你会给出的最好的人生建议是什么?
2022-03-23 兰陵笑笑生 9167
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What is the best life advice you would give?

你会给出的最好的人生建议是什么?

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Dilki Dissanayake
, Writer, Psychology books and content reader (2018-present)
Be okay with being misunderstood. You are not here to convince other people to see you differently.
It doesn't matter whether you need them or not. Just treat people right.
The most important skill in life is knowing when to keep or cut people out of your life.
Mental health is a priority over any friendship or relationship.
Hating and wishing harm on someone is like a boomerang. What you put out will come back to you.
Don't share your weaknesses with anyone. Because you never know who is going to use it against you.
Not all people are supposed to be loyal to you.
If you have a chance to make people happy, just do it. Sometimes people are struggling silently.

1 要接受被误解的事实。你活着不是为了说服其他人以不同的方式看待你。
2 你是否需要他们并不重要。只要你正确对待别人。
3 生活中最重要的技能是知道何时将人从你的生活中保留或剔除。
4 心理健康是优先于任何友谊或关系的。
5 憎恨和希望伤害某人就像一个回旋镖。你放出去的东西会回到你身上。
6 不要与任何人分享你的弱点。因为你永远不知道谁会利用它来对付你。
7 不是所有的人都应该对你忠诚。
8 如果你有机会让人们高兴,就去做。有时人们在默默地承受痛苦。

Andrew Ferebee
, studied Dimensions & Understanding and Comprehension at Life and Living (1986)
Over the past 6 or so years I:
Quit my corporate job
Built a 7-figure lifestyle business
Got into the relationship of my dreams
Built my ideal body
Put enough money in savings that I never have to worry about income again
Built a powerful network of millionaires, billionaires, and influential individuals
Overcame my social anxiety and depression and built the life of my dreams.
I don’t say this to brag.
Plenty of people have done more than me and I’m not particularly special.
I simply share this to point out that the advice I’m about to give is based on experience and real world results. Not theory.
So with all the credentials out of the way, here are my 30 top tips for living an amazing life after 30 years of experience.

在过去6年左右的时间里,我:
·辞去了公司的工作
·建立了一个赚7位数的生活方式业务
·进入我梦寐以求的一段关系
·打造了我理想的身体材
·将足够的钱存入储蓄,使我再也不用担心收入问题了
·建立了一个由百万富翁、亿万富翁和有影响力的人组成的强力关系网
·克服了我的社会焦虑症和抑郁症,建立了我梦想的生活。
我说这些并不是为了吹嘘。
很多人都比我做得更多,我也不是特别特别。
我分享这些只是想指出,我即将给出的建议是基于经验和现实世界的结果,而不只是理论。
因此,在罗列完所有这些证书之后,下面是我30年让我过上绝赞人生的经历给出的30个最高建议。

1. Lift Heavy Weights 3–5 Time a Week (For the girls too)
You’ll look amazing, feel amazing, and improve every area of your life by leaps and bounds. I recommend following Bigger, Leaner, Stronger (if you’re a guy) or Thinner, Leaner, Stronger (if you’re a woman).
2. Sleep at least 8 hours a night
When you are sleep deprived, you are less productive, more prone to anger and depression, and unable to make the best decisions. Guard your sleep with your life and get at least 8 hours a night. It’s more important than you realize.
3. Drink Plenty of Water
Drink 1 gallon a day. It will help your joints and organs function better and keep you healthy for years to come.
4. Get Out in the Sunlight
We didn’t evolve to sit behind a computer all day long. We evolved to be outside, hunting, gathering, and having a blast. Spend at least 30 minutes outside everyday and your life will improve tremendously.
5. Prioritize Lifestyle Over Money… But Money Too
Money is important, but after a certain point, pursuing money can cost you a great life. Focus on lifestyle first (e.g. doing the things you want to do) while still putting a healthy emphasis on money so that you have the freedom to enjoy your lifestyle.

1. 每周举重3-5次(也适用于女孩)。
你会看起来很好,感觉很好,并使你生活的每个方面都得到飞跃性的改善。我的建议是遵循更大、更精、更强(如果你是男人)或更瘦、更精、更强(如果你是女人)。
2. 每晚至少睡8小时
当你睡眠不足时,你的工作效率会降低,就会更容易生气和抑郁,并且无法做出最好的决定。用生命守护你的睡眠,每晚至少睡8小时。这比你意识到的更重要。
3. 喝大量的水
每天喝1加仑的水。这将帮助你的关节和器官更好地运作,使你在未来几年保持健康。
4. 在阳光下走走
我们的进化不是为了整天坐在电脑后面。我们的进化是为了到外面去,狩猎、采集和享受快乐。每天至少花30分钟在外面,你的生活将得到极大的改善。
5. 将生活方式置于金钱之上......但金钱也要优先考虑
钱很重要,但到了一定程度,追求金钱会让你失去美好的生活。首先关注生活方式(例如,做你想做的事情),同时仍然要健康地强调金钱,这样你才有自由去享受你的生活方式。

6. Commit to Kaizen
Change doesn’t happen overnight. It happens in small almost indiscernible steps. Each day when you wake up, try to be only 1% better at everything you do. Over a year, you’ll be 365% better and over a decade, you’ll be 3,650% better. That’s the difference between earning $100,000/year and earning $3.65 million.
7. Develop Marketable Skills Instead of a Resume
Your resume is for sh*t. What really matters is having marketable skills that other people need. Instead of worrying about your college degree or work experience, learn highly valuable skills like sales, marketing, copy writing, social media, and conversion optimization. You’ll never have to worry about money again.
8. Always Use Protection
Seriously. An unwanted pregnancy or incurable STD isn’t worth the 7 minutes of pleasure that you’ll get. Wrap it up and be safe.
9. Laugh More Often
Life is too damn short to be serious all the time. Laugh your butt off and smile for no reason whatsoever.
10. Spend as Much Time as You Can in Nature
Much like point #4, I recommend that you spend as much time in nature as possible. But not just a 30 minute walk in the park. Go hiking, camping, or surfing for at least 3 hours a week somewhere away from the city. It will recharge you and make you feel like $1,000,000.

6.致力于持续改善
改变不会在一夜之间发生。它发生在几乎无法辨认的小步骤中。每天当你醒来的时候,试着在你所做的每件事上只做得更好1%。一年下来,你会有365%的进步,十年下来,你会有3650%的进步。这就是每年赚取10万美元和赚取365万美元之间的区别。
7. 发展有市场的技能而不是简历
你的简历一文不值。真正重要的是拥有别人需要的适销对路的技能。与其担心你的大学学位或工作经验,不如学习高价值的技能,如销售、营销、文案写作、社交媒体和转换优化。你将永远不必再担心钱的问题。
8. 始终使用保护措施
严重的是。7分钟的快感并不值得让你去承担意外怀孕或不可治愈的性病的结果。把它包起来,注意安全。
9. 多笑一笑
生活太他妈短了,不能总是严肃。笑一笑,没有任何理由地笑。
10. 花尽可能多的时间在大自然中
和第4点一样,我建议你尽可能多地呆在大自然中。但不只是在公园里散步30分钟。每周至少去远离城市的地方徒步旅行、露营或冲浪3个小时。这将为你充电,让你感觉像获得了100万美元。

11. Breathing and Yoga Solve Most Problems
Seriously. If you’re stressed, sore, or pissed off, just breathe it out and stretch through it. I have yet to encounter a terrible situation that isn’t improved by yoga and breathing.
12. Stop Caring So Much
Life just isn’t that important. It’s a flash in the pan and then we’re gone for good (at least until someone proves otherwise). So just chill out and realize that nothing is really that big of a deal.
13. Think About Death
Yup, you’re gonna die. I know that’s not a nice thing to point out. But it’s important to remember. Spend time contemplating your own death so that you can more fully live in the present moment.
14. Ignore Most People (Even Me)
99.99% of people are full of sh*t. Ignore anyone and everyone who doesn’t have the results you want, even me. If you want to learn how to become a billionaire playboy living the jet set lifestlye, you probably shouldn’t read my responses. But if you want to learn how to build a million dollar lifestyle business and enjoy life, I’m your guy. Don’t listen to anyone who you wouldn’t trade lives with. Period.
15. Travel Frequently and Travel Long
The world is full of amazing people and experiences. But you have to get out of your bubble to experience them. Buy a one way plane ticket and see what happens.

11. 呼吸和瑜伽可以解决大多数问题
认真地说。如果你有压力,身体酸痛,或生气,只要把它呼吸出来,并通过它打开心胸。我还没有遇到过不被瑜伽和呼吸改善的糟糕情况。
12. 别再那么在乎某个点
生活并不那么重要。这只是昙花一现,然后我们就永远地离开了(至少在有人证明这一点之前)。因此,只要冷静下来,并意识到没有什么是真正的大问题。
13. 思考死亡
是的,你会死。我知道指出这不是一件好事。但记住这一点很重要。花时间思考你自己的死亡,以便你能更充分地活在当下。
14. 无视大多数人(甚至是我)
99.99%的人都是在满嘴喷粪。忽略任何没有你想要的结果的人,甚至是我。如果你想学习如何成为一个过着喷气式生活的亿万花花公子,你可能不应该读我的回答。但是,如果你想学习如何建立一个百万美元的生活方式企业并享受生活,我就是你要找的人。不要听任何生命与你没什么交集的人的话。句号。
15. 经常旅行和长期旅行
世界上充满了神奇的人和经历。但你必须跳出你的泡沫来体验它们。买一张单程飞机票,看看会发生什么。

16. Remember that Failure is an Illusion
Failure isn’t a real thing. It’s a temporary state. When you “Fail” you simply found out that the way you’re doing things right now isn’t working. So change what you’re doing and you’ll change the results. Don’t get bogged down when things don’t work.
17. Listen to Music More Often
Music is like food for the soul and makes life more beautiful. Listen to it whenever you can.
18. Dont’ Eat Sugar
It rots your brain and makes you fat (even if it’s delicious). Don’t eat sugar and your life will get better.
19. Get Drunk More Often (In the Right Way)
Yup, you read that right. Go get wasted… Sort of. Some of the biggest lessons and coolest business deals I’ve ever done happened over a cocktail (or two or three) at a networking event or party. Go to as many high level events and parties as you can and (despite what the headline said) drink responsibly. Nothing will put off a potential investor or mentor more than being a sloppy drunk.
20. Ask “How Little” not “How Much”
Most people ask “How much do I need”. A better question is “How little do I need”. How little money can I make and still be happy? How little can I work and still achieve the results I want? Realize that life is about hacking away at the unessential, not adding superfluous crap.

16. 记住,失败是一种幻觉
失败并不是一个真实的东西。它是一种暂时的状态。当你"失败"时,你只是发现你现在做事情的方式是行不通的。因此,改变你正在做的事情,你将改变结果。当事情不成功的时候,不要陷入困境。
17. 多听音乐
音乐就像灵魂的食物,使生活更加美好。只要你能听,就听。
18. 不要吃糖
糖会腐蚀你的大脑,使你变胖(即使它很美味)。不要吃糖,你的生活会变得更好。
19. 多喝一点(以正确的方式)。
是的,你没看错。去喝酒吧......算是吧。我所做过的一些最大的教训和最酷的商业交易都发生在网络活动或派对上的鸡尾酒(或两杯或三杯)。尽可能多地参加高层活动和聚会,(尽管小标题这么说)负责任地喝酒。没有什么比一个邋遢的酒鬼更让潜在的投资者或导师感到厌烦。
20. 问"只需"而不是"多少"
大多数人问"我需要多少钱"。一个更好的问题是 "我只需要多少"。我可以赚多少量的钱而仍然快乐?我只需工作多长时间,就能达到我想要的结果?认识到生活就是要砍掉不必要的东西,而不是增加多余的垃圾。

21. Don’t Watch Porn
It will screw up your view of sex and love and hijack the pleasure centers in your brain. Take care of business “manually” if you need to, but use your imagination and memory of past experiences, not porn.
22. Slow Down
Life is short enough as it is. Don’t make it shorter by constantly trying to speed up life and rapidly achieve all of your dreams. Slow down and fall in love with the process.
23. Never Attribute to Malice What Can Easily Be Explained by Stupidity
People are stupid. But most people aren’t bad. When someone screws you over, realize that 9 times out of 10 it’s because they’re an inconsiderate moron. Not a malicious vindictive a-hole.
24. Talk to Yourself Like a Treasured Friend
We all talk to ourselves (in our heads and out loud) all day long. Would you want to talk to a good friend the way you talk to yourself? No? Then change how you talk to yourself. Despite what you tell yourself after you have an off day, you’re not a “Lazy f*cking piece of s**t” you’re a human being who is prone to mistakes. So be nice to yourself.
25. Remove Toxic People From Your Life
They aren’t worth it. They’ll drag you down and poison your life.

21. 不要看色情片
它将破坏你对性和爱的看法,劫持你大脑中的快乐中心。如果你需要,可以"手动"处理业务,但要利用你的想象力和对过去经历的记忆,而不是色情。
22. 慢下来
生命已经够短了。不要通过不断尝试加快生活速度和迅速实现你所有的梦想来使它变得更短。放慢脚步,爱上这个过程。
23. 不要把很容易解释为愚蠢的事情归咎于恶意
人是愚蠢的。但大多数人并不坏。当有人欺负你的时候,要意识到十有八九是因为他们是个不懂事的白痴。而不是一个恶意的报复性的混蛋。
24. 像对待珍贵的朋友一样与自己交谈
我们整天都在自言自语(在我们的脑海中和大声说话)。你想用你跟自己说话的方式跟一个好朋友说话吗?不愿意吗?那就改变你对自己说话的方式。尽管你在休息日后告诉自己,你不是一个"懒鬼",你是一个容易犯错的人。所以要对自己好一点。
25. 从你的生活中删除有毒的人
他们不值得你这样做。他们会拖累你,毒害你的生活。

26. Don’t Hold a Grudge
It’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Do you really think that holding on to hate and anger is going to affect the person who wronged you?
27. Learn to Live with Less
You need less than you think to be happy. Good food, good friends, good wine (or bourbon), and plenty of love is all you really need. Anything else is a bonus.
28. Laugh Your Butt Off Daily
I know I said this already, but seriously! Life is short. Laugh it up and learn to smile more than you should.
29. Don’t Take Yourself too Seriously
You aren't that important and no one cares (this applies to everyone). 150 years from now, you’ll be dead and it’s unlikely that anyone will remember you. So don’t take yourself too seriously.
30. Enjoy
Life is short. So enjoy it while it lasts. Have fun. Do the things you want to do. Eliminate hate and anger from your heart. Live your life on your terms so you can die with no regrets.
Stay Grounded,
Andrew

26. 不要怀恨在心
这就像喝下毒药并期待对方死亡。你真的认为抱着仇恨和愤怒会影响到那个对不起你的人吗?
27. 学会用更少的东西来生活
你需要的东西比你想象的要少,才能获得快乐。好的食物,好的朋友,好的酒(或波旁酒),以及大量的爱就是你真正需要的。其他的都是锦上添花。
28. 每天笑一笑
我知道我已经说过了,但说真的!人生苦短。生命是短暂的。笑一笑,学会微笑,比你应该的更多。
29. 不要把自己看得太重
你没那么重要,没人在乎(这适用于所有人)。150年后,你将死去,不太可能有人记得你。所以不要把自己太当回事。
30. 享受
生命是短暂的。所以在它持续的时候享受它。享受乐趣。做你想做的事。从你的心中消除仇恨和愤怒。按自己的意愿生活,这样你就可以无怨无悔地死去。
保持踏实。
安德鲁

Ava Gray
Don’t eat sugar, get drunk a lot? Yeah I’ll stick to sugar and not drinking thanks. Other than than, good answer.

不吃糖,喝多点?好的,我会坚持吃糖,不喝酒,谢谢。除此以外,很好的答案。

Neil Rosenthal
Sugar and alcohol (and so many other things) are best enjoyed in moderation.
Personally, I use both of these poisons. Life is too short to eliminate things like fine spirits or ice cream!
Enjoy!
Great post!

糖和酒(以及其他许多东西)最好适度享用。
就个人而言,这两种毒药我都爱。生命太短暂了,无法想象消除掉像高级烈酒或冰激凌这样的东西!
还是享受吧!
好帖子!

Michel Deschenes
Great but none of this would have been possible if you had not been able to achieve a 7 figure income. Not everybody who quit their jobs can achieve a 7 figure income. I do not want to take anything away from you but luck, timing, subject matter, public interest in your business, individual buy-in, all this played a role in your outcome. Has it occurred to you that it could be mere serendipity that you achieved all this? Your new opportunity is to cater to the general human desire to succeed because you have... Smart. This might be the true definition of stretching your luck.

很好,但如果你没能实现7位数的收入,这一切都不可能实现。不是每个辞职的人都能实现7位数的收入。我不想从你身上拿走任何东西,但运气、时机、主题、公众对你的业务的兴趣、个人的买入,所有这些都对你的结果起了作用。你有没有想过,你取得这一切可能仅仅是偶然的?你宣讲的新机会是迎合人类对成功的普遍渴望,因为你有...智慧。这可能是延申你的运气的真正定义。
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David Parks
At first I thought this was a joke, but I realize you’re actually serious and now I’m not sure whether to laugh it off or roast you.

起初我以为这是一个笑话,但我意识到你其实是认真的,现在我不知道是该笑掉大牙还是祝贺你的成就。

Masrur Amin Ahmed
Another cliche copy and pasted list

又一份陈词滥调的复制粘贴清单。

Rati Tsiklauri
Your success is pure luck, my friend, and I’m not even jealous, rather a little mad, that you explain your life achievements as an effect of this highly mainstream 30 things. Good luck to you, but you’re just lucky, remember this as the 31th one

你的成功纯粹是运气,我的朋友,我甚至不嫉妒,反而有点生气,你把你的生活成就解释为这个高度主流的30件事的影响。祝你好运,但你只是幸运,记住这是第31件。

Scott Supero
Great list. I would add Don’t use drugs. Not even prescxtion mind enhancers. I’ve seen and known too many young adults mess up their brain chemistry and suffer from long-term heart and brain ailments that developed a decade later.

很好的清单。我想补充一点,不要使用药物。即使是处方药也不行。我已经看到并知道有太多的年轻人搞砸了他们的大脑化学反应,并在十年后患上了长期的心脏和大脑疾病。

Ritesh Poojary
I took anti-depressants for a week or two. Thought if I continue it for a long term I am risking my life. Decided to discontinue those meds even if it meant being sad most of the times.

我服用了一两个星期的抗抑郁药。想到如果我继续长期服用,我就会有生命危险。决定停用这些药物,即使这意味着大部分时间都很悲伤。

Vini Stringhini
Great answer. I know you meant getting a few drinks and networking but your use of the catchy headline “getting wasted” wasn't perfect…

很好的回答。我知道你的意思是喝上几杯并和别人建立联系,但你使用"喝多点"这个醒目的标题并不合衬...

J Marsh
I would say this to all the young men…. Never sleep with a girl that you would not consider marrying. Now, you don't have to want to marry her. And you don't have to actually marry her either, but if she is the kind of girl that you would NEVER consider marrying? Then don't even sleep with her.

我想对所有的年轻人说:....永远不要和一个你不会考虑结婚的女孩上床。现在,你不一定要想娶她。你也不必真的和她结婚,但如果她是那种你永远不会考虑结婚的女孩?那么甚至不要和她睡。

Ruby Faith
I agree with all except getting drunk. Getting wasted doesnt help the brain cells or healthy but everything else, is nice! Thanks for the tips

我同意所有的观点,除了喝酒。醉酒对脑细胞或健康没有帮助,但其他一切都很好! 谢谢你的建议

Zaphod Whitehead
Nice advices but you seriously need to work on your math: 1% better every day would make you ~37x better in a year.
Not so important tho cause you make the point and seems you are satisfied which is what counts at the end.

很好的建议,但你真的需要在你的数学上下下功夫。每天1%的改善将使你在一年内改善37倍。
这并不重要,因为你说到了重点--似乎你很满意,这才是最重要的。

Angela Pennyman
Treat others as you would want to be treated. Be slow about speaking, slow about wrath and swift about hearing. Be courteous and say please and thank you. Don't be a bragger, let others brag on you. Be able to accept criticism and learn from it. Give freely from the heart.

待人接物,就像你希望别人对待你一样。说话要慢,发怒要慢,听话要快。要有礼貌,说请和谢谢。不要吹嘘自己,而是让别人吹嘘你。要能接受批评并从中学习。要发自内心地慷慨奉献。
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Monica Vega
Hi Andrew,
Everything you have said made me feel better…so THANK YOU. You see I just got an email from my student fees office saying they need my summer tuition paid before I can continue my program. I am a New Yorker living in England enrolled in an accelerated law course, if I had the money I could graduate 12–2020, it is an honors program that would enable me to sit for the NY bar exam. I have wanted this for a long time and deferred for a year so I could prepare but my sweet daughter had an accident and broke her leg in three places and had to have surgery, as a result she has screws and plates in her body and what sucks even more is not only did she have a boat load of pain, I had to pay for both of our household expenses(I did not mind)and now she thinks it’s her fault I won’t be able to stay. I am sad I can’t stay but I get to go home and see her, ride the subway and order pizza from our favorite place so it’s not all that bad.
Yesterday I went to the gym, I increased the incline on my treadmill and the speed so that felt pretty good, when I got home I made a pot of chili which came out kinda delicious and right now I am laying in bed after sleeping 9 hours, it is cloudy and rainy but my bed is comfy and my duvet is saying “don’t leave me!” Life changes on a dime…I’m going home but I will try to come back and if I can’t a new chapter will emerge.
Cheers! (As the locals say)
Monica

嗨,安德鲁。
你所说的一切让我感觉好了很多......所以谢谢你。你看,我刚刚收到我的学生费用办公室的电子邮件,说他们需要我在继续我的课程之前支付夏季学费。我是一个住在英国的纽约人,参加了一个法律课程速成班,如果我有钱,我可以在12-2020年毕业,这是一个荣誉课程,可以让我参加纽约律师考试。我想这样做已经很久了,并推迟了一年,以便我可以做好准备,但我可爱的女儿发生了意外,她的腿断了三处,不得不做手术,结果是她的身体里有了螺丝和钢板,更糟糕的是,不仅她有着很大的痛苦,我不得不支付我们两个人的家庭开支(我不介意),现在她认为我不能留下是她的错。我很难过,但我可以回家看她,坐地铁,在我们最喜欢的地方订披萨,所以这并不是什么坏事。
昨天我去了健身房,我增加了跑步机的坡度和速度,所以感觉很好,回家后我做了一锅辣椒,味道还不错,现在我睡了9个小时后躺在床上,天气阴沉,下着雨,但我的床很舒服,我的羽绒被在说"不要离开我!" 生活瞬息万变......我要回老家了,但我会努力回来,如果我做不到,新的篇章也会出现。
干杯! (正如当地人所说)
莫妮卡

John Brown
Good advice but the 8 hours of sleep should be adequate sleep. When I cut out sugar (and complex carbs) the sleep I need went from 8 to 6 hours. That’s 60 more hours of productiveness a month.

好建议,但8小时的睡眠应该是充足的睡眠。当我戒掉糖(和复合碳水化合物)后,我需要的睡眠从8小时变成了6小时。这意味着每月多出60个小时的生产力。
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Diego Calzada
What type of business do you do? What do you sell that makes you a “7-figure salary”?

你做的是什么类型的生意?你卖什么东西能让你获得"7位数的薪水"?

Alan Keller
Great article, would love to meet you for lunch one day. I live in Carlsbad, however I am currently overseas.

很好的文章,很想有一天能和你一起吃午饭。我住在卡尔斯巴德,然而我目前在海外。

Zain Gardezi
21. How do I think about past experiences if I'm a virgin? I've never even had a girlfriend,

关于第21点,如果我是一个雏,我该如何回忆过去的经历?我甚至没有过女朋友。

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