gain maturity and become aware of the world, every now and then we start thinking about questions like this. Surprisingly, instead of all the advancements mankind has made in all the fields, there are no definitive answers to questions like this. So, I will share with you my take on this -
Life is a journey and we all are just travelers in this world.
The purpose of life is not to own the fanciest car or get famous or any worldly thing you can think of. These all are the materialistic worldly things which can give you a moment of joy in your journey.
Your time in this world is limited. You are just a visitor here. So, have as many adventures as possible.
The only true feeling in this world is Love. All other feelings are just reaction to some thing. Love is omnipresent.
Thus, most important thing in your life is to love yourself. You can only love others if you love yourself.
Its alright to feel sad sometimes. No matter how difficult things seem have patience and keep loving yourself.
Your life is just a pathway created by your decisions. You are the one who has control over your life. Never let anyone else control your life at any point of time. Make choices which you will cherish not the ones you will regret.
一旦我们变得成熟,开始意识到这个世界,我们就会时不时地开始思考这样的问题,令人惊讶的是,尽管人类在所有领域都取得了巨大的进步,但对这样的问题却没有明确的答案,所以,我将与你们分享我个人对这一点的看法:
# 生命是一个旅程,我们都只是这个世界的旅行者。
# 生活的目的不是拥有最豪华的汽车,或者出名,或者你能想到的任何世俗的东西,这些都是物质的、世俗的,可以给你的旅程带来片刻的欢愉。
# 你在这个世界上的时间是有限的,你只是这里的一个过客,所以,尽可能多的去冒险、探索。
# 这个世界上唯一真实的感觉就是爱,所有其他的感觉只是对某些事情的反应,爱无处不在,因此,你生命中最重要的事情就是爱你自己,你只有爱你自己才能爱别人。
# 有时候感到悲伤是正常的,不管事情看起来有多么困难,都要有耐心,并且要爱自己。
# 你的生活只是一条由你的决定创造出来的道路,你才是那个掌控自己生活的人,不要让任何人在任何时候控制你的生活,做出你会珍惜的选择,而不是你会后悔的选择。
Shreeya Shastri
Everybody should know their worth:Everybody should know that if they work hard,they can reach their goals,they are efficient enough to do so. Nobody is superior or inferior than other. We all are amazing in our own unique ways. We should never look down upon ourselves.
Self-care or self-love isn’t selfish:All of us should love and care for ourselves,no matter what.Self-love and self-care is of utmost importance for our health,confidence and mental well-being,nothing is wrong or selfish about it.
Being honest is great but you need to convey it in a proper manner:”Honesty without tact is cruelty.”Being honest is a very good quality but if you are not conveying it in a proper and polite way,you are just being mean.
Feminism is all about equality:Real meaning of feminism:”the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes” and what people assume it to be:”hate and injustice against men by females”.The women that believes that women are more superior than men and is a sexiest is to be considered as a ‘feminazi’ and not a ‘feminist’.I have seen a lot of people confusing between these two very different terms.
Everybody is beautiful:Beauty is subjective.If somebody calls you ugly,it is their ‘opinion’ not a ‘universal fact’.Everybody is beautiful in their own unique way,it just depends on the way we perceive them.The beauty standards of society are ugly,not the people.
1. 每个人都应该知道自己的价值:
每个人都应该知道,如果努力工作,就能实现自己的目标,你的效率足以做到这一点,没有人比别人更优秀或更低劣,我们都以自己独特的方式活着,都很了不起,我们永远不应该看不起自己。
2. 自我照顾或自爱并不自私:
我们所有人都应该爱护和照顾自己,无论发生什么,自爱和自我照顾对我们的健康、自信和心理健康至关重要,这既不是错误,也不是自私。
3. 诚实很好,但你需要以适当的方式传达它:
“没有技巧的诚实是残忍的”诚实是一种非常好的品质,但是如果你没有以恰当和礼貌的方式表达出来,你就只是刻薄。
4. 女权主义的重点在于平等:
女权主义的真正含义: “在性别平等的基础上倡导妇女权利”,而往往有人认为它是: “女性对男性的仇恨和不公正”,那些认为女人比男人更优越、女人才最性感的人是”女拳”(feminazi),而不是”女权”(feminist),我见过很多人把这两个完全不同的术语搞混。
5. 每个人都是美丽的:
美丽是主观的,如果有人说你丑陋,那是他们的“意见”,而不是“普遍事实”,每个人都有自己独特的美,这取决于我们如何看待,丑陋的是社会的审美标准,而不是人。
Everybody should know their worth:Everybody should know that if they work hard,they can reach their goals,they are efficient enough to do so. Nobody is superior or inferior than other. We all are amazing in our own unique ways. We should never look down upon ourselves.
Self-care or self-love isn’t selfish:All of us should love and care for ourselves,no matter what.Self-love and self-care is of utmost importance for our health,confidence and mental well-being,nothing is wrong or selfish about it.
Being honest is great but you need to convey it in a proper manner:”Honesty without tact is cruelty.”Being honest is a very good quality but if you are not conveying it in a proper and polite way,you are just being mean.
Feminism is all about equality:Real meaning of feminism:”the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes” and what people assume it to be:”hate and injustice against men by females”.The women that believes that women are more superior than men and is a sexiest is to be considered as a ‘feminazi’ and not a ‘feminist’.I have seen a lot of people confusing between these two very different terms.
Everybody is beautiful:Beauty is subjective.If somebody calls you ugly,it is their ‘opinion’ not a ‘universal fact’.Everybody is beautiful in their own unique way,it just depends on the way we perceive them.The beauty standards of society are ugly,not the people.
1. 每个人都应该知道自己的价值:
每个人都应该知道,如果努力工作,就能实现自己的目标,你的效率足以做到这一点,没有人比别人更优秀或更低劣,我们都以自己独特的方式活着,都很了不起,我们永远不应该看不起自己。
2. 自我照顾或自爱并不自私:
我们所有人都应该爱护和照顾自己,无论发生什么,自爱和自我照顾对我们的健康、自信和心理健康至关重要,这既不是错误,也不是自私。
3. 诚实很好,但你需要以适当的方式传达它:
“没有技巧的诚实是残忍的”诚实是一种非常好的品质,但是如果你没有以恰当和礼貌的方式表达出来,你就只是刻薄。
4. 女权主义的重点在于平等:
女权主义的真正含义: “在性别平等的基础上倡导妇女权利”,而往往有人认为它是: “女性对男性的仇恨和不公正”,那些认为女人比男人更优越、女人才最性感的人是”女拳”(feminazi),而不是”女权”(feminist),我见过很多人把这两个完全不同的术语搞混。
5. 每个人都是美丽的:
美丽是主观的,如果有人说你丑陋,那是他们的“意见”,而不是“普遍事实”,每个人都有自己独特的美,这取决于我们如何看待,丑陋的是社会的审美标准,而不是人。
Shalini Porwal
Self-control ability
Control the things we can control.
Back when basic survival was difficult, practicing the kind of self-control we need today wasn't always necessary. We'd have to hunt for our food if we wanted to eat, and we'd eat what we could find in order to live. Eventually we figured out that this isn't the most efficient way to work and invented one of the biggest life hacks of all time: agriculture. Suddenly there was food when we needed it, and what was once a constant fight for survival became (relatively) simple. Readily-available food made it possible for a surplus of certain foods which made it possible to overeat. It took a long time for this to become a serious problem, but today we face a problem of excess consumption. Shifts such as this helped create a serious need for self-control in new aspects of our life. For example, computers and other personal technology made all kinds of work much easier, but their side effects include tech addiction, shortered life spans from too much sitting, and even a few pesky etiquette issues. As technology continues to satisfy our desires—for anything from food to information—we have to practice self-control in new and different ways. The problem is, this isn't easy to do. One’s greatest challenge is to control oneself.
Developing Self-Control
1) First we need to identify in what areas of our life we need to gain more self-control. Where do we find ourself lacking in self-control?
Possible areas could be:
Eating.Shopping.Drinking.Work.Gambling.Smoking.Obsessive behavior
自我控制能力
控制我们可以控制的事情。
回溯到人类基本生存状况困难的时期,我们今天所需要的那种自我控制并不总是必要的,如果我们想吃东西,我们就得去猎取食物,为了生活,我们会吃我们能找到的东西,最终我们发现这不是最有效的方式,于是我们发明了有史以来最大的生存技巧之一:农业。
突然间,在我们需要的时候就有了食物,曾经为生存而不断奋斗的事情变得(相对)简单,容易获得的食物使某些食物过剩成为可能,使暴饮暴食成为可能,过了很长时间,这才成为一个严重的问题,但今天我们面临着过度消费的问题,诸如此类的转变有助于在我们生活的新方面产生对自我控制的严重需求,例如,计算机和其他技术使各种工作变得更加容易,但其副作用包括技术成瘾,长时间久坐而缩短了寿命,甚至还有一些讨厌的礼仪问题,随着技术继续满足我们的欲望,从食物到信息,我们必须以新的和不同的方式进行自我控制,问题是,这并不容易做到,一个人最大的挑战是如何控制自己。
培养自制力:
1)首先,我们需要确定我们在生活的哪些方面需要获得更多的自制力,我们发现自己在哪些领域缺乏自制力?
可能的领域有:
饮食、购物、饮酒、工作、赌博、吸烟、强迫性的行为
Self-control ability
Control the things we can control.
Back when basic survival was difficult, practicing the kind of self-control we need today wasn't always necessary. We'd have to hunt for our food if we wanted to eat, and we'd eat what we could find in order to live. Eventually we figured out that this isn't the most efficient way to work and invented one of the biggest life hacks of all time: agriculture. Suddenly there was food when we needed it, and what was once a constant fight for survival became (relatively) simple. Readily-available food made it possible for a surplus of certain foods which made it possible to overeat. It took a long time for this to become a serious problem, but today we face a problem of excess consumption. Shifts such as this helped create a serious need for self-control in new aspects of our life. For example, computers and other personal technology made all kinds of work much easier, but their side effects include tech addiction, shortered life spans from too much sitting, and even a few pesky etiquette issues. As technology continues to satisfy our desires—for anything from food to information—we have to practice self-control in new and different ways. The problem is, this isn't easy to do. One’s greatest challenge is to control oneself.
Developing Self-Control
1) First we need to identify in what areas of our life we need to gain more self-control. Where do we find ourself lacking in self-control?
Possible areas could be:
Eating.Shopping.Drinking.Work.Gambling.Smoking.Obsessive behavior
自我控制能力
控制我们可以控制的事情。
回溯到人类基本生存状况困难的时期,我们今天所需要的那种自我控制并不总是必要的,如果我们想吃东西,我们就得去猎取食物,为了生活,我们会吃我们能找到的东西,最终我们发现这不是最有效的方式,于是我们发明了有史以来最大的生存技巧之一:农业。
突然间,在我们需要的时候就有了食物,曾经为生存而不断奋斗的事情变得(相对)简单,容易获得的食物使某些食物过剩成为可能,使暴饮暴食成为可能,过了很长时间,这才成为一个严重的问题,但今天我们面临着过度消费的问题,诸如此类的转变有助于在我们生活的新方面产生对自我控制的严重需求,例如,计算机和其他技术使各种工作变得更加容易,但其副作用包括技术成瘾,长时间久坐而缩短了寿命,甚至还有一些讨厌的礼仪问题,随着技术继续满足我们的欲望,从食物到信息,我们必须以新的和不同的方式进行自我控制,问题是,这并不容易做到,一个人最大的挑战是如何控制自己。
培养自制力:
1)首先,我们需要确定我们在生活的哪些方面需要获得更多的自制力,我们发现自己在哪些领域缺乏自制力?
可能的领域有:
饮食、购物、饮酒、工作、赌博、吸烟、强迫性的行为
2) Try identifying the emotions that lack control, such as anger, dissatisfaction, unhappiness, resentment, pleasure or fear.
3) Identify the thoughts and beliefs that push us to behave in uncontrolled manner.
Once we have applied self-control to numerous areas of our life (if we were previously very undercontrolled), we will hopefully begin to become attuned to where and how delay of gratification can increase our life satisfaction. As we successively apply self-control to numerous thought processes and life behaviours, we will hopefully also begin to see some life improvements.
Those who are highly impulsive tend to think only in the short-term, or about immediate reward. For example, a typically impulsive individual might think, "l am happier when I eat chocolate so it must be good to eat it.” Developing more self-control means learning to consider the bigger picture with regards to your decisions. And eventually – if we develop self-control with regards to enough areas of our life, applying self-control will begin to become more automatic, and we will also be able to see much more clearly which decision will bring about the highest level of life satisfaction.
Self control is not some kind of negative and limiting behavior, as some people might think. When it is used wisely and with common sense, it becomes one of the most important tools for self improvement and for achieving success.
2)尝试识别缺乏控制的情绪,如愤怒、不满、不快乐、怨恨、自满或恐惧。
3) 识别促使我们行为失控的思想和信念。
一旦我们将自我控制应用于我们生活的许多领域,我们将有希望开始适应在哪方面以及如何延迟满足可以增加我们的生活满意度,当我们陆续将自我控制应用于众多的思维过程和生活行为时,我们也将有望做到一些生活上的改善。
那些高度冲动的人往往只做短期思考,或只考虑眼前的回报,例如,一个典型的冲动型个人可能会想,"我吃巧克力时更快乐,所以吃巧克力一定是好的",培养更多的自制力意味着学会在做决定时考虑大局,最终,如果我们在生活中足够多的领域发展自制力,应用自制力将会变得更加自动,我们也将能够更清楚地看到哪个决定将带来最高水平的生活满意度。
自我控制并不像一些人可能认为的那样,是单纯的某种消极和限制性的行为,当它被明智地使用并符合常识时,它就成为自我改善和获得成功的最重要工具之一。
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3) Identify the thoughts and beliefs that push us to behave in uncontrolled manner.
Once we have applied self-control to numerous areas of our life (if we were previously very undercontrolled), we will hopefully begin to become attuned to where and how delay of gratification can increase our life satisfaction. As we successively apply self-control to numerous thought processes and life behaviours, we will hopefully also begin to see some life improvements.
Those who are highly impulsive tend to think only in the short-term, or about immediate reward. For example, a typically impulsive individual might think, "l am happier when I eat chocolate so it must be good to eat it.” Developing more self-control means learning to consider the bigger picture with regards to your decisions. And eventually – if we develop self-control with regards to enough areas of our life, applying self-control will begin to become more automatic, and we will also be able to see much more clearly which decision will bring about the highest level of life satisfaction.
Self control is not some kind of negative and limiting behavior, as some people might think. When it is used wisely and with common sense, it becomes one of the most important tools for self improvement and for achieving success.
2)尝试识别缺乏控制的情绪,如愤怒、不满、不快乐、怨恨、自满或恐惧。
3) 识别促使我们行为失控的思想和信念。
一旦我们将自我控制应用于我们生活的许多领域,我们将有希望开始适应在哪方面以及如何延迟满足可以增加我们的生活满意度,当我们陆续将自我控制应用于众多的思维过程和生活行为时,我们也将有望做到一些生活上的改善。
那些高度冲动的人往往只做短期思考,或只考虑眼前的回报,例如,一个典型的冲动型个人可能会想,"我吃巧克力时更快乐,所以吃巧克力一定是好的",培养更多的自制力意味着学会在做决定时考虑大局,最终,如果我们在生活中足够多的领域发展自制力,应用自制力将会变得更加自动,我们也将能够更清楚地看到哪个决定将带来最高水平的生活满意度。
自我控制并不像一些人可能认为的那样,是单纯的某种消极和限制性的行为,当它被明智地使用并符合常识时,它就成为自我改善和获得成功的最重要工具之一。
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Purni Gunawardana
Nothing is permanent, everything vanishes one day
Karma is real if you do good you will get in in return and same for the bad.
Love / marriage can turn your life into a heaven or hell so choose wisely.
Knowledge will never be wasted so learn as much as you can.
Eat healthy if not your body will pay back for it soon.
Spend time with your self and learn to love and reward yourself so even if the world leaves you you got your back.
If your are struggling now. Trust me everything is gonna be okay. Have faith and work towards it.
If you feel everything is f’d up and you are nowhere take a time out from everything and figure out what's wrong by yourself.
Learn to do our things alone. Cooking,washing etc
Do not go after God all the time cz if the God is there for everyone every human will be living in hotels and no one will be starving. Have faith in your self and work towards it. Just believe the reality. You can climb up to the highest.
Make few good friends it will turn your life beautiful.
Travel enjoy and take risks!
. 没有什么是永恒的,一切都会在某一天消失
. 因果报应是真实的,如果你做了好事,你会获得回报,做了坏事会遭到报应。
. 爱情/婚姻可以把你的生活变成天堂或地狱,所以要明智地选择。
. 知识永远不会被浪费,所以尽可能多地学习。
. 健康饮食,如果不健康,那么你的身体很快就会为此付出代价。
. 花点时间独处,学会爱自己,奖励自己,这样即使世界离开了你,自己也会支持自己。
. 如果你现在在挣扎,相信我,一切都会好起来的,要有信心,朝着这个方向努力。
. 如果你觉得一切都糟糕透顶,你无处可去,那就抽出一点时间来想想自己到底哪里出了问题。
. 学会独自做事,比如做饭、洗衣等等
. 不要总追随上帝,因为如果真有上帝,每个人都会安居乐业,没有人会挨饿,要对自己有信心,并为之努力,相信现实吧,你可以攀爬到最高处。
. 结交一些好朋友,这会使你的生活变得美好。
. 享受旅行,承担风险!
Nothing is permanent, everything vanishes one day
Karma is real if you do good you will get in in return and same for the bad.
Love / marriage can turn your life into a heaven or hell so choose wisely.
Knowledge will never be wasted so learn as much as you can.
Eat healthy if not your body will pay back for it soon.
Spend time with your self and learn to love and reward yourself so even if the world leaves you you got your back.
If your are struggling now. Trust me everything is gonna be okay. Have faith and work towards it.
If you feel everything is f’d up and you are nowhere take a time out from everything and figure out what's wrong by yourself.
Learn to do our things alone. Cooking,washing etc
Do not go after God all the time cz if the God is there for everyone every human will be living in hotels and no one will be starving. Have faith in your self and work towards it. Just believe the reality. You can climb up to the highest.
Make few good friends it will turn your life beautiful.
Travel enjoy and take risks!
. 没有什么是永恒的,一切都会在某一天消失
. 因果报应是真实的,如果你做了好事,你会获得回报,做了坏事会遭到报应。
. 爱情/婚姻可以把你的生活变成天堂或地狱,所以要明智地选择。
. 知识永远不会被浪费,所以尽可能多地学习。
. 健康饮食,如果不健康,那么你的身体很快就会为此付出代价。
. 花点时间独处,学会爱自己,奖励自己,这样即使世界离开了你,自己也会支持自己。
. 如果你现在在挣扎,相信我,一切都会好起来的,要有信心,朝着这个方向努力。
. 如果你觉得一切都糟糕透顶,你无处可去,那就抽出一点时间来想想自己到底哪里出了问题。
. 学会独自做事,比如做饭、洗衣等等
. 不要总追随上帝,因为如果真有上帝,每个人都会安居乐业,没有人会挨饿,要对自己有信心,并为之努力,相信现实吧,你可以攀爬到最高处。
. 结交一些好朋友,这会使你的生活变得美好。
. 享受旅行,承担风险!
Barbara Ann Webber
That you get out of life, exactly what you put into it!…..
And that the bonus comes when you continually strive to put more into it!
Life does not come up to you, tap you on the shoulder and say:”. iI have decided to make you a millionaire, give you a prestgious place in society, automatically make you a super parent of accomplished loving children, feed you the finest cusine, or make you happy!”
Each of those gifts are earned with effort, compassion, commitment,, and blood sweat, trial and tears!
It is the resilience and determination that you bring to the adventures, hopes- gone-awry, misadventures, difficulties and griefs, that shape what you get out of life!, and how you get it.
The truly happy people, who really have success and happiness in their lives, have risen above the worst that life has dished up, triumphed over adversity, tried, failed, picked themselves up, and started all over again. They have not whined nor withdrawn.They have shared the fruits of their labours, forgiven their enemies, honoured and cherished their loved ines…. And carried on…..regardless!
A sapling grows to be a great oak, rooted deep and strong, from weathering the storms, absorbing the Sunshine and wintering the cold and dark.
We should all emulate that sapling!
你从生活中得到的东西,正是你投入的东西!.....
而当你不断努力投入更多的时候,就会有更多的收获!
生活不会走到你面前,拍拍你的肩膀说:"我决定让你成为百万富翁,让你在社会上有一席之地,让你自然而然地成为有成就、有爱心的超级家长,给你最美味的食物,或者让你快乐!”
上述的每一份“恩赐”都是用努力、同情、承诺、血汗、考验和泪水换来的!
正是你在冒险、希望、不幸、困难和悲伤中带来的韧性和决心,塑造了你从生活中得到的东西!
那些真正快乐的人,他们的生活中真正拥有成功和幸福,他们克服了生活中最糟糕的事情,战胜了逆境,尝试,失败,振作起来,然后重新开始,他们没有抱怨,也没有退缩,他们分享了他们的劳动成果,原谅了他们的敌人,尊重和珍视他们所爱的人....一往无前....!
一棵小树苗长成一棵大橡树,坚强不屈,经受住了暴风雨的考验,吸收了阳光,度过了寒冷和黑暗——我们都应该效仿这棵小树苗!
That you get out of life, exactly what you put into it!…..
And that the bonus comes when you continually strive to put more into it!
Life does not come up to you, tap you on the shoulder and say:”. iI have decided to make you a millionaire, give you a prestgious place in society, automatically make you a super parent of accomplished loving children, feed you the finest cusine, or make you happy!”
Each of those gifts are earned with effort, compassion, commitment,, and blood sweat, trial and tears!
It is the resilience and determination that you bring to the adventures, hopes- gone-awry, misadventures, difficulties and griefs, that shape what you get out of life!, and how you get it.
The truly happy people, who really have success and happiness in their lives, have risen above the worst that life has dished up, triumphed over adversity, tried, failed, picked themselves up, and started all over again. They have not whined nor withdrawn.They have shared the fruits of their labours, forgiven their enemies, honoured and cherished their loved ines…. And carried on…..regardless!
A sapling grows to be a great oak, rooted deep and strong, from weathering the storms, absorbing the Sunshine and wintering the cold and dark.
We should all emulate that sapling!
你从生活中得到的东西,正是你投入的东西!.....
而当你不断努力投入更多的时候,就会有更多的收获!
生活不会走到你面前,拍拍你的肩膀说:"我决定让你成为百万富翁,让你在社会上有一席之地,让你自然而然地成为有成就、有爱心的超级家长,给你最美味的食物,或者让你快乐!”
上述的每一份“恩赐”都是用努力、同情、承诺、血汗、考验和泪水换来的!
正是你在冒险、希望、不幸、困难和悲伤中带来的韧性和决心,塑造了你从生活中得到的东西!
那些真正快乐的人,他们的生活中真正拥有成功和幸福,他们克服了生活中最糟糕的事情,战胜了逆境,尝试,失败,振作起来,然后重新开始,他们没有抱怨,也没有退缩,他们分享了他们的劳动成果,原谅了他们的敌人,尊重和珍视他们所爱的人....一往无前....!
一棵小树苗长成一棵大橡树,坚强不屈,经受住了暴风雨的考验,吸收了阳光,度过了寒冷和黑暗——我们都应该效仿这棵小树苗!
Manoj Charantimath
First thing is “Hardship”.
Yes, you read it right. Due to nuclear families in middle class or above people, extra care given to their children and the facilities provided to their children beyond the capacity of the parents, children hardly know the hardships and the difficulties.
Due to this the present generation kids are highly pampered and always unsatisfied. They feel that the things they wish should come to them.
When they start working and earning independently they find any short comings and difficulties unbearable as they had never come across these difficulties. They feel depressed.
Someone who has gone through the hardships and seen the difficulties can relate what is happiness, how it can be enjoyed. How little things bring happiness.
首先要知道的第一件事就是 "困难"。
是的,你没看错,由于中产阶级或中产以上的核心家庭对孩子的额外照顾和为孩子提供的设施超出了父母的能力,孩子们几乎不懂什么是艰苦和困难。
因此,这一代的孩子被高度宠爱,总是不满足,他们觉得他们想要的东西应该自动来到他们身边。
当他们开始独立工作和挣钱时,他们发现任何艰苦和困难都是无法忍受的,因为他们从未遇到过这些困难,他们感到很沮丧。
一个经历过艰难困苦的人才能体会到什么是幸福,如何享受幸福。
First thing is “Hardship”.
Yes, you read it right. Due to nuclear families in middle class or above people, extra care given to their children and the facilities provided to their children beyond the capacity of the parents, children hardly know the hardships and the difficulties.
Due to this the present generation kids are highly pampered and always unsatisfied. They feel that the things they wish should come to them.
When they start working and earning independently they find any short comings and difficulties unbearable as they had never come across these difficulties. They feel depressed.
Someone who has gone through the hardships and seen the difficulties can relate what is happiness, how it can be enjoyed. How little things bring happiness.
首先要知道的第一件事就是 "困难"。
是的,你没看错,由于中产阶级或中产以上的核心家庭对孩子的额外照顾和为孩子提供的设施超出了父母的能力,孩子们几乎不懂什么是艰苦和困难。
因此,这一代的孩子被高度宠爱,总是不满足,他们觉得他们想要的东西应该自动来到他们身边。
当他们开始独立工作和挣钱时,他们发现任何艰苦和困难都是无法忍受的,因为他们从未遇到过这些困难,他们感到很沮丧。
一个经历过艰难困苦的人才能体会到什么是幸福,如何享受幸福。
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