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Satendar Singh, Math Hons. at Shaheed Bhagat Singh College (2015-present)
In order to get out of friendzone, you need to follow 7 golden rules :
Step 1 :
You texted her almost 15 message.
She replied with a single hmmm…
You again texted her almost 10 message.
She replied haha .
Stop being that guy. Learn to love your self respect.

为了走出朋友圈，你需要遵循7条黄金法则:
第一条:
你给她发了差不多15条短信。她只回了一句“嗯”;
你又给她发了将近10条短信。她回答道，哈哈。
不要在发了，学会尊重自己。

Step 2 :
You : I wanna tell you something.
She : Yes.
You : I love you so much. I can't live without you. You're the best girl that I've ever met.
She : Aww.. So sweet, I love you too as a friend.
Stop being that guy. Learn to be stern.

第二条:
你：我想告诉你一件事。
她:好的。
你：我太爱你了。没有你我活不下去。你是我见过的最好的女孩。
她:嗯，真好，我也爱你，但就像朋友一样。
学会不将就。

Step 3 :
She : Hey, my data pack is over. Can you recharge my phone? I'll pay you later.
Me : Yes. Give me 5 minute.
Stop being that guy. Learn to say no.

第三条:
她:嘿，我的流量包超额了。你能给我的手机充值吗?我以后再给你转钱。
我:好的。给我5分钟。
学会说不。

Step 4 :
She : I think, you're too busy nowadays.
Take atleast 15 minute to reply her,
You : Yes.
She : Why?
You : Can't tell you the reason. But I had an amazing day today.
She : Why so?
You : Can't tell you.
Be that guy. Be mysterious.

第四条:
她:我想，你现在太忙了，至少等15分钟才回复她，
你:是的。
她:为什么?
我不能告诉你原因。但我今天经过了令人惊异的一天。
她:为什么?
我：不能告诉你。
保持一定距离。

Step 5 :
She : Are you free tonight?
You : No.
She : Why?
You : I'm going on a date with xyz.
Be that guy. Make her jealous.

第五条:
她:你今晚有空吗?
你:没有。
她:为什么?
我要和某某约会。
让她嫉妒的人。

Step 6 :
She : Nowadays, I feel like you're avoiding me too much.
You : Yes. I've to.
She : Why so?
You : I can't stay in friendzone. I want something more than this. I want a beautiful romantic relationship with you.
Tell her what you want. [Tell only if you really want]

第六条:
她:这些天，我觉得你在回避我了。
你:是的。
她:为什么?
我：不满足于朋友关系。我想要的不止这些。我想和你有一段美好浪漫的关系。
告诉她你想要什么。注：只在你真的想说的时候说。

Step 7:
If you got out of friendzone, that's great.
If not, get another girl. There are plenty of girls in the world.
No point in wasting time on a girl, who can't value your feelings.
Same applies for girls too.

第七条：
如果你走出了朋友区，那就太好了。
如果没有，那就另找一个女孩。世界上有很多女孩。
没必要在一个不重视你感情的女孩身上浪费时间。
这同样适用于女孩。

Hailey Lynn, Student at Doctorate of Nursing Practice (2018-present)
I’m going to give you advice that is not the norm… but here it goes:
*Takes a deep breath*
Give up on pursuing this person.
You: “NOOOOO! That is not what I wanted to hear!”
I’ll tell you a huge secret I have found in life:
“It’s attractive when someone doesn’t want something that bad.”
The woman who owned the modeling agency I had a contract with was told this when she won the title of Miss California USA. She had competed every year until she was 25. Her seventh year, and the last one she would be eligible, she didn’t think she would win and decided to stop caring so much.

我给你一个不太常规化的建议，但它是这样的:
深呼吸
放弃追求这个人。
你:不 !这不是我想听到的!
我要告诉你在生活中我发现的一个巨大秘密:
当一个人想放弃某件糟糕的事情时候，那时很有吸引力的。
与我签约的模特经纪公司的老板在赢得美国加州小姐称号时被告知了这一点。在25岁之前，她每年都参加比赛。这是她的第七年，也是最后一年，她认为自己不会获胜，所以决定不再关心。

Well, she won. There were about a thousand young women that entered. She was shocked. She pulled one of the judges aside and asked, “What is the deal? What made me different this year compared to the other years I competed?”
Judge: “You were just more relaxed, and you didn’t seem obsessed with wanting the title. You were confident, and I sensed you would be okay without it. For some reason, there is something so enticing and attractive about the person that doesn’t want something that bad.”
This is something you are not going to hear often… but think of the psychology behind it:
When someone is interested in you, it’s nice to get their attention, but how do you feel when they seem desperate for it? What about the coworker or person that is dying for a friend or to fit in? The majority of the public is unwilling to help and will ostracize them.
You feel uncomfortable. You don’t want the obligation and time it will take to feed their need.
When a person is confident and secure, you are drawn to them. Because it is easy and fun to be around them. Many people want what is easy. They don’t want to put stress and extra effort into a relationship that should be about enjoyment.
Also, and let’s be honest here…. you are kick-ass! Don’t waste your time on someone that is going to treat you like you aren’t!
If you want a relationship with them, be confident, be kind, but above all: keep in mind what you are worth! You determine that. If they don’t seem interested, then hold your head high and walk away. This may give them a different sense and see you differently. They might change their mind. But… if they don’t, then you still have more opportunities
Don’t underestimate what you have to offer. If you don’t like the friend zone, then remove yourself from it.

结果,她赢了。大约有一千名年轻女子参加比赛。她很震惊。她把其中一位评委拉到一边问道:“这是怎么回事?”是什么让我今年（成绩）与往年相比有所不同?
评委：“你这次表现得更放松，似乎也没有想要获得冠军。你表现得很自信，我觉得不获奖也无所谓。出于某种原因，不去想那些糟糕的东西，会自然而然散发着非常诱人的魅力。”
这是你无法经常听到的理论，但想想它背后的心理学:
当有人对你感兴趣时，引起他们的注意是很好的，但当他人看起来非常渴望得到你的关注时，你是什么感觉?那么那些渴望朋友或融入社会的同事或个人呢？大多数人其实是不愿意帮助他们的，并且会排斥他们。
你（之所以）感觉不舒服。是你不想花时间和没有义务去满足他们的需要。
当一个人有自信和有安全感时，你会被他们吸引。因为和他们在一起很容易（没心理负担）也很有趣。许多人想要简单的东西。他们不想在本应是快乐的关系中增加压力和付出额外的努力。
而且，老实说。你如果牛逼!你不会把你的时间浪费在那些不把你当回事的人身上!
如果你想和他人建立关系，要自信，要友善，但最重要的是:记住你的价值!并且你决定接下来的主动权。如果他们不感兴趣，那就昂起头走开。这可能会给对方不一样的感觉，并以不同的方式看待你。他们可能会因此改变主意，但如果他们不这样做，那么你仍然有更多的机会!
不要低估你所能提供的。如果你不喜欢朋友区，那就把自己从朋友区里摘出来。

Mohit Kumar , studies at Panjab University, Chandigarh (2022)

Mohit Kumar，在昌迪加尔旁遮普大学学习（2022年）

Do you know why you're friend-zoned?
Because you're too nice. Because you're less bold. Because you're always available. Because you're not her first choice. Because you agreed to her every point. Because you're a man but don't act like a man. Because you think she is the only girl you can ever have a partner.
And girls love such guys but only in their ‘friends’ category. She doesn't see you as her partner. She isn't wrong, it is her life, her choices.
Now you must be admiring her and working your ass hard to impress her. You're eagerly waiting for the day when you will hold her hand and go for a date. Right? But my boy, if you're not her first choice then you can never ever be her first choice. A week, a month or a year later she will kick your ass and go to her first choice. You will end up with messing up your life and a broken heart.
Wake up, Wake up, Wake up.
Don't be her second or last choice. You have self-respect. You are a man. You deserve way better than her. Believe me, you seriously deserve a better partner than her. And you will meet your perfect choice very soon. This is life.

你知道为什么你会被划分到朋友区吗？
因为你太好了、因为你没那么大胆、因为你随时都有空、因为你不是她的第一选择、因为她说啥你都同意、因为你是个男人，但你的行为不像个男人，因为你认为她是你唯一的选择。
女孩们喜欢这样的男人，但只在她们的“朋友”类别中。她不认为你是她的搭档。她没有错，这是她的生活，她可以自己选择。
现在你一定很欣赏她，拼命工作想给她留下好印象。你急切地等待着有一天你会牵着她的手去约会。对吧，但是我的孩子，如果你不是她的第一选择，那么你永远也不能成为她的第一选择。一周、一个月或一年后，她会踢掉你，然后去找她的第一选择。你最终会把生活搞得一团糟，心碎。
醒醒，醒醒，醒醒。
不要成为她的第二个或最后一个选择。你是个男人，你得有自尊。你应该得到比她更好的，相信我，你真的应该有一个比她更好的伴侣，你也很快就会遇到你的完美选择，这就是生活。
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Solution to your problem [This is going to change your life]
Can you make her your JUST FRIEND only? No? You're still attracted to her? Okay, listen carefully now.
Don't make her the first priority of your life. Don't talk to her frequently. Stop stalking or chasing her. She is not wrong, she is not even your enemy but you need to control and make yourself less attached to her. That's the solution. That's the key to happiness.
Now you need to become a magnet. Don't chase her, let her chase you. Become busy in your life, prioritize your goals, your hobbies, develop yourself, become a man by actions, talk to people, date different girls, hang out with friends, spend every day developing yourself. Don't try to impress the same girl, she is the past. Start looking for a bright future, beautiful days. You will thank me later.
So stop wasting your whole time on her.You can only attract best if you're best.

你得解决这个问题，这将改变你的生活。
你能让她成为你唯一的朋友吗？不是吧，她还吸引这你吗？好的，现在仔细听：
不要让她成为你生命中的第一要务。不要经常和她说话，别再跟踪她了。她没有错，她也不是你的敌人，只是你需要控制自己，减少对她的依恋。这就是解决办法，这也是是幸福的关键。
现在你需要成为一个磁铁。别去追她，让她来追你吧。让生活变得忙碌起来，优先考虑你的目标，你的爱好，努力干自己的事，让自己成为一个男人，与人交谈，与不同的女孩约会，与朋友出去玩，每天都进步一点点。不要试图给同一个女孩留下深刻印象，她已经过去了。开始寻找美好的未来，让日子变得更美好，你以后会感谢我的。
所以别把你的时间都浪费在她身上了。只有你成为最好的，才能吸引最好的她。

Anonymous
Let me explain how. I am going anonymous because I have done things that I cannot show my name for.
Let me set some basic fundamentals of this game:
Symptoms of friend-zone. Apply the solution only if these symptoms are seen. Or else it would mean she is cock-blocking you in which case do not proceed, find next girl
She calls you up in the late night to talk
She chats with you when she is not feeling sleepy in the night
She invites you for shopping
She sympathizes you often
She touches you regularly
BUT she neither lip-locks with you nor sleeps with you
Every time you try to touch her or peck towards her, she moves back
These are the worst feelings on Earth

我解释一下，我之所以匿名，是因为我做了一些我不能透露姓名的事情。
我先设定一下这个游戏的一些基本原理：
朋友区的症状，只有在出现这些症状时才使用此解决方案。否则，这就意味着她在阻止你，在这种情况下，不要继续，去找下一个女孩。
她深夜给你打电话聊天；
她晚上不困的时候和你聊天；
她邀请你去购物；
她经常同情你；
她经常触碰你；
但她既不跟你接吻也不跟你睡觉；
每次你试图触摸她或轻吻她，她都会后退；
这是地球上最糟糕的感觉。

Fundamentals of human interaction. Very Important.
Never try to love or gain love with logical discussion.
Things like sex and kiss should never be talked about. It should be escalated with emotions
Be badass to steal girls from other guys. If you feel shy , then you will stay friend-zoned forever. Girls fall for powerful men who dare to steal
Do not beg. Never ever. Ever
Humans are like cats. If you give them something, they’ll play with it for a while and get bored. But if you dangle something around them, they will chase you with curiosity.

（了解）人类互动的基础是非常重要。
永远不要试图通过逻辑讨论来爱或获得爱。
像性和亲吻这样的事情永远不应该被谈论。它应该随着情绪升级而发生。
从其他男人那里”抢女“孩是很厉害的。如果你觉得害羞，那么你将永远止步于朋友区。女孩们会爱上敢于偷心的有权有势的男人。
不要乞求得到爱，永远不要这样做。
人类就像猫，如果你给他们一些东西，他们会玩一段时间，之后就感到无聊。但如果你在他们周围晃来晃去，他们会好奇地追逐你。

Solution (Things to do)
Ego: Keep you self respect. Within a conversation, try to move away from her. Try body-rocking - taking a step back and turning a little; and back to position if she is showing something interesting or if she wants to hold back the conversation.
Try to turn your back to her in public places like classrooms, parties etc. 100% she will come to you and try to converse with you
Jealousy injection: In public places, talk to other girls. Make more lady friends. Introduce them to her. Touch them in front of her. Flirt with them or compliment them in front of her. She will feel left out and these are the phrases she will use:
You have changed a lot
You don’t treat me as a good friend anymore
Now you have so many girlfriends, you don’t even look at me
Reject her: When she calls you on phone, reject her call. Even if you are absolutely free, just reject her call. Drop a text - I’ll call you back but don’t. Don’t call her back. 100% she is going to call you later the day and will complain and will fight and will argue and when she does, just smile and say “No dear, it is not like that. I wanted to call you but I got seriously tied up”

解决方案（要做的事情）
保持自我：保持你的自尊。在谈话中，试着离开她。尝试身体摇摆、后退一步，稍微转一转；如果她表现出一些有趣的样子，或者如果她想阻止谈话，那么就回到原来的位置。
在教室、聚会等公共场所，尽量背对她。她一定会来找你，并试图与你交谈；
让她嫉妒：与其他女孩在公共场所交谈。结交更多的女性朋友。把她们介绍给她。在她面前触摸她们。在她面前与她们调情或赞美他们。她会感到被冷落，以下是她将使用的话语：
你变了很多；
你不再把我当作好朋友了；
现在你有这么多女朋友，你甚至都不看我一眼；
拒绝她：当她打电话给你时，拒绝她的电话。即使你完全自由状态也要拒绝她的电话。发个短信：我会给你回电话的，但不要给她回电话。她必定会在当天晚些时候打电话给你，会抱怨，会争论。当她这么做时，只要微笑着说“不，亲爱的，不是那样的。我想打电话给你，但我被缠住了”

Touch : The most important part but the most difficult thing to do.
Your touch should be very impulsive and short lived. Like tapping her hand or tapping her back.
Tap only once or twice at a time. More than two and you are super-annoying and creepy
The touch has to be very soft. Very soft. Don’t tap like you tap the keyboard. Tap like you would tap a bird. Very soft touch
Don’t tap on the covered area. Tap at exposed skin areas near the arm or shoulder
Don’t let her touch you. Yes. you heard it right. Don’t. Reserve yourself for that. If she rests her arm or stands too close and rubbing you; move it off, push her away. Say No. If she does that again, grab her with your arm near her lower back and push her in. If she resists let her go and tell her this - “I told you NO”.120% she will try to do that again. And that is when my friend you go for a KISS ;)

触摸：最重要且最难做的一部。
你的触摸行为应该是带有冲动和非常短暂的。比如拍她的手或者拍她的背。
一次只轻触一两次。如果次数过多，你给人超级烦人和令人害怕印象。
触摸时必须非常柔软。不要像轻敲键盘一样轻敲。轻拍就像轻拍小鸟一样，给人非常柔软的触感。
不要轻敲被衣服覆盖区域，而要轻拍手臂或肩部附近裸露的皮肤部位。
别让她碰你。对，你没听错。不要，如果她把手臂放在一边或站得太近而摩擦你；把她移开或者把她推开，说不要这样。如果她再那样做，用你的手臂靠近她背部靠下部位把她推开。如果她拒绝你这样做，告诉她：“我告诉过你不要这样”。她绝对会再次尝试，此时就是我的朋友你去亲吻她的时候。

Things not to do:
Don’t chat: Girls tend to chat when they are bored. DON’T. Just say “Hey my wickets down. Going to sleep. Will talk later”. But stay online. Chat with your guy friends. If not, keep visiting Whatsapp chats in case she is checking if you are online. Most girls do. They will tell you - Liar your last seen was blah blah blah. Just say, “yeah my friend needed some help” ;)
Don’t stick to her when she doesn’t want to. I have been there done that and seen people doing that. When the girl doesn’t want to talk, the guy runs after her pestering her. Don’t. Turn your back and go other way. She will call you then and there or later drop an angry text or call you up. Bingo!
Don’t comply: She might ask you to hold her bag for a while or pass something on the table or ask you to get something for her. DON’T. Just say no. Don’t even make excuse. Say no on face. Tell her “I cannot do that, find someone else”. You are a man who has many women to sleep with (or at least pretend to be one) You do not need to do what a random girl orders you to do (Don’t treat her special. It kills the thrill)

不该做的事情：
不要聊天：女孩们在无聊的时候往往会聊天。不要和她一直聊。只要说“嘿，我睁不开眼，去睡觉吧，后面再聊”。但要保持在线：和你的男朋友聊天。如果没有，继续在Whatsapp上面打开聊天模式，以防她检查你是否在线—大多数女孩都喜欢这样做。他们会告诉你：你说谎，你还一直在线等诸如此类。这时候只要说，“是的，我的朋友临时有事”
当她不想理你的时候，不要纠缠于她。我曾经做过类似的事，也看到别人这样做过。当女孩不想说话时，那家伙就追上她纠缠她。实际上此时应该停下来离开走另一条路。她会时不时地给你打电话，或者稍后发一条愤怒的短信或给你打电话，这就对了。
不要顺从：她可能会让你帮她拿一会儿包，或者把东西放在桌子上，或者让你给她拿点东西。别，说不就行了，别找借口。当面说不。告诉她“我不能那样做，找别人吧”。你是一个有很多女人可以和你睡觉的男人（或者至少假装是一个），你不需要按照一个女孩的命令去做（不要特别对待她，这会扼杀你的兴奋感）

Don’t put her on a pedestal: She is just another girl. Treat her that way. Don’t fall for her beauty. Be immune to beautiful girls. Don’t treat her special. She will fall for a guy who doesn’t treat her special
Don’t be courteous. Don’t pay for everything. When the restaurant bill arrives. Tell her “your turn”. If she says “I don’t have money right now and I will pay you later”. Reply with aggression “This is the last time I am coming out with you”. And start avoiding her. She’ll start chasing you
If she doesn’t have a boyfriend, then banter “Let’s find a boyfriend for you” Then point to a fat ugly man. lol. But if she has a boyfriend, pretend she doesn’t ;) You don’t have to know if she has a boyfriend
Don’t talk about sex. Talking kills and sets you in the friend-zone again. When you meet face to face, stare and ogle at her eyes and lips. You can say “Show me your teeth” and then hold her chin softly and try to pull her in. If she comes near, immediately go for a kiss. If she resists, tell her “I thought you were dead. I was giving you a mouth to mouth” :p

别把她放在特别的地位上，她只是另一个女孩而已。不要爱上她的美貌，对漂亮女孩要免疫。不要特别对待她，因为她会爱上一个不会特别对待她的男人
别客气，不要什么都去付钱。当餐厅账单到达时。告诉她“轮到你付了”。如果她说“我现在没钱，以后再付钱给你”。带着攻击性的回答：“这是我最后一次和你一起出来。”。开始回避她，她会开始追你的。
如果她没有男朋友，那么开玩笑说“让我为你找个男朋友”，然后指向一个又胖又丑的男人。哈哈，但是如果她有男朋友，就假装她没有，你不必知道她是否有男朋友。
不要谈论性。不然会让她对你失去兴趣，让你再次进入朋友区。当你们面对面时，盯着她的眼睛和嘴唇看。你可以说“让我看看你的牙齿”，然后轻轻地握住她的下巴，试着把她拉进。如果她走近，马上去吻她。如果她拒绝，告诉她“我以为你死了，我在给你做人工呼吸。

Attitude
You have an attitude of a confident guy. You reject her with confidence. You grab her with confidence. You go for a kiss with confidence. You say no firmly with confidence. You simply look a sexy and confident man when you do all of these with firm attitude and confidence. Because you know what you are doing. Girls fall for guys who know what they are doing
Keep trying mate. I am sure this will help. It has helped many. It will help you too.

态度
你有一种自信的态度，你自信让你拒绝她；你的自信地抓住她；你满怀信心地去接吻；你自信地说不。当你以坚定的态度和自信地做这些事情时，你看起来就是一个性感自信的男人。因为你知道你在做什么，女孩喜欢知道自己在做什么的男人。
继续努力，伙计。我相信这对你会有帮助。它帮助了许多人，这对你也有帮助。