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Anna Sharudenko, lives in The United States of America

安娜·莎鲁丹科，住在美国

Because short term gratification is more appealing than not having a social life for X years. Hence, people end up tricking themselves by picking easy goals (if any). What kind of a sadomasochist wants to prioritize when you can just Netflix & chill?
If a person hears “no,” they quit. Apply a little pressure or infuse the situation with adversity and not a clear straight path, and the person loses their shit.
Not having clear goals. I am not a fan of to-do lists, but calendar planning works. Also, try to write down a “what I did today” list at the end of the day. If you didn’t do anything, that guilt feeling will kick in, and hopefully you will improve tomorrow.
Comparing yourself too much to others. You start to feel envy, to feel inadequate, and to feel ridiculed by your own self because you start to lose rationale.
Not having gratitude, not having the ability to be happy with what you have and always wanting more, better, and faster. These people are doomed because they can’t enjoy the taste of an apple. For them, everything is bland (even a Tesla, a new house, and wine).

因为短期的满足感比X年没有社交生活更有吸引力。因此，人们最终通过选择简单的目标（如果有的话）来欺骗自己。当你可以只看Netflix和chill的时候，什么样的施虐受虐狂会优先考虑？
如果一个人听到“不”，他们就会辞职。施加一点压力，或是给处境陷入困境，而不是一条清晰的直线，那么这个人就会失去理智。
没有明确的目标。我不喜欢待办事项清单，但是日历计划很有用。此外，试着在一天结束时写下“我今天做了什么”的清单。如果你什么都没做，那种内疚感就会袭来，希望你明天能有所改善。
过多地拿自己和别人比较。你开始感到嫉妒，感到不足，感到被自己嘲笑，因为你开始失去理性。
没有感恩之心，没有对自己所拥有的感到快乐的能力，总是想要更多、更好、更快。这些人注定要失败，因为他们不能享受苹果的味道。对他们来说，一切都是平淡无奇的（即使是一辆特斯拉、一栋新房子和一杯葡萄酒）。
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Paras Tyagi, former Officer-The Inspector Who Resigned (GST$Customs) (2018-2022)

Paras Tyagi，前海关关员辞职(商品及服务税)(2018-2022)

Because after failing once, people give up.
After failing twice, people surely give up.
Let's see what happens when one refuses to give up.
Israel faced an international black-out. It would fight its war with 30 year old planes and weapons.
Soviet-Mig-21, the most advanced of its time, in 1960s, was the need of the hour for Israel.
Israel pledged to steal it from the heart of the enemy itself, the arab allies of Soviet.
Egypt had Mig-21s. An Egyptian accepted the offer of Israelis to receive millions and he would fly the plane to Israel.
But that Egyotian alxed the Government and the Israeli and his friends in Egypt were hanged to death.
Israel had failed.
Next they hacked Iraq and the Iraqi pilots refused to co-operate and mission got mis-carriaged.

因为一旦失败，人们就会放弃。
两次失败后，人们肯定会放弃。
让我们看看当一个人拒绝放弃时会发生什么。
以色列面临国际封锁。它将用30年前的飞机和武器作战。
苏联的米格-21是当时最先进的，在20世纪60年代，它是以色列当时所需要的。
以色列发誓要把它从敌人的心脏，苏联的阿拉伯盟友那里偷走。
埃及有米格-21。一位埃及人接受了以色列人的提议，接受了数百万美元，他将驾驶飞机前往以色列。
但是那个埃及人警告了政府，以色列人和他在埃及的朋友被绞死了。
以色列失败了。
然后他们入侵了伊拉克，伊拉克飞行员拒绝合作，导致任务流产。

Israel failed again.
Does it make sense for Israel to try again?
What about the sacrifices of the people, Israel lost.
To give it meaning, Israel would try again.
A jew in Iraq alxed Israel of Munir Redfa a Christian in Iraqi air-force.
Munir had faced discrimination in Iraq as he wasn't promoted, less fuel in his aircraft, bullied by his commanders, forced to fire at Kurds.
He was the perfect fit. Israel got Munir's family in safe haven first.
Escaping the radar, riding on lowest fuel, Munir takes off and as his admission, he landed it in Israel at the last drop.
People fail because they are afraid of previous failures.
People succeed because they envision a coming success.

以色列再次失败。
以色列再次尝试有意义吗？
以色列人民的牺牲又如何呢?
为了赋予它意义，以色列将再次尝试。
一名在伊拉克的犹太人提醒以色列注意伊拉克空军的基督徒穆尼尔·雷德法。
穆尼尔在伊拉克受到歧视，因为他没有升职，飞机燃料减少，受到指挥官的欺凌，被迫向库尔德人开火。
他是最合适的人选。以色列首先把穆尼尔的家人送到了安全港。
穆尼尔避开了雷达，用了最低的燃料，起飞了。他承认在用尽最后一滴油时降落在了以色列。
人们失败是因为他们害怕以前的失败。
人们之所以成功，是因为预见了即将到来的成功。

Sathya Mukesh C S, Senior Engineer at Chennai Petroleum Corporation

Sathya Mukesh C S，金奈石油公司高级工程师

Very rarely do people fail in life due to their incompetence.
People fail cuz they did the wrong thing at the wrong time.
People fail cuz they were not ready to toil hard when it mattered the most.
People fail cuz they take wrong decisions and realise em way too late.
People fail cuz they don't pick themself up after a failure.
People fail when complacency, procrastination and laziness live rent free in their mind.
People fail cuz they have a bad attitude.
Your life is like a car. Every turn you make counts. The path to your destination may have speed bumps. You will have phases where you can accelerate and phases when you have to drag slow. It's you behind the wheel, and you are in control !

很少有人因为无能而在生活中失败。
人们失败是因为他们在错误的时间做了错误的事情。
人们之所以失败，是因为在最重要的时候他们没有准备好努力工作。
人们之所以失败，是因为他们做了错误的决定，但意识到之时为时已晚。
人们失败是因为失败后他们没有振作起来。
当自满、拖拉和懒惰在人们的头脑中自由存在时，他们就会失败。
人们失败是因为他们的态度不好。
你的生活就像一辆汽车。你每转一圈都很重要。通往目的地的道路可能会有减速带。你会有加速阶段和减速阶段。是你在驾驶，是你在控制一切！

Sumit Kumar, lived in Mumbai, Maharashtra, India

Sumit Kumar，住在印度马哈拉施特拉邦的孟买

Following are some of the true cases which I witnessed throughout my life.
I know a student who dropped out of the college, and now living life of a loser.
I know a person who learnt about investments, got motivated and invested in stocks and now crying over money loss.
I know a student who went overseas to Russia for doing MBBS, spending over 12 lakhs of her parent’s hard earned money altogether and now got back to india, doing Bsc from an tier 4 college of small town at the age of 22. Money, time energy, dream wasted !
I know a businessman who invested (spent) Rs. 20 crores of money on making a mall in tier 3 city, where people rarely visit. Now he is in great loss.
I know a guy who couldn’t control his Hormones and for a girl destroyed his whole career and at last committed suicide.
I know a guy for whom sex was everything, he’d sleep with cheap prostitutes, ended up with HIV.
I know a student who is preparing for UPSC since 6 years now, ages 30 and depressed. He should have moved on with life but he didn’t.
I know a student who cracked JEE advance with a good rank but being overexcited, met with an accident, was accussed in hit and run case, sent in Jail for a few years thus, destroyed his career.
I know some students who are forcing their parents for expensive Android phones just to play PUBG.
In conclusion - Success is not for such losers.

以下是我一生中目睹的一些真实案例。
我认识一个从大学退学的学生，现在过着失败者的生活。
我认识一个人，他学会了投资，获得了动力，投资了股票，现在却为损失的金钱而哭泣。
我认识一个学生，她去俄罗斯攻读MBB，花掉了她父母辛苦挣来的120多万美元，现在回到了印度，在22岁的时候在小镇上的一所四级学院攻读理学学士学位。金钱、时间、精力、梦想都被浪费了！
我认识一位商人，他在三线城市投资（花）了2亿卢比建造了一座购物中心，那里很少有人光顾，现在他损失惨重。
我认识一个男人，他无法控制自己的荷尔蒙，为了一个女孩毁了他的整个职业生涯，最后自杀了。
我认识一个男人，对他来说性就是一切，他和廉价妓女上床，最后感染了艾滋病毒。
我认识一个6年前就开始为中国城市规划学会做准备的学生，30岁，情绪低落。他本应该继续生活，但他没有。
我认识一个学生，他以很好的名次提前通过联合入学考试，但过度兴奋，遇到了一场事故，被指控肇事逃逸，因此被送进监狱几年，毁了他的事业。
我认识一些学生，他们强迫父母购买昂贵的安卓手机，只是为了玩绝地求生。
总之，成功不属于这样的失败者。

Flavian Mwasi, Entrepreneur | Life Coach | Mentor at Life and Living
I have a grandson who is now nearly 1 year and 2 months old.
My grandson is hyper-active. He learned how to walk without support just before he turned exactly 1 year in January this year. Since then, we must keep a very close eye on him continuously. One false move and he can get himself badly hurt.
He wants to try out everything, go everywhere, touch everything and eat everything. He is in the ‘experientation’ stage.
If you refuse him anything, he cries himself out until you either do what he wants or you try to trick him into accepting a different option.
You have to watch him very closely, otherwise he will knock himself into things, or fall from the stairs or something. He is very oblivious of the accidents that can happen to him.
The biggest challenge is when feeding him. The nanny has to chase him around because he wont eat while seated at one place.
Of late my grandson has discovered quite a number of things.

我有一个孙子，现在快一岁零两个月了。
我的孙子非常活跃。今年1月，他刚满一岁，就学会了在没有支撑的情况下走路。从那以后，我们必须一直密切关注他。一个错误的举动，可能导致他受到严重伤害。
他什么都想尝试，什么地儿都想去，什么都想摸，什么都想吃。他处于“体验”阶段
如果你拒绝了他，他会大声哭喊，你要么照他说的做，要么骗他接受另一种选择。
你必须仔细观察他，否则他会撞到东西，或者从楼梯上摔下来。他对可能发生在他身上的事故一无所知。
最大的挑战是给他喂食。保姆不得不到处追他，因为他不会坐在一个地方吃饭。
最近我的孙子发现了不少事情。
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Among them,
The mobile phone
The TV
The TV remote
The laptop
You can imagine how much he cries himself out when you try to deny him any one of these gadgets.
In fact, he has a bunch of about a dozen toys from cars, trucks and trains to a bunch of other toys I don’t even know their names, but he soon gets bored with these and goes for the TV remote, or the mobile phone, which he finds more interesting.
This is not his fault, of course. This is Generation-Z.
We are also trying to learn many things about our grandson, particularly his psychology with a view to understand why he does things the way he does, so that we can be of more help.
For example, we can guess when he’s about to do something fishy, so that we can either get him out of the way or get rid of something dangerous before he gets to it.
We have also discovered that my grandson grows taller with each passing day, and soon enough we wont be able to prevent him from doing anything or grabbing at anything.
So, what do we do?
Fortunately, my grandson has started to understand simple words like “Come here”, “ get out of there”, “don’t do that”, “Yes” and “No”.
When you tell him “No”, he understands that you’re trying to warn him against doing or touching something; so he changes his mind and grins at you sheepishly…
What I am trying to say?
My grandson’s story is an analogy of our adult lives.

其中,，
手机
电视
电视遥控器
笔记本电脑
你可以想象当你试图拒绝给他这些小玩意时他哭得有多伤心。
事实上，他有十几个玩具，从汽车、卡车和火车，到其他一些我甚至不知道名字的玩具，但他很快对这些玩具感到厌倦，于是他选择了电视遥控器或手机，他觉得这更有趣。
当然，这不是他的错。谁叫他是Z一代。
我们也在努力了解孙子的很多事情，尤其是他的心理学，以了解他为什么会这样做，这样我们就能提供更多帮助。
例如，我们可以猜出他什么时候要做一些可疑的事情，这样我们就可以把他弄走，或者在他动手之前把危险的情况处理掉。
我们还发现，我的孙子一天比一天高，很快我们就无法阻止他做任何事或阻止抓任何东西。
那么，我们该怎么办？
幸运的是，我的孙子已经开始理解像“过来”、“离开那里”、“不要那样做”、“是”和“不是”这样的简单单词。
当你对他说“不”时，他明白你是在警告他不要做或不要触摸某物；所以他改变主意，羞怯地朝你咧嘴笑。
我想说什么？
我孙子的故事是我们成年后生活的一个类比。

For example, when my son was learning how to walk, I could notice that he was really struggling. He would try to walk while holding onto things, but fell quite often. Of course the baby walker and other improvisations helped him a great deal, but he soon got bored with it when he discovered that it confined his movements.
Now that he can walk on his own, he falls more often, but this doesn’t seem to deter him.
Does he give up?
Of course not. Because he still has yet, another goal and he must achieve it.
His biggest breakthrough came when he started walking on his own without any support. You could tell that this was his biggest success.
Even at that age, you could see excitement all over him.
I realized that there are so many things we take for granted as adults. Like learning how to walk. I can’t even remember what life was like when I was that young.
Now that my grandson has mastered the art of walking, he has taken to learning new abilities like how to talk, how to run, ho to hold a spoon or a fork, etc..
He tries to do everything he sees adults doing.
Where I’m I heading to with all this?
My grandson’s story is a reflection of our own lives.

例如，当我儿子学习走路时，我能注意到他真的步履维艰。他会试着边走边抓东西，但经常摔倒。当然，学步车和其他即兴表演对他帮助很大，但当他发现它限制了他的行动时，他很快就厌倦了。
现在他可以自己走路了，他摔倒的次数也更多了，但这似乎并没有阻止他。
他放弃了吗？
当然不是。因为他还有另一个目标，他必须实现它。
他最大的突破是在没有任何支撑的情况下开始独立行走。你可以看出这是他最大的成功。
即使在那个年龄，你也能看到他全身的兴奋状态。
我意识到，作为成年人，我们有很多事情是理所当然的。比如学走路，我甚至不记得我小时候的生活是什么样子。
现在我的孙子已经掌握了走路的艺术，他开始学习新的能力，比如如何说话、如何跑步、如何拿勺子或叉子等等。
他试着做他看到成年人做的每件事。
我带着这些要去哪里?
我孙子的故事反映了我们自己的生活。

Everyone has a purpose of life, but this purpose must be broken down into many simple steps.
They must be taken one step at a time.
Like a toddler, we must first learn to walk, talk, run and finally go school. Once in school we begin to articulate things, like history, geography, mathematics and science, etc.
We also begin to notice our surroundings, other human beings etc.
Soon, we begin to interact with other humans, make friends, make enemies, form alliances, etc.

每个人都有一个人生目标，但这个目标必须分解成许多简单的步骤。
它们必须一步一步地进行。
就像一个蹒跚学步的孩子，我们必须先学会走路、说话、跑步，最后才能上学。一到学校，我们就开始清晰地表达一些东西，比如历史、地理、数学和科学等。
我们也开始注意到我们周围的环境，其他人等等。
很快，我们开始与他人互动，交朋友，树敌，结成联盟，等等。

As we develop from kindergarten to nursery and elementary school, we begin to notice that we are different from other human beings. This difference helps us to understand ourselves better, find our unique identities, etc.
We begin to discover our unique capabilities such as academic prowess, athletic abilities or artistic abilities.
This leads us to start identifying our strengths and weaknesses which helps us to concentrate on those areas of strength we are endowed with.
As we grow older and our brains begin to develop towards maturity and responsibility.
We begin to realize that life is much broader than we first thought.
At this stage we begin to focus on particular paths of life such as career paths, specializations and goals.
By this stage we also begin to crave for relationships with members of the opposite sex.
We begin to think about marriage and children.

随着我们从幼稚园成长到幼儿园和小学，我们开始注意到我们与其他人不同。这种差异有助于我们更好地了解自己，找到我们独特的身份，等等。
我们开始发现自己独特的能力，如学术能力、运动能力或艺术能力。
这让我们开始识别自己的优势和劣势，从而帮助我们专注于我们所拥有的优势领域。
随着年龄的增长，我们的大脑开始向成熟和责任感方向发展。
我们开始意识到生活比我们最初想象的要广阔得多。
在这个阶段，我们开始关注特定的人生道路，比如职业道路、专业和目标。
到了这个阶段，我们也开始渴望与异性建立关系。
我们开始考虑婚姻和孩子。

Why People Fail
To understand why people fail, I guess we should first understand why people succeed.
People succeed because they don’t give up on their goals and purpose.
I think the statement sums up why people fail.
THEY GIVE UP!!!
People fail for the following reasons:
Purpose is the reason for our very existence.
People exist for different purposes. Purpose is different and bigger than a career or a profession, but a career or profession is the vehicle through which we deliver purpose. A career or profession is a unique capability through which we deliver purpose.
I guess people fail when they pursue the wrong purpose, career or goal.
I guess life is an open check.
Everyday, we are faced with choices, good or bad. We live in the age of marijuana ligalization, which means marijuana will soon become abundantly available as large commercial companies manufacture tons of marijuana.
This means marijuana will be freely available to our kids. I can’t imagine the consequences that will follow…

为什么人们会失败
要理解人们为什么会失败，我想我们首先应该理解人们为什么会成功。
人们之所以成功，是因为他们没有放弃自己的目标和目的。
我认为这句话总结了人们失败的原因。
他们放弃了！！！
人们失败的原因如下：
目的是我们存在的理由。
人的存在有不同的目的。目标与职业或专业不同，重要性也更大，但职业或专业是一种独特的能力，通过它我们实现目标。
我想当人们追求错误的目的、事业或目标时，他们就会失败。
我想生活是一张现金支票。
每天，我们都面临着选择，好的或坏的。我们生活在大麻合法化的时代，这意味着随着大型商业公司生产成吨的大麻，大麻很快就会大量供应。
这意味着我们的孩子可以免费获得大麻。我无法想象随之而来的后果。

I read somewhere that the average adult makes an average of 7,000 decisions in a single day.
Bad choices + Poor Judgment = Failure. Simple as that.
Bad company spoils a good person. I guess I didn’t want to say it, but the world is full of bad people.
People who are jealous
People who will do anything to see your downfall
People who who feel insecure because of your progress
People who don’t want you to overtake them
Be about careful about the people you choose as your friends.
Remember: You don’t get to choose your parents but you can choose your friends.
Choosing a wrong career or profession can be tragic.
This is why you should be extremely careful when choosing a career. If possible, involve an older person, a mentor or career councilor.
The world is in turmoil, mostly because many people are where they’re not supposed to be.

我读到过，成年人平均每天要做7000个决定。
糟糕的选择+糟糕的判断=失败，就这么简单。
坏伙伴使好人变坏。我本来不想说的，但世界上到处都是坏人。
嫉妒的人
他们会不惜一切代价看你垮台
那些因为你的进步而感到不安的人
那些不想让你追上他们的人
选择朋友的时候要小心。
记住：你不能选择你的父母，但你可以选择你的朋友。
选择错误的职业或专业可能是悲剧。
这就是为什么你在选择职业时要格外小心。如果可能的话，邀请一位年长的人、一位导师或职业顾问。
世界陷入混乱，主要是因为许多人都在他们不该在的地方。

Consult widely.
Choosing a wrong career may lead to failure because you will most likely lack the passion to do it.
If you don’t have passion doing what you do, then most likely you will not succeed in what you do.
Passion is the engine that drives you towards your goal. Imagine a car without an engine…
Passion is what keeps you going even when there is no success in sight.
You may do everything right but in the end if you lose focus you will still fail.
There are so many distractions in life to force you to lose focus, but the biggest one in our times is the proliferation of social media.
Actually, social media is good, but when used wrongly that’s when it becomes harmful to your focus.
Experts inform us that social media has the same addiction effect as drugs or porn.
Comfort is not necessarily bad. In fact that’s what we all crave for.
However, comfort does not allow you to get off your ass and do something that will help advance you personally or professionally, until you experience some kind of discomfort or pressure.
When you are in a comfortable position, you will hardly have the motivation to get out of the “comfort zone” and move to another level.
Most likely you will remain at this position until something comes along that will shake you out of your comfort zone, forcing you to start moving.

广泛咨询。
选择错误的职业可能会导致失败，因为你很可能没有激情去做。
如果你没有激情去做你所做的事情，那么你很可能不会成功。
激情是推动你实现目标的引擎。想象一辆没有引擎的汽车吧。
即使看不到成功，激情也能让你继续前进。
你可能会把每件事都做好，但最终如果你失去了注意力，你还是会失败。
生活中有太多干扰因素迫使你失去注意力，但我们这个时代最大的干扰是激增的社交媒体。
实际上，社交媒体是好的，但如果使用不当，它就会对你的注意力造成损害。
专家告诉我们，社交媒体与毒品或色情具有相同的成瘾效应。
舒适并不一定是坏事。事实上，这就是我们都渴望的。
然而，在你经历某种不适或压力之前，舒适不允许你从原位置上下来，做一些有助于提升你个人或职业水平的事情。
当你处于一个舒适的位置时，你几乎没有动力走出“舒适区”，进入另一个层次。
很有可能你会一直保持这个架势，直到有什么事情发生，把你从舒适区甩出去，迫使你开始移动。
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Motivation is the fuel that keeps us going towards our goal. Most people do not have the stamina to keep the momentum going and therefore give up easily.
Motivation is the the constantly reminder that your goal is worth it, and therefore worth fighting for.
Patience is the stamina that keeps you going even when your goal seems to be taking long to materialize.
Some things take time. Others take years to manifest.
Lack of patience is one sure reason of failure.
The ‘Never Give Up’ spirit is similar to saying ‘No retreat, No Surrender’.
Persistence is the single gift responsible for many successes, and is developed over time through discipline.
Unfortunately many people do not have this gift, and give up too soon.
Many people have gone further than they thought possible because someone else thought they could.

动力是我们朝着目标前进的燃料。大多数人没有保持动力的耐力，因此很容易放弃。
动力是不断提醒你，你的目标是值得的，因此是值得为之奋斗的。
耐心是一种毅力，即使你的目标似乎需要很长时间才能实现，它也能让你坚持下去。
有些事情需要时间。另一些则需要数年才能显现。
缺乏耐心肯定是失败的原因之一。
“永不放弃”的精神类似于说“不后退，不投降”。
坚持是导致许多成功的唯一天赋，它是随着时间的推移，通过自律而发展起来的。
不幸的是，许多人没有这种天赋，过早地放弃了。
许多人走得比他们认为可能的更远，因为其他人认为他们可以。

I can’t imagine my grandson growing up without any outside support. We realized that he could do nothing on his own, so we helped him through every step of his journey. And I’m sure he shall need our help for a long time to come.
Fortunately, he is always surrounded by people who ensure that he can circumvent the numerous challenges he faces every single day.
This motivates him to want to go on, despite the many challenges. In fact, sometimes I wonder whether he sees the challenges, but I think he’s too young to notice.
My grandson’s story is just another lesson we all can borrow from. As adults, we are often too proud to think that we need the help of other people, but this is actually where we fail.
Similarly, as adults, we also need help every every day. However, at some point in our lives, we tend to throw all caution to the wind thinking that we don’t need any outside help.
This is why we fail.
We fail because we refuse to tap into the knowledge and skills of other people who have gone before us, “been there” and “done that”. We fail to listen to people who have experienced both failure and success.
More often than not, pride overtakes us and we end up paying dearly for costs that we could have easily avoided by embracing humility and learning from someone who is more experienced than us.

我无法想象我的孙子在没有外界支持的情况下长大。我们意识到他一个人什么也做不了，所以我们帮助他走过了人生的每一步，我相信他在很长一段时间内都需要我们的帮助。
幸运的是，他身边的人总能确保他能避开每天面临的无数挑战。
这激励着他继续前进，尽管面临许多挑战。事实上，有时我想知道他是否看到了挑战，但我认为他太年轻了，没有注意到。
我孙子的故事只是我们可以借鉴的另一个教训。作为成年人，我们往往过于骄傲，以至于不认为自己需要他人的帮助，但这实际上是我们失败的地方。
同样，作为成年人，我们每天都需要帮助。然而，在我们生活的某个时刻，我们倾向于抛开所有的谨慎，以为我们不需要任何外界的帮助。
这就是我们失败的原因。
我们之所以失败，是因为我们拒绝利用其他人的知识和技能，而这些人在我们之前“去过”和“做过”。我们听不到那些经历过失败和成功的人的意见。
通常情况下，骄傲压倒了我们，我们最终付出了高昂的代价，这些代价本可以通过谦虚和向比我们更有经验的人学习而轻松避免。