网友讨论：有一个日本妻子或女友的好处与坏处是什么?
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Paul Hackshaw Follow
PROs
Achieve every man's wet dream of having an Asian wife
They look after their figures and shape and rarely get fat
Loneliness is decreased or eradicated
They are usually not assertive or aggressive or trying to compete with men
They know how to act and stay feminine.
优点：实现每个男人拥有一个亚洲妻子的淫梦，
她们很注意自己的身材和形体，很少发胖。
你的孤独感会减少或消除，
她们通常不武断，不咄咄逼人，也不试图与男性竞争，
她们知道如何表现和保持女人味。
PROs
Achieve every man's wet dream of having an Asian wife
They look after their figures and shape and rarely get fat
Loneliness is decreased or eradicated
They are usually not assertive or aggressive or trying to compete with men
They know how to act and stay feminine.
优点：实现每个男人拥有一个亚洲妻子的淫梦，
她们很注意自己的身材和形体，很少发胖。
你的孤独感会减少或消除，
她们通常不武断，不咄咄逼人，也不试图与男性竞争，
她们知道如何表现和保持女人味。
CONs
Language barrier and communication. unless she is a fluent English speaker there may be gaps in communication, or she may not know how to express herself. Things go unsaid or you miss the cues. Likewise if you dont speak Japanese well she is forced to use a second language all the time.
Japanese people are not overtly religious or devout. Nominally they are Buddhist and Shinto but there are few signs of abiding faith or actually believing in anything.
Younger ones esp millenials often have no idea how to cook,maybe just how to heat things up in the microwave.
A majority of Japanese marriages are sexless. Expect things to cool down in the bedroom.
Many wives control the family budget and give their husband an allowance. This is a foreign and alien concept to Western men.
缺点：语言障碍让你们难以沟通。除非她的英语说得很流利，否则在沟通上可能会有问题，或者她可能不知道如何表达自己的想法。问题没有被她说出口，或者你错过了线索。同样，如果你日语说得不好，她就不得不一直使用第二语言与你交流。
日本人不是很虔诚。名义上他们是佛教徒和神道教信徒，但他们很少有持久信仰的迹象，或者实际上相信任何事情。
年轻一代尤其是千禧一代通常不知道如何烹饪，可能只知道如何用微波炉加热食物。
大多数日本婚姻都是无性婚姻。期待卧室里的事情会让你失望。
许多日本妻子控制着家庭的预算，给丈夫零花钱。这对西方男人来说是一个陌生的概念。
Language barrier and communication. unless she is a fluent English speaker there may be gaps in communication, or she may not know how to express herself. Things go unsaid or you miss the cues. Likewise if you dont speak Japanese well she is forced to use a second language all the time.
Japanese people are not overtly religious or devout. Nominally they are Buddhist and Shinto but there are few signs of abiding faith or actually believing in anything.
Younger ones esp millenials often have no idea how to cook,maybe just how to heat things up in the microwave.
A majority of Japanese marriages are sexless. Expect things to cool down in the bedroom.
Many wives control the family budget and give their husband an allowance. This is a foreign and alien concept to Western men.
缺点：语言障碍让你们难以沟通。除非她的英语说得很流利，否则在沟通上可能会有问题，或者她可能不知道如何表达自己的想法。问题没有被她说出口，或者你错过了线索。同样，如果你日语说得不好，她就不得不一直使用第二语言与你交流。
日本人不是很虔诚。名义上他们是佛教徒和神道教信徒，但他们很少有持久信仰的迹象，或者实际上相信任何事情。
年轻一代尤其是千禧一代通常不知道如何烹饪，可能只知道如何用微波炉加热食物。
大多数日本婚姻都是无性婚姻。期待卧室里的事情会让你失望。
许多日本妻子控制着家庭的预算，给丈夫零花钱。这对西方男人来说是一个陌生的概念。
Children will sleep in the marital bed from birth onwards up until elementary school. Leaving a baby alone in a cot in another room is not done here.
If you have kids there is 99% chance she will quit work and not return to full employment. Be prepared to support a non-working or part time working wife and kids.
Some women, I have read, are bat shit crazy. Mental illness is often not treated here, so you might get someone who is depressed, paranoid, OCD, physically or emotionally abusive.
many dont travel well and have a hard time if living overseas for long periods, and will want to return to Japan or live there long term.
孩子们从出生到上小学都睡在夫妻床上。把婴儿单独留在另一个房间的婴儿床上是不妥当的。
如果你有孩子，她有99%的可能会辞职，并且之后不会恢复完全的就业。准备好养活一个不工作或兼职工作的妻子和你们的孩子。
有些女人，我读到过，非常疯狂。这里通常不治疗精神疾病，所以你可能会遇到抑郁、偏执、强迫症、身体或情感上施虐的人。
许多日本人不喜欢旅行，如果在海外生活很长一段时间，他们会想要回到日本或长期生活在那里。
If you have kids there is 99% chance she will quit work and not return to full employment. Be prepared to support a non-working or part time working wife and kids.
Some women, I have read, are bat shit crazy. Mental illness is often not treated here, so you might get someone who is depressed, paranoid, OCD, physically or emotionally abusive.
many dont travel well and have a hard time if living overseas for long periods, and will want to return to Japan or live there long term.
孩子们从出生到上小学都睡在夫妻床上。把婴儿单独留在另一个房间的婴儿床上是不妥当的。
如果你有孩子，她有99%的可能会辞职，并且之后不会恢复完全的就业。准备好养活一个不工作或兼职工作的妻子和你们的孩子。
有些女人，我读到过，非常疯狂。这里通常不治疗精神疾病，所以你可能会遇到抑郁、偏执、强迫症、身体或情感上施虐的人。
许多日本人不喜欢旅行，如果在海外生活很长一段时间，他们会想要回到日本或长期生活在那里。
George Sawyer Follow
What are the pros and cons of having a Japanese wife or girlfriend? Unless one of you is truly fluent in the other’s language, you will have communication problems forever.
Broad cultural generalizations:
1.Many people think Japanese women are submissive. Outwardly, they may be. They are as soft as silk, but the silk is wrapped around steel. Yin can overcome yang, and likely they will rule you. They will do it so gradually, and so gracefully you likely won’t notice for a long time.
2.FYI, in Japanese marriages, usually the women control all the money, all the spending, they give the husband his allowance.
3.Often a Japanese woman will choose a foreign husband as a way to leave Japan. Often a foreign man will choose a Japanese wife as a way to stay in Japan.
4.If you are married and living outside Japan, when your first child is born, one day your wife will be holding your child and will realize that unless your family lives in Japan your child will never be able to speak to their Japanese grandparents in Japanese. This often triggers a family move back to Japan.
有一个日本妻子或女友的利与弊是什么? 除非你们中的一个真的能流利地使用另一个人的语言，否则你们将永远有沟通问题。
广泛的文化概括:
1.许多人认为日本女性很顺从。表面上看，可能是这样。她们像丝绸一样柔软，但丝绸包裹着钢铁。阴可以战胜阳，她们可能会统治你。她们会慢慢地做，很优雅地做，你可能很长时间都不会注意到。
2.供你参考，在日本的婚姻中，通常女性控制着所有的钱，所有的开销，她们给丈夫零用钱。
3.通常，一个日本女人会选择一个外国丈夫作为离开日本的方式。外国男人通常会选择日本妻子作为留在日本的一种方式。
4.如果你结婚了，并生活在日本以外，当你的第一个孩子出生时，有一天你的妻子会抱着你的孩子，并意识到除非你的家人生活在日本，否则你的孩子将永远不能用日语和他们的日本祖父母说话。这通常会促使一个家庭搬回日本。
What are the pros and cons of having a Japanese wife or girlfriend? Unless one of you is truly fluent in the other’s language, you will have communication problems forever.
Broad cultural generalizations:
1.Many people think Japanese women are submissive. Outwardly, they may be. They are as soft as silk, but the silk is wrapped around steel. Yin can overcome yang, and likely they will rule you. They will do it so gradually, and so gracefully you likely won’t notice for a long time.
2.FYI, in Japanese marriages, usually the women control all the money, all the spending, they give the husband his allowance.
3.Often a Japanese woman will choose a foreign husband as a way to leave Japan. Often a foreign man will choose a Japanese wife as a way to stay in Japan.
4.If you are married and living outside Japan, when your first child is born, one day your wife will be holding your child and will realize that unless your family lives in Japan your child will never be able to speak to their Japanese grandparents in Japanese. This often triggers a family move back to Japan.
有一个日本妻子或女友的利与弊是什么? 除非你们中的一个真的能流利地使用另一个人的语言，否则你们将永远有沟通问题。
广泛的文化概括:
1.许多人认为日本女性很顺从。表面上看，可能是这样。她们像丝绸一样柔软，但丝绸包裹着钢铁。阴可以战胜阳，她们可能会统治你。她们会慢慢地做，很优雅地做，你可能很长时间都不会注意到。
2.供你参考，在日本的婚姻中，通常女性控制着所有的钱，所有的开销，她们给丈夫零用钱。
3.通常，一个日本女人会选择一个外国丈夫作为离开日本的方式。外国男人通常会选择日本妻子作为留在日本的一种方式。
4.如果你结婚了，并生活在日本以外，当你的第一个孩子出生时，有一天你的妻子会抱着你的孩子，并意识到除非你的家人生活在日本，否则你的孩子将永远不能用日语和他们的日本祖父母说话。这通常会促使一个家庭搬回日本。
JE Cook Follow
In a general sense, YMMV, Japanese girlfriends are wonderful for men who like attention, sexual fulfillment, planner, and fun. They are bad for men who are looking for a relationship equal, intellectually challenging partner, or a potential wife that remains the same as the ‘wonderful’ list. Pros of a Japanese wife are: household management, child care (if you have children with them), and they will let you have all the hobbies you want. Cons: They will want to return to Japan once they have children, you will become an income source for the household even more so with children in the house, you may feel betrayed by the significant behavioral change from girlfriend to wife, her family matters only and yours is tolerated / avoided, if you have children she views them as her exclusive property, not your children together and will likely slowly alienate them from you over time. Child abduction in Japan, or to Japan, is not an enforced crime. If / when she takes the children to Japan, they are gone forever and you will be erased from their lives.
一般来说，你的期望可能和现实不符，日本女友对于喜欢受到关注、性满足、有规划和乐趣的男人来说非常棒。对于那些想要找一个平等的、智力上对等的伴侣，或者想要一个与“完美”女友相同的潜在妻子的男人来说，她们是不好的。日本妻子的优点是: 料理家务，照顾孩子(如果你和她们有孩子的话)，她们会让你拥有所有你想要的爱好。缺点: 一旦她们有了孩子，她们就会想要回到日本，你会成为家庭的收入来源，有了孩子以后更是如此，你可能会因为从女朋友到妻子的行为变化而感到背叛，她的家庭更重要，你的家庭是可以被容忍/忽视的，如果你有孩子，她会把他们视为她的专属财产，而不是你的孩子，随着时间的推移，可能会慢慢疏远他们。在日本，或者到日本诱拐儿童，不算实施犯罪。如果她带孩子们去日本，他们就永远消失了，你也会从他们的生活中被抹去。
In a general sense, YMMV, Japanese girlfriends are wonderful for men who like attention, sexual fulfillment, planner, and fun. They are bad for men who are looking for a relationship equal, intellectually challenging partner, or a potential wife that remains the same as the ‘wonderful’ list. Pros of a Japanese wife are: household management, child care (if you have children with them), and they will let you have all the hobbies you want. Cons: They will want to return to Japan once they have children, you will become an income source for the household even more so with children in the house, you may feel betrayed by the significant behavioral change from girlfriend to wife, her family matters only and yours is tolerated / avoided, if you have children she views them as her exclusive property, not your children together and will likely slowly alienate them from you over time. Child abduction in Japan, or to Japan, is not an enforced crime. If / when she takes the children to Japan, they are gone forever and you will be erased from their lives.
一般来说，你的期望可能和现实不符，日本女友对于喜欢受到关注、性满足、有规划和乐趣的男人来说非常棒。对于那些想要找一个平等的、智力上对等的伴侣，或者想要一个与“完美”女友相同的潜在妻子的男人来说，她们是不好的。日本妻子的优点是: 料理家务，照顾孩子(如果你和她们有孩子的话)，她们会让你拥有所有你想要的爱好。缺点: 一旦她们有了孩子，她们就会想要回到日本，你会成为家庭的收入来源，有了孩子以后更是如此，你可能会因为从女朋友到妻子的行为变化而感到背叛，她的家庭更重要，你的家庭是可以被容忍/忽视的，如果你有孩子，她会把他们视为她的专属财产，而不是你的孩子，随着时间的推移，可能会慢慢疏远他们。在日本，或者到日本诱拐儿童，不算实施犯罪。如果她带孩子们去日本，他们就永远消失了，你也会从他们的生活中被抹去。
The cultural training of woman in Japan has them fall in 3–4 roles that are mutually exclusive to the others. Girlfriend: carefree, intellectually inferior (not dumb, just subordinate) sexually active, beauty focused. Wife: serious, controlling, sexually restrained, trying to become ’mother’. Mother: matriarch and practical head of household, child enmeshed, sexually frigid, distant from husband. Old woman: child focused, vacation minded, trying to become grandma, waiting for grandpa to pass away to start ‘living’.
These are simple generalizations and miss the nuances that are part of any relationship. it is important to note that Japanese women tend to view marriage as a partnership or joint venture, not ‘love’ as many in the west do. ‘Love’ dies after children. You may love her immensely, but she won’t ‘love’ you back in any way you recognize from before.
在日本，对女性的文化培训让她们扮演着3-4个相互排斥的角色。女友: 无忧无虑，智力低下(不是愚蠢，只是很顺从)，性活跃，注重美貌。妻子: 认真、有控制欲、性克制，试图成为“母亲”。母亲: 女家长和实际的一家之主，孩子纠缠不清，性冷淡，与丈夫疏远。老妇人: 专注孩子，享受退休生活，努力成为奶奶，等待爷爷去世开始“新生活”。
这些都是简单的概括，忽略了任何关系中都存在的细微差别。值得注意的是，日本女性倾向于将婚姻视为伙伴关系或合资企业，而不是像许多西方女性那样认为的“爱情”。有了孩子，“爱”就消失了。你可能会非常爱她，但她不会以你以前认识到的任何方式来“爱”你。
These are simple generalizations and miss the nuances that are part of any relationship. it is important to note that Japanese women tend to view marriage as a partnership or joint venture, not ‘love’ as many in the west do. ‘Love’ dies after children. You may love her immensely, but she won’t ‘love’ you back in any way you recognize from before.
在日本，对女性的文化培训让她们扮演着3-4个相互排斥的角色。女友: 无忧无虑，智力低下(不是愚蠢，只是很顺从)，性活跃，注重美貌。妻子: 认真、有控制欲、性克制，试图成为“母亲”。母亲: 女家长和实际的一家之主，孩子纠缠不清，性冷淡，与丈夫疏远。老妇人: 专注孩子，享受退休生活，努力成为奶奶，等待爷爷去世开始“新生活”。
这些都是简单的概括，忽略了任何关系中都存在的细微差别。值得注意的是，日本女性倾向于将婚姻视为伙伴关系或合资企业，而不是像许多西方女性那样认为的“爱情”。有了孩子，“爱”就消失了。你可能会非常爱她，但她不会以你以前认识到的任何方式来“爱”你。
Brian Burnside Follow
It is no picnic. I've been married to my wife for almost 25 years. I love her to death.
It doesn't matter if your wife is Japanese or American or European or whatever. They are first and foremost woman. They have wants and needs. Second, you married them because you loved them.
Japanese women can and do cheat like women from any other country. Actively love them and they will treat you well.
Don't seek a japanese wife unless you know the language and the culture. I had lived in Japan for a number of years and spoke Japanese. That said, I never dated a japanese woman in Japan. I met my wife in college through a blind date.
We eventually got married and had 4 wonderful kids together.
The challenges are that she will want to return to Japan from time to time. This costs a lot of money. Be prepared financially for this so it doesn’t affect your relationship.
这不是一件轻松的事。我和我妻子结婚快25年了。我爱死她了。
不管你的妻子是日本人、美国人、欧洲人还是其他什么人。她们首先是女性，她们有欲望和需求。第二，你和她们结婚是因为你爱她们。
日本女人可以像其他国家的女人一样出轨。积极地爱她们，她们就会对你好。
除非你懂日语和日本文化，否则不要找日本妻子。我在日本住了几年，会说日语。也就是说，我在日本从没和日本女人约会过。我是在大学里通过相亲认识我妻子的。
我们最终结婚了，有了4个很棒的孩子。
问题是，她会时不时地想回到日本。这要花很多钱。在经济上做好准备，这样就不会影响你们的关系。
It is no picnic. I've been married to my wife for almost 25 years. I love her to death.
It doesn't matter if your wife is Japanese or American or European or whatever. They are first and foremost woman. They have wants and needs. Second, you married them because you loved them.
Japanese women can and do cheat like women from any other country. Actively love them and they will treat you well.
Don't seek a japanese wife unless you know the language and the culture. I had lived in Japan for a number of years and spoke Japanese. That said, I never dated a japanese woman in Japan. I met my wife in college through a blind date.
We eventually got married and had 4 wonderful kids together.
The challenges are that she will want to return to Japan from time to time. This costs a lot of money. Be prepared financially for this so it doesn’t affect your relationship.
这不是一件轻松的事。我和我妻子结婚快25年了。我爱死她了。
不管你的妻子是日本人、美国人、欧洲人还是其他什么人。她们首先是女性，她们有欲望和需求。第二，你和她们结婚是因为你爱她们。
日本女人可以像其他国家的女人一样出轨。积极地爱她们，她们就会对你好。
除非你懂日语和日本文化，否则不要找日本妻子。我在日本住了几年，会说日语。也就是说，我在日本从没和日本女人约会过。我是在大学里通过相亲认识我妻子的。
我们最终结婚了，有了4个很棒的孩子。
问题是，她会时不时地想回到日本。这要花很多钱。在经济上做好准备，这样就不会影响你们的关系。
They generally have a different view on religion. If she cooks, she is going to do a lot of Japanese dishes. Great if you like Japanese cuisine, not so great if you don’t.
Then kids will have dual citizenship and you will need to get both Japanese and American passports.. not cheap.
If you don’t speak Japanese, you won’t be able to eavesdrop on her conversations. couples that speak each others language always eavesdrop. I speak Japanese, so it is no issue. Her friends will be Japanese as well. And they will speak in Japanese. If you don’t speak Japanese, then you won’t be part of the conversation. And you complaining about it is just selfish on your part. She put the effort in to learn English, you should have no complaints if you are too lazy to learn Japanese.
Then there are the creature comforts she will want from Japan. Clothing, Kotatsu, Food, Futon, Manga, etc. Not cheap in the U.S..
I don’t mind the expense at all. I love my wife and like to treat her to nice things.
她们通常对宗教有不同的看法。如果她做饭，她会做很多日本菜。如果你喜欢日本料理，那很好，如果你不喜欢，那就不太好了。
然后孩子就会有双重国籍，你需要同时持有日本和美国护照。这并不便宜。
如果你不会说日语，你就不可能偷听她的谈话。说对方语言的夫妻总是会偷听。我说日语，所以没有问题。她的朋友也会是日本人。他们会说日语。如果你不会说日语，那么你就不会参与对话。而你对此的抱怨只能展示你自私的一面。她是努力学英语的，你要是懒得学日语就没有什么可抱怨的。
此外，她还希望从日本获得物质上的舒适。服装、小酌、食品、蒲团、漫画等。在美国这些并不便宜。
我一点也不在乎费用。我爱我的妻子，我也喜欢给她好东西。
Then kids will have dual citizenship and you will need to get both Japanese and American passports.. not cheap.
If you don’t speak Japanese, you won’t be able to eavesdrop on her conversations. couples that speak each others language always eavesdrop. I speak Japanese, so it is no issue. Her friends will be Japanese as well. And they will speak in Japanese. If you don’t speak Japanese, then you won’t be part of the conversation. And you complaining about it is just selfish on your part. She put the effort in to learn English, you should have no complaints if you are too lazy to learn Japanese.
Then there are the creature comforts she will want from Japan. Clothing, Kotatsu, Food, Futon, Manga, etc. Not cheap in the U.S..
I don’t mind the expense at all. I love my wife and like to treat her to nice things.
她们通常对宗教有不同的看法。如果她做饭，她会做很多日本菜。如果你喜欢日本料理，那很好，如果你不喜欢，那就不太好了。
然后孩子就会有双重国籍，你需要同时持有日本和美国护照。这并不便宜。
如果你不会说日语，你就不可能偷听她的谈话。说对方语言的夫妻总是会偷听。我说日语，所以没有问题。她的朋友也会是日本人。他们会说日语。如果你不会说日语，那么你就不会参与对话。而你对此的抱怨只能展示你自私的一面。她是努力学英语的，你要是懒得学日语就没有什么可抱怨的。
此外，她还希望从日本获得物质上的舒适。服装、小酌、食品、蒲团、漫画等。在美国这些并不便宜。
我一点也不在乎费用。我爱我的妻子，我也喜欢给她好东西。
I live for her hugs and kisses. I am 6′ and she is like 4′9″. A serious height difference, but she is awesome. That means she puts a lot of things down low and I can’t find them a lot of the time…
And then there are the visa issues. Getting the green card and what not.
Most American-Japanese marriages end in divorce. I don’t recommend dating outside your culture unless you are willing to put in the effort to learn it.
我为她的拥抱和亲吻而活。我6英尺，她4英尺9英寸。我们的身高差距很大，但她很厉害。这意味着她把很多事情低调处理，而我很多时候都找不到解决方法。
此外还有签证问题，以及拿到绿卡之类的问题。
大多数美日婚姻以离婚告终。我不建议你和自己文化圈之外的人约会，除非你愿意付出努力去学习。
And then there are the visa issues. Getting the green card and what not.
Most American-Japanese marriages end in divorce. I don’t recommend dating outside your culture unless you are willing to put in the effort to learn it.
我为她的拥抱和亲吻而活。我6英尺，她4英尺9英寸。我们的身高差距很大，但她很厉害。这意味着她把很多事情低调处理，而我很多时候都找不到解决方法。
此外还有签证问题，以及拿到绿卡之类的问题。
大多数美日婚姻以离婚告终。我不建议你和自己文化圈之外的人约会，除非你愿意付出努力去学习。
Lunarbeast Follow
She keep telling me that she want a big house, takes all my money, and won‘t let me work, She text me with rage and start fights with me while I’m working and after I come home.
I can’t drink milk, or go to bathroom for over 15 minutes. I can’t leave any hair on the floor or any water drops on the mirror. Or she will be mad like crazy.
She took all my money I don’t even have money to buy shoes. She is mad 24/7, she stop sleeping on the same bed with me after a week of our marriage.
She took her mom here with her, both yelling at me to force me to sign the divorce paper.
I’m a simple man, just want a simple life and a simple family that I can work hard for.
她一直跟我说她想要一个大房子，拿走我所有的钱，不让我工作。她生气地给我发短信，在我工作的时候和我回家后和我吵架。
我不能喝牛奶，也不能上厕所超过15分钟。我不能在地板上留下头发，也不能在镜子上留下水珠。否则她会疯掉的。
她拿走了我所有的钱，我连买鞋的钱都没有。她一天到晚都在生气，结婚一周就不和我睡一张床了。
她把她妈妈也带过来了，俩人都吼我逼我签离婚协议。
我是一个简单的人，只想要简单的生活，简单的家庭，我可以为之努力。
She keep telling me that she want a big house, takes all my money, and won‘t let me work, She text me with rage and start fights with me while I’m working and after I come home.
I can’t drink milk, or go to bathroom for over 15 minutes. I can’t leave any hair on the floor or any water drops on the mirror. Or she will be mad like crazy.
She took all my money I don’t even have money to buy shoes. She is mad 24/7, she stop sleeping on the same bed with me after a week of our marriage.
She took her mom here with her, both yelling at me to force me to sign the divorce paper.
I’m a simple man, just want a simple life and a simple family that I can work hard for.
她一直跟我说她想要一个大房子，拿走我所有的钱，不让我工作。她生气地给我发短信，在我工作的时候和我回家后和我吵架。
我不能喝牛奶，也不能上厕所超过15分钟。我不能在地板上留下头发，也不能在镜子上留下水珠。否则她会疯掉的。
她拿走了我所有的钱，我连买鞋的钱都没有。她一天到晚都在生气，结婚一周就不和我睡一张床了。
她把她妈妈也带过来了，俩人都吼我逼我签离婚协议。
我是一个简单的人，只想要简单的生活，简单的家庭，我可以为之努力。
Hamilton Armstrong Follow
And Like anything, it depends on the individuals. The stereotype you mention assumes some man thrilled that a homebody wife waits on him hand and foot. That would be hell for me but I wouldn’t have ever sought such a situation in the first place.
My wife is Japanese. I am not. We have been married for 26 years and are very happy. We are perfect for each other and have a deep and trusting and romantic relationship. We both speak each other’s languages fluently so our communication is extra deep and nuanced. She is nothing subservient or “housewife-y”. Our daughters are both in university and live abroad attending school. My wife and I both have very busy jobs that require a lot of foreign travel. So, no one is ever around to wait on anyone else. The roles are not “traditional” at all. Whoever is home cleans and shops and takes care of things. But when we are together with Quality Time it is Wonderful and we laugh and chat a lot and share our ideas and enjoy doing various things together. We have the kind of independent/connected lives that we want and it works very well for us.
When I get together with foreign men—-friends or acquaintances—who want to bitch and complain about “Japanese women” or how Japanese wives “change” for the worse after marriage/children, I always shut that talk down: “that may be your experience but I can’t support that generalization because my experience is nothing like that.”
和其他事情一样，这取决于个人。你提到的刻板印象认为，一些男人会因为一个居家妻子对他的照顾而感到兴奋。那对我来说就像地狱一样，但我从一开始就不会去寻求这种情况。
我妻子是日本人，我不是。我们结婚26年了，我们的婚姻非常幸福。我们是彼此的完美伴侣，有着深厚的信任和浪漫的关系。我们都能流利地说对方的语言，所以我们的交流格外深入细致。她一点也不卑躬屈膝，也不像个家庭主妇。我们的女儿都在上大学，在国外上学。我妻子和我的工作都很忙，需要经常出国旅行。所以，没有人会去服侍别人。这些角色一点也不“传统”。在家的人负责打扫、购物和打理家务。但当我们在一起的质量时间是美妙的，我们在一起愉快聊天的时间有很多，会分享我们的想法，享受在一起做各种各样的事情。我们拥有我们想要的独立/联系的生活，这对我们非常有利。
当我和外国男人—朋友或熟人—在一起时，他们想要抱怨“日本女人”或日本妻子在结婚/生了孩子后如何“变”得更糟，我总是阻止他们说:“这可能是你的经验，但我不能支持这种一概而论，因为我的经验与之完全不同。”
And Like anything, it depends on the individuals. The stereotype you mention assumes some man thrilled that a homebody wife waits on him hand and foot. That would be hell for me but I wouldn’t have ever sought such a situation in the first place.
My wife is Japanese. I am not. We have been married for 26 years and are very happy. We are perfect for each other and have a deep and trusting and romantic relationship. We both speak each other’s languages fluently so our communication is extra deep and nuanced. She is nothing subservient or “housewife-y”. Our daughters are both in university and live abroad attending school. My wife and I both have very busy jobs that require a lot of foreign travel. So, no one is ever around to wait on anyone else. The roles are not “traditional” at all. Whoever is home cleans and shops and takes care of things. But when we are together with Quality Time it is Wonderful and we laugh and chat a lot and share our ideas and enjoy doing various things together. We have the kind of independent/connected lives that we want and it works very well for us.
When I get together with foreign men—-friends or acquaintances—who want to bitch and complain about “Japanese women” or how Japanese wives “change” for the worse after marriage/children, I always shut that talk down: “that may be your experience but I can’t support that generalization because my experience is nothing like that.”
和其他事情一样，这取决于个人。你提到的刻板印象认为，一些男人会因为一个居家妻子对他的照顾而感到兴奋。那对我来说就像地狱一样，但我从一开始就不会去寻求这种情况。
我妻子是日本人，我不是。我们结婚26年了，我们的婚姻非常幸福。我们是彼此的完美伴侣，有着深厚的信任和浪漫的关系。我们都能流利地说对方的语言，所以我们的交流格外深入细致。她一点也不卑躬屈膝，也不像个家庭主妇。我们的女儿都在上大学，在国外上学。我妻子和我的工作都很忙，需要经常出国旅行。所以，没有人会去服侍别人。这些角色一点也不“传统”。在家的人负责打扫、购物和打理家务。但当我们在一起的质量时间是美妙的，我们在一起愉快聊天的时间有很多，会分享我们的想法，享受在一起做各种各样的事情。我们拥有我们想要的独立/联系的生活，这对我们非常有利。
当我和外国男人—朋友或熟人—在一起时，他们想要抱怨“日本女人”或日本妻子在结婚/生了孩子后如何“变”得更糟，我总是阻止他们说:“这可能是你的经验，但我不能支持这种一概而论，因为我的经验与之完全不同。”
Truthfully, my feeling is usually that these guys who have bad experiences with Japanese women/wives are more than half the problem because they were Bad Partner Pickers . . .
For those who want to say, “oh well your wife is atypical and ‘un-Japanese’ because of her travel and language fluencies”, I say that she is a born-and-bred strong Yokohama women with a profession, like her sister and many of her friends. These that I know have good careers and active lives and nice families and balanced relationships with their strong husbands. I also know some Japanese women/wives who are nuts or strange and would drive any partner crazy. I also know some Japanese women who are from very traditional and conservative families who would probably be seeking a situation of very traditional gender-based roles. Some foreign men come to Japan with some narrow notions and get all involved with the wrong women and the wrong families and the wrong expectations . . .
So, the stereotype . . . I dunno. It may be some old way of thinking . . . I don’t think a Japanese wife is any better or worse than any other. It really depends on the individuals involved.
说实话，我的感觉通常是，这些和日本女人/妻子有过糟糕经历的男人是问题的一半以上，因为他们是糟糕的伴侣选择…
对于那些想说，“哦，你的妻子不具备普适性，因为她的旅行经历和语言流利，是一个“非日本”的人，我说，她是一个土生土长的强大的横滨职业女性，就像她的姐姐和她的许多朋友一样。据我所知，她们都有良好的事业，积极的生活，美满的家庭，与坚强的丈夫保持着平衡的关系。我也知道一些日本女人/妻子是疯子或奇怪的，会让任何伴侣发疯。我也认识一些来自非常传统和保守家庭的日本女性，她们可能会寻求一种非常传统的基于性别的角色。一些外国男人带着狭隘的观念来到日本，和错误的女人、错误的家庭和错误的期望纠缠在一起……
所以，刻板印象…我不晓得。这可能是某种陈旧的思维方式……我不认为日本妻子比其他妻子更好或更差。这真的取决于相关的个人。
For those who want to say, “oh well your wife is atypical and ‘un-Japanese’ because of her travel and language fluencies”, I say that she is a born-and-bred strong Yokohama women with a profession, like her sister and many of her friends. These that I know have good careers and active lives and nice families and balanced relationships with their strong husbands. I also know some Japanese women/wives who are nuts or strange and would drive any partner crazy. I also know some Japanese women who are from very traditional and conservative families who would probably be seeking a situation of very traditional gender-based roles. Some foreign men come to Japan with some narrow notions and get all involved with the wrong women and the wrong families and the wrong expectations . . .
So, the stereotype . . . I dunno. It may be some old way of thinking . . . I don’t think a Japanese wife is any better or worse than any other. It really depends on the individuals involved.
说实话，我的感觉通常是，这些和日本女人/妻子有过糟糕经历的男人是问题的一半以上，因为他们是糟糕的伴侣选择…
对于那些想说，“哦，你的妻子不具备普适性，因为她的旅行经历和语言流利，是一个“非日本”的人，我说，她是一个土生土长的强大的横滨职业女性，就像她的姐姐和她的许多朋友一样。据我所知，她们都有良好的事业，积极的生活，美满的家庭，与坚强的丈夫保持着平衡的关系。我也知道一些日本女人/妻子是疯子或奇怪的，会让任何伴侣发疯。我也认识一些来自非常传统和保守家庭的日本女性，她们可能会寻求一种非常传统的基于性别的角色。一些外国男人带着狭隘的观念来到日本，和错误的女人、错误的家庭和错误的期望纠缠在一起……
所以，刻板印象…我不晓得。这可能是某种陈旧的思维方式……我不认为日本妻子比其他妻子更好或更差。这真的取决于相关的个人。
Paul Hackshaw Follow
I wouldn’t say its any more risky than marrying a woman from your own culture but you need to go in with your eyes open. I know at least 4 guys excluding myself now in the process of unhitching from their wives. Some of it may be cultural, some may just be personality differences. One can not say all Japanese women are the same, any more than all American men between 20–30 are and act the same. ESID.
Some of the risks (speaking as someone married to one for 16 years)
Where to live. Many Japanese women don’t travel well and at some point you will be pressured into moving to Japan because she misses her friends, Japanese food and her aging parents. It takes a special breed of lady who wants to immigrate permanently to the US and UK and survive.
Once you have kids expect your sex life to decrease dramatically or fizzle out altogether. Recent surveys show that 40% of Japanese marriages are sexless which means seeing bedroom activity once a month or less. lack of privacy, too tired from work to want to geit iton, orjust plain old lose interest.
我不会说这比娶一个来自你自己文化圈的女人更冒险，但你需要睁大眼睛去做。除了我，我知道至少有4个男人正在和他们的妻子离婚。有些可能是文化差异，有些可能只是性格差异。我们不能说所有的日本女性都一样，就像所有20-30岁的美国男性一样都是各有不同的。
一些风险(作为一个结婚16年的人来说)
在哪里生活是个问题。许多日本女性不喜欢旅行，在某些时候你会被迫搬到日本，因为她想念她的朋友、日本食物和她年迈的父母。这需要一个特殊品种的女士想要永久移民到美国和英国，并能在这里生存。
一旦你有了孩子，你的性生活就会急剧减少，甚至完全消失。最近的调查显示，40%的日本婚姻是无性的，这意味着一个月只有一次或更少的性生活。缺乏隐私，工作太累不想工作，或者只是失去了兴趣。
I wouldn’t say its any more risky than marrying a woman from your own culture but you need to go in with your eyes open. I know at least 4 guys excluding myself now in the process of unhitching from their wives. Some of it may be cultural, some may just be personality differences. One can not say all Japanese women are the same, any more than all American men between 20–30 are and act the same. ESID.
Some of the risks (speaking as someone married to one for 16 years)
Where to live. Many Japanese women don’t travel well and at some point you will be pressured into moving to Japan because she misses her friends, Japanese food and her aging parents. It takes a special breed of lady who wants to immigrate permanently to the US and UK and survive.
Once you have kids expect your sex life to decrease dramatically or fizzle out altogether. Recent surveys show that 40% of Japanese marriages are sexless which means seeing bedroom activity once a month or less. lack of privacy, too tired from work to want to geit iton, orjust plain old lose interest.
我不会说这比娶一个来自你自己文化圈的女人更冒险，但你需要睁大眼睛去做。除了我，我知道至少有4个男人正在和他们的妻子离婚。有些可能是文化差异，有些可能只是性格差异。我们不能说所有的日本女性都一样，就像所有20-30岁的美国男性一样都是各有不同的。
一些风险(作为一个结婚16年的人来说)
在哪里生活是个问题。许多日本女性不喜欢旅行，在某些时候你会被迫搬到日本，因为她想念她的朋友、日本食物和她年迈的父母。这需要一个特殊品种的女士想要永久移民到美国和英国，并能在这里生存。
一旦你有了孩子，你的性生活就会急剧减少，甚至完全消失。最近的调查显示，40%的日本婚姻是无性的，这意味着一个月只有一次或更少的性生活。缺乏隐私，工作太累不想工作，或者只是失去了兴趣。
Many women become monster moms or tiger moms and marriage to hubby takes back seat to raising kids. You just become a glorified ATM machine to support kids, schooling, or maintaining her current lifestyle.
If you have kids in Japan, unless you can afford international schools, chances are they will go to Japanese schools and be raised as Japanese kids. My son didn’t speak English until 3rd grade and it was only after a long spell living overseas did he open up to speaking English. If you don’t speak Japanese it will mean not communicating with your kids, unless you make serious efforts to make them bilingual which takes time and money.
Dealing with in-laws. A crapshoot. If you get on with them, great. I know one guy whose in-laws treat him and their grandson better than their own daughter. I had the MIL from hell, and it put huge strains on our marriage. Most likely she will put blood family over her husband, so be careful about parental interference.
许多女性变成了“怪物妈妈”或“虎妈”，与丈夫的婚姻让位于抚养孩子。你只是变成了一台被美化的自动提款机，用来支持孩子上学或者维持她现在的生活方式。
如果你的孩子在日本，除非你能负担得起国际学校的费用，否则他们很可能会去日本学校，并被抚养成日本孩子。我儿子直到三年级才会说英语，在国外生活了很长一段时间后，他才开始说英语。如果你不会说日语，那就意味着你不能和你的孩子交流，除非你花时间和金钱努力让他们学会双语。
处理她扯淡的姻亲。如果你和他们相处融洽，那很好。我认识一个人，他的岳父母对他和他们的孙子比对自己的女儿还好。我则有着来自地狱的岳父母，这给我们的婚姻带来了巨大的压力。最有可能的是，她会把血缘姻亲置于丈夫之上，所以要小心她的父母干预你们的生活。
If you have kids in Japan, unless you can afford international schools, chances are they will go to Japanese schools and be raised as Japanese kids. My son didn’t speak English until 3rd grade and it was only after a long spell living overseas did he open up to speaking English. If you don’t speak Japanese it will mean not communicating with your kids, unless you make serious efforts to make them bilingual which takes time and money.
Dealing with in-laws. A crapshoot. If you get on with them, great. I know one guy whose in-laws treat him and their grandson better than their own daughter. I had the MIL from hell, and it put huge strains on our marriage. Most likely she will put blood family over her husband, so be careful about parental interference.
许多女性变成了“怪物妈妈”或“虎妈”，与丈夫的婚姻让位于抚养孩子。你只是变成了一台被美化的自动提款机，用来支持孩子上学或者维持她现在的生活方式。
如果你的孩子在日本，除非你能负担得起国际学校的费用，否则他们很可能会去日本学校，并被抚养成日本孩子。我儿子直到三年级才会说英语，在国外生活了很长一段时间后，他才开始说英语。如果你不会说日语，那就意味着你不能和你的孩子交流，除非你花时间和金钱努力让他们学会双语。
处理她扯淡的姻亲。如果你和他们相处融洽，那很好。我认识一个人，他的岳父母对他和他们的孙子比对自己的女儿还好。我则有着来自地狱的岳父母，这给我们的婚姻带来了巨大的压力。最有可能的是，她会把血缘姻亲置于丈夫之上，所以要小心她的父母干预你们的生活。
If you divorce here there is no legal provision for joint/shared parenting. In a majority of cases, your kids will go with the mother and your rights as a father disappear. Many foreign fathers lose or are denied regular access and custody of kids. They will still make you pay child support just not be allowed to see them that much if at all, depending on the whims of the mother as to how she feels about you. To get kids you need to prove to the court she is an unfit mother- a high bar for a foreign parent trying to have a relationship with their kids.
Many women, but not all, can be extremely high maintenance. They may charm the socks off you but once you marry it will take its toll emotional physically and financially keeping them happy.
On the positive side, many Japanese women keep their figures, you don’t see so many ballooning into oversize buses once they pop out a few kids. They also age extremely well and have good skin.
如果你在这里离婚，日本没有关于共同抚养子女的法律规定。在大多数情况下，你的孩子会随母亲而去，而你作为父亲的权利也随之消失。许多外国父亲失去或被剥夺了孩子的监护权。他们仍然会让你支付孩子的抚养费，只是不允许你见他们那么多次，这取决于母亲对你的态度。为了得到孩子，你需要向法庭证明她是一个不称职的母亲——这对于试图与孩子建立关系的外国父母来说是一个很大的难度。
很多女人，但不是所有的女人，都是非常难伺候的。她们可能会把你迷得神魂颠倒，但一旦你结婚了，要想让她们快乐，就得付出情感、身体和经济上的代价。
从积极的一面看，许多日本女性保持着她们的身材，你不会看到她们一旦生了几个孩子就会变得像大号的公交车一样。她们也不会很容易变老，皮肤也很好。
Many women, but not all, can be extremely high maintenance. They may charm the socks off you but once you marry it will take its toll emotional physically and financially keeping them happy.
On the positive side, many Japanese women keep their figures, you don’t see so many ballooning into oversize buses once they pop out a few kids. They also age extremely well and have good skin.
如果你在这里离婚，日本没有关于共同抚养子女的法律规定。在大多数情况下，你的孩子会随母亲而去，而你作为父亲的权利也随之消失。许多外国父亲失去或被剥夺了孩子的监护权。他们仍然会让你支付孩子的抚养费，只是不允许你见他们那么多次，这取决于母亲对你的态度。为了得到孩子，你需要向法庭证明她是一个不称职的母亲——这对于试图与孩子建立关系的外国父母来说是一个很大的难度。
很多女人，但不是所有的女人，都是非常难伺候的。她们可能会把你迷得神魂颠倒，但一旦你结婚了，要想让她们快乐，就得付出情感、身体和经济上的代价。
从积极的一面看，许多日本女性保持着她们的身材，你不会看到她们一旦生了几个孩子就会变得像大号的公交车一样。她们也不会很容易变老，皮肤也很好。
Women here will not always tell you what they are thinking, or tell you what they think you want to hear, so communication is key. Don’t take things at face value and try and get a handle on what’s really on her mind. communication and understanding each others language is key.
There are feminists in Japan, hard to believe as it is. Not all women want to become corporate warriors and compete with the men. Most women don’t want to work 80 hour weeks, or give up time with their children or do overtime. They don’t like the rampant sexism and discrimination against women in the workplace but also because of necessity, they elect to stay home and look after kids. Women here are often the boss at home, they call the shots, and make major financial decisions such as children’s education, buying a house or buying a car. The lady wears the pants in the house and are often more than equal to their husbands as theyoften control thepurse strkngs.
这里的女人不会总是告诉你她们的想法，或者告诉你她们认为你想听的，所以沟通是关键。不要只看表面，试着弄清楚她到底在想什么。沟通和理解对方的语言是关键。
日本有女权主义者，虽然很难相信。并不是所有女性都想成为公司的斗士，与男性竞争。大多数女性不愿意每周工作80个小时，也不愿意放弃陪伴孩子的时间或加班。他们不喜欢职场上对女性猖獗的性别歧视，但也因为必要，她们选择呆在家里照顾孩子。这里的女性通常是家里的老板，她们发号施令，做出重大的财务决定，比如孩子的教育、买房或买车。日本女人在家里当家作主，而且常常与丈夫旗鼓相当，因为她们经常掌握着财政大权。
There are feminists in Japan, hard to believe as it is. Not all women want to become corporate warriors and compete with the men. Most women don’t want to work 80 hour weeks, or give up time with their children or do overtime. They don’t like the rampant sexism and discrimination against women in the workplace but also because of necessity, they elect to stay home and look after kids. Women here are often the boss at home, they call the shots, and make major financial decisions such as children’s education, buying a house or buying a car. The lady wears the pants in the house and are often more than equal to their husbands as theyoften control thepurse strkngs.
这里的女人不会总是告诉你她们的想法，或者告诉你她们认为你想听的，所以沟通是关键。不要只看表面，试着弄清楚她到底在想什么。沟通和理解对方的语言是关键。
日本有女权主义者，虽然很难相信。并不是所有女性都想成为公司的斗士，与男性竞争。大多数女性不愿意每周工作80个小时，也不愿意放弃陪伴孩子的时间或加班。他们不喜欢职场上对女性猖獗的性别歧视，但也因为必要，她们选择呆在家里照顾孩子。这里的女性通常是家里的老板，她们发号施令，做出重大的财务决定，比如孩子的教育、买房或买车。日本女人在家里当家作主，而且常常与丈夫旗鼓相当，因为她们经常掌握着财政大权。
Edit: Found on a recent website about English men marrying Japanese women.
Kids will often sleep with the mother in their bed well into elementary school. Intimacy as a couple pretty much vanishes unless the couple make time for each other, banish kids to the grandparents.
Many husbands including myself, received a monthly allowance instead of controlling their salary. Money goes in, is divvied up into paying bills and savings and if you are lucky you might see 30,000 yen (about $300) of your paycheck.
编辑: 最近在一个网站上看到英国男人娶日本女人。
孩子们经常会和妈妈一起睡到上小学。夫妻之间的亲密感几乎消失了除非他们给彼此腾出时间，把孩子丢给祖父母。
很多丈夫，包括我自己，每个月都有零花钱，而不是控制自己的工资。钱被存入银行，分成支付账单和储蓄，如果你幸运的话，你可能会得到3万日元(约300美元)的薪水。
Kids will often sleep with the mother in their bed well into elementary school. Intimacy as a couple pretty much vanishes unless the couple make time for each other, banish kids to the grandparents.
Many husbands including myself, received a monthly allowance instead of controlling their salary. Money goes in, is divvied up into paying bills and savings and if you are lucky you might see 30,000 yen (about $300) of your paycheck.
编辑: 最近在一个网站上看到英国男人娶日本女人。
孩子们经常会和妈妈一起睡到上小学。夫妻之间的亲密感几乎消失了除非他们给彼此腾出时间，把孩子丢给祖父母。
很多丈夫，包括我自己，每个月都有零花钱，而不是控制自己的工资。钱被存入银行，分成支付账单和储蓄，如果你幸运的话，你可能会得到3万日元(约300美元)的薪水。
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My two cents worth. I know guys with girlfriends, including what i would describe as geeky awkward types. There is no one size fits all. There are 50 million women in Japan. The worst mistake is stereotype them as "Japanese" women" or Japanese girlfriend" and they are all identical due to ethnicity. They are people and all are different.
my ex wife was japanese, have 2 kids.half my friends are either divorcedor separated. one guy i recently worked with got cancer he wifeleft him and took all his furniture. another one his wife left him to raise a 10 year old by himself. my experience may sound negativeor sour grapes, c'estla vie.
If you act horny and desperate you will probably scare them off. If you look too hard they are nowhere to be found. Stop looking and they are everywhere.
Speaking the language helps. Most women here don't speak much English unless you get lucky and find a bilingual one. maybe advertise for language exchange or offer to teach English. I know one guy who met his wife off a website and they got married a year or two later.
我的一些个人经验之谈。我认识一些有日本女朋友的人，包括那些我称之为“笨拙的怪人”的家伙。没有一劳永逸的办法，日本有5000万女性。最糟糕的错误是将她们刻板印象为“日本女性”或“日本女友”，在种族方面，她们都是一样的。但她们是人，人都是不同的。
我前妻是日本人，我们有两个孩子。我一半的朋友不是离婚了就是分居了。最近我的一个同事得了癌症，他的妻子离开了他，并搬走了他所有的家具。另一个同事是他妻子让他独自抚养一个10岁的孩子。我的经历可能听起来消极或酸葡萄心理，但这就是生活。
如果你表现得很饥渴，你可能会把她们吓跑。如果你找得太辛苦，她们就会无处可寻。停止寻找，那么她们会无处不在。
会说日语会对你很有帮助。这里的大多数女人都不会说英语，除非你幸运地找到一个会说两种语言的。你可以在那里从事翻译的工作或者教英语的工作。我认识一个人，他在网上认识了他的妻子，一两年后他们结婚了。
My two cents worth. I know guys with girlfriends, including what i would describe as geeky awkward types. There is no one size fits all. There are 50 million women in Japan. The worst mistake is stereotype them as "Japanese" women" or Japanese girlfriend" and they are all identical due to ethnicity. They are people and all are different.
my ex wife was japanese, have 2 kids.half my friends are either divorcedor separated. one guy i recently worked with got cancer he wifeleft him and took all his furniture. another one his wife left him to raise a 10 year old by himself. my experience may sound negativeor sour grapes, c'estla vie.
If you act horny and desperate you will probably scare them off. If you look too hard they are nowhere to be found. Stop looking and they are everywhere.
Speaking the language helps. Most women here don't speak much English unless you get lucky and find a bilingual one. maybe advertise for language exchange or offer to teach English. I know one guy who met his wife off a website and they got married a year or two later.
我的一些个人经验之谈。我认识一些有日本女朋友的人，包括那些我称之为“笨拙的怪人”的家伙。没有一劳永逸的办法，日本有5000万女性。最糟糕的错误是将她们刻板印象为“日本女性”或“日本女友”，在种族方面，她们都是一样的。但她们是人，人都是不同的。
我前妻是日本人，我们有两个孩子。我一半的朋友不是离婚了就是分居了。最近我的一个同事得了癌症，他的妻子离开了他，并搬走了他所有的家具。另一个同事是他妻子让他独自抚养一个10岁的孩子。我的经历可能听起来消极或酸葡萄心理，但这就是生活。
如果你表现得很饥渴，你可能会把她们吓跑。如果你找得太辛苦，她们就会无处可寻。停止寻找，那么她们会无处不在。
会说日语会对你很有帮助。这里的大多数女人都不会说英语，除非你幸运地找到一个会说两种语言的。你可以在那里从事翻译的工作或者教英语的工作。我认识一个人，他在网上认识了他的妻子，一两年后他们结婚了。
The best way IMO is not just hit up girls in bars. The pick-up scene is not that great unless you are pro at it. join clubs, join the gym, get active and you will meet women. Being interesting, be interested. Some girls may just want to practice English or have you as some kind of accessory. It takes all types.
there are several match-making companies I know about where for a monthly fee about 4,000 yen plus registration fees) they match you up with suitable women based on your profiles. you are given names and you date them and see if there is chemistry. in my own experience dating women at work is a no-no andits best practice not to shit in yourown garden. i found it hard to meet women outside work as you are normally too busy or too tired. Usually i just want go home and watch a movie. many guys dont like the idea of actually paying money to beintroduced to women.
Japanese women I have found often tend to hunt in packs. She will be with friends, co workers, and its often hard to find a girl on her own or separate from her friends. Maybe I'm wrong here.
在我看来，最好的方法不仅仅是在酒吧里勾搭女孩。搭讪的场景不是那么棒，除非你是专业人士。加入俱乐部，加入健身房，活跃起来，你会遇到女人。要有兴趣，有些女孩可能只是想练习英语，或者把你当作附属品或备胎，她会接受所有类型。
据我所知，有几家婚介公司，每月大约需要花费4000日元，外加注册费，他们会根据你的个人资料为你配对合适的女性。他们给你起了名字，你给他们定了日期，看看是否有化学反应。根据我自己的经验，和职场女性约会是大忌，最好的做法就是兔子不吃窝边草。我发现在工作之外很难遇到女性，因为你通常都太忙或太累了。通常我只想回家看电影。许多男人不喜欢花钱把自己介绍给女人。
我发现日本女性经常成群狩猎。她会和朋友、同事在一起，通常很难找到一个单独的女孩，或者和她的朋友分开。也许我错了。
there are several match-making companies I know about where for a monthly fee about 4,000 yen plus registration fees) they match you up with suitable women based on your profiles. you are given names and you date them and see if there is chemistry. in my own experience dating women at work is a no-no andits best practice not to shit in yourown garden. i found it hard to meet women outside work as you are normally too busy or too tired. Usually i just want go home and watch a movie. many guys dont like the idea of actually paying money to beintroduced to women.
Japanese women I have found often tend to hunt in packs. She will be with friends, co workers, and its often hard to find a girl on her own or separate from her friends. Maybe I'm wrong here.
在我看来，最好的方法不仅仅是在酒吧里勾搭女孩。搭讪的场景不是那么棒，除非你是专业人士。加入俱乐部，加入健身房，活跃起来，你会遇到女人。要有兴趣，有些女孩可能只是想练习英语，或者把你当作附属品或备胎，她会接受所有类型。
据我所知，有几家婚介公司，每月大约需要花费4000日元，外加注册费，他们会根据你的个人资料为你配对合适的女性。他们给你起了名字，你给他们定了日期，看看是否有化学反应。根据我自己的经验，和职场女性约会是大忌，最好的做法就是兔子不吃窝边草。我发现在工作之外很难遇到女性，因为你通常都太忙或太累了。通常我只想回家看电影。许多男人不喜欢花钱把自己介绍给女人。
我发现日本女性经常成群狩猎。她会和朋友、同事在一起，通常很难找到一个单独的女孩，或者和她的朋友分开。也许我错了。
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