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Wong Sr Chin, former Ex-Diplomat at Ex-PA to the Late Tan Sri Lim Goh Tong Then Chairman of Genting Group of Companies (199…
How can I get people to help me?
Dear Marko, thank you for your question.
There are numerous ways to ask for help.
However, there are also many attendant problems or difficulties.
You are your biggest obstacle because by nature you find it very uncomfortable to open your mouth to asking for help.
Your problems are so diversified that you don't know to whom you should ask or the people you ask might not be the right people for your problems.
You don't know to whom you should approach for help because even you yourself don't truly and fully understand your own problems.
When you ask for help, it would have to be at the other party's convenience, not yours.
You can attend motivational courses which require time and money that you may not be able to afford.
In view of the above , I think the best way to get help is through SELF-HELP.
When you seek help (except help in material form especially money), you are actually trying to tap on other's valuable experiences - this can be done conveniently, cheaply and effectively through reading the writings of self-actualised people.

我怎样才能得到别人的帮助？
亲爱的马尔科(Marko)，谢谢你的提问。
寻求帮助的方式有很多种。
然而，随之而来的问题或困难也有许多。
你是你最大的障碍，因为从本质上来说，你觉得开口寻求帮助让你很不舒服。
你的问题如此多样化，以至于你不知道该问谁，或者你问的人可能不是解决你问题的合适人选。
你不知道应该向谁寻求帮助，因为即使是你自己也没有真正充分地理解自己的问题。
当你在派对上不方便的时候，请别人帮忙。
你可以参加激励课程，这些课程需要时间和金钱，而你可能负担不起。
鉴于上述情况，我认为获得帮助的最佳方式是自助。
当你寻求帮助时（除了物质上的帮助，尤其是金钱上的帮助），你实际上是在试图利用他人的宝贵经验——这可以通过阅读自我实现的人的作品来方便、廉价和有效地实现。

Spend a big portion of your reading time to immerse yourself conscientiously and critically on self-help books that cover five fields that are important for your life. To start with, I suggest the following:
(1) ON MIND EMPOWERMENT: YOUR ERRONEOUS ZONE by Wayne Dyer and UNLIMITED POWER by Anthony Robbins.
(2) ON RELATIONSHIP: MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS and CHILDREN ARE FROM HEAVEN by John Gray.
(3) ON FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT: RICH DAD, POOR DAD by Robert Kiyosaki and THE RICHEST MAN IN BABYLON by George Clason.
(4) ON LOVING-KINDNESS: THE CHICKEN SOUP SERIES ON LOVE by Jack Canfield and A RETURN TO LOVE by Marianne Williamson.
(5) ON SALESMANSHIP: GREATEST SALESMAN IN THE WORLD and MAXIMUM ACHIEVEMENT: STRATEGIES AND SKILLS THAT WILL UNLOCK THE HIDDEN POWERS TO SUCCEED
I am quite certain that after digesting these books (I repeat, conscientiously and critically) you would be better equipped to handle most of the problems that you are facing now, though I am not privy to know what are they.
With best wishes, srchin, love.

花大量的阅读时间认真地、批判性地阅读自助类书籍，这些书籍涵盖了对你生活非常重要的五个领域。首先，我建议如下：
（1） 韦恩·戴尔的《心灵授权：你的错误地带》和安东尼·罗宾斯的《无限权力》。
（2） 男女关系：男人来自火星，女人来自金星，孩子来自天堂。
（3） 关于财务管理：罗伯特·清崎的《富爸爸》、《穷爸爸》和乔治·克拉森的《巴比伦首富》。
（4） 《论仁爱：杰克·坎菲尔德的爱情鸡汤系列》和玛丽安·威廉姆森的《爱的回归》。
（5） 《推销技巧：世界上最伟大的推销员》，《最大成就：开启隐藏力量的策略和技能》由。
我很确定，在消化了这些书之后（我重复一遍，认真而批判性地），你会更好地处理你现在面临的大多数问题，尽管我不知道它们是什么。
带着最美好的祝愿，斯钦（srchin），爱。

Emma Miller, Human Dr, Dog Foster specializing in terrified dogs X 20 yr
We lost our dog Of 13 years a month and 1/2 ago and now my brother, mom and I want a dog again but my dad doesn’t. I’ve been having a hard time in life and my therapist said it’s a good idea. I can pay for it myself. Should I get it on my own?
Have you ask your dad in a kind way why he doesn’t want another dog? Listen to what he says. Was he attached to the last dog? Parents need to think about the future. I’m not sure how old you are but you must be at least 13 years old. So, in 5 years you’ll leave for college or might move out. Your parents will be older and have to care financially and physically for the dog for another 5–10 years. Dogs are expensive to feed, get shots, and go to the vet when sick. He might think he doesn’t want another dog because he loved the last one and another will never be as good. It’s true, and you need to remember this, no dog will be the same. I have 15 dogs at our farm currently between my dogs and fosters. Every one of them is their own personality and soul. I love all of them. I recently lost a very special dog to me that was a rare Pyrenean Mastiff I had for 13 years. I relied on him to guard our farm and he slept in my room at night and provided security for me while sleeping. Maybe your dad is not done being sad for the death of your dog. In my experience, it usually takes a good 6 months to a year, before most people are ready for another dog. Men usually take longer than women. Don’t rush too much, or you may regret a choice you made without really thinking it through.
I hope you have a happy ending that the whole family is happy with.

一个月半以前，我们失去了13年的狗，现在我弟弟、妈妈和我想再养一只狗，但我爸爸不想要。我的生活一直很艰难，我的治疗师说这是个好主意。我可以自己付。我应该自己买吗？
你问过你爸爸为什么不想要另一只狗吗？听听他说什么。他和最后一条狗有关系吗？父母需要考虑未来。我不确定你多大了，但你必须至少13岁。所以，5年后你会去上大学，或者可能会搬走。你的父母年龄会更大，在接下来的5-10年里，他们必须在经济上和身体上照顾这条狗。养狗、打针、生病时去看兽医等方面花的钱都很多。他可能他爱最后一条狗而不想要另一条狗，因为另一条狗永远不会那么好。这是真的，你需要记住这一点，没有狗是一样的。我在农场养了15只狗，其中包括我的狗和寄养者。它们都有自己的个性和灵魂。我爱所有狗。我最近失去了一只非常特别的狗，那是我养了13年的一只罕见的比利牛斯獒犬。我依靠它来看守我们的农场，它晚上睡在我的房间里，睡觉时为我提供安全保障。也许你爸爸还在为你的狗的死伤心呢。根据我的经验，通常需要6个月到一年的时间，大多数人才准备好养另一只狗。
我希望你有一个全家都满意的幸福结局。

Rick Klugman, Recovering alcoholic and addict.
You never do. Once an addict, always an addict.
Speaking for myself, I was literally scared straight. The threat of imminent arrest and incarceration will do that to a fella.
I'm one of the lucky ones. I've been able to successfully manage my addiction for the last 28 years with the help of a caring wife, and many, many nameless, caring people along the way.
And I did it one day at a time.

你永远不会。曾经是瘾君子，就永远是瘾君子。
就我自己而言，我真的很害怕。即将被逮捕和监禁的威胁会让他变成这样。
我是其中一个幸运儿。在过去的28年里，在一位关爱我的妻子以及许许多多无名关爱我的人的帮助下，我成功地控制了我的毒瘾。
我每天都这样做。

Courtney Taylor
Well darlin that depends on what kind of help you are looking for. There are an endless amount of resources on the internet that you could find. And if you are really lucky you could possibly find some resources in your local area to help you as well. Google helps tremendously. And depending on what you need there are Hotlines for a lot of things that could help send you in the right direction. I wish you the best of luck if you have no family or friends close to you and hopefully this information helps. God bless ???? stay safe and well

亲爱的，这取决于你在寻求什么样的帮助。你可以在互联网上找到无穷无尽的资源。如果你真的很幸运，你也可以在当地找到一些资源来帮助你。谷歌非常有帮助。根据你的需要，有很多热线可以帮助你找到正确的方向。如果你身边没有家人或朋友，我祝你好运，希望这些信息对你有所帮助。上帝保佑，保持安全和健康。

Sandy Paonessa, Adopted by Rascal, the border collie.
Why would giving someone a dog not always a good idea?
It is not a good idea to give someone a dog for several reasons. Some people do not like dogs. Others do not have adequate resources, such as money, space, and time, to properly provide the care and attention dogs need.
Owning a dog is a major long term commitment which not everyone is prepared, willing, or able to undertake.

为什么送人一只狗并不总是一个好主意呢?
给别人养狗不是个好主意，原因有几个。有些人不喜欢狗。另一些则没有足够的资源，比如金钱、空间和时间，来适当地为狗狗提供所需的照顾和关注。
养狗是一项重要的长期承诺，不是每个人都准备好、愿意或能够承担的。

Valerie Jones, former Cat Officiado
Should I give my old dog away?
First question is why ? Surely he’s part of the family and if your dog means so little to you give him a chance to find a family that wants him if you relinquish your dog chances are that it is a death sentence the very very least you can do is to find someone who’s willing to do their best by your dog - love the dog , feed the dog and keep the dog safe and secure whatever you do do NOT get another young dog else he will be let down by you as well when he’s in his senior years ok I’ve read your bit please please try to find your dog a nice home or if you love your dog do your best for your dog until the end

我应该把我的老狗送人吗？
第一个问题是为什么？他当然是家里的一员，如果你的狗对你来说无足轻重，给它一个机会去找一个想要它的家庭，如果你放弃你的狗，那么很有可能这是一个死刑判决。你最起码能做的就是找到一个愿意对你的狗尽心照顾的人——爱你的狗，喂狗，让狗安全无虞，无论你做什么都不要再养一只小狗，否则它会被你辜负的，好吧，我读过你的那部分，请尝试为你的狗找一个好家，或者如果你爱你的狗，尽你最大的努力照顾你的狗直到老去。

Venkateswara Swamy Swarna, former Scientist, Metallurgist, Quality / NDT Manager at Department of Atomic Energy, India (1967-2008)

Venkateswara Swamy Swarna，印度原子能部门前科学家、冶金学家、质量/无损检测经理(1967-2008)
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When do older people need help?
When they are unable to do some things that they want to do or need to do but can’t do because of constraints of physical strength, health issues, mental issues (confusion for example) etc.
While I am in general good healthwise, I don’t feel like going out to banks and other financial institutions. I am able to do most of my work online but do need to go once or twice a month, but feel lazy or old. I wish some one would help me either freely or on a small payment.

老年人什么时候需要帮助?
当他们不能做一些他们想做或需要做的事情，但由于身体力量的限制，健康问题，心理问题(例如困惑)等而不能做的时候。
虽然我健康状况一直良好，但我不想去银行和其他金融机构。我可以在网上做我的大部分工作，但确实需要一个月去一两次，但感觉懒惰或老了。我希望有人能帮我，要么免费，要么少付钱。

Philip McKrackin, M.D. Medicine and Healthcare & Biochemistry Major (1978)

Philip McKrackin，医学博士，医学、保健和生物化学专业(1978)

I’m worried about my dog he’s very old and here recently he’s been dragging his back end like he can’t use his back legs I’m not sure what is wrong with him other than him being old I just don’t know what to do with him anymore?
I’m terribly sorry about your situation. There are a number of things that can cause this problem . This problem could be the results of a tumor pressing on the spinal cord, progressive demyelination of nerves, severe spinal stenosis and a host of other issues. If you can, I would consult with a veterinarian.

我很担心我的狗，它很老了，最近它拖着后腿，好像不能用后腿了，我不知道它除了老了还有什么问题？我只是不知道该拿它怎么办?
我对你的情况感到非常抱歉。有许多事情可以导致这个问题。这个问题可能是由于肿瘤压迫脊髓，神经的渐进性脱髓鞘，严重的椎管狭窄和一系列其他问题。如果可以，我会咨询兽医。

Lois Clements
My Grandmother lost her husband a few months ago and wants to get a dog to keep her company. She's low-mobility but very enthusiastic and attentive to pets. I can help her with training and care. What breed would you recommend?
A hound.
They tend to be low-key, lazy, and cuddle bugs in the house.
One would need a solid fenced yard to let them out as if they pick up an interesting scent, they’d follow their noses and be gone.
They also need to go on walks……might she be able to afford a daily dog walker?
I’ve six past dogs, and one current dog. Our current one is some sort of small mixed hound. He’s a quiet little guy who loves comfort. My past hound was a larger dog……a fox hound mix. She acted the same in the house as my current hound.

我祖母几个月前失去了丈夫，想养条狗陪她。她行动不便，但对宠物非常狂热和细心。我可以帮助她进行训练和护理。你推荐什么品种？
猎犬。
他们往往低调、懒惰，喜欢拥抱在家里的虫子。
人们需要一个坚固的篱笆院子以放它们出来，如果它们嗅到一种有趣的气味，它们就会跟着鼻子走。
他们还需要散步，她能负担得起每天遛狗的费用吗？
我以前养过六条狗，现在只有一条狗。我们现在的是一种小型杂交猎犬。他是个安静的小家伙，喜欢舒适。我以前的猎犬是一只更大的狗—一只猎狐犬的混血儿。她在家里的行为和我现在的猎犬一样。
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Rhonda Rain, former Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor at Independent Contractors (1996-2014)

Rhonda Rain，独立承包商的前执业专业临床顾问(1996-2014)
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How can I help the elderly?
Originally Answered: How do we help our elders?
With kindness, acknowledge them. Smile at them. Open doors for them. Ask if they need help. Manners and help make a better world for everyone. To paraphrase Maya Angelou, “Long after they may not remember the words you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.”

我怎样才能帮助老人?
最初的问题是:我们如何帮助长辈?
带着善意，承认他们。对他们微笑。为他们开门。询问他们是否需要帮助。礼貌和帮助为每个人创造一个更好的世界。套用玛雅·安杰洛(Maya Angelou)的话:“很久以后，他们可能不记得你说过的话，但他们会永远记得你给他们的感觉。”

Tree Kuberski, Worked with and trained dogs since 1978, cat owned longer.

e Kuberski，自1978年以来与狗一起工作和训练，猫养的时间更长。

How can I help my dog?
Before you do anything else, get him to the veterinarian so his wounds can be tended to and hopefully avoid an infection so you don’t compromise his health or if the possible infection is severe, possibly kill him. While you’re there get his neuter surgery scheduled. They probably won’t want to do that surgery until his wounds have healed. While you’re waiting for the surgery date to arrive, keep him in the house
If you prefer risking his life to having him neutered then you are not a responsible dog owner and please consider rehoming the dog so his needs can be attended to. Neuter surgery will stop hormone driven dog fights.

我怎样才能帮助我的狗？
在你做任何其他事情之前，把他带到兽医那里，这样他的伤口可以得到治疗，希望避免感染，这样你就不会损害他的健康，或者如果感染很严重，就可能杀死他。同时安排他的绝育手术。在他的伤口愈合之前，他们可能不想做那个手术。在你等待手术日期到来的时候，把它关在家里
如果你宁愿冒着生命危险也不愿意为他做绝育手术，那么你不是一个负责任的狗主人，请考虑重新安置这只狗，以便满足他的需求。绝育手术可以阻止因荷尔蒙而引起的狗狗争斗。